Roxelana9 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
12	Fiancé seems to want to go into "Cave". Should I withdraw too to give him space?	ADVICE	Roxelana9	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/16 02:26 PM

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1	Unsure how to handle this situation Perhaps she was standoffish because she was disappointed you didn’t initiate in the shower as expected?Maybe the shit testing happened because she was confused and a little hurt?	/r/askMRP	09/01/18 11:54 AM
3	Should I "pop" a heavy question to my wife? The baby making years can be hard on a marriage. Your sex life is not the same as it was before, not only because of the presence of children, but because your wife's hormones fluctuate so much during those years. There can be both dry spells and hot times. Do you suppose that you are starting to want to step out so can get your own needs met more reliably? No judgment here, just food for thought. Perhaps by obsessing over your wife's pre-marital experimentation, you are trying to rationalize yo…	/r/askMRP	03/11/17 12:42 PM
2	How Feminist Ideology Almost Destroyed My Relationship and Mental Sanity, and how RPW is Saving Them Both I know exactly what you mean. In my first marriage, I, too, absorbed the message from feminist culture that I should prove to him that not only can I do anything a male can, I can do it better! It made for a very contentious relationship and in the end, I ended up in exactly the kind of relationship I didn’t want - one in which I was the dominant one, feeling overburdened and stressed out. Also, feeling like a mother figure to my husband definitely killed any attraction I had for him.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/11/17 04:29 PM
1	Fiancé seems to want to go into "Cave". Should I withdraw too to give him space? Asking him straight out will get me nowhere. He will just deny and deflect...and then worry about the fact that I am worried. I don't want to do that to his head right now.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/16 09:46 PM
2	Fiancé seems to want to go into "Cave". Should I withdraw too to give him space? I think he wrestles with some guilt about needing alone-time. He feels that he didn't give his first wife enough attention and communication, so he is constantly checking in with me. I have told him to do what he needs to do. I'm not going anywhere. Do you think I should kind of force the issue by deliberately giving him more space and thereby relieve him of the guilt of withdrawing? In a previous post/comment I told how I try to plan fun things to do to help him relax. I could still try to do t…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/16 06:27 PM
8	Fiancé seems to want to go into "Cave". Should I withdraw too to give him space? Thanks. I definitely agree about sex being one of the things that holds us together. My instinct is to just sit back a little for now, but make sure he knows I'm open to it. I think now I may expend more effort to be extra inviting and attractive, though. :) I do think he is being very introspective right now. That's part of the reason I want to give him the space he needs.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/16 06:16 PM
2	I'm Going to See The RedPill Movie Tonight Anyone within driving distance to New Jersey? They need 89 more tickets purchased by Jan 1 show the movie on Jan 10. www.tugg.com/events/the-red-pill-8ocl	/r/RedPillWives	09/12/16 12:42 PM
3	Feeling unmotivated after husband's comments Maybe you could try what I did to improve the quality of your husband's life... My fiance is a very responsible, very competent and very busy man. He hardly knows how to sit still and relax, until nighttime when he will finally collapse on the sofa, drained and sour. I've tried to get him to spend more time doing activities that he enjoys rather than almost non-stop work, chores and errands, but he puts his own interests at the bottom of his list. I'm in awe of what he accomplishes, but I'm afra…	/r/RedPillWives	05/12/16 04:55 PM
5	N count question Absolutely! She can be unabashedly honest and proud of herself for having had only two sexual experiences in her 22 years! How would she even know she liked sex if she hadn't had any experience at all. I would think a man would have serious reason to think a woman would be completely frigid if she had had zero sexual experiences by that age. I don't understand some men's ideal of a "pure virgin". What if she doesn't want sex with them either? And if they've married her, what are they going to do…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/16 06:04 PM
2	What are the base requirements for marriage? I was going to write a long post about what you could do to be an attractive potential husband to an RP-minded woman, but then I realized that the best thing for you to do is to explore MarriedRedPill and to read their sidebar. Have you not done this yet?	/r/RedPillWomen	27/11/16 03:23 PM
1	Don't unload your problems on your wife I'd like to point out, though, that I said "only about a dozen women over the course of 30+ years." I firmly believe that the tenets of MRP are spot on. I base that opinion on the many other scores of women I know who are controlling & man-bashing and have dead bedrooms but don't know why. Plus, after learning about MRP, I can look back at my first marriage and see how feminism helped ruin it for both of us.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/11/16 08:26 PM
1	Don't unload your problems on your wife As for what I personally have seen, my mother and one of my sisters are great examples of this type of woman.(I have two other sisters who are not, for different reasons) I can point to at least a dozen marriages, that I have knowledge of, who seem to have an RP dynamic and have weathered many decades of occasional storms and setbacks. These wives still seem in awe of their husbands, grateful for their lives together, no matter what happens, and seem perpetually motivated to keep the marriage a …	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/11/16 02:35 PM
1	Don't unload your problems on your wife Reading all of these comments from husbands whose wives give poor support (or none) during times of hardship makes me sad and sick to my stomach. I know people here believe in the rule of AWALT, but, in my opinion, women of quality should not behave this way. Maybe I feel that way because I had parents as good examples; my father was a "textbook" alpha (b.1930-d.2005) and my mother is a highly principled woman. (b.1934). I'm trying to be a good example and guide to my children, who are 23M and 2…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/11/16 11:21 AM
3	Am I imagining things or should I call it off now? You say that sex is a little on the S&M side already? I think, based on his probing comments above, that what he really wants is to take your relationship all the way over to a full-time D/s thing. IMO, he's feeling you out to see how you respond while trying to manipulate you towards it. You don't seem like you would be ok with that...neither does he seem like a safe, stable person to explore that with because of the family history of domestic violence. (In my search for a good captain, many ye…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/11/16 09:50 AM
2	Question about how to STFU Someone recently said in another post, >"If you treat him disrespectfully, you are saying you made a poor choice and that you settled for someone beneath you." This really rang bells for me. It's in my own best interest that I do not begin to view my SO as beneath me. I find if I really want things to get back to the way they used to feel, I need to be as firm as possible with myself during times of contention. If I have to, I will walk away for a minute, but I try to do it without any attitude …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/11/16 02:18 PM