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I just wanted to say how much I related to and agreed with your post: my wife got with her boss, left 4 total kids and 2 spouses totally blindsided. Also left virtually everything behind and agreed to a somewhat swift divorce. It also took me roughly 8 months to get out of my head. Great advice!
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 08:27 PM
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I rushed to fill the void that my wife left and it never felt right. You have to be comfortable with yourself and, like the guy said above, just try and enjoy your life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 03:51 AM
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Haha, I thought that too. "That makes two thousand, four hundred and seventeen times, honey. Nice job."
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 04:07 PM
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That's good advice; I was able to do that. She moved out in February and the divorce was finalized in May (Texas has a 60 day wait before finalization).
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 03:32 PM
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Sorry to add to the chorus here, but my wife of 15 years did the same thing and everything I did and said to try and convince her not to go was an absolute waste. She's already decided she's out and you need to focus entirely on what's good for you as that's what she'll be doing for herself. The wife you had and understood is gone. I repeat: she'll never again be the person you fell in love with and raised a family with. Get a lawyer. Try to protect any cash you have. Find a therapist or a men's…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 02:59 PM
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This made me laugh
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 04:00 AM
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Mine did it at 39, just to throw out another data point 😀
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 07:46 PM
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Keep your head up. As others have said, you're young. Better to have learned the truth about her now rather than later with kids in the picture. You will emerge from this
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 08:15 PM
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The impact on the kids is absolutely the part I'm struggling with the most. I worked so hard to give them a safe, loving home and now they're going off into situations I have no insight into or any real degree of control over. It's devastating.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 02:58 PM
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Sorry to keep responding, but it's good for me too, haha. It's bad, what you're going through. It just is. It's okay to feel how you're feeling because it'd say something strange about you if it didn't impact you strongly. As an aside, the guy my wife left me for was married and was caught cheating on his wife late last year with another woman that is not my wife. His wife became violent and erratic, attacking people, threatening their own children, etc. It was a public, nasty humiliation in our…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 02:25 PM
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There is the stereotype that a woman often fully processes the separation before it actually happens. I believe that's what happened with my wife and probably with yours. She's already accepted this horrible thing and you're just starting
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 02:06 PM
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Totally. The way my wife is behaving now makes me think I may have never actually known the person I spent 15 years of my life loving. It's horrendous. It's the worst thing I've ever been through and there's no close second. Just know you're not alone in going through this and life will return to something that feels normal at some point.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 02:00 PM
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I'm experiencing the same thing and it's tough. My wife picked up my son for her weekend with him on Saturday morning and then left him at her mom's Saturday night to go bang her new guy. There's no easy answer, but if you accept that your relationship is over, then who or what she does doesn't have anything to do with you and no good can come of dwelling on it. Accept that you can't change this and imagine yourself in new, exciting, better relationships. Imagine yourself banging beautiful women…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 01:53 PM
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That's what I'm experiencing now: she left our family for this guy and weirdly acts as though it's not happening. So frustrating
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 03:18 AM
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Great post. I literally met my wife in 2010 and she left me here in 2025 (with the new guy, as you noted). The weight loss from the grief is actually helping me get back to my fighting weight, haha
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 03:04 AM
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You loved your wife. You were building your family. You were content with your life. You were desiring peace above all. And you had all of that ripped away. Probably in a moment. Maybe because some new asshole came along and started building his own home on the foundation you laid. This is exactly me. I went from a house full of life and love with my wife and kids to now a house that's dark and empty much of the time. My wife is with the new guy and I'm alone. It is so brutal. Thank you for this…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 02:38 AM
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Excellent advice on the drinking, for sure. I drank only one night after she left and ended up at her house. It was a horrendous night.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 12:17 AM
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My wife made the switch when my son was born. I've always thought post-partum may've played a role. I could never fix our relationship and 7 years later, left me for a guy from her work. Like others have said, you may be fortunate to see now what she will be from this point on. That was sadly my experience (I spent 7 years trying to avoid that fact by drinking and continuing to provide her an amazing life... she cheated and left anyway)
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 09:28 PM
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You will absolutely get through this. You're experiencing a totally normal, bafflingly common reaction to the loss... it's brutal, but you can do it. Find anything you can that moves your mind to something else. For me it was long phone calls with old friends and playing poker. You got this!
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 09:04 PM
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