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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	What's she doing?		Ruffrider679	/r/askTRP	14/07/15 09:11 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	What's she doing? Makes sense when you say it like that.	/r/askTRP	17/07/15 02:20 PM
1	What's she doing? Thanks Man, I know there is no such thing as a Unicorn out there, but there are good women, and I know she is a good woman. She's going to visit her friends in her old town 4 hours away this weekend, so it's the perfect chance for us to spend a few days apart and do our own thing. And I already have my first therapy session set up for Monday.	/r/askTRP	16/07/15 05:00 PM
1	What's she doing? Yea she really is into me and it seems like I refuse to believe it due to all my emotional childish bullshit. It's funny you mention spending time with male friends and confiding in them because that's exactly what she tells me. She tells me that I need to find someone to talk to, a therapist, a friend. That she can't be the one. She even gave me examples of friends that would be good candidates. She basically spews RP ideals on a daily, I don't even know if she realizes it. She will tell me how…	/r/askTRP	16/07/15 03:39 PM
1	What's she doing? You make an excellent point. The key is to learn to truly let go and accept that you simply do not have complete control. Thanks for all the advice! I really appreciate it. Perhaps I'll keep you updated on what happens with this one.	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 10:07 PM
1	What's she doing? You're right, I guess what I meant to say was that I need to get to the point where I'm not worried about being cheated on. Both in the sense that I'm in the control of the relationship that I'm in and also in the sense that I need to get rid of these irrational thoughts of fear and paranoia.	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 10:01 PM
1	What's she doing? She just recently got a gym membership with me, I've already been hitting the gym for 5 months. It's a possibility. You're right though, I don't owe her anything. I think the best thing to do at this point is focus on myself, learn that I'm ok without her, and get myself into a situation where losing her, whether it's me dumping her, her dumping me, or her cheating on me won't phase me.	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 09:51 PM
1	What's she doing? Yea I definitely see the issue. That's why I'm moving out all my stuff and basically only plan on seeing her on my terms. Focus more on what I want to do. According to her she's "insecure that I will not spend any more time with her" Keep a few things in mind, she is a really insecure girl, she's somewhat overweight, and she has been cheated on in her past. When I even mention the idea of checking out or going out with another girl, she gets super defensive and moody. Saying you don't know what …	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 09:27 PM
1	What's she doing? My best friend is my room mate. I have sacrificed a lot of my free time and space for her. I barely even hang out with my friends any more or talk to them, or do things that I want to do. It's true.	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 09:03 PM
1	What's she doing? It would be very hard for sure, as I'm madly in love with her. She always tells me "I'm not like other women" if I bring up anything that might indicate she is. She messaged me first on POF, and ever since we started dating, we've literally spent almost all day of every day together, except when I work schedules differed in the begging. I don't think she knows any guys in this area, unless she's a master at hiding it because her phone doesn't even have a lock and she says it's cause she has noth…	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 08:40 PM
1	What's she doing? Hmm, well technically I was never officially moved in, and I do have a place of my own. I was just staying there for lack of a better term. My biggest problem was that I was becoming too needy, too dependent on her for my happiness. I was too controlling. She always talked about us getting more alone time, but it always seemed to be under her terms since I was always over there. Moving my stuff out is essentially incentive for me to not feel like I'm forced to go there every night. To learn to b…	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 05:46 PM
1	What's she doing? Is there no way to save this relationship? Why is it over after bringing that up?	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 04:53 PM
1	What's she doing? I told her last night that I think it might be better if we go our seperate ways. She basically couldn't believe that I was trying to break up with her and ended up giving me another chance, saying something needed to change. I told her that I'm gonna move all my stuff out, and that we're not breaking up. But that I can't be staying there any more and that we both need our space. That's when I found out that she's very insecure and broke down and asked if I could stay the night at least. Started…	/r/askTRP	15/07/15 02:18 PM
1	What's she doing? What type of effort are we talking about ? What would it take? She clearly knows all my insecurities and fears. She knows how paranoid I am. She openly talks to me about it. Why hasn't she just dropped me? She tells me that she won't give up until all options are exhausted. Like me going to therapy.	/r/askTRP	14/07/15 11:28 PM