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My suggestion is to seek girls out in places that reflect the qualities you're looking for. Like obviously a religious girl can be found at church. A fit girl can be found at a gym, hiking group, running group, etc. I think you need to be around those kinds of groups to meet someone. Also, if you're on the apps, use profile that emphasizes those qualities in yourself.
/r/seduction29/10/22 02:37 PM
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She's looking for more than casual. You said casual. It's not complicated and she wasn't fickle. She noticed an incompatibility and moved on. If you want to go out with women who want relationships then you should want one yourself.
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:30 PM
1

Am a woman. I think the correct move here would be to ask her out. If you've been friends for a while she probably thinks you're not interested.
/r/seduction06/06/22 09:48 PM
1

It doesn't seem like she ignored you because you didn't do anything to ignore. It sounds like you just didn't initiate conversation the second time.
/r/seduction06/05/22 11:59 PM
1

If they're not willing to meet you for a date then they're not into you. It's not complicated. It's fine if you want to spend time gathering info by hanging out and then ask them out properly later. But it is creepy and disrespectful to pull a bait and switch.
/r/seduction20/01/22 11:58 PM
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(I'm a woman) it doesn't actually seem like it was clear it was a date? If you've got an established friendship with this woman then she might have just thought it was a hang out? That's my two cents.
/r/seduction20/01/22 11:26 PM
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I think its more that they're softening the blow with a compliment. I've never broken up with someone for being too considerate. But I have found it really unattractive when a guy can't show me his romantic side because he thinks he's being "nice" by acting like he's asexual.
/r/seduction31/12/21 09:09 PM
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We did not have sex, not even kiss lol. It was just different shoes without lifts, not barefoot. And no, I dont tolerate dishonesty. I dumped another guy for lying about having a dog that he didn't actually have. I can't move forward with people who lie, and I think any decent person with a backbone would do the same. I do feel very sorry for guys that are short. It's very unfair. But it's frankly just super dumb to lie about something easily discoverable.
/r/seduction30/12/21 06:29 AM
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I went on a date with a guy who clearly wore lifts and then I saw him without. Without we were eye to eye. It was obvious. I'm not sure what you are even thinking dishing out this advice. It just made me feel like he was a psycho.
/r/seduction30/12/21 06:04 AM
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That's going to be a noticeable difference and definitely discovered. Just be honest. It's so awkward when I guy wears lifts and then you can tell. I've noticed before and it's of course a deal breaker to be dishonest.
/r/seduction30/12/21 05:05 AM
7

To me, dating around is what you do when you're dating people that you don't know that well to begin with. If I started dating some I knew pretty well already then yeah, I'd be miffed too if they were still seeing others.
/r/seduction10/12/21 12:44 AM
2

I think you should just go for another kiss on your date and take it from there. And yeah sure, you could talk about your potential future but it better be more like "how are you feeling about this" and "what are you looking for" rather than "how soon can we have sex."
/r/seduction03/12/21 02:47 PM
5

I'm not saying it's enough to end things, but if a guy gave me signals that he's miffed that I didn't have sex within a few dates with him I'd definitely consider that like an orange flag and proceed with caution. As a woman who is relationship oriented and doesn't want casual, I'm very attuned to looking for signals that a guy just wants something casual, and acting miffed about not having sex early on is a pretty good sign. If your whole point was not to complain about her speed but to actuall…
/r/seduction02/12/21 02:45 PM
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Am a woman. She's telling you she doesn't appreciate the teasing, but she's trying to play it cool. If I were you I'd lay off the teasing and don't pressure her to have sex. Tbh a lot of women hate being teased. I think that's a way guys relate to each other, but if anyone made fun of me to my face about something important like that I'd be pretty wary. You clearly do not know her well enough to tease her and have it go well, that much is clear.
/r/seduction02/12/21 05:54 AM
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I prefer for a guy to bring a pretty similar amount (or above) to our breadbasket. I live in a very expensive city though so it matters here if you want to actually be able to afford property. If a guy was well educated but didn't earn a lot, like he was a journalist or something, that could work too. But I prefer someone pretty on par to me. Obviously a personal preference.
/r/seduction29/11/21 06:10 AM
1

Okay. That doesn't answer my question though. I'm asking what the women are doing that makes it seem like they don't like you. Did you ask them out and get rejected? Do they walk away as soon as you approach? Like what's actually happening. From what you just said, I'm not hearing about any negative responses. In fact you just said you make them laugh and get nessages....good things!
/r/seduction28/11/21 03:13 PM
1

Your comment was too vague to convey what you're asking about... happy to answer my perspective as a woman on dating though if you can tell me what you're referring to.
/r/seduction28/11/21 05:17 AM
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Can you provide some information as to why you think women don't like you? Like specifically what is happening that gives you that impression?
/r/seduction27/11/21 04:16 PM
2

I disagree with your statement that most women don't like being approached as a generality. I think most don't like to be approached in certain circumstances, sure, and in certain manners most definitely, but I don't think that most women are put off by a respectful, safe approach by someone in they social group (my read is that this is a gym communitywith repeat people). I think the women that don't want that are just very vocal about their opinion. Yes, they're are women who complain about gym…
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:27 AM
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If you're really going to argue that her behavior is not a positive sign I really don't know what to tell you. It's like you all are just too stubborn or insecure or whatever to accept circumstantial evidence and demand direct evidence only, which is never given unless you're extremely lucky. Even then, you'd probably not notice it. And if this woman didn't want to talk to OP at the gym well then she wouldn't have gone and talked to him at the gym.
/r/seduction27/11/21 05:11 AM
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You are just rewording what you said. And I'm disagreeing as he doesn't need to make friends with everyone at the gym. That is a dumb analogy here where in this case women want guys who are appealing to approach them, unlike fish. This lady already got things started by approaching and introducing herself. Unlike fishing, there is no deception or legwork needed. Honestly, the fact that there needs to be any discussion at all over what this guy's next move is is frankly rather sad. Not to dump on…
/r/seduction26/11/21 03:31 PM
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Your comment was that there was more he needed to do before approaching her. I am disagreeing. This woman introduced herself. The light is on green. I say that as a woman.
/r/seduction26/11/21 05:22 AM
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It's fine for him to approach her. They've already chatted....
/r/seduction26/11/21 05:19 AM
3

?? You have just gauged her interest. She's likely interested. As an aside, you have highly unrealistic expectations about flieting if you think you're going to get something more overt than a kiss blown at you. Like seriously come on. The vast majority of interested women wouldn't do even that. I think the only situation where it's good to ask for a vague date is with coworkers. Ask for coffee or lunch some and then if it goes well ask for an actual date.
/r/seduction25/11/21 05:01 AM
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Depends on what you call a hook up but the point of my comment still stands. You've already established attraction....
/r/seduction25/11/21 02:56 AM
6

I'm very confused why you're tripping on this given you've already hooked up...? The interest has already been established. Just invite her out.
/r/seduction25/11/21 02:05 AM
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I'm a woman and I say absolutely bounce as soon as you ask a woman out for a date and when she can't make it she doesn't counter-offer something else. No counter offer means she's not that into you or is just super lazy. People who are interested will make it easy to meet up with them. I'm not on tinder because I'm looking for a relationship. If that's what you're looking for too I suggest a more relationship oriented app like hinge or even bumble.
/r/seduction18/11/21 08:39 PM
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Definitely don't ask for all our numbers lol. Way to make a girl feel unspecial. No, you just chat up the one you like. And no, my friends don't get offended. We're grown ups and we're distinct people. It's really not a big deal, and that's really why wing men are good. You have a group on group dynamic happening and then can split off if you want to. The only time I would be offended is if a guy hit on me after striking out with my friend. Like I am no second best haha.
/r/seduction10/09/21 08:39 PM
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Yeah, I get it. I assume though OP is asking because he's going to go for it. Otherwise why ask, you know? But yeah, I've approached dudes myself, I know it takes some courage. :)
/r/seduction10/09/21 01:57 PM
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All of the above, which is why I gave that list. I'm cool talking to strangers, and do fairly regularly actually. I have a friendly face so I give a lot of people help or directions. I think that people are divided on this. There are definitely some women that don't want to be approached so I think if you're getting avoidant signals to move on quickly. Anyway, the bottom line is that if I like a guy, I'm going to facilitate his move. If he comes up to me and is hitting on me, I'm making it easy …
/r/seduction10/09/21 01:45 PM
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This 100%. I facilitate when it's wanted for me and for my friends, and the opposite when it's not. If it's not going well I'm giving my friends that quick "help me" side eye. If it is going well I'm giving my friends a quick "omg omg yes" side eye and am probably blushing and smiling like a fool anyway lol. Honestly, if you're a dude and you find that the friend is blocking you, then you have your ego spared a bit? It's not going well and you're spared that direct rejection? The way I see it.
/r/seduction10/09/21 01:36 PM
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Well it depends on the place. If it's the grocery store or coffee or whatever then sure I'm there by myself. If it's wine tasting or at a bar, then no. No one does those alone. Idk why not being alone is an issue. If I am single, I'm just there with friends. If someone comes up to hit on me, my friends will give me some space or I will step to another spot myself to have a side conversation. My friends can tell whether I want it or not. So if you're finding yourself getting frequently cckblocked…
/r/seduction10/09/21 11:28 AM
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I consider myself a high value woman... I'd say coffee shops, parks, parties, volunteering, grocery stores, etc. I go to bars too occasionally, I'm not a nun lol. Recently I went to a museum, hiking, wine tasting, etc. Normal things! I think if you're a high value man then they should be in your social circle, no? That's really the best way to meet people.
/r/seduction10/09/21 05:16 AM
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Am a woman...Don't ask her back to your place again on the second date. It will come across like you are hounding her for a hook up. If you're interested in more than just a hook up, keep it more playful and ask for a kiss.
/r/seduction31/08/21 07:04 PM
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Online dating is a good as a supplement to real life. I wouldn't rely on it exclusively, especially for men. As a single woman younger than you, I'd date a guy your age so long as it seemed evident from your profile that you're looking for something serious. My concern with men your age is that they are just perpetual bachelors. Ask for friends to set you up, and then just get out there and socialize in as many group settings as you can. I know there's a lot of division on this, but I will say t…
/r/seduction31/08/21 01:03 AM
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Are you sure you were tested comprehensively? Like for herpes? And warts? It just sounds suspicious. I'd have the date but hold off on sex? For me, I think it could be a turn off. I think body pimples here and there are fine to see, but I wouldn't want one inside of me. And I'd really prefer not to be told in the heat of the moment. Definitely, if you do bring it up, share about your STD screening and results. That would be the first thing I'd want to know upon this news. I'm super serious about…
/r/seduction27/08/21 11:58 PM
2

Is your fear approaching women, or escalating on dates, or both? Really think about what the fear is about and why it happens. Sounds like just an intense fear of rejection?
/r/seduction26/08/21 02:23 PM
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That seems cruel to hook up with someone under false pretenses. The stakes also won't be the same when you actually like someone. Just do therapy or work on your confidence in another way instead.
/r/seduction26/08/21 02:04 PM
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Am a woman and I think this is bad advice. I definitely am not overt with the men I'm into. I wait for them to signal interest first. It's just a feminine instinct. Yes, I stay in touch and never blows them off, etc. But I always maintain that plausible deniability.
/r/seduction23/08/21 04:35 AM
4

(Woman here). Give a warning, do not just cum without warning. Cum is up there as absolutely one of the worst things to taste ever. It depends on the guy, but it can be positively disgusting. If a guy cums without warning I definitely consider him a bad lover. Really cuts his chances of me seeing him again.
/r/seduction24/07/21 01:59 PM
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My post really went over your head, because I never said anything about wanting to sit back. In fact, I said the opposite, that my natural is to be affectionate. But anyway, if they recoil from you touching them lightly, they just simply don't like you. It's not a timing issue. And obviously don't ask for sex/them to come home night 1. As for kissing, if they're not lingering and being in close proximity, then they're not comfortable yet. Maybe need another date, or they're just not into you. Ho…
/r/seduction05/07/21 03:01 PM
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Well I think it is supposed to "happen naturally" but for other people their natural is to be romantic and show interest. I guess it isn't yours? As a woman, when I like a guy, I show interest naturally. It sounds like you may need to make decisions to escalate if that's not what you're inclined to do.
/r/seduction05/07/21 05:38 AM
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Well I think it is supposed to "happen naturally" but for other people their natural is to be romantic and show interest. I guess it isn't yours? As a woman, when I like a guy, I show interest naturally. It sounds like you may need to make decisions to escalate if that's not what you're inclined to do.
/r/seduction05/07/21 05:37 AM
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The right guy isn't going to treat me that cheap.
/r/seduction19/06/21 03:27 PM
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Am a woman. Some of us just have a blanket rule that we don't have sex night one. And we know thats what you want at your place. So kisses are good but im not going home and there's really nothing you can say about it.
/r/seduction19/06/21 02:28 PM
2

Quite simply, you have to make moves. Good luck!
/r/seduction08/05/21 02:08 PM
0

Yikes this would be really off putting to check in front of me. Gives me creep vibes.
/r/seduction28/04/21 11:08 PM
3

I think you guys are using different meanings of "chase".... Some people seem to mean any sort of effort = chase. Others are using the more normal definition, which is that when you're chasing you're targeting something moving away from you. The bottom line is it is good to make moves, but you should never feel like your partner is moving away from you.
/r/seduction24/04/21 04:13 AM
1

Lol enthusiasm is a good thing. Good luck!
/r/seduction20/04/21 05:56 AM
4

There is no clear cut way to tell. Flirting is purposefully vague. You aren't "that guy" if you're getting obvious signs that they enjoy your company, which she clearly does. The bottom line is that in the world of romance you have to work with imperfect information. Let go of the expectation, if you have it, that all the answers are available to you if you look for them. You just make your best guess. Repeated conversations with giggling and teasing are very good signs.
/r/seduction20/04/21 01:47 AM
7

Well unless you specify it's a date...then it's not a date lol. It's just a hang out.
/r/seduction16/04/21 12:45 AM
1

You're doing great. Just ask her out. It would be weird if you didn't at this point, frankly. She's clearly into you.
/r/seduction10/04/21 05:05 AM
2

If it's a tinder date at your house? She's probably interested. Make a move if you are.
/r/seduction10/04/21 04:52 AM
1

Well clearly if your friends are nice and still have girlfriends then being a bad boy isn't necessary... I suggest gaining confidence and putting yourself out there. :)
/r/seduction29/03/21 03:02 PM
3

Yes, orbiting is a sign of interest.
/r/seduction23/03/21 11:57 PM
4

Women who are interested will get closer in proximity to you or allow to to get physically closer to them. It's the exact opposite for disinterest - putting distance. Basically, "orbiting" as I've heard it called. The fact that the older guy told you the woman was interested suggests that you're not picking up on social cues. I suggest regarding this from "having to read minds" to "learning to read social signals." The information is out there and you need to learn to pick it up. I'm a girl and …
/r/seduction23/03/21 11:28 PM
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You don't owe anyone a relationship...but at the same time it's shitty to lead someone on... you're right that the right thing to do is be up front about what you want.
/r/seduction13/03/21 04:04 AM
1

You are not a bad person. This is a current issue where there's a lot of difference in opinion. For many, asking to kiss is a sign of hesitancy and many find a clinical discussion of consent to be awkward and mood-killing. For others, anything less than explicit verbal confirmation is just not clear enough. My take is the hitch movie 90/10 rule. You basically get their active participation. Then you don't have to wonder whether it was wanted.
/r/seduction09/03/21 01:06 AM
1

Sorry I'm confused. When was it that you followed up after the date? And how long has it been since then? Can't tell from the prompt.
/r/seduction17/02/21 01:56 AM
0

For me it's definitely contextual. But my last bf never complimented my looks, just basically made friendly conversation asked to "meet up" and I didn't get that he was into me. It made things a bit sudden when he made a move in the middle of us hanging out. I personally prefer a more explicit use of "date" so that I know.
/r/seduction31/01/21 05:04 PM
1

I'm looking to date long term and I usually keep the first date pretty light (hobbies, vacation plans, very basics about them), particularly for an online date where it's your very first meeting. But if it's going well I ask what they're looking for and see if it's a relationship. That usually is a good segway to broader goals and plans. Sometimes I ask before the date while talking online, but I can generally tell based off the level of detail and content of their profile what they're looking f…
/r/seduction20/01/21 06:35 PM
1

If I like i dude then I basically always want to talk to him and especially like it when they pursue me of course. (Except if I see him pursue someone else before coming for me, because then I think im a second choice. Also pursuing a lot of people makes me think they're just out grazing for sex as opposed to actually liking me. )
/r/seduction15/01/21 06:11 AM
1

Yeah. But if you were interested yourself why didn't you initiate yourself? Most of the time there is no signal anyway.
/r/seduction14/01/21 02:57 AM
1

Sure...If you can't pick up on signals then you'll just have to operate without them when approaching...
/r/seduction14/01/21 02:53 AM
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Woman here. If you're getting come hither signals you don't need any line. If you're getting signals like that you're already wanted. You dont need to struggle to think about something to impress when they're already impressed. Just go say hi and have a conversation. And to answer your question yes, if you don't approach after signaled interest that's considered a rejection to the woman. In dating for both, if you sent energy out and don't get it back then you're supposed to move along.
/r/seduction12/01/21 06:47 AM
7

Girl here. SHE TOLD YOU SHE WANTED TO BE FRIENDS. I mean, it doesn't really get more direct than that... She is not using you for validation. She's done the opposite of stringing you along, in fact she expressed herself extremely clearly. She said she wanted to be friends. If what she is offering (friendship) is not what you want then move on.
/r/seduction04/01/21 09:43 PM
2

? Its your burden to get consent with people you have sex with. That's another way of saying permission. This is just a human thing. I get that men are expected to initiate, but if you're not being met with enthusiasm the moral thing to do is to not try to move beyond the boundary they've set.
/r/seduction27/12/20 12:34 AM
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Saying they're not down is disinterest. If they were interested, they'd be responding with interest. Basically im saying the burden is to get consent, not to get refused. If I have to physically put a pillow up to have my choice respected that's a serious issue. Potentially a legal issue. Words alone should be enough.
/r/seduction27/12/20 12:24 AM
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You just said above that when someone shows signals of disinterest to "try again" in all caps. I agree that these women just want sex. If they didn't they wouldn't have gone home on night 1. Honestly I just think OP is doing something unappealing or hasn't kept good hygiene or something.
/r/seduction27/12/20 12:06 AM
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If I were a guy I'd back off if the person I was trying to hook up with wasn't acting like they were into it. Any sort of brakes being applied by that other person means no. As a human being, I don't have interest in someone who isn't downright enthusiastic about having sex with me. And its disturbing to me that anyone thinks its okay to refuse to accept someone's disinterest. This goes with all aspects of dating. If you're not being responded to with enthusiasm then walk away.
/r/seduction26/12/20 11:26 PM
3

Keep in mind that if you ask them to go home with you on a first date you will give off a pretty casual impression.
/r/seduction26/12/20 05:21 PM
2

It's not totally clear from the facts...but if you sent her info about your crushes then that's usually a way of saying you're not into someone if you're expressing interesti n other people in front of her. She might have gotten the impression you're not into her. As a societal norm, which may change but is still the way it has been, men usually initiate. And she explicitly said she doesn't so...
/r/seduction19/12/20 05:20 AM
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Well this issue could be a few things. Timing - are you waiting until a friendship to express your feelings? Best to act when you're just acquaintances. The way you hold yourself - do you act like you think you're an attractive dude? Do you dress your body well and conduct yourself with confidence? A lot of the guys I see as friends its because I can't imagine them being sexual. Like they seem to lack the assertiveness and self assuredness needed to seduce someone, if that makes sense. Saying th…
/r/seduction13/12/20 04:56 PM
1

Well I think telling them you're interested in more would be the way to go. Generally people assume what starts casual stays casual unless there's explicit communication otherwise.
/r/seduction27/11/20 01:08 AM
2

When you go about pursuing a woman as a girlfriend rather than as a hook up are you going about things differently? You really should be...
/r/seduction24/11/20 10:36 PM
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Your question is welcome! :) Well I think you should have a couple of exchanges over text. I dont think you can ask to meet in your first message. Im just saying I'd rather meet up after a few exchanges then have so much conversation before. I think something like "hey, you seem great....(insert compliments or say that you have something in common) im not a big texter, would you like to meet up for coffee sometime? I'm free x morning" Works well. Im a woman though and I do think men are perhaps …
/r/seduction23/11/20 05:42 PM
52

Dear lord thank goodness there are others who feel the same. I only enjoy texting with people I already know. It's a terrible medium for communication between strangers. I use it mostly for logistics or very brief comments.
/r/seduction23/11/20 06:50 AM
3

Hey I'm moving to SF in a few months! Do you have any recommendations for places to meet people in SF?
/r/seduction20/11/20 04:51 AM
1

Kissing is not something that "happens". Its something you physically have to do...
/r/seduction19/11/20 12:28 AM
2

I think it doesn't help to think of getting physical and making a move as "not polite." If you're on a date and your date seems like they want a kiss, its not impolite to make a move. Just do the classic hitch go 90 they go 10. Things can get awkward real fast if you make fumbly comments like "is it ok to kiss you?". If you lean in somewhat slowly then they can lean out if its not wanted. No need to awkwardly discuss kissing like its a business transaction. This is really just one of those thing…
/r/seduction19/11/20 12:27 AM
2

Not sure what you mean by that.
/r/seduction18/11/20 10:32 PM
2

Why don't you just communicate with her like a grown up. Either ask her if she's seeing other people or what she's up to or let it go.
/r/seduction18/11/20 10:29 PM
2

You are just completely speculating on how she spends her time. It's very normal to not be on your phone for hours at a time. Its quite healthy in fact. Seriously if you like her then ask her to be your girlfriend.
/r/seduction18/11/20 10:21 PM
1

Lol no. Im trying to find one of those.
/r/seduction18/11/20 10:16 PM
2

This is some superinsecurity man. She probably just has friends she hangs out with. Or family, working out, etc. Ive had dudes blow up at me because I dont get back to them that fast. Its because I'm hanging out with friends at a bachelor viewing party that's all night. Seriously, OP needs to learn that people have lives. If you feel strongly about her then tell her that.
/r/seduction18/11/20 10:03 PM
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Heyyyyy I like a free drink but yeah, it doesn't change my feelings one way or the other. I turn it down if im not interested in talking. Overall though, if you're a person that sees someone you like in a bar go for it. Bars are open grounds for approaching strangers. Don't think that a lack of an open with the drink means you can't make a move.
/r/seduction17/11/20 06:25 AM
1

Uh what?? This dude sounds so hot
/r/seduction16/11/20 06:26 AM
2

Be honest with her about what happened. Any self respecting person won't move along with you without an explanation.
/r/seduction15/11/20 06:17 PM
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