| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 42 | HVpartner, but no attraction after many years - advice wanted! | DISCUSSION | RuntheContinent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Dating strategy and gift giving | STRATEGY | RuntheContinent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:21 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 2 | This weird type of poor communication that I dealt with after talking to a guy for a few monthsCame here to say this, but you already said it better. OP was right to run! This was only the beginning of his derailing tactics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 04:00 AM |
| 119 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.Have you been seeing someone consistently, and now he's acting up? Leaving you wondering what's changed and how to get back to the way things were? Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy - just get rid of him. Being single is not a failure. Being single is not a "worst case scenario". The "worst case scenario" is ending up with a man who makes you doubt yourself everyday you're with him; who casts a shadow over your life and constantly tries to make you smaller. Thank you. Just last night, I final… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 12:02 AM |
| 117 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveYeah I frowned pretty hard at that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 05:20 AM |
| 18 | The occupation of men on OLDI haven't been on OLD for a while now, but that is not my experience! I ran into lots of men with midrange jobs, and a few professional artists. The ones I actually met were still low value though. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 11:57 AM |
| 6 | girl whatThat was a wild ride. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 11:55 AM |
| 31 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭Lol what "Not me though" hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:05 AM |
| 46 | Delusional, visibly ageing NVM creates a website and ads to find a girlfriend...Haha, his profession! Boardgame designer, investor, internet entrepreneur. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 06:23 PM |
| 249 | I'm going to sound ridiculous...I'm really sorry about the disappointment you're feeling, but it really does sound like you handled this quite well, all things considered. I know how it feels when someone gets your hopes up and then turns out to be so different than you thought. It's not your fault though. I suspect he's surprised you're not contacting him. If he ever does reach out again, be strong. You are worth much more than this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:06 AM |
| 17 | Successful novelist wife writes a book on her lunch hour. Husband is mad.This has got to be a fucking joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Guy seemed like a HVM, wanted to pursue me, but then goes on vacation and returns more distant. How should we handle these situations?I think you handled this very well. I'm sorry you were disappointed; I know how it feels. I'm glad he told you what you needed to know although he is still clearly making excuses (very weak). The next step is just, as others have said, to block, delete and forget. Nothing else you can do here and it seems to me like you didn't go wrong anywhere, it's just him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 03:00 PM |
| 42 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.You wouldn't believe how many times I've actually heard the exact story: traveled to meet some guy who ghosted me and then randomly met my s/o at a bar. It's insane. This should not encourage women to be reckless, but I'm glad it worked out for you. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:13 PM |
| 66 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.Lol @ the fucking audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:10 PM |
| 59 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.It's crazy how so many of us have such similar experiences, haha! Seems so specific, and yet it's a tale as old as time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:09 PM |
| 34 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearThank you. Added to my reading list. Vaguely on topic: yesterday my boyfriend, who I don't live with, asked me to spend my Sunday doing his gardening chores with him, under the guise of "I know you enjoy gardening". Do they really not understand that cultivating a piece of land that is my own is not the same as raking someone else's leaves? Anyway, I firmly refused. A small victory in my boundary-setting journey. I've definitely spent a lot of this relationship doing things with no benefit to me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 12:56 PM |
| 133 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearCongratulations!! This is great to hear. I love to read how some people were able to use the pandemic and lockdowns in their strategy to level up. Great work! I'm trying to work on similar issues myself and would love to hear specifics on how you asserted certain boundaries, if you are able to share anything without giving away identifying information. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:00 PM |
| 49 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.Exactly! It is so shocking and saddening to realize this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:25 PM |
| 145 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.What the fuck. I'm sorry, are you sure that's even meant to be a joke? I hope no one gives this creep the time of day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:23 PM |
| 24 | 10 Vetting Questions for Your First DateWho contributed to your success so far? Ohhh, I like this one especially. If I had asked my most recent downward spiral this on the first date, I might have found out early that he was completely oblivious to all of his privilege and all the ways in which the women in his life (mother, sister and girlfriends) removed every obstacle for him to be successful. Rant over. Beyond vetting, it's also just a super interesting and thought-provoking conversation starter! Making a mental note for the futur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 07:53 PM |
| 23 | This is why it is important to vet and advocate for yourself, ladies. It's life or death for some of us. No one, neither progressive nor conservative, will speak on this because our lives don't matter.Those numbers are terrifying! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 08:51 PM |
| 4 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeAnd what is with the aggressive downvoting? Jesus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:46 AM |
| -14 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeCommenting for support of this because my upvotes are futile. So many people here are just assuming she voted for Trump. I'm sure they will now say that not voting at all is the same as voting for him. Whatever. The thing that bothers me most about this is the disdain some people express for, let's say, roughly speaking, rural white America. I think people would do well to show some grace to those who did not grow up in middle class progressive environments with access to good education. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:49 PM |
| -5 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI think your analogy doesn't really hold, because I don't think conservative ideas are at all incompatible with FDS. I think that is the whole point they're trying to make by having a conservative-identifying host: FDS is compatible with most political philosophies. I think we're in agreement about the variety of voices on the conservative side of the spectrum. In these times people forget there's a lot more nuance than Trump. I agree that many politicians on the right are terribly problematic w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:36 PM |
| 28 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeAh, yes. I did not have such a strong reaction to Elle but think this is a very fair point. I think a lot of people had more issues with how Elle votes than with her ideas. I do understand that although I don't think it's constructive. Now, if there was a way to get a very accomplished conservative woman on the show, someone of the caliber of Gail Dines, would that be acceptable to the women who are now so offended? One challenge would be to find one who is interested in coming on the show. Prob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:23 PM |
| -11 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI just want to say I wish people didn't use downvoting as a means to express disagreement. I think this is a valuable comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:15 PM |
| -23 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeWell, I think they were clear about the fact that they wanted a conservative voice since the three hosts felt that they themselves were already representing the progressive side. I honestly think that was fair and generous. Would it have been different to you if they had had a leftist political guest first? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:13 PM |
| -29 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeWell, you are right. But I just don't buy that it's constructive to ostracize that large a chunk of the (female) population - on a platform that is supposed to be about dating, might I add. Do conservative women cause harm by voting for Trump? Well yes, I would agree with you on that. Does that mean they are all racists, or does that invalidate every thought and opinion they voice? No. Don't be ridiculous. This divide is not helping anyone. I did not hear this woman advocate for anything extreme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:08 PM |
| -8 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI would upvote this a hundred times if I could. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:59 PM |
| -33 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeWell, to be fair, she identified as a former redpill, that she came across the idea on her post-divorce search. The idea that men should lead is related to that but it was clear she abandoned those ideas in favor of a more fds-aligned philosophy. As for the thing where conservatives vote for their own self-interest: you don't have to approve of her choices, and I understand the perspective that she is misguided, but now you are taking a lot of things she said out of context and calling her a rac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeYes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeDid not seem like what? I am very confused by this interaction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:20 PM |
| 0 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI wasn't directly responding to you, and am in fact agreeing with you, so I am unsure why you're attacking me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:16 PM |
| -17 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI am hearing that you don't ever want to allow any woman who votes republican to have a voice in FDS. That is so, so sad. You believe you are on the right side of history (I don't even disagree with you, although I think you could be a whole lot less sanctimonious about it), and you want to exclude all these women based on who they vote for. You don't even really (care to) know their backgrounds and their reasons. This is everything I hate about America, truly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:04 PM |
| -12 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI missed the controversy, did not see any negativity prior to this post, but: I enjoyed the episode a lot. As a woman who grew up in a conservative environment, a lot of what she said really resonated with me and I thought she was overall very nuanced. I am hurt that apparently there needs to be a backlash.. I really appreciated the effort to provide a forum for women on both sides of the political divide. I am also not originally from the US, and another thing that the episode touched upon is i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:42 PM |
| 32 | This is what happens when sex workers demand respect. It’s almost like selling your body teaches men you are an object to be used! Who woulda thought!?I stopped reading at "woah is me". 😂 😂 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:15 PM |
| 9 | What's everyone's MBTI type?What's a good link to take the test? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:49 PM |
| 15 | Man Kills Girlfriend after argument and 3 Other People and Claims he just "Snapped" 🙄😠Infuriating!! These innocent people. I'm glad he was found. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:34 PM |
| 97 | Can we take a moment for Sabina?Thanks for posting. I'm sad and angry for her. Of course, the asymmetry in law enforcement response and media attention for white women vs. women of color is a problem, and I don't fully understand the mechanisms behind it. I'm also sad and angry for Destini Smothers, who was also murdered by her partner, and whose name I learned from a Facebook post in response to the Petito case. All these women deserve the same attention and the same resources as Gabby Petito. How can we make sure they get th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:23 PM |
| 61 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.Yeah. This. The audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:35 AM |
| 43 | Just received this message. A request that I not call men scrote 😮💨If I had a daughter, I would absolutely want her to read this subreddit! I pray my niece will have a community like this that empowers her to take no shit, once she is of dating age. And if I had a son, I would sure hope he didn't display any of the behaviors that would make the term apply to him. Maybe this person should just focus more on raising their kids right. That's one way to address their concerns without needing to harass other people on the interwebs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 08:20 PM |
| 32 | Just received this message. A request that I not call men scrote 😮💨These people focus so much on the term "scrote" and how offensive they perceive it to be, but they wilfully ignore the fact that it is only used to refer to certain men based on their behavior. It is in a similar category, but imo not as bad, as "karen" and not NEARLY as bad as the dozens of derogatory terms that are much more commonly used to describe all women regardless of how they act. I'm pretty offended by how offended these people get, actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 08:16 PM |
| 23 | This sub won’t allow me to post images anymore so I’m going to copy paste a conversation I had with a long time male friend. He was asking me how my 13 yo daughter got covid and then decided to sexualize her. What the actual fuck.So happy to read this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 08:07 PM |
| 71 | This sub won’t allow me to post images anymore so I’m going to copy paste a conversation I had with a long time male friend. He was asking me how my 13 yo daughter got covid and then decided to sexualize her. What the actual fuck.The response is: you're disgusting. And then never speak to him again. We need to stop letting these creeps off the hook, and stop protecting their feelings. Call them out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:14 PM |
| 27 | This sub won’t allow me to post images anymore so I’m going to copy paste a conversation I had with a long time male friend. He was asking me how my 13 yo daughter got covid and then decided to sexualize her. What the actual fuck.... wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:13 PM |
| 16 | I did it!Congratulations! I bet you're just floating through the air with all that weight off your shoulders. I honestly wish we didn't have to be so careful about personal information on this forum because I want to know ALL about your studies and your job and your new place! :-D Good luck with everything and keep up the queen energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:09 AM |
| 65 | All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the VictimI'm so mad! It's clear as day. The gaslighting, the aggression, the men protecting each other. My heart breaks for her. I feel her pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Tell me all of your favourite ways to treat yourself to a date!Me too! It's my favorite thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:09 PM |
| 57 | I finally left.What a terrible thing to experience. Sorry you went through that. He sounds awful. This being said, this one sentence is the best thing I've read all year: I couldn’t take it anymore, so I just…blocked him. Congratulations! Don't feel stupid. Most of us have made similar mistakes. The way you handled it in the end is amazing. And the fact that he cared enough to make a fake Facebook to stalk you confirms that you are the hero of this story. Better things are in store for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 12:01 AM |
| 25 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingI once went out with a guy from OLD who shared on the first date (haha) that he had been in jail (recently) for reckless endangerment or something like that after he had broken his child's leg in the car when he was throwing a tantrum. Obviously it was an aCciDeNT and his wife was such a resentful bitch for telling law enforcement he had some anger management issues. Lots of whining about only getting supervised visits with his kids, and of course it's all the wife's fault for some reason! Woe i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:14 AM |
| 4 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.I wish I had read this a year or so ago! Learning it the hard way now. Haha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 04:24 AM |
| 111 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreAlso, can we talk about "sapiosexuals"? The cringiest of all humblebrags. And I guarantee you that none of these scrotes who call themselves "sapiosexuals" actually like smart women. Or are very smart themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 09:31 PM |
| 24 | Divorce Him. It's not a woman's job to be your secretary and don't even let him start with the "babe where is my/have you seen my..." Men don't do this for us and it's exhausting to manage their lives for them. Run.This really is one of the hardest things for me. I know all of this but whenever a guy needs to find something, my first instinct is to drop whatever I'm doing and help him find it. To be fair, it's the same when my female roommate needs something. It's hard to let go of the idea that I need to be of service. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:12 PM |
| 62 | Ladies who have gotten the vaccine: Did it mess with your monthly cycle at all?Wow, I am so surprised to read this because.. I received my first dose of Moderna eleven days ago. No side effects other than sore arm. Six days ago I began bleeding, like a light period. It hasn't stopped. I have no other symptoms or discomfort, only the light but ongoing bleeding. Additional info: I am on birth control and not supposed to have a period right now. My regular periods last only about three days usually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:00 PM |
| 19 | Yay Utah!Anyone have experience with or knowledge of the process to obtain child support if paternity is disputed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:36 PM |
| 88 | Yay Utah!The article says a man is not required to pay if the woman has an abortion. Since paternity is only established after birth, I would assume there's also no way the court can require a man to cover the cost of Plan B. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:49 PM |
| 82 | Yay Utah!I was very shocked to learn this was something he was genuinely concerned about. Truly, the self-importance! Like his seed consists of tiny diamonds or something. You can keep your genes, boy. Not this particular man, but yes: the fuss they make about wearing a condom! The cognitive dissonance! Also, sorry to hear about the removed condom - hope that guy burns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:40 PM |
| 108 | Yay Utah!I recently had a related conversation with a man I am seeing (one of a few red flags I'm afraid..): he was telling me about a real concern men, including him, had about women somehow tricking them by getting pregnant. I reacted STRONGLY to this. Trick men ... for WHAT? You seriously don't need a phd to understand that women always bear the brunt of any pregnancy and child birth, wanted or unwanted, both physically and financially. I suspect it is not actually easy for women to "go after" the bio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:24 PM |
| 10 | FDS became the last stop on my journey to fully recover from a pick-me and "not like other girls" syndromes. I used to either hate how I look, compared to other women, or hate on them in order to impress men. Not anymore, thanks to all you queens here!Love this. It reminds me of the most important way I have grown since my teens, which is that I've stopped being envious or resentful of other women or comparing myself excessively to them. I view other women now as either mentors or allies. I sometimes recognize toxic thinking and insecurity in the form of rivalry and envy in other women but I don't engage in it anymore. I'm in academia and I make a point of lifting other women up, even if they haven't adopted this mindset yet. I'm very proud o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:32 PM |
| 21 | Revenge storyI think she meant to say that a woman would never sink so deep if the roles were reversed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 12:19 AM |
| 2 | He stalks the poor octopusI can't remember the exact parts but yes, there were a few moments in the film I found questionable in that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 03:55 PM |
| 12 | He was my best friend for over a decade until I realized four years ago that he had been sexual abusing and manipulating me for years. He texted me this out of the blue from a new number after blocking him on everything. Thank you to FDS for giving me the strength and courage to not respond.Congratulations on getting him out of your life! Not that you needed it, but this laughable "apology" (???!!!) is a good reminder that that was the only right thing to do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:14 PM |
| 70 | He stalks the poor octopusOh my god. I'm so happy to read this. To be fair, I really enjoyed the movie because of the wonderful octopus and I learned things. But yes I found the self-obsessed loser filmmaker very vexing. In addition to being bothered by his misplaced sense of entitlement to this animal's life, I couldn't help but think of this man's wife. What a person to be married to - he's out unemployed and harassing this kelp forest creature every day while she is apparently expected to keep the household together w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:39 PM |
| 22 | Any teachers leave because of the misogyny or to level up?You have so many transferable skills as a teacher, and you are used to hard work. All you have to do now is carry yourself with the confidence of a mediocre white man. ;) Good luck, fellow soon-to-be-former-teacher! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 12:49 AM |
| 56 | Any teachers leave because of the misogyny or to level up?Let me tell you. I always thought I wanted to be a teacher. After college I got a teaching job at a good college. I was blinded by the perceived prestige of working in higher ed and accepted precarious conditions with short-term contracts and ridiculous workloads for YEARS. I did so much damage to my body trying to keep up with the workload, teaching courses I found boring that btw had nothing to do with my expertise. I started looking around me and saw that so many of my coworkers were young wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 11:11 PM |
| 67 | The podcast has only 1 episode so far and we're already in the top 5% of podcasts. Let's see if we can get into the top 1% 🙌 New episode dropping tomorrow!Listened to the first one sipping a gin&tonic in my tub. Really enjoyed it and can't wait for what's next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 06:01 PM |
| 3 | What should a women do in their 20s to avoid regrets in their 30s and 40s?Don't focus on men, but only on bettering yourself. Earn money. Study. Travel. Be very selective if you want to date, but remember that you don't need to date at all. I wish I had spent more of my twenties working on myself instead if trying to be attractive to (and obsessing over) some dude. Also, more specifically: - educate yourself on healthy diet and exercise, and go on the biggest adventures you can within your budget. Go run a marathon in central asia or something - ask for things that yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 11:16 PM |
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