Ruze_ Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	How do I get confidence in the first place? Yeah with women it's one of the few things you just have to go by faith until it clicks. I'm talking like you're gonna fuck up and succeed by accident, screw it up, and then once you piece things together again you just realize that it's more about simply being and believing you are a prize and letting things just happen. As much as it sucks it'll get easier when you stop looking. Just put yourself out there and try to make the most of every situation.	/r/seduction	23/08/19 08:07 PM
3	Working out and eating healthy has changed my perspective on life for the better. If you haven’t started lifting weights, do it now It's really all about your mindset. I've been lifting for years and I've had a six pack and I didn't get the results I wanted because I wasn't in the right state of mind.	/r/seduction	19/07/19 08:46 PM
12	This is what happened when I posed as a semi-attractive girl on tinder for a little over 8 hours, I give up on life lol There's social media for that, man. If women were more serious in actually meeting people there would be less reasons to just carpet bomb the area Goes both ways	/r/seduction	27/06/19 05:13 PM
4	This is what happened when I posed as a semi-attractive girl on tinder for a little over 8 hours, I give up on life lol That's facts, no point investing too much into swiping imo if you're a guy. Takes up too much time.	/r/seduction	27/06/19 04:54 PM
1	"Wow you have beautiful eyes." My eyes are brown and when people say I have nice eyes I just think they're trying to be nice and just compliment...anything.	/r/seduction	18/05/19 05:02 PM
1	I feel this cycle of sadness a couple of times a week and I want to know how to cure it Yeah I'm experiencing some of the stuff too. It's just annoying. I don't want to get sad about it but a lot of the feelings kinda creep in and I have to actively squash it in my head. I don't waste those brief feelings entirely though, I write poems now about them. Tell a little story about how it's going for me at the moment. I got stood up/flaked a couple of times in the past week by different and I just decided that I need a break. I don't know what else I needed to do at this point, but I;m …	/r/seduction	13/12/17 09:12 PM
2	I'M TERRIFIED OF WOMEN I'm a late bloomer too. Just keep doing what makes you feel good and take care of yourself. Try new things and learn from failure. As long as you are trying, you are growing. It's within all of us. You got it, dude. I'm still working on things too, but if you really start loving yourself and be positive you're already way ahead of a lot of men. Don't let negativity stop you from trying, you're better than you think. And if you don't believe that yet, think about your good moments. It's there, ju…	/r/seduction	13/12/17 11:57 AM
1	I'M TERRIFIED OF WOMEN We've all been hurt. No matter the degree, that's the reality of life. We are all fighters. Don't know where to start? Take care of yourself. Observe how people talk about themselves. You're a street musician, right? You already have an interesting man inside you, work to bring it out. If you want help, let me know. We can figure this out together. And if you glean anything from this: Be positive, and positivity will follow. The world is so much bigger than you, be a part of it and share your mi…	/r/seduction	05/12/17 04:06 PM
1	Was hit on by a colleague [f/20s], but I [m/20s] didnt do anything. Since then shes been cold/not hit on me. How do I turn this around? Sometimes people aren't in a great mood. Maybe it has nothing to do about you. Try starting a conversation, if she isn't responding too well, don't give up just yet. Maybe you can try 3 questions and if she still doesn't open up you can just walk away.	/r/seduction	02/12/17 04:23 PM
8	Nobody Owes You Anything Send texts and forget they exist. One, you probably don't even know them so your life shouldn't hang on whether or not they respond to you. Another... They're probably testing your patience and to see if you have a life. If you're getting mad about not getting a text back it'll signify that you are putting a near total stranger highly on your list of priorities. Just do other things. And when you look at your phone a text back will be a pleasant surprise.	/r/seduction	30/11/17 07:00 PM
1	28 years old female virgin I used to have problems with people touching me too. It just seems so foreign and with trust issues it makes intimacy almost impossible. And as a woman you have even more reason to be a bit more apprehensive. One, touch is how people can get closer. You're gonna have to get comfortable being touched if you want to be close to other people. I'm still working on this too. One thing you might want to consider - maybe dancing classes. It's a safe environment that immediately puts you in a more intim…	/r/seduction	29/11/17 08:39 PM
3	How to check if you have bad breath. Bring some gum or breath mints. I keep a few sticks of gum and a few mints in my pocket when I'm out. When in doubt, pop in a mint. After eating, chew some gum. Just try to be ready for as much as you can, and this is beyond the basics of keeping proper dental hygiene already mentioned in the OP. Gonna be hard to excuse yourself at the bar to go brush your teeth. Much easier to pop in a breath mint.	/r/seduction	28/11/17 09:41 PM
1	I kill it in person but I'm completely trash at texting I'm talking to two others atm. A career high for me. But I'm not limiting myself and I need to work on getting more numbers. I had a potential opportunity but I let some silly thought get in the way since I thought she was with her mother like I was supposed to let that stop me. Things are getting better but I have to Trust the Process lol	/r/seduction	27/11/17 03:03 PM
3	What were some deeply held assumptions that proved false when things clicked for you? How little people think about your fuckups unless it was egregious. This one woman was cold to me on Tuesday and then on Sunday she introduced herself to me and was much more amicable.	/r/seduction	27/11/17 12:58 PM
3	I no longer feel like the hunter but rather the hunted. Now you gotta help other dudes lmao	/r/seduction	27/11/17 12:57 PM
1	I kill it in person but I'm completely trash at texting Same, but I feel like I'm getting better. It's just, there's actually one I'm genuinely interested in and she's on her BS or really busy. Went from Tinder to Snapchat to her phone number really quickly. She takes a long time to reply so I really don't know what to do. So I just started messaging other women, ran into one much more eager to talk to me. sigh Maybe I can learn from this.	/r/seduction	27/11/17 12:47 PM
2	Got extremely rejected last night and I feel... happy. Liberated. Confident. All this crap is just refining your method for your moment. Just keep going at it, dude. You don't even know most of the women you long for or approach anyway - and I mean that on a personal level. I'm sure you've seen plenty of shows where the guy finally got his oneitis girl, and realized she was a drag. These things should never crush you.	/r/seduction	26/11/17 01:40 PM
1	Getting stuck into my head and can't talk The signs are all around you. Life starts to change when you notice them. When your depressed it feels like no one is reaching out to you. But I'm sure you can think of people who tried, you just didn't want to listen. Time to grow, guys.	/r/seduction	23/11/17 02:17 AM
1	Getting stuck into my head and can't talk Do you listen to people when they talk to you at least? People are helping you out with conversations honestly. Part of being more outgoing is to be a better listener. Stop thinking about yourself when you're out. How about you try to learn about the world through the eyes of other people.	/r/seduction	22/11/17 06:20 PM
1	Is there someone here (men) who started from basically nothing (and "late") and now is an "expert"? When you work on yourself, the world starts encouraging you. Give it a shot. Also no one knows anything about your life for the most part. You don't need to let your insecurities and your past affect your daily interactions. They have no idea.	/r/seduction	22/11/17 04:59 PM
9	Is there someone here (men) who started from basically nothing (and "late") and now is an "expert"? I kinda was depressed and went through life for over a decade. And I was so stubborn and didn't know what to do. It's just a negative feedback loop. And if you're logical you can just keep logically proving the negativity against possible counterarguments. So it just strengthens the beliefs. Even though I was in school, working, and rather fit I still wasn't having a good time. You move the goalposts for everything that people just assume to normal. Just analyzing it makes me upset, I'm not gonn…	/r/seduction	22/11/17 03:10 AM
23	Is there someone here (men) who started from basically nothing (and "late") and now is an "expert"? raises hand I spent way too much of my life being depressed and despite that being highly functioning relatively speaking. But for about a year I really worked hard on myself and getting myself out there and things have changed. Not where I want them to be yet but it's still so much better. I can't even believe I lived like that for so long.	/r/seduction	22/11/17 12:56 AM
2	I feel like I do a lot of things I enjoy so why do I feel so boring? You have tons of potential, man. But let me ask you, how do you get people interested in your field of study? Do you go super esoteric and in-depth immediately? Or do you introduce them to a shallow taste of it and progressively move on? That's it, man. Somehow I interjected the speed of light into a bar convo when I was saying how annoying this one woman's boots were. I was explaining how distracting her boots were in my peripheral. I asked her if she knew how fast the speed of light was. She s…	/r/seduction	21/11/17 09:51 PM
1	I failed to approach a girl at the gym, how should i take this as learning experience? I've met a few women at the gym. Haven't really gotten far but I'm pretty cordial with a few I see now. Honestly one of my convo starters at the gym is commenting on a an exercise I'm not familiar doing or seeing at the gym specifically. It's kinda hard to approach people coldly at the gym since everyone is doing their own thing, but try to make a habit of trying to learn from others.	/r/seduction	21/11/17 09:33 PM
3	Does dancing improve your dating life or is it a lie? Maybe if you have anxiety when it comes to talking and being in a more intimate area with a woman...yeah it'll help that out. Strangers dancing is one of the best ways to socialize, you're essentially melding minds by trying to coordinate movements at the same time together and that somehow brings them closer.	/r/seduction	21/11/17 12:12 AM
1	At my wits end I've been feeling like I've plateaued at the moment as well. Which sucks because I feel like I've been on a big momentum swing recently. I find myself talking about my interactions with women a lot with my friends and one salient line I heard in response is that "You really need a win. You're meeting all these women and none of it goes anywhere." And honestly, it's on me. I somehow present a confident person but there are still things that are bothering me that are stopping me from opening up pr…	/r/seduction	18/11/17 12:27 AM
1	Being a virgin is ruining my life- is there even a point? I mean I wish I was where you were at 21. You always have a chance to be more sociable. Maybe stop being a little wuss with the mindset though. Doctors should be more confident. Stop saying things that perpetuate your weakness in general. Try changing your negative thoughts into positive ones. It feels like it's so urgent but it really isn't. You're young af and you're gonna be a doctor. Look at your peers, you have the potential to be like them if you really want to. The virgin issue is a hard …	/r/seduction	15/11/17 12:14 AM
1	Keep bouncing between feeling attractive and like a nobody I guess I need to work on the "hooking", because lately it just feels like everyone is neutral or non-receptive towards me for the most part. I found myself thinking "You know, I work out a lot, dress well, feel good...why isn't this easier?" Obviously I have more to work on then.	/r/seduction	01/11/17 12:56 AM
1	Ya know, hearing women talk about guys makes it really hard for me to try You get laid on Tinder meanwhile I can't even get a date yet. Relax, dude. A lot of the politics in HS never really leaves in life, the pool just gets bigger and bigger. And you can't go around "knowing" you're unattractive. I'm surprised you get laid in general with that mindset. If you think you need muscles or to look better, look into working out more or working on fashion. You're telling me chicks don't like artists? You're fine, dude. Not everyone is getting laid all the time. Don't compar…	/r/seduction	01/11/17 12:48 AM
2	To self-proclaimed losers and low self-esteem posters everywhere... Exactly. You create your reality. What you repeat to yourself over and over can easily become your reality. If you have low self-esteem, start paying attention to how often you think or say negative things about yourself, take note of it and try to change it to a positive. And if that's too hard, every time you walk through a door - say something positive or something you like about yourself (shout out to Michael Phelps). Even if it's the same thing over again. But honestly, make an effort to be…	/r/seduction	30/10/17 02:12 AM