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NAH, SISRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:14 PM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:34 PM
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LEVEL UPRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:36 PM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:54 PM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:00 PM
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QUEEN SH*TRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:53 PM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:07 PM
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DISCUSSIONRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:08 PM
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LEVEL UPRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:52 PM
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LIES MEN TELLRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:48 PM
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LEVEL UPRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:44 PM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:51 PM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 04:32 PM
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SEEKING ADVICERyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:22 PM
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#JustHVMThingsRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:18 PM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:04 AM
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Ryan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:49 AM
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SEEKING ADVICERyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 06:48 PM
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SEEKING ADVICERyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:12 PM
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SEEKING ADVICERyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:53 PM
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SEEKING ADVICERyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 01:10 PM
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DISCUSSIONRyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:07 AM
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SEEKING ADVICERyan89-/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 07:00 PM
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A vanity , a garmin watch, hotel style pillows , chocolate, a wedding band
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/25 03:20 PM
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Yes. My current boyfriend ( also a recovering alcoholic) is so good to me , patient kind and he makes me want to be better for him- to heal from my past relationship trauma - so it doesn’t affect him or our relationship. He makes me a better person because of what he has overcome his dedication to sobriety how far he has come and all he does for me. He is making me see it’s okay to trust again and be vulnerable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 01:43 PM
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Thank you for what you wrote. You recently have been going through it so I know you felt exactly how I feel now. It’s heartbreaking to me the home I made and our dog.. that I think hurts the most that freedom my own space… if you ever need to talk message me. I’m here! I’m so encouraged to hear you’re doing better and the strength it took. You’re right we are always blamed.. that’s been my life the past year it’s crazy how subtle it started I reflect like wow how did I / our relationship get to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:31 PM
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Wow this is amazing and sound advice. Came at a perfect time for me. Thank you OP for posting and thank your mom too she sounds so amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:22 PM
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Needed to hear this! I have been having this internal conflict just turned 32 not married no kids and now back to square one literally. Hearing you say that it’s still very young and I do have time— I needed to hear this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:18 PM
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You mention that… so been following the gabby case very closely her story is the main reason that catapulted me in making this decision. Unfortunately you’re right. I’m am doing the right thing♥️ thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:17 PM
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Right that’s a good reminder, think I needed the validation been manipulated for all this time it’s easy to feel it’s me. I do need to remember this is projection , isn’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:16 PM
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Thank you so much for your experience I’m feeling less alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:15 PM
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Thank you so much for this, and for the book recommendation, going to look into purchasing now. Definitely feel this will be a needed read for me. Tearing up reading your comment, it’s like I’m talking to a friend. Thank you , thank you for your kind words and encouragement. ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:36 PM
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Thank you SO much! Will continue to read these comments - already feeling more confident that it’s the right decision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:34 PM
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Thank you so much for the encouragement ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:34 PM
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Thank you thank you so much for your response. I’m having fear that things he said were right - I’ll be alone I’m a failure etc etc. hearing this gives me hope that despite what I feel now there is another side that’s more happy and there is hope. It’s funny isn’t it how your ex ended up. I laugh because my ex fiancé who is married now recently reached out .. they don’t change. I’m glad and encouraged to hear how well you are doing ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:30 PM
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Thank you! I’ll look into it because that could be it! Ugh yes definitely want to pursue the guy at the gym but it’s difficult when the gym is usually the place to not talk to girls. Been smiling and we have talked a couple of times but nothing so that’s where I struggle If he was into me I figured he would ask for my number. But that’s a good insight comparing of behaviors thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:16 PM
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When I saw that.. I downvoted and felt sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:55 PM
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Thank you! I understand that! Been seeing him for almost three months not exclusively on my part because I was seeing others( who turned out to be low value ) . He wants to be exclusive but can’t bring myself to do so.. if you see my history made that mistake too soon last time.. I like it how it is. Thank you! Hope I do too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:37 PM
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Bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:20 PM
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Was going to say the same 😂😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:19 PM
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Dump him - like yesterday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:26 AM
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This is such great insight! I’m not OP but needed to read your response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:12 AM
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Always a classic 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:03 PM
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Maybe I’m too old fashion so please don’t think I’m trying to bring you down but I would put myself in the position for him to kiss me. I personally feel men make and should make the first move - including kissing. I would just be very flirty and touchy smile eye contact. Movies are a place that although public - close that may make him feel more comfortable to kiss you. I personally would not go to his house . Let it happen organically , you’ll get your kiss :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:53 PM
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Hope you feel better 💕 this made me smile! That is how it’s done, you deserve that. I’m happy for you that you have a husband that cares for you like this. Also reminds me that high value men do exist 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:12 PM
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This is concerning to me because the guy I’m seeing currently used to be overweight... so far no red flags but this is something for me to watch out for 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:04 AM
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This!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 02:42 AM
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No I get it , been there with my ex fiancé we learn, we grow from it , we do better 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:05 AM
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Haha I like you 🙌🏽 good to know there is support!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:57 PM
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Yes that was me. Thank you! I just did not feel safe to explain further with that response. Although I feel that it was needed especially when it comes to trauma responses and appropriate ways to support those in relation to your post , I appreciate you though and also admire you for not bowing down... like I did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:15 PM
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Are you a mod!? I’m sorry not hip yet to how to go about that lol wish I would have known to alert you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:13 PM
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This person also commented on my comment from your previous post... saying something so hurtful that made me delete my comment because I was not about to explain myself. Should have known this was a troll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:18 PM
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My ex fiancé did this too! Cheated on me months before our wedding ... for a long time I would go back and the cycle continued .. never thought I would but became more detached and saw him for what he truly is. He now has a girlfriend!! and hits me up constantly about missing our sex etc with this sub finally decided to block him so glad I did. That would have been my life cheaters NEVER change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:11 AM
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Yea wtf is this about ... this is my life , I want a relationship but this is not worth it. This has happened to me too often
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:06 PM
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See this!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:23 PM
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Omg seriously! 😩😂 need to find that! Makes so much sense! Including all the partying and beer drinking I’m sure too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:58 PM
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Not just overweight but those who are insecure- men feed off that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:07 PM
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Hahaa right same! Not how I want my first date to go ... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:16 PM
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I dont think it was something to prove ? I mean maybe so but the way he handled it seems to appear otherwise. The optimist in me thinks that simply he wanted to impress me with something different and fun. Although yes definitely would not have enjoyed it🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:59 PM
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That’s a really good idea! I’m not the adventurous type thought more of a traveling type I’d say lol but activities regardless 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:55 PM
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Thank you! Me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:44 PM
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Did not know that about bumble! Thank you so much for your helpful feedback :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:02 PM
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Appreciate your feedback! Unfortunately if you have read this sub often you see this is not the norm anymore which is disgusting and disappointing. It’s good you expect this nothing less should be that way but again for myself and many others on here we are constantly weeding through the endless sea of low life’s so when I had a positive interaction thought I would share. Definitely will be keeping my guard up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 05:01 PM
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Wow fuck that. That’s so terrible and makes me so sad... you can tell how excited she was to share such an accomplishment and he completely disregarded that... fuck him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:11 PM
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Ah okay lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:05 PM
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I see your point about that , he actually txt me this morning early with the place and plans now if he wrote back way later with the place , then I wouldnt be going lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:52 PM
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What’s spag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:50 PM
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I’m sorry that happened to you... thank you❤️ I’m going to make sure to keep my guard up and not assume he’s HV just because of this. Can’t take the chance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 04:00 AM
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Right!😍 I was taken aback my that no prompt for it either I have to say I was impressed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 03:34 AM
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Thank you! Me too! Exactly initiative is so important but so is consistency so we will see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 03:31 AM
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Same! He also called me tonight and we chatted, another great sign! Thank you! Hope so too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 03:30 AM
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To be honest would not even give him the chance to lie , too many red flags here honestly he will try to manipulate and probably lie. So are you even getting the answers you need? I understand wanting closure but him being your fiancé you should not have to worry and if you fully trusted him this would not even be an issue. Like someone above said trust your gut / intuition. If having a conversation is what you need to move forward do so. Just be prepared for the response. If he makes you feel i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:57 PM
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This is good! I’m going to use this thank you !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:56 AM
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What would be an allusive response to that question besides turning it back on them ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:48 AM
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Yes please head this advice! This is how the guy I was dating got me to have sex ... he committed to me met his parents best friends and I was his girlfriend ... it didn’t work out obviously he’s LV and men will do this! They know what we want and will do and say that to get us to lower our guard. Please be careful .. it takes time to see their true intentions .. you sound like me a month ago and I fell right for it even implementing FDS my downfall was not giving it enough TIME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:00 AM
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Needed to see this as a reminder. I turned 30 in September and would have such extreme anxiety because it was over for me- not married yet- I’ll be unwanted- working on this. Ironically though I feel more confident in my looks as well as in such great shape as I was in my earlier 20s. This post is a helpful reminder. Also ironically the majority of guys who hit on me are in their younger 20s 😩🙄 and no one can believe I’m 30 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 12:41 PM
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Lol!! This literally is my ex! Exactly! Especially the part about needing the attention yet I’m “marriage material” “I know I can trust you” “you’re not like the others “ he was beyond LV and so insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 02:09 AM
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Same with me... mine just ended Saturday and agreed I’m so sad and disappointed this is why exactly why we can not invest or let our guard down because time shows the truth. Hope for us both we move forward and find HVM🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:14 PM
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Agree!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:42 PM
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I hope you’ll get more responses to this OP. I myself recently was let down and tonight is hard especially when we had plans. A lot what you wrote about your guy sounds like mine... and I’m proud of you that you were able to block and end it. He is LV by his responses and actions. I’m sorry you’re feeling like this on NYE too. Allow yourself to feel this way to remind yourself to never allow it again. You are learning and you did the right thing!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:03 AM
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This!!!!!! Fucking lowlifes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:47 AM
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And that’s my problem I fall so easy with this one I incorporated all FDS and promised myself I would keep my guard up... and even so it happened maybe that’s also why I’m so upset. Thank you for the feedback screen shotted and will read over and over when I’m feeling weak
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:34 PM
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Yes and act is the key word here. Just was dating a man like this. But he could not keep it up for long. Once he committed to me his truly LV showed.. and I’m hurting for it. Only time will tell watch the red flags please! Learn from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:55 PM
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I watched and it was really helpful and insightful thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:47 PM
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This is exactly that.... I built up this ideal in my head that validated with how amazing he treated me at first even said “you’re marriage type “ and that’s what it is.. I’m mourning that loss of stability marriage and the “what could have been” rather than facing the cold hard facts ... he was never that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:47 PM
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Appreciate your girls feedback . Common theme is low self esteem- something I have struggled with and through this sub and reflecting has helped with increasing it. Makes so much sense that low self esteem would attract LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:57 AM
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Needed to read this thank you so much for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:54 AM
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Thank you all for your feedback. It has reminded me that I quickly was reverting back to my old ways “pick meisha” and needed to see the responses to get myself in check. Did end up going it wasn’t bad! Met his best friend and wife as well. I’m going to take a step back though because I feel myself getting attached and do not want to go down that road especially if there is no commitment declared. Thank you girls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 06:55 PM
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Thank you! I plan to do that when I get over there and exactly will be meeting them sometime if this continues... thank you for your feedback!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:52 PM
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That is what I was fearing that he is wanting to force it . I have been straight forward with him about being in a committed relationship- not wasting my time. This may be his way of showing ( because I told him I need action) me that he is serious or what you said forcing it. No way to know for sure. I do like the idea of after being exclusive but the idea of a family dinner gives me more anxiety than a party! Lol think it’s maybe my internal fear of being something serious which if so... I nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:49 PM
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Thank you for your feedback. I’m thinking of having that conversation when I get to his house and like another poster said see how he reacts. Just feel like this may be an opportunity to showcase that I’m worthy and deserving to meet parents and that I’m serious about commitment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:45 PM
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And this is why I posted needed this push. Love this mindset! Thank you girl. That’s what I figured to he must be serious if he wants me to meet him and don’t want to pass up this opportunity. Thank you for your push of confidence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:44 PM
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Exactly this!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:37 PM
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Your welcome! I needed to read that and thought it was perfect for this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:37 PM
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That’s even more fucked is that you notice they always do come back around 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 12:40 AM
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Great tip thank you for that - you’re so right- especially the last part you said. Need to get more picky and selective with who I allow to surround me and not worry about being a bitch about it because in the end I’m always getting hurt fuck that I’m done doing that. Thank you for your feedback
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 03:32 PM
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I like how you think 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 03:25 PM
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A test for what though? I’m sure your right by him saying that 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 01:23 AM
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Love how you through in the no bjs either lol everything you said is actually how I am and it does come naturally my issue is when I start to like them it goes out the window ... need to sustain it rather than letting my guard down so easily ... if there is an update on this will let you know lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 10:35 PM
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You’re amazing! And exactly right I dont! And don’t want to lose my dignity or come off desperate at least that’s in tact. Will be coming back to this post every time I second guess ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 10:22 PM
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Love it! Def am going to do that thank you for putting me in check
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 10:20 PM
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Well recently prior to us hanging out it was all phone calls and face time. Yea I really like that idea of deleting it so true helps also weed out those type of dudes that’s why I was so disappointed because he came off super into me always reaching out first and saying all this future shit too. But I’m definitely not going to reach out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 10:06 PM
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Needed to hear what you said. Curious if he snaps me - Leave it open? And don’t respond? I feel Like guys to that to feel us out after they fuck up- it’s like man up and call me then which they don’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 10:02 PM
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I never even thought about that maybe because we face timed every day as well as spoke on the phone felt that instilled a connection... thank you. Pretty bummed out about this one but if he is going to act this way then fuck him oh did i mention him wanting me to send him pictures that is something else that was a turn off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 07:51 PM
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Thank you for your response , you’re so right and he has mentioned in the past he loses interest quickly in girls and couldn’t believe how much i kept his interest “been a long time since I felt this way” all bullshit obviously not yea apparently made myself way too available. Appreciate your advice definitely going to do that! Leave for vacation this week so perfect way to be busy - have a habit of doing too much too fast - we will see if he comes back around and I’ll implement this with him if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 07:18 PM
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That was my fear.. him not being into me.. sucks to have it validated but appreciate your insight - like how you don’t txt that much prior to meeting either - that’s a really good tip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 07:16 PM
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