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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	What books are you reading ATM?	DISCUSSION	S-Soda1	/r/RedPillWives	22/09/20 01:43 AM

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3	How does one stop seeking external validation? I found writing a short list of people whose opinions I genuinely care about helped. If they aren't on the list I don't dwell on what they said. I also organized it by what aspect of my life I appreciate their opinion on (ex. I don't care about x's opinion on my career but do care about their opinion on fashion, or I care about y's gardening advice and literally nothing else lol).	/r/RedPillWomen	10/03/25 05:22 PM
14	New relationship and insecure about my 'boring' personality Hi OP! One of the best ways to be a 'good' conversationalist is just knowing how to keep conversations going. That usually involves asking open ended questions (who, what, where, when, why, and how) and making comments on what the person tells you. You can often amp up conversations by amping up emotion in your responses. ex. If my spouse told me about a negative interaction with someone: I could respond 'that sucks' in a flat way which would end the conversation. OR I can ask for more details, …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/24 10:54 PM
11	Should I stay or leave him? My husband and I have this dynamic. It's taken several years and a lot of patience on both ends, but we've learned a lot from one another. So it can work if you're both willing to work on it. I used to describe myself as easy going. In reality I was lazy, and when things went wrong to the point it affected others I didn't understand what their problem was. This is a common trait in my family. Procrastinate, be late, figure things out if they go wrong and it's a funny story for later. Lots of peo…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/24 01:37 AM
3	Happy Married PRW, please brag on your husband a bit! We've been together 9 years. I adore him, he adores me. We've been too busy lately but I'm cutting back on work so we can spend more time together because we really do enjoy each other's company. Quick list of why he's amazing: -He chooses me over everyone. Family, work, whatever. He always puts me first and he's not shy to tell people to pound sand if they don't like it. -We have accomplished so much together in less than a decade. Started with nothing and are now doing very well financially. I…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/24 06:46 PM
5	Question for breadwinner women Has this affected your relationship dynamics? We're both individually happier which has improved our relationship. Has this affected your dating dynamics? I used to feel cooped up at home and he used to feel tired after work. So he didn't want to go out and I didn't want to stay home. Now it's more balanced. He also keeps up with hobbies and the news. I didn't when I was at home more (not sure why now 🤔). But my work is interesting and so we have more to talk about which is nice. Sexual dynamics…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/23 06:43 PM
5	Impending Engagement Yes, I knew beforehand. I used to work in a jewelry shop and had a specific type of ring I wanted. So at my husbands request I designed and ordered it (but had it sent to his address so I didn't see it beforehand). I knew the weekend he planned to propose but not how he planned to propose. Why be anxious? You know if you want to marry him. He's proposing so you know he wants to marry you. Since you know ahead of time you can get your nails done and dress nice over the weekend. This anxiety and s…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/22 11:38 PM
5	Guilt over past treatment Same thing happened to me! Changed behaviour and an apology is the best way to go. Be sure to forgive yourself once you've proven long term changed behaviour. We all make mistakes! He will want to move past it all as well, so don't beat yourself up over it once you've apologized. Let it go and enjoy the happy relationship you've cultivated!	/r/RedPillWomen	06/03/22 10:16 PM
14	Help me understand my own womanhood. I feel like the rug’s been pulled out from under me. Girl- you need to chill out. Maybe make a chamomile tea or go for a walk or something. You can take the parts of RPW you like and that work for you and drop what you don't like or doesn't work for you. It's ok! Breathe. Your post is long but I'll try and answer each point. You will not cease to exist or be worthless if you don't have a man. No where in RPW does it recommend that attitude. That type of desperation will either scare off men or lead you to accept trashy guys and trashy behaviour. N…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/03/22 06:58 AM
5	Stuck in a rut I read about a homeschooling Mom who implemented a quiet hour every day. For the littles this was nap time, the older children could watch some TV or read or do a quiet activity in their rooms. This gave the Mom an hour or so to herself. If the older kids disturbed her during this hour they would be given a chore lol, so they learned to leave her be. Maybe something like that would help?	/r/RedPillWomen	27/02/22 11:04 PM
2	Tea Time Congratulations! That's really exciting ☺️	/r/RedPillWives	13/02/22 06:14 PM
77	Red pill women- do you think it’s acceptable for women to ask for men’s phone number? "So. Are you going to ask for my number or am I going to have to ask for yours?" In a flirty way during a lull in the conversation. Boom. Used it on a guy I liked and now he's my husband.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/22 09:26 PM
4	Break Ups as a Dumpee RPW Sure thing. I am truly sorry this is happening to you. It's really hard but there are guys who will be willing to put you first and put in the effort. This guy just isn't one of them, and that's not your fault.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/22 09:08 PM
22	Break Ups as a Dumpee RPW If a guy says he isn't ready for commitment believe him. You're asking what we would do... I would cut him off completely. No explanation (he'll just argue it) no more contact. He is keeping you emotionally bound to him by putting in a minimum effort. Flattering texts take a moment to type and send. If you really want to keep a door open I suppose you could tell him he can contact you if he moves back to where you are at- but otherwise not to contact you. And then stick to that. No response to a…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/22 12:10 AM
12	Valentine’s day gift ideas for men! Anything helps <3 I find most men prefer experiences to gifts. This is a bit ridiculous (which was the point) but one of the most fun valentine dinners my husband and I ever had: We got dressed to the absolute nines, and picked up fast food burgers and then ice cream from the grocery store to bring home. We put a single flower in a cheap little vase on the table and lit a few candles (turned off the lights so it was just candlelight) and enjoyed our 'romantic' meal. We danced in the kitchen for a bit after and th…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/22 11:48 PM
6	What’s for dinner? I'm making pulled pork sandwiches with kale salad on the side. Something simple for a weeknight. Last week my husband and I made chicken adobo together! It was so good and a fun little at home date.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/22 01:14 AM
2	Tea Time I'd also love to see an example of the Disney princess aesthetic! How cute! Pre pregnancy he definitely loved seeing me in sundresses. He was also oddly smitten with these lacy socks that are made to be worn unseen in flats. Since getting pregnant he takes notice when I wear form-fitting clothes such as leggings and a tight maternity t-shirt, but it's more in a 'you're cute' way than in a vavavoom way. He's more cuddly/protective when he can see the bump clearly.	/r/RedPillWives	20/01/22 11:23 PM
7	Homemaking: Tips, Tricks, and Questions Best housekeeping tip that worked for me is to get started on chores while you're still up and about. As in, when you get home don't go sit down somewhere and tell yourself you'll clean later. Just go do some dishes, flip the laundry and do some tidying as soon as you get in the door. Often you'll get into the swing of things and start cleaning more. Same with getting up to put a dish away, just go do the rest of the dishes. Or if you head to the restroom, keep some cleaning supplies in there so…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/22 08:07 PM
2	Homemaking: Tips, Tricks, and Questions I do a wipe down of the surface and knobs each night. First with dish soap, a bit of baking soda and water. Then after I wipe down the knobs and handle with a Lysol wipe. It's a glass top oven. Deep cleaning the inside is usually every 3 months or so. I spray 'easy off' throughout the inside (including racks) just before bed, and wipe it out the next morning/afternoon with damp paper towels or a wet rag I wring out. I put the racks in the shower and spray them down. The first couple times I clea…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/22 07:39 PM
3	What’s for dinner? Lemon and thyme roast pork, roasted baby potatoes, corn and stuffing. Sparkling cranberry apple juice to drink. Leftover Christmas chocolates for dessert.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/01/22 06:42 AM
3	23 and never had a relationship The other suggestions to reflect on yourself and self improvement are great. But... Are you actually putting yourself out there? Do you go out to parties or group hangouts? Since you don't want to try online dating I'd suggest telling your friends you're looking to date, also tell coworkers, people at church etc. People love to play matchmaker. And actually take a chance and go on some blind dates. Perhaps go to a male dominated class (fitness or sports) or start volunteering somewhere. Enlarge …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/21 03:15 AM
12	How to look feminine with glasses? A lot of guys like the librarian look. Also, glasses don't make a woman less feminine. Since you're concerned about it though.. I find stronger eyeliner and really good dramatic black mascara or false lashes can bring the eyes behind the glasses back into focus more. More dramatic eye makeup works well behind glasses (generally). French twists and updos look great with glasses and really lean into the librarian vibe. Same with button down blouses/shirts and a more put together vibe, rather than …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/21 11:56 PM
9	Back to Basics September: Love Goggles It's true. I found a few pictures on my husband's phone of me. I was appalled, because in a bunch of them I'm sleeping and look AWFUL. Hair a mess, face smooshed. Pretty sure I'm drooling in some. Seriously unflattering pictures. I asked him why on earth he has been taking pictures of me sleeping- he said because I look 'so cute' when I'm asleep. Love goggles are for REAL lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/09/21 05:46 AM
2	Wives and SAHM's, how do you bring beauty and happiness into your homes? I buy high quality bath sheets instead of regular towels. Bath sheets are jumbo towels. I love the ones I bought from Matouk. I feel that pets bring a coziness and joy to the home, though they can be a lot of work. Not sure if that's an option as you're renting. Lots of cozy blankets everywhere. I keep some near the couch for when I'm curled up watching tv on cool nights. A whistling kettle, or pretty kitchen supplies can bring some beauty and cheer into the home. Nice serving ware is cheap to b…	/r/RedPillWives	01/04/21 03:49 PM
3	Long post ahead. Not sure if I’m insecure or second best This sounds like retroactive jealousy. You are not second best. You are THE best. That's why he wants to marry you. There is a subreddit for retroactive jealousy and quite a few online resources that may help if you google it. Therapy and working on your self esteem would likely help you a lot.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/03/21 06:06 PM
3	experienced or young wives: for those of you who married younger and were not as financially sound, what were your first years of marriage like, and what tips can you give? Married at 22. It was hard the first two years. We bought an old fixer upper in a nice neighborhood, and did the renos ourselves. We also had a tenant with disabilities move in just before the wedding. It was a great financial decision but she was challenging to live with. My husband was also working a job he loathed and we didn't own a vehicle. We were working full time, doing school part time and doing renos every spare second, while being hounded by our demanding tenant and her overbearing fa…	/r/RedPillWives	23/03/21 10:05 PM
2	Book recommendations Cultural critique: The Boy Crisis- Warren Farrell and John Gray Boys on Target- Barry MacDonald Self Improvement: Come as You Are- Emily Nagoski Don't sweat the small stuff series- Richard Carlson Shortcut through Therapy- Richard Carlson The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands- Laura Schlessinger	/r/RedPillWomen	13/03/21 02:16 AM
4	How attainable is waiting for marriage if you aren’t compatible with the men who want that? It's possible. I know a few atheist guys (4 that I know of) who wanted to wait for marriage/are waiting. But the key is they were in strict religious households growing up. 1 is ex mormon and 3 are ex Catholics. They all have super strict families and were/are concerned about family judgement unfortunately. I think it's a noble goal even outside of religion though, and smart. No risk of STI's or STD's, less hangups over exes, lower chance of being alpha widowed. It would weed out guys looking fo…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/03/21 02:00 AM
12	How to make yourself vulnerable to your SO? Or maybe OP is right and she's closed off due to how she was raised and it is damaging her relationships. Being vulnerable with your SO is an exercise in trust. When she is vulnerable she gives men the opportunity to: help her, comfort her, and prove that they can hold frame when things are difficult. These things increase trust and build the bond between couples. I would argue that support during hard times is one of the main reasons to be in a relationship. OP, I'd recommend starting with smal…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/03/21 01:40 AM
7	Being Knowledgeable & Outspoken + Feminine? Different people will bring out different aspects of your personality. Same with where you are. For example, a person may be bubbly and cheerful at home, but serious at work. Or quiet and reserved with their boss, but not afraid to have heated debates with their friends. So how you are perceived by one person in one area of life isn't necessarily who you are. It's just his perception. Maybe it's right when you're at school, but clearly you feel his description of you isn't entirely accurate. You…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/01/21 12:03 AM
11	Fashion advice: cute things for grown women A lot of retro clothes are cute without being childish. Especially 50's-60's era. Things like slip dresses with a cozy cardigan over top are super cute, comfy and grown up.	/r/RedPillWives	23/01/21 04:23 AM
8	Are older men actually attractive? Yes. They are attractive. But I'm not sure how big of an age gap you are talking about. When I was dating I found that men who were my age were incredibly immature and not attractive because of it. I always dated guys at least 4 years older and was attracted to men despite some pretty significant age gaps. The oldest that I recall would have been in his forties when I was 19. Most of the young men (18-25) I came across only talked about themselves and their problems. Ex. The dude who bragged abo…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/21 04:02 AM
3	Help with tiger-mother-in-law Is she on new meds? Or is she menopausal and the hormone shift is making her crazy? If you don't mind me asking.. what are you two actually arguing about that is getting so out of hand? This may be a case of no talking about politics, religion, or w/e to keep the peace. There is a definite possibility she knows a proposal is coming soon and is going full nightmare MIL to try and keep her place as 'The Matriarch', but that is such odd behaviour it makes me wonder if something medical is going on.…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/01/21 12:05 AM
23	How to increase value? Merry Christmas to you too! Kindness and good manners increases value. Also having a cheerful disposition. Most people are openly grumpy/complain all the time and it's a breath of fresh air when someone's baseline attitude is cheerful and optimistic. Someone who has a book in their hand more often than their phone will be perceived as smarter and therefore higher value. Be someone who does things on the weekends (or does something fun at least once a month!). It's my philosophy that we should al…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/12/20 06:58 PM
29	Why are attractive people less confident about their looks than unattractive people? I've noticed this too and was talking to my Mother about it recently. Perhaps having other people gush over their beauty makes them more self conscious and therefore more critical of oneself? Like they have to keep up their good looks as that's what others seem to praise them for the most.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/12/20 09:13 PM
3	How do you stay on top of your groceries? I grocery shop weekly, though with covid I'm trying to shop less. For me what I buy depends on my upcoming week. When I have time off of school I like to try new recipes. So groceries cost more when I'm not busy with school or work. It's my main hobby and everyone in the house gets to enjoy what I make so I make no apologies for it lol. On weeks when I have school I buy my regular groceries. Less than $100 a week for three people, as I have all of the staples already in bulk. If something shelf …	/r/RedPillWives	11/12/20 12:04 AM
6	I'm beginning to question my red pill identity I agree that travel can wait until you have a serious relationship with someone. I did some traveling before dating, but found my husband while taking a break from it. I wouldn't have met him if I'd taken off again. I've now travelled farther and for longer with him than I ever did on my own. It's great! I also agree that letting it be known to your family and friends that you are looking for something serious is a good method. People love to play matchmaker. I also agree about being upfront wit…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/20 06:08 PM
15	How to deal with scaring men off So basically you get scared of being alone and then you become super clingy and scare the guy away. It's likely an anxious attachment type. There's lots of resources on that online. You could try channeling that energy to your friends and family. When you can feel yourself getting clingy and weird, call up one of your friends and ask them to hang out. When you get scared you're going to be forever alone and want to text your guy 20 times in a row call your Granny instead. Maybe put on a distract…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/20 01:48 AM
9	I feel like an inferior woman because of my boyfriends friend You could request that he give you a heads up if his friend is going to be cooking for him that night as it is a waste of your time, money, and food to be making him meals that he isn't eating. If he says he doesn't know when he'll be receiving meals then it's his responsibility to figure that out lol. It's his friend, so it's his responsibility to communicate with him. If he won't talk to him/his friend won't give ya'll a heads up, a possible compromise is that meals dropped off without warning…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/20 12:23 AM
6	We need to talk about what to do when things go wrong During these emergency situations it'll depend on what she has available and the specific situation. For insurance and prevention however: Try and live near social supports such as family and friends who will provide more than just emotional support in times of emergency. It would be best if there are supports who can provide temporary financial support, child care etc. as necessary. Maintain these relationships religiously and help the other party whenever possible. Have an education and/or kee…	/r/RedPillWives	15/11/20 03:39 AM
4	Becoming a more approachable/feminine woman My intro sentence wasn't very good and may come across as saying you aren't friendly or gentle. What I mean is that I don't think it's possible to come across as friendly, gentle and also intimidating, so that was what I focused my response on. I also think a good reputation can be extremely helpful. If others spread the word that you are kind then it can do the talking for you, regardless of how you dress or move. So I also suggested a lot of focusing on others. Best of luck with everything!	/r/RedPillWomen	15/11/20 02:07 AM
24	Becoming a more approachable/feminine woman I'm not sure what the issue could be.. But here are some general ways to come across as friendlier or more gentle: No power poses such as a wide foot stance, or hands on hips. When seated keep knees closer together, and perhaps cross your feet at the ankles. Walk towards people in a slight curve. I've noticed especially with women who have been in sports that they walk straight at whoever they are aiming for lol. I get that the fastest way from a to b is a straight line. But it's less intimidati…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/11/20 02:00 AM
–	What's for dinner? Two days ago I made spaghetti squash boats. That was a first and it was delicious ☺️. Earlier in the week I made oatmeal chocolate chip cookies. I ran out of milk chocolate chips and added dark chocolate chunks. I wish I'd just used one or the other. But my husband still liked them. Yesterday was leftovers from the week. Today I'd like to make bread buns and beef barley soup if I have time. If not it'll be ginger beef from M&M market, rice and veggies. We both have midterms this week so I bought…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/10/20 07:36 PM
2	What books are you reading ATM? Yes! Educated really is amazing! My husband read it and he enjoyed it too, and bought a copy for his sister. Tara Westover has done some great interviews as well- there are a few on YouTube. In one of them she even sings part of a hymn she remembers. I think she's a fascinating person. I have read a a few short stories by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie in an English Writing Anthology textbook. It is the only time I've read stories written in second-person and I thought they were amazing. I will defini…	/r/RedPillWives	23/09/20 11:51 PM
2	What books are you reading ATM? That's great you can vouch for the book Rebecca- I'd actually never heard of it before I seen the trailer for the movie. I haven't seen Armie Hammer in many films, but I do adore Lily James. I am in the northern hemisphere (Canada!) and I really enjoy the fall. It's perfect reading weather- curl up with a book, hot chocolate and light a nice scented candle. I'm just missing a fireplace! That's fantastic you have several books on the go! I've fallen out of the habit of regular reading the past …	/r/RedPillWives	23/09/20 11:37 PM
2	Help! Career-Relationship Cross Roads I've written a lot here but hopefully it helps a bit: I'm currently in my second year of a nursing program in Canada. I would highly recommend nursing to anyone who wants to have a lot of control over their working hours, such as SAHM's. Nurses can pick up 'casual' positions on multiple units/locations- meaning when someone calls in sick/goes on vacation they send out a mass text message to all of their casual workers. If you are available and want the shift you can text back saying you will pic…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/20 10:13 PM
3	Date night ideas for when you can't/don't want to go out! That is super cute 💕	/r/RedPillWives	20/09/20 08:36 PM
4	Date night ideas for when you can't/don't want to go out! At home: we've had lots of date nights on the patio this summer. My husband cooks on the grill and I assemble the salad while we have drinks and chat. I've really enjoyed that. We've also played pool at home. Or snuggled in bed and read to each other. We've also done some scrapbooking together in the past. Outside the home: We did a sunset photoshoot by the river with my brother and his girlfriend. We all dressed up and took turns taking pictures and hyping up the other couple. It was so fun and…	/r/RedPillWives	20/09/20 05:00 AM
5	Intro thread! Hi! I'm a 26yo nursing student. I've been married for just over 3 years. I enjoy reading, exercising, hiking and caring for my two dogs.	/r/RedPillWives	19/09/20 02:03 PM
1	What extent would you go to improve your looks smv? I know many people who have had work done (dental/nose jobs/Botox/fillers) and I would say it did bring up their SMV. With permanent one-off changes (ex. Rhinoplasty) I don't think it affects MMV. But if it's constant upkeep and expenses, and/or it is accompanied by perfectionism/self worth issues then I think it would bring down MMV. My friend had a nose job done to fix her sinus issues but she loved the cosmetic change too. My mother has had Botox and micro blading done. It looks natural on he…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/20 10:31 PM
2	I’m looking to upgrade our bath towels to something super nice, luxurious and fluffy. What brands do y’all suggest? I figured if anybody, you domestic goddesses would know the answer! I like Matouk bath sheets. Bath sheets are just jumbo towels- I'll never go back to the regular size ones. They were expensive but I've been using them for four years and they are still soft and fluffy (I wash them with vinegar and hot water rather than regular detergent).	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/20 09:51 PM