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Ah yes I do enjoy the state dissociatives get me in. Psychedelics can be enjoyable too but are more likely to go awry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 05:49 PM
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I'm glad people like you exist. I remember I first learned about dating with no interest in making it last at about the age of 15 and it made no sense to me...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:56 PM
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Haven't been a spiritual person in like a decade... in spite of the drug use.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:36 PM
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Depends on the procedure. I think the main one that would bother me is lip filler. I wouldn't mind fake tits as long as it isn't overdone for their body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:07 AM
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Nope I live in Ohio.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 07:10 PM
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Hatman is DPH and yes fuck that suit. DXM is the best drug I've ever had but can only be used safely like once a month and tends to cause nausea. I buy ketamine from a trusted friend for about $80 a gram. I overdid it over the winter so I'm taking a break. Memantine is a long acting dissociative at about 70mg+, I buy it online along with gabapentin.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 06:32 PM
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Interesting question. In a way yes, I don't find myself making the sort of horny brain decisions I'd make when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:21 PM
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DXM, ketamine and memantine. I think I used memantine the most. I tripped on it once a week for a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:20 PM
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I pretty much killed my libido through the years by doing dissociatives. It's been a great thing. I'm not even that unattractive either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:03 AM
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Hmm I don't think that's very effective in preventing emotional damage though. Just cause you can't identify why you're hurting so much, after slogging through a wave of rejections doesn't mean it isn't painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:13 PM
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Emotional? What makes men's dating life emotionally safe?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 04:53 PM
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I live in a nice place, I just grew up in a less than nice place. I touch plenty of grass, this was just my analysis of the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:50 PM
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SSRIs are libido nukes then with men you've got issues with blood flow as well as things like finasterides. Then with all the microplastics, we're seeing some serious endocrine disruption. Too complex to generalize imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:19 PM
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Don't know about that. There's always something with how a guy "carries himself" the serial killer guy likely has more of a confident way of doing so. I'd say it's more like 50/50 if they're equally attractive. Anyhow I haven't even done heroin, but heroin is probs better than donuts if it wasn't for fetty.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:06 PM
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Most of them have wanted more. I've had one that wanted less.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:51 PM
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The difference is these dudes don't complain nearly enough about their choices
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:30 PM
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Not unless they want to and if they're consistently getting with dysfunctional women they probably never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:18 PM
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If a person is rude and abusive then yeah they absolutely shouldn't have partner unless they correct that behavior. Although a lot of rude and abusive men do get in relationships. Which circles back to the whole choosing bad men thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:10 PM
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What behaviors are they exhibiting that are keeping them single? Unless it's super bad I don't think anyone should have to change who they are (internally) to have a better shot at finding a relationship. Better to be alone than be with someone who won't get you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:01 PM
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I've gone for a couple severe mentally ill women. One was even abusive. I guess like I've learned from it and want to get with a kindhearted, mellow woman now? Thing is I'm not flooded with options, I either stay single or take what I can get. A lot of the women guys are bitching about never seem to learn from going for bad men. They also have more options so they can choose to be with someone less problematic but that just doesn't move their dial.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:55 PM
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Best guess
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:43 AM
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How are your genes now?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 09:25 PM
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No I'd rather have the dating struggles I experience than everything else women deal with. Mostly the biological ones. Periods, pregnancy, less strength, potential back pain from tiddies. Fuck all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 09:21 PM
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Well yeah duh women didn't have as many opportunities. You don't have to write books to be an intellectual. To reiterate I don't believe the enlightenment was a male specific event, nor would a 21st century enlightenment be a female specific event.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:56 PM
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There have been plenty of female intellectuals throughout history in spite of their oppression. Plus I don't think the enlightenment is for a specific gender, it was a handful of people making big discoveries and affected society in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:44 PM
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I think it's a perception thing. Other men think he's dating down but the women he dates probably have other characteristics that make up for their "flaws" I'd rather be with someone who makes my life easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 08:32 PM
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I'm in this weird state where I'm only half-trying. I've put in a lot of effort in the past only to find myself burnt out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:05 PM
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Even if you did. It's still a social studies question.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:45 PM
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It really depends on the rest of their characteristics. Their facial structure is gonna matter more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:31 PM
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It's less of a factor than people make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:59 PM
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Some dysfunctional women do like me? Every partner I've ever had is dysfunctional. BPD, bipolar disorder, autism, schizophrenia etc. I actively avoid having a partner at this point cause it's obvious it can only end in tragedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:19 AM
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I certainly do tbh. I don't know if I'm a moron exactly, I've got a master's in chemistry and 2 good jobs. My last couple girlfriends were quite mentally ill. I'm fairly mentally ill myself so I like to have someone that can understand me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:14 AM
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I've seen a lot of morons and manchildren that are married or sleep around a lot. Idiocracy really is a documentary.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:08 AM
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It was stated in my other but just that being aloof is bad cause being "too available" or coming on too strong is often much worse. One can go too far the other way and seem too disinterested. Also the multidating thing cause most men and women do it. I might go as far to say women do it more since they've got more people interested in them and can date around. Like I don't multidate cause it doesn't feel right to me but even if I wanted to, I don't think I could. The negging and trying to dig u…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:26 PM
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God yeah I hate the term baddie
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:33 PM
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I don't know about this one. One can probably be too flakey but I've only seen being too available turn out as detrimental. I personally don't like how much multidating is normalized but both genders engage in it. Hell I'd say women do it more cause there's more guys available to date. I agree with this one. I'm not sure if negging ever worked but even if it did, women are wise to it now and don't fall for it. Also agree with this one. It can't really improve your relationship at all. It just re…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:32 PM
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In my experience husband material doesn't overlap with boyfriend material. It's used a soft rejection for the most part. Wifey material on the other hand is saying that they're someone you'd want to he in a longterm relationship with so it is also girlfriend material.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:49 PM
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I have firsthand experience with autism lol It certainly creates gaps in social skills but I found MDMA helped remedy most of the deficits.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:13 PM
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Yeah skill issues are just autism
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 05:53 PM
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This was very enlightening and like everything surrounding dating apps, demoralizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:18 AM
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I'm not opposed to her clubbing but I'd definitely prefer to come with. I wanna party too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 06:09 PM
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I've had a couple financially draining girlfriends and well they usually do some kind of guilt trip manipulation
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:31 PM
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Is having it together even actually attractive? The opposite plays out so often.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 04:04 PM
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I'd take the love without the sex. Why forsake both of them to be alone? This is still a net positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:41 PM
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I really don't. The appeal of hetero relationships plummeted for women once they became independent. I don't think it's right for a relationship to be based on financial dependence like that. It's not genuine at all and makes both parties miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 04:07 PM
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I mean what am I supposed to do... throw in some free stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:57 PM
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I don't even understand how that can realistically be threatened anyway. Barring reproductive disorders or not feeling financially ready can't women just have kids... whenever?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:18 AM
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Tell me something I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:25 AM
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Oh I forgot to put that down lol Hmm that I'm eccentric, like alt music, kind of tortured but silly and open minded.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:48 AM
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Huh interestingly enough I heard an interview on the radio today about clothing being such a big outlet for expression. Anyway I like to dress in colorful jeans or black/grey dickies. I mostly wear band shirts, tiedye and dress shirts. I wear combat boots, chucks or skate shoes. I occasionally paint my nails black. Glasses with a floral pattern. I either shave my head or dye my hair (unfortunately I'm balding).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:35 AM
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I still want to but for romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 12:54 AM
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There would probably be less of them
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 08:05 PM
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My libido has been nuked by an SNRI. It's an okay trade off cause I get absolutely insane if I'm off them and destroy my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 06:36 PM
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It might have been where I lived. My high school had a lot of assholes. There's even a documentary about its problems 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 06:34 PM
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Its pretty sociological imo. I had it drilled in my head as a teenager that if you get no girls then you must be a loser. Once I unburdened myself of that belief, I don't really have as much desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:54 PM
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I'm way ahead of you man. Seeking out companionship has brought me too much pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:00 PM
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I did this and it felt like some fucked up game to me. I didn't enjoy much of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:39 AM
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Testosterone is a helluva drug
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 01:27 PM
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Yeah pretty spot on. I remember a picture of a stick figure crossing the street away from another stick figure captioned "Racism just in case." Now replace racism with sexism.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 02:22 AM
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I find that unlikely. It seems instinctual and with a complete lack of awareness (not all women obvs),. Maybe I'm just a pessimist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 01:49 AM
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I had a shift in my mid-20s where I got more confident and started acting like that. Never had so much positive attention in my life. Deep down I'm a hopeless romantic, which does make me act "safe and predictable." I'd rather continue on that path of failure than be someone I'm not again. Men changing themselves to become worse people just to have sex is so lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 01:33 AM
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Yeah its just another term for unrequited love. It'd be great if everyone could be friends after someone rejects another's romantic interest but it can be painful for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:02 PM
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I can think of countless people who have done little to no personal development and are still happily coupled up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:50 PM
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Those 8C's sound wonderful for personal development but I'm almost certain many people who pair up don't exhibit all or even most of those. I'm gonna go ahead and say 99% is absurdly overestimated. Imo it's probably 33% of single men (who want a relationship) that in their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 05:35 PM
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How often would you say it's self-inflicted? I think there's plenty of guys that struggle who aren't shooting themselves in the foot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:42 PM
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Thank you for your service. Inexperience can create a feedback loop.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:24 PM
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All I can to this is: duh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:15 PM
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My personality is definitely a factor. I'm fairly shy and apathetic. As far as looks go I've been balding for the past 15 years so that doesn't help.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:03 PM
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Naw trying to modify my behavior so much just to attract women has never sat right with me. I'm my authentic self, if they don't like that then they aren't for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:53 PM
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Oh I've seen it first-hand. Known quite a few "bitch you live like this?" Types
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:33 AM
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Yeah I hate the hoops man. I'm probably not of your gen (millenial) but once you're 30 something the struggle changes. Lots of single moms and baggage. I could go younger to chicks in their 20s but they often don't want anything serious and don't always communicate well. I'm just going to enjoy my life. Last time I asked a woman out was a month ago and she flaked. After that I didn't wanna bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:54 AM
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Yeah thats what I was joking about. I don't like being put in that box. I'm not gonna lie, I've failed to meet some of my former partner's cleanliness standards. I can cook fairly well and could provide for a whole nother person though. We all have strengths and weaknesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:49 AM
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Erotic alchemy is such a good term. I don't think it's good for birthrates but well not really my problem. If it makes it so I can have a companion when I'm older even if I fail to find one that'd be pretty nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:46 AM
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I want a romantic and alt woman. I don't see a point in seeking out women I won't really like.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:40 AM
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Yeah for some it's much easier to give up. Some people just don't feel nurtured and supported by society.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:39 AM
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The men that are successful with women are often oblivious to how much of a struggle it can be. Especially if you have autism and they don't. In my experience they always make it sound too easy. I know a guy that's had multiple attractive gf's and claims to have never been rejected (doesn't seem too farfetched). I know we have to get resilient to rejection but it can really introduce a lot of doubt and being less confident is a death knell.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:35 AM
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Buh-but I've just been informed men are lazy and incompetent. How are they going to have career and personal development?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:30 AM
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I think the way one can be judged (mostly when young) for not getting any attention from women has a lot to do with it. Guys when I was growing up were obsessed with whether or not you're fucking anybody. I hated it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:12 AM
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Same here. I also started a band. Turns out a lot of the sadness was just my brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:11 AM
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Acute angles or obtuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:08 AM
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Would robot wives fix it ethically or is that a line we shouldn't cross?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:41 AM
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Solitude>loneliness My life is rich with just the right amount of social interaction. Most any relationship or even hookup would likely make my life less enjoyable rn.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:31 AM
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I'm pretty sure most women are bi and find women more attractive but date men because dating women can be a headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 02:00 AM
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Holy shit yes. That described so much of my life, constantly having narrative shoved down my throat until I realized it's not all that important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:42 AM
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Me too. Pass the robotussin
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:28 AM
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Been through the physical pain of getting 3 chest tubes in a week and I'd take that any day
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:10 AM
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I lean that way right now but I'm convincing myself I'm just taking a break from heartbreak. Anyway I was in a multiyear abusive relationship. She'd beat on me when angry, call me retarded, didn't work and delegated most of the housework to me. I tried to off myself from all the stress. Once she tried cutting me off from my family that was it, I ran away and lived with a friend. I've tried with a couple women I really liked since then and it didn't go all that well. Not sure if I'll ever feel me…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:27 PM
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I don't know what to do as one of the genuine guys. I don't even really get matches
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:12 AM
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I'm 30. Pretty terrible for the most part, my teenage years were mostly rejection with one relationship. My 20s I had two relationships but the longer of the two was an abusive nightmare. I've been close to establishing other relationships but something usually goes wrong. My goal is to find a stable, loving partner but it feels like out of reach
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 11:15 PM
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I think the 2000s were where I'd wanna be. Still had the internet but women just seemed nicer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 11:04 PM
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A man is whatever the fuck he wants to be
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 10:04 PM
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I'd rather be given a chance. If I asked someone out, spending some time with them is time well spent even if it doesn't work out plus rejection sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 01:47 AM
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I'm likely one of these men. I might be working my way to having a cute overseas gf but one of my female friends knows some artsy chicks that I wouldn't her helping me out with securing a date with. I'm at a stage in my life where my finances/career need some attention so I'm not giving it my all just yet. If I die without ever finding a partner again, well that's just how it goes sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 02:30 AM
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Baffled too. Friends are a dime a dozen
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 01:57 AM
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I don't think we have the luxury of being that picky (they don't either but they can still be pickier
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 04:30 AM
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I can't help but question whether or not they do because of the number of single mothers. Sometimes the guy is still a good dad but the relationship didn't work out but fairly often the dude is a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 04:28 AM
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What's attractive seems more ambiguous and varies a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 06:56 PM
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No pill. I'm 30 and grew up in a conservative, religious yet hands off household. My parents are together but that's not the case with some of my closest friends. I'd say it had me set up for failure at dating when I was young as I was at the height of both naiveté and moral fiber (plus I'm autistic). I think by the time I've had this shit even kind of figured out I'm too emotionally damaged and mentally unwell. I go to therapy but my bleak outlook is harder and harder to challenge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 04:19 AM
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I'm agreeable and open but neurotic, not conscientious and introverted so I think I'm likely forever single although most people like me (in a friendly way) l
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 04:13 AM
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Think I've been at my most alt in my late 20s/ early 30s just because my job doesn't have a dress code.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 11:52 AM
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I've definitely done it. Were all one stupid statement away from being hated, its an incredibly fine line.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:36 PM
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If I had to choose I'd pick woman 2 because woman 1 and I would have a serious libido differential and it'd be a struggle to have a conversation with her. Woman 2 isn't my type either though as she might be domineering and I steer clear of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:34 PM
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I think its cause MGTOW is perceived as defeatist and sad while WGTOW is strong and independent. They'll likely still get asked out but the guy must be defective since he stopped trying to date. No one likes being seen as a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 03:49 AM
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Good ol fashioned peer pressure. Wish I could tell my younger self he ain't missing much
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 03:12 AM
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I'm a sucker for nerdy girls especially if they're shy and awkward
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:57 AM
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The girls at the cos school next to my old work were pretty good and they had supervision of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:36 AM
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Yeah they aren't for everyone. I can't say I've ever been into many hip hop chicks. There's a difference in dialect
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:35 AM
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I like that take cause it can just be a tad domineering if you're drastically trying to alter their style. Like how'd they even start dating you if you hate how they're dressed that much? Spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:33 AM
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Yeah I guess I was just injecting my personal experience haha I would go to one of those cosmetology schools. They'll hook you up and all that scalp massage/shampoo jazz is soooooo relaxing. The chicks there are hot too. Its all gravy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:24 AM
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The dress up game makes sense. I don't think I've been with anyone that's compatible enough with me to pick out clothes for me that I really like. I've gotten a better idea of what my type is so I think my next partner will understand my style better and pick out something perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:13 AM
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I respect your view on it but that's not for me. I like handling my own clothes decisions but I'm too independent minded to be in a relationship when it comes to all sorts of things so there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:10 AM
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Yeah I have to look nice once in a great while if I gotta look good for a client somewhere but working with chemicals you want your clothes to be as shitty as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:08 AM
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Hmm the big shirt thing throws me for a loop from time to time. Guys in the hip hop scene seem to be pretty successful with women and they're all about the baggy shirts. Those dudes do have great overall fashion sense pretty often though
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:05 AM
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Takes the question as literally as possible lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:04 AM
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I actually did do that once! I got a contour and it did go pretty well with my style at the time. I think I'm gonna stick with my mohawk till I have to look professional again them shave my head
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:03 AM
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Sucks but jobs is jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:01 AM
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Yeah this is a big thing. I'm 30 and live in a hippie college town so I fit in here pretty well but if I go anywhere else around here the more macho types question my sexuality. Don't care though
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 03:19 AM
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Seems like a thing with the more recent generations in general. Its bastardized my subculture to an extent but eh I don't like gatekeeping
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 03:15 AM
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Gotta keep it on life support! Give me an underground show, some beers and a pit any Saturday night
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 03:14 AM
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Any work I do where I could get hurt requires a lab coat and whatnot
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:56 AM
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May have been a tad hyperbolic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:55 AM
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I agree entirely. I've never liked the idea of looking or acting boring. Punk rock 🤘
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:54 AM
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Oh yeah I've eschewed that notion of trying to look good as being gay. Moisturize and accessorize
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:31 AM
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A good flannel can be nice, the one she picked out didn't clash too bad cause it was in a good color for my outfits. Maybe I'll go out and buy one soon
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:30 AM
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Oh yeah things like that make me glad I'm not in biz. Although I do like an excuse to wear a suit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:15 AM
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Huh what's a good alternative to short hair if their hair doesn't grow long? I do a mohawk now but really need to dye it again. Hoodies and T-shirts seem aight if they aren't cringe but I'm firmly against cargo shorts
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:14 AM
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Good to know. Yeah gimmicky T-shirts can be pretty tacky. I like girls that are on the alt side so I'm thinking liking a common band is a talking point at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:12 AM
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Do band shirts fall into that category? I find plain shirts really boring and music is something I'm passionate about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:35 AM
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Huh I kind of fall into that category from time to time. I have some bigger shirts (but hip-hop culture is cool so?) And I can never find a pair of pants that fit perfectly well because my waist is so small in proportion to my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:33 AM
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Like some kind of rich person party? I can't even do contacts but my eyes are okay enough that I can get by without them. Can't she just have more than one pair?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:30 AM
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Yeah I like shorts for lounging around the house but that's it. I like wearing courdoroys or casual work pants (like dickies), I used to rock button ups pretty often when I was younger but they feel kind of over the top. Shirt-wise I mostly do band T's and tie-dye, I don't find much else very appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:28 AM
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I like that rule. Hmm I prefer chicks with glasses to no glasses even if they're old lady glasses but that's just a personal preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:24 AM
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It must be a dumb running joke I got wooshed on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:05 AM
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I'm not red pilled but I can't really handle women very much below or above my intelligence. If they're too dumb, I'll get annoyed and if they're too smart I'll feel dumb all the time. Those are outliers anyway so I seldom meet anyone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 12:23 AM
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This is the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:55 AM
1

Good ol testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:20 PM
0

Are they really? I've maybe met 2
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 04:19 AM
0

100% I actually don't even believe in legal marriage. It seems to ne a religious ceremony or something you do out of love. Having government documents of it has never made any sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:11 AM
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I probably wouldn't make it passed their rigorous filtering process. I only make 52K and don't give head so I'd be consired pretty low value
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:09 AM
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The first one was what I was gonna go with. Yeah let me just sit on my ass for another decade or so and I'll be rewarded with my soulmate. Maybe if you're a woman but I'm a man. If I don't take action nothing happens
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:43 PM
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I have and its awful for my mind, body and spirit. I can't see myself experiencing it again
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:40 PM
1

Women on average are nice to me. The one's that have been evil towards me are exceptionally bad so yeah I definitely have some bias
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:09 PM
2

Yeah I'm a less than socially adept (autism) millennial but at this stage in my life I can converse with just about anybody
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:37 PM
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Huh maybe things are swinging that way. That generation of men might be feeling discouraged
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:17 PM
1

If they are I don't think they should be
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:58 AM
1

Alt girls of any of those subcultures. Their style points even overcome not having my preferred body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:54 AM
1

Sympathy and recognition. I'm kind if surprised about the topic if your post. Older gen Z women don't experience any romance? Is it because gen Z guys are so checked out/thirsty? I'm a millennial and I'd romance some chicks from X (younger), Z or my own generation. Are zoomer guys not like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:46 AM
1

There's too many thirsty boys out there. We can't collectively agree to stop succumbing to it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:41 AM
1

Being a skinny man is attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 02:58 AM
7

Shit I can't disagree. This is the best idea
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 02:58 AM
1

If enough men become lazy and unemployed will men who aren't lazy and unemployed look better by comparison? It just doesn't seem to matter
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:28 AM
1

Oh yeah they certainly do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 11:00 PM
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Think this shit oughta stop but not cause "I'm not my partners therapist" "or its not my job to teach them life skills". Were living in a world where some people are gonna spend their lives alone, relying on finding a partner to grow is inadvisable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 09:04 PM
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Exactly. These chicks are seasoned in getting harassed too so they aren't putting up with this guys shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 05:06 AM
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When I was a teenager in the mid 2000s it seemed everyone had an opportunity to have sex (I didn't cause I was religious as a teen) but nowadays shit I couldn't imagine being a teenage boy. You gotta be some soundcloud rapper or smoke an absurd amount of weed. Nothing you're doing matters more to these chicks than IG and tiktok
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:36 AM
2

I would 100% wanna give her a hug and make her feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:31 AM
4

This guys going to get an iced coffee thrown in his face I can feel it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:17 AM
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Men are required to be confident by law so maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:11 AM
1

This hurts me in my soul
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:03 AM
2

I think my the S needs to be removed from STEM. Working in a lab in my experience isn't big money unless you become management
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:24 AM
2

Good I'm not quite old fuck (30) but I've been removed from gigging for almost 5 years. I still wanna do it no matter what cause its fun but I feel like there might be less social clout from it now or negative stereotypes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:07 AM
2

Is doing music gigs still cool?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:51 AM
2

Everyone thought I was gay in middle school so I got bullied a bunch. Hit puberty in 10th grade and got rejected an absurd number of times till I found a partner at 20. Girls thought I was cute in 7th and 8th grade so I suppose you could say late blooming made me miss a window
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 10:06 PM
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I try to appeal to girls in the alternative crowd as we'll have common interests and I like their style. E-thots have complicated this immensely
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 09:44 PM
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Oh well I suppose I'll just figure it out as I go along. No sense in longing for a world that no longer exist
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:14 AM
1

Man I miss the 2000s. I was too young and dumb to get a lot of dates but it was so much easier to get a foot in the door. Everyone's hostile or transactional now
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:09 AM
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Introverted. Something about it is cute
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:15 PM
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Huh I don't know about influencer culture but that sounds tragic. I'm fine with being thin, lets me rock a specific look. I like alt girls so I just try to be an effeminate goth dude. Wish I could still grow long hair
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:36 PM
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Its hard to truly underweight. I'm very thin and my BMI is still about 20. Underweight is like 18 which would involve me wasting away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:09 PM
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No I guess I was just backing up your sentiment. Forgot this was a CMV
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 06:25 AM
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Oh I think I misunderstood. Uh I think most of those manosphere guys would get worse in a lot of ways
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 06:24 AM
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After a few years in a god awful relationship I'm substantially happier by myself. I think most chicks would crowd my space. There's plenty to keep me happy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 06:22 AM
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Nah not a best friend but I've had a few great lesbian friends. All just genuinely cool people
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 06:08 AM
1

Oh yeah music and art girls are my faves 🖤
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 06:07 AM
2

Well getting 100/500 is a 20% match rate and I think that's higher than most guys ever get. The Nazi one has a swatstika tat and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 06:06 AM
1

I have never been loved as hard as I've loved and its not even close
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:23 AM
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Nah troubled adolescents that join the military become grown men (with troubled adolescent minds) with power complexes. Seen it firsthand. It also seems a little unethical to me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:13 AM
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Disinterested. I'm just gonna rock out, be knowledgeable and have a good sense of humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:09 AM
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I hope she enjoys never fulfilling her attraction since its a man chase woman world
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:08 AM
5

Man why in the fuck does the guy chasing her reduce the attraction? That's so ass backwards
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:04 AM
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Like that Arnold quote. Dating is probably the worst "just try harder" thing out there. It depends on other peoples perception of you and that is something you cannot entirely change.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:00 AM
2

How long is real long? Left my gf of 3 years a couple years back. Nothing on earth that psycho could do to get ne back. Once I don't have feelings for someone anymore I don't ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:40 PM
1

Yeah this is how I saw it too lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:45 AM
2

Yes we learn the hard way about what's worth sticking your dick in or putting up with on a regular basis
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:25 AM
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Probably pretty common I have lots of platonic friendships with women and they with other men. Pretty easy if you chill out the hornyness and actually assess whether or not they'd even be a good partner. With one exception my female friends are only viewed as friends for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:11 AM
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Nah mindsets change with age. If I'm not simping hard for you now its because I've decided not to put myself in that position again
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:00 AM
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People would find a way around it at least in the states. No step on snek
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:41 AM
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I know a guy who went on gear a couple years ago never explicitly stated it but seems RP. Has a fancy car, expensive clothes... That his mom washes cause he lives with his parents at 31. Dunno how an "alpha male" fails at being independent. Still gets laid a lot or at least claims to 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:29 AM
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I'm an analytical chemist and this chemistry shit makes no sense
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:22 AM
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Just do steroids bro
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:16 AM
1

Something something cubone's mom something something
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:13 AM
1

14 fucking years? I'm 30 and I got a compliment like last week, not when I was 16.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:29 AM
1

I receive way more female attention when in a relationship and its annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:32 AM
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My only source is a robot chicken skit but can he also be a little dicey with consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 01:06 AM
1

With regards to your last sentence if I wasn't the man I was I'd probably off myself and I'm not even Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:26 AM
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She's cute probably would if she's not boring or annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:11 AM
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Regardless of sealing the deal this is more progress than the majority of men on tinder make and most of them aren't Nazis.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:40 PM
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All 3 are wonderful IMO but I appreciate general discord
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 12:09 PM
1

There's skinny chasers? Where though?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:20 AM
1

I don't ascribe to any pill beliefs but I like watching people argue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:09 AM
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...That mating strategy involved a lot of rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 11:45 PM
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Thank fucking god something rooted in actual biological science.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 11:44 PM
1

There needs to be an in between. Smoking weed in a car, going to a museum then smoking weed in another car.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:34 PM
1

I uh haven't met or seen a woman who requires a dude to make that much money. I make roughly 60K at 30 but live ina low cost of living area so I'm actually better off than 80K guys in some major cities
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 11:23 PM
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My party years were almost 100% sexless. I didn't have sex at 18,19, most of 20, 22, 23 and most of 24. All I did was raves, bars, shows and festivals. It happens
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:06 PM
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I'm ace and did the same thing. Didn't realize I was till I took validation out of the equation. I really just wanna be loved and appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 01:20 AM
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Yeah its a huge problem nowadays if you ask me. The use of phones makes people forget they're ignoring a human with feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 11:46 PM
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Right. I have anxiety about it due to it happening so frequently. I've been getting ghosted since before ghosting was a term. I can maintain a calm demeanor on the surface but internally freaking out, I know not to express any insecurity. I get that guys can react poorly to rejection but I'm incredibly non-threatening plus the ghosting makes me ACTUALLY ANGRY. Even when I'm pissed Instill just give em a stern talking to about how uncool it is to randomly cut me off with no explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 11:31 PM
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Yeah I was definitely like that as a teenager. I'm usually emotionally mature but I do get way bent out of shape about ghosting (not randos online obviously, chicks I know) but I think that the lack of communication on their end is disrespectful and cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 11:19 PM
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Is it acceptable if a guy is super talkative and/or verbally affectionate but respects your boundaries and doesn't get upset if you're not available 24/7 and may not match your pace. If I feel I'm hitting it off with someone we'll be juggling some topics but sometimes I have to push the convo early on or its hard to get anywhere. Does communicating with them too frequently cause them to become disinterested?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:40 PM
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Regarding "the way he seeks to portray himself." What if he has the I don't care what you think attitude? Those types wouldn't go out of their way to be portrayed as anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:32 PM
1

Love is a neurochemical con job
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:15 PM
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Every time I hear this it fucks me up. So am I above average in America on virtue of not being overweight?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 07:20 PM
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I'm just gonna enjoy myself as much as I can then check out when I'm too old. I'm still pretty young (30) but the idea of getting into a LTR just feels out of reach. If I settle for a bad partner, I'd rather just rely on family/friends to curb loneliness and enjoy the freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 07:11 PM
1

So would an asexual man like myself opt to just make himself attractive? I don't care about sex
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:06 PM
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I like to work honestly. I am making starting to make good money but I find work really fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 11:40 PM
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In the same boat. I'm 30 but people always think I'm early 20s. It definitely plays out like this
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 11:05 PM
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Get harassed by a vocal minority of men. Men are all creeps! Get cruelly rejected by a few women. Women are all bitches! So on so forth. Loss of touch with reality sets in
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 11:02 PM
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They can but I agree its more common in guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 05:58 PM
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I agree that being assertive is important but I think we condemn being agreeable too much. Lots of dudes can act stubborn and unwilling to cooperate which isn't conductive to healthy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 10:52 AM
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Hmm yeah I think we've got some soldier/warrior instincts too. We have to be able to tell if someone is confident and competent. Otherwise we can tell they're a shit leader and won't respect them. Kind of interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:10 AM
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Dating lost all structure and feelings of trust. Bound to be animosity when you don't trust each other. Many are mistreated and discontent. It's totally heart breaking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 12:59 AM
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Seen lots of false bravado and I always get annoyed especially when there's chicks around me and they can't see it at all
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 12:51 AM
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I know lots of confident losers (some sre my friends but they absolutely do not have their shit together). I do not envy them in the least. Their lives are stressful and lack freedom. Getting to stick your dick in someone regularly is not a fair trade for being a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 12:49 AM
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I dunno it made me more self conscious about any interactions with women. I genuinely don't wanna make anyone uncomfortable but you're more likely to if you feel anxious about it. 100% a catch 22
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:21 AM
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My thing when I was in my early 20s was raves. So you know drugs and music, never entailed hook ups, close but I usually wound up too zonked.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:08 AM
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That's a good point. I like going to titty bars and talking to some of the chicks for awhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 03:53 AM
1

I've never seen it so eloquently broken down
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 03:48 AM
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Dunno I barely use it anymore because its gotten so bad. Maybe other dudes like myself are tired of it so it'll decline like that. Zooms are pretty asocial though so that makes in person dating seem coming back being unlikely
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 03:28 AM
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Well I think my self esteem is fucked. I've literally never felt sexually attractive in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:18 AM
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I'm very for both of those otherwise we're setting them up for sadness and frustration.pp
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 05:23 AM
1

Can you use that UK program if you live in the states?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 05:21 AM
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I agree 100% I'm self conscious about my breath anytime I'm out. I just flossed and rinsed out my mouth a little bit ago
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:31 AM
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How the fuck do people not brush their teeth before a date? Gotta have some gum or mints on the fly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:27 AM
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That metaphor about jobs is really good. Other than that I don't think we're being indoctrinated. It's well known men are at a disadvantage with dating, it's just something people both don't care about and don't have a viable solution for.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 06:28 PM
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If I don't work with her directly or in the same department then sure but I'd have to really like her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 12:49 PM
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I'm gonna give it a shot again soon. Covid has been a real obstacle for that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 10:41 PM
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Oh I def got that covered. I mostly just consume a lot of green tea and capsaicin. Makes it surprisingly easy to keep fat off
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 09:46 PM
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This got me thinking at what point are you skinny fat? I'm thin with a very small waist circumference but I have a bit of a belly/moobs. My diet isn't 100% trash but some weeks I really slip up. My exercise is hiking/powerwalks so it fluctuates with the weather or how demanding work is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 09:36 PM
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Yeah I guess they're more innate than learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 09:02 PM
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I think it's generally good to know how to express your emotions in a healthy way. Being stoic should be reserved for very serious or dangerous situations. If you're leading people in a crisis you wouldn't want to crumble. I think everyone should have a little of both to be well rounded. Different situations require different approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:49 PM
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Eh I wouldn't say those feminine traits are incredibly easy especially regarding emotion. I've met so many people that don't have much in the way of emotional intelligence. I think at its core the big issue is how poorly we define masculine and feminine. People associate with things like style of dress or hobbies when really it should just be about those personality traits you listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:34 PM
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30M We gotta stop putting so much value on how many women we can have sex with. We're putting so much pressure on socially awkward young men that they become incels. I wouldn't invest so much of my happiness and self esteem on something that inherently depends on arbitrary opinions of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 10:44 PM
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Its what they're used to. I think dysfunctional families are more common than people think
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 02:01 AM
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That shit borders on sociopathic. She pretended to be angry with you an extended period of time all while still being interested. There's really no reason for that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 09:24 PM
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NORMIES REEEEE
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 10:32 AM
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Your point of view is admirable and refreshing. It gets scary opening up to partners, it's like they expect me to never experience or express any negative emotions. Life is going to make you upset at one point or another
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:29 AM
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Thanks yeah I'm very individualistic. My big thing is knowing when it makes more sense to follow. It's just picking your battles. I'm 2nd from the bottom of 4 people in my work environment but the 2 above me recognize I have skills/knowledge they don't. In lots of situations I perform more like the boss but I don't desire their responsibility and will generally do what they tell me if it's reasonable. Too many people wanna be up top but it's just a label like anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 05:06 PM
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That is very true as well. I don't understand either points of view. Well I guess my closest thing is I want someone who's low libido but very far from being a tradcon. Side note I have same MBTI type
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 05:01 PM
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I like that. I've been developing that over the years. I prefer following but I take initiative when I feel it's something I'm highly competent at.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 03:51 AM
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Doesn't this make it hard to find a partner? My head would explode from the logical paradox
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 02:31 AM
1

That is correct
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 10:51 AM
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I think people on this sub use biology as an explanation for everything all too often. I studied a lot of biology in school and human behavior is just much too complex for such generalizations. Evo psych has an agenda once you put it in the context of gender relations.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:05 AM
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I practice absurdism. Nothing matters so you might as well enjoy yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:00 AM
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What kind of the guy never finds a partner and/or reproduces?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 12:56 AM
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-7I'd say that's accurate. I'm a mutualist so while that is a left leaning ideology it is fairly close to the right. It preserves economic freedom
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 09:56 PM
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I'm live and let live. They can have that lifestyle if they want but I'm not game for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:56 PM
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Dude I know what you mean. I know redpillers push being masculine but I'm naturally thin. I do nail polish and eye liner. Being effeminate isn't a death sentence if you can rock it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:43 PM
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Ooh yes I certainly attract some manic pixie types as well. Hard to get it to work out in the long haul but I get the initial conversations easy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:50 PM
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It's very much not okay. Trust your partner and if you're so insecure that they must be lying to you just leave them. You clearly aren't in any state to be in a relationship or they're blatantly cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:50 PM
1

I haven't read it but from everyone's descriptions here I already learned what it teaches through the course of my life. Don't light yourself on fire to keep others warm
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:56 PM
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She sounds like an awful person and probably shouldn't have married him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:23 AM
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Hmm it's complicated as far as Asperger's goes. Once I found a niche, I could attract women. Some of us channel our autism into cool shit. For me it was punk rock and chemistry. The latter sounds like it'd be bad but not when you know drugs in and out. We aren't all squares, just a lot of overprotective mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:06 AM
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If you're not first you're last
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:54 AM
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I did about 5 years ago but were only seeing each other a few months. It took a stupid amount of work and I got kinda lucky. Nowadays it's substantially harder and I don't understand why
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 01:38 AM
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People seem to implode when raw numbers are brought up. I work in environmental chemistry so I love applied mathematics. High school algebra was traumatic for some lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:53 PM
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I think that's the first time I've heard that haha but I get the joy in meticulous jobs. They keep you sharp
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:32 AM
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Communication is the important skill and if she's not being clear with what she wants she's lacking the necessary skills. If you're inexperienced you usually just need someone who likes you enough to be patient.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 07:24 AM
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I like a woman with a career she's passionate about. Although I don't want bio children (maybe adoption later) so I'm not a trad guy. I agree with an interesting career being a huge draw but what I found funny is that I found your list of careers you'd like them to have boring lol. I'd like a teacher if she taught science or history.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 07:04 AM
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I was discussing this with a friend earlier. I find the obsession with it odd too since more often than not it's about pleasure instead of mating. People like to compare us to other animals but with the exception of some apes and dolphins other animals are just trying to procreate. Maybe our grandparents that had lots of kids out of necessity were following their innate reproduction instinct. People in modern western countries? It's recreational. It's not a need at all unless you're a sex addict…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 06:49 AM
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The fear of violence resulting in poor communication is what gets me confused. You give a guy a fake number so he won't get violent but he calls it. He gets angry but more than likely does nothing but the root cause of his anger is the dishonesty not the rejection. Most dudes get used to rejection, you have to go through it a lot to get anywhere. Yeah there's cases out there where some guy shot a woman on the spot for rejecting him or whatever. No one wants to get shot but you're probably more l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 06:27 AM
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I appreciate your use of math. Breaking it down like that was incredibly logical
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 06:17 AM
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Pessimist for sure. We can bitch about the world together and she would probably also have a dark sense of humor. Plus I love goth girls
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:27 AM
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Maybe this can fix the declining birthrate and animosity between men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:33 AM
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I'm a guy and I agree it's disrespectful. Not even just tinder on a date but being on your phone too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:24 PM
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Yeah that's why I think it's bogus. Some people point to populations of other apes that have kind of an alpha/beta structure but there's also lots of apes that don't and we fall into that category. You're right about attractiveness too. Women seem to like varying degrees of masculinity. Too much of it can be obnoxious imo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 01:46 AM
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Yeah fuck all these people running around with their horny brain. I walk around with constant post nut clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 01:03 AM
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Yeah that's fine. Never do a trip if you aren't comfortable with. Almost 100% chance of a bad time
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:44 AM
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Some people wind up bonkers. A risk worth taking
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:36 AM
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LSD helps but even that has a limit. You're better off being comfortable with who you are
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:30 AM
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I think alpha and beta is all bullshit. I'm agreeable but confident and happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:26 AM
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Positive association is a game changer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 08:33 PM
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Both are equally valid. Not everyone has the same opportunities
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 07:27 PM
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I envy this significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:54 PM
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Thanks I'm doing much better now that I understand myself. Still seeking out romantic relationships but not letting it define me or my masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 12:59 AM
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Yeah this is important but I'm ace. It took me till my late 20s to realize it even though I wasn't enjoying sex all that much. People hyped it up so much and it lead me to a lot of mental health problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 12:30 AM
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Injecting much needed rationality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 10:58 AM
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I greatly appreciate your outlook. As a man with high functioning autism dating is insanely difficult because both rejections and indications of interests are often too vague.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:54 AM
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Yeah this one is weird. Most girls I'm compatible with play games so it'd be a good conversation topic. The politician thing could be a red flag. I like when people have an educated opinion but I also wouldn't wanna deal with an extremist
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:43 AM
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I just assume the overwhelming majority of traits that are a negative towards your attractiveness are worse for men than women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:30 PM
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Yep I'm a career man but also goth so I probably appeal to her in boring and exciting ways
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:00 PM
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This is the answer. I'm talking to a qt in Japan. Not 3rd world but her effort vs Western women is night and day
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 03:54 PM
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I try my best to be good about this. Usually when I'm rejected I won't end the friendship permanently but put a pause on it to process my sadness. Afterwards we can carry on without issue. The only time I get real butthurt is if they do something subversive like acting like they feel the same then slowly ghosting. That behavior is disrespectful in itself though. I won't go around slandering them but I will be livid. As far as approaching women it's like going on a date with a stranger or whateve…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:49 PM
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I'm a minimalist so I'd prefer if my SO is similar. I wouldn't expect to be as minimalistic as I am but if all her clothes have to be some designer brand or whatever we probably aren't compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:49 PM
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I might be concerned that she gets FOMO. She could grow to regret not having a promiscuous phase and get bored
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 11:02 AM
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This is true. Chicks would flirt with me once they knew I had s girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:31 PM
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Not all women like muscular men and not all men make lifting a hobby. I'm fine with being thin, it suits me. I need to fix my hair but that's going to take awhile, I've been told my skin looks good and I suppose that's true since I'm 30 but look younger. Grooming and hygiene are pretty basic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 06:16 PM
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I live in middle America and I'm thriving. Only other place I'd thrive would be the south
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 04:27 PM
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I find this offensive
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 10:01 PM
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Pimpin ain't easy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:36 PM
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Makes me glad I actually manage my depression. I' be got a happy disposition although my sense of humor is dark
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 11:20 AM
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When people ask me if I'm gay ( I'm ace and somewhat feminine) I jokingly say "I wish. I'd get so much ass" People need to shut up. Some dudes wouldn't become radical incels if we'd stop shaming sexual inactivity. Especially since its becoming increasingly common
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 10:49 AM
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Always had insecure gf's thinking I was cheating and its like dude it was hard enough getting you to like me. I am not putting myself through that frivolously
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:25 AM
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She literally said she had used tinder before at the beginning of the video
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:13 AM
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Not to be the psychology police but antisocial personality disorder is sociopaths/psychopaths and given how manipulative they can be they'd probably be a smooth talker. Social anxiety disorder seems more likely
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 08:40 PM
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Yep it was an unhealthy relationship. She had a sense of entitlement just from being attractive. I was in a long line of guys that got sick of her shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:00 PM
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Wow I just read the synopsis. True and heartbreaking
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:45 PM
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Oh god the emotional suppression. I've cried in front of women and they never react well. I can only cry with the homies
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:53 PM
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The number of powerlifting CEO larpers on this sub alone is is obnoxious
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:22 PM
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Had thus happen. Ex thought she just had to sit and look pretty. I wound up working a lot of OT to support us and did 99% of the cooking/cleaning. She had the audacity to bitch about how I did the housework too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:12 PM
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Yes that's so well articulated although lifting can improve bone density and whatnot. I mostly just go on hikes since running is rough on your knees. If people are gonna lift it should be because that's what they're into. Everyone needs a hobby some are just considered more attractive than others. Can't let women's preferences pick out what you enjoy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:47 AM
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This is it yeah. I try to get off once or twice a week for a little stress reduction and since its good for avoiding prostate cancer. I could not sit in front of my computer and jack it all day. I wanna get it out of the way rather than indulge in it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 04:26 PM
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Username does not check out
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 04:22 PM
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I'm not so sure about the just lift bro thing not being about showing off. Most dudes I know have done it to impress chicks. I can think of one off the top of my head that does for health
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:34 PM
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Anyway. But women keep calling out men for being “low value” but nothing is more low value then having all the options and opportunities to win and losing anyway. Damn that was a roast if I've ever seen one. Destroyed em with facts and logic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 12:23 PM
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I like your fantasy scenario. You should write books
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 11:14 AM
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Isn't opting out of dating to fuck robots volcel?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:48 AM
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I'm ace so eh but if they make it a good companion AI that can cuddle I'm in if I don't find a partner by then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:30 AM
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Harpy lady though 💜
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 09:48 AM
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This is why I'm in group A. Applying for a job, house or college is such a different process. "I saw your resume and would like to meet you for an interv... I mean date" Not to mention since women seldom ask out men they'd just have job offers/houses/college programs thrown at them constantly. Most people I know work somewhere because they applied for the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:27 AM
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Adult swim understood everything
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 07:00 PM
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Lol no I was referring to those dating services where you do a brief intro on a video tape then people watch it and decide if they like you. It always looked super awkward but I guess that comes with people that used dating services in the 90s
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 06:05 PM
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We need to go back to cringe VHS tapes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 05:54 PM
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I'm calling corona the panini from now on
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:52 PM
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I personally like women on the crazy side but it did take me awhile to figure out the threshold
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 02:46 AM
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Well its great to see the science behind the constant feeling of emptiness and lingering anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 05:10 PM
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Nah this assumes a trait that gets you sex is an above average penis. Someone could be a Chad and once he gets a woman in bed she discovers its 4 inches. There's definitely virgins with big dongs out there. We can't just whip it out, the woman has to like you first.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:03 PM
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I've grown more content with it after dealing with abuse. A partner would be nice but I do enjoy having my space and don't ever wanna get stuck with someone who mistreats me just because I don't wanna be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:26 AM
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No she did look through my phone while I was sleeping and woke me up to argue
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 10:01 PM
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Can't remember all of them but for example: Friend Sarah calls me I text her: Hey dude I'm at work I'll call you back later. WHO THE FUCK IS SARAH!? My friend Commence arguing for 2 hours because apparently having female friends isn't acceptable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:55 PM
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I don't really have a firm grasp on female attraction to men so I guess I'd be a lesbian. Uhh I'll meet her at Lowe's or something
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:20 AM
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6 15 14 20 15 Not really. I could have had sex with my high school gf but I didn't believe in sex before marriage when I was younger. I did have a hard time finding another relationship but that didn't have to do with the other questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:15 AM
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I don't really want the only guys mating to have had to kill somebody. We've had enough wars
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:30 PM
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I think it could come off as kind of dark and tormented. Probably attractive in some circles especially if they're an artist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:20 PM
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I've met men who have drastically changed their life in the interest of getting laid. I have no respect for that kind of thinking. Being true to your identity is important
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:33 PM
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As someone who discovered their gray ace in my late 20s I think conditioning is a thing. Looking back at how hyped it was when I was in high school to how underwhelming the reality was. I felt compelled to find a lot of sexual partners in my mid 20s because that's what men do. I'm glad being asexual is more acceptable now because people act like you're a freak if you're not insane over pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:30 PM
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I don't know I've been rejected a lot but don't have poor body image. I'm perfectly fine with being thin and I don't let myself get fat. My rejections often came down to poor timing and autism. It's often nothing personal and it's important to learn that at a young age.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:37 PM
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This. Can confirm guys are attracted me more than women at like a 100:1 ratio
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:36 PM
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Yeah and there's definitely cases where this happens but I just don't think its good for boundaries. If someone's cheating there's something wrong with the relationship to begin with. I'd girds it makes trusting new partners hard but that's something you have to learn to cope with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:59 PM
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I'm firmly against it. I never cheated on anyone but both girls that looked through my phone found something to fight about no matter how trivial. So then when they would ask again I would decline starting a different argument. No good comes from that level of suspicion and insecurity
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:48 PM
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Luckily not. Ran away from her a couple years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:28 AM
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A vocal minority of men that all of us seem like a potential threat
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:27 AM
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I wish there was an goth club by me :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:10 PM
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Big time. My ex caught a dv charge cause she kept beating on me for not leaving my own apartment. Afterwards she kept blaming me for it even though I was trying to talk her down. She kept saying I could've left but I wasn't going to let her coerce me. I got lucky the cops heard her say "who do you thin I they'll believe?" Through the wall basically admitting it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 10:08 PM
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I'm not a feminist because of all the misandry. I am egalatarian though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:47 PM
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I kind of hate other men generally but have a lot of male friends. I just don't like how often men are predatory cause it lumps me in by association. I don't like accidentally creeping women out for something innocuous because some men are rapey.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:58 PM
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Yeah me and my buds are always there for each other but unless one of us mentions whats irking us it goes undetected and we carry on with whatever were doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:54 PM
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Is the type of woman you're trying to attract important too? I like festival and goth/emo girls so *I don't wear blue jeans. Generally black or Grey nice pants. I do have trouble finding jeans that fit well around the waist. My legs are long but my waist is around 28. *Tiedye or band shirts depending on the setting. Some very unique shirts, they don't always fit great but I do get compliments about whats on them. Hoodies of bands I like when its cold usually purple or black. *Nice shoes, chucks …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 12:58 AM
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Oh okay I always thought of it as a one night stand, fwb or just a couple dates
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:35 AM
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I would probably go for some gen x women. I know a some and they just seem to have more fun. Gen Z is a no go unless it were highly transactional. The communication just isn't there. I could see myself with a slightly older millennial woman but someone similar enough to me is harder to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:10 PM
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The star defensive lineman of the Cleveland Browns Myles Garrett is a complete weeb. I don't think anyone is gonna call him a nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 04:24 PM
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Might be a tad off topic but gaming in moderation could be good for you as you age. Depending on the game you may have difficult puzzles or boss fights that require you to critically think and keep your mind sharp.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:19 PM
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100% if you tried to do half the shit you do in video games you'd die, no respawns. Also you can make any number of things in a game that don't exist IRL. Games with a good story are kind of like an interactive movie
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:15 PM
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Overweight Extremely bad teeth (meth bad) Bad hygiene That's about it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:34 PM
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100% I've mostly gotten into short-term relationships from it granted that was years ago. There wasn't any intention of just hooking up. Proper dates and whatnot
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 04:54 PM
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That's one way of looking at it. I'm pretty sex neutral so if they really want to have sex I'll roll with it. People do things for their partner all the time that they're not ecstatic about. I'm still a willing participant I just don't get much pleasure from it like most guys do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:34 PM
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Cause I care about them and want them to feel good. Still an affectionate act regardless of sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:08 PM
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Yeah that's a pretty standard approach. I still at least try to get my partner off cause I haven't had another ace person in my life. I'm in it for the cuddles
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:56 PM
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I'm autistic and Grey ace. I'm genuinely disgusted by genitalia and can't get around the idea of putting my mouth there. I'm kind of an anomaly not sure I'm human
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:35 PM
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I think being masculine and aggressive lends itself to being selfish. If those are attractive traits there will be self centered lovers. I've made most of my partners cum and it mostly just requires patience and self control. The gripe I usually get is that I really dislike going down. I can't even feign enjoying it but on the other hand I don't expect bjs unless my partner is into it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:12 PM
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Thin, a little taller, dyes her hair a lot, dainty facial features, colorful makeup, piercings, tats. Low libido but loves affection. Quiet, artsy, loves animals. Minimalist, adventurous, neat freak but not a mommy gf. Broad musical taste All I can think of
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 03:29 PM
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I've exhibited some orbiting tendencies when I was younger but that was before the term existed. It was mostly out of limerence. As someone on the autism spectrum obsessions can get out of hand and all it would take is some characteristics about them I really liked. Wasn't so much about getting laid as it was expressing strong feelings of love and wanting them at least kind of reciprocated. There were other women I could have been with but had no interest in. So I guess the modern egirl has take…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:47 PM
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I'm curious about this perspective. I've always been really attractive to gay guys but far from chiseled. More of a thin alt stone type. On the other hand my attractiveness to women is all over the place, below average more often than not. Is this cause gay men are less selective? Or do straight men not even understand what men who like other men are attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:15 PM
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A circle jerk is an accurate assessment. Its a way to cause delusional women to become more delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:55 PM
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This. I love drugs but the kind I like aren't conductive to sleeping around. Maybe some people like fucking on horse tranquilizer or when their walls are melting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:26 PM
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If I were wealthy enough to not be concerned about it I won't be concerned about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:43 PM
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I feel like the ones with lower self esteem are more overtly promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:09 AM
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I guess it depends on whether or not their paid features work. I think I had more success without them but that was 5 years ago. Things were different then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:06 AM
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So she's a lifelong partner and we love each other? Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 09:17 AM
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Huge factor. My body language seldom reflects my intentions and her body language is difficult to interpret. I usually do my best if I talk without thinking but that's hard on a cold approach. Depending on the woman she may find my fixation on certain subjects endearing. So if I observe something that indicates a common interest that makes for natural conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:13 AM
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Although some men do intend to be creepy which are... the real creeps. They get off in making the woman feel intimidated based the strength differential. Bad apples bunches spoil whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:11 AM
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I'm also a happy drunk. Its fun but I've had so many cases of too much hype. It feels like raw mania
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:59 PM
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Eh I have some female friends I have very cool conversations with but I hang around hippie chicks. It doesn't seem to be gendered. Most people you encounter on a day to day basis don't have anything to say
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:51 PM
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That is a thing. Whenever I go to a bar I just kinda wanna be in a lively setting and enjoy a few beers. I'm not gonna ask a woman if I could buy her a drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:44 PM
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I don't like to judge who someone is by financial success and the like. Most well off guy I know just has a loaded dad and has bagged groceries forever while working out and buying expensive clothes. I don't think I'll ever be wealthy and I don't really care. I have an above average income for my area, my job is rewarding and I have a variety of talents. A lot of people put up a front of "success" while living an unsustainable life style. Trying to impress other people is a waste of time. I swea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:27 PM
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To each their own. I would nor want to play would you rather or anything else that involves being hypothetical lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:06 PM
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Guess I'm trying to take those out of the equation like its math. I'm seeing it like Schroedinger's cat. The details like the size of the cat, the isotope used (of course it has to be exceptionally hazardous and have the right half-life, where you get the box, the age of cat etc. Aren't relevant to the idea. Even though neither putting cats in boxes with radioactive isotopes or sticking someone's embryo in an incubator aren't being done thats not the point. Its intended to be outlandish and hypo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:58 PM
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I think the point OP means is: If both procedures were identical which path would you choose? If you don't want to be a mother in general or aren't ready abortion or adoption. If you do want the child but don't want to be an incubator you can do this. You could even give them up for adoption if you change your mind when they're "born" If you want to be pregnant and give birth cause its natural or you don't want either procedure you can go that way. Seems like more of a thought experiment than ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:21 PM
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I think the point OP means is: If both procedures were identical which path would you choose? If you don't want to be a mother in general or aren't ready abortion or adoption. If you do want the child but don't want to be an incubator you can do this. You could even give them up for adoption if you change your mind when they're "born" If you want to be pregnant and give birth cause its natural or you don't want either procedure you can go that way. Seems like more of a thought experiment than ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:21 PM
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Every situation is different. I would date a few I know but I'd prefer if they were childless. 2 are widows, 1 was knocked up by an asshat but I like her enough to get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:03 PM
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Interesting article. It is something I've pondered cause yeah they paid for it but that's not the same as enthusiastic consent. I doubt its very enjoyable with the few clients they'd find attractive if they wind up bruised up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:16 PM
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Yep makes it hard to put myself in their shoes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:28 AM
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God damn your anecdotes really make me wonder what the fuck goes on in other men's heads. Like the party situation, you're hitting it off with someone but you decide to scare them half to death over no 1st date sex? He probably would have gotten what he wanted anyway with more patience. I'm a dude but I think I'm becoming a misandrist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:13 AM
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Yes I've felt remorse from it but I try to be up front about whether I see a relationship coming from them. Sometimes they come onto me anyway but that's their decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:06 AM
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Not in the least for me. Independence is very important to me in a relationship and I want them to have their own passions and interests. Big Hell no on being plain and no partying. I like girls who are into makeup even when its clown world status and I like to party with my SO. Trad chicks are just boring. On the body count I honestly wouldn't really wanna discuss it, I would prefer someone with a low sex drive as I'm gray ace. Sweet and submissive is okay. Its usually cute and bossiness doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:03 AM
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You're not wrong. I want a thinner woman cause I'm quite thin but I regularly see girls who still look great cause they're cute and have good style.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:55 PM
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Cheating with some junk here and there shouldn't set ya back too bad. Routine is the important part
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:59 PM
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Haha well that should do it. You'll get used to it, they really have health foods down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:46 PM
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I ain't sayin she a gold digga
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 08:49 PM
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I've been concerned about being skinnyfat cause I can eat a lot, I just mostly eat vegetarian with little sugar and walk/hike a lot. Too many guys go full sedentary but its like even a small amount of cardio keeps the weight off. Thanks for the info! I might do one when my budget is less tight. Moving is expensive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 08:29 PM
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True true. I don't know how to measure body fat but my BMI is about 20. I'm rock more of a goth look so it fits with my physique. Egirls really jacked up my niche though. They look like goth/emo girls but don't have the same attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 08:20 PM
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Sounds right but it is hard to define cause the lower body fat is just being more cut than other muscle bound guys. I've just never thought of myself as top 30, I just got in the top 20 then I'll be golden.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 08:03 PM
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I spose. I dunno I'm really thin, I'm not a weakling but like what percent of men are swole?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 07:57 PM
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This stat fucking blows my mind. Seems like an advantage over 72% of dudes but nah not really
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 07:44 PM
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The future is robots and hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:59 PM
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Out of people I've met a few. Either married their highschool sweetheart or were in otherwise long exclusive relationships. I've had more than 5 partners but the chicks I know that have had more than 5 have had an absurd amount. Like they can't count them. Oddly enough I think the chicks with low counts have a much worse douchebag:good dude ratio. I guess its the trauma
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:56 PM
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Depends on the person. I think I could've saved myself some mental health problems by realizing I'm not really interested in sex. I think health and longevity come from staying active and finding a way to calm yourself. For some people sex provides an opportunity to quiet their mind. Other activities can relieve stress and don't require a partner. I think having sex is tied in with having children. I dunno once you're in a nursing home or whatever what's keeping you going? Your children Rarely h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:51 PM
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Can confirm there's a lot casual sex in high school. I didn't participate but things were happening. Girls were just less open about it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:09 PM
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Cost benefit analysis. After you nut you can focus on more important things. I don't get why people think they have to have wild porn sex cause they see it all the time. Like we have the internet, you can see plenty of chicks that hate jackhammering and don't go brain-dead at the sight of a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:58 PM
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Yeah I think you're correct. From what I understand the recovery period is very important. If you work out too often it works against you. Also bodybuilders would follow a routine that favors hypertrophy, doesn't make them more fit than strength/endurance people. Anatomy is complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:07 PM
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ROASTED
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:58 PM
3

I was trying to google fertility ratio but it only mentioned fertile women in different age groups. How's the 0.2 calculated for autistic men? Just curious
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:57 PM
2

This is a hot take. No true altruism and its normal to get upset when your "niceness" isn't reciprocated. It's only such an issue because people tend to resort to insults, threats and harassment instead of just handling their anger more constructively.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:49 AM
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What about the social contract to ones own children? Lots of absent fathers
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 05:44 AM
1

It took my bleak, nihilistic views and amplified them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:24 AM
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Oh that was hard sarcasm. I wish more women were like you, you say you want a good man and follow through with your actions. Both of you are lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:08 AM
1

I'd like an instruction manual for when I'm older so I can be morally bankrupt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:02 AM
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Woah Woah you'll have to discuss this the counsel of the blackpill. According to evopsych pseudoscience men under 6 feet aren't allowed mates. Please inform your fiancé he needs to return to a life of inceldom
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 03:59 AM
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That's actually not true. Inherited traits like height are more complex than that because of epigenetics, diet, grandparent genes etc. Anecdotal but I have a 6'3" friend who has parents that are both under 5'9" also my parents both have green eyes as well as my sister but my eyes are blue. There's also no guarantee they'd have a son.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 03:55 AM
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Yeah its a whole thing. The fact that you're 41 and in better shape than all these chicks in their 20s speaks volumes about the life they're living.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 05:50 PM
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The number of fat women baffles me. I'm a thin man and I just mostly eat vegetarian, avoid sugar and get some light cardio daily. It feels pretty effortless and I know estrogen changes fat distribution but that should make it so so less women have guts but so many do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:44 PM
9

Pretty awful that arousal has to overcome disgust. No wonder this shit is so difficult
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:40 AM
1

Love is a neurochemical con job
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:17 AM
3

Had to dig deep for that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:55 AM
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Could be. I'm on the ace spectrum and even I'm not like ew women (although I find much of the human body gross in general). I still think lots of them are pretty and I wanna snuggle with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:49 AM
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I find this answer shocking cause the ew men trend you mentioned. Between that and the ambiguity of male attractiveness its a little discouraging. I hear girls that aren't even bi or ace act all "ew men." Like what are you sexually attracted to? Horses?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:23 AM
1

I agree that is the best and most accurate pill
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:17 AM
1

Poetic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:58 AM
2

Ehh they can be more trouble than they're worth. Especially if we think with em
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:49 AM
1

I read this is spongebob's voice. Whats orange pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:36 AM
2

Hmm but walking places could be less scary?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:32 AM
6

Oh god you're gonna make me cry
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:10 AM
5

Think we just need to get robot companions figured out. Whoever invents it first will have a ton of cash fueled by male loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:09 AM
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How old are we talking? Cause I'm entering my 30s and if an attractive woman in their 30s (or even 40s) were into me I'd be ecstatic unless they have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:01 AM
2

Lolwut?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 12:34 AM
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You could call it that. Mine's like one of those stories where the protagonist never catches a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 12:33 AM
2

I've had 8 sexual partners and 2 long-term relationships. I've probably gotten rejected about 60 times (Give or take 10) so I'm not sure if that makes me below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 09:51 PM
1

I'm about to be 30 but look 22-24. I don't think any girls in their early 20s want to date me. Women in their 30s are probably much less work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 12:47 AM
1

This kinda thing is irksome especially since coercion and consent don't together
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 12:05 AM
1

I know a Chad. Don't think he post here, I think since this is Reddit its 99% larp.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 11:40 PM
1

I've found this metaphor flawed. I eat ground hot dogs all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:30 AM
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I work hard for me but it turns out having a wife and kids is expensive. Make the wife and kids too hard to get and well, there's less incentive to get to the top. Lots of men won't have anyone to provide for and anyone to care for them in old age
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:16 AM
1

Gay as it sounds men appreciate everything about other men than women do
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:50 AM
1

The rules are like silly putty
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:07 PM
1

Huh guess its a false narrative. I'm in a college town, lucky me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 10:05 PM
1

Oh well thats fine then. I dunno I see a lot of shaming of 30+ dudes that like early 20s chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 06:22 PM
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Not an issue with me but thanks for the advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:34 PM
3

K "know" is a strong word. I do see more and more anecdotes of women finding older men creepy or gross
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:32 PM
2

This has happened to me. A female friend of mine is practically in love with me but I'll never date her. She rejected me early then she was into every other guy we knew. Once she was into me I was far from being into her
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:50 AM
0

Do you have any pro tips for doing the SE Asia thing? Feels like a good option
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:30 AM
1

Perceived average woman: 7/10 attractive Actual average woman: 3/10 not attractive They average out to 5 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:28 AM
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I wish this was more of a thing but I dunno. Chicks friends tend to really like me but they don't get talked into dating me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:16 AM
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Well I'm nearing 30 and now that I know that "girls liking older guys" isn't really a thing and no longer socially acceptable I'm worried my dating situation will be doomed if I don't age well. I could probably pass for 22 or 23.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:08 AM
1

I hope I can have what you have someday. I've never been in a healthy, loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:04 AM
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I always perceive a woman as attractive as when I fell for her. They'd have to really let themselves go to change that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:54 AM
2

How do you get better at taking pictures and identifying good ones? I ask female friends to look at my dating profiles and I dunno they never give any negative feedback but maybe its cause they already know me. I'm thinking of getting into makeup. I already paint my nails and dye my hair so I might as well go all in. If girls get to make themselves prettier I should be able to as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:52 AM
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So if you're no longer able to have children and are too old to be attractive you are a person of no value? Should they just be euthanized since no one desires them? No there's still plenty they can do. If you like young men shooting up public spaces because their lives are deemed worthless just teach your boys that if they aren't getting women they should just give up on life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:42 PM
2

Some people especially in research are passionate about what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:29 PM
2

No it isn't. What do you think makes the world run? People doing their jobs. Everyone has a purpose, some people that seldom get laid may still contribute something of value to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:02 PM
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This kind of thinking is exactly what gets us fuckhead incels. If their self-esteem wasn't tied up in getting sexual partners they'd probably be much better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 06:48 PM
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Exactly and being big chaddy isn't even important nowadays unless its relevant to your profession. Someone's threatening your girl or child it doesn't matter if he's bigger. Well at least in Murica cause we can just buy a gun to keep our family safe. You don't protect them cause you're "alpha" or "macho" its cause its your nature to protect.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:33 PM
1

Billie lourde, Sophie turner, Emma Watson. A lot of it pertains to their voices and legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 05:38 PM
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Bingo Even if you're a good dude who isn't creeping you're a drop of fresh water in a lake of toxic sludge.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 04:53 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hunter-gatherer Okay I don't believe in Utopian equality either but back to cave Chad and cave beta. I linked the Wikipedia article but you can read further references if you don't trust the source. I was citing various anthropology and biology coursework. At any rate if you look under social structures there is no alpha male, men and women provided resources and resources were not hoarded. Cooperation and minimalism were not conductive to surviving as nomads. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 03:42 PM
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People are taller from better nutrition since height is such an important metric. Jerry got a lambo, good for him. Is he an overweight accountant who invested well? Is he a spoiled trust fund dickhead? Is he a pro athlete? Maybe only one of them is a good father, maybe 2 of them have good genes, the athlete is the only fit one because of his lifestyle but he might've been broke if he hadn't made the big leagues. Choosing a mate has a lot of variables.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 03:06 PM
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Eh much of this seems bogus. Cavemen or hunter gatherers were likely more egalitarian and communal. Its easier to provide for a small band of people. Chad in those times would have a genetic predisposition to be a strong protector of his offspring. Since everyone is living a similar lifestyle nurture is less of a factor. Your genes are everything. Sure some of this is leftover but the changes in technology, diet and culture have changed how we survive. Using a man for resources is more breadwinn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:22 PM
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100% something is bugging me or one of my buds we listen to each other bitch. Some people make it a one way street but that is a genderless issue
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:10 PM
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These standards in question are reasonable. I guess an issue would arise if huge exceptions were made for her partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:05 PM
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I watch it but not very frequently, I guess the more proper term is graysexual. Like if there's a spectrum of asexuality I lean heavily towards the asexual end. Lots of asexual people masturbate but more because of biology than psychology
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:52 PM
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I literally and figuratively don't give a fuck. I'm on the asexual side though so I'm an exception but I do think that guys like me are more common but other dudes are all "YoU DOnT WaNT PUssY? Wut ARE YoU GHEY?" especially when you're young. I care more about feeling secure in the relationship and that she's supportive of my interests while being her own person. It probably seems more important to some until post nut clarity comes. I'm obviously not compatible with women with high sex drives.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 05:53 PM
1

;/ I've never seen this emoticon mash up. I love it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:01 PM
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I'd say it's more important than most guys realize. Lots of my attraction has come from some sarcastic banter. I also am not a very serious person so I don't think I could be around someone who I'm always whooshing. A large part of my persona is being a satirical being.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 05:35 PM
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I have a few straight gal pals where its strictly platonic and a few lez friends too. Sometimes women are just better company, guess its the emotional intelligence or whatever but they also can help get me hype if were out and I wanna talk to a girl but I'm too nervous. They're (with one exception) never close friends, I think if I get that close to them I may catch feelings if they're reasonably attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 05:30 PM
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This. Height is mostly diet, many men who get all the women are poorly suited to survive in todays world. Evopsych is bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:50 PM
1

How do you know when you're sub 50%? And why view yourself as such?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:03 PM
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I dunno think I'll be forever alone but I still enjoy having a good career. Gotta have disposable income for drugs and travel. Being NEET would make my life infinitely worse
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:36 PM
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A child turned away by his village will burn it to the ground to feel warmth or something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:03 PM
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Tough question. It seems even being average or above average by some metrics will make it an uphill battle. I'm asexual so that's cool but I still would like a long term partner. Am I productive? Sure. My job is important, I make music/art, I get out and socialize when I can. If I were driven mostly by sex I probably wouldn't be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:01 PM
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Best answer
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:00 PM
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Thank you vennen! Had a bad experience with abuse so I can't have anyone monopolizing my time and policing my behaviors 24/7 again
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:50 PM
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Oh yeah I know what I want, its just kind of elusive. Clingy is a huge no for me as is messiness, not necessarily cluttered/disorganized but unclean living situation. Someone with similar tastes and big on individualism. I'm not even sure if I wanna live with an SO again. It might be practical but may not offer enough space for some.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:43 AM
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Maybe if I met her before she train wrecked. If I thought you were pretty at 15, I'll still think at 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:26 AM
1

What about chubby chasers?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:24 AM
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Call who? Chick that called me babe rejected me. The ones I'm referring to are strictly platonic. At least one of them would want to date me but the compatibility issues are too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:22 AM
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I never ask a woman her n-count. Feels kind of rude and is a loaded question. I'm mostly asexual though so I'm in it for the cuddles
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:20 AM
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I do once I feel comfortable doing so. Sometimes its okay, sometimes its a train wreck. Depends on who they are to me and the way they respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:41 AM
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I like you guys. I have a similar relationship with a lot of my friends
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:06 AM
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You know I got a chick coming into to town next week that wants to hang and she calls me by my name all the time. Can't tell what the situation is cause autism
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:54 AM
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Oh yeah that makes a huge difference. I've only met southern girls from Texas. Nice bunch
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:52 AM
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I also have some specific ones for a couple women I'm real good buds with. The boundaries are well established
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:28 AM
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That makes the most sense. I generally reserve them for relationships, my go-tos are dude, man or brah. Everyone gets those
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:26 AM
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Hmm but what terms for b? Do the guys ever get the wrong impression?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:24 AM
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Right I was a little confused. We've been acquainted for about 4 years but only grew close within the past couple years. Not as close now but I'm just kind of surprised by her being that comfortable. I guess as you said above calling your guy friends you don't know super well something with romantic undertones is not a thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:21 AM
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Oh I don't need an answer to my specific situation, I already know that. It was more of an example. Regional context we both grew up in the Midwest. I still live in that region but she's moved out west
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:15 AM
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Too true. There's always a power imbalance in any relationship and yeah I developed from early 20s to 30s. However many life lessons have come l had later than the average woman. I can only date younger unless I wanna be a stepdad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:53 PM
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I think we should teach future generations that finding a partner/having kids and/or having lots of sexual partners is so important. Were in a time where these things are a pain in the ass and its probably getting worse. Love is dead
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 10:31 PM
3

Jesus this makes me feel like a winner
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 10:29 PM
2

I'm late to the party but I'd love me an aspie honey
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:45 PM
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Same. Me and my boys look out for each other. Sure s lot of our friendship is based in hobbies but when one of us is struggling we don't hesitate to support them. Fraternal love is underrated and important.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:02 PM
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Eh lots of exceptions. I work in a chem lab and have quite a few peers that are women. We're all competent at what we do and work hard
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:52 PM
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I've had friends who cheat or are sancho in the situation. I'm critical if them and call them a homewrecker but I know they won't change until it blows up in their face
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:03 AM
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I think with regards to consent the strength difference is important. Testosterone gives us a huge edge even when the woman is bigger than us. Sure there's exceptions but I wouldn't feel threatened by sexual harassment or insults by a woman. My ex-gf was abusive and always justified it with "so you're stronger than me." When its a partner its more about the principle and breach of trust. I'd feel awkward in the situation but wouldn't feel they're gonna pin me to the ground and peg me. Thats gott…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 12:50 AM
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It does feel both innate and learned. When you start out doing something you're nervous, even if you don't get great at it it becomes way less scary. I like to think people are at their best when they're relaxed so its easier to act confidently. Hitting on women becomes messy because there's a person you may inadvertently make them terrified or getting getting called a creep etc. Whenever you're trying to learn and foster confidence in anything else some activities may involve hurting yourself w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 12:27 AM
1

How do you determine a shoulder to waist ratio?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 11:55 PM
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It a hard to find tall chicks that aren't overweight. The few I have met were attractive but were vastly different from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:19 PM
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Probably lower standards. I actually prefer tall chicks so I'd be cool with that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:13 PM
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I feel that. I don't prefer heavy girls either but sometimes I see one I really like cause they have a cute face and good style.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:06 PM
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You sound like me lmao Hanging out with party thots worked out for me but that mostly cause partying is fun either way. Maybe you could play the cute angle
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 05:51 PM
1

Hard to say since height seems to be a big thing. Were probably about equally thin since I've got 5 or 6 more inches of height. I swear I was 6' at one point but I think I shrunk from shit posture
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 05:40 PM
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I'm getting a lot of conflicting points of view in this thread but I expected as much
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 11:37 AM
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Hmm some of my shirts are a little big but cool. I don't even really wear jeans but finding pants that fit is hard. My legs are long but my waist is almost too small for a 28 waist. I just have to wear a belt
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:17 AM
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That'd be cool but I don't wanna quit my day job
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:55 AM
1

And I appreciate that. Its difficult to get good advice these days. I'll get more tats when my finances settle
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:44 AM
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Ooh I like that idea!! I've started painting my nails black and dyed my hair purple. Goth and artsy chicks are all I really care about attracting
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:37 AM
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Oh well guess I'll be average overall. Maybe event that will be enough
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:30 AM
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Yeah I think I'm getting there with that, I'd like to attract goth, artsy, emo etc. women. The hard part is that a good number of them like long hair and best I can do is a purple mohawk. Dudes on the internet are critical of it but I've gotten more compliments from women in a few weeks than I have in... awhile Didn't really do any follow up cause work has had me in multiple locations lately. No time and no energy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:27 AM
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Well guess I better be college educated, have a career, a car and be a smalltime Rockstar.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:21 AM
2

Male attractiveness feels ambiguous to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:18 AM
2

Huh I've got a few tats the gauges are more body modding than I'm willing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:13 AM
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I'll give it the ol college try. I was getting in the groove last year but that obviously got derailed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:05 AM
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I definitely blame my own gender for a lot of the problems. They've creeped chicks the fuck out, I've been treated with hostility or given fake numbers because of a small minority of men are harassing and assaulting women. Do I hate generalizations? Yes But does the risk of violence warrant caution? Also yes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 12:48 AM
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It seems they had more power in family court systems that is being reversed. In dating though? Nah dating wasn't great 10 years ago but its real bad now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 12:30 AM
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Totally. My idea of a 10 is Gwen Stefani and even though she's older now she's aged incredibly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 05:57 PM
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Yeah I can't even jack it the next day after a 3/4th plateau. Solved your premature ejaculation problem and created a different one
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 05:40 PM
1

DXM? I can't imagine trying to do anything sexual on that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 05:32 PM
1

Well yeah its directly stated
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 12:18 AM
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Help me understand this side of it: I've seen a lot of anecdotes where women are creeped out by a dude they know asking them out but she "doesn't know him well enough" since they've just met recently. Wouldn't such a small window contradict that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 10:39 PM
1

So would thin men have an expectation than their partner doesn't get fat? Or is it reserved for fitness nuts?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 10:26 PM
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Lots of blue collar jobs pay well so it wouldn't necessarily affect their finances. I don't think any women give a single fuck about my degree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 10:18 PM
1

Uh getting a lap dance probably
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/21 09:07 PM
2

Well since oral counts I've had 9. I'm a 29 year old man
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:17 AM
2

I like your first paragraph about how it can fall on the parents. Feelings of loneliness and rejection are terrible for your mental health. Creating a generation of chronically depressed dudes is a failure to give your child good quality of life as they enter adolescence/adulthood. You know its important guys aren't learning from romcoms, that could create a lot of creepy behavior /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 03:57 AM
4

And better taste in music
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/21 06:52 PM
3

I'd rather hang with the devil
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/21 04:24 PM
1

It is detrimental. I feel like I'm going in blind (I'm autistic too) as I can't understand their body language or control mine very well. Unintentionally creeped some women out but that can't be helped, every once in awhile this blind squirrel found a nut.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 01:48 AM
1

Not really. I've had sex 7 women and 1 trans woman. A few relationships but the only really attractive one was the worst gf considerably. I've asked out a ton of chicks with little success but unfortunately when I was getting the hang of dating I got stuck in an abusive relationship. The dating scene sure went to shit in those 3 years and it didn't help I was badly traumatized.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 07:13 PM
2

There were ton of emo girls when I was a teenager so I associate the goth look with it. I also like a lot of music in that scene so there's some common ground. E-girl goths feel substantially more difficult though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 06:42 PM
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Its a kind of baggage most men wouldn't want unless their own kid. Also it definitely can reflect poor judgement but yeah as you've said everyone makes mistakes when they're young. Being a single mom also can inflate their standards (for good reason) despite losing a lot of value. I try to withhold judgement a little more I met a couple young widows with kids recently, their partner being dead doesn't mean he wasn't a good father.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 04:43 PM
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Plus its like given the circumstances those guys were looking to fuck her anyway. She wouldn't need to knock me out for that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 02:18 AM
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Every once in awhile some fuckhead doesn't get charged appropriately which is probably true of most crimes. Sometimes they don't get a long enough sentence or whatever but people never look at the big picture: They probably get their ass beat daily in prison. I'm not sure if it only applies to chomos but I think rapists against women in general are hated there Once they get out they're a felon and a sex offender. Good job? Place to live? Having to tell your neighbors and living like a leper? Naw…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 02:16 AM
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Oh yeah I think I saw the thread I just hadn't seen this rebuttal. Good perspective to have although I'm biased since I've been treated like I'm some kind of serial killer/rapist quite a few times for no apparent reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 08:33 PM
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Out of the loop. Can you tell me what her argument was?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 07:24 PM
1

Education. Dating was always difficult for me so a nice goal like learning was a welcome diversion
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 04:19 AM
1

How much can we even do? I guess there's going to the gym but anything else is kinda baseline don't be gross and sloppy. Hygiene and grooming are standard adult practices.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 04:13 AM
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I've experienced this often. My last gf would get incredibly angry with me when I'd feel sad about anything. I won't put up with that ever again, I have plenty of friends male and female I can speak about my emotions with. If I'm at an appropriate time in a relationship to express feelings to a woman and she reacts aggressively, I won't put up with it. Guys have gotta get comfortable with being so alone so we won't accept such shitty partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:45 PM
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I love cuddling so more often than not if I don't want to cuddle it is an indicator that I'm upset about something. Other circumstances would be trying to sleep as I move a lot to get comfy or it being too warm but I would explicitly state that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 12:47 AM
1

Video games have more linear goals and clear cut instructions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 10:33 PM
1

Like broooo I had the craziest night
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:50 PM
2

Generally I don't like to but alcohol can go a long way. I'm kinda asexual unless I'm drunk
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 09:20 PM
0

Fuzzy at best and outright falsehoods at worst Research
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 05:41 PM
1

Man that's how every rave I've ever been to went. We'd always just reconvene at the end with different stories lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 11:19 PM
1

If I'm not changed physically yeah this is a huge upgrade. I feel like size difference is a huge factor in dealing with unwanted attention, I'm not a strong man but stronger than an average woman. Not dealing with pregnancy or periods? Sign me up. I don't even expect people to take me seriously in the workplace, that's gotten me surprisingly far.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:48 AM
2

Holy shit being average is the new below average. That is perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:11 AM
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I am thin which I think is unattractive? Not sure. My face may not be ideal, I do have a large nose. Lifestyle wise maybe I work too much as my career is important to me. I also don't align much with a bug part of my culture. I'm not big on consumerism and replacing my clothes constantly. Slight tears, acid or paint get on them? Cool adds character, very grunge but not cool in a world that loves materialism. I am on the spectrum so social intuition isn't great and neurodivergence is a factor. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:59 AM
1

I'm a 5'11" lanky guy and the last thing I want is someone heavy enough to crush me. All I ask that chicks not be fat, that's the only real deal breaker. It might be because I've been blessed with a high metabolism but I can eat a ton and not gain weight. I do however opt for vegetarian food more often than not, drink tea or coffee with no cream or sugar and go for frequent walks. Avoiding sugar is a big one. The only things I eat with refined sugars are granola bars and yogurt. How can we make …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 06:31 PM
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This is bleak. This guy even had a rare quality and one that makes them feel safe at that. Pressuring someone is rapey behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 01:34 AM
1

I've been involved with the punk and hippie scenes for awhile. I have a purple mohawk, paint my nails black, mostly wear tiedye or band shirts and prefer Grey or black pants to blue jeans. I suppose I stick out in public, most people wouldn't get the impression that I'm excelling in my professional life but I am. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm into girls with an "alt" style so I would hope I'm somewhat attractive to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 05:54 AM
1

It does a lot for me but I have a thing for goth/emo girls and all that is huge with the the style.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:42 AM
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Oh fuck that. That is not a good friend and I'd cut them off without hesitation
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 05:21 PM
4

Most of my friends and my sister have good heads on their shoulders so I'd take their word for it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 02:19 AM
3

Wars, famine, disease and now its this god damn sociological boschitt
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:38 AM
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And now lots of men don't fuck often enough to reproduce cause... Shit gender relations.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:32 AM
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Well one thing that's nice about having female friends is that they can introduce you to their friends. Makes breaking the ice a helluva lot easier and you can still do all the other shit while maintaining friendships. The female friends can be strong friendships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:29 AM
1

I'll use the mean. 1+1+2=4/3= 1 year and 4 months
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:08 PM
1

Nah its inaccurate. I got several good female friends, its nice cause they offer a different perspective and can be real supportive. My male friends are cool too but I primarily game, jam or watch football with them. I have (and with one still lingering) had feelings for them before but I typically get over it and still enjoy their company
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 06:28 PM
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Yes and I actively seek out this women. I love their style
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:51 PM
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I wanna say its a vocal minority amplified by the internet but I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 11:46 PM
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To be determined. I recently started a bigger job so I've got the success factor going up. I also dyed my hair purple and started painting my nails black. I'm into goth/emo women so it seems to be making them more willing to talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 11:05 PM
1

Hol up he did what now?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 09:01 AM
1

Yeah it still felt good but I dunno not as good as everyone acted like it did
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 02:56 PM
2

Yeah I've had to lay down the law a few times
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:18 PM
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I feel ya. I think that outlook hasn't been all that great for most people. Hard to feel secure when everyone is treated as expendable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:10 PM
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It is pretty strange. Its one of those things that gets more difficult when you put in too much effort
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 12:46 PM
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Neither. Just a discussion topic
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 12:45 PM
1

I do like those and have applied some of them. Gotten way better with stating my boundaries clearly and I always strive to be the best I can at what I'm passionate about. Oneitis still gets me pretty often.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 04:02 AM
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That's quite an adjustment. My last girlfriend had a high sex drive and was high maintenance so I didn't get a minute to think about whether or not I'm even enjoying it at all. Having a situation like yours sounds nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:59 AM
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Little over a year. My last relationship was pretty ugly and ended about 2 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:44 AM
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Well at least you guys seem to have a good understanding. I've had girls get all insecure about always having to initiate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:36 AM
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I don't care if people assume I'm gay so that's fine. Uhh I'm good on pussymouthrape and cucking. If I can find a nice girl to cuddle and talk to that'd be cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:33 AM
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That makes sense. Putting it in the context of a toolkit definitely changes things, I've always thought of it as a philosophy. That's probably cause my friend that's obsessed with philosophy is also a hardcore redpiller
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:14 AM
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Right just because I don't often feel any desire to have sex doesn't mean I've ever withheld it from my partner barring physical problems. I still care about them and want them to enjoy themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:06 AM
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Well when I was younger my friends made a big deal about it. I didn't have sex till I was 20 and went through a long dry spell when that relationship ended. All of a sudden when I was 24/25 I wound up with a lot more partners. It always just felt like societal pressure though like my worth as a man was tied to it. Once I figured that out I realized I really didn't enjoy it very much. I am autistic but I dunno if that constitutes a medical explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:03 AM
1

That's interesting. I guess for something based in sociology to work it has the be the behavior of a large group of people not outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 02:50 AM
1

My ex-girlfriend was incredibly abusive. We couldn't come to agreement that she shouldn't hit me because were partners and we love eachother. The constant barrage of insults and unending demands sure didn't help. It's made me less willing to settle, she always told me I'd never get anyone else. Maybe she was right but I'd rather be alone
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 02:44 AM
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I'm about there. I've had few meaningful relationships and they were terrible. I'm almost 30 and just trying to get a date borders on impossible. "I don't want to date anyone right now" Hard ignore followed by ghosting They already have a boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 06:14 AM
1

Tricking someone into having g sex with you seems rapey. Also while men have sex with women they don't desire that's only because of a lack of options. There's no real reason for women to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 05:47 AM
1

Yes you can. If you contrast something you can compare it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 11:08 PM
1

I don't ascribe to any pill label either. I firmly believe I'm almost the absolute best self I can be (I have a strong sense of identity) but dating is still a struggle. I'd say women mostly have it easier but the difficulties are apples to oranges anyway. Being a man requires toughing out numerous rejections and being a woman means fending off creeps. Neither reality is ideal and I can't really put myself in a woman's shoes cause I don't know what actually makes a man attractive. Attractive men…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 11:03 PM
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I suppose so. This all happened in my mid 20s now that I'm older I've discovered I'm mostly asexual but not remotely aromantic. So casual arrangements don't do much for me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 10:56 PM
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I have many platonic female friends and sometimes I prefer them to my male friends. They give good advice when I have a romantic issue too. When it turns non-platonic it usually doesn't work out, one of us catches feelings. One of my best female friends and I did hook up regularly a few years ago but now that ain't for us and that's fine. Not even an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 07:42 PM
1

I've wanted to be gay (or bi rather) so I experimented a little but couldn't get into it. I've had a lot of gay men that are attracted to me so I figured it'd be nice to feel desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 04:36 PM
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I have a thing for your "not like other girls" types. When I was young there were a lot of emo girls so that type just seems to be ingrained in me. Its kinda hard nowadays with egirls, a lot of them have the aesthetic I like but are very transactional and not very in touch with the subculture. Overall I not picky but if I had a type that's it. My only real standard is don't be fat and even that's ambiguous from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 04:34 PM
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I want a partner who is eager to learn things even if she may not totally understand them. One of the best things a women can do for me is listen to me ramble about science and show genuine interest. I love teaching people new things, if she's knowledgeable in other subjects and teaches me that's great too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 04:29 PM
1

Generally no, all a woman has to be to be attractive to me is not be fat. I do however, love when girls have unique makeup and hair style. I used to work next to a cosmetology school and it was great
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 03:12 AM
1

I'm sorry its been difficult for you still. I wouldn't worry about women anyhow. I discovered in my late 20s that I'm pretty much asexual. I think its common with folks on the spectrum
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 02:46 AM
1

Videogames and learning an instrument help a lot. I'm an aspie and my motor skills have always been fucked. By doing things that required them frequently they're much better. Still not great but I can almost pass for neutotypical
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:32 AM
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I've never embraced TRP and I've managed non-relationship sex with 5 women. Just partying with some women that like casual sex eventually resulted in it. Its a matter of being open to opportunies
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 01:11 AM
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Thanks dude. Wish you luck with all your endeavors too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 10:18 PM
1

Not worth seeking out for me personally. I've had some casual partners when I was younger and we were not romantically compatible. In retrospect besides some release (that could be achieved without them) sex didn't do anything for me. Those relationships remained platonic and I'd like to keep sex confined to someone who is undoubtedly an established partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 04:51 PM
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Appreciate the advice but that's not for me. Speaking from experience that's not thing. I'm thinking doing the band thing again will help. I'm moving soon though so I'll have to find some people to jam with after
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 03:15 PM
1

Basically non-existent. I'm 5'11" about 150 pounds so I'm quite thin
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 05:42 PM
1

If it's financially plausible and there's no kids to raise absolutely. Cohabitation seems to be a cause of disputes, not arguing about household chores and decor sounds ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 01:32 AM
1

I'd be perfectly fine with a girl that's taller than me. I'm 5'11" so they'd have to be 6'+ I've been attracted to women that are taller several times
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 12:55 AM
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Holy shit I feel this. I live on my own and have a good job. I've always wanted a good LTR, the only significant one I've had was abusive. I'm 29 and I can't even find new women to hang out with. Sometimes you lose your sense of purpose when something that's been drilled into your head (get married, start a family) seems incredibly unattainable. The dating scene is bleak
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 12:31 AM
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I don't like the idea of them being parasites but I do feel bad for them. I was probably a couple meltdowns away from becoming one myself when I was younger. I find joy in my career but there's a lot young men with no direction and no sense of purpose. We hype them up from a young age about kids, marriage, owning a home etc. As those goals seem impossible to reach dropping out of society seems favorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 04:03 AM
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This sort of thing confuses me. Like I shave, wash my face, shower regularly and take good care of my teeth. I haven't gotten a real haircut in awhile mostly due to covid so I wear hats pretty often. My clothing is less than perfect but it does fit with the types of women I like (stoners, hippies, goths etc.) Things like make-up and a lot of hairstyles are off the table. So like I wouldn't say I'm putting in low effort. I just don't get what constitutes good grooming. Are there dudes running aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:42 AM
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1) Most of my friends are in stable LTR's and/or have kids. A few have trouble finding a partner but not many. Late 20s/early 30s males 2) My friends that have a hard time its mostly due to their financial situation. There's nothing to really advise them on as they acknowledge they aren't independent right now and that's holding them back. 3) When I was a teenager yeah as an adult I'm pretty indifferent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 05:28 PM
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