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Yes
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 10:48 AM
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Brilliantly put. This is why I love RPW. It may not look like it at the first approach, but it's all about empowerment... to get what YOU value. Thank you OP
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 11:48 AM
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I was a bit of a bitch to my captain yesterday. I'm trying to stop smoking weed and it's been hard. He knows that on top of that I'm PMSing but still, not an excuse to lash out on him. On the good news side, my IUD is expiring on December and I can't wait to get it off. We are planning on starting trying for a baby next year. I'm really happy about it as well as a bit stressed out because having a baby is a great responsibility. Right now I need to enter a mindset of "preparing the nest", save a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 08:50 AM
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What a great time for me to hear this story. Thanks a lot !
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 07:58 AM
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Great topic ! Thanks for asking this question. My ideal lady is beautiful : she takes care of herself on the outside as well as on the inside. She wakes up in the morning and has a nice ritual of doing yoga, meditation and eating a good breakfast before going on with her day. She is someone you know you can count on, has good advice and is caring and nurturing of the people she loves. She is resilient : she can face whatever the universe throws at her. She wants to have kids and be a good mother…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 02:56 PM
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Quiche ! You can vary the ingredients and it's good cold
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 07:45 AM
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I love this
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 10:28 AM
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Welcome here :) My advice would be to browse the top posts in this sub. Stay away from TRP sub (actually I'm not sure it still exists). This is an amoral theory and all the ladies here are from different walks of life. Like you, I have a dominant personality. I work in IT and I am sorrounded by masculine energy all day. Finding RPW helped me immensely coming to terms with the "yin and the yan" in myself. Being dominant in my previous relationship only brought me unhappiness and being able to dip…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/20 03:30 PM
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It feels amazing to slowly unravel the feminine mysteries so thank you for the suggestions, I'll look into it :D
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 12:27 PM
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I love the idea of making yummy desserts on leftovers night, thank you 😍
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 07:43 PM
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That's awesome 😂😂 Lots of happiness for you both 🙏❤️
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 07:33 PM
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Ahah this is amazing, I'm going to tell my bf I just found a solution for when I get in a bad mood 😏
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 04:35 PM
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I'm happy for you
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 01:00 PM
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We don't have a set day for it but it's usually once a month. Usually on a Saturday. We take turns organising it for each other and keep it a surprise. Last date night was organised by him, he took me to a classy sushi restaurant and then to the casino, it was awesome ! I'm planning a spa day at home for our next date
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 09:47 PM
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We don't do Valentine's Day. We have a date night system in order to avoid falling into the daily routine. I love giving (and getting) gifts outside of holidays. Today I picked some food on my way home from work and I hope he will thank me later for that with some good s** ahah
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 08:24 PM
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I agree completely. Before meeting my boyfriend, I couldn't ever imagine wanting to submit to a man. Turns out I just wasn't dating the right kind of men. Thank you for this post, it's very well written.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/19 04:47 AM
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I don't think trying to forget is a viable solution. I'm not sure what I would do in your situation but I think you definitely have to bring it up. Try to stay calm and level headed, ask him if he is hiding stuff from you, maybe ask him to see his phone with him... His reaction should tell you a lot. It's up to you to decide if you want to work through this, but know that you can't make other people behave like you'd wish. He's the one not being worthy of your trust right now and he should be th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 09:19 AM
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Not in my book. In my opinion snooping is a breach of trust. Now, I agree that she had her reasons and sometimes you have to follow your intuition, but still doesn't make it right.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 09:06 AM
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You are wrong for snooping but more importantly there seems to be a huge communication problem in your relationship. Taking steps to fix that is not easy and it starts by talking to each other.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 03:43 AM
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I used to spend so much time reading /r/relationships. Once, in the comments, someone linked the TRP sub. I checked it out and I was pretty shocked at first but once I found RPW I thought the same as you : what an amazing community of women who call on each other bullshit. These ladies helped me a lot. I'm very grateful for this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 03:41 AM
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Some points for you to think about :. - How was this decision made ? Did he talk about it first and you rationalised that it is what you want too ? Do you really want to go ? - What made you feel uncomfortable with going there without being engaged/married ? Do you have any reason to think he would leave you ? What comfort an engagement would bring you ? It's possible to live together without "playing wife", just don't, it's a bit like roommate style except you sleep in the same bed, sharing cho…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 02:52 AM
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Yes. I would have learned a lot more about myself a lot sooner had I stayed single in my late teens/early 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 02:33 AM
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Nun mode. Your value is not defined by how attractive your boyfriend is.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 05:25 PM
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I just wanna know if anyone has any advice on how to be more dominant in a situation like that just to “let these btches know,” I guess lol or am I approaching these kinds of things all wrong? Should I focus on being more dominant when these things happen or try to not care because low key caring = insecure? It’s hard to just not care because that’s my fcking man Yes you're right, you probably already knew. The best way to "assert dominance" is being the best gf you can be to your man and have f…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 02:33 PM
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This blog changed my view on finances : Afford Anything (don't take the name too literaly, the full sentence is "you can afford anything, but not everything"). Check her "anti-budget" article.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 03:59 PM
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Ultimately you are the one in this relationship. You're right to want to better yourself but it's important that you do with with self-compassion in mind and not for someone else. The RPW principles can be dangerous if applied to the wrong captain, always keep vetting in mind. I sincerely wish you all the best.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 07:12 AM
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Practice self-awareness. My advice would be daily meditation. It takes work and it's not some magic that happens overnight but eventually you will be able to catch yourself and decide if you let yourself be loud or tone it down.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 09:56 AM
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Hey, I have no proper advice for you, I just wanted to say that you sound very level-headed and I'm sure you can achieve anything you put your mind into. Trust yourself to choose your own path, outside validation is nice but you are the one who needs to decide for yourself. Practice self-compassion and enjoy your life :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 09:49 AM
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Universal beauty tips : eat healthy and get some good sleep edit : sometimes 'less is more'
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 09:39 AM
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Hmm, I'm having mixed feelings about this. On one hand, I am absolutely happy that you're making changes to better yourself. The thing that bothers me, is how he reacts when you "make a mistake". Particularly with the gift, if I understood correctly, he broke up with you because he didn't think your gift was thoughtful... that just sounds weird to me. I don't know you guys so it's hard to know his character from what you wrote but it almost sounds like he's trying to groom you into this silent l…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 09:32 AM
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Great post, thanks! Vetting and self-compassion. I was the soccer mom type with my ex and I have to work on not letting old habits suck in my current relationship. Right now it's a lot easier to be a cheerleader because my captain is strong and reliable but when I do let the soccer mom creep in I can feel the bad influence on his mood, on my mood and then I feel guilty because I know there was no need for it... (self reminder to use STFU more often)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 09:56 AM
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I definitely recommend it, her other books are probably very insightful too :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 07:44 AM
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I just finished reading Daring Greatly by Béné Brown, I think it would be a beneficial read for you too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 03:19 PM
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I'm very late to the party but I just wanted to say this is spot on and thank you for posting it. I'm currently reading Daring Greatly by Béné Brown and I'm right on the page where she talks about this : "What's ironic (or perhaps natural) is that research tells us that we judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good abou…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 01:51 PM
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He tells her she has a domineering attitude and that "love cannot live under domination". He tells her to have "a little softness, a little tenderness" to soften the firm lines on her face. He gives this formula to close her story : "Know what you want, test it to see if it is a right thing, change yourself in such a way that it will naturally come to you, and always have faith."
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/19 07:24 AM
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I think it's healthy to have your own definition of God. I am exploring using "mother nature" as "God" because I don't want to partake in a specific religion but at the same time I don't want to deny my spirituality. And I find his take on faith very interesting. The advices come down to having faith not only in God (which could be the laws of the universe, nature...) but also in yourself. I think not having faith could be one of the reasons more and more people are depressed/not happy (myself i…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/19 07:17 AM
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Great advice thanks !
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:47 AM
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You could do a massage special where you set the mood and maybe wear something sexy, use a nice oil and make it a foreplay massage :p
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 05:26 PM
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I love Paula Pant! She's such an inspiration
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 10:59 PM
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I don't know of any other trails in Europe that are that symbolic. Actually there is more than one way to arrive at st James, you have the "Camino Frances" which starts in France, the "Camino ingles" which starts on north, the one from Portugal (don't know the name) and the "Camino primitivo" which is a very old one. But they all have the same destination. And it's far from something for religious people only, you really meet any kind of people
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 10:28 PM
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I agree and I also like to think of myself as ambitious without the negative connotation :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 04:26 PM
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I somewhat agree but I also feel like sometimes there's this connotation when you say someone is "ambitious" that they are a bit power-hungry.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 01:36 PM
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That's so awesome ! I walked a bit of the way of st james (camino de compostela) last year and I met so many different and interesting people ! Having a relationship blossom from that kind of trip is very poetic in my opinion :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 11:19 AM
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Oh gotcha.. good luck :p
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 08:16 PM
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Ahah I agree and I'm glad you like it ! I hope to be able to go live back there one day :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 08:15 PM
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I don't really agree with... anything you said. People still meet organically through friends' friends and gatherings. I also don't think ambition and masculinity go together, we could argue if ambition is more of a masculine or feminine trait (probably masculine) but a masculine guy isn't necessarily ambitious. Or we don't have the same definition for ambitious (in my book it's someone who wants to go up the social/professional/whatever ladder)
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 04:40 PM
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Sounds like old school curated online dating
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 04:35 PM
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Lovely :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 04:34 PM
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I agree. I'm actually Portuguese and Mediterranean culture is one where you find a lot of those macho guys. In my family, I have a lot of bad examples of those men; the ones that talk a lot and do very little or the ones that suffer in silence because they don't have the life they want and turn to alcohol... it doesn't make people happy
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 04:26 PM
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I live near a middle school and they have a swimming pool that is opened to the public on wednesday's nights. Also very cheap entry fee compared to the all-public swimming pools. Perhaps they have the same system in Belgium :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 04:17 PM
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I have a hard time when someone links her view of a "high value man" to those words. A high value man for you is probably not the same as a high value man for me. I wouldn't want a rich older lawyer that hangs out in jet-set because it's not my preference. I want someone who shares my values. I completely agree that colors have significations but you said it yourself that the symbolism is not the same in every culture. It's not a general advice for every woman. We know white means purity in the …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 04:14 PM
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He wasn't overly masculine though, he was actually very shy and quiet so if I had been looking for alpha traits only I would've missed him. He is the man that the others in his friend group look to and he's now got a lot more responsibility in his job so he definitely embodies a lot of those masculine traits I love but they're not obvious That part really resonated with me because my boyfriend is the same ! Very quiet and shy but his friends admire him and he's never afraid to tell things how th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 01:57 PM
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writing in my journal and maybe do a page of my control journal (maybe the self care one ahah) go on a walk (the sun is slowly coming back yay) take better care of my skin organize spring road trip have a relaxing weekend
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 11:30 AM
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On the matter of self help books I'm grateful for, Marie Kondo is up there. Her book is called "the life changing magic of tidying-up" and albeit I thought the title was a bit condescending, I now think it's totally true :) edit : sorry to hijack without even leave my opinion on your comment :P I feel like I pretty much know my direction in life, but I love planning and you definitely made me want to check that book out !
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 02:02 PM
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Yes, for me it's all about that "it made me think about you" or "i thought and put time/money to craft/organize/do/buy something for you". It's a fuzzy feeling for me, and I'm known to give great gifts to the people I care about because it goes both ways. Also in my opinion, random gifts are much better than planned "special occasions" ones.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 08:13 PM
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It's not about buying or money actually. It's about the fact that someone cared enough to buy or do something just because he thinks I will love it. I'm not a gold digger and I enjoy putting a lot of thought in the gifts I give. Btw, I would hate to get flowers because I love flowers and I don't want a bunch of dead ones. It's not about the gift, it's about knowing each other preferences and being selfless.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 05:07 PM
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That's lovely :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 04:55 PM
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I think I appreciate every love language (quality time also speaks a lot to me) but I think acts of service is mostly the way I express my love and when I get a thoughtful gift I feel very loved.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 04:54 PM
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I've always had mixed results when I do the test, but the 2 I have "the most" are acts of service and gift giving. This is both ways because I love giving thoughtful gifts as much as receiving and same goes for acts of service. My bf is much more straightforward : his love language is physical touch. At first he thought the concept was a bit silly, especially since my love languages are a bit more "work" than his, but I think he got it when he sees how much I appreciate cooking for him and also …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 03:24 PM
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I love this advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 09:30 AM
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Well, what can I do right ? Point is, he doesn't care enough to ask and I find that sexy
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:46 PM
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If he asked for a number I would tell him the truth, I'm pretty sure his is higher
/r/askTRP07/02/19 01:59 PM
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I don't see the point in asking either. My LTR boyfriend doesn't know about TRP but he's kind of a natural and he never bothered. We talked about past relationships and he knows about "my timeline" (when I had sex for the first time and the serious relationships I had). I don't feel any insecurity or jealousy from him over my past and that's very sexy.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 01:13 PM
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put some cinnamon sticks in a pan with water and bring to boil. Or bake a cake. I also bought a essential oil diffuser but be aware of the cheap ones because I've found that they don't really work (no oil smell in the house). Lavender essential oil is a must for this !
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 12:51 PM
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pro tip ! thanks
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 12:49 PM
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I feel you. When I first came across this subreddit I was quite shocked, we are so used that women are constantly put on a pedestal and no one can criticize them. Here, there are a lot of different women, different backgrounds and beliefs, and they all agree on this one thing that literally changed my life. The love is tough and the opinions are honest, which, after the inital shock, is actually very refreshing !
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 10:52 AM
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I hope one day I'll be able to homeschool my kids too ! Kudos to you for doing it, I guess it's challenging but also very rewarding ! Wow thank you so much for telling me all that ! I will do some googling tonight for sure :) It's true that Switzerland has amazing views, the mountains are majestic but I really really enjoy dutch/flemish architecture :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 04:19 PM
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No language barrier definitely eases the move. Did you move to Belgium for a particular reason or just because you liked it ? I never visited the Flemish part but I'm going to Antwerp in March for a weekend (actually I'm not even sure it's in the Flemish part but I think so) Amsterdam is actually so touristic, I would love to visit some less known parts of Holland, I'm sure it's very interesting to see
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 03:37 PM
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Because they can sense how bitter you are (even though you say you aren't, followed by yet another proof that you are)
/r/askTRP06/02/19 03:26 PM
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The first time my bf and me said "i love you" was after a crazy party in Amsterdam last year :) And I absolutely love Belgium (and Belgian people), are you in the french or flemish part ?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 03:18 PM
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Daaaamn. I don't know if you're dutch or just living there, but dutch people are wild ahahah (I love it btw)
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 02:51 PM
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Don't be bitter
/r/askTRP06/02/19 02:48 PM
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He was also into drug (ab)use and tried to explain his actions by saying that he was an hedonist or as he said "libertin" (lol). Overall a man that I (and many of us) wouldn't want to marry but we don't really know how hypocritical he is with his wife obviously.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 02:11 PM
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Maybe you think I'm advocating or something which I'm not, the prompt in this post made me think about him and I shared, that's all. There's no "ok and?" because there's no "and..." I was just sharing my experience with one outlier like you said. I meant to convey that a single person who doesn't fit the norm is sort of beside the point. What is the point ?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 02:05 PM
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Interesting ! I live in Switzerland and we don't have them, there's one thing and we call it "students association" but it's not really the same I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 01:47 PM
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We're just discussing, I don't know why you felt the need to say "ok and?". I know men will sleep with an independent woman, but in that case, he thought indeed that that trait was sexy. The fantasies were another subject to try to explain more about "what kind" of person that guy is.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 01:41 PM
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Well that's very interesting, people that work behind the scenes have some wtf jobs sometimes ahah
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 01:12 PM
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Idk because here in Europe we don't really have frats and I have no idea what he was like when he was young. He also had a quite dehumanizing way to look at women, like, once I asked him about his fantasies and basically they were "fucking the HR", "fucking the receptionist" etc. like, he was attracted to the role more than the woman actually
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 01:07 PM
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Yeah with his wife for sure, but he fucked every kind of woman. He told me that when he met her, he was attracted to the fact that she had goals and a career and that she was courageous and independent.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:50 AM
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Not my man, but I knew a man (35yo) who told me he was attracted to independent women. He wasn't a beta bucks, had a good job, wife and kids and cheated on her with everyone he could. Once he told me that he lost attraction for his wife when she became "the mother of his children" and that he couldn't see her as a sexual person anymore. Poor woman. Ok and now I've written all of this and didn't answer your question at all, but it struck me that he was attracted to something (independent women) T…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:28 AM
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I wanna know too.... my cat is freaking white and I have his fur all over... everything
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:14 AM
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Great advice ! I was shocked the first time I saw how filthy that spot behind the toilet on the floor was
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:13 AM
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Yeah I have a friend who furnished the whole place at once (also small 1bd apartment) and it does looks great... but not personal
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:08 AM
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I made a version of these on my "control journal" (expression taken from FLY Lady) and it's helping me keep track of what I have to do.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 08:27 AM
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I would advise you to not go out and buy everything at once, personalization comes with time. I think there's a risk of your house looking too much like an "ikea house" if you buy every decoration item now. I would buy the things that I like the most and get some inspiration on pinterest
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 08:21 AM
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Thanks ! I enjoy reading your comments and would probably enjoy reading your blog ! Love the name btw
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 04:12 PM
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You have a blog ?!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 09:33 AM
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Chantelle and Hunkemöller are my favs. I also agree with the amazon comment, they are my go-to for trying out some stuff without spending my whole paycheck.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 08:51 AM
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Do stretching routine 5x/week Declutter and re-organize the house Finish the book I'm reading and start a new one Start calculating macros for mealprep Get a morning routine going
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 10:20 AM
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It's morning in my country so we already talked yesterday and we are still together. Reading the new comments was heart-warming. Thank you for this one particularly, I think you really grasped the situation. I am definitely not setting the example very well right now and I know I can do a lot better. This weekend I'm going to "konmari" the whole flat and plan some healthy meal preps for february. A few months ago he used to work much more, but he was at "level 1" of his job and working dead end …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 04:43 AM
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Where's the line between wanting to change someone and encouraging and helping someone achieve their goals ? I thought we could "grow together" and help each other. I mean we do but I guess not as much as I would like.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 03:55 PM
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That's true. No I don't support him and it's not a dead end job, he wants to be a bodyguard and he's a security agent right now. He needs to do some trainings internally, but that's his company who decides when (he expressed interest and they know what he wants to do), he's actually climbing the ladder (already did some trainings and right now he's doing more qualified work) but realistically I'm not sure how much time this will take. You're right that I have to decide if I want to this or not. …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 02:50 PM
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You're so right.... We have a date night planned tonight and I took the day off tomorrow so it'll be a good time to have a serious discussion and break up if that's the only thing we can agree on.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 01:24 PM
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I'm 26 and he's 27. On one hand I know that I could probably find someone more aligned with my life goals, on the other, I think I already have a pretty sweet deal and I really love my boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 01:08 PM
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Thanks, it's a good idea, I never asked him about the timeline of his bodyguard goal. I'm actually very interested in his career choice and we're discovering how the industry works together. He is good with money. And he's generous with me. Excessive game time for me is gaming all day. Basically this week he's on call. He worked on monday from 5am to 2pm and that's all. Yesterday, he didn't do anything productive. Played all day. It was "cat little cleaning day" and he didn't do it. He doesn't u…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:40 PM
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Thank you, you make great points. We already discussed that, he told me "it will take time" and he more or less has a backup plan for his career. He's a pretty "go with the flow". I'm not against video games as I like them myself, but not as a main hobby that takes all of his free time... The thing is, I already told him this 2-3 times. I told him my goals, what I'll need to do in order to achieve them and I told him that if we're going to live together he has to help me. Every time, he agreed w…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:33 PM
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His work is being a security agent. His goal is to be a bodyguard but for that he has to do trainings and it's a company decision. So basically he works when his company gives him missions. Some weeks he works 10h and other weeks +40h so "part time" is not really it. "On call" maybe but most of the time he knows his missions in advance. I agree with you, I would like to see him do something constructive during his free time (this week he has so much free time for example), but I obviously can't …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:04 PM
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How long have you been together ?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 10:39 AM
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If you're indeed prepared to walk away without regrets then I'd say you're absolutely doing the right thing for yourself ! Did you guys ever talk about the prospect of marriage ?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 05:22 PM
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Yes, and that's part of the vetting process. Not staying with someone who doesn't want to be married and try to play games like "walking away". I can't really see it working.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 02:24 PM
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I'm with you on the trp's overgeneralization. Those men are so bitter it's hard to look at. I'm from Europe, and cooking for my man/family/friends is something that really brings me joy. It's such a delicious way to tell those people you love them !! And it goes both ways. I wish trp didn't have that "hating women" feel to it, I mean, how can you respect someone if you hate the whole gender...
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 09:18 AM
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"marry me or I'll walk away" doesn't sound like a very smart thing to say though (even if you're obviously not going to say it out loud)... I think we should integrate this to our vetting process instead of trying to "change" a man who doesn't want to get married. I also think that men will do anything for the "right" woman. If he doesn't want to marry you and if he doesn't make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world when he looks at you, then I'd say you're wasting your time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 09:14 AM
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Not sure to follow your train of thought... Actually, from what I understand you're saying, then I think I'm "envious" of the fact that he doesn't "have to" care as much as I do about household stuff. That's a feeling I work quite hard to eliminate from my brain, it will be better when I'm not working full time, hopefully pretty soon ! Anyway, we're not married (yet) so I don't want to be too "wifey" on him with his meals.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 08:45 AM
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I found that this article has helped me in that regard : http://lifegoalsmag.com/how-i-learned-to-rebalance-my-masculine-and-feminine-energy/ Basically it says : focus on your appearance, surround yourself with your girl friends, check art made by women and the most important : lean back.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 03:19 PM
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I think wearing jewelry and being well groomed are big factors for a feminine look. You can keep your style, just "finish" the look a little bit with some nice pieces and a nice make-up/hairstyle.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 11:05 AM
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Thank you for this post. I saw that comic and couldn't help but feel like it was written from the point of view of a "victim", which is not what we women are. We all choose our own mental load, and sometimes I do find myself jealous that I seem to think and care about household tasks much more than my boyfriend, but that's entirely on me, not him. I realized this with his lunch meals. When he's home around lunch time, he's always going to take care of his meal. Sure, he appreciates when I plan h…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 11:01 AM
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Any tips for some next level lunch packing ? First thing I need to do is buy a lunchbox because right now he gets a tupperware in a plastic bag (I know) but I really want to do better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 03:48 PM
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Oh ok so we were just shaming high N-count women... I mean, I get that there are horrible women out there but there are horrible men too. A lot of RPW, especially new ones, don't seem to understand that the vetting process is the most important thing. I would never want to submit to a man that treats me bad, so why would OP do it ? Because she has a high N-count ? That's bullshit. OP, you need to get rid of this guy and go into nun mode. Read about it. You need to know what you want from someone…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 07:43 AM
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So... no problem - simply advise every woman/female acquaintance (you know) who is searching for a nice, loyal, family friendly, very responsible and dedicated man of character and integrity who might be interested in her as a wife to reveal they've had sex with over 50+ men and note the response. Sooo I would do exactly what I disagree with ? Plus what makes me think that that +50 is intended in a very shaming way ? I don't buy all of the specifics of the red pill theory, particularly ALL the p…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 09:16 AM
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I don't understand why revealing the n-count is relevant ! I don't think it is.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 06:12 AM
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Your problem is not a high N count it's an insecure man
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 06:58 AM
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I don't think looking perfect all the time is a good goal to have in a relationship. Shit happens and if the person you're the most intimate with cannot see you with a spot or even just with no makeup it sounds like hard work ! For example, last winter I got pretty sick and I looked like a ghost for a week. We were 3-4 months into the relationship so I didn't want him to see me like that. On the other hand, having company when you're sick is the best and he wanted to be with me, turns out he end…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 01:17 PM
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May goals (aka the self-care month) : - Take care of my teeth - Schedule my weeks better (goal is to have more time for my side hustle) - Regular sport and homemade healthy meals
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 12:59 PM
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I love you T_T
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 11:36 AM
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PMS hits me hard so I let him know about that, but it would feel kind of creepy if he was the one keeping track of it imho !
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 04:42 PM
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We're in 2018. I think today, no one feels safe and protected for life in a marriage. Anything can happen ! Of course, I think here we all aim to have that life where our husband is never disatisfied (and by extension neither do us) and never leaves, but in real life I think it's a little more tricky. In my opinion, being independent is merely being able to take care of you, on your own, and that sounds important af
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 11:10 AM
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I do because I'm tired of making relationship mistakes. I know I should be taking time to be single, but I also feel like I would be doing an enormous mistake if I stop my actual relationship right now for self growth, I'd rather work harder and achieve both
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/18 12:31 PM
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Yes I'm definitely valuing her opinion of my relationships in high regards now
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 10:08 PM
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Yep I definitely have some projects I've been postponing to spend time with him. Plus I feel like the more time I spend with him the more clingy I get and want to spend even more time with him, but not in a healthy way. e : word
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 09:47 PM
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My mom told me I wasn't thinking straight, and that he wasn't good for me since day 1. My friends liked him and he was always very fun when they were around, I didn't tell them about the negative stuff until I was already thinking about breaking up
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 09:41 PM
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simply dive into the deep end and hope for the best. That's definitely what I did in my last relationship, and although I was thinking "this is the man of my life", my subconscious somewhat knew I was making a big mistake. This time I want to take things slow and be careful, which isn't at all in my nature because I want to give it all, and I'm really feeling it, I'm not afraid this relationship turns out abusive, I know he is respectful and would never want to hurt me in anyway. But still, I fe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 02:50 PM
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I have "faith" in him in a way that I feel he could be a really good captain. I already saw that he doesn't have the same behavior my abusive ex had regarding my generosity and private stuff, I even opened up to him about that story and I saw that it made him angry that I got abused that way by someone. Money isn't really a problem because I work and I have a salary, but going slow is probably my weakness ! I'm feeling so hard for him that I'm having a hard time thinking that ! But you're so rig…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 02:00 PM
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You're right, I'll have to force some boundaries, because I live alone and he doesn't, and he's already spending too much time in my flat ! I like it when we sleep together but I should tell him I need to sleep alone at least 2-3 times a week if not more !
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 01:51 PM
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Wow. Your comment gave me so much to think about. How would you break any habit? By becoming mindful of it, minute to minute. By setting yourself a reward. By recognizing the unpleasant consequences of continuing. I like to see it this way, I'm in the course of breaking some of my bad habits (easier ones though, like brushing my teeth every morning instead of rushing out of bed to work). But like you said, a habit is a habit and it can be broken. This gives me so much confidence. I'm not saying …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:29 AM
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I had a client - the guy oozed sleaze but he was 100% right and should have won - lose to someone who was even worse, just because the judge didn't like him. Yeah that sounds upsetting. I love to hear stories where the opposite is true, but sometimes the law works in favor of those who twist it or have too much power over it. I think society is complex because people are, and good and bad are not always binary when it comes to human nature. Anyway I'd like you to know that I actually appreciate …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 08:55 PM
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bad people usually lose their cases, especially if they have "heartless bitch" lawyers. source: am lawyer Yeah that was a thought I had at 15, no need to take it that seriously. I'm happy you think justice works well for good people. To fix it, you just need to slow everything down, stop acting on reflex, stop assuming people are being more aggressive than they are, etc, and de-escalate rather than lashing out. I'd love that. When I pushed your buttons in that earlier post, you didn't HAVE to la…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 08:42 PM
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You're giving me everything from non-advice to excellent advice to calling me a desperate case ahaha but I am rolling with it because I'm ready to hear everything and you're pressing where it hurts. She said her mom put up with it. It is like when a child has doormat parents My mother didn't put up with it though, she suffered from it. She tried very hard to raise me while working so we could have a different and good life (we're European immigrants). My consolation is that I turned out pretty o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 06:44 PM
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Who said it was "all the time" ? I (don't really) appreciate your comment but I hope it made you feel better about yourself
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 05:26 PM
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I gave the example of what happenned last night. Basically, sometimes, I snap at him over nothing/little things and he's starting to get tired of this particular behavior. Everything else is really good between us so I'm looking at changing this ugly side of myself
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 05:21 PM
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Yes, I never did this, but I have to start somewhere ! I called her... and really liked what she said ! We have an appointment for the 13.04 (she didn't have a spot sooner for my after work hours) we'll see how it goes...
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 02:10 PM
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Thank you so much ! I am starting to see it... I don't really know about BPD but I'll definitely do some internet research. Btw I sent an e-mail to a therapist in my area earlier. She uses mindfulness practices and she just answered to ask me if we could talk on the phone "to see if she can help me". I'm at work but I'm thinking about taking a break to call her right now.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 01:41 PM
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Yep, I've been thinking that too. I hope that I can get rid of it before it blossoms into full abusive mode which I feel could happen because of a previous LTR where I was showing so many red flags (I didn't know about the concept but I was 10x worse with my ex). I hope this is not something set in stone. I'll work in finding a good therapist asap !
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 12:28 PM
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I'll give you yesterday's example because it shows really good how stupid I am : We were having a great time at a café with my father and my SO, we were talking about the Danemark and why people over there seem to be really happy. I started to get excited because I found out about the "hygge" concept not too long ago, and started speaking loudly for them to give attention to what I was saying. My SO was sitting next to me, he came closer and said "honey, can you speak a little lower please ?"...…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 11:40 AM
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Him staying around is enabling you. Yes, I got that, that's why I said that I'd leave him if he still doesn't want to, if (not when!) there's a next time this happens. Two is apologise. "I'm sorry for my general attitude lately". Hug, leave it at that. I actually did that yesterday, I apologize for the behavior that started that particular fight and then I apologized for the general attitude I have. And lots of hugging. The next thing you need to do is figure out the bitchiness. I really think a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 11:00 AM
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Oh and to clarify, I don't seek personal validation in my relationship. I seek true love and trust, someone I can be my true self with, share the doubts and the certainties, share the same goal and building together the path to it. As for everything else - take what you want and leave the rest, your relationships aren't doomed simply because you have some reservations about swallowing TRP. I couldn't agree more. I've been on a journey to self-improvement for almost two years and I'm always findi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 04:59 PM
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Your value as a person isn't defined by your gender, but your value in a relationship is. Wow, I didn't see it like that at all. Thanks for sharing this perspective. I can agree with everything you said ! Good insight, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 04:28 PM
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Would you so selfishly be unwilling to give up your independence to mother your children or build a family with a man? No I wouldn't. But having children is not part of my life goals. If it happens, and I know very well it can, I would sacrifice that for my children. For now though, I think I will be childless (and also know that my mind can change anytime about that anytime) and I'm happy with that decision.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 04:26 PM
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But I insist that your independence is mostly irrelevant when it comes to optimizing sexual strategy. I can understand, originally you didn't precise that it was for sexual optimization purposes and I didn't get it. Being independent is my life goal, optimizing my sexual strategy is not. As for the rest you said, I'm generally very wary of extremes. Like I said, I agree with you to a certain extent. I don't agree either with extreme blue pill stuff like "gender neutrality" (wtf is that anyway?) …
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 04:22 PM
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Yes exactly, I love the versatility of femininity. It's really a super interesting subject ! Thank you again for making me look further instead of dismissing the subject entirely as I would probably have done if it wasn't for your great reply :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 04:11 PM
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I agree with you said to a certain extent. Yes, biology is the essence of human beings and yes, if I lived 50k years ago, my fertility would be my greatest value as a woman. I feel like today's society has evolved, not necessarily in a good way, but the ability to do my nails or wear girly dresses didn't mean shit to the cave man that wanted me to be desirable and fertile. I disagree with you there. My independence is not irrelevant. It's something I live for, it's something I've wished for so l…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 02:46 PM
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Fascinating Womanhood, the title appeals to me. The other two not so much, I'll give this one a try ! I always liked how literature pictured women. Most poets do a great job at making us fantasize about muses with them. I was always attracted to that "great woman behind a great man". When I was younger, my goal was to become the "femme fatale" kind, the woman that everyone would turn their heads to, and not solely because of looks but because of that "aura", "vibe", whatever you call it, that we…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 02:29 PM
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But things like nagging or controlling...definitely unnecessary That really hit home ! Thanks for making me realize that. I have to admit that the first 5 minutes I spent on this sub I had my "what's wrong with these people" attitude on but you guys have some good concepts for every woman out there. I know we, simultaneously, are all different and all the same, therefore what's true for you may very well be true for me. I don't like to generalize and read concepts that are very directive like "d…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 01:38 PM
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Yes, knowledge can't hurt, and I feel that by reading different opinions and ideologies, one can only grow. For example, I know that I kind of fit into the "boss ass bitch" stereotype, and I have to learn to leave my leadership nature at the door when I come home to my SO. He's really good with me, and sometimes I guess I'm unnecessarily mean and/or bossy with him. I will definitely try hard not to from now on. And it wasn't even something I was considering before finding this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 01:01 PM
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I guess it's the part where women control "the sex gates" and men the "relationship gates". I feel like my value as a person is not defined by my gender, I don't necesserally want a "manly man" that thinks I should look pretty, cook and clean for him. Don't get me wrong, of course I want to look pretty, be a great cook and live in a clean home, but I don't want that to be the main reason my SO loves me. I want him to love my conversation, some of my interests, even some of my flaws if possible. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 12:27 PM
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Childless yes, but not single. Independent in the sense that I provide for myself and don't rely on anyone (especially a man) to survive. I am on a self-improvement journey, that's how I found this sub, and I'm trying to get a grasp of it. I don't necessarilly agree that "it's not for me" since what I got from the description and intro posts is that the concept is more biological than ideological. edit : grammar
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 10:59 AM
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