SGTwonk Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	I find it interesting, sad, frustrating, but more interesting Really sounds like an exit affair. For the ones who don’t rationalize their actions by painting you as the villain - a mix of guilt and desire to be with the new person drives them to just want out on easy terms.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/25 08:31 PM
6	STBX obviously looking to get pregnant with new BF Push the divorce through as fast as you can. If she gets pregnant, your divorce will almost certainly be halted until the child’s birth and you may have extra legal steps to take to remove yourself from responsibility for the child because in many states being married to the mother makes you the presumptive father. Sure, you could get in straightened out in the long term, but it might mean months of your life and thousands more in legal fees.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/11/24 05:45 PM
1	I voted yesterday, but there was no hope that it would solve the biggest problem in my life The term "plenty" is meaningless, the reality is that men who pursue custody are almost always granted equitable access to their children. And I'm sure there are plenty of wealthy men who have successfully used the system to fuck over women as well. This is America. We have a pay to play court system for both criminal and civil litigation. Do you have a viable alternative or realistic reforms to offer?	/r/Divorce_Men	07/11/24 11:49 AM
1	I voted yesterday, but there was no hope that it would solve the biggest problem in my life An innocent man who has committed no wrongdoing can be summoned into court, forced to answer questions, forced to reveal very personal details of his life, be separated from his children, and have his money and property taken from him involuntarily. And although he risks going to jail if the judge finds him in contempt, he is offered no Sixth Amendment protection (a lawyer) or the right to a trial by jury. Yep, you just described civil litigation. Your employer can also do this. So can your neig…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/11/24 11:40 AM
1	Wife had an affair Criticizing grammar, desperately trying to shoehorn in an obviously unrelated example, and curiously…no relevant case law which would win the argument with a single reference… Flail more though, it is entertaining.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 08:35 PM
1	Wife had an affair No one said your online activity couldn’t be used against you in court… Now you are so fucking desperate you are constructing straw men out of whole cloth. The desperation is kind of impressive.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 08:18 PM
1	I voted yesterday, but there was no hope that it would solve the biggest problem in my life This sounds less likely a structural issue with family courts and more like you were just totally outgunned and outmaneuvered. Unfortunately, it is very hard to imagine any version of our system where a drastic financial advantage for one side doesn’t result in unfair outcomes. Regardless, I’m truly sorry you are in this position and hopefully your new counsel can do something for you. Honestly, outcomes like yours are why I opted to not have kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 08:00 PM
1	Wife had an affair Still waiting on that Texas case….	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 07:54 PM
1	Wife had an affair A guy who was probably posting wild shit on Reddit and was probably dumb enough to do so with devices his wife had access to is not relevant to this discussion. Even if it were, the answer wouldn’t be to avoid audio/ video - it would simply be to not employ your phone for that purpose. I have had multiple Soldiers save themselves from DV and even SA charges through audio/video recordings. You are an idiot who should cease dispensing quasi-legal advice when you clearly have not the slightest fuck…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 07:42 PM
1	Wife had an affair Post the relevant case then, dipshit. Just a single criminal prosecution or successful civil suit will do. That guy said his Reddit account got doxxed, nothing to do with a recording device or privacy violation. Are you cognitively impaired? If so, I apologize, I think the stuff you guys do in the special Olympics is really awesome.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 07:29 PM
1	Wife had an affair The irony of dispensing this advice when you have your head this far up your own ass is hilarious. Please post the Texas case law of someone being charged with a “privacy violation” for recording a conversation within one party consent standards or STFU.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 04:00 PM
2	Wife had an affair Men and women are different. They typically cheat for divergent reasons. This is why consumption of pornography, sex work, membership on sites/apps for seeking casual is skewed toward men by roughly an order of magnitude. Males simply seek sexual gratification w/o emotional attachment at vastly higher frequencies than women. Typically a woman who cheats is attached to her affair partner and detached from her spouse in ways that make reconciliation impossible or highly undesirable for her spouse.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 03:50 PM
2	I voted yesterday, but there was no hope that it would solve the biggest problem in my life What exact family court practice do you want changed? I think 50/50 custody is the standard in virtually all states now if men actually pursue custody. The reality is that men are disproportionately likely to have jobs which limit their ability to fulfill 50/50, so they don't pursue it. Jobs that require living on remote sites, extensive travel or frequent relocation, military, heavy overtime, unpredictable on-call, trucking etc. Downgrading to a lower paying, but more stable job is rarely an op…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 12:29 PM
1	Wife had an affair He is an adult and this is his family; he simply has a right to know. Also, given how his mom operated it is likely to get back to him regardless and now dad becomes complicit. No one has an obligation to lie on behalf of cheaters. If he wouldn't want to associate with his mother given this knowledge, then he has the right to make that informed decision.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 03:58 AM
3	Wife had an affair He does not, in fact, have to keep trying. Most men leave after their wives have affairs. There are lots of men who regret staying with a cheating partner; never met a guy who regretted leaving.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 03:52 AM
2	Huge fight with husband He earns less than someone working an entry level fast food job. He needs to take day long trips for fucking comic books multiple times per month. And he handles conflict like a sulky teenager. You married a man-child. Don’t pay attention to the bitter dudes here. Most of them ignored massive red flags, married Satan, got wrecked in a divorce, and now blame half the species for their woes. Advice is hard because if he hasn’t matured by 40 then it probably isn’t happening and with the disparity i…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/24 11:33 AM
1	Can’t seem to leave and need to vent So, your chief complaint is that your wife doesn’t have hobbies or hang out with her friends much? And that when you have a falling out with a friend she doesn’t intervene on your behalf? You are contacting HER friends to let them know she misses them? I think you need therapy. You seem to be really confused about how human relationships are supposed to function.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/24 02:18 AM
4	Still processing the reasons There is a phenomenon called post-hoc rationalization. Basically you act on an impulse then you retrofit a justifying explanation that coheres with your self-image. “I’m not a selfish dirtbag for cheating on my husband. I would never cheat on a good man who really loved me. I haven’t truly felt loved by him for years. Our marriage has really been over since that fight at my parents’ house 3 years ago.” Doesn’t matter if you have gushing live notes and hundreds of digital images documenting that …	/r/Divorce_Men	08/10/24 06:22 PM
1	Divorce rates in reality seem off from the commonly cited 50% statistic Dunning-Kruger…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/10/24 02:55 AM
2	Divorce rates in reality seem off from the commonly cited 50% statistic You can’t actually calculate an accurate rate - not all states collect and report data, but even if you had it all you would need to break it down by cohort. The only way to know the lifetime divorce % with certainty for a given cohort of married people is to wait until all couples have either divorced or one partner has died. You can do this, but you are restricting yourself to data and conclusions for elderly folks who married a very long time ago. The relevance of a data set like this for any…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/09/24 03:34 PM
2	Recommendation for a secret audio recording device VAR in the car is a common practice, definitely read the reviews and get one that doesn't make any noises. Generally velcroing under the seat is the preferred method. Be aware that recording conversations you are not a party to is illegal in many cases. I don't know of any cases where spouses suspecting infidelity were charged with such things - that isn't really the purpose of the law - but that doesn't mean you won't become the new precedent or that it couldn't be used against you in some fash…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 07:35 PM
1	Ex now interested in religion wat do? It is very rare that I think a betrayed spouse probably deserves what they have been put through, but you are bringing me around.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 12:00 PM
3	Ex now interested in religion wat do? To put this in Catholic terms, you are currently in self-imposed Limbo leaning toward hell. Detach, restrict communications with the ex to kids' needs/logistics, and move on with your life.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 02:27 AM