SJ530 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Where do I start? Yes, please feel free to DM, will try my best.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/23 05:46 AM
3	Where do I start? CA is a no-fault state. If she is making more or an equal amount of money, as long as she agrees to no-contest divorce...you may even proceed without a lawyer. Not a very popular suggestion, I know, Am guessing you are at the stage where you are indifferent to her infidelity per your posting. Lacking all the details to give you the right suggestions. P/s: I volunteered at DA shelters and have as of this year provided counseling to at least 3 diff high conflict cases in CA. Lawyers, forensics, me…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/23 03:57 AM
4	Am I the only one having trust issues with women and relationships? How long is marriage good? I read a book on happiness long time ago. It says To be happy for a few hours, get drunk. To be happy for a few years, get married. To be happy forever, get yourself a garden. Staying in a marriage is a choice I guess, , it is how much more pain one is willing to tolerate after a few years. Trust - it is a choice to, some choose to not see and trust blindly to have peace. Life is so short, ~30000 days only.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/23 03:20 PM
1	How do I go about starting? File already. You are not consummating the marriage, she is a taker in the relationship if she is not even trying on the intimacy part. DTMFA!	/r/Divorce_Men	02/11/23 01:57 AM
2	I’m not crazy, right? In order to help you heal quicker, you need to protect yourself first, you will then have the ability to protect the kids. The truth will be very painful but you can only point out to her what she did is wrong. It is a common theme here.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/10/23 06:14 AM
0	I’m not crazy, right? Simply ask her " you mean this guy has never met the kids face to face or spend a night with the kids and he is willing to move across the state for you?" Leave it there. You don't need an answer, tell her not to answer. She CHEATED. She may deny, she will not be able ro justify not putting a 1 year and a 6 year old first. The day the older kid call you crying about not being treated well is the day you do a fast track court order and do 100 percent custody with her sharing the child aupooer. Pl…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/10/23 02:50 AM
1	Marriage headed for divorce - Immigrant Wife - Mental Issues You did not mention treating her postpartum depression as first priority. Baby, postpartum is over real. She wanting to hurt herself? May hurt baby too? She is thinking she is better going homes there be support ? Wife or not, I suppose if it is just a friend or acquaintance we want them to get help first.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/10/23 02:42 AM
6	Taylor swift How old is your ex? Under 20? Swift wrote terrible songs, she represents anti love, swift lacks the maturity to write songs from the bottom of her heart. Maybe her manager is behind it. Goes like this ...'blah blah, new money' ouchh My man, no loss there. There is no need to date a Taylor swift fan unless you are getting paid for it. .	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/23 06:01 AM
2	Would like a man's perspective Saw your post, whatever that happened and needing to do a second paternity test to determine if daughter is his, is beyond the racist issue. You guys been together for a very long time. Life is short, go find happiness, give him and yourself a second chance if he is agreeable. No need to use the racist part as a reason. There is no.trust in the marriage at this pont. To be happy for few hours, get drunk To be happy for few years, get married To be happy forever, get yourself a garden.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/23 11:29 PM
3	Pinterest, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Gaslighting Not too long ago, the wife may just end up with an extra box of tupperware or some sort of mlm products that the Joneses sold to her. With excessive consumption of social media these day, to them, every mother son is narcissistic. Just agree with her and you do whatever you want, sir, really.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/10/23 11:36 PM
61	Separated about to reconcile but wife has told me she slept with someone During separation, it is time to reflect and work on things like finance, kids school etc. She did wrong. For your long term wellbeing, best to move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/10/23 08:07 PM
3	Divorce costs Most unfortunately do not get the opportunity to get 3 quotes from lawyers and pick the one that is most value for money. Examples of what attorneys can charge you: 10 percent add-on if you use a credit card to pay. They bill you $50 per text message, yes $50 per txt eg you replied to attorney ' ok, thank you ' They read that message on a Friday evening.....you sent the txt on Friday morning. They charge by min 5 or 10 min It is nearly impossible to get a solid quotation from attorney though. Th…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/23 09:47 PM
-1	Refusing custody of the children I.know of a guy who had 5 girlfriends and 4 kids. (he had 5 - one passed away, basically he had a child with each woman) . He simply stopped working, so that he did not have to pay child support. On, he finds the next victim, he lives off the new girlfriend each time. It worked out for him thus far, , he was doing this for 13-15 years straight and will never get married. He walked away each time.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/23 02:13 AM
2	Items left behind Not everything needs to be settled thru lawyer. It is costly. At some point, you will see that 90 percent of those things you or.ex thot were necessary thru lawyers were small. Nothing is bigger than the loss of a marriage, the pain you feel inside right now. Her crying and your unhappiness with her keeping your things stemmed from the loss of a marriage, it is natural to feel that way right now. The less memorabilia you keep the easier for you to overcome the pain of divorce quicker. Please alr…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/10/23 11:01 PM
1	Items left behind Give notice once on disposing these. If no response, sell them or dispose.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/10/23 09:49 PM
3	I just did my "new" budget. What's the fucking point? Would it be ok to have a side hustle as male escort? Make money and keep the urge in check? Is it not possible for men here in the USA? I think parents should not worry about paying for kids' college, it will.be free sometime in the future. My friend who is a.surgeon just got her student loan forgiven..$100k. Some change there.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/10/23 09:45 PM
1	Got her! Also everyone; check you're bank accounts Your attorney, the court, the judge be busy with your divorce under family court. This is in fact, quite common. At some point if you can settle thru mediation this money part , you should. The judge will tell you, you guys may not like each other but he can only do this much, you guys need to work 90 percent of the dispute out	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/23 11:29 PM
1	Seeking Advice on Raising a Daughter to Be Accountable Never to give up or give in. At about 12-15 years old the girl will make their choice, they know what is good for them. So be the best dad you can please.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/23 02:18 PM
1	Seeking Advice on Raising a Daughter to Be Accountable Try the classic. How to raise a lady by Kay West. A lot on there is common sense, it does remind one that the child is a mirror image of the parent.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/23 04:24 AM
2	Dealing with unnecessary, humiliating and degrading discovery Save some money and skip the part you have to spend more money on lawyers - they are not your friends, the court, the judges, they are not your friends. The lawyers take your money, the court, clerk and judge are doing a day job hence taking your tax payers money. You mentioned nothing to hide. Save that money and go on a nice dinner date with a new woman. love yourself and live like there is no tomorrow. Good luck	/r/Divorce_Men	05/10/23 03:06 AM