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| 2 | Live with 2 attractive bartenders, here are my thoughtsHigh value in this instance is just bringing value to other people’s lives. No need for material items. Just pay attention to people, be kind, and give them respect. That’s high value. | /r/seduction | 02/07/20 07:09 AM |
| 6 | Live with 2 attractive bartenders, here are my thoughtsExcept it's not game. It's real life basic human needs. And it shouldn't be adeptly or clumsily whored out as a way to manipulate people. Your comment reminds me of the Key and Peele skit where they are trying to rob a bank. And one of them is like, "It'll be an inside job. We'll get a job at the bank. We'll work there 40 hours a week. And every two weeks, they'll give us money. We do this for 20-30 years and we'll make TONS OF MONEY." "GAME" would be purposefully projecting a false persona in… | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 01:50 PM |
| 8 | Live with 2 attractive bartenders, here are my thoughtsI was just thinking of this on a 3 hour drive yesterday. Pick Up Artists take very complex, deep, and powerful psychological concepts and try to use them as weapons. It would be like a (future post apocalyptic) caveman hitting two thermal grenades together for a spark to make fire. Like, yeah, eventually they'll make a spark. And yeah, it seems like they are being productive. BUT the grenades could blow up in a shitty way, and if you just used the grenade as it was meant to be used you could cre… | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 12:41 PM |
| 2 | Was he mocking my messy shitty studiohaha 95% no, 5% yes. | /r/seduction | 29/06/20 01:09 AM |
| 5 | Was he mocking my messy shitty studioProbably not. | /r/seduction | 29/06/20 01:06 AM |
| 1 | What is your opening line cold approaching a woman?You look like trouble. Welcome to (place name), I'm glad you could make it. *Gives High Five*, Wow... you give a seriously good (or bad) high five. Cheers, what brings you here. Hey, I'm u/smsd2020 what's your name? | /r/seduction | 26/06/20 08:31 PM |
| 6 | Approach anxietyYou get to control the ingress and egress of the situation. Start very small. Approach a stranger and give them a compliment on (not their body) or mention something about the surroundings. "I really like your purse, necklace, shoes, socks, book you're readying, way you ordered starbucks, whatever. OR This place is pretty cool, I like how it's quiet, do you like the view, whatever" Then leave after they say thanks\answer. Easy leaving strategy: "have a great day!" and walk away Do that 5 or 10 t… | /r/seduction | 25/06/20 04:26 PM |
| 2 | I(22F) can banter and chat with guys I don’t like but not with a crushGreat question, here are a few things that might be going on. You are the star of your own show. The more cool things you do, the cooler you think you are (subconsciously). This makes humans somewhat risk adverse because the fear of failure is a real thing. So, when a guy is pretty attractive your brain knows "Hey, there is a XX% chance this dude could reject me." When the dude is less attractive your brain thinks, "Ok so I'm pretty confident this is an easy win. I'll go for this because "winnin… | /r/seduction | 19/06/20 02:51 PM |
| 2 | I(22F) can banter and chat with guys I don’t like but not with a crushThis is absolutely true, and a great point. If you say an unbelievable affirmation it will actually cause more confusion/ anxiety. I like affirmations that are based on actions and not results. So rather than , “I’m skinny” I’d recommend something like, “I make healthy choices” Then I could link a few together like, I make healthy Choices I don’t let my mistakes derail my commitment Each day is it’s own game. I work hard to refocus after a bad day. | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 10:20 PM |
| 5 | Could someone please explain me eye contactIn this instance it doesn’t matter. You get to choose who you talk to, not the other way around. If your requirement to open with someone is, “they are interested “ then you are letting others choose who you y’all to. If you want to open, do it. Even if she’s never made eye contact with you. | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 11:26 AM |
| 6 | Could someone please explain me eye contactEye contact is dangerous. In the animal kingdom, If you are a predator, and make eye contact with your prey, they now know you’re coming. If you are prey, and make eye contact with a predator, you can see what else is happening around you . So, as humans, eye contact build tension. Looking away releases tension. The management of tension is important early on. If she feels too much she’s creeped out. Not enough and she doesn’t know you’re interested. | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 11:20 AM |
| 2 | I(22F) can banter and chat with guys I don’t like but not with a crushLet’s talk then! Ask a question.... | /r/seduction | 16/06/20 05:11 PM |
| 3 | I(22F) can banter and chat with guys I don’t like but not with a crushDisclaimer: Not a Doctor get medical advice. Not a Doctor Short Answer: Yeah, if you are CLINICALLY anxious, ie: anxious outside of what is medically acceptable as the 'normal' range for humans then anxiety medication would probably help. The catch is, the medical provider is going to try to get you to a range of 'normal' human anxiety, not just obliterate it. Imagine humans are usually anxious on a scale 1 (calm) to 10 (very anxious) and you because your brain is putting too much or not enough … | /r/seduction | 16/06/20 11:02 AM |
| 9 | I(22F) can banter and chat with guys I don’t like but not with a crushWe are saying the same thing. The other day a sales person came to my door. It was a very poor time, I was super busy. They might’ve been the best sales person in the world. We’ll never know because I was like- “sorry dude I’m super busy, bye”. His failure to close a sale with me is in no way a reflection (or function if that’s a more neutral word) on his sales ability or personality . His failure is a function of my schedule. So when you are turned down by someone it’s not about you. It’s about… | /r/seduction | 16/06/20 03:44 AM |
| 72 | I(22F) can banter and chat with guys I don’t like but not with a crushThis is a complicated subject that many mental health professionals don’t really even understand, so don’t beat yourself up. Imagine your self image on a scale from 0 where you see yourself as subhuman to 10 where you’re a true, complete narcissist that is unable to see any flaw in your personality. Both of these extremes are not ideal and the majority of human fall somewhere in the middle. Note: when I say “self image” I’m referring to how your subconscious sees you, not what you ‘think’ of you… | /r/seduction | 16/06/20 03:35 AM |
| 271 | I(22F) can banter and chat with guys I don’t like but not with a crushThe short answer is you have “try to not try” as stupid and ridiculous as that sounds. Detailed: The awkwardness we feel that blocks us from being in our comfort zone is a physical manifestation of the mental anxiety (or fear) of rejection that starts when realize we want something, in this case another humans approval. So when you have no expectations and no hopes or feelings attached to a conversation, it flows smoothly. You can easily get in the zone and be natural. When you “want” something,… | /r/seduction | 15/06/20 11:59 PM |
| 1 | STOP OVERTHINKINNG WOMEN“LIKE A BULL RAMMING INTO HIS PREY” Bulls are actually prey animals... male cows... driven mostly by fear. Also this sub is r/seduction not r/icansayhitoawoman | /r/seduction | 15/06/20 12:25 AM |
| 15 | When cold approaching a girl ...This is a fantastic question and one that many people struggle with. Even if you don’t struggle approaching women (the “I can talk to anyone “ type) you may still struggle with a logical flow from “hi” to “let’s see each other again.” Here is one way to do it. Approach with confidence. The simplest answer is “hi, my name’s (whatever)”. This person doesn’t know you so there is a lot of unspoken tension. For example they may be consciously or sub - consciously thinking: is this person a threat, Wi… | /r/seduction | 14/06/20 06:09 PM |
| 6 | How to really stop putting women on a pedestal?I love psychology, but am not a psychologist. | /r/seduction | 13/06/20 01:34 AM |
| 45 | How to really stop putting women on a pedestal?This is a really, really interesting question. First of all, women aren't the issue here, it's what you think you want from them. Do you want sex? A friendship? An intimate relationship? A wife? What is it that you want from women that makes them higher than you? You can ask yourself the "5 whys" on the statement, "I put women on a pedestal" Why? Cause I think they are better than me Why? Because they've never paid attention to me Why? Because I don't deserve attention Why? Because.... whatever … | /r/seduction | 12/06/20 11:05 PM |
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