SPENCEandtonic Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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4	I feel my age is a -ve factor Just wait until you’re 37. I remember thinking I was old at 27. Enjoy it my friend. You are as young as you’ll ever be.	/r/seduction	16/11/25 03:14 AM
9	How is it that I got most of my best girls while unemployed? Sometimes my vibe is better in between jobs.. every few years I’ll take a few months off work. I honestly think it’s bc I don’t feel shackled down by “the man” and I’m actually living for those few months.	/r/seduction	18/08/25 01:39 PM
4	I approached a girl for the first time and she rejected me weirdly, I feel bad You can’t control how someone else reacts.. maybe she has a bf, maybe she’s just not in the mood, it doesn’t have to have anything to do with you. Keep it up.. and don’t overthink it. You could literally just smile at her and say, “i think I’ve seen you on this train before. I’m ___ how’s your night been?” I promise you even the most handsome guys get rejected all the time. It’s just part of the process. It’s not personal.	/r/seduction	03/12/24 03:20 PM
2	Is your sexual life going to be lower or over once you're past the age of 25? One thing I will say is this.. I remember being 25 and working in a bar full of 21 years olds and thinking to myself, "I'm getting way too old and running out of time to be with these girls". It is all relative. I'm 34 now. From my perspective, 25 is still so young. I'm sure when I'm 45, 34 will seem so young. This is the perfect time for you to meet amazing women, gain experience, and fulfill yourself. Get out there, make us proud you animal.	/r/seduction	26/10/22 06:35 AM
3	This community has helped me a lot with women. Thank you! Would love to share what I’ve learned! In the past I talk about how I like to collect thrift store art pieces so I will say something like let’s go back to my place and make a cocktail and if you’re lucky I might even l show you my thrift store art collection. Great list tho. Good luck boys.	/r/seduction	02/08/22 06:19 PM
15	How to keep going after cold approaching? Watch Social Animal on YouTube. Ruben gives really great, direct advice on how to approach. Just found the channel s few weeks ago and I love it. You can literally say anything. Bold move to approach and tell her you wanted to meet her. What do you want to know about her? Ask her what her favorite flavor of Gatorade is ? Tell her everyone’s into horoscopes these days but you can tell a lot about a girl by the flavor of Gatorade she drinks. Then just make a goody cold read. Tell her orange Gatora…	/r/seduction	02/08/22 05:23 PM
2	Do people really have amazing sex lives and adventurous stories from college? I feel like I'm missing out a lot! I didn’t explore a lot sexually in college. Other than a few girls that were interested in me, I didn’t hook up much. I just didn’t know how it all worked. It’s important to remember, if you’re thinking about fun, sexy, kinky, threesomes then so are the women you are meeting. We’re not all that different. But the one thing I didn’t realize until much later in life is it’s a man’s job to escalate at each point in an interaction. So.. talk about threesomes more. Joke about sex more with the girls …	/r/seduction	21/07/22 09:25 PM
14	After first approach in ages I was told to kill myself. Should I continue with seduction? I know it's easier said than done but.. don't focus on what she said. Focus on the fact that you went out and expressed yourself by approaching a woman you were really attracted to. Many men can't do that. You're now in control of your life. Keep it up. You can't control how people respond, and it usually has way less to do with you than you think. Don't let it get you down at all. You found out real quick that she isn't a girl you want in your life. No matter how beautiful she is, she treats …	/r/seduction	20/07/22 09:10 AM
1	Do You Guys Take Shots Before a Date? I’m a career bartender and love booze and the stories behind all the different spirits and cocktails. One thing I’ve learned over the years is alcohol is a powerful drug. It’s very addicting, and I’ve seen it become a crutch for many people and ruin many lives and relationships. We all consume it for different reasons (to escape, to be more present, to be more fun, to calm down, to celebrate, etc). What I’ve noticed is we all use it as a short cut to mask our personality flaws. I think the bette…	/r/seduction	15/07/22 09:36 PM
1	I always fumble when I'm so close and it pisses me off In short, you should always try to escalate sooner than later if that’s what you want out of the relationship. Women respect boldness, even if they reject you. No one respects someone who is hiding their intentions. As for the second girl, it might not even have anything to do with you. Maybe her ex came back into the picture. The problem is your self confidence. You keep assuming YOU did something wrong. You are an animal, OP, her loss of she doesn’t see it. There’s better women on the other si…	/r/seduction	12/07/22 09:18 PM
8	How do you actually flirt with girls? You could always tease her by saying something like.. “A girls drink order tells me everything about her” When she asks what hers means make it slightly sexual like.. “9 out of 10 girls who drink x are those sensitive, likes to cuddle and drink hot tea type of girls.” She’ll respond to this innocent accusation and maybe even ask you.. “What’s the 1 out if 10” Then just say, “you know, the ones that like their hair pulled” This is just some on the spot example, but I think something like this wor…	/r/seduction	30/06/22 09:07 PM
3	A little rant When it comes to conversation specifically. Look up the New York Times article 36 questions that lead to love. It's a great list of questions that are deep and open ended and answering them requires vulnerability. Some of them are more fun than others, some are a little too deep, but they will teach you how to talk more interestingly and open ended. Those are great for building comfort and trust. If you can sprinkle in some funny or interesting life experiences in some of your answers, then you'…	/r/seduction	30/06/22 07:15 AM
1	A girl I don’t know hmu on Instagram… This definitely sounds shady. Proceed with caution. Most random messages I get on Insta are some type of scam. I don't even entertain them or accept follow requests. Good luck OP	/r/seduction	30/06/22 06:49 AM
1	I am probably going to permanently give up on dating. It just isn't in the cards for me. Maybe in the next life. Hey OP, you've got quite a few things going on, don't you? I think it's best to take baby steps. First of all, the ship hasn't sailed. You are the youngest you are ever going to be today. Time is made up and age is only relevant. 50 year olds think 30 year olds are so young. You're not even 30 yet. You have your whole life ahead of you. That being said, you can die tomorrow and you only get to live this life once, as far as we know, so let's get this ball rolling. Therapy is probably important. …	/r/seduction	30/06/22 06:25 AM
11	Just got rejected for being 'incredible' I think this is spot on. Don't look too much into what she said other than the fact that she said she didn't want things to move forward with you. She isn't romantically interested in you right now. She isn't going to flat out say I don't think you are high value enough, or I don't find you attractive, or I'm not in love with you. Instead she's going to either blame it on herself and say something like "I'm just not ready for a relationship, or a guy like you" or she's going to say something lik…	/r/seduction	30/06/22 06:04 AM
2	Just got rejected for being 'incredible' I disagree. She has stated she isn't into you. You can't worry about what you can't control. Maybe she didn't feel attracted enough to you, maybe it has nothing to do with you at all and it relates to something in her life. Regardless, just focus on yourself and move on. The only way you'll get her later, if you even want to, is if you focus on yourself, live your life, and maybe her situation changes (she feels she mis judged you and is more attracted to you, or whatever is happening in her lif…	/r/seduction	30/06/22 05:54 AM
1	Dating is a lot like poker Hey OP, Poker nerd here. Love this analogy. I find that poker gives me countless lessons in life. May the run good continue in dating and at the tables. Cheers!	/r/seduction	28/06/22 09:34 AM
1	How to “Attract” or have “Attractive personality” Hey OP, it's hard to really pinpoint what could be causing you to not attract with just this little bit of information but I really think you'd benefit from reading or listening to Models by Mark Manson. He talks quite a bit on inner game and confidence and there's a bunch about being too nice and what it explicitly says to the people you meet. Essentially it says, I don't value myself more than I value you. That's needy and low value behavior. I'd explain more but I feel like the book explains …	/r/seduction	28/06/22 09:27 AM
9	If you're a virgin, how do you juggle between the idea of just wanting "casual" sex (I.e. go from a first or second date right back to your place) with something more gradual? To answer your questions, waiting will not make things more intimate. It's just an excuse you are creating because either you are afraid to ask girls out, or you are afraid to make a move on the first date. As a result, you justify it by saying, "I'm a good guy, I care, I want it to be more intimate that's why I am waiting." In my experience, intimacy is built from mutual vulnerability. Sex is a pretty vulnerable act and it definitely creates more intimacy. The quicker you have sex, the quicker …	/r/seduction	28/06/22 09:04 AM
3	Not feeling how I want Just throwing this out there. For me, I make it a point to exercise at the beginning of every single day. Even if it is literally a 15 minute, 1.5 mile jog around the block. That small win makes me feel accomplished and ready to take on the next win for the day. It makes me feel masculine and confident. That little boost is usually enough to get me going. I'm a bartender, and I feel a much lower self worth and I'm unconsciously mad at myself if I don't do this before I work. I notice I connect w…	/r/seduction	28/06/22 08:13 AM
4	One of the hardest realisations I learned in life: Being Alpha isn't about money or what you do. Pick up “models” by mark manson on audio book. I feel like it does a great job of explaining how to define your values and live up to them, which essentially makes you fulfilled, which gives you confidence and esteem, and helps you attract women. These values are different for everyone. This main post is correct in some ways in my opinion, but it’s just one unique example and doesn’t paint the full picture. For some people, chasing a career which is tied to their values, will make them very alph…	/r/seduction	02/05/22 01:39 AM