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#JustLVMThingsSPdoc/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:45 PM
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mediaSPdoc/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/10/21 02:33 PM
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Hmm I’m genuinely curious to understand your perspective. Why so?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:27 AM
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But why not someone you both equally love? How is it fair to the other person if you love them less?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 09:29 PM
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Perfect analogy 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:48 AM
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Some forms of adhd have similar stigmas tho
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:37 AM
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I’m also a neurodivergent woman with adhd, but he does have a point in the first paragraph. You are conflating subjective attractiveness with conventional attractiveness/desirability politics. As a medium skinned woman of color, I’m not gonna be “hot” or “sexy” the same way an NT White woman is by conventional beauty standards. Agree on his physical standards being objectifying. But know that needing a baseline physical attraction is what most people need regardless of gender and isn’t inherentl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:35 AM
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I literally said maybe when I talked about assumptions. For the most part, none unless he shared his sexual history. Happy??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:54 AM
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I’m pretty sure that goes hand in hand with the last point I made. But back to the original points I made, most sane people of any gender are considering many factors in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:25 AM
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Even for interest, I’ve seen that what people are looking for varies per individual regardless of gender. Some women too could talk to and say yes to one date based off of looks alone. And some men definitely are considering things in a conversation to continue talking to and seeing someone. Needing effort outside of looks is more often the case when a woman’s physical attraction to a man is barely there (someone we’d rate a 5 or 6 perhaps). And attraction growing to someone just mid in looks is…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:52 PM
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As a woman, I will say you are for the most part correct. There is also some truth to the fact that being into someone doesn’t have to be instant, but all these comments disagreeing with you don’t realize there’s a difference between putting in effort and forcing something. I cannot tell you how many times persistence or just being a try hard has made me go from lukewarm to repulsed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:44 PM
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What’s well established is most people need a mix of physical attraction, personality compatibility and chemistry to whole heartedly pursue someone as a potential partner. What you’re claiming sounds like a fairy tale idea of love at first sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:32 PM
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No assumptions, even subconsciously, unless said guy shared his sexual history with me. Tbh, I think assumptions would also be based on the personality vibe. If he had a particular fuckboy vibe, than maybe. If he had a shy guy or even introvert vibe, probably wouldn’t assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:12 PM
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So physical attraction alone is enough for a man to want a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:01 PM
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Women have a higher standard for casual sex than men because most men will sleep with anyone with a pulse when they just want to bust a nut or because they’re lonely. But most women’s physical bar matches the physical bar for relationships. It all depends tho on whether or not a woman is willing to or interested in casual sex. So the real factor at play here is that men have lower standards for casual sex. We know that the bar for casual sex literally is any woman that’s not morbidly obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:04 PM
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Another woman here. All of y’all on this particular comment thread are missing the point. You’re not addressing most of the people’s claim (whether it’s accurate or not) that women have higher physical standards for casual sex than for relationships. Either way, the consensus here should be that men and women are selective about different things. Because what these men are saying is they’ll have sex with a woman they aren’t attracted to physically for a relationship. You and I (in other comments…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 08:09 PM
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Not sure why you took this as an argument? I’m not trying to make a point. I asked a q out of curiosity. My curiosity specifically being that if one lowers their physical standards for casual sex than for a relationship, would a guy have nothing more than casual sex with a woman attractive enough to date if he could get woman of that degree of attractiveness wanting only sex. The context for my q-I once told a guy I was seeing id like to be fwb after like our second. In my case, I may “fuckzone”…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:00 PM
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I’m a woman. The thing is it still counts as a lower bar because we’re being less selective on compatibility for something casual than for a relationship. We’re just having a lower bar on different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 03:24 PM
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I guess a better q is, are all those wide range of women you find attractive still attractive enough for a relationship if they meet other factors/criteria for one?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:55 AM
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Let’s put it this way-maybe women have a High bar for looks, but the casual sex bar is lower in that we aren’t gonna care abt sharing the same morals, values, interests, etc. For example, I have a friend who decided to sleep with a muscular, attractive guy willing to date her, but she wouldn’t date him because she required having the same religion as her
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:32 AM
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Genuine question. If a woman you started to see chose to fuckzone you/a guy, and the guy is down for it, does it mean he wasn’t that attracted to her all along?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:25 AM
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Well, you’re essentially saying that those men still fit a high physical bar. I think the difference moreso is that women prioritize other things in a relationship while men prioritize looks in a relationship over casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:23 AM
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But do you really find them attractive if you wouldn’t want a relationship with them on the basis of appearance?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:19 AM
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Honestly I’d argue that low self esteem plays a bigger role than unattractiveness in of itself. I’ve known attractive women get into fwb situations with men they have feelings for due to low self esteem. And I’d say even despite comfort with ourselves, sometimes emotional attachment to an individual man gives said man power over us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:04 AM
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I was literally adding on to you as to why it’s an oversimplification
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 07:45 AM
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1) I’m not a man 2) sure, but I still fail to see how talking about violent men is misandry. That’s like saying talking violent women is misogynistic
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 04:01 AM
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It’s misandry to acknowledge male violence against trans women?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 03:57 AM
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I gave an opinion based on facts I’ve learned before. In a college course in fact.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 03:56 AM
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Are you genuinely trying to learn, or are you looking for a “gotcha?”
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 03:41 AM
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Fair enough
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 02:26 AM
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I do agree their prejudiced against men plays a role. But this entire post feels very..disingenuous. Like centering men’s feelings over genuine concern for the safety threats posed against trans women. Plus, we can’t deny trans women face a large proportion of violence, especially sexual assault, from cisgender men
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 02:25 AM
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Exactly this. For starters, we can’t ignore trans women get beaten and killed by cisgender men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 02:22 AM
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I get where this post is overall going, but I wouldn’t say this. I mean trans women that get violently beaten and raped by cisgender men??
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/21 02:22 AM
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“Trigger” lol speaking like a conservative alright 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 10:31 PM
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And none of my activism includes men. They already have the world in their hands. Short men are only as oppressed as the patriarchy they created and benefit from. Still don’t see where I even remotely implied that. I never said men are oppressed but go off. You’re the one who seems obsessed with them to even feel the need to say that. I’m going to bed because I have a job and an actual life to get to tomorrow, so toodles child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:27 AM
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Lol you’re gonna cherry pick words to create a message I didn’t imply at all? If it helps you feel good about “winning” some argument and sleep well at night, you do you, boo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:49 AM
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I don’t see how that one sentence implied that at all? That’s just a way to say their character matters More than height. It feels very “not all men” to take it as an insinuation that tall guys are bad or all short guys are good? She also didn’t say anything about women liking tall guys being shallow. Ofc man or woman, Having preferences doesn’t make one shallow, but body shaming those who don’t fit those preferences are. Calling her desperate feels rooted in misogyny itself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:44 AM
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I don’t think hyping guys up is the same as wanting to get picked. I read this as no different from those male celebs with a large female following who do preach body positivity/non-conventional beauty to hype those women up. Now obviously any man with self loathing insecurity is a dangerous red flag-which includes those incel short guys. Also even just taking physical attraction alone, some of us genuinely don’t care abt height? Like good for women who prefer tall guys, but I just genuinely don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:27 AM
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Actually he did say she’s good at acting. A talent of hers. Ever occurred to you that maybe it’s insensitive for a non-Jewish person to compare what’s going on here to the Holocaust? Also sorry to burst your bubble but in a world that favors attractive people of all genders, there’s way bigger fish to fry than pointing out that beautiful people can be smart too. Anyone can. This lady still has more than food on her table
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:11 AM
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Maybe because a non-Jewish German still shouldn’t speak on it the way a Jewish person with ancestors who survived should?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:07 AM
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Is she Jewish though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:03 AM
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Or maybe it’s because conceit and having an ego is ugly, no matter what you physically look like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:36 AM
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I guess I was coming from it’s not as simple as consciously giving hot men a free pass, but finding it harder to see through seemingly nice guys who have good charisma. I also agree with you attractive men can get away with more when you take the romanticization of say 50 shades
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/09/21 03:54 PM
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I really think it's foolish to suggest attractive men dont get away with more before being labeled a creep than ugly men. They absolutely can. Yes, I did not disagree
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/09/21 02:05 PM
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I think the person is trying to say that Christian’s behavior, as written by a female author, is wrongfully romanticized (due to his attractiveness) rather than rightfully portrayed as creepy. That is true though. You did raise a true point about how many of these were created by men, and a lot of the issues and frustration raised by the commenters on this post are created by patriarchy/toxic masculinity. The thing though about female targeted media, as part of socialization women will pick up o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/09/21 05:18 AM
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Rather than a higher threshold, I think said attractive men (or even regular looking men with a lot of charisma) just know how to manipulate and gain the trust of vulnerable women, or know how to say the right things.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/09/21 03:46 AM
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That sounds like something feminists do criticize though?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/09/21 03:00 AM
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I mean I do believe in intersectional feminism. Just critique the toxic aspects of it strife on social media or basically any colloquial/informal space. NLOG is “not like other girls”
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/09/21 02:29 AM
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As a woman, I’ve always hated those kind of feminist tweets too. I think I myself always love those “fall for the underdog” story, regardless of the “underdog’s” gender. On top of that, they’ll complain we never see the “ugly” girl getting the “hot” guy, but once we do, they’ll say that the “ugly” girl is some NLOG “pick me” or complain about the hot girl being mean.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/09/21 01:41 AM
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Considering it isn’t the 50s, it isn’t that common.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 06:52 PM
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It's ironically pretty sexist because it implies women are so inherently selfish that it's not even conceivable a woman would ever speak up for men out of genuine empathy and conviction. It's the female equivalent of calling male feminists "simps" or "white knights". But of course the feminists who use that word are completely blind to that. Omg yes! I hate how we have to suppress basic human decency and empathy to not be spun into this woman who is pandering for men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/08/21 05:21 PM
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Another good retort is that it is misogynistic to allege that everything a woman does is motivated by male approval. This is true (a lot of people do assume that everything women do is to please men) and a good way to flip the script back on the accuser. This
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/08/21 05:14 PM
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As another woman, I want you to know your feelings are valid and I get where you come from ❤️
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/08/21 05:12 PM
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Was this actress on the cast of The Interview?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:50 AM
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It’s more painful if they’re good looking tho..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:37 PM
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I agree with all your points, tho I’d like to point out that for demisexual people they don’t feel sexual attraction without an emotional connection, so personality is enough for them for the sexual attraction to build. For those who are sexual, physical attraction is important for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:15 PM
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If she’s attracted to him and he puts in effort for her, what’s wrong with it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:59 AM
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Horses don’t deserve such disrespect 😤in all seriousness, I’m sorry you had to go through that, and I’m sure you know what you deserve now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:03 AM
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You’re correct about body positivity not forcing people to find anyone attractive. But there’s a difference between systematic attraction and individual attraction. I would say on a systematic level, body positivity would mean that a fat person (especially a fat woman btw) shouldn’t have to lose weight to be inherently deserving of a thin or fit partner (while obviously knowing one isn’t entitled to them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:15 PM
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Ok as someone of Tamil Indian descent I’m proud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:16 PM
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I studied abroad in Japan 2 summers ago. It’s still a lovely place. It’s also one of the safest countries for women. Obviously sexism isn’t non-existent anywhere, but don’t let these deter you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:50 AM
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I agree with you about work ethic and liking what you do, but imo having an entire ego attached to productivity, accomplishments, and ambition makes a man low value in a totally opposite direction. Internalized capitalism intertwined with toxic masculinity turns me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:27 AM
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This post never said that. This post is saying someone who makes that but lacks empathy is not HV. Because let’s face it, there’s a reason why “eat the rich” is a saying. Because of selfish, greedy corporate moguls like Jeff Bezos. And wanting someone who earns 6 figures is a fine standard if that’s a dealbreaker to you. But someone earning, say, 70k isn’t automatically low value. Some people are genuinely passionate about careers that make merely that (which to my knowledge is still a more than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:19 AM
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Exactly. Also who’s to say she isn’t struggling with depression in the first photo? Anyone can have a mental illness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:58 AM
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Or...we could normalize that women may not always be wearing makeup and their looks will change with age. Let’s stop acting like being treated as a human automatically results in us looking conventionally attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:57 AM
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I think as for where such books are coming from, it’s general dating advice that even if someone doesn’t tick all your boxes, attraction can grow over a handful of dates when they tick your personality boxes. This advice is relative-works for some people, and doesn’t work for others. Obviously, You’re valid in knowing your needs to be physically attracted from the get go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:42 AM
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Am I the only one that felt we were supposed to like what was considered conventionally attractive, and that being aware of conventional beauty standards fucked me up to the extent of believing things I used to like were ugly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:03 AM
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Yea I agree. But I find the idea that a brilliant “ugly” woman is less than more offensive than an attractive woman assumed to be dumb. And I know attractive women shouldn’t have their intelligence undermined, but I get frustrated that a lot of women’s empowerment spaces care about that more than unattractive women not getting any recognition or value at all (and that unattractive women are thereby ignored in women’s empowerment spaces too).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:50 AM
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But why can’t we be just brilliant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:38 AM
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I mean attraction matters, yes, and there’s a lot to be said for double standards and hypocrisy, but the idea that an ‘ugly’ person is inherently undeserving of a ‘hot’ person is messed up. Like nobody is entitled to anyone, and people certainly don’t have to settle for someone they’re not attracted to, but “leagues” in dating is a valid social problem tbh. Also, this just says, unintentionally, to settle for the “ugly” woman. And who’s to say every “ugly” woman is going to be into said “ugly” m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:15 AM
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Thank you! Honestly, it’s also a bit misogynistic how these comments reduce it all to fighting for male validation. That’s such a simplistic view of conflicts that happen within women. In middle and high school environments, girls (and even guys) with those interests are sadly judged and excluded as “weird.” I was never into video games and whatnot, but I was considered a “nerd” by fake “friends” (who happened to be stereotypical “girly girls”) and my only true friend (still my best friend to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:49 PM
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I think whether or not you fit conventional beauty standards doesn’t dictate whether you’re a HVW/M or LVW/M. Both kinds can be assholes and both kinds can be respectful. Find someone that’s HV and that you’re personally attracted to (conventionally attractive or not). Someone who’s respectful but not personally attractive to you isn’t entitled to date you, but is worthy of respect and may just be a friend or acquaintance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:09 PM
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Well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:06 PM
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How do you know he’s dead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:23 AM
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Genuine questions: for number 4, doesn’t “going with the flow” mean to take things slow, especially if we are talking less than a month or 2? Asking as I don’t like to rush into a commitment fast. Also don’t some people go with the flow for reasons unrelated to you (ie recovering from a breakup)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:26 AM
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I may have gotten petty yesterday because of all the people being close minded and flat out denying pretty privilege. I definitely know what you’re saying is true. I’m glad to see someone on this thread being civil and seeing all perspectives <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:46 PM
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Ok either way I don’t see how any of this takes away from the existence of pretty privilege, the original topic at hand. You’re arguing with me for what now? Even if someone lied about being a women, how does that make me someone that lives my life for men? Some of those commenters show who they are by posting their own pics to that sub. I’m not against if a man happens to comment so long as it’s tactful/not sexual. I still don’t get how I’m a pick me unless you can bring proof of me throwing wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:44 PM
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Enjoying compliments and attention is not the same thing as hating myself. Especially if I prefer compliments from other women than men. Tell me how my self esteem is in the toilets. I never said it is empowering, but the logic that it’s inherently oppressive and a lack of self worth is patronizing and absurd. Also, a pick me throws other women under the bus for men, so what do selfies have to do with that? Y’all throw that word around like free candy without knowing its original meaning. It doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:24 PM
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I definitely agree it can be situational. On the flip, “ugly,” people, even as little and elementary and middle school kids, get bullied to the point of suicide. I’m sorry to hear your experiences with bullying though <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:56 PM
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Yet you dismiss the lived experiences of women of color, fat women, and women (including in those categories) who aren’t considered conventionally attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:43 PM
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Shaming women for taking pics and enjoying compliments? How is that not internalized misogyny? Enjoying compliments (that aren’t sexual-literally the honest part was to not have men who give those to every women out of desperate horniness) and positivity is not the same as low self esteem. If that was the case-I might have posted on “am I ugly.” I know I’m neither ugly nor beautiful by conventional beauty standards. Being in the middle, I can see both sides. I’m allowed to notice the biases to a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:40 PM
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Where did I say he respected you (after you brought up him asking you out)? I said he didn’t disrespect you or use you for sex. Clearly, you missed my point that they respect some women more than others, even if you aren’t immune to misogyny. In general, they have respect for more attractive women, and you’re literally claiming it isn’t real because you haven’t seen it. I mean look at gay men like Milo yiannapoulis-he definitely isn’t trying to fuck attractive women. And I never denied the RISK …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:18 AM
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The rare times I see pretty privilege being discussed-I know it includes attractive men and women. You’re reading into the term too literally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:11 AM
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Some of you guys call any women who disagree with you a pickmeisha. What does talking about pretty privilege (in my case I include attractive men and attractive women) to do with impressing men (as if that of all topics would help actual pick mes impress men)? Clearly, you’re incapable of reading between the lines. It’s called being wary of a privilege group, whether it’s wariness of men, white people, pretty people, etc. We are allowed to be wary of and dislike men and white people, but can’t d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:45 AM
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I did one for fun. I usually delete those. And free compliments was created for women uplifting women so... What does that also have to do with my points on pretty privilege? Women wanting to be friends with attractive women is what I see all the time. Just take a look at social media too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:29 AM
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Clearly you haven’t read enough studies. There are studies showing that less attractive KIDS suffer childhood abuse (even to the point of getting killed) most (boys and girls). And that parents pay attention to the needs of “cute” children. People care more about attractive people’s death (or preventing it) too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:27 AM
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Attractive men getting away with murder is evidence of pretty privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:23 AM
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Again, the first example is white supremacy and beauty intersecting. They’re respected for being more beautiful, and theyre literally considered more beautiful for their proximity to whiteness. Just because you’ve never heard doesn’t mean it isn’t true. Which again shows blinding to your privilege. If anything, I’ve never seen attractive women get loathed or jealousy from other women-only heard of it online 🤷🏽‍♀️look on social media, you’ll see women only picking “pretty” friends. I’ve heard and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:13 AM
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That obviously goes to intersectionality. Conventionally attractive woc get treated better by white people than conventionally unattractive ones. Yall don’t face racism the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:48 AM
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Nah, women only want to be friends with attractive women, even if she were to have a horrible personality. The cattiness/jealousy thing is a bs patriarchal stereotype, and basically non-existent. Sorry to burst your bubble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:43 AM
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Privileges are job promotions, more friends (especially women), not being judged as weird, people caring about your death (or preventing it) more, and shorter jail sentences. Oh and men want to get in the pants of “less attractive” women because they’re “easy access,” and attractive women are seen as more worthy to marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:42 AM
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Actually pretty privilege intersects with racism very much. POC with light skin and Eurocentric features are much more respected for a reason. Regarding the last one, not everyone’s looks fade. Those who “aged gracefully” are recognized and respected more. About “cheap dick,” it’s attractive women that are seen as worth settling down with, and “unattractive” women that are seen as only “good for fucking” (and completely disrespecting after a one night stand). And let’s talk about how being attra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:35 AM
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The negative parts you mentioned of being pretty is no different from “white privileged isn’t real because I grew up poor” or men facing toxic masculinity. Even women are more biased to other attractive women-being attractive means more female friendships and acceptance, while less attractive ones are deemed “weird” for things that are a acceptable in you. Also, it very much intersects with racism and sexism. Most of the beautiful people are white or POC with Eurocentric features. As for sexism,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:27 AM
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Good lord I’m not surprised in the slightest least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:16 PM
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I think racism plays a huge role as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:00 AM
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If he said your cuteness makes up for your lack of humor, we probably did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:35 PM
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Well a guy I matched on bumble once negged me. If you want to know how they react, I basically called him out saying “backhanded compliments don’t work on me.” And he immediately said he was “just kidding.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:47 PM
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Wasn’t that post written by a MENA woman? The comments here blaming immigrants are no doubt racist. Though I’d assume women of color can specially call out men of their race?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:31 PM
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Speaking of racist, it’s appalling how much I read about the violent anti-Semitism going on in France, and how it gets overlooked by law officials.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:54 AM
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As an Indian woman born and raised in the states, women still do that?? (Putting western men on a pedestal?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:53 AM
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Shame. I went to France a year ago, and I remember finding so many of the men attractive. But ofc, men disappointing never surprises me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:51 AM
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Here’s a caveat: yes, we can easily have a man. But the supply of HVM isn’t enough. Also, depending how much attraction matters to you, can be tough to find a man we are attracted to enough that’s also HVM. That being said, being single isn’t an insult. And is more a reflection of the available quality than you 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:48 PM
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I’m pretty sure this has been said by feminists because rape culture sells it being solely about sex and enabling victim blaming (ie what she wore, how she tempted him, etc.). I think it’s true that it’s about sex and power. The power aspect is also just entitlement to the sex. I think bigger than lust/sex is the exertion of aggression and violence, hence why is it a tactic during wars. Or if you look at how abducted women are subject to other various acts alongside r*pe. So let’s not dismiss th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:18 AM
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Ha I’ll still take the former
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:12 AM
52

Yuck. Can’t believe I read this while eating dinner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:09 AM
7

I think there’s a difference between a man handing casual sex as an offer to a woman vs a woman having the deciding power for declaring a relationship with a man as casual sexual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:07 AM
9

I mean nothing wrong with getting intimate with someone you’re seeing but not serious with yet, especially if it’s on your terms. You can totally be the one to like someone enough to date and sleep with but not see them as long term material. The power is in your hands if they’re short term on your terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:01 AM
20

I feel like extremely religious men are a no go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:27 AM
1

I think safety matters. Unfortunately, we have to be careful about making such a man aggressive when we say to fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:40 PM
14

Are people with adhd included in this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:01 AM
10

Would talking about a religious or spiritual community work as well? Also, by perceived beauty, do you mean being more or less conventionally attractive makes us vulnerable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:00 AM
4

Hahaha a guy I rejected after 3 dates asked me if I will cover for him the next times (I initially was open to staying friends because ngl I didn’t expect him to react negatively to the rejection).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:59 AM
6

This! I made a post few days ago on how just because a woman didn’t continue seeing a man doesn’t mean he was used for a free dinner. And so much backlash from commenters about how we should go Dutch and why men are expected to pay for dates. I wish your comment could be automatically replied to all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:13 AM
13

Actually, you don’t have to be conventionally attractive in general to have standards. The issue is that women who don’t fit societal beauty standards are expected to be thankful for anything they get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:27 PM
8

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:44 PM
32

I feel like beauty being our power is why our value is based on our looks in the first place. We should be destroying power in order to liberate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:29 AM
2

It is so scary and sad for someone to break your trust like that. I think it’s definitely a good takeaway to go slowly into opening up to someone. Also remember that you taking a leap of faith and opening up so fast shows you’re human-you had a lot of love and care to give. And you know now to make sure who deserves it ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:06 AM
47

I’m an Indian woman, and my goodness, this woman reminds me of my stepmother with my dad. She puts him on a pedestal for the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:58 PM
34

It’s a two way street. If you want us to listen to your problems, you gotta do the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:56 PM
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