STFUBOUNDARIESFRAME Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	When She Uses Your Love Against You Thanks	/r/askMRP	29/10/20 09:12 PM
1	When She Uses Your Love Against You Thanks man.	/r/askMRP	28/10/20 12:16 AM
1	When She Uses Your Love Against You I was where you are 4 months ago. I'd say you still have a few months to turn this around based on my experience. It's not easy. I almost had it, but I didn't mean it. I still wanted to be a beta and live out the blue pill fantasy of her changing for "me". I was trying to save my mother. I was trying to avoid living my life and the challenges of chasing my goals. I internalized far too late that until I lead us back into a man to women relationship based upon my higher value (than hers) she's go…	/r/askMRP	28/10/20 12:03 AM
2	When She Uses Your Love Against You Listen to arm_candy too. You need to have a purpose if you want be a masculine being. You need to be told "focus on yourself" because you're so damn fucking bad at it. But the ideal is enlightened self interest. Win win. Don't fucking execute early you will rambo and nuke the shit out of whatever it is you have left between you two. Just STFU, read to understand whats going on, and LIFT to increase your value. Most important of all, understand why STFU, SIDEBAR and LIFT work by working to unders…	/r/askMRP	27/10/20 06:00 PM
1	When She Uses Your Love Against You Any further material on this? I want to learn	/r/askMRP	27/10/20 02:58 PM
2	When She Uses Your Love Against You If you opened the door out of neediness then it only lowered your value. You gave her so many reasons to look down on you, over time now she knows she is higher value than you. You've lowered yourself instead of growing. It's very common among men to bill pill like this. You think the self-sacrifice are care-taking is a virtue to a women. No. It's insecure. Women see virtue in men who do not self-sacrifice. Secure sacrifice is virtuous, lifestyle self-sacrifice is not, it's thinly veiled co-depe…	/r/askMRP	27/10/20 02:55 PM
2	When She Uses Your Love Against You "I let her walk all over me". Also "im wondering how to get my balls back". Listen. She might be A: A women with a personality disorder. Or B: A 21C woman. One thing we've learned on TRP is this. If you let your value go, she will start to disrespect you. That's how women guage whether you will buck up, or if they will have to monkey branch to another alpha. That's how women love. Her love for you is dependant on her level of admiration and respect, i.e her ability to feel she is looking "up" at…	/r/askMRP	27/10/20 02:35 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2020 Yeah. I have inconsistencies. Don't know what to tell you, I'm not very likely to follow through. I'd rather post on here and read material all day than take action. I'm an addict. I'll do a lot for validation. But real action involves letting go of her. I don't know what I'm so afraid of. Life, I suppose. Focusing on myself I suppose. And yeah, I'm shut down. I'm just in hiatus stall. Fuck this stall. I'm taking action right now.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/10/20 10:05 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2020 p.s RELATIONSHIP: The abuse she carried out were her own actions. The failure of the relationship? My fault. I failed to lead. I simply ordered her around, berated her, explained, analyzed, and set zero frame. She manipulated me to believe that her behaviors were outside of her control, and I let her. She manipulated my many years in therapeutic study and practice for myself to believe she was trying. She did not want to stop the violence or the emotional abuse. I learned to hold my frame. I rec…	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/10/20 07:13 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2020 OYS #1 Age: 27, partner: Left after I held my frame. 4 year relationship. No kids. 5'7, weak, skinny, hardly ate after abuse. Apparently low appetite is common. Failed to eat for 4-5 days. Had a meal yesterday. LIFTS: Virtually non existant. Dumbbells sometimes. READING: Half way through the sidebar. Slow. Undisciplined. Mostly revolved around fixing her cluster b behavior. Used to read widely. Gave it all up to 100% focus on fixing my relationship and partner. MAIN WEAKNESS: Frameless bitch. No…	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/10/20 06:52 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2020 True.	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/10/20 06:14 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2020 I don't understand. Googled it. I kind of understand what it means in Baskeball.	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/10/20 12:12 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2020 After holding my frame and boundaries over abuse, my girlfriend of 4 years left. I didn't follow the MAP. I was complacent. I was hopeless beta. But also, I assume after she realized she couldn't manipulate me anymore, off she went. Possibly nuked it, with judgement. S huge flaw of mine is judgement. It's a win for me and her. I still want to follow the MAP. I'm still co-dependant and I want to follow the red pill path. I admire this place so much. Part of me thinks it's great that I held my fra…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/10/20 10:33 PM