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SWHR/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 01:21 PM
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Huh. I think this is really helpful. I've been viewing it as solely objective, but you're saying it's objectivity only helps in terms of raising your validation from outside sources? i.e. raise your objective SMV, get validation from everywhere else, thus increasing your subjective SMV due to increased confidence?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 12:38 PM
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I think it is time to begin implementing Level 4- begin conditioning your time and attention to her sexual receptivity. I have read your advice for taking each step a month at a time. Give her time to catch up to the changes. I am curious why you think I should be jumping to level 4 already? I have so much work left on 1, 2, and 3 (I know 1 and 2 never end, but I haven't made very noticeable changes yet - my most noticeable change has been increased energy and some shadow of a frame - maybe a na…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 12:14 PM
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Tip- absolutely do not comment via text, do not comment when you get home May I ask where you are drawing this advice from? I felt like I handled the situation pretty well almost straight from MMSLP advice. Not that there is only one answer, but I was curious about the source for not engaging in sexual banter. I want to reward what I want more of....
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 12:06 PM
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was in the middle of writing a response on how settling in a marriage with someone who is clearly lower SMV makes things easier, but also makes things more boring. The attractiveness difference was not always there (she's gained about 60 lbs since we got married, I've stayed pretty much the same). I can definitely see the difference making things easy on me right now, but she has been quite responsive. Unprompted verbally by me, she actually just started losing weight herself. She's competitive,…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 12:03 PM
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Be cause he still gives a fuck about her SMV and she will only pity fuck him. Yes, I do still GAF. I know that needs to change. stop trying to compare SMV with your wife... stop competing. I think I only brought up her SMV to help inform. I understand that my SMV is not higher as long as I care so much about her. Maybe I should have used a different term. What I wanted to say is that I'm more physically attractive, have more earning power, generally do better socially, but I've acted like the ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 12:00 PM
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You are making changes for her. Stop that. This was definitely my motivation to get started. Make changes to become more attractive to her, then get more sex. I'm beginning to enjoy the changes for me - especially the lifting and losing weight. Seems like it takes time with OI interactions to actually get to IDGAF. I definitely do still GAF right now. stop making changes according to current concepts in Christianity. I'm making changes based on MRP. It does need to fit within my religious framew…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 11:54 AM
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Trump is so fricken Alpha. Maybe the appropriate response should have been, "Thank you!" (with sincerity, not sarcasm)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 04:08 PM
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I know I'm new, but I thought the goal was doing, not talking. Weekly long rants on the internet about what you want to do would be the epitome of BP, no? I'll make a FR post when I get enough data and want feedback. Until then, simple and effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 08:19 PM
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Why are you sleeping on the couch? You sleep in the bed after an argument. If she doesn't want to sleep next to you, she can take the couch. If she doesn't want to, she can deal with you next to her. If you're the one upset with her, then you're not doing as good a job as you thought you were not being butt hurt. Stay in the bed and lie awake figuring out what your covert contracts were.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 05:26 PM
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Right. That's the one I found, so it's not a Brene Brown book. This is Laura Doyle.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 03:22 PM
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Where is this book? I tried searching amazon and found a similar title by a different author, but not Brene Brown's.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 02:54 PM
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Owning Lifting. Eating better. Having more energy. Avoiding disrespect. Not Owning Patience - man I want to do this fast. Maintaining frame - as soon as I establish it, I give it back up. Keeping it simple and not trying for too much everyday.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 02:14 PM
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I know I'm new here, but have a good amount of experience from a leadership point of view. Ummm....if you have to talk about your leadership (authority) - or worse, ask for it, then you've already lost. What you want is not authority, what you want is influence. I remember a quote from Collin Powell I believe, that he never once had to tell a soldier that what he requested was an order....because everyone that was under him wanted to follow him. That's leadership. I haven't finished the sidebar …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 01:49 PM
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How much more active? At least weekly check-ins. More as I encounter questions, snags along the way. As I see in this sub, a lot of people think they have grasped the concepts, yet are pretty far off still. I know I'm a long ways off now, and want to stay the course. Over what time? Become more active in the short term (1-2 months) as I begin applying principles learned. Stay active over the length of the process. I'm assuming you use the phrase 'beat her' in the dominance aspect, not physically…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 05:56 PM
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I feel like ignoring has been my default, and lost because of it. I'm not talking about a passing comment looking to get a rise out of me (ignoring would be appropriate), this was in a conversation where instead of pointing out what I could have done better (I could have), she took an attitude of being better than me while attacking my actions. My default would have been to walk away, but that's a loss, and her dominance. I definitely could have handled it better and thought of ways post inciden…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 04:14 PM
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Good clarification. I believe she's both strong and stubborn. You've hit it on the head that she's going to fight like hell to keep the comfort. All the more worse because I've made her comfort my goal for almost 9 years, who wants to lose that? I think my focus is on me. Creating boundaries and not taking her shit is what's providing most of my energy gains. Just enjoying some OI has changed my perspective. The shit tests are where I need to do better, so they'll continue to be a focus. I know …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 03:41 PM
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I agree with your premise. However, she had a crisis with her parents and legitimately seemed like she was asking for comfort. I don't think I'm on a 1-2 year plan. My goal is a fairly significant flip by the end of the year. In nearly every category, I should be the high value one in the relationship...and she knows it and has expressed fear over losing me before (explicitly citing her inability to remarry, and my decent market value). I've just betaized that hard - whatever it took to please h…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 03:33 PM
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First post here, would like to become more active over time. Started unplugging 2 weeks ago. Read MMSLP and MAP, thinking about Rational Male or NMMNG next. Shit I'm owning: Started working out again. I objectively think I don't look bad, but know I'm getting out of shape and am not what I once was. Shouldn't take more than a few months to start looking sculpted again. My energy levels are way up already, I'm taking steps to have more ownership in finances (meeting with financial planner next we…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 01:52 PM
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