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Sacramentardo/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 07:21 PM
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Sacramentardo/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 05:16 AM
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Any person who refuses a prenup is doing so because they want the insurance of taking your money in the event of a divorce. They are already counting your pockets. Get a prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 02:50 PM
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As much or as little as you’re comfortable sharing. “It just didn’t work out” while maintaining eye contact works wonders to discourage further questioning.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 09:27 PM
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That’s what it boils down to. Certain drugs and disorders may make certain decisions easier, but ultimately we’re responsible for our actions.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 12:44 AM
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Went through a very similar situation. Actually there are tons of accounts on here if wife dropping the d-word months after giving birth. Feels like an epidemic. All I can tell you is I got through it, it gets easier with time; and it sounds like you’re doing awesome. Keep up the good work, you’re through the worst of it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 04:52 AM
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I’m interested. I’m a less common case where my ex makes a lot more than I do.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 06:29 AM
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If my wife told me I wasn’t going to see my kids for a WEEK, let alone a year, she would get $0 from me.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 01:17 AM
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I can’t answer that for you. That’s why you need a lawyer. She took your kids and house from you and you’re willingly giving her half YOUR paycheck? Other people can chime in, but it feels like you’re making bad moves. If you stop paying her for a months and spend that on a lawyer, he can tell you what your next moves are. Also, FWIW I got 2 free consults and 1 paid ($100) consult and that gave me a lot of info to base my short term decisions on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 01:16 AM
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You desperately need a lawyer. Pay for a couple hours with a family lawyer, whatever you spend will pay dividends later.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 01:11 AM
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Ignore women for now. Get your mind and body strong, your money stable, your personal mission clear, and be an great dad. Build a life you’re proud of. There are plenty of great women out there. It’s hard to see them when you’re looking through a lens of hurt and contempt though.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 11:51 PM
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Divorce sucks. If you guys have a chance to be happy together, try to make it work. Get into couples counseling and let her know how serious the stakes are. Use “I” statements. “I feel like you’re not happy.” “I feel hopeless sometimes.” But start by saying you want to make it work.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 02:27 AM
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Talk to a lawyer. Thats how you protect your stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 04:48 PM
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In California you’d probably be on the line for 1.5 years alimony. You didn’t say where you live though.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/26 04:55 AM
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Before a separation, which can go either way, I’d set a 90 day trial of you very purposefully trying to rebuild. Try to stop being resentful and start initiating small moments of connection (without keeping score of how many times she reciprocates). Actively pursue your own hobbies and friendships. Talk calmly and firmly and enforce your boundaries. Not to withdraw, but to reconnect without yourself (the person she fell for). Exercise and meditate. If after showing up for 90 days of showing up a…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 05:17 PM
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Whatever you spend on a lawyer you will save several times in your outcome if you have kids and assets.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:11 PM
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If there are no kids, and you don’t want to be married to her, get unmarried my dude. Divorce sucks but not as bad as spending your life with someone you hate
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:08 AM
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Time, pursuing hobbies, making or hanging with your friends, and spending super high quality time with your kiddo are the things that will heal you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 03:53 AM
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Most parents are about 30% present 100% of the time. I get to be 100% present 50% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 04:22 AM
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I knew i wasn’t getting the house, so I told her I’d move out as long as we agreed on 50/50 custody effective immediately. Then you get your kids and you get to start building a life surrounded by people that don’t hate you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 03:13 PM
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Making a huge, irreversible change like quitting your career and moving counties is an entirely reasonable cause for trepidation. It sounds like she’s making an emotion-based decision and is angry at you for not immediately going along with it. Stay strong and follow your ̶H̶e̶a̶r̶t̶ ̶ brain.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 04:46 AM
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🙏🏼
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 04:55 PM
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Ha, those are good sandwiches. Next time you’re in town feel free to reach out. Lots of other food recs. And chin up, the best part of your life may still be on its way.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 05:36 AM
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You absolutely experienced trauma. I found therapy helpful. I’ve also done antidepressants, one of them helped a lot. Your friends are smart. Time, good friends, and talk therapy, formal or otherwise are huge. You’ve got this, dude. It’s work to get better but there’s no better use of your time.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 04:35 AM
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That sounds awful. It may not feel great to hear but you will never be out from under her control until you let go of this anger. The only person this anger hurts is you and the people who love you. It’s not easy to let it go, but it will feel very freeing when you do. Remember that someone that can say awful things that like is a sad person. Put your energy into your healing and happiness. It’s cliche, but working out is a good way to get over intrusive thoughts.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 04:27 AM
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AP is “affair partner”
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 01:56 AM
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I hear you and I could have used this too.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 09:26 PM
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No More Mr Nice Guy. The Way of the Superior Man. As a Man Thinketh. The Feeling Is the Way.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 04:54 AM
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I don’t believe this will be legal. Child support is meant to support the child in real time and the courts treat it as such. If you and she agreed on this they could still theoretically make you pay back child support for any missed payments, even if you were doing this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 12:10 AM
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There’s only one person in this world who really loves you, and that’s your mom. That’s why you have to look after #1. Your ex chose her path, she clearly wasn’t worried about your wellbeing when she did all of the above. Keep up the therapy, did a workout you enjoy, and keep leveling up. Be too busy to worry about your past.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 01:32 AM
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You’re in good company. Not the same situation for me, but similar enough that I feel your pain. It’s hard to believe but in a year you’ll be in a much, much better place. You can’t change her actions but you can take care of yourself and your situation and make sure you’re putting yourself in a good position for a major comeback. Work on your health; mental & physical. Make yourself someone that she’d want you back but you won’t take her. Good luck buddy. Finding some people to share hobbies wi…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 06:39 AM
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Thank you for a good answer. Other people blaming feminism and Disney is wild.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 07:10 PM
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Boy, really feel like I’m missing out on an intelligent, useful perspective. 👍
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 08:33 PM
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The fact that you call it a bubble of hate tells me everything I need to know. There is an all-gender divorce sub on here if I want other opinions. You flatter yourself that your opinions and insults are wanted here.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 08:23 PM
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Your gender talks a lot about safe spaces but have no problem showing up offering your opinions in ours.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 07:42 PM
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This sounds way better than Disney
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 12:26 AM
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You can get the book free from your library or library app if things are tight. Highly recommend.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 12:10 AM
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Read “No More Mr Nice Guy” and take it to heart. Once she sees you working on yourself and finding your happjnesss again, she’ll either get on board or you’ll have the confidence and knowledge to do what you need to do.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 11:54 PM
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I did all weekends for 2 years. I didn’t hate it, but eventually i had to admit I’d given up my social/dating life, because normal people are free most weekends and I was NEVER free. Now I have every other weekend and it’s great. YMMV.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 03:55 PM
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This is the best advice here. There’s no putting the cat back in the bag, so you need to talk to an objective outsider to talk through your feeelings and plans before blowing up 4 lives.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 05:14 AM
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As long as you’re looking back, you’re not looking forward. Live your best life and if she levels up too, it’s good for your kids, so… 🙌🏻
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 06:13 AM
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Who cares, dude. Do you. It’s no longer your circus or your clown.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 05:43 AM
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You enjoy each others company and sex and agree on everything else….. this sounds like a dream marriage my dude.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/25 02:34 AM
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The best revenge is living well. Work on being the best version of yourself and rest will take care of itself.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 07:35 AM
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Yes. It’s a thing. Some interpretations suggest that “wife goggles” stem from emotional bonding and familiarity, making a man view his wife through a lens of affection and attachment. Others argue it reflects societal conditioning, where men prioritize their wife’s needs for security and validation over exploring new attractions
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 05:53 AM
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Divorce sucks bad, and nobody can make that decision for you. I would speak with trusted friends and tell them your plans. Saying it out loud to someone else gives clarity. They may have some insights for you. Good luck friend.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 02:41 AM
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Congrats amigo, a well won fight.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 02:32 AM
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This is so spot on and hits me in the feels.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 03:00 AM
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Say it louder for the slow learners in the back.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 11:51 PM
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I’m in the same boat
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 01:15 AM
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Giving away all your retirement willingly to the person choosing to break up your family seems like a really bold decision. I hope you talk with a lawyer first. You’re setting her up for a life of leisure while you struggle for the rest of your life?
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 05:11 PM
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Zoloft has weird sexual side effects. I switched to Wellbutrin and way happier.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 05:52 AM
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This is your year my man. The best gift you can give yourself is to do what you can to insure it’s your year. What hobbies did you used to enjoy that you’re no longer doing? Do it! Or pick up a new social one; like pickleball, painting classes, group hiking, or why not speed dating? When was the last time you switched your look up? Get an expensive haircut or a new favorite jacket. Ask a Pretty employee/ stylist for her advice. Been meaning to lose a few lbs? Buy yourself some new running/hiking…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 03:28 PM
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In answer to your original question, reconciliations do happen, but they are statistically incredibly rare.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:37 PM
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Got it. So it is you asking if a break would help, not her. Anyway, I was just trying to help translate the post above me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:34 PM
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But she’s asking for a separation, not a divorce. That is keeping you on the shelf.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:30 PM
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That was Greek, but he’s saying she wants out of your relationship, or at best, wants to keep you on the shelf in case she doesn’t find “better”.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 07:49 PM
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The harder a conversation is to have, the more important it is to have NOW. If only one parter is ever initiating sex, you already have problems in your marriage. Marriage isn’t tit-for tat, both partners should do things for the other because they love them and want them happy, not because of what they expect in return. Surprise each-other regularly. Know what their love language is and act appropriately. DONT GIVE UP YOIR HOBBIES AND FRIENDS, this person is your spouse, and should not be expec…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 03:48 PM
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$700,000? How long has the divorce lasted? The average divorce layer charges +- $500/hour so that’s 1400 billed hours. 35 weeks of full time work…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 02:18 AM
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I still want the whole family package, but I don’t see myself having a child with another person or getting married without an incredible communicator for a partner and a rock solid prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 01:17 AM
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Just set the expectations: “Guys, we get to decorate this whole house! Look how big it looks with no furniture!”
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:45 PM
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If you want really high quality for a relatively great price, Quince.com. But the towels I got from target are good too🤷🏼‍♂️.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:11 PM
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This argument completely disregards human emotions, which don’t follow logic, as you’ve stated above. A good relationship is built on much more than a good income. And housework leaves plenty of time for your wife to read 50 Shades and get bored of your 3 cars.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:04 PM
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The ones that they leave you for. You have three cars, that’s doesn’t put you in league with Bill Gates, dude.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:46 PM
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You’re suggesting that the “value” of a good man is his ability to provide. By that metric, isn’t a richer man a “more valuable” man?
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:38 PM
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Join Men’s Group, it’s a large group of men going through similar shit you can talk to and help build each other up. There are groups for everything, divorce, depression, etc. https://mensgroup.com/
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 01:25 AM
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She is choosing not to help herself. Give her an ultimatum: quit her bad habits that are severely negatively impacting both of your lives, or you’ll be forced to reevaluate your marriage. The marriage contract assumes both parties are acting in good faith to contribute to marital happiness. Is she doing that?
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 07:07 AM
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It sounds like you got a raw deal, and I’m sorry for that. If she can afford a boat and camper why did you agree to take all the debt. And you only see the kids A couple days a week?
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 01:36 AM
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Obviously he didn’t know she would become that way.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 03:52 PM
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You’ve faced untold struggles in your life, and you’ve made it victoriously to the other side. This one is no different.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 03:53 PM
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I bought a pendant that I wear that reads: “Per Aspera ad Astera” which means: through struggles to the stars. In other words, just work on getting through the divorce, the rewards are on the other side. Freedom, sex, love, romance, independence, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 03:51 PM
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I’m right there with you. Just slowly (very slowly) meeting new people through hobbies. There are also meetup groups and apps like Bumble BFF for meeting friends. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 04:43 AM
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I’m in.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 04:30 AM
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Couldn’t agree more. Her coworkers are all much younger so she’s suddenly into much “younger” music, staying out late clubbing, and brunch, which she had always made fun of. 🤷🏼‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 12:12 AM
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That’s an interesting mental exercise. We were together for 6, married 1.5 and have a toddler. Then she wants a separation because (ever changing list of reasons, many of which don’t make a lot of sense). She begged for marriage and kiddo until I finally agreed and then once she had those things, stopped giving a shit about them or me. Started spending like 80 hours a week at her business and with coworkers. Now they’re basically all getting divorced and just hang out together being Girl-Bosses …
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 11:46 PM
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This sounds a lot like my sitch. Lots of love homie.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 11:34 PM
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Second the advise to read NMMNG
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 10:19 PM
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I feel for you. I luckily have other family and we all got to spend a couple hours with my son even though it was stbxw’s day. It’s the same old advice, but just focus on making your and his life better each day. Make some parent friends by joining local groups. Build a new family of friends.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 07:58 PM
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If you have to tell them to help carry bricks, they’re not the one to build with. Let her go. Someone else will value you for the things she resents.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 10:21 PM
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Good on you for being proactive. I’m interested to see what’s recommended. Edit: haven’t read it but this has good reviews: https://www.amazon.com/Worlds-Best-Dad-After-Divorce/dp/1641702680/ref=asc_df_1641702680/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693033695484&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2221394519599839982&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9032527&hvtargid=pla-1255754899595&psc=1&mcid=8cc712c8572f3cce942b8894b26a65eb&gad_source=1
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 02:40 AM
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Sounds like you’re on a path that works for you. Keep it up. Just make sure you’re taking some credit for the hard work you’re doing and not giving it all to the guy in the sky!
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 05:00 PM
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One thing that helps for me is remembering that she is no longer the person I married. Not by a long shot. We remember the relationship through rose tinted glasses, but there is a reason it ended. Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 12:47 AM
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It gets recommended here often for good reason: read or listen to “No more Mr Nice Guy”.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 02:39 AM
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Hey buddy, before you do anything drastic, call 988 which is a suicide hotline. You deserve to give yourself a chance. No matter how you feel right now, there’s a whole future for you to discover, full of travel, adventure, and love. The best revenge is living well.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 11:51 PM
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Bad relationships with everyone in her family. This is a huge one I overlooked. Also her habit of completely writing people off if they “wronged” her. And someone else said it, but her inability to have any sort of serious conversation without walking away.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 02:37 AM
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You should read No More Mr Nice Guy. It’s recommended a lot in here for good reason.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 05:19 AM
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Agree. It’s much more enjoyable when it’s meaningful.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 11:35 PM
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Don’t rush into anything. Rebound relationships are seldom healthy. Work on yourself. Once you’re happy, healthy, and healed, then you’re ready to date. Pursue your hobbies, work out, hike, paint. Visit museums, travel, be the person your 20 year old self would want you to be, then date.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 04:46 AM
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You made offered an olive branch and she swatted it away. Now you know where you stand. Focus that effort on yourself and your kids. She doesn’t want or deserve it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:13 PM
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Perfect verse, even if you’re not religious.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:12 PM
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Username checks out
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 11:22 PM
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Not your circus, not your clowns. Unless it impacts your kids, obviously.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 12:36 AM
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Hot.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:36 PM
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Silly take. To the majority of the country it’s a holiday about bunnies and eggs. I’m agnostic and we had a fantastic day on Easter with the kiddo.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:56 PM
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The fact that you’re asking doesn’t bode well.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 05:28 AM
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Nooo. Terrible deal. 50-50
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 05:08 AM
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It sounds like you’re experiencing pretty textbook depression. You should talk to a medical professional. Things are dark right now but if you get some help and start putting one foot in front of the other you can get back on track in short order and start rebuilding your life. The best revenge is living well. I was surprised to find my health insurance covers mental health and have been seeing a therapist weekly for the past year. It’s life changing. Good luck man.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 09:41 PM
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I agree that asking questions is better than nothing. My concern is that communication is the bedrock of any successful relationship, and running to speak with strange men instead of your partner isn’t a good look.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 08:59 PM
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The fact that your first impulse is to go ask a bunch of strange men their opinions instead of having a conversation with your partner does not bode well for the relationship. I wish you both the best.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 06:53 AM
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If the roles were reversed every person in her entire life would be telling her to GTFO. Of someone came to you with this story you would be telling them to GTFO. Do yourself an enormous favor and get out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 05:38 PM
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Second this. Mindset is everything. Take it til you make it. And you will.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 05:49 AM
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Can I have a couple of your rentals so I can go find my happiness too?
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 02:58 AM
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She’s asking for $1mm in alimony and you’re not asking your lawyer these questions? You’re not a smart man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 04:22 PM
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This is a great question. In my case, however, my wife started out amazing and became an entirely different person after she had our kid. The only real red flag which I would now screen for as that she doesn’t talk to any of her siblings.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 04:01 AM
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THIS 🙌🏻
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 10:03 PM
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Sorry to hear it man. I chose to turn off my notifications for the doorbell and cameras at our house so I wouldn’t find myself in a similar situation. But I also moved out so it was easier.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 06:51 PM
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Good luck friend. Shits going to suck but it will get better. Also you didn’t mention kids which makes things a lot easier.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 08:53 PM
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Oh good. From the info you’ve given you did nothing wrong. Consider practicing the grey rock method with her to take the power dynamic back, and take care of yourself!
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:54 PM
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Did she take your child with her?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:32 PM
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This sounds like a pretty textbook case of clinical depression (before and after the divorce). He needs to speak with a therapist and could probably benefit from meds.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:49 PM
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Never let the same person pretend to love you twice. She told you who she is, you should believe her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 04:27 PM
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How are you getting 10-20 minutes of time with your kids per week? You have rights as a father. Demand your rights. Use the courts as needed to enforce them. In the rest of your time make sure you’re working on you. Your hobbies, your health, your future. Your marriage is over. It hurts and it sucks and it’s unfair but it’s time to move forward. There isn’t another choice.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 05:45 AM
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Nobody said it was easy. What’s the alternative? Intensive therapy is a good start. Once you make a plan to start crawling out from rock bottom inertia will carry you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:37 AM
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That all sucks and it’s okay to be sad about it. But you have to put one foot in front of the other. All rules of happiness still apply. Get out of the house and spend time with other people as often as possible. Gym, sports, coffee dates, kid play times, whatever that means to you. Make yourself a person you’d want to date, and the rest will happen. There are lots of subs for side hustles if that’s your thing. If you can swing it, go on a trip by yourself. Things will turn around.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 01:54 AM
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I’ve heard that tinder is the worst and that you’ll have more luck on Hinge or some of the others. In many cities tinder is 10/1 male to female, so…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 04:12 PM
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I went surfing and drank whiskey with my brother. Best part of my whole marriage. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 10:03 PM
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You make a shit load of money. Don’t cheap out on a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 03:04 AM
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If you are going to go ahead with it while she is unemployed, just make sure that you don’t pinch pennies on a lawyer, because that can make a huge difference.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 09:25 PM
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Ah. Yeah that’s rough. Just go in with eyes wide open then. If she was stay at home, you’re looking at giving up 50%+ of your income.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 08:48 PM
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Because nobody else has said it yet, wait until she’s had a good job for a year before pulling the plug if you do decide to. That gives you time to work on yourself first, your relationship second, and your plans for a post divorce life and finances last. Focus on yourself first though. If she’s not in love with the best version you after all that work, it’s her loss.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 08:32 PM
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I’ve recommended it a few times here, but read the book “No More Mr Nice Guy”, it isn’t written specifically for divorce but it’s very very useful in figuring out how you got here and how to get better. Get the audio book and listen while you work, walk, workout, shower, whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 04:31 PM
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Except rates of divorce increase dramatically when the woman makes more.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 11:57 PM
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I don’t want a submissive wife. I want a partner who does what she says she’s going to do, communicates her needs, wants, boundaries, feelings. And yeah, as others have said, it’s a rare marriage that ends in divorce when there’s an active sex life. Generally speaking that is where men derive a sense of closeness and trust in a relationship. Plus, a lack of sex is generally an indicator of other issues in the relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 11:34 PM
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Yes. It is possible. For any or all of those reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 06:01 AM
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If you're in California or another no-fault divorce state you're all good. But make sure you do work on yourself and be the best version of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 08:39 PM
6

Also, my marriage ended right after the first birthday of our only child.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:05 AM
10

I would read “No more Mr nice guy” as a start. I think it could have saved my marriage. As well as “The Superior Man” if the first one resonates with you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:04 AM
8

I’ve been the “just a friend”. Was definitely trying to smash.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 04:11 PM
5

Yes, full of anxiety. Just remember to focus on what you can control, and spare your kids as much pain as possible. You’ll figure it out (you have no choice). Take care of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 10:59 PM
17

You sound like you should go to the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 09:44 PM
13

Science says yes. Marriages in which the wife makes more are 50% more likely to end in divorce. https://www.kiplinger.com/personal-finance/603298/women-who-make-more-than-their-husbands-should-watch-out
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 08:26 PM
3

Everyone here who hasn’t yet, please read “No More Mr Nice Guy”, it will tell you a lot about yourself and your wife.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 12:27 AM
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