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Aren’t legal fees drawn from community assets until the divorce is finalized?
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 02:30 AM
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Finding something to take care of does help. Read about stoicism. You're not the first man to go thru what you're going thru.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 12:16 AM
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This. Sildenafil is an easy fix. Just having it helps a lot with the mental part too. Vardenafil is another option, so is tadalifil. I'd try them in that order. Is the SSRI helping? They really mess with your sexual function, and there are options (wellbutrin) that work differently.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 12:11 AM
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Friends for 8 years, but she was slowly bending me to her will the whole time. Move here for my job for just a few years, buy a house, learn to fix the house, spend 1000s on blinds and sofas and give up vacations and the fun shit we did when we were friends, oops now it's been 10 years in this awful city you hate, give me a kid. Now when I say this is what we're doing, we're doing it. Oh I'll tell you something else, but when it comes time I'm doing what I want because I know you won't leave bec…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 02:31 AM
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Yes, out of state. Counsel didn’t seem to think it mattered. Thought status quo of us not being in family home was established.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 03:49 AM
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Counsel didn't think it mattered since my kid doesn't meet residency requirements where we are (or where we would be), and my STBXW can't claim residency anywhere but where we were.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 02:25 AM
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Mostly just be the first to file so I decide which court and prevent any emergency orders, but not to serve her papers. Set up a stable residence far enough away that STBXW can't make an easy argument for 50-50. To respond to my wife that I was not returning and that I wouldn't keep her from visiting, but that my kid is staying with me until we work out another arrangement in mediation. He didn't give much more guidance than that. I mean, at this point I need to go somewhere and he didn't tell m…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 02:15 AM
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Neither of us have filed...up until a few months ago we were doing pretty good. New homebase is in a different state, but it is a temporary situation that the court wouldn't look too favorably on. We never planned to be there for very long at a time so if I'm not going back to my former home state I need a plan. My kid would not meet the residency requirements at the homebase.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 02:04 AM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 03:36 PM
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Thank you, but the court won’t see it as her denying me access to my kid while we work things out? We haven’t filed yet and are going to counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 03:20 AM
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I have done some consults. I am in a unique situation where my daughter and I left to travel and my wife was supposed to join us. The family home was ready to rent, but she decided to stay. The lawyers I've talked to...some of them say establish your new status quo, others tell me to be ready to move back to the family home in preparation for 50-50 custody arrangements.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 07:55 PM
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Hope is the greatest of all evils, for it prolongs the torments of man.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 07:02 PM
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Damn, didn't even think about this.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 06:43 PM
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I hope to be you. I have been a part-time SAHD, also holding down a part-time professional career for the past 6 years. 2 years ago my last straw was when she told me everything was negotiable and she didn't need a man, and then adopted a fucking cat that pissed all over the place after I told her I didn't want the fucking thing anywhere in our house. But we agreed to an early semi-retirement to work on reconnecting in our marriage and family, and spent 2 years planning it. Until she just now ne…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 06:41 PM
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She left you with your daughter? Bro, that's the relationship that matters. How many years have you spent apologizing? That's the time that was flushed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:37 AM
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A good therapist is a good therapist. I know...I've had shit marriage counselors who couldn't rein in their female bias, and I quit them. We had one woman who was 90% good...not getting her opinion into the argument. I had an excellent woman for personal therapy years ago...she was a blank slate. I can't tell you what she thought, but I now know more about what I think because of her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 07:25 PM
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Thanks. This is pretty much the same for me. Where I am I think the courts call in the kids if they're older than 14...my daughter is 5 months away from that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 06:14 PM
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I think of divorce as a hopeful thing...hopeful that you can move on and get better, whatever that means. The worst part has been the trying to make it work by just accepting the suffering. That's a hopeless thing, and I've done it for 13 years now.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 06:10 PM
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My wife is the bread winner. She's gaslighted me to the point I don't know what I know. None of this hit me until a friend said "a narcissist likes it when you're frustrated because it means they are still in control." That's been me for 13 years, from what we agreed to about bedtime to making plans to move our family. Grey rock now. Don't engage, don't get emotional, Robocop. I'm writing down everything she says to me, trying to get as much as I can in emails and texts. I've gone so long believ…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 07:06 PM
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Yes. Get out. A friend of mine was married to a man who repeatedly threatened suicide. She went to visit him one day after moving out, and just after she left, he shot himself and his dog. She's still suffering that: not only could she have stopped it, but what if he'd decided to take her as well. It's not for you to decide what is manipulation and what is genuine.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 03:58 PM
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The wait time in the US is weeks or months, and it's all out of pocket.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 10:34 PM
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