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| 5 | Enforcing BoundariesYou’re right, she doesn’t care. If she did she wouldn’t have had an affair. She is just trying to control the narrative and try to find ways to be able to say she’s not a bad person. Let her know she created this situation and you are not friends so if she wants sympathy from someone to go whine to one of her friends. Then stop engaging in any conversation with her, just ignore her unless it has to do with logistics about drop off or pick up of the kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/25 02:54 AM |
| 15 | Enforcing BoundariesYou do need to enforce those boundaries. She should not be stopping by and making herself at home and cooking dinner. She should let you know when she will be there so you can make yourself scarce when she is. There’s no reason to spend any time with her or talk to her about anything unless it relates to the kids or divorce. She is not your friend, she’s a stranger and honestly she’s a stranger you can’t trust so even worse. She chose to cheat, she chose to break up the family, she has no right … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/25 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Today is the day we tell the kids.Just file for divorce then, have her served. That will either wake her up and she’ll see she is making a mistake or she won’t care and then you’ll know divorce is the right decision. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/25 02:02 AM |
| 2 | She bought lingerie…Good for you. You can’t heal from her betrayal if you are still acting like her husband, that just allows her to use you and make things easier for her but no benefit to you. She made this decision, let her deal with the consequences of you no longer being a part of her life. She doesn’t get to choose what parts of you she keeps, she wanted this so you are no longer available to her in any way. Just live your own life completely separate from her, she’s just a stranger now, and don’t let her be … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/25 01:34 AM |
| 9 | Today is the day we tell the kids.She wants some of the benefits of being married while being single. She also doesn’t want you to move on. She wants to keeps some hooks in you so when her new single life blows up and the grass isn’t as green on the other side as she thought, still being married makes it easier for her to come back to you. Don’t let her use you like that, file for divorce. Let her know if at some point in the future she wants to try reconciling, you’d be open to it unless you’ve completely moved on by that point… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/25 01:07 AM |
| 7 | She bought lingerie…Best thing you can do is ignore her. Completely cut her out of your life. Don’t interact with her at all. If she tries to start a conversation, walk away. If she asks you to help with something, walk away or tell her to ask her boyfriend. You need to do what’s best for you and your healing and honestly that is to have nothing to do with her in any way. I agree with the other poster who said she was likely already dating this guy before the separation. Women don’t leave relationships until they h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/25 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Starting as friendsYou are just setting yourself up for more heartbreak. If she really wanted to try to see if you could work out “and get feelings back” she wouldn’t be solidifying things with her AP. She also would not have cheated with him to begin with. She probably realizes that once her affair is a real relationship it may not work so she wants to keep you at arms length but still attached to her to make sure you are still there as plan B. Do yourself a favor and move on. If there are no kids involved you ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/25 11:07 PM |
| 5 | Is it wrong to start a new relationship while still co-living with my ex for our child’s sake?Yes, you say you want to date and wouldn’t mind if she did the same so be honest with her and have that conversation. The point is don’t do it without talking to her because while she may not want to be married anymore you still live together and finding out some other way that you are dating will probably make her less amicable for the remainder of the divorce process. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/25 10:22 PM |
| 4 | Is it wrong to start a new relationship while still co-living with my ex for our child’s sake?Then have the conversation with her. In order to keep it amicable you need to be honest with each other. Once one of you moves out then things will be different but while living together full disclosure is best. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/25 09:55 PM |
| 6 | Is it wrong to start a new relationship while still co-living with my ex for our child’s sake?Have that conversation with her. If you are amicable and she has made it clear this will lead to divorce with no chance of reconciliation then tell her you want to start dating. I agree you should be honest about it and not hide it from her. That will make it worse when she finds out. Be prepared for her to do the same though, if you aren’t ready to see her getting ready to go on a date while living with you then you should hold off as well. Just get the divorce over with and then move on. Updat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/25 08:55 PM |
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