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RantSader9801/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 07:50 PM
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Stop paying for everything. This is not how it’s supposed to be at all. I’m not sure what state you were in, but paying for her lawyer while the divorce is going on is something I’m not familiar with. Be that as it may, you’re going to end up in an early grave if you keep this up. You need to tell everyone involved that you’re not doing this anymore. Talk to your lawyer first, tell him you wanna settle and be done with the divorce. Obviously, I understand that there can be complications and it m…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 10:51 AM
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Fortunately, I don’t think infidelity means all too much in any state anymore. I’m in New York, and my wife could literally come to court with her fair partner, and it wouldn’t mean squat. It can have an impact on custody, but as far as just about anything else, there isn’t much that infidelity does to punish the person who committed the adultery.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 09:03 PM
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This all day every day OP. Take every single one of these steps. This individual, pleasant mechanic, is giving you sound advice that will absolutely turn things around for you. Update us!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 08:57 PM
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Thank you 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 04:34 PM
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Exactly right
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 02:29 PM
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My brother, I am in the throes of my divorce. I want to share with you something that was shared with me after my wife, who has been with five different men in the last five years (all of that coming out in the last 8 months) and remains with her current AP: divorce is all out war. The woman you married is gone and the relationship is now about your children. First thing I would recommend is to take an online class about co-parenting. Here is a link you can peruse: https://alison.com/tag/parenti…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 10:54 AM
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Stay strong and keep a smile on your face. God has a plan. Be well and reach out anytime if you need someone to listen.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 12:34 AM
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I am in a similar boat. My wife and I built a home back in 2019. During that time, she withdrew $105,000 from our account. I trusted her, blindly and foolishly. She controlled the account that the house was built. She had to borrow $125,000 from her father, because she said they were overruns with the cost of the home. I wasn’t really involved in that process because the land that we built the home on was gifted to us by her father. It was really a joint effort between her and my father-in-law, …
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 05:46 PM
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Hang in there, my brother. I have just about 10 years on you. 38 is just starting out. I made a comment under someone else’s post a while back. I’m going to reiterate to you what I shared. Every one of us walks our own path in this life. Every one of us has a cross to carry. That is certainly true when you talk about something like divorce. And while my experience is different from your experience, the commonality, we share, certainly for those men who did not want a divorce, we can all understa…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 05:38 PM
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Thank you for responding and for sharing your personal experience and story. I am sorry to hear what you have endured, it sounds like absolute hell. Certainly, it sounds as if there is some level of borderline personality disorder, or perhaps, a sociopath. I couldn’t agree with you more regarding your take on narcissism and how freely people throw the term around. In my situation, my wife has been with five different men in five years. She absolutely has not apologized for anything. She has no e…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 10:41 PM
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I’ve been married to my wife for 17 years, together for 18. She has accused me of just about everything under under the sun, except adultery, which is what she is guilty of - five times over. Maybe an eighth of what she is saying about me has any truth. Nobody is perfect, there are things that I could’ve done better, but I’ve experienced the same things. I was a provider, a great father to my four boys, went to church regularly, didn’t drink or gamble, etc. Unfortunately, we live in a day and ag…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 03:07 PM
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It’s not an easy road we are on at all. I’m coming up on my 17th wedding anniversary in 10 days and we are still married, but the divorce should be wrapped shortly. I am a total shell of myself. My wife also carried on multiple adulteries and shared me with at least one man for a year and a half, prompting me to go get an std test in January. The truth of the matter is that every man who is going through or has been divorced understands most all of what you are feeling, but we won’t ever underst…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 10:00 PM
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Well, God Bless you. Stay strong. Dm if you ever need to chat. Gods peace
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 10:53 PM
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Your thoughts and mine are identical. I’m sure it’s mostly due to the shared faith, but it’s spot on that we have such similar beliefs and thoughts on all of this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 09:09 PM
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Wow. Absolutely unbelievable the similarities we have. My wife was not previously married, but was a nurse and also laid the old: “we aren’t compatible and I love you but I’m not in love with you” line - which doesn’t work for marriage. You can tell a partner that - and it’s still a weak excuse - but when it comes to marriage and God’s original design: it is for life. What state are you in, if you don’t mind my asking.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 09:05 PM
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We share many similarities. I think for my wife, after her stroke, she did look at life differently. Instead of embracing her family, and the life that we built together, she flushed it down the drain. I can’t wrap my head around how someone who was in such a place with a strong faith and dedicated life in Christ started jumping in and out of beds with different men. She even made sex tapes with the one man. My wife is stunningly beautiful and could have any man she desires and this is what she …
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 08:36 PM
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No, thank you. 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 10:47 AM
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I’m 47. Will be married 17 years in two weeks. Divorce is 3/4ths done. My wife served me papers July of 24. Over the ensuing months from the time she served me, I would find out about four men in five years. They dripped out into my reality like a leaky faucet. Each one a surprise and each one a death blow. We are a Christian couple and didn’t sleep with one another until our wedding night. We have four sons together. The current AP she is with, it looks like they are on the road to marriage. My…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 09:47 AM
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She has made it difficult. Lied about her income and tax returns, had to file separately because of it and I needed to write Uncle Sam a check for $6k, so I’m including that; but, I have someone who is with another man and now they are going through a divorce. Custody is now an issue and my kids have had an attorney appointed to them, which is fine, but that was another $3k. If we don’t have to go to trial I should be out the door soon, but it’s going to depend on what other degenerate behaviors…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 06:31 PM
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Honestly, I was married to a woman. I never thought I’d have to worry about. I wish I would’ve done what you have suggested. I’m $30,000 into the divorce and it doesn’t look like it’s going to end anytime soon. And we’re getting divorced because she is a freaking cheater! Absolutely nuts what has happened to modern women today.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 11:48 AM
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I’m at $30,000 right now. But I’m hopeful I can recoup some of that from her because she has been an absolute train wreck throughout this entire process. She’s got multiple adulteries going on, including one she remains in. She lied on her tax returns, she lied about her income, she’s lied about me and made defamatory remarks to my son’s. I thought we would be about over at this point in time, but I’m sure I have another $15 to $20,000 yet to go. Someone else posted this, but these things spiral…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 11:42 AM
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I had a situation with my wife this year. We are in the middle of a divorce and she was not given permission to file, but to run the numbers and see if filing jointly or separately produced better numbers. I also paid all the bills on a similar salary because she was out of work for half of 2021 through December of 2023. Anyway, I would eye up her deductions. My wife has both w2 and 1099. She made over $57k in 1099 and lied so badly about her deductions. She filed and forged my name, big problem…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 08:11 PM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 03:32 AM
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Considering the cost for Botox - you can have a single woman drop $600 and she rips a $150 commison…it adds up. It’s a very lucrative racket. Plus there are laser procedures and weight loss shots. My wife can earn $3-4K a pay period just on her 1099. Lots of older women who spend their husbands money or ex husbands money to look 20 years younger that’s all I can say.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 07:49 PM
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She does sales work with cosmetics and esthetics
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 04:18 AM
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Thank you 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 12:51 AM
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Thank you. It sucks for sure. But trying to stay strong 💪
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 12:14 AM
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I agree - it sucks though
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 11:35 PM
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She is a bad mother for sure. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 10:33 PM
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That is my exact mindset. My boys need me now more than ever. My world is upside down but I’m going to fight for them and get us to a better place.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 08:52 PM
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Agreed 👍
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 08:35 PM
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It is true - it is definitely part of the reason that divorce is worse than death.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 08:30 PM
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It’s worse than a death - sadly, it’s so commonplace, nobody seems to really care. Hang in there, my brother. If you have kids, stay strong for them. 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 07:54 PM
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