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I am describing what men say and dream of and I am speaking for myself and what i observe in women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:31 PM
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Nope, it’s reddit’s wet dream: apparently women would fuck like rabbits IF ONLY they weren’t held back by patriarchy and misogyny. That’s the only thing separating these men from drowning in pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:50 PM
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Men’s tastes are effortless, they could jizz into 20 women with no consequences
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:38 PM
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Saving this comment!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:08 AM
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I have shouted at a friend to choose better men because she keeps falling for the same kind of guy that treats her like shit, family of origin issues are the cause smh. But I know her and her circumstances so I can say it’s on her 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 09:06 PM
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That’s sweet and something my husband tells me! He likes doing fun things but enjoys them more with me, even with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:09 PM
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It’s context based for me. Construction workers hollering at me? Love you guys have a nice day have a wave and smile back. Guy following me in alleyway? No thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 09:18 PM
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I think some women are performatively bisexual and want to be edgy. Attracted doesn’t always mean arousal. I am bi and don’t feel arousal looking at a man’s body but do with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:53 AM
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What makes you think you know better than me?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:19 PM
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You are free to separate yourself from others
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:58 PM
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With flirting men i don’t generally “reject”, men who I don’t find interesting understand it and don’t usually approach. I don’t know who you are talking about when mentioning egos, you seem angry especially when mentioning out of nowhere birth control and abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:49 PM
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Nope he isn’t, he is interested. You are free to do as you please, I found my vetting process and it worked great, no idea why you are arguing with me about what works for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:47 PM
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I’ll explain it to you even though I am not sure if you are trolling or you are really clueless. I like proactive, not shy, socially adept men who know what they want and are confident, besides being attractive to me. Approaching men aggressively removes a part of vetting. I am not passive, flirting is a dance that I engage in if I like the man that initiated. Promiscuous people fuck other promiscuous people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:26 PM
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Most guys would pump and dump if not interested enough, and I am not interested in a guy so desperate he’ll take any woman just because she approaches me. If he likes me enough he’ll approach me, if he doesn’t like approaching then I am not interested. You are free to look for proactive women, reddit seems to be full of them, just realise you’re gonna get passed over by active guys .
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:23 PM
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Mass immigration is encouraged by capitalists who want people to work slave wages
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 03:59 AM
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Nothing wrong, I prefer men without those issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:05 PM
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Because he’s most likely socially inept, ugly, neuro atypical, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 03:50 PM
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I was replying to the question in op. Why would I give a chance to a guy like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:59 PM
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And? The question was why women don’t want to “help” men. Men “help” lonely women because they hope to find a raw diamond (shy introvert cutie)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:52 PM
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Men hope that the shy girl online just hasn’t realised her attractive potential or they’re happy to trade some mental health or social points for attractiveness. Lonely men are usually either ugly, socially inept, neuro atypical, or a mix of the things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 12:17 PM
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It’s usually the lower classes of men who speak so openly against gold diggers but I wonder if it’s because lower social class women tend to be more vocal about getting expensive stuff paid by their men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 12:38 PM
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Because shame is something no one can make you feel except yourself, so they feel ashamed for something they did and don’t like when people make them notice. They do not want to accept that some men might not like them. Women who don’t care don’t feel shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 10:59 PM
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10/10 equivalency bro, you not getting laid is exactly the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 05:23 AM
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If a man doesn’t want to stick around he won’t, whether you sleep with him or not. It also depends how you met each other
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 09:22 PM
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Yeah not fucking ugly and/or socially challenged dudes makes us hitler.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:37 PM
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Bad luck and bad genetics red pill men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:14 PM
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If it’s too much work she doesn’t like you enough, and yeah being introverted sucks most men will beat you making the first move first if you wait around.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 07:16 AM
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My preferences affect how I choose partners, I don’t owe anyone my time or affection. I understand what you said, my response was to explain to you why promiscuity affects women negatively
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:40 PM
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I avoid them for two different reasons: promiscuous men are usually too attractive and have too many women propositioning them and promiscuous women tend to get bored and seek novelty and fun regardless of their level of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:24 AM
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We still like attractive people even though it’s not always logical, our brains didn’t change in that regard. Also condoms don’t fully protect from stds even when worn correctly , besides the inherent risk of having sex with men (women are vulnerable during sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 10:56 AM
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Having more experience also correlates to being good looking and women having “selected” you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 07:54 AM
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That’s why you don’t take advice from men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 07:53 AM
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Sexism or biology? I can have sex with 10 men and get pregnant and/or more likely to catch stds than men, a man can have sex with 10 women with less chance to catch stds and no repercussions beyond those rightly imposed by society
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 07:49 AM
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Did you read the comment I replied to? I had great success this way and it filters out me I am not interested in, lik the original comment I replied to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 05:09 PM
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Of course it does, why would I do something that doesn’t benefit me like cold approaching guys lol It benefits me because it gives merhe best results
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 04:22 PM
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You call it lazy because it doesn’t benefit you, I call it efficient because it’s one way of excluding guys I am not interested in
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 04:09 PM
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Passive men should approach more then, can’t get picked if you stand around waiting to be approached. I avoid both.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:44 AM
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Women always worked in farms and factories, only the rich ones didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:41 AM
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Yes, that means in farms alongside men and factories, like children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:40 AM
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In real life you can filter out for many things at the same time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:40 AM
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Waiting for men to approach is a good way to filter out these kinds of guys
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:12 PM
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Completely agree, that’s why women don’t generally approach first but play into courtship if they are interested! A woman cold approaching a man is mens wet dream regardless of who it is because it sounds like an easy lay. Terrible advice for women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:11 PM
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I like being approached, I like proactive men and if someone really likes me theyll do the first move and we’ll engage in the courtship dance. If they don’t approach me they don’t like me enough. Lots of guys would say yes to anyone even just for sex without real interest so this would mostly benefit them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:04 PM
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Women always worked throughout history
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:49 PM
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I cant stand men with no standards that judge others, especially women, having standards. Good on them for having standards and preferences!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 08:41 PM
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Mainstream from someone who has no idea what they are talking about lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 01:01 PM
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You should ask men, not women. I have fucked around with people flirting and using plausible deniability just for the fun of it when younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:16 AM
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It truly is a superpower, sometimes husband looks at our toddler and is amazed that I did all of that. You did 3 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:13 AM
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This is a beautiful description, radiant love. Congratulations on your pregnancy and your child becoming an older sibling ❤️ i am trying to wean my toddler to try fivet again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:10 AM
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I always wonder how it must feel from the outside as the father but husband says he adores our love triangle. Men like you are so precious ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:06 AM
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Breastfeeding has been the most beautiful thing in my life, and my life had been very meaningful and interesting so far before pregnancy (friendships, husband i adore, lots of interests, laid back career that pays well). Body wise nothing changed except sagging breasts that husband doesn’t mind and being expected to be the primary caregiver is also something i love and wouldn’t exchange for anything in the world. I have him and a great support network that act as my caregivers when needed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:04 AM
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Eh while RP general advice is geared towards self improvement and accountability that is great and not always present in the terminally online female spaces , the majority of men who orbit the rp ideology are not socially adept or winners and tend to give women advice that doesn’t benefit the women but would benefit men. Like a chubby woman (obese by non american stadards) asking fitness advice and men saying “you look fine “ because that is what women ariund them look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:26 AM
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Absolutely, I was referring to the thing RP men always say which I completely agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:07 AM
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Yeah it’s probably people thinking “she’s good for me already” no need for more even though it did improve her dating prospects as it generally does. This goes to show that you don’t ask the fish how to fish even when it comes to men giving women dating advice
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 07:59 AM
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You can look for both
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 10:36 PM
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The guys telling you education was useless sound like they were trying to knock you down a peg and keep you at their level
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:02 PM
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I dont understand it either, men aren’t allowed to vent without someone telling them to shower, groom themselves, height or being ugly isn’t the issue, to go out and touch grass. While shouting just world fallcy stuff like “there’s someone out there for everyone” Some men have bad luck in dating and it’s ok. Let the guys vent
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:13 PM
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It’s ok, I prefer properly socialised men who have age appropriate experiences with women and life. No point in purposefully going for someone that lacks in those departments.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:32 PM
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Yes I am not a charity. There’s plenty of women on this post that don’t seem to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:27 PM
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I could even have those same issues but i’d still choose to look for someone who doesn’t have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:22 PM
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I dont condemn him to jail, I am just not interested in people who have issues socialising or have any other issue that might’ve made them lonely
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:14 PM
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Yes. It matters for me. If a guy had no partners something might be wrong with him, it’s a huge red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:02 PM
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If I hadn’t chosen properly I would’ve had a harder life. My husband is handsome, hardworking, romantic and takes good care of me. Pregnancy and baby care would’ve been much harder if I hadn’t chosen better. He’s still very handsy now after we had a child and we have intimacy whenever possible. It wouldn’t have been so noticeable before having a kid!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 05:56 AM
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Jaded also means appreciating smaller things less and having higher expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:54 AM
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Lol ok
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:49 AM
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Well you like women with pussy but don’t have pussy yourself right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:42 AM
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Yes I want to date men who are less “emotional” than me in order to support me during times where I will be the more emotionally volatile one. If you can’t handle dating rejection how can you handle the emotional work load that comes with a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:41 AM
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Asking for a man that is confident means someone that has a reason to be confident: good looks, charisma, a pleasant personality, hopefully good in bed, is not insecure. It’s not fake it till you make it confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:38 AM
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Lots of guys who stay in comfort relationships maybe do
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:30 AM
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Lots of men prefer comfort and occasional sex over being alone
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:28 AM
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Lots of men wait to be dumped instead of dumping
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:37 AM
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Many Women would rather be single than in a relationship with a man they don’t desire, I don’t think it’s the same for men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:03 AM
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Confidence and charisma aren’t “superficial “ like physical attractiveness and are very important throughout a relationship and life in general too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:34 PM
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I hear this sentiment mostly from women who have shit taste in men personality wise
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 08:08 PM
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The craziest ones are often very vocal about it thankfully
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:25 AM
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Great advice to stop ugly men from approaching haa
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:23 AM
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Because even if she was picky what it pointing it out going to solve? She probably knows it and cannot fake attraction to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 10:14 PM
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Nope I can tell if a guy is unattractive or socially awkward, being lonely can be detrimental and frustration sì understandable but it is the end result
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 09:12 PM
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I dunno at 20 I found older men so much more attractive, I see the same kind of man now and realise I liked the age gap and how they treated me more than actual attraction. I do not like the same features now that I am no longer the “young hot thing” theyre pining and lusting for. I like men my age now, I keep liking older women though haha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:23 PM
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Oh no absolutely, no worries it’s not always easy to convey a message in writing! It’s my pet peeve of mine and it’s part of the just world fallacy that wants to place blame on men only and elevate women to super high status, that they confer to men if they choose to bless them. No we are all still animals driven by our instincts, sometimes we choose to act on them sometimes we don’t but these instincts do have a say in who we choose
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:23 AM
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women don’t smell redpill or misogyny was my point, it’s the opposite they see what pushes men to those thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:02 AM
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Huh? I am mocking people who say they can smell bad personality Lots of Men with “bad personalities” have no issues getting women (drug dealers and violent guys) what they actually mean is that guys with no luck in dating have other issues
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:54 AM
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Yes absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:00 PM
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If attractive enough it can offset or overall not happen because attractive people have more positive social interactions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:02 AM
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There was a narrative 15/20 years ago that having sex and not being a prude was the feminist thing to do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 08:54 AM
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I dunno Americans seem weird about age gaps on all social networks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 08:38 AM
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Yep the “we can smell bad personality” is such bs. You can smell and see unattractiveness, insdequate social knowledge, awkwardness and that often goes hand in hand with men who didn’t socialise enough or properly as kids because of neglect, addiction to porn ir videogames, being on the spectrum or other issues, being ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 08:32 AM
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Yes it’s funny when I read all the apocalyptic messages here when people outside are living normally and pairing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 07:44 AM
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Except I do, since it’s unattractive socially awkward men taking themselves out there’s more for others. The majority of men who can play in the dating and relationship pool do, and that’s what’s currently happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:20 PM
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Men =\ this post
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:49 AM
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I care about men who were properly socialised in positive contexts and that treat women and other people nicely. I don’t need to “understand” because neither do you, besides the fairy tale that good looking people deep inside are mean and loners are good and victims
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 10:48 AM
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It isn’t? Seems to me like me who have luck in dating are doing fine, the ones who aren’t are checking out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 09:31 AM
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I’m all for men going their own way, it’s usually the undesirable ones
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 09:19 AM
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Yes and when a woman has more conservative views she’s brainwashed, she can’t possibly think differently
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:43 AM
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Uk is wildly different from Italy or Croatia
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:52 AM
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And all the people on the entire continent of Europe are alike?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:03 AM
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Define Europe?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:50 AM
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Go open a post about it then?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:48 PM
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I dont know why isn’t anything else unrelated illegal?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:52 AM
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You can raise awareness about a problem without wanting to fuck someone with said problem
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:08 PM
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I gave you a reason and so did plenty other women, yet you seem to ignore them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 08:18 AM
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Are you looking for permission to have sex with a prostitute? Or do you really not see the difference between letting 10 men ram you everyday vs working a factory job?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 07:22 AM
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It’s not consent that stems from desire and it causes health issues and pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 06:46 AM
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Define initiate more
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:40 AM
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In Germany where it’s legal they have to traffic women from Eastern Europe
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 04:56 AM
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You’d have people advocating saying it’s their cHoIcE to sell organs to pay for their children’s needs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 04:53 AM
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In a fair world, sex is supposed to be consensual. Money being exchanged doesn’t elicit desire and consent. The vast majority of prostitutes have sex in exchange of money because the are desperate or trafficked. That is my argument against men who favour prostitution, because I find it disgusting to get turned on by being with someone who would never willingly sleep with you and by doing so is going against their desires and risking their health (and no condoms don’t protect from all STDs and ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 04:49 AM
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Loud minority that tries to speak for all women or someone coping I’ll go see lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:07 AM
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Who said women don’t care about penis size and why are you listening to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:36 PM
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I always thought that when women give this advice their intent is to stop some men from approaching lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 07:05 PM
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Not just women, men as well tend to pressure other men into lowering their standards due to the scarcity mindset and coping mechanism. You see it when a guy says a girl is too fat or promiscuous for him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 06:55 AM
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I’ve had a hard time being single, if I dress up I get approached and hollered at, I don’t get approached from people I know because I am married and I cut off men that could express interest, yes finding a man would be very easy for sex and if I didn’t have a daughter I don’t think I would have a hard time finding a relationship. With a daughter I think it would be harder but I wouldn’t any way unless I found mysekf single and it was someone I’ve known for ages
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 09:11 PM
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I can advise anyone against anyone, including someone who suspiciously has no experience. In my circle of acquaintances and beyond outright violent or abusive behaviour isn’t the norm. There’s plenty of fish in the sea and only a finite time on earth , why risk it with someone who has less to offer anyway because they lack experience? I would tell a friend that a guy lacking experience is weird at say 25/30 and advise against him
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 08:45 PM
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I understand but that is literally what inexperienced people are. It is weird, a red flag, what social issues do you have that maybe I didn’t pick up on? No wait, I probably did already. It isn’t the lack of experience itself which is a turnoff, it is the reason why someone lacks experience. At 18 lack of experience isn’t a red flag or not as bad as someone older with no experience, whereas other issues are disqualifiers regardless of age
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 09:02 PM
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God forbid women have non inclusive preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:12 PM
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Yes I think lots of thirsting for fat women is literally cope because there aren’t enough fit women. Young women here in Italy are usually slim, many gain weight after becoming mothers (even though it’s so easy to lose weight breastfeeding)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 11:33 AM
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I see so many posts on social media of men absolutely thirsting for fat women, it is like that IRL where you are? I’ve never seen it, but I know a handful of obese people tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 08:23 AM
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But makeup and how you present yourself actually is how you are judged
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 08:21 AM
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I like to say that men rate women in a 1-10 scale while women rate men on a binary or tertiary scale, being yes or no, or YES, yes or no. There’s no 1-6 for me it’s either yes or no
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 08:20 AM
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Yes that’s true
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:58 AM
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Thank you for taking the time to reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:57 AM
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Not a rhetorical question, what initiatives are the only benefiting women? I think the biggest benefitters are the uber rich billionaires that prefer we fight amongst ourselves. I do agree that in the USA single motherhood seems to bee all too common but I don’t know if it is just propaganda
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:30 PM
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Also men are generally much more willing to have NSA sex
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 05:04 AM
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No one seems to like hearing this, on the one hand it sucks to hear that the world isn’t a just place and some people get the short end of the stick, on the other hand some super socially awkward people study the degrees of their jaws and height and everything to the millimetre when it’s actually their social awkwardness (which can be even more fatally impairing in some cases). Outside attractiveness can affect your personality because of how people treat you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 01:03 PM
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Absolutely yes, he has had those in the past and even now with a baby it’s tough but his mix of strength and human acceptance of his flaws and weakness along with having courage to ask other men their lived experiences is what is really making him shine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:58 PM
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It’s tough being a man and a father. If my husband didn’t have some toughness in him it would be hard to keep everything up and going while I take care of our baby. He does things, gets the job done and makes me feel like they aren’t a burden to him. I love it. He can confide in me how things are tough, but he does everything with a smile. I wouldn’t want someone who isn’t strong willed and insecure, or whiny. The rest is mostly online discourse so I take it with a grain of salt, but men would s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 08:53 AM
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There’s a general consensus of who’s deemed attractive and who isn’t Some people aren’t liked by anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 09:09 AM
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Yes the attraction is implied when listing those characteristics, only a socially inept person would think that those are the only characteristics necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 02:48 PM
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Women need to be attractive (both looks and personality wise) as well which is something lots of men ignore, but yes in majority of cases men do the initiation of the “mating dance”, that has to be reciprocal
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:13 AM
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Construction workers hollering at me even now that ive become a mom and lost pregnancy weight is something that really makes me smile
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:54 AM
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Op didn’t ask me what I think others should do No idea where you pulled out the dumb part from, maybe you are one of those people that hope that traumas and hardships made people better than others?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:02 PM
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Yeah happy adjusted people are dumb 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:52 PM
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Yes thank you for understanding, high self esteem and being confident in one’s self really helps in relationships. Also being happy with one’s dating experience and life too!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:18 PM
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I am not in the US, I live in Italy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:01 PM
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Thanks for the confirmation that you aren’t interested in reading or understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:02 PM
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Are you asking me or “women”? The majority of men aren’t show stealers like many women, but their attractiveness doesn’t only depend on looks, and as long as a guy looks masculine and isn’t “ugly” he can be very attractive. I never did online dating and met everyone through acquaintances, friendships and relatives. Also the majority of people aren’t overweight or obese which adds to the ugliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:59 PM
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Regular as opposed to model trust fund, which is definitely not regular, nor is ugly unhappy dude that got bullied throughout his childhood and teenagehood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:48 PM
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Oh that’s some bitter and reductive take, just a regular dude who had a happy childhood, like my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:40 PM
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I had to specify yeah, I mostly meant having a happy childhood and teenagehood, with little issues socialising, less economic issues, good work and school opportunities, good career, experience with women and relationships. Generally attractive people are favoured in all these regards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 11:21 AM
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Nope, attractive men that didn’t have to undergo hardships of life and are happily bluepilled are the best imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:45 AM
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That doesn’t make sense in response to my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:55 AM
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I guess that’s on them to learn, if a guy doesn’t understand that I dodged a bullet, how will he navigate all the complex communication that occurs in couples and families?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:22 AM
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Define better or worse? What matters is how generally attractive you are If your only defining characteristic is not being an asshole you probably are lacking personality
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:26 AM
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I didn’t say that average men don’t find love
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:28 AM
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Nope, just the context in which I heard that sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:25 PM
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When friends told me that they meant they wanted the guy they’re attracted to to be kind and emotionally available Being attracted to the guy was intended as the first requirement
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:33 PM
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Yes, it has to be reciprocal
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:51 PM
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Don’t chase, flirt like a dance and make sure she reciprocates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:15 PM
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I am more of a couch potato and tend to prefer staying home, but I get along with people pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:31 AM
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It wasn’t my intention to be snarky, my definition coincided with google and I don’t see how this explanation doesn’t work for you. Besides the indicators in that explanation, I expanded on them in telling you specifically what I look for in a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:01 PM
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Besides your initial question sounding malicious, now you sound aggressive so I take it something about my statement is bothering you. The definition explains perfectly what I mean by social awkwardness, and in the other comment thread I explained the kind of qualities I look for in a man, let me get it and edit them in real quick “I like social, funny, outgoing, friendly, likeable men who understand the basics of communication with strangers, acquaintances, friends, relatives and love interest/…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 04:46 PM
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From a quick google search “Social awkwardness is when you have difficulty communicating or engaging with others in a social setting. You might feel uncertain about what to say, avoid eye contact, or notice physical symptoms like sweating or fidgeting. At times, social awkwardness can make it difficult to communicate effectively.”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 04:33 PM
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I like social, funny, outgoing, friendly, likeable men who understand the basics of communication with strangers, acquaintances, friends, relatives and love interest/me. I do not want to teach someone how to react or how to behave with people nor how to behave with me, and that can understand people’s (not just mine) feelings and mood without being explicitly told.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:59 PM
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Social awkwardness is my biggest disqualifier for men, but as far as being fat goes especially in places like US I see it being quite accepted. Women that would be considered absolutely overweight (and medically obese) here I read guys saying they like meat on bones, so the standards are probably different
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:11 PM
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Huh? I am happily married lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:07 PM
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That’s not what I am discussing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:07 PM
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I do not find men attractive just because they are “good” whatever that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:26 PM
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That’s wishful thinking, we can try our best but some people are unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:42 PM
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*Attractive and good men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:40 PM
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They don’t but when you’re lonely it’s ok to feel frustrated that the scum of the earth has women who want them and you don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:12 PM
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I enjoy living std free
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:32 PM
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There’s a middle ground, I usually find it to be a male revenge fantasy that men don’t lock down women who dress more provocatively compared to their more modest counterparts
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:23 AM
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Yeah, we watch us politics from afar (we have our own issues in italy smh) but I don’t like to get too heated either, I just want to enjoy company. Now that you mention it we have an older friend that always seems to be outraged at the “latest new thing TM” but we know he’s like that and try not to let him monopolise our conversations. I agree what you say about no solutions for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:49 PM
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Thank you yes we are lucky and happy, we overcome challenges like everyone but I cannot complain! Yeah if I had long work hours like 9-5 that would suck, but I’ll go back to work when baby is 9-10 months old (i am now on paid maternity leave) and I get off work at 2/3 pm so it’s not too bad, it does leave time for enjoying baby and doing stuff. Oh I do not bring this in real life, we have friends we get along with, they are like us, we discuss politics but we are all over the political spectrum,…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:18 PM
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I am very passionate about my work (and I work awesome hours, usually home by 3pm!) and think that two incomes is the best, because I expect a level of economical comfort that can hardly be achieved by a sole income and because relying on one person only if you do not come from a rich family is not a good idea. We both do whatever needs to be done around the house, I expect him to figure out what needs to be done like he and many other people do like when at work, and when something needs lookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 02:15 PM
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I completely agree with you, I named myself pinkpill because I agree with RPW but do not find it in my best interest to be “trad”, and libfem is a joke in my eyes, I respect and agree with many ideas of radfem, but even then they might be a bit extreme in some ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 07:11 AM
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Men don’t always go after very poor women because beauty and personality are heavily influenced by the amount of money one has and comes from. Stressful low paying jobs age you faster, lower socioeconomic conditions mean you struggle more and that reflects on looks and personality. Also people who come from poorer backgrounds do not always have economical literacy, can rack up debts that they can’t pay, not something very appealing for a LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:10 PM
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Because they do not meet those standards and while they could just vent about their situation they try to make it our fault for wanting what is best for us and for our family.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:21 PM
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More hurt if he went with a woman because him going with a man would be a huge turn off, I wouldn’t have married him if I knew he was bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:12 AM
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Oh how aggressive, we are two adults that do whatever needs to be done around the house based on the time we have. Why so many men getting triggered?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:53 PM
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My life is pretty happy thank you, it helps when you vet partners properly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:36 PM
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I always worked and will keep working, but if a man isn’t willing to go the extra mile for me how can I trust him to take care of me during pregnancy and all the issues I could be having (and actually am having)? I don’t care what single mothers do, I am not looking to struggle in life, and like men who have their life together, who enjoy taking care of their partner and who have a positive outlook on family life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:46 PM
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I do not agree that they are the same, and if you see pregnancy just as being pampered I am glad I didn’t choose someone who thinks like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:29 PM
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If you do not see how pregnancy can be a burden then you have no idea what you are talking about. Some of us become bed ridden and I thank everyday for my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:59 PM
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If a man cannot show that he can provide for me, how can he take care of me when I’m pregnant? If men can take over the burden of pregnancy then we can start talking about equality
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:06 AM
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Being ugly, socially awkward and doesn’t pick social cues
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:52 PM
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The fact that it was never an issue isn’t an excuse. Northern Americans do seem extremely fixated on age gaps and calling 17 years old girls children, or infantilising women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:20 PM
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Men and women are obligated to support the baby. It doesn’t seem to me that children are free for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:02 PM
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Yeah of course they aren’t the ones carrying the baby, once men will have implanted uteruses they’ll have as much say as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 02:43 PM
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Nope, it helped me realise that any man who needs to read online forums to date isn’t someone I’d be interested in any way
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:51 AM
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2 month mandatory leave starting at the 7th month, which I’m extremely grateful for because I cannot imagine a capitalistic hellhole where women stay home when they give birth. Can be longer for health issues. So it’s either human rights or limit your losses
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:31 PM
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Yes, I agree about after birth, even though there’s longer mandatory leave for mothers in other countries which I’m not complaining about because it’s better than only having a few weeks off if any, it’s just something to consider when telling women they can have it all, even if they find a decent husband. Biology can limit us but we can do everything in our best interest to try to limit the limits. I cannot fathom how some women just take on the bulk of everything and how some men use weaponise…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:29 PM
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I still haven’t found a way to pass this belly with inside our baby girl to my husband to let him stay home and allow me to get back to work
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:26 PM
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You can, you’ll still run the risk of losing some opportunities. It’s not something that has to limit you, just recognise it and take it into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:46 PM
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That’s where you are, it’s longer in other countries especially when you have health issues and you literally cannot give your many the baby to carry. In those cases it’s tough luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:45 PM
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It still will never be 50/50 I am pregnant right now on maternity leave and I’m losing out on a few opportunities and the time I’m home will not count towards the time required to receive an hourly raise It sucks but it’s life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:26 PM
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Even doing half of everything they cannot carry children for us, and take the financial and career hit that comes with pregnancy and baby rearing :/
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:07 PM
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taking risks for the chance of fleeting pleasure which might not evolve into something more isn’t worth it for me. The benefits are just a chance, there might not even be any upside
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 02:34 PM
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Sharing my experience, I’m (was when single) more likely to have casual sex when tipsy with a friend who I was on the fence about, maybe not exactly my type but flirty and very funny, than with someone who is extremely good looking. But even then the benefits are few and not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:39 AM
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Because they aren’t married to them and they’re showing off on the internet gasp
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:58 AM
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He’s usually unattractive and/or with no spine It’s extremely hard to define, someone who attracts me physically, a strong personality, personal interests, friends, good work ethic, good listener. I don’t think so, I’ve often found non conventionally attractive men attractive so I have a good range Yes I married one
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:01 AM
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Ironically those tradwives make money by acting like tradwives..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:08 PM
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A woman has to give it more thought because of the impact a child has on her health, body and future job/career prospects, but some womenyeah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:58 PM
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If I earned 4000 euros a month I’d ask my husband if he wants to cut his working hours by a lot, I wouldn’t ask him to stay home because In todays economy it is not safe, and he loves his job. We have a child on the way, and that would work out amazingly, especially since I’d like more than one’ Same for my female ex, she worked such a physically stressful job and it was my dream to actually be able to provide for both so she wouldn’t need to work that shit job.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:02 AM
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Yes I see so many cool large palazzo pants or the 70s style pants and they’d look so awesome on my husband but he’d look so out of place, they are mostly worn on the runaway
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:38 AM
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It’s not the same as having biological kids within a hetero couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:36 AM
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Maternity leave and all the issues that come with it are one of the reasons why affirmative action is in place, not to mention women do less hours and are more likely to be absent from work if the child is sick, these laws help level the playing field for men and women in the workforce. I completely agree with everything, I am right not how in maternity leave and am losing on some opportunities. Some men want children like children want puppies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:34 AM
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Some men want children like children want puppies; they are cute, you love them and they are fun but they have no idea about the kind of commitment they are
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:32 AM
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Yes I’m loving becoming invisible in public, it’s amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:31 AM
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Women always worked, and the middle class families were driven to have two incomes because of inflation. Post ww2 economy was a blip in the radar of history, not something that could’ve stayed the same way forever
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:47 PM
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I’m sorry, I hope you find some peace and happiness soon ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:16 PM
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I’ve never used OLD but flirting, being flirted with and being courted is really exciting and the end goal, also because that’s how I vet for potential partners. It’s extremely flattering also when it’s someone I don’t like and when I was younger I’d slightly flirt back in a playsible deniability way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:08 PM
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Like shit but I wouldn’t have gotten with him unless I felt his strong attraction so it wouldn’t be a real issue
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:04 AM
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It would depend on the character, but they’re innocent until proven guilty. If they’re guilty hopefully the law will take care of it, but an innocent injustly accused and sentenced is horrible, to have your mother not believe you on top of that it’s even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:07 AM
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There is no politically correct in couples, parents should teach children to take no sh*t from the internet and especially fathers should be a masculine role model to male kids, teaching them about boundaries to avoid being stomped all over and to seek the approval of idiots (I say men because women seem to be more active in this role).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:25 PM
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Oh I absolutely understand, I’m trying to frame it in a way that waiting is good for the safety of the girl. Anyone has the right to do what they like, but I’d be pissed too if my husband did something for his ex that I’d care about and didn’t do it for me, or made it extremely easy for her and instead made me sweat for it. I’d at least demand an explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:11 PM
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Like leading them to understand themselves what would be best for them. Although I do see her telling me the bad boy biker is absolutely more interesting and exciting than her cute neighbour 🤣 Oh well we’ll get there, jokes aside this is great advice and I can see you have some experience working with kids. Congrats on your soon to be baby boy ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:43 PM
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Rather than a prize, waiting for sex can also be a safety measure, trying to make sure a guy isn’t dangerous and getting to know him better before you get vulnerable with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:39 AM
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This is very eloquently put, I wonder how I’ll explain this to my future daughter in 14 years without her rejecting this saying we’re prudes, and to keep the discourse open so she doesn’t feel the need to hide things. Like you don’t have to hide from me, you have to keep yourself safe not to mention the higher risk of STDs women have. Are you going to be father to a boy or a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:36 AM
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Yes healthy kids who have healthy relationships with peers are more likely to approach and have regular interactions as they age, instead of being chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:51 AM
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I’d love to see it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:49 AM
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Yeah, it didn’t say they didn’t approach because of anxiety so the premise that they’re all feeling deeply ashamed of their sexuality is just him applying his own experience onto others
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:25 AM
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That’s not what I said, no cope can substitute companionship and touch, but it satiates the desire and drive to get out there in all the situations that train your social muscle
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:11 AM
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The brain does
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:04 AM
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Especially when you have easy release and trick your brain into thinking you’re having intercourse with lots of different women every night.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:58 AM
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I’m so sorry about what you went through. You said you used to feel that way, how are you doing nowadays?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:55 AM
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Ask them? I think men who don’t understand simply don’t care or don’t want to comply. The majority of men are fine reading cues and anticipating needs in their workplace so there’s little difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:52 AM
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That’s some speculation, I explored in further comment threads why social ineptitude and disinterest could be caused by the lack of social interactions that children and teens have
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:50 AM
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A man who has issues with social cues wouldn’t understand the ones I mentioned. I don’t think men in general don’t understand non verbal communication so you should ask someone who thinks so
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:48 AM
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Children and teens are missing a huge chunk of the human experience that previous generations had, and they have dopamine-drugs in their pockets and in their homes accessible at all times. Sounds like a bad recipe!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:18 AM
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Kids grow into teens and adults, they bring with them into adulthood the social experience and bonds they form in childhood. A socially stunted child has the high chance to grow into a teen an adult that will have social issues interacting with peers and the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:09 AM
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Being chronically online doesn’t bode well with interacting with other humans, and anxiety spikes in these toxic echo chambers
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:06 AM
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My younger relatives share their experiences with me, I saw them and their friends group growing up, I mentioned it in the previous comment. Op is saying they’re all not approaching because of anxiety, they might as well be content enough with their coping mechanisms like porn and video games. You cannot deny there has been an increase in isolation in youngsters; when I was a kid we all used to go out or at each others’ house because if we didn’t we’dget bored at home. We also lived in a small t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:04 AM
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Facial expressions such as smiling and frowning, showing surprise, Someone being uneasy walking backwards to avoid excessive closeness or bad breath, someone losing interest in a professional setting or someone being interested in the conversation, avoiding or looking for eye contact, everything that we do sends a message to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:58 AM
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Non verbal communication is instinctive and a reflex, ignoring it is ignoring a huge chunk of the human experience. Someone smiling or frowning is communicating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:55 AM
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How do you know that other men feel the same way as you do? The study doesn’t cite a direct reason why men don’t approach as far as I read, you seem to be generalising your own experience. I haven’t seen this in younger generations (relatives) beyond those who live chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:52 AM
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Your adversity towards non verbal communication is impressive, but you have to accept communication isn’t just words for the majority of human beings, especially neurotypical ones. Learning to understand human cues is very useful, no just in romance but also in professional settings and amongst friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:06 PM
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Yeah I feel so rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:30 PM
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I’m picky too, never had issues by not asking guys out. That’s great for you, I advice against it for many women for some reasons I listed below. Anyone is free to do what they like and choose what approach they see best.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:49 PM
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I stand by my advice, if the guy likes you enough he’ll ask you out, if he’s not willing to risk rejection your interest is not clear enough (in that case do the mating dance more and flirt) or he’s either not interested enough in you. You’re free to give women any advice you like, I’ll give me own thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:36 PM
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Yeah it’s kinda for men to be single mothers What’s with all this stream of consciousness, do you have some resentment built up? I just mentioned bad dating advice that men give to women on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:57 PM
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I don’t care you can call me what you want, I’ll point out bad advice to women that doesn’t benefit them. You’re free to look for whatever kind of woman you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:24 PM
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It’s not, but you’re free to believe so if it makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:22 PM
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Hahaha you’re welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:38 PM
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It’s bad advice given by lonely redditors who think the only reason they can’t get dates is because they don’t know when a woman is interested and women won’t show interest because they haven’t been liberated yet. I’ll take my liberation and my man who makes the first move, with a side of romanticism thank you very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:30 PM
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Most Men accept anything, even women they aren’t very interested in because free poon is free poon, that’s why I advise against it. Especially to women who want an assertive man, do not select against these traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:27 PM
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Men often give bad advice to women that benefits men, like “mAkE tHe FiRsT mOvE”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:42 PM
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Yeah that’s how I do before getting into a bath lol I don’t use the scale, I don’t care whether it exists or not. For me a man is either yes or no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:04 AM
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Yeah men are awful at judging other men, who often do very little to improve their looks Edit to add: i do not rate men 1-10. I rate them yes or no. So unless it’s yes it’s a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:13 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 06:15 PM
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Oh so now you know about my relationship with them and what they tell me and what I see with my own eyes, I didn’t know I was speaking to someone who knows everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 06:11 PM
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In the context of the post, how does it benefit a guy to complain about his dating issues to a woman he is trying to date? It doesn’t, no one said to bottle up stuff, but there’s a time and place for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:57 PM
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Can you provide a picture example? Average means nothing and everything (usually means unattractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:18 PM
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what do you expect from strangers? Napoleon complex on reddit and other gaslighting comes from men as much as women, only many women are direct when it comes to their preferences. The girl who says she only wants a 6 foot guy isn’t necessarily the same one saying her bf is 5 foot 3 and being accused of gaslighting. I’d stay away romantically from a guy who complains about his shortcomings in the dating world because I want someone who is successful and had experience in dating, and the guys who …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:09 PM
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Yeah being a negative nancy isn’t fun or attractive and making the best of your positive attributes helps
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:04 PM
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I can put myself in your shoes, doesn’t mean I want to fuck you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:01 PM
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Did you see the hot rodent boyfriend trend?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 10:39 AM
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The women complaining know very well that if they ignored their needs and attraction they’d probably find someone, they aren’t stupid and don’t need you to tell them. The issue is that for women it’s better to be alone than with a man you don’t like, and they complain that they can’t find someone they like. I mean you can make all the threads about this as you want, they will not change what women are attracted to and it shows that the guys complaining have a poor understanding of social interac…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 09:09 PM
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Where marital rape was still considered legal and not rape
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:58 PM
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HR is being replaced by ai, in big companies a human rarely sees your curriculum before a machine does It would be really ironic I agree haha
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:40 PM
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Those are fights which me should fight hardly for, instead I hear men laughing at female on male rape/assault victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:39 PM
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Level out the playing field by giving men uteruses and the chance to get pregnant and we can remove affirmative action
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:39 PM
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But don’t you see, these women struggle dating and they’re too silly to realise that they’d be happier poorer, with less choices /s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:38 PM
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Absolutely, no entry level jobs, and I imagine that planned obsolescence and lower quality of appliances overall is reducing the number of technicians required for each household.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:03 PM
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Not to mention all the factory jobs and many trades
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:45 PM
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Is it equality, or is it just that lots of jobs that men used to go into have moved overseas? Blaming it in feminism and equality only helps divide the masses, the big issue is that many low skilled jobs have relocated or have been obliterated by technology (with many more on the way).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:13 PM
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The rise in low waist and belly out trend is killing the thick trend that I always despised because it was just a bunch of shapewear and filters, and I’m all here for it honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 09:26 AM
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No way the thick preference would exist without shaping leggings, filters, poses, and the likes. Maybe it’s to cope with the increasing obesity rates. I rarely see obese people so I don’t even see “thick “ ones, I mostly read comments online. Seeing what choices women make though I see regular people hanging together
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:05 AM
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Lots of men seem resentful towards women who they do not deem attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:53 PM
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25 years ago having a size 44 with wide hips meant you were a fatass, what mattered was being slim with big tits fake or real. Now, or maybe 2/3 years ago, women who didn’t arch their back and have lipos and bbls were called flat butt and other names.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:44 PM
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I have never felt attraction towards a younger woman, it’s probably a mix of the two things
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:08 PM
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Nope, it helps that I’m probably still on the old edge of young, I have a happy life and age of a woman doesn’t define how attracted to her I am, although my threshold is 40 for some reason I don’t like younger women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 06:57 AM
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I meant I look forward to mine, like wrinkles and the likes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:45 AM
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Who does botox?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 12:34 AM
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I'm 35, I'm with the love of my life, I'm happy and I'm starting to feel more relaxed about my looks. I had decent success with men after my ugly duckling phase that ended after I was 19-20 and I had a glowup. I realize I'm still young, but I'm literally looking forward to my signs of aging, what probably helps is that I find them attractive on women that I like so I do not necessarily see them as detrimental but as descriptive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:05 PM
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There isn't an insult to describe a man who sleeps around, while I can name a few in different languages for women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:00 PM
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Hypothetical, in many cases IRL men like that are exhausting and have little social skills that negatively impact the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:48 AM
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Respect =/ being husbanded up by an amazing wife He described him like you’d describe a dog
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:47 AM
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Cars were the solution
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:41 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:40 AM
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It depends on what kind of person you are looking for. I prefer very social and outgoing men with a nice network of friends, and anxiety is a disqualifier for me, so in my case having no friends would be a no no. Also you’re describing your brother like a dog
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:39 AM
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And they try to frame it as a woman’s problem, I call it concern trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:50 PM
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What pill? What is the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:47 PM
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Huh? Women regularly flirt all the time with guys they like They usually avoid flirting with guys they don’t like
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:22 PM
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Women approach and flirt with guys they like
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:28 PM
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I find women more physically attractive, I tend to look at them more and when with a partner in bed, I have more focus points that turn me on with women than with men that coincide with secondary sexual characteristics. I like tomboy women but am visually captured by all types of female beauty, but I’m much more selective with men whom I prefer to be masculine, both in looks and demeanour, even if they aren’t stereotypically attractive (like the “hot rodent” boyfriend trend, not my type but help…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 06:54 PM
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Videogames like porn can be an unhealthy coping mechanisms that rewards you with dopamine when no real achievement is happening. I have no idea why it’s considered worse than gambling for some, it is certainly something that can be done without immediate repercussions thus can be kept going for longer. I love videogames and have had some addiction issues in the past so I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 02:38 PM
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You asked why men should care that women have free will and give consent to the men, not me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:31 PM
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If a man doesn’t care about a woman’s consent it’s called rape. By asking why should men care you appear to be justifying rape. At that point advocate for men to be allowed to rape women in this dreamy doomsday of yours where finally men will get what they “deserve”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:18 PM
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I think that an authoritarian government doesn’t foster attraction but obedience and fear, but not every man values free will and consent of the women they could be with
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:34 PM
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The OP talks about status, and that includes your socioeconomical background.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:07 PM
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Housewives that come from a good social and economical background, not a waitress from the local fastfood chain.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 11:20 AM
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Nope, when I was 20 I used to like 25 year old guys, now they look like teenagers and my preference is moving up with my own age (and the minimum will probably settle around the 35-40 age)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 05:29 AM
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The majority of men who say this I feel say it out of lack of options and standards rather than preferences. In real life the social and economical status of your female partner matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 06:09 PM
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I was talking specifically about attraction not having a family it’s great what your country is doing to help people with kids although having 3 kids sounds like a full time job nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:11 PM
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You can stop certain actions from taking place, but you can’t generate attraction out of nowhere
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:36 AM
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Yeah I remember I was in Naples for work last year and a guy yelled will you marry me haha It’s usually not dangerous as long as they are being corteous about it or smiling like street workers or truck drivers, the issue is when it’s insults or they follow you but I’ve only had that from muslim immigrants
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 05:42 AM
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But do they actually exist??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 05:39 AM
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Some physical things aren’t huge disqualifiers (others are) and can be aided by positive qualities in other departments, to create raw sexual desire. Nothing better than having this lingering growing feeling of wanting to screw the brains out of a guy that you didn’t consider attractive before getting to know him
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:20 PM
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I think that these charming guys were also quite successful in life, not as in rich but had friends, many interests, an organic social life and the attitude of people who in general didn’t have a bad life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:18 PM
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I know how I feel, and I can be into someone for both things. I am objective about looks and while I didn’t date monsters the guys had some redeeming qualities, and generally had masculine characteristics. Having a nice body doesn’t make an ugly face prettier, but it can help a man look more masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:16 PM
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I find that describes not socially skilled men, not a feminine men. Did you ever hear about women on the spectrum being generally better at masking? It’s why so many go undiagnosed for so many years
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:54 PM
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Yeah a man has to be masculine in my eyes, but he can be conventionally ugly or not handsome but if we click we click I mention this example because the amount of handsome young men in Naples is staggering, like tall, dark, with nice hair and beard, beautiful eyes sometimes blue, masculine, but that alone isn’t a qualifier for me. Like I don’t want to have sex with a guy because he is handsome. I like women too, and I like the ones that I like, maybe not conventionally beautiful, but they click …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:45 PM
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In southern Italy where younger men are much better kept I find so many more of them handsome, but me being attracted to them as in wanting to spend time and have sex with them is a different story In northern Italy I find the men less well kept and less handsome, but that doesn’t disqualify attraction. I am not usually attracted to someone if I don’t get along with them on top of not being physically repulsed, I’ve liked very questionable and objectively ugly but charming men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:11 PM
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Personality is taken into account when the baseline attractiveness is met, and can be helpful and make you attractive when you’re not strikingly ugly. I think when people say bad personality online many actually mean bad social skills, that totally kill attraction for many women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:42 AM
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There are so many downsides to motherhood, i firmly believe it goes against our best interests. And I say that as someone who has struggled with fertility and desire a child a lot! But I recognise what I’m trading in, and if we weren’t economically comfortable I wouldn’t have done it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:52 PM
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75 patients only, and those that made it to the ER. sounds like survivorship bias and doesn’t take into account alcohol spiking
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:22 AM
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But-but-but think of the poor men :(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:19 AM
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It’s not, just things we do automatically once learnt.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:11 AM
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Why are you listening to people online who bragplain about all the men they reject? There’s a nuance to cold approaching that can work Be respectful and don’t approach women in situations that can be perceived as dangerous like alone in a park or a parking lot, but that’s hopefully a given (or is it? since some people need to read advice online)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 06:56 AM
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I’m hardly ever wrong with first impressions, from how you speak to others, the things you say and how you say them, how you move, how you choose to present yourself. It happens very rarely
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 10:50 AM
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Yeah I guess it does
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:37 AM
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I ended a relationship because i fell in love with a woman. Edit to add she was not a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:30 AM
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Yeah, like I did. Is it a friendship or are you two interested in each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:07 AM
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If I were a man I wouldn’t either honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:05 PM
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I’ve always asked myself that, are all bisexual women adventurous and/or come from some sort of trauma (the ones I’ve known) or are those just the ones who make it known they’re bi?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:01 PM
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As a pure 50/50 bisexual, men are going to be jealous of women too haha Also they do see it as competition if you do not like traditionally feminine women, but are more into tomboys and masculine women. I usually tell immediately about my bisexuality as I’ve had partners of both sexes. I wouldn’t date a bisexual man because a man liking another man is a total turnoff for me. I have to remind myself to ask my friends what they think about it because I’d be curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 10:58 PM
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I’ve found eating pussy not hard to learn but it’s probably easier knowing how a woman reacts (I don’t like it so I can’t compare) I also know how the clit feels so that’s another point With men I had to learn what each reaction meant haha I can understand it being harder for men though, like you usually penetrate to give pleasure but you’re supposed to stimulate something else? How to know how that thing actually feels like and that it’s better than say sticking your tongue in the hole? I don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 10:28 PM
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I was talking about BJs being physically tiring and painful after a while, saying cunnilingus isn’t as tiring for me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 10:09 PM
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Dang that sucks haha, I always found it much less tiring compared to BJs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:59 PM
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Never spoke about sexual violence. And you choke on food that enters your airways, when someone blocks your airways it’s strangulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:56 PM
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I think that seeing porn in childhood and normalising this experience is doing no good service
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:49 PM
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Do I have to wash your butt after you go #2 or are you able to research something on your own instead of criticising and throwing tantrums?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:23 PM
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The only way to fight to overcome the unbalance is to give men a vagina and a uterus and women penis, with all the risks involved
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:20 PM
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It’s nice but physically tiring and painful after a while, in comparison cunnilingus doesn’t hurt the jaw or arm as much
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:18 PM
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I think it’s less worse than the rest of reddit and yeah it’s fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:17 PM
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Satisfying a man is a given because he has to orgasm for the sex to end?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:13 PM
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Expecting things like anal and violence too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:11 PM
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The expectation to perform physically dangerous sexual acts has increased for women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:10 PM
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Anyone can give advice but you’re expecting 1 million dollar answers from strangers online, complaining when they don’t give advice that is useful in your opinion. I don’t know what kind of specialist you need, you could look for someone that is geared towards “male” issues, actual behavioural therapy, and towards solutions instead of acceptance
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:03 PM
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I’d argue that there are some nicely grounded people here and contrasting viewpoints that are very interesting to read and make sense, but I don’t think that anyone should take social advice online anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:59 PM
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Sounds like someone rightfully frustrated with their situation that cannot channel their frustration constructively. Commenters on reddit aren’t paid life coaches or therapists smh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:50 PM
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So you expect solution from strangers who don’t even know that person who has a complex social issue, and failing to provide that they aren’t empathetic? Sounds quite pretentious, you should ask these questions to someone who does this as a job and can actually help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:49 PM
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Attractiveness includes looks and socialisation skills, you’d be surprised how many average looking guys disqualify themselves because of antisocial behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 01:31 PM
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That’s not enough, lots of normal looking guys have social issues, that’s what I referred to but hit send too early Being socially inept is personally my biggest disqualifier
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:59 PM
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You’re right, it’s a weird angle but he doesn’t look bad. I have no idea where he’s from but I’ve read many places in US have an isolation problem where it’s hard to interact with other people as young.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:38 PM
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I have no idea honestly, it depends on the reasons why someone has no experience
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 11:51 AM
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20 years of age is last time I tolerated lack of experience, I probably wouldn’t have beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 08:30 AM
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Yes attractive men are confident therefore acting confident makes anyone attractive. Just like my husband said that swimmers have huge body frames because swimming makes it larger, it’s the opposite they’re good swimmers because genetics help them. Does basket make you taller?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 08:15 AM
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I can see this now, but didn’t “get it” when I was 20! We used to joke about the guys we’d marry if we were still single in our late 30s and only now I realise what an insult it was I’m glad I married someone I had the hots for to the point of almost having sex in public the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 05:07 AM
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Yeah no shit sherlock
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 08:17 PM
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I agree, my husband and I started TTC when he proposed because of fertility issues with agreement to get married immediately if I ever were to fall pregnant before the wedding date. I told him what my plans were (marriage and kids) and if he wasn’t on board then I’d move on, and no kids without wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 09:51 PM
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It’s so empowering that it’s what the most rich people in the world do to assert their power
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 10:39 AM
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And men don’t carry the brunt or consequences like women do with pregnancy and higher risk of catching STDs. The two sexes aren’t same, wop wop
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 10:37 AM
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That’s awful, and men should absolutely spread more awareness about it both to fellow men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:03 AM
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Women touch you randomly? That’s an issue I rarely hear about, it’s still not ok if you don’t like it but I used to do that when I liked someone. I’m sorry about you being used as a tool, I don’t see how it’s a gendered thing as it happens to many women, especially those who do not “fit in”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:02 AM
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What acts of misandry and examples of being treated worse do you experience as a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 04:35 AM
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You can call things with their name. Men are the majority of those that get off to porn without even knowing if the act was consensual or getting off directly to simulated or real rape. If you want to criticise women for whatever else they do call it with the correct name
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:25 PM
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6ft, I don’t care about height.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:35 AM
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I loved my church and everyone there before we moved. I always went to confess myself with the priest after mass on sunday, and he always absolved me of my sins that included eating too many snacks and other coping mechanisms to deal with anxiety and a violent mother o.0
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:54 AM
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Yes I completely agree! My husband is a normie and I love that about him. Tons of friends, can make acquaintances everywhere we go, he’s funny and a pleasing human to be around. His parents are like him. I grew up socially awkward and am still not out of it completely although I’ve learned to mask as you say, and my parents are more like me and since they didn’t fit into social groups they didn’t get me to fit. I am as atheist as it gets but my future child will go to church, i will try to intro…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:32 AM
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Yes, I have!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:55 PM
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How would women make it culturally acceptable? By having sex with men who choose to stay single lol That’s the only way men would hop on a trend
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:41 PM
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Eh I think many know that very few women are naturally beautiful, that’s why the makeup and all the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:14 AM
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It’s mostly shaped by what other women do. If all women collectively decided to stop makeup, surgery, hair removal, hair styling, the standards would drop. Media is a way of showcasing what successful women all over the world are doing and what they look like. Similar dynamics would occur in a small town with no tv or internet connection, women have always desired beauty
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:37 PM
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Oh my issue was with the word Chad that usually indicates the guys in the 1/2%, while it’s usually a lot more! Since we’re talking about personal experiences,Besides my early teenage years where I passed an ugly duckling phase, I always had good luck in love, but if I didn’t I don’t think I would’ve gone for someone I didn’t like. At the same time, some “jock Chad” types who were finishing school while I was in the first year did make some moves and I knew that it wasn’t real interest but just s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:04 PM
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Not Chad, any guy we like. Real life “Chads” are pretty rare, I counted a couple of guys from high school that had super model looks, many less than the number of guys we used to like. Any guy I had a crush on, that’s whose opinion I cared about. I agree it’s useless to be liked by someone you don’t like!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:47 PM
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Lol ok thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:22 PM
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Nah, I can get him. These were things I used to say as a teen. I’d rather be alone than lower my standards. I’m happily married so no worries
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:57 PM
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I know! I wish someone told me before :(
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:52 PM
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I just wish I had learnt 20 years ago that hair didn’t grow back black and thicker if you cut them 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:47 PM
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I don’t know about shaving losing tractions, I’m seeing so many women laser their hair off for 1000 euros
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:43 PM
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Yeah many slim women also doll up you can’t isolate factors
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:41 PM
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Yeah I don’t care to appeal to guys who don’t have standards and who’d take anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:29 PM
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Whenever I complained to a male friend or strangers inline about not feeling pretty or not being able to do some things that made me look better or appear higher maintenance and the guys said “But it doesn’t matter for me..” I always want to say like yeah, but it matters for the guys I like because those are the kinds of girls they like
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:15 PM
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Huh? I have never noticed it, I’ve seen many more “boy mums” than “girl mums” and many times when boys do harmful things it’s played down as “boys will be boys”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:45 AM
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You are free to take studies that you didn’t read beyond the paywall and open up a post about it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:15 PM
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You are free to write your post categorising the types of men that do crimes and try to spin it in any way possible to blame women while doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:55 PM
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I completely agree, and I fear the age at which teenagers and children watch porn will get lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:32 PM
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You’re free to write a post about the reasons why people commit crimes and what ethnicity they are, there is no denying that men are the more violent sex and that these ideologies tend to radicalise men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:30 PM
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If I pursue a man I risk of being taken advantage of because many men would say yes to easy sex regardless of how much they are interested. By having a man approach me I am filtering for men with assertive masculine personalities that are actually interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:19 AM
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Why derail the conversation? These kinds of idealisms make men angry and dehumanise others, especially women. Angry men are more likely to become violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:01 AM
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having a strong cope in your room can stunt your social growth.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:14 AM
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It could be a cause, what need is there to get out of your comfort zone as a kid if you have your needs met in an artificial way? It’s uncomforting because it’s how many people cope, but it can be very harmful when growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:04 AM
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Doesn’t matter if against men or women, men are the most violent sex. stupid women with their free will to have sex only with the people they desire
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:56 AM
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My dream man is “bluepilled” because life has been kind to him, both genetically, socially and economically. Redpill is something you get into because something isn’t working for you. Being aware of social dynamics isn’t anything pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:35 AM
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The majority of violent crimes are committed by men and they are the stronger sex. Anger has to be channeled correctly to avoid blackpilling or radicalisation. So many boys that get bullied might be fine when they grow up given time to develop if they avoided all that rp crap, instead they might end up spewing rp and blackpilled and digging deeper holes. The redpill and all the other stuff is a symptom of something bigger, my guess social circles getting smaller probably because 24/7 access to p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:33 AM
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It drives men to get angry, and angry men unlike women are dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:26 AM
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In general, I wouldn’t trust what someone says as advice. Like sure you may have liked the flowers or his voice, but how does that translate to advice? Many times people do not know what they like and what charmed them. Like a football player he could attribute his success to his hard work and his good luck charm, but without mentioning the money required to invest time into sports unlike poor peers that have to work or their parents don’t have time to take them to practice. This is just an exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:30 AM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:49 AM
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Average is overweight smh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:56 PM
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You should be more realistic and realise that you are being entitled by telling people what to desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:49 PM
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The way some people say it they make it sound like it’s impossible. 20-30 isn’t much older, over that I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:30 PM
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I just stated my preferences and experiences and wonder why people negate that it happens and claim that 20 year old women in general hate attention from older guys like in their 30s, when it’s not true for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:08 PM
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Yeah that makes sense I don’t know why people on reddit make it seem like age gap relationships between20 and 30 don’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 03:40 PM
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My friends and I regularly dated guys 5/10 years older than us in our early 20s. It’s not that rare as redditors want to make it seem, but as others have said if you didn’t have success in your 20s it’s unlikely that 20 year olds will flock to you once you hit 30 and beyond
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:05 PM
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Theo sounds like my husband on steroids haha
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:40 PM
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Eh I like wearing clothes that show my abs and tight mid thigh shorts in the gym because I like seeing my muscles as they swell and I really like my reflection. I don’t get pumped up the same if I’m wearing baggy stuff. Like muscular guys who wear tank tops, show that muscle!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:29 AM
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Nope but you’re free to think so
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:40 AM
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That could absolutely be a reason why I don’t like someone. If they aren’t unattractive and they still buy sex I’m still asking myself that, wondering where’s the catch
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:22 AM
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That’s my second thought, the instinctive one is “why did you have to pay for something that men I like get for free?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:03 PM
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When I was 20 the age range for men for me and other women I knew was 23-35 No idea how old guys look when they’re 30 where you are
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:06 PM
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Body positivity for women works because many men would fuck anything that moves, and many have lower standards than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:51 AM
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Lots of men date women they have no interest in marrying waiting for the “right” one to come along, and don’t exit relationships until unless they’re truly problematic because some sex is better than no sex. That doesn’t mean they are more invested in their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:49 AM
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If you make noise make I’d appreciate if they found a way to not be heard, or to tone it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 05:18 PM
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Nah, it’s fine if you both like the same things. I wouldn’t want somebody who never wants to drink and party
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:30 PM
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It is never nice to turn someone down for intimacy, and I am not a replacement for their hand or whatever it is, I expect a partner to be able to at least be quiet if they handle it themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:58 PM
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Do you not see why?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:49 PM
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In any house.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:46 PM
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It would still be passive aggressive, be silent if you’re gonna pleasure yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:41 PM
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The noise making seems passive aggressive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:11 AM
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Yeah try joking about sniffing coke off your blue collar house builder’s asshole and see how it ends with insults and lack of trust that men seem to have with gays
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:26 PM
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Not all, and it’s a fight to ban hate porn subs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:23 PM
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That’s not true of everyone and also depends on the person reportinnh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:23 PM
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Cancel culture isn’t censorship, it’s someone losing money for something they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:22 PM
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Yes I’ve noticed that as well. I haven’t found a similar term to shut down differing opinions like SWERF and TERF from the right
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:21 PM
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Because they’re “too much drama “ right
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:16 PM
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Women who say that have boring friends
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:16 PM
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Lots of male dominated spaces that need more rule enforcement like jailbait, hate porn, and other fun stuff. I’ve found more left leaning spaces to be like this. stating that you do not want a man in women’s changing rooms is ban worthy in many subs. I do tend to see women’s beauty spaces requiring very delicate wording to not offend feelings, and anything harsh will be reprimanded.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:15 PM
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I can usually see desperation, and it’s sadly usually a mix of many factors that corroborate why I am not interested in someone. I wouldn’t be interested even if they weren’t desperate though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:02 PM
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Something’s off if he hasn’t had his first kiss at 24. Would you date him? If so, why or why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 04:48 AM
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Best option is subjective, not objective. Best option to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 05:04 AM
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It’s not unreasonable, but people’s perception of themselves and others is based on who you have around
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 04:56 AM
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You can tell when someone feels blessed by having you in his life, when someone sees you as the most beautiful, loving, caring and interesting person and desires you, compliments you and appreciates all the little things, even the ones I don’t like about me. Also he has a type and I seem to fit that type. You can tell the difference in how someone sees you when they like you just enough (I’ve experienced that) and when they are like, “starving “ for the whole you. Edit When I look at my man I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:55 PM
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It’s not how it played for me, I met all my exes and current husband organically through friends, school, work if that helps. I wouldn’t want it any other way either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:28 PM
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The same thing that happens if he gains weight and when he’ll hopefully age; we’ll still be attracted, not like when young of course. Have you ever heard long time couples that find each other still beautiful? I want a man attracted to me in many different ways AND by my looks. One thing doesn’t exclude the others.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:11 PM
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Yeah cos they don’t have a vagina Doesn’t mean no man settles for a woman that’s not super attractive in his eyes, and that’s what I wouldn’t ever want
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:22 PM
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Of course not and I’d hate a man to do the same to me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:10 AM
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I find some women who previously devalued themselves hyper correct by acting like sprinkle sprinkle instead of setting firm boundaries and realising what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 09:38 PM
1

That’s a great point too!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:42 AM
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I wonder if it’s mostly due to having a platform to out these opinions. Besides town gossip, what were the means to say you individually disapproved of something before internet and social media?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:11 AM
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As a younger girl I couldn’t see the bullshit some older guys were playing on me (being controlling, cheating, etc), but now I see it. That said, I had to bang my head against the wall to understand because I lacked self confidence to recognise and make my boundaries respected and the socialisation to hold a relationship with a guy with a smaller age gap (first was 16/17 - 24 second was 18-24). If it was a girl close to me I’d try to make sure the guy isn’t abusive and an asshole, but wouldn’t k…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:57 AM
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I agree, this post mentions women on bumble and it’s not about “work” it’s about not wanting to
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:53 AM
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I haven’t, I’m answering op and you’re going off topic
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:44 PM
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This question asked if I would date someone who pays women to have sex. A “Chad” wouldn’t be lonely and need advice for online dating like the OP so I don’t see what you’re talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:42 PM
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I never question the women’s humanity, I don’t care about exceptions (and reading SW forums you often see how hot guys are often the most entitled lol), getting horny enough to cum with a woman that would 99.9999% not sleep with you willingly without money involved is a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:35 PM
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If the man isn’t attractive/interesting anything is too much work
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:32 PM
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Yeah these apps are funded by the majority of men, those who probably don’t get messaged first
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:31 PM
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I wouldn’t date a man that gets turned on by a woman who is not into him Stop reading advice online.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:19 AM
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I had known him and liked him for 10 years but we were never single. So a few hours into our first date we were making out hard and the next day we had sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:50 AM
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No one needs to justify their preferences, neither me nor you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:13 PM
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Small framed and skinny, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:54 PM
1

Huh? People grow through puberty, hopefully
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:33 PM
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I don’t like overweight men, it’s a mix of bones, muscle and a small layer of fat like all humans. As another user said, large clavicles
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:24 PM
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I should give you photos of the people I’ve been with, and people that I know have worked out but didn’t literally grow shoulders
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:22 PM
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I don’t mind height (a man my height is fine!) and I recognise the benefits of working out and being healthy and active, I’m just stating my 2 cents about muscles since it’s a question directed to women. I agree with everything you said, and I think there’s lots of toxic echo chambers online of criticism towards some characteristics like men’s height, and how when an average or short man does something it’s out of compensation or the stupid “Napoleon complex” (who wasn’t even short btw)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:14 PM
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That seems to trigger people, I like men from my height onwards and like tall men as long as they have wide clavicles and thick bone structures.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:38 PM
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I see lots of men who workout and have a small frame and shoulders. No amount of workout and lifting will give you bigger bones when you’re not big boned. that’s what I’m referring to. If you have small arms and need to workout to keep them up I wouldn’t find going to the gym helpful that’s what the OP asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:14 PM
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I have a clue because I live with a man like that. I think you’re confusing big shoulders due to bone structure to big muscles. That’s what I’ve been saying since the beginning
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:06 PM
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I think we’re confusing the definition of natural muscle - no pun intended. The best definition that comes to my mind is not fat dad bod of dads who do not go to the gym. My husband has nice arms and so do many men, even without working out. I prefer men like that over those who need to work out to have some meat on their bones. Again, not fat, I don’t like overweight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:03 PM
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It’s also applicable to body type, shoulder and bone width, muscles. I don’t like overweight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:56 PM
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Yeah I’m sorry, losing weight is simple but hard at the same time. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:54 PM
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I meant someone with big shoulders, decent size muscles. Like slim dad bod? Dad bod without the belly? Decent size muscles with no definition on a nice body frame (big shoulders and a smaller waist)?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:07 PM
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I accept that my man will age just as I will, we live a healthy lifestyle, aging is different from being forced to workout many hours a week to keep a semblance of shoulders and muscle. It’s genetics. I’m not a reward for hard work, you and others are free to look for someone who appreciates their toned and muscular gym body.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:56 PM
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I would avoid someone scrawny that has to spend 3/5/10 hours a week into a gym lest he reverts to his regular body. This kind of dedication is not something everyone can hold for long, especially when kids and other things in life come around. Give me a regular non fat body with nice large shoulders and a decent amount of natural muscle and I’m happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:47 PM
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I’m fine with the ones I’ve found so far. I like broad shoulders and natural muscle, and none of my exes or even my current husband does much physical activity and they had/have jobs that don’t require the use of strength. I wouldn’t date a woman I don’t like without make up since you mentioned it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:11 PM
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That’s like the basis and when someone asks advice about their dating prospects they should make sure to be not overweight first IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:19 PM
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For my personal taste it’s good for the scrawny guys with no natural muscle, for those who are nicely built it doesn’t help much. I look for naturally well built men so I’d avoid someone who has a good body shape because of training.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:14 PM
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When did I ever say why do you care? I said you can’t compare the two things
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:19 AM
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Andrew Tate taught people how to pimp out insecure women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:07 AM
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This low hanging fruit misandry to me tells more about the person spewing it and those who cheer on it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:56 AM
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It’s a common response to complaints in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 08:54 PM
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There’s flirting, banter, getting to know someone, no need for direct approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:56 PM
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I don’t “chase” men because if a man likes me he will reciprocate interest in a “courting dance” way I’m not serving pussy up on a platter to someone who can decides if he wants it or not. Men who complain on reddit that women don’t approach wouldn’t get approached either if by the most dominant woman if she isn’t interested. They’ll still approach guys they like, not the ones they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:55 PM
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Birth rates dropped due to female having access to contraceptives, feminism alone wouldn’t have managed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:02 AM
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Men can’t get pregnant so it’s not a double standard, it’s different circumstances. Once men can get pregnant and women not be forced to pay child support then it will be a double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 06:37 PM
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Yes the two experiences cannot be compared
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:35 PM
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There can be no same standard on this issue as long as men do not have the ability to remain pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:07 PM
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Concern trolling from men who instead of saying that this sucks for them they’re trying to convince women that it’s actually a bad arrangement for them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:38 AM
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When men will have an equal risk in pregnancy and child bearing then they will have the same rights. Nature and our bodies aren’t equal, and that means that if a woman chooses to keep the child the man who contributed to making the child has to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 11:15 PM
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I would ask directly if you have difficulty gauging interest, like want to go on a date? If it’s anything but yes then it’s a no
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 03:34 PM
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There is no friendzone, she either likes you or she doesn’t. If she likes you you won’t be in the friendzone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 01:49 PM
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20 year old men look like children to me (35)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:17 PM
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Sorry I’m not “women”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:04 AM
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The difference is caring and being extra considerate in the long term compared to wooing at the beginning
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:38 AM
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Men and women sometimes like different things I do not see huge shops full of male lingerie. I’m sorry you weren’t treated to that and other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:37 AM
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Because they have lower standards in what’s required to raise children
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:05 AM
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Nope just looked for outdated studies that prove the point
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:58 AM
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Don’t worry, the day they’re on a date with Sidney Sweeney clone they’ll be very quick to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:22 AM
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I spit my tea laughing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:16 AM
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If they wanted children earlier they’d have them, it’s important to be in a secure spot before putting a child into this world, especially with all the expenses and no maternity paid leave in some countries like I read about USA
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:58 AM
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I don’t understand the question, is the relationship supposed to be a ppd tutorial?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:23 AM
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Wrinkles, a little bit of belly, things that are generally considered flaws I don’t mind if I find the woman attractive, instead they can make her more attractive somehow. In a man no matter how attracted I am I find them they make him less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:22 AM
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Some bi or lesbian women like women who men don’t like, it’s when men see lesbian couples that don’t fit their standards and they complain
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 09:17 PM
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I have a great gaydar, at least for the women who are attracted to me. I am bi and even though I like butch women I am more lenient towards “flaws” in them than in men, I find they make them more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 09:15 PM
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It can’t hurt to try when you’re a woman in a relationship with a woman; if I like something I tried and see if she liked it too, in general life, intimacy and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 09:12 PM
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Yeah totally unhealthy relationship if he had to beg for anything, why even stay? How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:39 PM
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“If they even do this” Has no one ever done some of the things I listed for you? Genuinely asking but you seem to describe women as people that take romantically and do not give. You seem to describe one sided relationships where men do the act of “simping” or when the relationship is heavily in favour of the woman like when she’s not into a man
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:34 PM
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Lack of effort usually means lack of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:06 AM
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A few examples of romantic things women do for the men they love: Thoughtful Gifts bought months in advance, little thoughts, preparing coffee every morning, planning dates and dinners out, candle lit home made dinners, planning to be found in lingerie only at home ready for action, random gifts, random notes around the house or in his things, when going shopping for oneself thinking if the he has what he needs (in terms of food, house stuff, clothing) This is what I gathered through the years f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:00 AM
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I see lots of people upset that others want to have fun, don’t want to settle down, don’t wanna have kids I would advise the ppb to be very careful, I’ve known a couple before the world wide web was a thing and they thought they took the shortcut to female validation but it was clear after marriage the women were looking for a way out of poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:42 AM
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Is there some reason why you do not understand nuance in written text?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:56 PM
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You only seem to understand absolutes, no relatives
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:27 PM
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Yes and even for men another man is usually much more scary and dangerous than a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:24 PM
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They aren’t per se, if you were to be chased and rapes by someone with a penis or without the person with could be more dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:16 PM
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Totally unrelated lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:05 PM
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If women were the pursuers and had a penis. The penis is what is considered dangerous on an aggressive person, much more than a vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:58 PM
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I said I understand, that’s why you need to talk about it with a male friend that can give you guidance. I’m not RP but their motto “Don’t listen to what they say see what they do” applies to many things in life, both men and women, and even women when they say that looks don’t matter 99/100. You’re not going to solve anything by asking the people who are virtue signaling or upholding social norms to be honest, it’s only going to get worse; you’ll look like the weirdo who doesn’t understand that…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:41 AM
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I understand your frustration with lack of transparency, virtue signaling is ingrained in many interactions especially for women, and as someone who likes to waste free time on the internet discussing things like these I’d really advise against discussing things like these in real life with people who aren’t on the same page. Like your bro complaining that girls are shallow? Yeah cool, that’s a great way to also vent together. Girls in your class or friend group who say they like chiseled chad f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:34 AM
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I read it, I’m wondering if these conversations happen with people you actually know or online in places like these
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:28 AM
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I wouldn’t get into such arguments with people I know IRL, like yeah you are proving they’re shallow but it’s not going to help relationships with friends, quite the opposite. You’d probably sound like the weirdo that is trying to pull things out of people that they might not be comfortable saying, and for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:22 AM
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Life isn’t just about dating and what men are willing to bone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:22 PM
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I’m so sorry. It makes me so mad that just because some men would screw anything that invalidates the female autistic experience. It can be terrible in a whole lot of different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:38 PM
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Tolerance doesn’t mean willing to date or have sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:29 PM
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A very little number of men age nicely, and that seems to skew perception in my opinion. The majority of men IRL start losing hair, gaining weight, their features are not enhanced by age but they become worse. Men peak later (25-40) while for women it’s 20-35 depending on the woman imo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:39 AM
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Inclusivity and being progressive doesn’t mean “They’d like to fuck@
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 01:56 PM
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You shouldn’t see courtship as one sided only, each side does something, and many of us like when the other sex does something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 01:12 PM
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I understand, I chuckled
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:06 PM
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I was confused, since in the post you mentioned the past generation, I was wondering what generation you were referring to from the close past that used the word courting 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:00 PM
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When, in the 1960s?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 04:53 PM
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I never did, you should rightly call out these things when you see them. You sound angry, and your anger should be directed at trying to find effective ways of communication
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:28 AM
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So your proposal is to take advantage of women who undergo transition and use their experience to further your goals? Why can’t you men do it yourselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:21 AM
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Having issues as a male doesn’t make less valid the issues that women face, and taking a small minority of women that already have mental issues and seeing how they cope when presenting as men doesn’t seem like a valid comparison imo
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:08 AM
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They haven’t been socialised as a male since birth and they aren’t males though, it’s just something superficial
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 03:31 AM
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They are not males and didn’t grow up and socialise as males
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:16 PM
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You can’t compare men to a woman with gender dysphoria
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 01:12 PM
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I’d probably realise the true extent of male horniness and be even more wary lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 01:53 PM
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Awww that’s so sweet and “goals” as youngsters would say
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 11:50 AM
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Dangerous compared to their female counterparts read the comment again
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:02 PM
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I don’t cast them as broken, I’m not going to engage with them beyond work and friendship if we are compatible. I communicate just fine with people in my life, I don’t need to enter relationships with people who need things spelt out for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:20 PM
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Some women want a specific kind of man, if you need to be asked you’re probably not their type
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:17 PM
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Some women want someone that moves faster, that means you are not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 10:11 AM
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Everything you do to take care of your appearance counts. I don’t think everything is meant to directly appeal men, like women who enjoy using expensive accessories do it to convey a certain image of theirselves even though they do not directly make them look more attractive. I think exaggerated nails have a similar purpose, to give off the image you want that might be liked to a certain group of people (friends, colleagues, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:15 AM
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Make up yes, what are ghetto nails?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 11:28 PM
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My remark was in response to “despite the change men are still interested “ Have you ever been in groups or settings where there are 99% men? The few women who are there are usually much more courted than elsewhere It’s all relative to who you are “competing” with and for
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:56 PM
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What might also help is that women in the military are probably young and fit Men don’t suddenly lose interest if in a setting where women don’t groom themselves to the max, but if you as a woman don’t groom yourself and have around you women who take care of their looks you usually receive less attention
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:53 PM
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I have no first person knowledge about military nor anyone who’s ever been in military.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:43 PM
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I think marketing appeals to our needs to be accepted, they don’t create needs but they draw from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 03:44 PM
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Yes to your first paragraph, these standards seem to follow “biology”, and while trends might change the idea is still the same. The pressure women feel is to be accepted and liked by a certain kind of people; men they’re attracted to, people they want to be friends with, jobs they want to apply to
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 03:28 PM
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Women taking care of themselves set a higher standard and men with more options tend to go for women who look better and take better care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 03:10 PM
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Same as guys telling women they should approach them and have sex on the first dates. Laugh and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:06 PM
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For the same reason any couple gets married
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:35 PM
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Anyone who acts low maintenance to play cool but deep down resents it and it starts spilling into the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:35 PM
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Women don’t take shit and just dump someone they don’t want to be with? The lesbians have higher DV is bogus
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:28 PM
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I’ve had several failed relationships, and most people who aren’t with the first person they’ve been with have failed relationships in their past, so I’d go for the guy with more experience
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:57 PM
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How am I damaging thousands of men? By wasting my time on reddit? I avoid men who in general can be violent and/or do not understand social cues, that’s the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:18 AM
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A man who doesn’t understand social cues and boundaries is much more dangerous than their female counterpart
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:05 AM
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Men being awful at assessing male attractiveness is something that I often notice when men try to notice what other men do and the success they have, and which is why you think some guys who should do fine aren’t getting anything at all. You noticed something correct in my opinion; ND is my biggest disqualifyier. If you don’t know how to dance past your 18/20s I’m not dancing. I think some of the lazy guys you mentioned do well because they do well and they can afford to be lazy. Some of them ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:02 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/24 01:20 PM
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Exactly, work to enjoy themselves. Enjoy your fantasies
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/24 01:07 PM
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Men work to eat and if possible enjoy leisures for themselves, just like other single people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/24 11:37 AM
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Some mistake men’s lack of interest for lack of decent personality
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:48 PM
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Dying in war is different from not dating because no woman wants you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:17 PM
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Those guys in harder jobs aren’t working for the benefit of society but to keep food on their tables and a roof over their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:15 PM
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You’re “other men” that I referenced in the comment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:05 PM
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Unlike Op and other men on this discussion, who focus on their experience as if they speak for women too. The poor damsels who’d throw themselves on their cocks if only their ugly friends didn’t pull them away lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:03 PM
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When pulling a very drunk friend away from a stranger? There’s very few scenarios where I wouldn’t be thankful to a friend, in most cases it would be an empty drunk hookup anyway, a big deal for the guy but something mostly dangerous for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 07:38 AM
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Thankfully
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 10:43 PM
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Are you sure you’re vibing? You’re probably the only one thinking so
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 10:31 PM
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That’s definitely another factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:59 PM
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You can’t actually say that without comparing the single parent homes that became so by choice. I am not denying the importance of a two parent household, and I’m adding that another big issue is economical. Which is worsened by having unprotected sex and a child yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:20 PM
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Yes men have no way of become single fathers by chance it is by choice, hence why probably the better outcome
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:14 PM
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The mother is the default parent, kids are assigned to the father only if he makes the request or if the mother is unfit, so while any woman can give birth and become a single mother it takes a greater effort to become a single father, being it better economical resources, more dedication, bigger family support from other relatives. etc So that’s probably why their kids fare off better than the single mothers
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:13 PM
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What’s there to debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 09:03 AM
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This is great advice
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:41 PM
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Nah even many normal guys take anything they can if it comes with little effort Not worth the risk
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 10:49 AM
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I’m here calling out bs advice given to women, not here to discuss how to keep desire in a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 09:52 AM
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I go by statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:22 AM
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You are free to do as you please, I’m calling out bs advice given to women that actually benefits men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:17 AM
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Yes, I would advise women to make their man feel desired once they’re in a committed relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:16 AM
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And why take the risk of an increased pump and dump?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:50 AM
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Cool, that’s not enough for women to take the risk of being used as an easy lay
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:40 AM
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Everything you said. I find lots of men past their 30 get ugly so fast, my sweet spot is 25-30 for looks, when they say men age like wine they don’t realise a small minority looks hot even when 40/50+ and even then they looked better when younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:56 AM
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Yeah women taking the lead is wrong on so many levels, men who push for it either know it would get them easy lays from women they aren’t interested enough in to choose or live in delulu land and think that what’s keeping them lonely is women not approaching while it’s probably a mix of looks, lack of social skills, unfortunate circumstances and bad luck. This opinion is only unpopular on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:25 AM
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What solution are you proposing?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:51 AM
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What’s the solution? To evaluate each human being a value on a 10 point system and give them the possibility to match only with others on their same value?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:49 AM
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Yes they tend to spend too much time on reddit, spewing nonsense they don’t understand
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 05:54 PM
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Silly me, how can I appreciate having free will, such a silly western woman
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 05:26 PM
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Damn I have to go divorce then, and tell other happy couples to divorce as well because they do not actually exist
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 03:48 PM
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You can find someone you’re attracted to that also has qualities you’re looking for, the people rooting for arranged marriages are those who are left out and rather than being alone would prefer a resentful spouse that isn’t attracted to them and probably wouldn’t have enthusiastic sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 03:45 PM
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Yes everyone did what had to be done
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 03:26 PM
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Women worked in the mines as well
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:17 PM
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I was expecting girls flashing their boobs or something like that, instead it’s just cute girls dancing?! What the heck is wrong with people?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:45 AM
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I am sorry these are the kinds of relationships you’ve experienced. My example was extreme to convey that, in my experience, I bring different things to the relationship and so do other women. Just like because we do not do the same exact things doesn’t mean we do not do anything or don’t care. Have you ever had someone surprise you with an all paid date with dinner, or a dinner fully made at home where you didn’t have to lift a finger, a gift out of nowhere? These are just the 3 top things that…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 03:08 AM
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What does it prove? Did you ever see how relationships work outside of titktok and reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 03:01 AM
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I don’t want to make the first move just like I don’t want to peg my husband, and many other women like me (although some people like it!) that doesn’t mean that we don’t reciprocate. I think this is an opinion that many people have when they watch too many Sprinkle Sprinkle videos and other videos like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:38 PM
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I have a few friends great at ignoring red flags, either in general (never put her first, always after his kids from earlier relationships, and this followed when they had a kid) and the other is a preferential red flag, she acted very dominant with a guy (sexually, in life choosing everything and even proposing, asking him to be a SAHD and he was ok with it) who is actually into dominant guys and now she’s complaining that he doesn’t like sex much and isn’t dominant at all, doesn’t have ambitio…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 03:36 PM
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What do you mean by humiliation or shame?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 05:31 PM
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Yes I definitely agree. I also find the opposite interesting as well: blind supporting of unethical and dangerous practices like legalised prostitution that leads to an increase of trafficking and the widespread distribution of legal pimping lead by organised crime. Girls selling their bodies for 30 euros a pop having to have sex with 8-12 men a night, who can believe that it is actually a choice??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:45 PM
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I think it comes down to the fact that some people can still be unethical and hypocrites without being against something because it benefits them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:23 PM
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Yes I understand what you mean and agree. I don’t agree that men who watch porn but wouldn’t want the women in their life are against porn, they just create a different class of women for whom it’s ok. Like when people say we need prostitution to keep assault rates lower, like they’re sacrificing a part of the population to the violent men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:55 PM
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I find bisexual men a turnoff, but I am pro gay rights and will fight for their right to do whatever hetero couples can do. Just because I wouldn’t marry or have sex with a bisexual guy doesn’t mean I do not respect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 09:35 AM
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Attraction comes first, then comes friendship and personality
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 05:34 PM
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Yes, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:57 PM
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I avoid men who suck at non verbal communication
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 01:22 PM
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I don’t know, when I was a teen there were very few boys from Northern Africa in school and they weren’t considered “cool” or hip. In general men from Northern Africa used to be stationed around the city drinking, cat calling and sometimes even following people around. In the last 10 years I’ve seen more integration, and whilst there are still tons of them lollygagging and harassing women they don’t deem fit or deserving of their respect, it’s gotten slightly better
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 01:18 PM
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It’s the opposite, you can be thin and unhealthy, but it’s not possible being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 11:53 AM
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Teenagers and young adults from Marocco and Mediterranean Africa that grew in Italy seem to be dating italian girls more and more, I have no data on it but they seem to be considered hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:39 AM
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You should ask the guys complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:36 AM
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That sounds wonky, usually your equivalent is determined by what the people you can attract
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 10:06 PM
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Define equivalent?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:54 PM
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I think there’s a difference between men who know how to navigate socially and those who don’t, those who don’t are more likely to push the wrong boundaries and get in trouble (if they decide to)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:38 PM
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I think it’s a shit test to see who has enough personality to not care and do their own thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:35 PM
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Complaining automatically means something has a solution? Sounds like a false equivalency, and sadly I would add Never complained about something you couldn’t change? For example I work with chronically ill, autoimmune and terminal patients, and venting is part of the process Edit: it can be part of the process, not obligated
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:52 PM
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I love complaining about stuff, helps get the weight off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:42 PM
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people can’t complain?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:38 PM
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Yeah like god forbid some people go online to vent their stuff I understand there are real misogynistic men out here, but I see tons of people getting up in arms about guys who sometimes want to complain Just let them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:20 PM
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I never said that people are rewards, unless I’m understanding the english language incorrectly rewarding as a verb can also be an action made by someone, it doesn’t imply that someone being given to someone else as a reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:19 PM
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Who’s dehumanising? You’re being quite dramatic
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:20 PM
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So we can’t get upset that people who commit shitty acts can have certain things or people in their life despite or sometimes exactly as a consequence for their immoral actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:30 PM
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I spoke about what I read, and it’s usually venting about something that clearly isn’t working in life for them, and it’s often mistaken for entitlement. But again, I don’t know what you are specifically talking about. Do you have examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 03:49 PM
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I see lots ranting/venting mistaken for entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 03:16 PM
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Yeah you can be attracted to anyone and say “I really like him for this that” even if they’re objectively ugly, but the giving a chance thing is pretty sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 02:10 PM
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Haha that’s a fantasy, how did it go?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:29 AM
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I guess it depends from man to man
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:27 AM
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You cannot negotiate attraction, and as much as I don’t like referencing the animal world, it works the same in nature
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:26 AM
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Having to have sex with someone I don’t desire/love/like would be the deal breaker for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:31 PM
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I was under the impression that if a relationship is meh men are more likely to stay if anything for the sex and other things, but it’s anecdotes and things I saw so prone to bias
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:24 PM
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Yes it’s probably just my perception of the minority of cases
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 08:48 PM
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Being with a guy I don’t like is worse than being single It’s probably not for men
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:10 PM
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Some women would probably stay single rather than with someone they felt no attraction to, I think men are more elastic in that sense
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 02:29 PM
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I would’ve been offended if my LTRs didn’t feel the need to have sex as soon as possible hahah I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:58 PM
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Everyone does. All the goes saying they’re not going to wine and dine a woman would probably behave very differently if they had a date with 2008/2010 Megan Fox or Scarlet Johanson that was interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:56 PM
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Desperate men probably don’t, but I don’t think many women care to appeal to them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 11:46 AM
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They majority of people want to date within their social/economical range Taking on a burden of someone who has no income or debts is something not many men would do, unless desperate of course
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 11:25 AM
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It’s sad that you needed some guy on the internet to tell you, I find TRP ideology as a flag for low quality partners and many other women do so if you need it as a leg to stand on I wouldn’t let women know
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:24 PM
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As someone who uses that word, I use it referring to guys that do not know how to act social normally, who can’t read social cues. I’ve spent quite some time in the “alternative” groups and there were many guys who didn’t know how to socialise properly. Sometimes it was due to not growing up socialising normally (being an outcast), not having a chance to exercise to socialise, not being neurotypical.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:11 PM
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I don’t like the discourse of people trying to play down the prevalence of PIV orgasming without clitoral stimulation saying it’s almost impossible, but I’ve read very few people say it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 05:53 AM
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Eh I orgasm mostly from penetration but if I were a man I’d still try all other avenues because it’s not always likely and lots of women like other kinds of stimulations and multiple orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 05:51 AM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:18 PM
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I’ll be defensive and on edge if I’m not interested and the guy is not picking up cues Otherwise I interact normally
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 02:19 PM
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Schrodinger's Wall
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 12:05 PM
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The wall is whatever the commenter needs it to be. Either just about looks or looks and fertility. A huge amount of guys refer to it as the loss of looks, and as far as that goes men face it too, we notice it less because there’s less handsome men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:46 AM
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Yeah, also works on men and it’s tragic for women as well as so few guys are actually hot
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 02:20 PM
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How humans perceive confidence.. I can’t stand the words “Napoleon syndrome “ thrown around when a short guy gets angry, insecure or just reacts to something. It’s normalised to shit on them for their height no matter what good they do in life and how successful they are. So confident guys are usually men that had tons of positive interactions and affirmations throughout their life, due to many factors: looks, height, wealth, intelligence, social circles, etc And IMO it applies to both men and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 05:24 PM
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I’m sorry I don’t understand
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:44 PM
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who knew that people in real life match according to who they like and not based on a numerical scale attributed by internet dwellers?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 03:40 PM
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Just giving some perspective on why some women reveal this years later
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:44 PM
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I’ve seen the wall hitting men way worse than women We notice it less because very few men are very attractive but dang, so many guys used to look so much better in their 20-30s than beyond. The majority of men age like women do, maybe a few years after, unless the norwood reaper comes first
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 02:44 PM
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For the same reason why men who cry about being lonely and women being too picky wouldn’t suck a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 02:34 PM
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Nope, just regularly manly guys, no weird shit that isn’t suitable for long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:08 AM
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Yep, don’t listen to much of the stuff you read online. It’s either chronically online people, or they’re referring to socially inept men that do not know when a woman is uneasy and can’t read social cues on when to stop, which aren’t gonna care anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 10:11 PM
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I don’t want to directly approach because I want a confident assertive man, not someone that needs me to do things for him. Like a friend of mine who complains that her husband is passive, has low libido and other things, yet she chased him down, gave him their first kiss and even proposed. She always says she likes dominant men but that’s not how you find a dominant guy lol If I want a man that waits for me to approach him I would but I don’t want to end up like my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 10:00 PM
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It usually was “Damn that sucks” Nah in my cases I knew the guys were taken so I knew I was playing with them and I deflected. I don’t know in other cases for other women. So many years have passed btw
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:57 PM
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Many don’t, they still seem to think the reason why women didn’t approach them is because of “gender roles” and not because of any other reason like they didn’t like them enough, they liked someone else better, something turned them off
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:55 PM
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Yeah plausible deniability, I’ve been direct with guys I liked and I didn’t need to tell them years after haha
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:44 PM
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I don’t know what that specifically means but I guess kinda shitty I agree. What I meant is that sometimes women say it just to see the guy’s reaction, because yeah I did like him but not enough to approach more directly, and it’s an ego boost. Shitty I agree, but giving some perspective on why some women might say it after a few years
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:23 PM
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I said that to guys to fuck with them in the past lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:18 PM
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Dressing well, using makeup, doing all that stuff feels good because of the positive reinforcement we get from others. It could be other women, how we see ourselves through the eyes of others, or men. Dressing sexily doesn’t happen in a vacuum
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:10 PM
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If it’s not very clear they aren’t very interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:35 AM
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Can’t give advice unless I see what’s wrong with him, even then working on your social awkwardness is very hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:42 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 10:43 AM
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Tate encouraged men to become pimps lol he doesn’t get nearly enough pushback as he deserves instead he’s full of fanboys
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 02:20 PM
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A scenario I can see happening is me finding a guy cute but losing interest because he can’t properly socialise, has zero dating experience at 25/30 years of age, debates attraction, follows TRP Bigger things wouldn’t be icks but red flags like being rude to customer service jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:47 PM
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Yes, and? Care to discuss with my vagina and my brain about what turns me on or off?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:59 PM
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He was a friend of friends and I found him hot but we were always with someone else. He’s great looking with a big nose, square jaw, lovey eyes, my height at 163 cm and nice big shoulders. Very smart, funny and charming. 10 years later we were both single and now we’re 5 years together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 12:35 PM
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No more mr nice guy by Donald Glover is a nice start
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 09:07 AM
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Nope Men are known to accept sex from women they might not like I don’t think you should give your friend advice if you don’t understand the basic differences between the sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:06 PM
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Go back to a few comments earlier Lots of men accept anything that comes their way if it falls onto their lap If a woman chases a man there is non guarantee he is interested and not just looking for some placeholder until he finds someone he actually likes and that he would chase
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:02 PM
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How so? Men can reach out to women so the women know the men are interested and not just accepting anything
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:37 PM
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You could be someone’s anyone and he could say yes just because he is desperate
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:06 PM
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I don’t know, but it’s one of the reasons why I tell women to wait for men to approach them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:21 PM
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They repeat talking points
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:06 PM
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I have no idea, but I spit my tea laughing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 11:27 AM
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It’s not promiscuity that is desirable, he’s desirable and has many chances to be promiscuous. Anyway since you’re asking singular people there’s lots of women who would rather have a desirable non promiscuous guy as the two aren’t mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:21 AM
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Do you mean actually kind or completely without backbone? Those are two very different things that usually get confused especially by people without backbone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:36 AM
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Cool gotcha there, IRL social circles and interests have to kinda match and physical attractiveness is always at the base of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:54 PM
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Trafficking is trafficking, there is no “calling “ it or not Especially in countries where it’s legal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:09 PM
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Why focus only on romantic relationships? Friends and the whole social circle counts too like I said in the message
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 03:42 PM
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Yes, sex trafficking is the solution, we will just sacrifice the lives of the women that will get forcibly imported to the countries that can afford so
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:47 PM
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I didn’t say it’s infallible, it helps skim out people you may not want to associate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:30 PM
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Success rate of what?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:28 PM
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That’s not the point , social proof helps skim out weird/dangerous/asocial types
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:24 PM
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A man that my friends know or that other women have had successful relationships with is a better investment in my book when you think that a man could much more easily kill me than the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:43 PM
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Just like women wear heels for themselves /s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:19 AM
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Clubs are meat markets. People can deny they go for attention or hookups, and it’s not much about cheating but seeking attention and that kind of behaviour that’s a huge red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:19 AM
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Doesn’t seem odd, quite obvious and disingenuous to deny What does my relationship have to do with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:05 AM
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Yep attention seeking is a huge red flag in my book too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:41 AM
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Just because they don’t have sex with guys doesn’t mean the attention doesn’t feel good And if the occasion ever arises.. who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:30 AM
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I didn’t preclude myself but usually gravitated towards men 2/10 years older than me and so did they, my husband is 9 years older. Also I’ve noticed same age couples women tend to look older if they have kids and that’s another positive hah. He’ll retire and probably die sooner than me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:29 AM
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Yeah even those who say so still like rejecting guys, you can be into music and dancing without going to a place where people go to hookup
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:17 AM
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Nope you’re being fair
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:52 AM
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clubbing is either for picking up people or enjoying attention So unless we go together we don’t go
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:52 AM
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How likely is it that people who arrive virgins to marriage are also religious and against divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:28 PM
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I think you should ask the women who ask men to peel their fruit why they do that. I know some of my friends didn’t vet and test their husbands enough when dating because they wanted to be cool and not naggy, and now they’re stuck with toddlers and men not doing anything around the house, not taking care of children and not able to handle any kind of stress. Had they “nagged” the guys instead of accumulating anger they would’ve realised they aren’t compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:35 AM
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These rules apply to the people who listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:57 AM
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Have you only had lovers that had to have things spelt out and neither of you moved or tried things normally? Do you know you can read the body language of the person you’re with even without talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:38 PM
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That’s how sexuality can work when you slowly explore together and when you have something you like in common. No need to “read minds” just having a good relationship, trust and being able to read your partner’s body language.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 02:30 PM
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That’s a turnoff because if I want someone “dominant” I don’t want to tell them. I want him to be like that or getting there by topping from the bottom. Some guys are like that some aren’t, it’s a matter of what they like. You don’t spring stuff on people without consent, you buildup slowly and watch how they react.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:54 PM
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I find sex actions that require the explicit asking of consent off putting. If I have sex with someone I know them and trust them well enough that we know when something is fine and when it isn’t, and by the off chance that something’s not appreciated we say no or divert hand/action somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:00 PM
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I’ve seen more men devastated from being dumped, but I’ve had no relationship that “scarred” me like you describe so I have no idea
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:19 AM
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That stuff is rare ime
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 11:30 PM
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They just enjoy regular sex or the woman taking initiative, usually vanilla sex which is a good sign I wouldn’t want a man with fetishes or particular kinks Like it’s good they’re satisfied with regular sex I would like spontaneous acts of strength or acts of dominance on me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 08:29 PM
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Like vanilla dominant, and I don’t mean just into it but normally like that or who can pick that you like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:56 PM
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While I read of a desire for “male things” to remain such I don’t see people actually trying to rally up funds or doing something concrete about it, except rob guys of their money selling them get rich quick schemes and pua-like tactic books and courses.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:17 PM
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I always wonder why men don’t team up and do something like this to teach all those things you mentioned to younger generations. I wonder if it’s down to men’s mentality “Each to their own” or because they don’t want competition. I understand why women wouldn’t want something like this but not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:58 PM
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Talking about it as a generalised problem would require a generalised solution; beyond state mandated wives and marital rape not being outlawed , I genuinely wonder what could the solution be for the not salvageable men? Btw I see the usefulness of TRP especially for non socially adept men, neuroatypical, and the desperate simps who put women on a pedestal. I’ve been reading about it for 10/15 years and see its usefulness for clueless guys. Tate is a criminal that encourages men to pimp out wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:46 PM
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I don’t like BDSM, the asked consent stuff is off putting. I like a dominant man though, and it’s hard to find guys who are into that, and if they aren’t naturally it’s not a turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:13 PM
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I’d worry more about men reacting violently; the majority of men who can date and fine a partner will, the ones who can’t either live in a blue pilled life working harder or they get angry and instead of placating their anger the internet groups make it worse, and their reaction might be dangerous
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 02:01 PM
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Worse women? I often hear older men say that the women back then weren’t as beautiful as they are today And by looking at pictures I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:47 PM
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Yes I would leave him, and I did with my ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:59 AM
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I don’t think anyone should be forced, but I appreciate it if I like a guy and he offers to pay for the first day, that involves drinks or just a coffee never a dinner, not even a sandwich. It’s extra points. If I don’t like a guy I split, and I insist on doing so. But I’ve never had a date with someone off a dating site, only with people I already was interest in.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:37 AM
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Because successful and good looking people have confidence, hence someone being confident means they have the qualities to succeed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 09:51 AM
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Even if they aren’t happy they can have whatever standards they want
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 10:21 PM
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Yeah they’re discouraged and? Do they want to be spoon fed food as well? Or can they make their own choices and live their lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:49 PM
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Oh screw that science teacher
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:08 PM
2

Yeah dang I still haven’t gotten over that hairstyle
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:51 PM
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I wonder how many of these crazy and psychopathic girls are maybe very good at sex and overall very sexual. That should be taken into account
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:40 PM
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I understood that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:40 AM
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Yeah personal feelings shouldn’t make people go Reeeeeee on acceptable age gaps, if they do they should realise they have a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:19 AM
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That’s madness, also the majority of women I’ve met usually looked for men a little bit older, taller, etc Unless someone is a pedo or dating someone extremely younger they shouldn’t let it affect them so much; others’ relationships don’t reflect on them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:02 AM
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It’s a joke on a subreddit I’m on that UK and USA people get mad if someone is 3 months older lol It usually applies to teenage years but damn, context and how people met matters a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:44 AM
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I’ve met lots of people around 20 years old IRL are insane about age gap relationships in the UK, it’s crazy. Like 17-19 is looked down upon and highly shamed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:35 AM
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They’ve served as experience for my hopefully final one. My husband says the same; he’s learned from his first marriage and we’re not making those same mistakes. I wouldn’t change anything honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:54 PM
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I don’t know about “women”, I’ve had sex on first date and it went on to become serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:46 PM
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you literally get a throbbing organ between your legs that tells your brain “Let’s have sex with that guy, it’s gonna be cool, you want it so bad it literally hurts”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:14 PM
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No idea either, I tried it and didn’t like it. I’d much rather flirt and seduce without going beyond the line, it’s usually a disappointment anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:12 PM
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The people denying it are completeloblivious and blind to reality. Do they not read all the “I want a tall guy” tweets? I see all that BP stuff when I read advice online, and I wonder if it’s a collective shit test to see who’s smart enough to not fall for it. When it happens offline it’s usually because it’s bad to tell someone “Yeah dude you’re ugly” What surprises me is the people who believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:57 PM
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My age floor for attraction ages with me, but the ceiling remains the same. So I might have liked a 20 year old bactstreet boy member when I was 10 but once I reached my 20s the maximum age of peak attractiveness hasn’t budged, which is around 25-35/40 even though I’m 36. I might find some 45-50-60 years old attractive, but seeing pictures of them younger they haven’t “aged like fine wine” because humans don’t work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:22 PM
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Yeah and to think that those are the richest guys. Yes you’re right the prime is until 35 probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:38 PM
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Yeah he was. People who say that men age like fine wine only see one or two guys that aged nicely, but nothing beats their prime from 25 to 40
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 10:39 AM
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You gotta be blind and totally oblivious to believe that looks don’t matter to women How can so many people not see it? Does anyone remember the DiCaprio craze in 1997? It wasn’t because of his personality
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:01 AM
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I thought that women salivating when they see Thor, Aquaman and the likes already dispelled that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:59 AM
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That’s a great deal for them, a free bangmaid. Then these socially inept guys have the guts to ask why it would be a bad deal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 03:07 PM
5

Women always worked throughout history
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 03:06 PM
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Because romance includes a mix of chemistry and attraction that makes you want to spend time with that person and fight through the hard stuff. Without romance and attraction I’d be sharing expenses with a friend, and certainly not having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:41 PM
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You didn’t answer my question. Why force myself to have sex with someone I don’t like when I can share expenses with a friend? Except to benefit a lonely man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:30 PM
5

Who said hate?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:29 PM
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Why? I’d rather live with a friend and share expenses than force myself to have sex with someone I don’t like and live with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:27 PM
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Because the majority of men can’t get super beautiful women, they give them the illusion of choice
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 10:21 AM
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That’s usually said as a deterrent to make him understand he has no chance and to stop it’s not criticism Still an asshole move
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 10:05 AM
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Underrated by who? Bullshitters like Tate have always been popular amongst sheeps
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 09:25 PM
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I think this is why most men complaining about bad luck in dating are given generic advice and consequently shut up by being called incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:15 PM
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Yeah totally, but for me I choose happy go lucky successful BP guys
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:39 PM
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Guys who have it good in life and don’t need to resort to anything such as red or black pill and can honestly be good seem to me like BP
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:42 AM
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I’ve met lots of friends that didn’t properly vet their future husbands then complain about it later. Why are you with a slob or someone that takes no initiative in bed? I find that this female imperative of complaining instead of doing something about it is normalising men doing less; lots of women complain, bond over it and do close to nothing, so its expected. In the moment that these men have no choice but to step up they might.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:57 AM
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I mean would she work if they divorced? It’s the same. The guy didn’t say he does nothing and wouldn’t know how to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:13 AM
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The few women I’ve met who didn’t trust or get along with women were often trouble themselves. I think it’s a case of “If you smell poop all say it’s not the people around you it’s under your shoe” I don’t believe in “sisterhood “ either, I just look at people
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:19 PM
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Yes everyone is the same, except you and a few others. So deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:28 PM
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And ffm threesomes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 12:26 PM
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Sounds very legitimate
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:52 AM
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So for men it’s neglect and women just seek attention
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 11:37 PM
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Neurodivergent girls show less symptoms and mask them. If anything they are underdiagnosed and hide their symptoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:47 PM
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Neurodivergent women “mask” better and as I said earlier, men with antisocial or “weird” kind of behaviours can result in not picking social cues and giving off the creeps that is a signal for danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 09:43 AM
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An antisocial female that gives creepy vibes is nowhere near as dangerous as an antisocial male that gives creepy vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 09:02 AM
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I mean he shouldn’t listen to naysayers. I’ve seen relationships like that work, there’s this guy who was super nice with a huge heart but totally uninteresting personality and looks wise (not ugly) and he did end up dating then marrying a sweet younger woman (5 or 6 years IIRC). It’s just an anecdote but their love blossomed and for the reasons you said they were a good match. A relative of mine live in the UK and he tells me they make such a fuss even for 3 years age difference, it’s become a …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:10 AM
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So many men who speak about SAH traditional wives probably have no idea what a pressure it is to be the sole breadwinner. Also career women seem to me like mostly stereotypes like Hallmark movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:30 AM
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Yeah I agree, I think lots of women are better at giving in-relationship advice but on how to actually approach no.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:03 PM
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And it resonates with lots of guys because the ones that don’t have issues with women don’t look for RP content online
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:51 PM
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You don’t need a super good looking person for love
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:24 PM
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Become rich, powerful, good looking, obtain status amongst the powerful and wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:53 PM
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Don’t generalise, lots of men will Reeee when women complain about loneliness accusing them of whatever like having too high standards and being fat. Lots of men would fuck a lonely woman they don’t like and be ashamed of being seen with her the next day. And as far as lonely men, it’s dangerous to show sympathy IRL because it seems to irate men like yeah you’re sorry for me, why don’t you fuck me? Other conflate friendship and kindness with interest and others don’t have the social awareness to…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:04 AM
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Cheap stingy guys? Guys that aren’t interested enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 09:02 PM
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If you’ve never had a guy offer to pay for something I think it says something about the men you’re looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 04:25 PM
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Yeah social groups in youth should provide enough socialisation
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:35 AM
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Yes people getting mad but it’s the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:53 AM
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You can try to create exceptions of any scenario to justify I still generally would deem it a red flag, in this specific one regular people usually have time for socialisation and it they don’t they’re missing out something that will be useful also for future jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:53 AM
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Yes I hope for them, I usually like to see what parents are like to have an idea of what I’m in for in the long run
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:19 PM
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I would advise anyone against dating fat people Lizzo is morbidly obese not fat Being once fat means lacking impulse control and food education I don’t care about empathy, I’m answering questions. You can ask all questions you want about lying in relationships if justifying lies makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:14 PM
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Ugly, Antisocial, didn’t know how to behave with others, other undesirable traits
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:11 PM
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That must suck, the guys I knew who had no experience were quite troubled
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:04 PM
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Ok? You don’t get to decide what’s a red flag and what isn’t for me and I’m not here to give advice to guys just answering
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:03 PM
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Yeah being fat is also a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:58 PM
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It is a red flag though, unless we’re talking about a religious man (a deterrent for some women), why are you 25/30 with no experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:28 PM
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Nah they seem to appeal to gays more imo
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:19 PM
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I like muscles on men I don’t like the dedication and time it takes and the fact that they’d expect me to be very fit as well Edit to add it’s a negative reinforcement thing for me; I’m normal BMI 19-22 but not particularly fit and don’t care about the lifestyle or looks so I know I wouldn’t be the guy’s type. Edit to add 2 I like naturally muscular bodies like muscles that are embedded in your frame even when you don’t do sports. That’s why some women like me like dad bods probably
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:11 PM
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I think it should all be taught at 10, except identity stuff that should be spoken about with a psychologist singularly. Also parents should be the first ones to initiate sex education and we should expect more from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:43 PM
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Every choice a woman dies is empowering Sex work is dehumanising only because of the stigma attached to it Leveraging sex and sex appeal is empowering There’s no consequences to sleeping with dozens or hundreds of men and people who have something negative to say about it are prudes Instead having lots of sex with lots of men is empowering
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:16 PM
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I laugh every time I think about beauty and the beast because I remember a picture of disappointed Belle and a caption saying something like “When your 10Ft hung pitbull turns into a normal guy”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:16 PM
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It is a red flag though, unless we’re talking about a religious man (a deterrent for some women), why are you 25/30 with no experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 12:45 PM
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I don’t know the feeling of having one body characteristic you cannot change or disclose upon meeting. I’ve always been average in terms of body (bmi 19-22) with regular curves, normal personality, work driven, regularly feminine, average height at 163, just ti give you an image. I wouldn’t tell a guy I don’t like something he can’t change about him, and I understand it truly sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:34 PM
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Not for me, other than the physical feeling I also like the size itself, how it feels inside and how it looks. Although I do not like bigger than average because I tend to find it painful and get more recurrent UTI They may look great but I’ve associated a negative feeling so I found my perfect spot
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:20 PM
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I’m happily married with someone perfect for me so I hope I don’t need to look for someone else ever, but if I ever were to be with someone else with a penis on the smaller side I would physically feel less
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:15 PM
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Average size for my country is 14/15 cm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:26 PM
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I don’t understand either why some women date men who don’t align with their beliefs and complain, only for it to get worse when they have kids. That said, IRL people don’t usually spout out feminism and other theory stuff, the ones who do IMO are usually obnoxious and annoying so that’s one reason why I’d avoid them. I’ve always tried to see what someone is like through their actions and opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:38 PM
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I wouldn’t go, I don’t mind men in clubs. I don’t take drinks from strangers, I just used to like being looked at and having fun. I’m bisexual though, so I’d go to a lesbian club.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:23 PM
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I haven’t noticed men being uncomfortable being chased, but it’s certainly easy sex even id he’s not interested. I agree I wouldn’t advise a friend to chase a guy, do the mating dance and see if he picks it up. If he doesn’t how do you expect to navigate the rest of the relationship and other social situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:58 PM
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Yeah I mean what’s the question, would rather be forced to something I already have to do or something else on top of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:41 PM
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They like men and many children still needed to work to eat
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 04:47 PM
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Women always had to work, it was never a freedom of choice
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:26 PM
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There will always be someone giving it a go, it’s not like men completely stopped flirting or asking women out
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:21 AM
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I don’t know either; I mean a small penis can cause insecurity but I don’t know why saying stuff like “He compensates for something he lacks” when people see a guy with a big car is ok. Like… would they say the same about an obese woman? Penis and height is something men are really picked on and that actually do matter; personally for height anything around mine is fine (5 feet 3) but penis has to be at least average both for visual and physical stimulation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:50 PM
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Yes I’ve been called homophobic and bigot for this I don’t get it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 01:28 AM
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Condoms are more likely to break and the anus is more likely to tear than the vagina because it’s not meant for penetration. This is sexual education basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 03:46 PM
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Yes it’s something that would come out even in a relationship sooner or later
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:07 AM
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I don’t know about others, I’ve met women that even found it a turn on (and they enjoyed gay porn too)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:06 AM
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Anal sex is where the increased risk lies, and it’s much more common with men homosexuals than hetero couples
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:05 AM
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In my experience I’ve been attracted to lesbian women because they tend to present less feminine, but if I were to find a “tomboy” that I like and she’s bi I wouldn’t mind
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:04 AM
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I chuckled and spit out my drink reading this So true
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 02:15 AM
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I wouldn’t date a bisexual man, I find it emasculating and I don’t appreciate the increased risk of STI. I’m a bisexual woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 02:12 AM
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I love my job and would loooove to earn enough and have my husband home. I’d have done the same for my female ex, she had a shitty job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 12:13 PM
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There’s quite some loveless relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:41 PM
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I don’t know who told you women don’t desire the man they’re with
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:41 PM
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Captain obvious means obvious not wrong. If you’re looking for deep insights talk to a friend or a therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:25 PM
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What are they supposed to say? You’re too nice ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:12 PM
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Yeah feeling good is part of it I think for everyone having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:50 PM
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You’re right I worded it wrongly I meant fake genuine attraction to the point of feeling it for real
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:21 PM
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I meant what do you mean by competing men who lower the price?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:30 PM
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The way some people speak makes me wonder that being in a relationship with someone means loving, supporting, cheering, lusting and desiring that person and as far as I know you can’t fake attraction. What do you mean that you get eaten up by your competitors who “lowers the price”?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:34 PM
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European data seems different, is it an American problem? Not everyone lives in the USA you know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:25 PM
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Where’s that data from? And what country does it pertain? Nvm found it, quite lower than that and seems like lots of single women in that bracket too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:11 PM
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Cool
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:07 PM
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The majority of people aren’t affected by this change and still end up finding a partner or more and having kids if they want them. As far as reproduction goes it’s usually people who think less about it than those who have a better education and economical situation who have more kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:34 PM
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It’s mostly environment to whom some can’t adapt. Evolution works in the soan of thousands of years, not because shy Johnny can’t find a girl now that girls can die alone rather than be with a guy they don’t like
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:23 PM
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The failure to adapt to times is the problem of the person, so it is because of one’s self. Lots of guys do fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 02:56 PM
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Usually the guys complaining are the ones left out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:20 AM
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usually love requires romantic and sexual affinity between two people. What stops other men from loving other men and pulling them up from their self esteem issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:06 PM
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What would a practical proposal be to help?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:49 PM
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Are they saying it’s their fault or if you’re complaining you’re the one that should do the fixing? Also if those people fixed their problems why would they need help? Have you ever heard of therapists and psychiatrists or do you think women should help?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:40 PM
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What do you mean by blame? I just avoid them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:32 PM
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I never had plan b (well, it was cats, dogs and enjoying life) but as far as telling guys to fix his self esteem issues.. I’d never be with someone who’s into TRP, pua, or has any substantial self esteem issues, mental problems. I think your last paragraph is comparable to when women en masse complain about men not doing chores.. it takes two people to tango… why don’t you talk it out?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:24 PM
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Born yesterday sexy is a very common trope
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:44 PM
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It’s usually first date if it’s with him, never with others 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:38 PM
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And this is why you don’t listen to men’s advice. It’s not a woman’s problem if he thinks he’s a sucker, it’s part of the vetting process
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:27 AM
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Because men have a higher sex drive, are more likely to accept sex from women they find less than ideally attractive and they usually orgasm every time they have intercourse. Plus no physical consequences like pregnancy and less likely to catch std
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:52 AM
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It’s the opposite, if she’s not enjoying flirtatious playful behaviour and a man doesn’t stop it’s “creepy”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:44 AM
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you’re “friendzoned” because she’s not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:44 PM
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I mean if guys complain and ask advice.. should they be told suck it up because some drug addicts get poon and you don’t? Throw them a party when they become a wizard?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 08:58 PM
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I’ve never met a guy that didn’t like romantic thoughtful gestures like dinner, candles, gifts, being wined and dined, generally not having to think about organising things and having stress free sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:12 AM
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Kids are very labour intensive to raise now. When my parents were kids they’d just go about and take care of each other, older kids took care of younger kids, older relatives were much more involved. Do you know how tough it is to raise a child on your own and/or with childcare? Let alone more than one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 08:25 PM
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Of course they’re not equal, they’re different. As far as women go, we’re more likely to catch STDs, we risk pregnancy and the complications that might come with it, or abortion, we’re also more likely to be assaulted than our male counterparts. So yeah, definitely not equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:44 PM
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Hard times will always come in life especially when not planned, I think going through these things together can make a couple stronger. Of course it depends case by case
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:42 PM
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I don’t understand why people can’t do both. I’m pursuing a career and having a husband makes everything so much easier; sometimes I come home late but he’s there, and I’m there for him always (i have a good job already, just trying to become the best at what I do and working 10/20 extra hours a month not much so maybe I’m sheltered) If I had met him earlier I would have tied him down then.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:31 PM
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I forgot to include that, I will edit and add it. Fitness requires motivation (killed by lack of money in many cases) and time
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:32 PM
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Not wealth directly, but a lack of wealth will mean a lack of those things I listed, and an overall worsening of one’s looks earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:13 PM
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Lol That’s exactly what I’m saying it all depends on you have in front of you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:48 PM
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Completely agree! Only thing I’d add is that the best sex for me was/is with guys who understand what I like and can be guided to things I like without being explicitly told the majority of the times. It’s almost never an issue (except being rough and finding a dominant man, either he is or he isn’t but the hassle of satisfying him being submissive everytime is probably not worth it)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 08:15 AM
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That’s great, I’d do the same if I was a guy. I can’t speak for other women but I always go 50/50, when in a steady relationship we do one time each (except when one of us insists) and I’m careful about bill splitting (otherwise my husband wants to do more) because he’s great with house stuff too. If he was like my ex who did almost nothing at home I’d make him pay more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 07:58 AM
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If the guys complaining about women not going 50/50 were on a date with 2008 Megan Fox when the bill comes they’d reach so fast for the wallet that she couldn’t even see it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 07:47 AM
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Men somehow do care about women’s money and status. Women with a better socio-economical status fare better than their worse off competitors. Money can buy you good teeth, reduced stress, makeup, skincare, cosmetical treatments, good clothing and in some cases cosmetic surgery and preventative care like botox. Edit: as a commenter below noted, being fit is another bonus. It might not require lots of money but it does cost motivation and time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:23 PM
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That’s great, sorry you had to go through that but what’s important is that you’re doing better now!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 10:44 AM
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I’m sorry that happened
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 10:23 AM
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Well some have actually suggested government prostitutes but I’m glad that’s not where this discussion is going. I understand what you’re saying and agree, I don’t see why it’s seen as toxic when men complain about social, relationship and sexual issues. Sometimes even venting, feeling validated and being able to say THIS SUCKS without hearing a dozen “be yourself “ and other bluepill advice must be better Though When it comes to IRL being particularly nice to some men who have antisocial issues…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:57 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:41 PM
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one thing that can never be equal is the toll pregnancy and eventually breastfeeding has on the body, both in terms of health and looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:39 PM
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Yeah people used to say that marriage killed the couple but it was back when children were a given after a certain amount of time; now people are starting to realise it’s children, and I say this as someone who wants kids
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:37 PM
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I understand what you’re saying, the issue is that you can’t force a woman to be with a guy because he is lonely. I can emphasise which is why I hate incel-name calling and shutting up men when they complain being dealt a bad hand; be it bad looks, autism or other neuroatypical problems, economical issues, etc But I don’t understand how we’re supposed to solve it like, force women to be with such guys? Provide government prostitutes where offer will never meet demand at a decent price (look at E…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:36 PM
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So there should be slaves set up to fulfill sexual desires of some men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:55 PM
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Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:42 PM
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Women chasing men usually means uninterested men accepting because why not, free sex even if they aren’t interested. There’s a reason why it doesn’t happen the majority of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:28 PM
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Define “recognise men as human beings with needs, wants and emotions “ in practice
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:05 PM
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The majority of women always worked throughout history
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:42 PM
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The threshold is higher with good looks (which is why i agree with you up to a certain point and if you’d read my comment you would have understood) but not being able to behave properly is exactly creepy, because you can’t trust a man to understand, for example, when you’re telling him to stop
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:52 PM
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Not being able to read when someone is uncomfortable and to leave them alone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:25 PM
1

The halo effect is very dangerous I agree (quite famously so amongst men who often say don’t stick dick in crazy) but some antisocial behaviours trump good looks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 08:46 PM
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That makes it even more important to recognise problematic antisocial behaviour in men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 05:44 AM
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Yes makes sense, I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:57 PM
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I don’t understand how people can deny this
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:50 PM
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They are thankfully (although the majority compared to women), but when you’re in a vulnerable situation with a man you have to learn to pick subtle cues to keep safe. Hence why some behaviours are scarier from men than from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 10:00 AM
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My argument is that outliers do not make a rule. The majority of men can overpower the majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:57 AM
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They’re not the same because the majority of women cannot overpower the majority of men and they cannot forcefully penetrate men with penises. There’s a reason why men are scarier.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:11 AM
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Parents are also much more stringent on how they grow and control their kids, parenting changed a lot and I’m sure that has to do with it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:07 AM
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Get a coach if you want to improve
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:45 PM
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Yep, these guys need coaches. Why not go for those?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:30 PM
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Doesn’t seem like it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:35 PM
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Pc? Huh? Do you know how human relationships and attraction work? Why don’t guys pay for a coach to improve themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:31 PM
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Do you even know how attraction works?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:30 PM
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Most people seek a partner to also enjoy sexual relations with them Pay a fucking coach if you need someone to pull you up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:22 PM
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Who determines high value of a guy if women aren’t attracted? Silly analogy btw investors don’t need to fuck stocks or companies lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:15 PM
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Why do I have to sponsor and push a guy? Lol better to just get someone you like from the get go
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 01:57 PM
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How do you push a guy to change his face bone structure?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 01:23 PM
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For me 18/20 is usually the cutoff
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 07:59 AM
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You can be accepting of homosexuals without being one yourself, that’s how I’ve always interpreted progress. Freedom of choice, freedom of belief, not completely revolutionising what you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:43 AM
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You said about holding someone close so I think you explained that nicely, it gave a very physical image. I am very often touched out even without children, you’ve reminded me to be a bit more physical with my husband. Thanks for sharing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:27 PM
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I understand that I cannot fully understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:23 PM
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It’s not all they care about, but it has an importance that I think the majority of women including myself will never fully grasp.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:09 PM
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It’s usually women who have had bad luck in dating and/or made choices in men that resulted in bad relationships. Of course when they’re referring to good men they’re usually implying they have ti be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 07:44 PM
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Around what I make, little more little less. I want someone who has a healthy relationship with money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:35 PM
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I wouldn’t date someone who complains or argues online that he can’t find sex or relationships, sounds like antisocial behaviour. Why discuss that stuff online? Better yet if you can’t find people interested in you why would I like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:33 PM
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I do care because sometimes friends see more red flags and things than I do but overall our opinions pretty much align.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:29 PM
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Men need strong men in their lives
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:27 PM
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You didn’t say it, Tate did
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:05 PM
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Hou mention people who shit on Tate
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:58 PM
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Is it socially acceptable to lure women into online prostitution for you? The average American man sounds fun
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 04:29 AM
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250/500 is expensive for a ring?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:12 PM
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I understand the toxic positivity and personally hate it as well. Like yeah, you’re fat but you can change it, or you can accept it and stop whining. I understood what you’re saying, and for the majority of the people it’s a matter of what’s more convenient and if being “honest” is actually worth the hassle. I had to learn how to make small talk and how to interact with other people that aren’t people I’d normally associate with for work; I wasn’t properly socialised either and found this daily …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 03:07 PM
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I think the issue is looking for validation on the internet and people make all these rules as a way to weed out guys who would look for validation online lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:20 PM
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Common courtesy has always been a thing, it’s actually a let loss required now than before. Lots of people have deep friendships and relationships, your inability to socialise like others and demonisation of how people relate to one another doesn’t make you special or more deep than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:18 PM
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I think you should take a step back and see that social interactions while out and about ar equite different from what happens at work. In neither case is total open honesty a good idea; if I met a guy that was always completely honest I’d think he has no idea of how to interact with humans and is probably neuro-atypical
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:58 PM
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The fact that you call basic corteousness amongst colleagues and acquaintances “lying” tells me you have a very specific view of what entails socialisation
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:26 PM
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Attractive guys that know how socialising works is now lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:51 AM
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I didn’t look at the calculator but I doubt lots of men would date an actual homeless woman with 0 dollars and possessions to her name, which is what literal means not caring about income, status or education. Also indicators of wealth like beauty treatments, taking care of oneself and dressing properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:39 PM
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There’s handsome heartthrobs, handsome charming prince, handsome guys everywhere that women are clearly falling for, and you’re here telling me you had blindfolds on and didn’t see what was happening right in front of you. The shock comes because the people didn’t understand what was going on and had some socialising trouble in my opinion. Well adjusted people don’t get shocked by something as clear as the sky being blue and resort to TRP
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:31 AM
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We all have preferences and probably knowingly or not test people, expressing it outright is a big red flag for me. I can express stuff like that anonymously but don’t expect people to think it’s normal
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 09:20 PM
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Men act antisocial then proceed to complain about people giving them crap about it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 04:39 PM
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I spill my drink laughing at that question
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:55 PM
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Why are you generalising for many other women? How do you know they’re choosing it and didn’t just have bad luck love-wise? The majority of men who aren’t chronically online don’t need to cope just like women who are in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:34 PM
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I’ve seen lots of ostracism both from men and women towards sex workers. What do you mean by hate,
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 09:32 AM
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Men let women get women get away with… insert what you want to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 11:57 PM
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You probably look more at those who remained single into their 30/40s, hence skewing your perception. We don’t hear complaining from the happily married ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:33 PM
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Meh yeah, some can with the right type of guy. Also some women are serial monogamists.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:55 PM
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willingly knowing what you’re getting into
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:40 PM
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Who says that women who have lots of experience get played and dumped?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 09:41 PM
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Not being turned on or being turned off isn’t hate
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:00 AM
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Usually autistic men cannot conform to social norms and behaviours, you’re not high iq because of your “self reflective humor”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 10:47 PM
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It could very well be intentional
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 07:08 PM
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Eh some people desire a certain lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 09:40 AM
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On the same note I’ve always wondered if wearing expensive clothing and accessories was a way both to show off status and to keep away men who couldn’t afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 08:36 AM
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I’ve read a few times that some women hate being asked out by guys they deem ugly because they hate these guys thinking they have a shot. With the rise of incel-hate I’ve been seeing more hate towards some men that I don’t think is justified.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 03:48 AM
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Yes definitely, as much as some guys like to say otherwise a well groomed and well adjusted woman with preventative care like dental work and skincare is more attractive than a poorer counterpart that has no access to ant of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:03 PM
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no link to what you were saying earlier We can’t all be attractive someone will still be unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:58 PM
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And how does that have to do with what op was talking about? If anything it strengthens op’s point and mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:33 PM
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Huh I think you’re on the wrong post
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:22 PM
1

Social autism, anger and catchphrases like what do tou bring to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 01:36 PM
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Men care about women’s indirect money signals; good teeth, skincare, make up, clothing, they’re all things that cost money even without factoring in cosmetic surgery
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:27 AM
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Yay how great a woman gets to be a human fleshlight and runs the risk of STDs (you can catch them even with condoms), pregnancy and assault or even worse. Such a privilege!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:25 AM
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Gotta find a good half measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:32 AM
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Yes, all these guys are one dimensional, unlike real guys who went through hardship and actually have a personality and hobbies /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 03:39 AM
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Lots of people I wouldn’t mind dating but they’re ugly. Doesn’t matter the job, I’m not having sex with your personality or your work. I need a spark.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:16 AM
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Volounteer groups, work, clubs, sports, there’s quite a few settings where these kinds of relationships can develop naturally
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:13 AM
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acts creepy Women label him creepy pikachu face
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 06:21 AM
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I’m agreeing with you, if you don’t hot on people you’re with for work or who work for you the only people left are strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 06:19 AM
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Yes because it’s either people at shops that ring your items or strangers on the street
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 04:28 AM
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Socially aware men were already aware, the rise of socially awkward men that eventually wake up might make it appear so
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:24 PM
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How is height shallow? It’s one of the biggest defining factors of how someone appears. I agree with #2 sometimes girls say a guy is too short to cut him off
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:30 PM
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Why are you waiting for permission to approach? Don’t heavily flirt with someone that’s forced to deal with you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:24 PM
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Looks are the baseline, personality can make or break attraction once it’s there
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 12:11 PM
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The funniest guys are usually the ones I’m into in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:54 AM
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I laughed out hard reading this, sounds like someone who’d question a girl if they saw them with their band’s favourite shirt on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:48 PM
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Men still approach in bars and clubs, cold approach might be non existent for you but not for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:42 AM
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For some women the thought of a guy being attracted to a guy is a deal breaker and kills attraction, it’s not about homophobia. Are people fatphobic for not being attracted to fat people?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:57 AM
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Nope, the thought of my man being attracted to guys is a huge turnoff. About it being a plus for women I wouldn’t know; I’m bisexual and my husband says he has 2 sexes to be jealous of (I’ve been in relationships with women)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:33 PM
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