Sagecerulli Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Relationship anxiety I'm so glad! Wishing you the best of luck	/r/ExRedPill	18/04/25 02:34 AM
1	Dealing with guilt for former self Maybe check out these guys? Life After Hate (The website is trying to reach people who are more extreme than you are describing ... but the same principles may apply). Also remember that we are tiny little humans who were meant to live in small communities living in a vast technological world that's full of confusing information designed to play on our deepest fears and desires. It can happen to anyone.	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/25 03:24 AM
2	Relationship anxiety Also tbh, your empathetic comments on this sub and your really nuanced, self-aware question suggest to me anyone would be lucky to date you . . . the most important thing is that you keep those things alive! I hope that therapy helps, and if you do have OCD (or even if you don't) I've foudn the r/OCDRecovery subreddit helpful.	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/25 03:20 AM
2	Relationship anxiety First, I'm so sorry, breakups are rough. Second, take your time to mourn & heal. Lean on friends and family, if you feel safe + comfortable doing so, and if you're up for it (once you've gotten some emotional distance), maybe reflect back on the relationship, what worked well, what you've learned about yourself, etc. When I was in middle school I had a pretty heartbreaking friendship breakup, and my mom told me: "this is just like breaking up with a romantic partner. You can feel sad and also lo…	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/25 03:16 AM
1	Being liked for my personality instead of my appearance That sounds really rough, and I'm so sorry. As a woman I'll say that looks do somewhat matter ... but at least for me, I usually start seeing people I'm attracted to as beautiful/attractive after I have an emotional connection with them. And the looks that matter aren't always (or ever) 6-pack abs; they can be other things -- like gentle eyes, or the way that a person's face lights up when they are excited. Maybe this makes me demisexual & I'm a minority, but I think a lot of women are less im…	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/25 02:52 AM
3	Starting to agree with rp Remember that the more people hear something repeated, the more likely they are to begin believing it. (This is basically how propaganda works). So get off those pages as fast as you can.	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/25 12:58 AM
1	Hard time fully trusting women I'm in a monogamous relationship, but I've never really been able to understand this fear. Where does it come from? What really are you afraid of? What would be so awful if she was unfaithful? I ask not because people should be unfaithful, but because I think sometimes the way that men view this issue makes it seem like they think of women as property. Or like pets that will run away the second the leash comes off. Which is I think how RedPill works -- it essentially tells you that your woman ca…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 10:38 AM
1	Its so hard to not believe in the RedPill So I read that post and I don't really think that's her accepting that she "settled" for her husband -- it seems more like a mid-life crisis. Or maybe a deeper mental health issue. I think people of all sexes and genders can just be terrible. But remember that when you see these things, you're fitting them into a narrative the RedPill has given you. These are tiny, tiny data points that strung together probably mean nothing, but behind them you see this big RedPill mural and you can't help but f…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 10:30 AM
1	What's some media to help recover from red pill? If you want to read like hard-core feminist thought, then Virginia Wolfe, Simone de Bouvoir, and Sylvia Plath. If you want YouTube videos, I love Contrapoints. Obviously her video on incels is good, but I think her videos on Shame and Twilight also have important things to say. If you want fantasy, Lord of the Rings. Tolkien's male characters have a beautiful and frankly quite attractive masculinity thats not celebrated enough today. I'd recommend the books over the movies, even though they can …	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 10:23 AM
1	I AM NEEDY and this is costing me a lot I feel like social groups are the way to go. I am a woman and can understand being a little put off by an approach on the street. Some of my friends have tried dating apps, with very limited success, and the whole thing feels really dehumanizing. The happiest couples I know are the ones who met over shared interests -- because then you can build up from a friendship. My bf and I met playing D&D. My grandmother met her husband when they were both grading the SATs (don't ask lol). My cousin met …	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 09:50 AM
1	(Disclaimer this will come across super redpill and it just came to mind) Why does it seem like women love causing chaos without a plan to fix the problem after? Hmmmm sounds like these weren't the most healthy relationships? You're right about what good communication would look like. But also depends on the backgrounds of the women. Have they ever been taught that its ok to speak directly to their needs? Not all people are. Also, have they tried the direct communication, and it didn't work? Sometimes when people feel they're not being heard with words, they'll try to make an emotional impact with their actions.	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 09:29 AM
1	Hear me out. Not to sound red pill but I’m going to kinda bring up a point. I'd be wary of claims of things being "biologically driven." I think you're using the term as in "genetically driven" and thus immutable. Things can be "biologically driven" without being immutable. Like the average U.S. homicide rate used to be much higher, and that was probably in part due to biologically driven emotions (anger, grief, etc.) that led people to violence. But today many people still have those emotions and aren't led to violence. As for whether women's behavior is "biological" .…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 09:26 AM
1	What advice would you give to someone still in r/redpill who is questioning their beliefs? I'd watch Contrapoints' video on Incels (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fD2briZ6fB0), and her videos on Envy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPhrTOg1RUk) and Twilight (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqloPw5wp48&t=5292s). They are fun and entertaining but also make some very good points. Also check out the YouTube channel Cinematherapy -- its just a great channel, and also does a lot of unpacking of relationships. Spend more time outside the internet interacting with real people, and notice wh…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 09:03 AM
1	I still believe in the red pill even though it's harmful.But I don't know what else to believe in What social groups are you hanging around? In my experience, women are averse to feeling used. And the 'just trying to get laid' vibe can feel a lot like getting used.	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 08:41 AM
1	I need help Just a note on divorce rates -- women couldn't hold a credit card in their own name in the U.S. before 1970. So 55 years ago. So today's 70 year olds came of age in a culture where women had little financial independence, in households where their mothers had little financial independence. This alone definitely changes norms around marriage. Early in her life my great-grandmother was in a really abusive relationship and tried to leave, but it was basically impossible because she had no independe…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 08:39 AM
2	Nice guys are not secret hateful manipulators that the internet likes to claim I think this comparison is made really well in the Cinematherapy video on "Megamind," if anyone wants to check it out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjpxlBRbhXs	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 08:30 AM
1	I hooked up with a woman that started my ex red pill journey. (Long Read) Ok this is so interesting because it brings up that question of what is "traditional." I study ancient history (among other things), and frankly I see . . . not much of a through line? Like you mention flowers as "traditionally feminine stuff," but in literally the oldest written book in the English language (Beowulf), the very masculine hero is constantly called "a flower of manhood." Similarly the Monarch Butterfly was named after the King of England, and he didn't seem to feel emasculated by …	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 08:24 AM
1	I hooked up with a woman that started my ex red pill journey. (Long Read) It might be true that "most men are going to emulate him" -- but you don't have to be that man. You might be surprised what the influence of just one dissident can do. And frankly, it would probably make you more appealing. How do you know that all of these women find him attractive? Have they told you so in private, or just giggled together in the halls? Often talking about attractive boys/discussing crushes is a bonding activity for girls. It can have as much to do with their relationships to …	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/25 08:14 AM