SalamandersRreal Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Feelings of isolation	Dating After Divorce	SalamandersRreal	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/24 10:59 PM

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3	How many of you are still friends w your ex wife? Not really. We still enjoy each others company, which is the worst part. She comes over to pick up/drop off our kid and we’ll talk like old pals for a while, and then the bad feelings come in. The crushing weight that this is just a passing glance of the past and that everything good that we had, has now been trashed because she couldn’t keep her dick in her pants.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/24 07:49 AM
10	Wife wants 5 nights a week and me out of the house. I want 50/50….. Yeah, she only wants this so that she has majority custody of the kid and will get awarded child support AND she will barely see them because of work and school, and she gets weekends off. 110% she is trying to fuck you over as much as possible and set herself up for success off of your back. Fuck her. Get a lawyer, get the fuck out of the house before she tries to make some shit up about you (trust me, people going through divorce will falsely accuse you of shit to get their way) and start the …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/11/24 06:36 AM
3	I'm...very messed up. Yeah, he knows what happened, and we get along pretty good, we just don’t have any further discussions about what happened, he’s made up this excuse for her to me, but I think it’s only something he said to gaslight himself into thinking what his daughter has done is kind of ok-ish; “of course it didn’t work out, y’all were together for years! No one stays together forever, you get sick of each other eventually!” I just let it go and make sure not to bring it up because he is letting me and my d…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/24 01:46 PM
4	I'm...very messed up. Same thing here, high school sweethearts, had been together since I was 17, so about 14 years together total, and then she got the tingles for someone else and then the cheating, lies, gaslighting, and bullshit came. I have lived in almost complete isolation for almost a year now. I get my daughter every other week, but I also have work and school, and my daughter has school, closest family lives 4 hours away, and I can’t move out of my FIL’s house because then I wouldn’t have anyone to help bri…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/24 10:48 AM
4	Marriage and Sobriety I feel for you man, but I have to question how $180k spent primarily on extravagant vacations that you actively went on… went completely unnoticed and unquestioned. Like that’s literally house money in a lot of states. Did you never once look at a bank statement? Sorry for the dickish part, but! As for everything else, you’ve already been separated for 2 years, you’re doing well enough on your own, you’re sober. If you were to ask me, I think your wife sees you’re doing better for yourself and j…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/11/24 10:11 AM
1	Ugh. I want to be able to give you advice for that, but my situation is pretty different. I think the only thing you can do if safety is a concern is get an attorney, have a custody battle to try and get 100% so you can cut her out and have at least a minuscule amount of peace.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 03:36 PM
4	Ugh. See her and talk to her as little as possible. My wife started cheating on me about a year ago, most days I’m ok enough. Pretty much an empty husk, but ok enough to drag myself to school, work, and take care of things that I have to take care of. The bad days are always because I talked to her or saw her. It’s hard to get over someone when you’re in love, the only thing you can do is avoid her and replace her if you can… Unfortunately, if you’re not an ok looking female, it isn’t exactly as easy…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 03:05 PM
3	Being alone is hard! Same… ish. I’m getting fed up with being alone while my wife cheated on me, gave my life to another family and has faced no repercussions for her actions while I get to live in almost complete and total isolation. I have tried putting myself out there to get work friends to be actual friends, I have tried being more active in my online circles, and a few other things, but it’s been months and months of nearly pure isolation and I’m just about ready to pull the trigger because I am fucking tired …	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 11:49 AM