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'Men age like fine wine' 'Women hit the wall' Ie, Men are allowed to age, and, Men en masse are attracted to verrrry young girls and features that look pre pubescent. In reality: Womens STUNNING beauty (esp @ 30-50) is absolutely wasted on men, just like every other wonderful thing about them is, and instead of lamenting men being so awful and dumb and weird as to not find women over 25 hot (yet still believe they are attracted to women ?), we instead juat pretend that said stunning beauty doesn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 12:21 AM
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Honestly, any man who says he wants to "have his way with" a woman is a red flag and a yeet. And no, I dont hold women to this same standard. Its entirely different when a woman says it to a man or another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 12:18 AM
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People always throw the word irresponsible and trashy around when its women having babies at 50. Why do we not condemn this from men as the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:07 PM
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I am embarrassed for that woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 08:49 PM
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A caveat most women dont want to say incase in triggers dudes, but damn I say it everytime because its.important and im tired of sweeping it under the rug: Not all men. But A LOT of them. Like A LOT. (A minority can still be a lot. Even only 5% is still 100s of millions.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:43 PM
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Like if you type that, you are acknowledging your bf/husband doesnt do it and leaves it to you. Saying "they dont even know" isn't an excuse either, because all it takes is for you to say it once- boom, now he knows. But you won't say to him, will you? Because you know he still won't do it. Its easier to pretend you do so much cause your man is dumb and oblivious, rather than selfish, lazy and disrespectful. I, my friends, and the ladies here at FDS, have convos about this stuff all the time. Ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:35 PM
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Sigh. That was harsh. I just have no patience for their shit today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:04 PM
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Men are fucking weird, selfish, basic bitch apes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:50 PM
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Why does every man under 40 I know have this exact handwriting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 06:32 PM
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Its eye opening how little men love, admire, like or respect women outside of relationships too. How often do you hear men talk with admiration about female writers, creators, or even just public figures Women are the pinacle of evolution; the greatest thing the process has created. I can't get over how wonderful women are. And they are absolutely wasted on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 10:38 PM
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Good for you! You are worth prioritizing, loving and levelling up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 10:35 PM
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I once made a comment on another fds post, along the lines of: Ask a man why he loves a woman, and he will tell you about things she does for him, or how good she makes him feel. Not things about her. Not that shes fierce and strong and cool and interesting and assured. But that shes kind (to him), nurturing (to him and his kids), looks after things, is hot, is a good cook, and (the big one) because she loves him It applies here. I knew that was coming at the end of the story before I got to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 09:19 PM
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JK Rowling Rachel Moran My mum Dolly Parton
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 09:03 PM
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"The man is supposed to pursue... so please pursue me." Great stuff, genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 08:15 PM
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Why do people take it personally when you point out bad things about an industry? We're saying nothing about you. I'm a big gamer and comic book reader- if someone said those industries have a misogyny problem I'd be like... "yeah, I know".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:01 AM
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"Men are needed. We protect you." "From what?" "What does that matter? We are stronger and so protect you." "From What?" "Men who might want to harm you." "Uh huh. So women need men in the same way we need god to forgive us for the sins god made up?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:27 PM
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I mean, we literally call a nuclear family home "The Jones's" (after him). Shes "Mrs John Jones" (at the wedding we say "Man and [his] wife"), boys get named John Jones Jr, the family line/heritage/traditions stay along his lines. Women are notoriously unhappy and unfulfilled. They are most likely to be hurt here, in this family home. The nuclear family is a con.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 11:55 AM
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AI arent women. If you are able to replace women with Bots you dont see women as human or interact with them in a healthy way. If you can "fall in love" with one, you dont know what love is, and have a warped perception of both women and relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:24 PM
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As a WLW who is currently very lonely, I am still not capable of "loving" an AI, robot etc- because they aren't women. Men so easily "falling for" AI and Bots, or saying they see no big deal with it as an option in a high tech future, is only a thing because they've already objectified women to the point of dehumanising them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:23 PM
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All the women are more attractive or equal to their male partner. Our standards for male attractiveness and beauty are so low we cant even see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:41 PM
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None of those women are ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:40 PM
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A male presence in a space makes it by definition not a female only space Simples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:22 AM
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He messaged her again because like 90% of dates men go on, thay ate looking for sex. He probably thinks shes nuts, but wants more dates anyway in the hopes of sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:20 AM
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Even when women complain about men doing all the things his wife is doing (which is a lot), there isn't the same level of seething vitriol. I can just feel the pure, vicious hatred in hiw he speaks. Women, even with all we endure, just do not hate men the way men hate women. Woman-hate from men is unhinged and terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:29 PM
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Lol I would rather have to do those 5 things than the things women have to do: The insane amount of maintenance regarding appearance, fashion and grooming. Being afraid for our physical safety and making ourselves vulnerable by agreeing to date a man Doing a lot of emotional labour even early on Having sex: all risk no reward Etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:25 PM
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Jfc I really, honestly hate them sometimes, and I'm not apologising for saying so. And porn has made them worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:36 AM
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The only thing this graphic has done is remind me how hot, beautiful, amazing, sexy, badass, cool and at home women look in suits 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:45 AM
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In fact, 70% of its POSTERS are make. Seriously, if you're a gay woman avoid this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:45 AM
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Sorry typo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:07 AM
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I love breakingmom, but dont be fooled, most subs are modded by men, and certain men are particularly known to larp as women and mod for female specific subs. actuallesbians, for example, is well known for being full of not actual lesbians. Its mods are like 70% male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:03 AM
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My friend (Ill call her Tina) told me this was how she realized: Im a gay woman, and was chatting with a large group of other women, all straight, except another gay women who I knew only casually (ill call her Lez, cause lol) Relationships and sex came up and one girl said "Omg Janet, tell them about your bf steve. Shes so lucky everyone". I turned to Janet in genuine interest, who said "yeah im so lucky. I cum more or less every other time, consistently". I blinked not understanding; I didnt k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:58 AM
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You wouldn't feel "replaced by the baby" if your relation to your partner didn't resemble one of a mother-baby so much. In other words, if you were an equal partner, experienced mutal respect and admiration, instead of being babied by your partner (chores, emotional labor, parasitic, etc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:12 AM
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This is emotional abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 10:07 PM
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It was always bitterly ironic to me, as a gay woman, hearing it was "a waste" for a woman to be gay. Because heterosexuality is the largest scale waste of anything, ever. Women are wasted on men and they absolutely do not deserve them, collectively. Makes me both sad and angry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:06 AM
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Men are turned on by female bodies. ​ But they are homoromantic often, homosocial almost always, and seem to value femininity over femaleness. (Think of the amount of "straight men" who when asked, tell you they would rather have sex with a male, in his butt, if he was crazy feminine/he could cover his face etc, over a really masculine butch woman. ie "every holes a goal! LOOL". I have had men literally tell me that if the choice was an unattractive butch woman or a pretty feminine man theyd pic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 05:13 PM
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I find this to be the most obvious thing in the world. Make more lesbian friends- and see the difference between men and people who are attracted to women AND actually like/love/adore them. Night and day,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 05:04 PM
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Ugh, Benjamin Boyce is awful. Cant bring myself to watch anymore of him to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:15 AM
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I have always said this about him- he has a rep of being so precious but I get major creepy/inappropriate vibes from him. I can't explain it- I just really dislike him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:30 PM
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Even you could die from blue balls... Masturbation is a thing. Ffs, for the LOgiCaL sEx, guys sure do let their personal feelings get in the way of objective rationality....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:08 AM
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My question is WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM. Women will literally point out, as this lady did, that their SO deliberately tries to use them as a live in maid, disrespects them, treats them poorly etc And they will be like "gee what a dick" but stay. I do not understand straight Women sometimes, sorry if that is offensive to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 08:42 PM
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Yeees. My sister is a goth and has been in tears on so many occasions. She tells me "when you're a goth, they don't see you remotely as a person, but as a walking porn category. In relationships guys will assume you're kinky and feel free to do what they want without asking. Other men fetishize you- you can't have normal conversations with them without some "big titty goth girl" comment. Many think even just being a goth is a deliberate signal to men that you're a kinky $l*t (cause god forbid wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:07 PM
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When men are asked why they love their partner, its always "shes GIVEN ME..." and rarely "she IS [independent attribute that doesn't relate abck to what they do FOR him]"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:28 PM
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The whole channel is great. He, of course, gets a lot of flack from men sometimes (the usual white knight bs). But one thing I noticed and it honestly made me so irritated. As soon as he put up a video about the harrassment of MEN in movies, it got a gazillion more views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 07:14 AM
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I couldnt be attracted to 18 year old women if I tried. Not for any moral reason.. but they are literally not sexually attractive. Women look their best at 40 imo. Men are weird. Look at kate winslet now, and as an 18 year old, and tell me she isnt more sexy and beautiful now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:35 AM
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The fact that men even have to ask is proof that they think that your orgasm just comes a byproduct of him focusing on his pleasure. men genuinely believe that a penis just touching the inside of a vagina is sending waves of heightened pleasure through her body. (ex. had a male friend ask me once how I can use tampons and not feel weird since Id be aroused and feeling pleasure all the time). They actually believe that anything touching the inside of your vagina (regardless of arousal, buildup, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:59 PM
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Weird that "emotional support" seems to be the thing men keep thinking is "the most important thing" to a woman, and its also the thing they notoriously dont give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:05 PM
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This has always made me so curious. I love performing cunninglingus on a woman (honestly it make me feel high as a kite with happiness) but sometimes I see penis, or think about the logistics of blowjobs, and think "how can anyone possibly feel the way about that as I do about eating pussy?"* Not judging, just genuinely curious. (Sorry if my language is inappropriate)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:24 PM
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Im only 30- but women of 20 look like babies to me. Women look their best at about 40 imo. Kate winslet and Gilliant Anderson are both hotter now than they were in Titantic and X Files. Men see plump youngness and that equals sexy to them, which terrifies me. Im sixk of pretending its normal. As a WLW, young women aren't sexy to me. And not in a moralistic way. But literally physically: the baby fat faces with no lines and no sharp shape features? I just dont find it attractive. Again, women are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:56 AM
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I find Lacy to be the epitome of a well intentioned but insufferable sex posi "not all men" type. I might struggle to listen, but I will try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:51 PM
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I had mental and emotional issues as a teen. Being at school at all was already hard. It would have killed me if I was at a mixed school. All girls high schools are WONDERFUL. Girls are more confident, get to talk about issues im a more assured way, all leadership postitions are female, no pandering to boys etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:44 PM
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Literally doesn't matter that he would "never think to say outside of the bedroom"- he still wants to say them. ​ We've used sex and kink as a safety shield agaisnt all bad behavior and scummy morals. Oh you wanna say the N word? As long as its direct at your POC gf during sex, then thats fine! In fact.. its WORSE that its during sex. Because it brings you pleasure to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:44 PM
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Who else was nodding along? ​ "You value everything else more than having a man" Me: "yes". "You value your education-" Me: "Correct" "your career-" Me: "hmm hmm" "Your friends-" Me: "Absolutely" "Attention-" Me: "Eh, maybe not that one..." "Money-" Me: "Yes, please." "Some of you value your damn pets more than men-" Me: "I have no pets. .......... But, yes, I value those non existent animals more than men". "You work hard for everything else in your life-" Me: "I mean, not always- Im a lazy sod…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:10 PM
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Also, just a note on thre whole can't find the clit thing. ... ​ It's RIGHT THERE. It is not remotely hard to find any more than "finding" the nose on a face. There is no "not knowing how to find it"- there's being dumb and not even knowing what it is, and there's being selfish and wanting to. ​ If he wanted to he would = also applies to the clit guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:45 AM
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Are straight people ok? (I kid, you know I love all you queens)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:50 PM
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Right? "Man hating" women are women frustrated and fed up with male behaviour and being abused. Their man hate manifests by wanting men to stay the fuck away from them, and focusing their time on women, and fighting the very rel injustices men are inflicting (like domestic violence and sexual violence). When men hate women? Phew boy. Murder, rape, seething anger, obsessing over women, mistreatment etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:37 PM
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I say it all the time. Men dont like women. ​ I keep playing this experiment with myself because its so interesting. Take a random man in your life, strike up a conversation. Ask him to list his favourite authors. They will all be men. Ask him to name his favourite fimmakers. Same.Ask him about his favourite music. Will be mostly men. ​ Etc. Its so fascinating. By and large they dont like or respect women. It sucks but its true. I only read books by women these days. Conscious deliberate choice.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:34 PM
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Fun fact: this is why theres a myth a lesbian relationships have weirdly high levels of domestic violence. they are judging things to be violence or abuse that heterosexual couples/women wouldnt always immediately see. Women are reporting things as DV in a lesbian relationship for things like yelling during an argument. They are more likely to refer to getting up in someones face (no touching) as violence. Also, they are more likely to report in the first place, and for "lesser" offences than he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:21 PM
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Try being a gay woman. For some reason, the minute I tell them, or they are told, they switch the convo to sex immediately and start asking me really personal sex questions, or talking about their sex life in a really disgusting way. Its like my sexuality is an invitation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:55 PM
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The reason we have surnames passed on is to keep track of property, inheritence, legacy, genes etc We don't need it in this day an age I have always said I think it should be part of the ceremony of marriage to choose and present the new name you've chosen for your new family together My friends (two women) got married 10 years ago. Neither liked their surnames, there was no precedent with them bith being women. So they made it part of the marriage buildup. They researched and talked about it. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:11 PM
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This. I have a big family, of which I am among the oldest siblings. I've been the one known for DIY, and would be the one helping my dad when we made or fixed anything. He never let me at first, I always had to beg. And I went off and learned to a lot on my own. So when he needed help he HAD to ask me, cause the boys couldnt do it. My brothers were given the opportunity repeatedly at home, in their allboys school and around the neighborhood to learn. They didnt want to. I had to born with an inn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 08:29 AM
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The whole point of power tools is that it does the work for you. You just... hold it. (thats an oversimplification, obvs) My whole life I have made furniture, used powertools, work benches, been in woodshops, workshops, etc The only thing that took finesse and skill to learn, funnily enough, was learning how to paper a wall properly and accurately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 08:24 AM
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I was ranting to my brother about Leonardo Dicaprio (about how its irritating hes never called out and has a perfectly intact reputation, even though his dating behaviour is creepy and shallow, and pathetic and sexist) and he was nodding along, agreeing with me. He agreed it was creepy. He said things like "I would never ever date a 21 year old" (my brother is 30). It all seemed to be going well as far as a conversation like that can with a man. ​ Then my brother said "Yeah the whole things gros…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 08:18 AM
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Photographed by papprazzii
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:55 AM
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They say they want "natural" looking women, but the thing is, they don't even really appreciate genuinely natural women. They just mean they don't want her make up to be really visible and obvious as make up. But when it comes to rolls and folds, cellulite, stretch marks (all the things that make women so wonderfully women), and things like grooming (body hair, eyebrows, hair products) its a "nah" from most of them. ​ Women are genuinely wasted on men. As well as treating women like shit, and no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:49 AM
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Hahaha oh my goodness. This should be the first FDS inspired novel. A sci fi story of going back in time to undo the Scrotening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:15 PM
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These abbreviations are making me lol S² (Scrote squared. So scrotey, other people become scrotey just by being in their vicinity)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:11 PM
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This guy isnt LV. He is negative value. Dangerous, deranged, hateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:09 PM
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Yeah, agree. Negative value indeed. We should use NV for negative value, and 0V for no value. HV - good, adjusted, stable man who adds great value to your life. LV - crappy dudes, not geat, dont add much 0V - No redeeming qualities NV (or -V) - Actively makes your life significantly worse. Dangerous (mentally or physically) What do you wanna be, guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:07 PM
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We're just as toxic, eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:04 PM
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Jesus fucking Christ. The bit about "you have shit on us forever so we are filled with rage and thats why we gonna act out and beat ya".. Always pisses me off so much. Women have been beaten, treated like trash and discarded for EVER, and we havn't used that as some sort of righteous reason to go out and be violent towards men. Lets just say women are treating men this awfully (lol).... you still don't get to beat and kill them! Stay safe ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:03 PM
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I think hes gross tbh. But the standards for mens attractiveness are so low. For example, he could be cast in a teen show as the popular, good looking love interest. I dont think hes attractive personally, but he mostly meets the (low) standards for male attractiveness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:28 PM
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People think of abusive disgusting men who want to hurt you as old, fat, smelly and unattractive etc. But I am telling you- the one who immediately made me uncomfortable, who I got the worst vibes from, who I can already tell is into choking and degrading women, who I'd be most AFRAID of were he a potential client; is the first guy. The young, fit, by societies standards attractive, guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:29 PM
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Men are the ones calling other men virgins more.than women are ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:25 PM
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Ifucking LOVE stretch marks. (on women) I find it so attractive. A few stretch marks on the side of a big booty or on some strong thighs? Yes, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:47 PM
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I don't think thats it. People also forget what he was like when he first broke onto the scene. From he was about 20, at the height of his heartthrob fame, he had a little gang he was leader of (including Tobey Maguire)- and when I say leader and gang, I mean Leader, like a title, and gang, as in they actually thought they were some cool little group; he acted like he was some sort of sex competition leader. It was called the Pussy Posse. Their whole thing was to go about like fratboys, club to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:37 PM
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Look at it closely. Everytime (bar literally once) he breaks up with someone, the next girlfriend is younger. Apart from Kelly in 2015, who was older the the previous girl- since he started dating Leonardo Dicaprio has seperated from women when the age out of 25 (usually younger) he has gotten a new, younger girl. 6/7 times. Its genuinely disgusting and it annoys me he has such a positive rep in hollywood. People only ever joke about the in a warm, friendly, well natured, way with him/to him. If…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:37 PM
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I am laughing so hard. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:56 PM
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Meanwhile Kelly Clarkson has to pay 50k (originally was gonna be upwards of 200k) a month to her husband in child support even though - get this!- she has physical custody of the children! (Bit of good news for her recently though- judge has recently upheld the prenup as the ex was looking to take half her money as well)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:15 PM
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So we have 3 different posts that happened: A man says he is attracted to his daughters friends. Makes weird comments about his own daughter ("Im not into her like that" - the fact one even has to say that...) A FDS poster posts about it saying "wtf- this is fucked". Indulges in a bit of hyperbole saying 99% men might be like this. The comments, however, are mostly filled with criticism that a man saying he wants to fuck his daughters 15 year old friends is met with upvotes, "understanding" and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:45 PM
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LEAVE HIS HOUSE AND WALK TO A GROCERY STORE TO CHANGE A PAD IN THE LOCAL CUSTOMER TOILETS???!!!! Don't just dump this man; lock the lid on the dumpster after so he can't interact with women anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:47 PM
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Her relationship with Ivy also seems very healthy. They are always bigging each other up, and seem excited when the other does well. When Harley though Ivy didn't love her romantically and wanted to be with Kiteman, she genuinely tried to support that and be the best friend she could without trying to sabotage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:53 PM
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We sell our services. In prostitution, your body is the literal physical product. You need no skills whatsoever, and most times dont even need to so a service. People are paying to literally rent your body as a physical thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:47 AM
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Literally....everything.... he listed after the highlighted bit is how I was always naturally with all my past partners. The fact that he wasnt doing this anyway... and only did it as a girlfriend RP... wtf. AND he only did it cause he wanted sex. Im so sorry girls. I just feel so sorry for heterosexual women. Things that are a given in lesbian relationships, aren't in heterosexual ones. It makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:59 AM
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Your 3 examples are SO ACCURATE. I remember when I was around 20, my group of friends (all guys) used to hang around a massive field out the back of our neighbourhood. I was obsessed with football/soccer, and really good at it. Though, with men being so much stronger and bigger etc, I never stood a chance anyway. We played 3 v 3 in different combos. And every single one fit into those categories. 1 single dude was the third one who actually respected me, but he was the only one who was also gay,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:33 AM
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Honestly my main takeaway was that he met a MARRIED woman, struck up a casual seemingly text only friendship, and this women, being actual friends with the future wife, even ends up MoH at his wedding.... and he still managed to believe "she was into me". I fucking can't. And I don't care that most men do it- masturbating to someones photos is disrepectful and awful. "I developed feelings for her... as shes hot." Was essentially what he said. Oh, I forgot she has "qualities" too. He felt this st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:20 AM
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As if men havn't been abusing, raping, mistreating and hating women since forever. Men didn't ruin porn. Mens own fucked up shit informed porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:17 PM
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A guy I know very personally is awful for this. Within 2 dates he's telling me stories of how the last text he wrote was 8 paragraphs and "Do you think that scared her away?" or how he's already told her about his abusive father who used to beat up his mum* *Bonus points of irritation here: his older sisters have been more profoundly affected by their dads behaviour, (he was too young to even remember or witness any beatings, as they stopped when the oldest son turned 16, and only knows about th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:13 PM
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Glad you made the distinction between this and mindreading. Mindreading= being able to use queues, or just guess, at what you want. Then maybe doing it because it looks good for them. What you're talking about= being so in tune with you, because they actually *know* you and care about you, that you just understand each other intuitively. And will act out your needs out of love, without needing to even think about it, or rationalize it, because they do it instinctively, because of course?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 10:58 PM
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As a massive sport nut myself... I agree completely. I'll even address each point directly. Massive football game in the World Cup. Hyped it up to my (fellow F) friend all week; was so excited I ditched my diet to eat crap during it. Just as it was starting I literally messsaged everyone to say I was turning my phone off and to DND. As I was doing so, saw a status of my friend that I knew meant she was down. Messaged and she said she'd had a fight with her SO, and was feeling really lonely and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:58 AM
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He basically said "its fucked up women are now actually having standards; only 25% of men meet them. You all want that 25% so us 75% can't get girls." And rather than concluding that men should BETTER THEMSELVES, so that they BECOME that 25% (and make the 25% a bigger percentage), managed to end with "women are dumb". Oh my Lord. The minute he said "yall have standards only 25% of men meet", I thought "then if you want a woman who wants a 25% man, become a 25% man... idiot." Her laugh is adorabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:25 PM
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As someone whos dated both men and women, has many straight friends of both sexes, and many gay female friends... there is a massive obvious pattern with how men feel about/what they want from girlfriends, versus what gay women want/how they feel about girlfriends. Women in gay relationships have the problem too often of thinking they arent good enough for their partner, because they juat love and respect her so much, and sometimes think shes so much better than them. Which has led to this cute …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:52 PM
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Try Giggle! Its not soley a dating app, but for connecting with women i general, but it does have a dating section
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:41 PM
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Hapoy for you and hope it all goes well. I worry he may snoop in your account's and see you posting here. Hopefully you're being very vigilant with this. Sending love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:32 PM
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So, Hugs, chores, listening and not trying to fuck you... Bar. Meet floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:43 AM
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These are *all* things that should come as default for any normal human being who actually cares about the people they are with. Men are with women they don't even *like*, and the whole world thinks its endearing that men and women hate each other and talk like they are each others ball & chains. But when he actually talks to you, looks at you, hugs, listens to you... its a great thing.. ? I don't these things were called "small things". They are actually big thing. Big as in really IMPORTANT, f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:40 AM
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Female friendships. And genuine LOVE and connection between them. Finding your self worth and happiness in feeling strong and confident, in those female friendships and not from romance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:27 AM
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And speaking as someone attracted to women, they look at their best at around 40-45 imo. And all my bisexual friends have expressed that that wimen get more and more attractive and alluring, while men get increasingly less so. I believe them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:23 AM
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Yes, I should say if it isn't their thing/enjoyable hobby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:36 AM
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Reminds me of this sketch ​ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOVCtUdaMCU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:11 AM
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Yes, your point is so important. By him giving her lingerie, you now feel pressured to wear it. Hes giving you something, thats really for him, and there is something really presumptuous and selfish in that. The whole point of sexy underwear is that its a little suprise you decide to do for your SO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:36 PM
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Right?? A sex related gift for your partner would be underwear for YOU that you know she finds you sexy in. It would be a sex toy for her (if you use them), a playful IOU ticket for massages from you,. Its a set of candles, oils, food etc and a promise for a romantic night together. etc Lingerie is literally giving someone a gift thats really a gift for you. Its really selfish, oblivious and rude. Its like kids who buy their moms a new mop, cleaning sprays and pretty rubber gloves for her bday. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:34 PM
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Tpuch as a Love language isnt even about sex. At all. Its about how you feel communicated with, close to, and connected to someone. For example, someone who likes their partner (or friend) to touch their arm when they speak, hug them when they need comforted (as opposed to someone who instead needs you to go do something productive for them, or verbally give advice etc). Or someone who communicates and feels connected to their partner by needing to touch them in these ways. The fact that its int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:34 AM
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See, this, I believe, is one of the fundamental differences between how men see women and how women see women. As a WLW, I would see a woman like this and think "Shes so AMAZING. Talented, successful, daring, wonderful." It would make me love her. I would be gushing all the time about all the stuff the OP mentioned, and I'd be so happy for her Men see the same woman and it makes them hate her. Think badly of her. It really irks me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:08 PM
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Which is bizarre to me. I fundamentally can't even wrap my head around it. Why are you even with someone if you don't think they are amazing and want to nourish that? When I'm im a RL with a girl, I am gushing about her every chance I get. I am hyping her the fuck up. Men confuse me. They absolutey do not deserve women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:07 AM
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I noticed that well. He remembered the male partner but not his spouses actual sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:53 AM
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Uh, what a scumbag. Good for you and your husband. Its exactly what Im talking about. They are outrages by it the same way they are outraged by something that happens in a TV show; the outrage is real, but with this... distance to it. Like outraged in an abstract, theoritical way. But once the show ends they move on and dont think about it because it wasnt real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:24 PM
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You what irks the shit outta me? So many men in my life agree. They see it, they agree with how awful it is. But thats it. They dont fucking DO ANYTHING. They never bring it up themselves, but when others, like me, do, its "yes, its so awful that women go through that. Wuch men are shit" etc. But then they never think about it beyond that. They dont donate to any charity working to change it, they dont pull their friends, the dont start these conversations themselves, they arent genuinely outrag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:10 PM
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"Ive heard women say..." "So I decided to test it out.." So you need to test something before believing many women. Then he tests it. And says "what did this tell me? It told me that..." You didn't need this to tell you anything, because WOMEN HAD ALREADY TOLD YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:34 PM
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There are loads of things I havnt known whatto do over the years, literally hundreds. AlAnd yes, this includes doing hair (for myself and younger family members) And what I do is research by googling, checking youtube and checking forums. Theres something thats always irked me about people who make posts like this, or even worse, make a facebook post. Of all those many things I looked up how to do, I never once posted anywhere "hi, im trying to do this thing that there are already loads of video…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:50 AM
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Men like this dont want mutuality and partnership (which is what a relationship should be). There is no way Leo Dicaprio genuinely admires, respects and adores all his 22 year olds as his equals and peers. And imo, a real, healthy relationship isnt possible with out that. Unfortunately so many men want want DiCaprio has.So yhey are liars when they say they want a relationship. They want handmaids. They want sex. They want the weird, fictional version of a relationship in their minds; ie, thinkin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:29 PM
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I see it as another reversal. Because I genuinely believe the natural order is for men to serve women. We have more claim to being the "default" human, who actually have the children, are more socially and empathetically evolved etc and its obvious to me their superior strength is best used in a scenario where women are the default humans who society is for, and men protect us. Like bees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:34 AM
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Dont forget riley Feels immasculated Buffy is a slayer and so starts seeing vampire prostitutes. Xander is the worst though. Edit, sorry! Skipped over that you did mention riley.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:01 PM
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An older show, not a current one, but the absolute winner of NVM on Tv ever is Tom Scavo from Desperate Housewives Honestly, hes so bad, but the reception was that he was SO WONDERFUL, and that in and of itself was worth unpacking. Would love the girls to do a pod episode on shitty lvm tv characters (ross gellar, ted mosby etc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:00 PM
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Jesus christ. Obviously this is rape but even just the first sentence I have never thought of the word Use when it comes to sex. Free use. They literally see our bodies as objects they are allowed to use sometimes like a sex toy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:26 PM
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I'll keep saying it. The nuclear family / heterosexual co habiting / non communal/ etc, as the "default", most desirable and most natural arrangement, is a con and a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:49 AM
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Fantastic comment. A lot of the issues regarding sex are to with the wider dynamics between men and women, which obviously dont disappear when having sex. In fact, the wider dynamics inform the sex (for example, a lot of men are thinking "yeah take that bitch" when fucking someone, because of how they have been taught to view women day to day, and given how powerful sex is at training the brain, this attitude is reinforced by the act of sex itself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:53 AM
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See, imo its not about knowing. Its easy to get a woman to cum if you WANT her too. To even Know, you have to want to know, if you get me? They want to use women as a way to get off. Men view sex with women as "This is hot, FOR ME, this will make ME feel good, I cant wait to do x, y, z etc". Woman are for masturbating into. Compare it to the average lesbian: "shes so amazing, I cant wait to make her feel good, I want to explore her body, it turns me on so much when she experiences pleasure, its …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:46 AM
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The "did you come?" constant proves that they literally think a dick just in contact with a vagina is the best possible feeling in the world for a woman. Theyve literally been taught, byattitudes, sexism, society, porn etc that you don't need to actively pay attention to her, because if you just do your thing, her pleasure and orgasm will come as a natural byproduct. So they hump away, concentrating on whatever rhythm is feeling good for them, build their own orgasm, then, having not even tried …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:39 AM
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Oh and as a lesbian whos had many male friends over the years i can twll you this: They think its cool they are getting a "bro" in a womans body,, until they realize we DONT want to talk about women how they do, and keep talking about all the ways men treat women that is bullshit. I always rant about how fucked the dynamics are in het relationships and make it known I do not think I am like them (men). And they like me a lot less very quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:31 AM
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This has happened to every male best friend ive had in my 30 years of life. Some get excited they have a lesbian BF, which is a red flag in itself. Others act like its no biggie but then they think its an excuse to cross boundaries with how they speak to me. Most I find out are secretly hoping for something, and of those who rightly believe theres no chance for them on the basis that I'm gay, still bizarrely sexualize me; ie cant stop talking about my sex life, asking questions about it etc. One…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:27 AM
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This post honestly made my chest swell! I am SO happy for you, op!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:10 PM
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I'm sorry to keep being this person... But what the living fuck is wrong with straight people? (No offence guys). This kind of thing in a lesbian relationship is almost unfathomable. To praise my partner for viewing me as a person and not raping me is... absolutely bonkers to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:41 PM
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I mean, im an avid gamer, and its much more of a solitary experience than youd think. I dont want people around me ruining the story, distracting or whatever. I also love girls who game, BUT, I'm noticing a cool girl/ one of the guys/ pick me / not like other girls vibes in how some girls to talk to guys about it. I dont blame them too much, because there is serious gatekeeping from men re games, and you instinctively try to overstate your passion for it. Still. Its a trend that irks me and I do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:10 AM
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Kristen Stewart cheating on Pattinson with that director was scandel with a capital S. Yet many male actors I know have cheated, and it not that people dont know, they literally dont care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:21 AM
1

Do a "'Man Bod' Monday"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:15 AM
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Female comedians is one ive noticed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:55 AM
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Agree with almost everything. Theres nothing even wrong with writing music about sexuality, but as you say, its a hypersexualized-male-gaze-influenced version of their own sexuality. Its pornographic rather sexual. Actually, a good example of an album about the artists sexuality is Dirty Computer by Janelle Monae (even though shes a wokester). Its just exploring her desires, sexual confidence, experiences etc through digital imagry. Theres a lot of word play, double meanings etc. "Screwed" seems…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:58 AM
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As the above data shows, men kill women, globally. When they live with them, they kill them. When that living arrangement is enforced through something like a pandemic (and so a man and woman are at home together more often) the rates of killing goes up. This is a hill I will die on: the nuclear family (ie men and women living together, alone, in a singular non communal habitation) and the idea thats its the natural way, normal, desirable and the best scenario, is the single biggest con sold to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:41 AM
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Women are absolutely more sexual. Most are just repressed and never got to tap into that sexuality Men think about sex, and literally do sex, like one seeking an end goal. Like pooping, snacking or scratching an itch. They have an urge for orgasm and hump away like a basic animal until they get it. Women want to explore bodies, envoke pleasure, be turned on by their partners desires and arousal. My experiences with lesbians can be just as lusty, nasty, dirty, hot etc, but always underpined by th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:21 PM
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Reminder that she isnt carrying "his seed". Sperm isnt seed. It isnt the lifeforce. The ova are the literal seed/eggs. Sperm just offers some dna and triggers the seed she already has to start growing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:34 AM
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Eh what is it with men thinking they are entitled to women way too good for them? Where does this arrogance, obliviousness and self centeredness come from? I find dating as a woman seeking woman because I don't think I'm good enough for any bloody wonderful woman! Men could use that same humility and reverence for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:18 PM
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This whole community warms my heart so much I could cry. Im just so happy for all you ladies, and so glad this place exists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:06 PM
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Listen to the Amber Heard/J Depp tapes. The first 10 minutes are excruciating. Forgetting completely any abuse allegations and just listen to the first parts. Its Heard desperately pleading that when they have an issue he runs off dramatically and she wants him to stay and talk and sort it out. He isnt getting it at all and keeps replying "yeah I KNOW I'm a piece of shit! Im just a failure!" You can hear the exasperation in her as she keeps having to re explain "No. I love you. I dont think you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:01 PM
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Its the same with friends and male siblings ItS Not mY fAuLT, yOu nEed to coMuNICate tHAt yoU dOnT wAnt Me To Act liKe aN AsShOle My brother is also fond in telling me about his relationships with girls and a running theme is "But I have to look out for my mental health" or "I only did X because I was struggling mentally", when he tells me he deliberately strung a girl along for sex. Ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:49 PM
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The idea that men marry down (ie that men are always with lesser women and women punch up) is so absurd and the literal opposite of reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:18 PM
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The idea that men will always be more horny is a lie. As teens during puberty, girls are horny as hell, just like boys. The difference is 1. Growing up we don't teach women how to pleasure themselves and be in touch with their sexuality, and actively make them feel like being horny is wrong 2. When they do end up having sex, the sex is shit, they don't orgasm, and learn to see sex as the small pleasure and arousal they get, that overall isn't worth it. Eventually, the "need" to have sex (hornine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:38 AM
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So.... in his opinion, white collar jobs are easy, low effort and pay a lot for doing little. Yet I would bet a lot of money that he is of the opinion that life is unfair for married men working white collar because they "work hard all day", come home to have that hard graft not appreciated, and are expected to then do housework and childcare after a long hard day. Pick one. Either working at the office is easy, in which case stfu using it as an excuse for men not doing domestic labour, or it is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:08 AM
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Funny how rare it is for 45 year old women to date 18 year old males. Funny how those 18 year old men don't want 45yr old women for all that "life experience". The commenters were taking great offence. I never ever judge an 18 yr old girl for being with a 40 yr old man. Shes a kid, excited, thinks shes mature, and feels validated. Any 40yr old man who gets with an 18yrold girl is a scumbag. End of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:58 AM
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I feel this way even though I am gay. Because I still care about heterosexual relationships because I care passionately about my fellow women and want whats best for them. It was frustrating seeing how these dynamics play out between men and women, and it all seeming so obvious and plain to see for me. But then watching my het sisters struggle. So glad I found this space. Am sending women here on the daily!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:43 AM
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Ypu should because the world literally defines sex as a man getting off. And thats not hyperbole. "We had sex 4 times last night!" = HE nutted and got it up again 4 times. Whether she came once, never or a hundred times is irrelevant to defining whether "sex" took place. A woman could come 10 times across oral, fingering, grinding.. but when it came to PIV he couldnt get it up. What will he say? "Tried to have sex but I couldnt. It was just loads of foreplay". If you have PIV and she comes, then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:38 AM
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And a big contributor to this myth is make up. We are so used to seeing mens normal faces, always. Blemishes, spots, colourisation, bags, differences in tone (as opposed to the one block of smooth tone foundation creates), wrinkles, ... etc, that it just looks normal, as it should. Women have all the same components making up a face but we dont ever see them all. Most women wear make up day to day, and celebs wear it every time we see them. So when we all get older and the make up does a lesser …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:26 AM
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My sister tells me stories all the time of guys who seem disappointed when she says shes 22 and not the teen they thought she was. Shes very short, and has the appearance of someone whos a kid. Guys watch her with that lusty face come over to hit on her, and say "oooh too young to be here darling". She'll say shes 22. And their face will drop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:50 AM
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It drives me BONKERS that this sort of thing is seen as endearing. I am sick of my fb feed, seeing grown ass 30+yr old men tagging their wives, or their wives tagging them, and laughing. I watch this with horror and confusion. WHY do you want to be with a man this dumb, inconsiderate and pathetic. WHY is this seen as cute. HOW can you have sex with someone you see as an inept child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:46 AM
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The bar is so low its plummeted through the earth, came out the other side, rocketed into outer space, and is lost in the black emptiness. It doesn't exist. I don't know how so many of you ladies put up with this, but I will keep sending my friends here to try and make their lives better. (Im a gay woman who has always lurked. Even though I dont date men, I feel the same way as yall here and feel very passionately that I cant just walk away and let my sisters deal with this themselves. Ihope its…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:42 AM
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"The gf who'll tell you right from wrong". Are these people listening to themselves? If anyone is "disrespectful of or thinks little of men", as FDS is accused, its women like this. This is literally saying men are children, evil, stupid, inferior or all of the above. I mean, I'm not saying I disagree, but wheres the toys-out-of-the-pram accusations of sexism for her? No where, because shes offering to mother men and they WANT that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:37 AM
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