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Salt_Toe_8891/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 11:26 PM
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My mistake was staying longer than I should have, clearly… But also, why are you so concerned about what I did/didn’t do? This is my story, not yours. If my post is irrelevant to you, then why bother to comment? I think you need better hobbies than trolling.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/23 03:54 AM
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Update: he reached out a few months ago apologizing for his behavior and treatment. Also realized he was NOT the love of my life and have since been dating someone who totally is. I am in a happier and healthier relationship.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/23 05:57 PM
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Not as important as how the person treats YOU and others, no matter how they look and how much money they make. You can be a billionaire but still treat your wife and others like crap. I will take the latter any day everyday. Looks and money fade, but not who a person is and how they treat you.
/r/ExRedPill12/05/23 08:49 PM
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Everyone has a different definition of what an alpha male means to them. To me, it doesn’t just mean someone who is physically strong but is more mentally. Someone who can provide me with safety and security by making me feel those things when I’m around them. Someone who treats others kindly, and sets positive examples. Someone who isn’t a jerk or belittles to feed their ego. Someone who people can respect because of the guidance they give.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/23 06:49 PM
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I feel like TFP brings out more of the controlling/abusive tendencies in some men. But definitely tell your mom about what you overheard, and if you start feeling unsafe/abused, please speak with a hotline for guidance.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/23 06:44 PM
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He really crushed my self-confidence and made me hate/doubt who I was, probably to make me more “submissive”. I knew I had to get out asap once I started having suicidal thoughts.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/23 04:57 PM
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Some may think a “girl’s night out” means women go out and cheat since their men aren’t there. We go to get food and drinks, socialize together at a bar, gossip/talk about life, and be away from our men for once. A bonding experience and a much needed one, especially if you are a social person. I have never had a girl’s night where the intentions were to find guys and cheat. If cheating is your thing, you then don’t need a girl’s night to cheat- you can anywhere lol.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 09:56 PM
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A lot of women who have a body count have only had sex with men they were in relationships with. Often, we don’t know that the person we love and care about may be putting on a front to hide their true colors or intentions, until we get fucked over and decide to leave.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/23 05:13 AM
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I am not perfect, but I’m surely not abusive. Great perspective you have… Anyways, I hope you heal.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 09:43 PM
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He thought it wasn’t asking for much and was fair to expect of me because he paid for meals here and there (nowhere expensive btw) or made dinners here and there, even though often we cooked together which I enjoyed. And drove me here and there, only because he would offer and I always was going to his house. I thought that was fair of him. I really didn’t ever ask him to drive me anywhere anyways lol. And if I did, it was 10 min away at most from his home to get food from a fast food place beca…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 10:47 PM
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Yeah, that would be me “adding” value, despite having spent a decent amount of money on him as well. For birthdays, holidays, “just because”. Buying sides for dinners we made. Cleaning on a whim because I wanted to. Helping where I could, because I wanted to help. It was never enough I learned no matter the time or sacrifices made.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 10:43 PM
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I’m sorry to hear this is happening. It’s truly hard to watch your partner go through these changes and know that there’s not much you can do to help them, but at least you can help yourself by knowing you deserve better and walk out. Unfortunately I feel the only way for them to undo the brainwash is by detoxing from the sources, and therapy. Please definitely leave safely from this relationship.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 03:21 AM
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Don’t watch anymore of it, and look into therapy. Block accounts, take a social media detox, deactivate your accounts. Delete apps. Don’t talk about it. Retrain your brain.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 03:18 AM
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I’m happy you are better! I noticed I started to become more mean as well and not feeling happy anymore with myself. That was a key indicator that something was wrong. I rarely received compliments for what I was doing right, so I started walking on eggshells to not upset him. It got worse. I agree, it should be an equal, fair balance. Not take advantage of me for my gender.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 10:03 PM
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I fell for it because I thought maybe this was just his preference for “boundaries”, and that I should respect them when ultimately, the motive behind them disrespected me. I was truly doing a disservice to myself for accepting these so-called boundaries. I also thought he said certain things because he cared and wanted best, but I think they were on their way to develop into worse control tactics.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 10:00 PM
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I’m glad to have helped validate your feelings and situation! It isn’t our faults. I don’t think anyone who knows their worth will put up with someone who says they don’t bring any value to their life for a long time. That’s what did it for me.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 09:58 PM
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Thank you to everyone who has commented, and for validating my feelings. It has been nice to be heard. I am doing a little better each day and am determined to have a healthy relationship one day. Definitely will not ignore any red flags this time as well. I am going to my first therapy appointment of the year on Thursday to work through all that has happened so I can better myself and feel okay again. While I do miss the happy moments we shared, I do not miss feeling like everything I said or d…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 09:53 PM
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I will not! I actually feel more peaceful.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 12:36 AM
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My house wasn’t getting cleaned by anyone but me lol. Just because I said I like cleaning (I have OCD so cleaning is soothing to me) doesn’t mean I wanna clean another person’s house. Also, I don’t like that everything is seen as needing to be transactional. Can’t things be done from the genuineness of one’s heart without expectations?
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 12:34 AM
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And it’s so unfortunate that either way, it sets them up to either hate or lead her down a life of abuse.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 12:32 AM
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Thank you! You are so right about “loss”. Perhaps not really one, although it’s still fresh so it feels like it. He was definitely becoming more manipulative with how he wanted me to “behave”, and my intuition was screaming. I started worrying that the mental abuse would escalate into worse. Two weeks before we broke up, I really started losing my self-confidence and for the first time had suicidal thoughts. Like maybe I was always wrong, hurting others, and not a good person. How dare I ever le…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 11:50 PM
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