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I'm... just gonna leave the conversation here then. Also this isn't about policing what men are allowed to say, it's about critiquing what men say about other men. Freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from consequence. This is a critique of the bullying of men for behaviors that should not warrant bullying in the first place. In the same way women who care about men are called "pick mes".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 08:06 AM
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I think I kinda see what these women mean by an "alpha" but at the same time, it's basically the issue addressed in this point. And don't get me wrong, I love me a masculine man. I love a man who loves to present himself as masculine because I like to present myself as feminine and I like contrast. But the thing about my femininity and my man's masculinity is that we treat it as a superficial form of self expression, not a compass on how we handle our lives. Just because I love to dress up in cu…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 07:44 AM
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I know, but if nobody wants to talk about it, who will? You never know how significant something is when it comes of movements like these where being focused on point is highly integral to its success. Especially with how stigmatized it is, you can never be too safe.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 07:41 AM
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It's okay! But it's not something you can do as a mod to begin with, you don't control who sees the sub if it's public and it's not up to you unless they say something in it. I'm the kind of person to ask people DMing me who I don't know directly which sub they came from because I'm a highly wary individual, and a lot of them say bluntly from here. And my usual response is just awkwardly asking them if they know this sub is supposed to be egalitarian, which they respond yes. So this clocks to me…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 07:18 AM
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As an insult or as a false diagnosis? These two can overlap but also a lot of men tend to treat it one or the other separately Because if you mean as an insult, I understand it's just a force of habit due to how societal norms shaped speech and how often times those insults become detached from their original bigoted connotation because time. Similar to how moron was historically a medical term for the mentally disabled but eventually just became a common way to refer to a stupid person, detache…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 06:27 AM
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I know, that's not what I'm referring to. I'm referring to lurkers, ones that have made themselves painfully evident to me by the type of private messages agreeing with my posts... only to contain some of the most dehumanizing, derogatory and obnoxious descriptions of men I've ever read. The people posting aren't the only ones here. A lot of people just like to read because at the end of the day, any men's rights subreddit no matter how well managed it is tends to be a reading resource for those…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 06:11 AM
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I see, I just tend to think in systems than one thing at a time. That can be hard to follow but I think like this because my experiences and observations taught me that nothing stands on its own in this world. So I find it genuinely difficult to talk about one thing without discussing its connection to others and hence why I often tend to self limit my digressions with "but that's beyond the scope of this conversation" because in the end of the day, it's hard to just talk about one thing at a ti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 05:44 AM
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I know, that's what I mean here! And don't get me wrong, I love me a masculine man. I love a man who loves to present himself as masculine because I like to present myself as feminine and I like contrast. But the thing about my femininity and my man's masculinity is that we treat it as a superficial form of self expression, not a compass on how we handle our lives. Just because I love to dress up in cute ribbon doll clothes and the idea of being femininely pampered doesn't mean I shame my man fo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 05:11 AM
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All good! I don't really expect responses, but I would welcome some equal venting from men who have been insulted before by these types of people. They deserve a space to call out this sort of internal blind spot too.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 05:09 AM
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I know, and that's good! But still it's evident to me they frequent this sub, even if they don't post. Besides this still functions as a safe space to share this explanation. Just because this subs users are majority in good faith doesn't mean bad actors or people unaware of the issues of their own conduct don't see us. And this sub has majority posts detailing misandry, which is great. But it's good to have an element of balance with both posts supporting the cause and critiquing itself too. If…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 05:07 AM
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That's good for you, but I've come across a number of these types of people and they either get ignored or upvoted. Sure, this sub's mission is a good one and I believe the majority of users here are in good faith. But it's clear to me that some users are treating this space as an echo chamber too. So it's worth mentioning here as well. As James Baldwin tends to put it, turning a blind eye to the problems within a movement you stand for is betrayal because change means assessing even the most un…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 05:01 AM
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Nah, I just tend to post here cuz this sub's mods are way more sensible and I know there are some people here who genuinely do this shit (I have had the displeasure of encountering and getting messages from these sort of people from this sub specifically). Besides if I posted in r/MensRights,I am fairly certain it would get removed or nobody would listen. Even though this isn't the main concentration space of the issue, it has people from that space frequenting a lot, so I'm gonna use this space…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 04:54 AM
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Personally, I believe toxic masculinity and femininity both exist and are both manifestations of vestigial gender norms because these people faced issues living with moderate masculinity and femininity which normally would be the majority. As a result, they overcompensate to the point of including the worst of each precisely because these people were failed by gender norms. But the odd part is that instead of resisting folding to the oppressive standards, they fold further to the point these peo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/26 12:11 AM
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Ok, I believe I should leave the conversation here. I don't want to accuse you of anything because I don't want to play like that but you are already exhibiting signs of gaslighting. I said that while society demands that women treat men as the enemy, it would be foolish to treat those same women as allies. I know it would seem foolish, but I addressed your point from the perspective of a person who has also reciprocated hatred for men from the hatred of women I've experienced and already grown …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/26 03:04 AM
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You do realize this entire time you've been dismissing me trying to engage with your points by presenting your tenure on an internet forum as authority right? I am simply stating my authority on the subject too so you stop deflecting me. You're not even engaging with any of the points I've made. If you claim you've done what I advised, show me examples. Show me what you've done so far. If you want to make change, it's a good idea to get perspective from someone who comes from even more violent p…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/26 02:43 AM
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I only just recently started using reddit, I've been aware of misandry since the beginning. Some of it to actually deadly levels. I've watched men I love personally die right in front of my face because of the fucked up results the worst of misandry can give. Don't talk to me like I'm naive, I've been calling for men's rights since as young as 14 because of this shit. And to explain why I only joined at 14, I didn't know men's rights was a thing until that age. Do you want me to give examples? T…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 11:25 PM
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Yes, but this argument is being made on the grounds of what is most relevant to the issue regarding the men most left behind and affected by misandry. And in my copiously violent experinces, the majority of it is this. Men who are socialized fundamentally differently (not given high expectations solely for their sex) may not be relevant to the issue of societal misandry but something else. That is beyond the scope.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 10:26 PM
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I know I'm womansplaining, because I don't know what you want me to do besides explain what you won't explain. I'm not gonna go onto your profile and stalk you like a weirdo, I'm gonna keep the scope of this conversation within what you've said here because I want to respect your place in the conversation and avoid ad hominem. Can you explain how your posts are worded? Because I'm getting the impression of bad faith by how your responses here are worded and that leads me to the worrying possibil…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 01:52 PM
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Idk, because you uhhh kinda phrased it like you were mocking the sentence. Quotes don't function as emphasis, in case you didn't know that. Peep r/suspiciousquotes for reference
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 12:35 PM
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Thanks! I think many of them are biological, but it's not a reason for misandry/misogyny to exist and for gender roles to be imposed in an authoritarian way onto men and women. I think we can stil acknowledge those differences while living in an egalitarian society. For this reason, I disagree that "If men are viewed as bigger, stronger and smarter by default, that already sets up men who cannot physically or mentally fulfil those roles for failure". But nah, I'll have to rebut you on that. It's…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 12:33 PM
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What? They really aren't, they're literally just people.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 12:14 PM
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Again, I said. It's ok not to like women, but as the thing says, your reason for dislike should remain within the domain of desire for accountability. Please read the entire post including the edit. People like you are the reason I made it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 12:04 PM
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Well your first mistake was tryna to convince those not willing to be convinced. Instead of focusing your posts on just convincing, focus it on just saying things as they are. If they don't listen so be it, that's just how shit works.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 12:02 PM
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I'll be so fr bro, your ex sounds like a spineless, basic, herd following bitch. And I wouldn't say she's a bitch in a derogatory way if it weren't for the fact she cheated on you about it. That's her problem. I say you focus on yourself, your interests and your hobbies, and don't let women decide for you who you are and what you're worth. Eventually, just living your best life will lead you to explore yourself in the form of finding community that is made for YOU and people like you. and there,…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 04:16 AM
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As a woman, even I sensed something fishy. My observation of the state of male mental health is that they are so much less put into importance than women's, so how the fuck would men be better off? Istg, as much as these metrics were intended to make men look privileged, this shit is just superhuman fiction levels of unrealistic. Men are not this strong bruh
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 02:42 AM
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Oh I see, well either way you're welcome to share your thoughts on the matter round here. It's a really informative space.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 02:38 AM
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I mean tbf the average redditor in general pretty bad faith.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 02:30 AM
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Oh ok then, I don't like people who are far towards any political party cuz good lord. That doesn't mean it's still not worth explaining tho.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 02:13 AM
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Well, as a woman who grew up experiencing men doing the same to me (although in my case, sexual violence), that's an understandable sentiment and I won't deny you your right to be upset because shit ain't a competition. I'm a woman who doesn't view men as the enemy at all because as much as men were all of my assailants, men were also most of my protectors. Hard knock hood life type shit. But the important part is that this mindset is that this remains a calm emotional release phase, because rep…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 02:10 AM
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I mean, that's not really a good sign is it? If you join a movement which requires empathy for the problem-causer to stay on track, without such empathy, you risk exposing yourself to the same indoctrination patterns feminism has had all these years. And nobody is immune, trust me. I know nobody will ever be.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/26 01:56 AM
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the more we realize this and stop fighting a literal war with each other, and instead treat each other with kindness, the faster this bullshit gender war ends. Yeah, I remember back when I was a kid, the prospect of a gender war or battle of the sexes was always seen as a dystopian hypothetical or a harmless joke premise. Nothing serious. Now, it seems like it's becoming reality...
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 02:45 PM
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As a woman heavily entrenched in rap culture because I actually came out the hood, it's because often times ever since the 21st century and maybe in the late 20th century, most misogynistic humor in music evolved into just satirical over-exagerated caricatures of misogyny to poke fun at the stereotype and social norms in general, which unfortunately because society is bad at media literacy and needs its hands held all the time, read to some actual misogynists as "it's our music!". It was all mea…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 10:10 AM
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When it comes to one man they've personally dated, okay fine. But the one's about men in general as a whole are what irks me bad.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 10:01 AM
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Wtf am I looking at
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 10:00 AM
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I said this once and I'll say it again, I miss when sexist jokes were just satirical over-exagerated reciprocal theatre and not serious angry opinions. It's not even funny anymore, it's just fucking mean like the kinda shit bullies in teen movies laugh at except it's real and actually seriously treated like humor these days. EDIT: For those where the link doesn't take you to my comment reply right away because it doesn't for me: I think it's more a disproportionate condemnation of one, when both…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 09:46 AM
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Ohhh my bad, my bad, I was a bit baked when I read it so I believe I missed some words. I mean you're lucky you didn't have to witness the multiple paragraph long neurobiological pseudoscience rhetoric by "Andrew and Andrea Tates". I'll delete my comment, that's on me
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 09:35 AM
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Man, you're lucky because of seen "THE ENEMY IS STUPID" rhetoric from both sides equally and good LORD-
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 09:28 AM
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No offense, but you do realize this type of reasoning is exactly what I'm pushing back against right? Men don't have to appeal to "natural selection" to be deserving of being happy in their own domain, people in general shouldn't have to adhere to this bullshit like it's an inevitable part of being a human because it's not. It's part of being an instinct-driven animal and we are supposed to be more intelligent than that. If even "ugly" women can be encouraged by their friends to love themselves …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 09:23 AM
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And that misandry affects women as well. As in they could be mothers, partners sisters of men affected by misandry. Yeah, you can say that again. I was hella close to boys and men affected by misandry including my dad, some to a deadly degree they were. If I spilt all the details publicly, you'd think I would've gone insane.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 09:14 AM
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I know, it's okay. But "peace offer rejected" gave me the impression like you took my post as a shallow feminist manifestation of the behavior being criticized, my bad that's on me
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 09:11 AM
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Absolutely. But are you assuming I'm doing that here? Not to be hostile or anything but I need to assess whether you are stating this as an addition to my points or a rebuttal to a perceived behavior that isn't intended at all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 08:53 AM
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Again, I'm not trying to ask for equality. I'm asking for people who go by "female inferiority" misogyny to re-assess their logic and make it make sense. If your misogyny is more "women don't wanna take accountability", this isn't about you. Again, you can't ask for accountability from a group you don't believe has the capacity to be accountable in the first place. Reiterating the edit to the post: EDIT: Okay, so apparently many of y'all aren't following the intended causal chain so I have to ma…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 08:52 AM
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All good, but again "all women are like that" is one of those flawed developmental generalizations one creates and while it should be up to parents and guardians to ease young boys and men out of that mindset gently, not many parents in society know that. So I figured putting that idea out there would at least help someone, it's not the responsibility of random strangers in society but I care so I'm gonna say it loud and clear. Btw I'm glad this sub has female mods, it's make me feel less alone …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 08:25 AM
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Meh, it's still worth talking about though. A lot of things can seem like a lost cause to the point people become discouraged from talking about it but if nobody talks about it, who will?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 08:21 AM
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Understandable, this is an egalitarian space after all. However, I'm of the belief that sexist generalizations are a normal part of emotional development for traumatized people and often boys and young men these days aren't given a space to go through that phase and mature out of it healthily with gentle non-invalidating guidance. Hence why I tend to be understanding towards reasonably trauma-informed misogynistic views, because trauma just does that to you. I'm a woman who used to be a misandri…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 05:08 AM
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And what scares me more is how this often backfires into women being persecuted for wrongs that normally wouldn't be wrongs in the first place like the whole "Salem witch trials type shit" thing. Not to mention how this also happens to men, just in a different form.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 04:32 AM
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As a woman who is a male rights advocate, I can vouch.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 02:54 AM
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Exactly, thus it's a good idea to make sure that anger doesn't bleed into mindsets that directly contribute to worsening the cause of that anger. In the same way feminism is destroying itself by turning innocent men against it, men's rights is especially vulnerable. Anger should remain towards what the anger was because of, if the anger was because of women not holding accountability, so be it. But don't let that anger progress into "women can't think for themselves" because then you're conflict…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 02:00 AM
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I know, that's fine. But what matters is your disdain comes from a place of seeking accountability from them in the systemic loop because you see through the bullshit and know that they are fully capable of doing so. The misogyny I'm addressing here is the view that women as monolith are too stupid to take accountability instead of acknowledging that misandrists often know what they're doing when it is pointed out to them, as much as they throw in as much cope as they want to deny it. Nice pfp b…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 12:33 AM
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I never said purity implies freedom, I said it creates a pressure. Also I added more to my initial reply.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/26 12:00 AM
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Yes but the view that women are weak and fragile for being women only exacerbates the viewpoint that men are threats because as I mentioned, society acknowledges womens importance but not mens. I apologize for sounding blunt but did you read through the whole essay and not catch the point due to it not being clear enough or did you just skim through the most important parts? You're repeating what I'm trying to say and framing it as a critique or disagreement. Also "cucks"? In addition, just beca…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/26 11:54 PM
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I don't think humans should be judged by an arbitrary "value" variable in the first place but I see this more as the dehumanization of the male sex in general. And the fact it even manages to stoop so low as to throw away the importance of the lives of innocent children is insanity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/26 07:59 AM
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I can kinda give them the benefit of the doubt for men because of how shit goes in the sociopolitical climate but excluding boys is fucking inexcusable
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/26 06:18 AM
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A lot of the bitches who complain most about slut-shaming be the ones slut-shaming, there I said it. As a woman, men can do whatever tf with their bodies especially if it's something like this where the odds of catching a STD is damn zero unless you're sharing with someone else you know ain't clean. And sure, one could argue the reason is "he's an incel who views women as sex objects" which I won't deny is a subgroup of men that exists but y'all act like women aren't also the same. Do I need to …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/01/26 11:42 PM
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Hats off to you, man! Ngl, even as a woman I feel really validated by you stating this because I remember being harassed by this one member of the sub that insulted me and call me "ilk" for my sexual deviancy only to delete his comments later because he had strong opinions against sex positivity in general regardless of gender. So I was a bit worried, as a strongly kink and sex positive person, I was out of place as a regular member of the sub. Nice to see sex positivity extends to men's rights …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/01/26 11:26 PM
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Exactly! And personally because the question is so open-ended, I believe abortion should be legal. This makes the option available for those of pro-choice opinion, but not compulsory as to respect the sensitivities of pro-lifers. Something very philosophical like this is a very personal thing and personal things are VERY variable, therefore I believe law should not be involved in matters pertaining to highly open-ended and inobjective philosophical dilemas like this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/01/26 03:36 PM
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IMO in addition to this, "If men got pregnant, you could get an abortion at an ATM" would still be false because from what I've gathered from how pro-lifers put it, the thing about women being denied abortions is that it's not necessarily about controlling women's bodies but the over-personification of an undeveloped organism. A lot of the shame in abortions doesn't come from being female and not fulfilling the "female duty" on its own but instead, the act of "killing a child" even though depend…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/01/26 05:30 AM
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Yeah, but this just serves as a an example of how misogyny and misandry still contribute to each other in most privileged societies. In less privileged societies like yours and actually mine, the connection between the two is more extreme but consequently more self explanatory.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/25 11:45 PM
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Often times the misogynistic opinion that "women's only place is the home" comes from the opinion that men are easily "disposable" as breadwinners due to their perceived "durability", where if the man gets hurt or killed in the dangerous outside world, the woman will at least be safe inside. Hence, women often felt pressured to pressure men into protective roles (i.e: white feather movement) which further solidifies the misogynistic view that only men are capable of fighting and holding dominant…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/12/25 12:02 PM
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FR like... Misandry is real, harmful, and systemic, but it stems from sexism against women and misogyny. ...Who's gonna tell em misogyny also stems from misandry?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/25 06:19 AM
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I honestly like to call it "society being society" cuz most women aren't like this because they're born like this, take it from me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/25 07:03 PM
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As a woman, I call it "bitches being pretentious hoes" like bitch get off your high horse tf
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/25 06:57 AM
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If only this equally helped men along with women (which even as a woman, I doubt considering all of these only address women's issues), I guess the intention is good(?) but the execution... u know... "Wow, what a horribly vague and easily abusable system. Surely nothing will go wrong here!"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/25 06:44 AM
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I read it, it seems a good chunk of it works for guys looking to date neurotypical women and women who tend to be less upfront. But for neurodivergent women, ehhhhhh. It's definitely useful for a more gender normative and monogamous approach to dating. For fringe or alternative types of people and relationships though, not so much.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/12/25 01:48 AM
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The comments are dogpiling him thinking he's fallen into the "alt-right" when in reality he's making pretty progressive points, true women's rights means men's rights too because a lot of issues in how women are treated come from men's issues. As a woman, I was a bit iffy with some parts of his dating guide, the "it's a numbers game" phrasing, and the 4-5 day wait is a kinda "nah" for me but overall the message is very good and it treats women like people but gives clear instructions to young me…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/12/25 09:16 PM
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Please tell me if, in your experience of being a woman and interacting with other women, you think it isn't the case that most women are completely unattracted to most men. That's what I've observed, and I think it's hard to feel sexy when most people find your body gross. Yeah, they find them unattractive which is fucking weird to me. Idk if it's because I grew up with a more masculine and male dominated friend group but I'm fully convinced women are just doing it because of what I like to call…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/25 02:22 AM
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As a woman, I feel like more men should know they don't have to have the ideal greek god body to be sexy. If body positive sexuality for women is so widespread, I feel it's unfair how men never get the same treatment. I feel like men who dress themselves up with effort in general can be sexy, I've found myself drawn to fat punk and goth men a number of times because they put in the work to look good and have unique haircuts, damn the societal repercussions. Just that men aren't given many option…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/25 01:36 AM
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I'd argue gang shit is more dangerous because it can kill you straight up and the trauma you'd have involves the destruction of other people quite often but at least the trauma you sustain is on a basis of "I had to do what I had to cuz he was boutta kill me", I know gang mfs. But that's not to say doing hoe work isn't also emotionally dangerous because it's dehumanizing, can fuck up your perception of yourself and in my experience talking to my male hoe friends, it makes you feel like a living …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/25 12:13 AM
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To be fair, men being creepy about lesbians is a common thing too. But the thing about women sexually objectifying men is that unlike men sexualizing women, there's no societal code of conduct taught to them to keep their creepiness in check because... women can't be sexually creepy apparently?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/12/25 03:57 PM
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Hysterical scaremongering which leads to trauma which leads to "alpha male" grifters tryna make a quick buck outta them grooming them to become actually misogynistic in my observation. Boys' emotional development issues need to be handled with care and they just don't get that care in a world where they're raised with the narrative that "You're inherently privileged and a danger to women, so restrain yourself". So when the "prophecy" that they were educated to fear is proven false by the very re…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/12/25 01:25 PM
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I think the lesson they're tryna teach about porn not being an accurate representation of real life at its core is a good lesson but: they're teaching it for the wrong reason and as a woman, I feel like girls should be taught the difference too because way too many times I've seen grown ass women completely objectify and over-pressure men who sexualize themselves because "well he makes money sexualizing himself so it's his job to serve all women regardless of how he feels" (actual thing I've hea…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/12/25 01:20 PM
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There are bigger fish here. This tbh
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/25 06:38 PM
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Depends on your definition of feminism. Although I'd argue the name of the ideology in of itself is sexist because it only addresses one gender's needs as the "main concern". Personally, I just call it egalitarianism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/25 01:12 AM
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Yep, it sucks. As I said, a lot of modern edgy humor sounds more like angrily stating an opinion than just being fucked up for the sake of fucked up even though you're not really fucked up. Shit used to be stupid fun catharsis and now everybody got a stick up their ass. Not saying it's not a good thing to be "woke" and care about social issues but good lord, how can you call that humor? It's just blatant passive aggression, it's the kinda shit bullies laugh at to bring someone down.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/12/25 01:38 AM
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I think it's more a disproportionate condemnation of one, when both used to exist harmoniously. While sexist humor started out as serious projections of one's ignorant opinions, it briefly had an era where it evolved more into a form of reclamation by those who do not agree with those opinions or don't truly live by those opinions to make fun of them by exaggerating them to appear as painfully distasteful as possible. Sadly however, it seems we're devolving back. Back in the the 90s to 2000s, mi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/25 05:27 PM
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As a woman, you should be allowed to criticize the extremes of any ideology without hate towards the group or the people the ideology claims to stand for. Take it from me, often times the broader, more mainstream and more popular camps within an ideology fails to actually help those it claims to care for due it's focus being more on pubic image and the people leading them often being hilariously privileged in comparison to the people who need the advocation the most. Besides, putting an ideologi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/12/25 11:15 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you, I was close to a boy whose mother did the same when he was 9. Shit either scars you for life, hardens you or drives you insane and he was a part of the second group and contributed to his involvement in gang violence. I'm a woman who went through sexual harassment and abuse as a child too but I can't imagine how boys go through it with the opinion that "men like sex so they can't abused". At least for me, people gave a fuck and people still do give a fuck. But …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/12/25 10:35 AM
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Yeah, that's what I was saying. Whataboutism is defined as a fallacy where one deflects an accusation or point by changing the subject, nobody is deflecting nothing here.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/25 03:54 AM
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Yeah it really sucks how men are just held to a higher standard because... what? "ideal man big"?? People confuse me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/25 02:41 AM
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Yeah, people will call this "whataboutism" but this isn't that because you're not deflecting an accusation by just saying "disabled men matter" on it's own. And sure people will tell you "Just get an all genders programme then!" and sure that works, but this highlights how femininity is treated as "special" while masculinity is not. Not only does this create issues for men with distinctly masculine or AMAB social, biological or emotional problems that androgynous knowledge may not suffice for, b…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/25 08:30 AM
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A lot of them were born disabled mentally, others were disabled by their parents or gang violence because they parents were either deadbeat, neglectful, struggling immigrants, alchoholic, abusive, drug addicts, the whole mile, so they had to get into drug dealing to make ends meet since selling food on the street couldn't cut it... and the drug trade in my area is directly, WAY MORE DIRECTLY connected to the gang politics. Wasn't involved with the gang side at all, I was a friend for emotional s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/25 05:03 AM
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That's all good and fair! But I mean, that's not a problem for me personally since I believe in consensual sexual liberation in the sense even though I personally wouldn't fuck around because of my trauma induced fear of sleeping with anyone besides those I strongly trust as a lover, I wouldn't mind my man sleeping with other women so long as 1, he doesn't actually emotionally fall for them and 2, he practices safe responsible practices like contraceptives and anti-STD measures. I personally des…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/25 04:19 AM
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Disappointing that the discourse surrounding disability seems to only cater to towards women. What ever happened to inclusivity? This. As a disabled woman who was close to disabled boys growing up, I know my privilege. Most people only properly recognize you as a victim when you "look the part". And being female is a very strong contender for that, while male is not. And it sucks.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/25 04:10 AM
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Hey, you're the same weirdo who dehumanized me and called me "ilk". Also, personally I just don't mind whether the sex is good or not because I just don't care. My personal opinion is that a true marker of a person's love is separate from faithfulness of the body and he manages to stay in love with just me despite not being as "good as the other girls he's had". As long he plays it safe and doesn't cheat on me emotionally, I'd just leave his sex life to his own preferences. Condoms exist and adu…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/25 12:24 PM
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Me personally as a woman, I prefer men with high body counts but that's because I hate people who shame others for their body count regardless of gender lol, but yeah this whole study got me side-eyeing a lot of hoes rn
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/12/25 03:13 AM
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a baby can't fire you The way I cackled at this sentence when I saw the notif for the first time should be studied but tbh, this is so real.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/25 11:53 AM
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Ah yeah, I think I should have clarified that in my original comment. That being said, this does further prove that a woman's work is just as important as a man's. Also, I actually come from the urban side of a poorer country though and usually it's only the wealthy or people who live in jungle villages who practice multigenerational houses. The former being because the type of house they can afford is sufficient for it in size, and the latter because they have sufficient space between homes to …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/25 05:04 AM
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I don't think a lot of feminists realize the reason women were incentivized to stay housewives was because the system expected men to handle all the heavylifting in terms of income, creating equal work between the two to maintain the household. And yes, one could make the argument that "A woman has to work day and night while the husband doesn't" which is valid but: it was a very easy to solve problem by just setting aside "break time" when the husband is home where neither the husband nor wife …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/25 03:42 AM
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I tend to think of it as "chihuahua mentality". A chihuahua is small and weak. It knows this, so to compensate, it is fierce. It's understandable as an act of self-preservation for survival. One who sees themselves as weaker but doesn't enjoy being weaker will often retaliate to perceived condescension by being an asshole about it. I'm a woman who has been traumatized by men all her life. But I don't hate men because I don't fear them, I don't see them as superior, I see them as equal and theref…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/25 03:27 PM
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Great, sexism AND ableism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/25 03:14 PM
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What in the everloving fuck is this phrasing
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/25 04:49 PM
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As a woman who spent her childhood in a dangerous hood in a third world country, the fact that I am even alive with no criminal record despite being hella close to male gang members who was dying dropping like flies alone is proof of my privilege
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/25 04:55 AM
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Dw, I hate virtue signallers worse. Trust me, they make basically everything worse even virtue signallers outside the scope of gender issues. Even had a few who completely undid a lot of psychological work I've done for someone, only to look at me (a "victim" in their eyes) for approval like bro-
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/25 03:46 AM
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Yeah, you should really stop caring about these people. Sounds like they've strung you along enough.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/25 01:44 AM
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good men get all the women apparently... Depends on your social climate, a society with good but strictly rigid values trickles down to its women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/25 01:01 AM
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I just tend to say what I mean and mean what I say, a lot easier than shuffling around shit
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/25 12:57 AM
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Ah, u know if I were u I would've replied "So women who are financially struggling are so because they have a shopping addiction and if they were just smart people, they wouldn't be poor?" but that would've been too foul for them to handle lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/25 08:06 PM
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Ah, I mean I don't care about international women's day either if it makes you feel any better
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/25 04:17 PM
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Shit, it's men's day? Damn I lost track of time :P
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/25 10:37 AM
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i honestly was expecting some bullshit about theraphy or putting oneself out there or just be a good person bro Now what part of "long multiparagraph essay form responses with examples and specific advice" made you think I was gonna pull that one dimensional shallow shit :')
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/25 07:13 AM
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I'm not famous enough for that shit lol, I'm just a heavily traumatized girl in my room retraumatizing myself for the sake of finding answers to the questions that plagued me horribly
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/25 05:47 AM
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Then unfortunately they'll have to either be very patient and sift through friendships and communities until their dream lover from within that niche community finds them, or they'll have to change to be "tolerable" if they really wanna participate in normal society. It's like how fat women have to contend with being "the cute pudgy wife" that only her husband truly loves and finds sexy, but not being seen that way by the broader society. And yes I know a fat woman isn't necessarily a great exam…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/25 07:02 PM
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Yeah, I guess you could say that. I should've been more clear. Although when it comes to your example, it's pretty much unavoidable circumstance. While for this case, women aren't 100% obligated to participate in sex work as the only way to survive and it's mostly choice (unless we refer to sex trafficking victims but that's outside the scope of this conversation because we're talking about the cakism of hating the male gaze but willingly benefiting from it). To put it into perspective, I mentio…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/25 06:51 PM
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I mean, that's kind of what I wanted to point out really. People are so desensitized to women breaking social norms because it's been fostered for centuries, even as far back when women were actually oppressed, they still had fashion movements made to challenge the status quo. So seeing men do it can come of as a shock and if they're too unpalatable, since society isn't desensitized to it because of the false perception of "what do men need to fight social norms for? They already benefit from th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/25 05:19 PM
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It's not really about reforming someone to become tolerable to others but it's more about reforming mindset to be less stressful on oneself. The "reforming to become tolerable" part is secondary, not a requirement and isn't up to the "easer", it's up to the individual only after he has achieved a mindset where he isn't in a stressed, (understandably) spiteful and emotionally draining state of mind. After he has achieved a better mindset, he doesn't have to change his interests, appearance nor pe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/25 04:19 PM
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And that's fine, that's just how humans are. But what's important is you've learnt to accept that in stride but not in spite, finding your own balance that works healthily and safely for you internally, independent of the society that you should refuse to entertain whether in the form of mindless participation or direct spiteful counterculture. Just exist on your own terms, not in spite of everyone but regardless of everyone.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/25 03:16 PM
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Uhhhh thank you, man 👍
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/25 10:53 AM
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Really? You come at me with that type of attitude towards me just trying to make room for people who simply don't happen to be able to think like you and I'm gaslighting? EDIT: Okay, I believe it's better to just resolve this as an agree to disagree situation. Either way I hope you learnt something from this, a lot of men struggle in more serious ways than people like to mention.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/25 01:38 PM
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Wait, "incel simp"? Is that what this is about? Why are you being so hostile? The original intention of me critiquing your comment was to provide a more detailed perspective on your advice because this is a space for men who look for support after being hurt and rejected by the double standards society pushes against men, so seeing your vague advice "find women who love men" which could be easily misinterpreted and lead to someone's abuse, I felt the need to expand upon for the reference of any …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/25 08:03 AM
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Really? So go for the women who hate men? That's not what I said, I'm saying you should be careful and make sure that enthusiasm in men is not your only criteria of the kind of women you should have around. Someone being enthusiastic about men in general is not a direct indicator that they will be enthusiastic about you as an individual. But, those women aren't actually enthusiastic about men. Smart men, especially the kind that most women want, see this easily and avoid those fakers. That's eas…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/25 04:24 AM
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Hmmm, I wouldn't say that. It depends on the woman herself. I've always been enthusiastic about men both in an artistic, emotional, academic and sexual sense. I like writing surrealist horror stories with male protagonists and drawing transgressive yet sexual depictions of men. And a lot of the fiction I make based on men or male issues are informed by the boys and men I grew up close friends with along with my own trauma caused by men. They played both a role in protecting me and endangering me…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/25 03:22 AM
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Actually reminds me of this video I watched a while ago. Also, while the mindset I understand is separating sexuality from objectification (like me for example, I can find a man sexy but still see him as a human with feelings, opinions and desires, just as a woman does too), it still doesn't answer how you can be against yet also benefit from the male gaze you hate so much simultaneously.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/11/25 04:37 AM
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Uhhh thanks Ig? There are a good chunk of women in men's rights movements already, although minority. It's nothing special, you're fine bro.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/11/25 02:53 AM
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I guess, but since the post was marked nsfw, I figured since it was relevant I might as well go all out considering my knowledge on the subject. Shaming ethical sexuality is the same logic used against men who have "deviant kinks" even when desired to be done ethically, and I wanted to make it clear I wasn't against it. EDIT: "Some things deserve to be shamed, speaking to your ilk is a waste of time" damn bro okay Men have desires like women too but they're disproportionately scrutinized for it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/11/25 02:48 AM
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Ah I'm sorry, but yeah that makes sense. But my reasoning was basically that it's not ethical to force your man to show u his asshole for the sake of "being even" because it's not his nor your fault he can see your asshole during straight sex, whether or not he wants to. The biological female body just built like that, whether or not it's in the rule of a matriarchy or a patriarchy, so the "power imbalance" to be spoken of is just looking way too into it. Not everything in the bedroom has to be …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/11/25 07:16 AM
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Yeah, I know it was relevant to the conversation and a lot of people agreed but I just felt embarrassed sharing that much about myself and decided to back out
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/11/25 05:44 AM
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They all immediately became enraged when I said it's rape, and said that's BS because in their mental scenario, the men enjoy it, even if they don't "like it" and claim to not want it. A person who genuinely wants it only as safe and ethical kink fantasy would not react this way, they would instead bust into clarifying the difference between kink and reality like I did.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/25 08:12 AM
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??? They stated they're rejecting rape, not kink. The women they're talking about never made it clear at all they were referring to rape roleplay, instead made the opposite clear, real rape, justified by "men love sex regardless of consent".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/25 02:45 AM
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As I replied to the comment above, you can express this in the form of safe mutually consented kink play, not as actual rape. The whole point of BDSM as a whole is to express the erotic, that wouldn't be possible in reality without violating ethics, in an ethical environment with the willing and adult participation of all parties.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/25 11:10 PM
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Have these women never heard of a CNC kink? This sounds like a horribly normalized case of conflating kink fantasy with reality. Yes, you can have your boyfriend who is actually into pegging pretend he's against it, it's called ROLEPLAY. Just ask and discuss with your man to ensure mutual consent, make sure he's in on it, give him a safeword if he needs out for a moment. You don't have to risk an actual fucking rape charge.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/25 03:01 PM
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True, but it becomes a problem when it begins to involve pressuring or even force like the example. I've known girls who like to fuck with their top on covering their tits, not everyone is gon be ready to show everything and that's okay and should be respected.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/25 07:38 AM
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"He probably liked it" is just the male equivalent of "she was asking for it", change my mind.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/25 07:36 AM
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Okay. This is crazy to state to strangers but considering the situation, this is a statement of my authority within the subject. Ahem... As a woman who IS in fact sexually into doing stuff involving my man's butthole (something she is not, and with his absolute consent), the only thing I can say here is bitch wtf who does that without some kinda issue in their head and why tf was her bestie so damn easily convinced like sis get new friends tf When men have sex with you, with your 100% consent, t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/25 07:28 AM
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Ohhh, all good lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/11/25 01:24 PM
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those were usually upperclass men and women the lower classes usually didn't Hmmmmm idk. It depends on which society, since even lower class ancient Egyptians used makeup regardless (albeit a cheaper more basic kind, but they still wanted to wear it anyways) and almost everyone who wasn't a slave and participated in the society had or wanted to have it because being in a relatively advanced society that still operated on the bartering system, workers were often paid in paid in food or grain that…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/11/25 09:54 AM
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As an autistic woman, I find the clomping of my heels to be really fun and satisfying (although other autistics may find it annoying lol) but yeah, it's something I notice too. If I can have fun clomping my way around pretending I'm a horsey, why are men expected not to? Is it because the average woman has such fragile femininity that a man making noises with his feet that even MILDLY resemble the clomping of elegant shoes makes her insecure? Like I understand some men just find the sound a nuis…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/11/25 04:01 AM
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Might be, it's a bit weird don't you think? High heels were even invented originally for men, so it's giving "goth being jealous of a vampire for looking more like a vampire than them" to me, you know?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/11/25 03:26 AM
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The focus here is about balancing the public perception of personal expression through adopting outdated standards of adornment or mannerism as aesthetic which is validated in women as reclamation of oppressive standards but condemned in men as "pushing negative and oppressive behaviors". The point I was trying to make has absolutely nothing to do with capitalism. It's not about empowerment, it's about the double standard that it's viewed as empowerment when it's feminine but viewed as negative …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/11/25 07:03 PM
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Our current representation of masculinity is basically a tall, lean guy weating a suit or designer clothes. That's what people imagine when they close their eyes and picture a masculine guy. "Muscular, brawny stupid jocks" is being mocked because it deviates from that norm. You could say that. But the issue is, in this age, women who express the "stupid pretty bimbo" are encouraged and celebrated in pop culture as a form of reclamation of a negative stereotype associated with femininity. The imb…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/11/25 06:20 PM
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Sorry, I'm not trying to downplay your concerns but I feel like I have to state my opinion here. Do be aware, I advocate for mens' rights because as a pre-teen, I was friends with boys and some men who've suffered the consequences of societal systemic misandry (long story to explain but I'm just establishing ground here) but I also have faced a lot of violent misogynistic attacks as well, hence I kind of see both sides here. Idk if you could say this film is inherently misandristic persay becaus…
/r/EverydayMisandry28/10/25 11:04 PM
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It's not systemic and is nothing more than women saying "I hate men" As a woman from a low income neighbourhood with very incompetent police who was very close to boys who were born to be disadvantaged from the get go due to trauma from multiple factors related to their masculinity... who's gonna tell em? Prejudice doesn't have to be legally systemic to be prejudiced (albeit legal systemic prejudice to men does also exist), it can even be societally systemic. In a place where the legal system fa…
/r/EverydayMisandry28/10/25 09:56 PM
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As a woman who has both either witnessed or even experienced deadass each of everything this person is mentioning (it happening to women that is, not to men. Yes, I witnessed the aftermath of a horrible necrophilia case in my old hood. Dfwm.), I think they're conflating speaking out about the double standards and toxic behaviors that are shown towards men, and bitching about women speaking out about the toxic men in their lives. Both of which are two completely different things. Not to mention, …
/r/EverydayMisandry27/10/25 04:03 AM
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I mean yeah but this is referring to men dressing out of their own accord, not for necessity but out of personal expressive desire. I respect your beliefs and all that but misreading Christianity was a big cause but wasn't the sole cause of men's visual expression going down the drain.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/10/25 01:58 AM
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This sounds genuinely like she's insecure which isn't a bad thing in itself but this is to the point of actively sabotaging someone else's (someone she loves in fact) self-improvement to calm your jealousy down. What's to say this behavior won't spread to how she treats her son, what's to say she won't end up one of those toxic helicopter mothers who go ballistic when he eventually grows up to get a girlfriend? Idk about you but as a girl with really intense mood swings myself due to unmanaged a…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/10/25 06:22 AM
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Men been dressing like this longer than everyone wanna admit and they only changed because "purity" rules from white colonizers and more "refined" religions came in, and this isn't even including the COPIOUS amounts of jewellery and makeup they wore EDIT: added more <image>
/r/EverydayMisandry26/10/25 04:29 AM
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It isn't but what I'm saying is, if you grew up in the countryside of a third world country with a disability like that with parents who don't believe in its existence who raise you "asian parent style" with the beating and high academic pressure (which often disproportionately affects sons in my country), you can't expect a man to grow up well. I would know, I'm autistic too.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/10/25 04:27 AM
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My dad was horribly abusive because he was born autistic but since his parents were heavily traditional and didn't believe in psychiatry, they didn't raise him in a way that helped him foster his disability into something easier to manage, hence while he grew up a successful student and member of society, he was heavily abusive to my mother. I still talk to him on the phone with my mom's permission because we both understand but it just shows how overlooked the root of the issue is. EDIT: You kn…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/10/25 02:35 AM
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I've kinda lived back and forth between a few places throughout my childhood. Mostly in low-income urban Malaysia but less frequently rural Malaysia and low-income urban Indonesia. So I'd say my experiences are relatively less extreme... is what I would say but the low-income urban area in question was in a city in Malaysia where the crime rate was pushing 80% during my formative years so at that point, the internal copium of "my hood wasn't that hard" goes out the window entirely. All of this u…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/25 05:14 PM
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Ahhh thanks for pointing that out, I'll edit the comment to clarify I'm referring to adults specifically.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/25 03:02 PM
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I know I sound like a pick me for this but tbh, you read my mind. Also in addition to shut down any of the usual talking points against this: Controversial thing to say but as a woman, I don't think a lot of internet feminists realize the "male privilege" they talk about was given to men in order to balance out the fact that men were expected to carry the most work strain in society. Systemic male privilege in a lot of countries mostly stems from men being able to do what women can't, not any sp…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/25 12:55 AM
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I'll say this here and I'll say this straight, they don't have to, society just tells them they have to. "Real men" to me is a bs identity marker because what defines a real man depends on the perceiver and everyone has different standards. Some people rely in the aesthetic behavioral standard of "manly", some rely on whether the man in question is a good person by their morals or not, and some just straight call any man they disagree with "not a real man". It's more a superficial ad hominem att…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 11:38 PM
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No, that's understandable. Again, I was the same way about "feminist allyyyy" men. Being wary is a natural part of the healing process, it's how I felt about the boys at first. Personally while I believe the standard has a right to exist as it's own archetype, aesthetics or behaviors individuals can choose to altogether or selectively identify with, I can't stand when people treat it like absolute truth of how one should act, female or male. Also I didn't know the trolling issue was that bad her…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 11:14 PM
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Personally I don't think men who fight for their own rights hate women, they're just largely misunderstood because of the pre-existing social stigma that comes with being male. So I actually understand why he felt the way he did. But in my experience, for people who react like this, the best way you can respond is either none at all or calm and pragmatic.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 11:10 PM
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Absolutely this, it's genuinely weird.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 11:07 PM
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True actually, when I was younger and first started talking about my views online in response to seeing quite a number of anti-male sentiment, everyone kept praising me too much and some guys even started worshipping me like huh? This only threw me off because I thought I was stating the obvious, not some esoteric, "hail maryyyy" statement. But I'd say here the comments are pretty chill so it makes me feel more comfortable. Personally I think the whole societal tendency to put women on pedestals…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 11:05 PM
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I would never invalidate anyone's struggles, man or woman, and anyone who enters communities meant for emotional support only to do that just comes off as obnoxious, self-righteous and unable to read the sign to me. But don't get me wrong, it's okay to be wary of women if you've only or mostly ever experienced the negatives of them, I was the same about boys too. But when I met my friends, the fact they even cared about me changed that. And I understand different people will be hardened to diffe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 06:59 AM
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Yeah, I appreciate men who care for women's rights but who's gonna look out for the men? I see so little so even if my efforts and views are a drop in the bucket, I believe every drop eventually pools into a mass.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 06:46 AM
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just listening to what we experience without telling us we’re wrong would be a huge help Tbh this is how a lot of women vent to each other, this should be something everyone should have. Though often times, I notice how gender normative women do it is more focused towards validation. My theory is a lot of women raised with friends like these tend to overvalidate themselves due to this norm, so when they see men looking to vent they often internally assume he wants validation and combine this wit…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 06:02 AM
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Thank you so much for this :') It is interesting that these women want men to be vulnerable and except help but shown scorn and distaste at the idea of helping them thinking of them as babies for doing so I know! This is what confuses me the most. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 05:43 AM
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Self-inflicted, idk... That's a bit complex tbh. A lot of toxic self-inflicted behaviors I see in men and boys can stem from internal trauma or drastic misinterpretations of events in life. This is common for autistics especially, I'm autistic myself but have a brother who's in a relatively more low-functioning category and the issues are clear. Sometimes a community can do everything right but someone will be left behind due to factors beyond our and their control, but that doesn't mean extendi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 05:39 AM
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I'd say in my experience, it's true but I can't speak for all. When I was a kid, I joined this one online girl friend group trying to "reclaim my femininity" as I felt guilty about being a girl who'd been through misogyny yet grew up close to men, so instead of carrying feminist ideals like I "deserved to", I carried more egalitarian ones (at the time I didn't know I was egalitarian, I internally thought and worried I was being a "pick me" and sucking up to men). They'd often judge me for my int…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 02:51 AM
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