Same-Treacle-6141 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	"Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature". 🤣 thank you I needed a bit of levity today! 👏👏	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 03:21 PM
1	Every woman eventually gets to experience what’s like to be a man (if she lives long enough) Your mom calls you in tears seeking consolation, and this is your response to her? Dude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/26 03:26 AM
1	Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone. Your first graf pretty much sums her up. Ultimately we’re free break-up therapy. Joking aside, I’ll be generous and say I know as many men as she does. I recognize none of what she describes as “men” in them. But if we’re using that as the benchmark for “men” I guess she should just start posting about how most/all men are: happily married for at least 10 years and going; with 2-3 kids; with a wife who works in a white collar job who may make more than them; who both try to juggle the demands of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 06:54 PM
1	The big disconnect in modern dating: ending the first date strong vs. going for the same-night hookup It’s so situation and person dependent. Sex after the first date and then as a man showing continued interest by calling the next day, proactively setting up another date, etc. is the best of all worlds - esp in terms of easing any potential insecurity she has. That’s what happened with me and the GF I had prior to my wife - turned out to be a really nice 2 year relationship that just ultimately ran its course.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 12:28 PM
2	Why would you treat a woman who really likes you worse? Sorry for any misunderstanding, I am not sure if your last line is sarcastic or not. But if you like the girl and she’s already agreed to go out - go buy her dinner!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 08:58 PM
6	Why would you treat a woman who really likes you worse? This is nonsense. Normal people don’t think or act like this. True a woman may have a crush on you/like you that you don’t like back. If it becomes obvious you should let her down gently. But if you’re boyfriend-girlfriend and dating? Why wouldn’t you take her out? Part of building a relationship (and maybe marriage/family/life) together involves sharing new experiences, learning new things, etc. You spend within your means, and those grow as you both get older and make more money. And she’s doi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 08:53 PM
11	Men were not lied to just because they misinterpret what “women want a good man” or “girls want you to be nice to them” means. This is fascinating. I recently discovered this sub after it was recommended to me when I commnted on a relationship/marriage related post on r/askanything or whatever it’s called. I see this style of “debate” here and can’t understand it. Your “hot take” is based on nothing more than vibes and anecdata gleaned from TikTok, presumably. And it may have a kernel of truth to it. But it’s supposed to be taken as a fact that can be extrapolated and applied to “Men”, whatever that means. And yet a res…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 08:33 PM
–	Why is acknowledging misogyny on here so hard? You know exactly what you’re doing if you’re thinking you’re gonna conflate codified inequality with individual actions. It’s disingenuous. The 13th-15th Amendments, Title VII, SCOTUS rulings in Brown v. Bd., and Shelley v. Kramer, etc are all proof of the dismantling of systemic racial discrimination. A honky cowboy cop disregarding his training and the law and shooting an unarmed black kid because his pants were baggy is not systemic discrimination.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 12:36 AM
–	Why is acknowledging misogyny on here so hard? You are asking for a single “source” that proves the eradication of misogyny in a legal system? The 19th Amendment and Title VII and IX at the federal level. For starters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 12:27 AM
–	Why is acknowledging misogyny on here so hard? Misogyny exists on an individual level. I’ve known a few fellow men who are misogynists. I think the issue is thinking it continues to be some sort of pervasive structural/legal system that is consciously and systematically subjugating women. Much like the idea that “misandry” is some sort of new structure put in place to oppress men. In truth, no one in modern day America is oppressed in any systemic way. Your success (or lack thereof) is entirely your own, which is a terrifying thought for som…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 12:21 AM
1	Chasing women is actually a waste of time. lol seriously. Trying to convince my co-workers just to go out for a happy hour beer is a Sisyphean task!	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/26 04:29 PM
6	Men and women are equally disposable in relationship, but for different factors It’s early where I am, but this is probably gonna end up being the most rational thing I’ll read on Reddit today.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 12:02 PM
4	What do you think about those dating behaviours. As a guy - she wanted to pair steak frites with white wine. Even if it’s a heavily-oaked, full-bodied Chardonnay, and she looked like Sydney Sweeney, hard pass! Kidding aside, these dudes sounded - I’ll be generous and say - “interesting”. If I was a woman I’d say hell no!	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/26 01:14 AM
1	🤔 Quick question for the Guys in This Sub: How Many of you Are Actually in a Relationship? 👀 Married going on 12 years (together for 16), I consider myself just a normal human. The only pill I take is propecia to keep a full head of hair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 02:32 PM
2	The days of men cold approaching random women in streets, malls, and grocery stores left and right are long gone and will never come back. lol We were all 25 and He and his wife were renting the top 4th floor walk up apartment in a really crappy small building in Red Hook, Brooklyn. I remember their apartment didn’t even have a stove just a range, they had to use a rotisserie oven they bought instead for baking purposes. The “rooftop” at the top of the building consisted of a grill and folding lawn chairs the building owner supplied, and a few large folding tables and igloo coolers we had to supply ourselves. So yeah, we were all B…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 08:07 AM
1	Why do men think there are so many good men Do men think this? IDK. I’d imagine that the majority of men are able to show up to work, work hard at their job, pay their bills, be responsible citizens and good sons/fathers/husbands/friends/neighbors, etc. I think that makes them “good” vs. those who don’t do those things. Do they also possess the other intangible character/personality traits that make them good for a relationship with a particular woman? Who knows.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 02:10 AM
4	The days of men cold approaching random women in streets, malls, and grocery stores left and right are long gone and will never come back. Do people not throw apartment or house parties anymore? Like friends invite friends, you put out a bunch of cases of cold Coors Light and cheap booze and solo cups and crank up the 50 Cent and shit gets wild?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 01:26 AM
7	The days of men cold approaching random women in streets, malls, and grocery stores left and right are long gone and will never come back. 1 and 4. As a OK looking, moderately successful older millennial (i.e. early 40s now, had 2 serious girlfriends before I met my wife of 12 years and counting, and had an “OK” number of hookups before meeting her but nothing compared so some of my friends who were banging chicks left and right), i can tell you, the “cold approach” never existed, even for the most successful of guys. Randomly walking up to a girl in a grocery store does not, and never did, happen in any serious manner with an expe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 01:10 AM
1	There are not enough conservative women for conservative men to date. “You can be a Republican and not support trump.” In all sincerity, is that enough? I hear this a lot and am curious about what this actually means. Like I am a Republican who came of age circa 2004. I never voted for Trump for temperamental and some policy reasons (but also think the “threat to democracy” trope was and still is a scare tactic and wasn’t gonna vote for any Democrat because they’re wrong, IMHO, on 99% of issues). I’m pro-free trade, for strong borders and deporting illegals immigr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 12:35 AM
9	Women should just cut off any access to intamcy till they get the result they want. This. I recently stumbled on this sub and am endlessly fascinated by it. I look around at my friends, and my wife’s friends, and with 1 exception (and in the exceptions defense she is single and even to a layman is suffering through some clearly undiagnosed mental illnesses), everyone has been seemingly happily married for 10+ years with 1-3 kids in a pretty equal seeming partnership. They all seem to be well-adjusted adults that have found each other, made a commitment, and make it work to buil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/25 04:35 PM
11	Women should not date, sleep with, or in any way sexually validate men who are conservative/right-wing That’s my point. I agree. At least in my experience most people successfully navigate those differences, to the extent they are differences at all because they’re aligned on most things even with some opposite political opinions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/25 03:06 AM
14	Women should not date, sleep with, or in any way sexually validate men who are conservative/right-wing At 41, I look around and all of our friends have the dynamic of the husbands being more conservative (whether relatively or absolutely) than their wives, including in my case. I would say it works mainly because, man or woman, they’re all temperamentally conservative. Everyone’s in banking or consulting or a lawyer or a doctor/dentist, etc. So no one is a dyed hair keffiyeh wearing antifa member, they’re all just fairly normal people trying raise their families and retire as early as they can. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/25 02:03 AM
1	Women should not date, sleep with, or in any way sexually validate men who are conservative/right-wing At 41, I look around and all of our friends have the dynamic of the husbands being more conservative (whether relatively or absolutely) than their wives, including in my case. I would say it works mainly because they’re all temperamentally conservative. Everyone’s in banking or consulting or a lawyer or a doctor/dentist, etc. So no one is a dyed hair keffiyeh wearing antifa member, they’re all just fairly normal people trying raise their families and retire as early as they can. I’d imagine if t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/25 02:02 AM
2	Men should not approach without obvious signals I remember she then made a comment that she knew the student who was behind the desk who was struggling to reconcile the purchase list with the tickets from one of her classes, which led to me asking what she was studying, which led to the discovery we were majoring in the same thing but she was a sophomore who hadn’t taken some of the more advanced level classes, so we started comparing our experiences with professors in the lower level courses, etc. all to say 🤷‍♂️ it just kinda happened. I wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/25 09:20 AM
2	Men should not approach without obvious signals This is insane. Example - I remember in 2006 when I was a senior in college I was standing in line one afternoon waiting for someone to give out tickets to a show later that night to the students who had prepaid. The person was clearly incompetent at this basic menial task. The girl in front of me was visibly annoyed and sorta looking all around. I happened to make eye contact with her and snarkily remarked, “who woulda thought someone could suck at this?!” She laughed, we chatted, I invited her…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/25 04:14 AM
1	Men, could you go without love if all other traditional desires were met? I’d say if I were to become a widower now (after 16 years) then yeah, I’d find that acceptable as I don’t think I’d have much desire to get emotionally involved with another woman. Though this would be a somewhat different dynamic that would take some getting used to since I’m head over heels in love with my wife, but we also have a pretty even split (due to our career dynamics I probably do more) of the “domestic labor” you outlined above.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 05:06 PM
1	How is sex with an ugly male provider? Because it’s not real.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 08:51 PM
7	There are tons of attractive men alone, very few attractive women are alone as well, and average men have no problem pairing with women “A 5 ' 8'' man with average looks but a good career trajectory and solid communication skills will have a far better time dating than a tall good looking man that cant communicate.” You hit it on the head OP. Though I’m 6’ I fall into every other category you listed. And I will never forget the girlfriend I had before I met my wife once told me that when I initially started chatting her up at the bar she could tell “I seemed nice and normal, had a good head on my shoulders, came from a good fami…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/25 04:51 PM
1	Why are the good men so opposed to marriage recently? 100%. And the fact that it’s reserved to upper-middle and higher classes is contributing more and more to the socioeconomic and sociocultural gap in America.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/25 12:17 AM
1	How do you screen for political compatibility, and how important is that for you when dating? My wife is more liberal than I am (though that’s relative rather than absolute as we’re both fairly conservative). And I noticed that in a lot of our friend circle that tends to be the case (wives more liberal than husbands). I think the important things that makes it work is that everyone we know, regardless of politics, is very temperamentally conservative. None of the husbands are storming the Capitol for Trump, and none of the wives are out throwing rocks at ICE. Everyone’s a white collar pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 07:40 PM
–	Current dating landscape sucks for young women I’m so out of the loop maybe it’s part of a zeitgeist I don’t understand, but if they have no degree or job prospects what is “high value” about them as OP says? Or is this just a troll job?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 01:13 PM
1	Current dating landscape sucks for young women These “categories” seem entirely fictional, tbh. I don’t recognize any of them as actually being “real” people I’ve met in my 41 years of life. I will say this, what is she actually looking for? Because based on this she seems beyond shallow and unreasonable (in the sense she is not governed by reason and perspective and can’t adapt to a situation). If she’s looking for a young attractive, educated, upper-middle class white collar professional striver who will eventually make high six, low seven…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 12:52 PM
1	Do you think that marriage will become "obsolete" in the more distant future? What could make marriage almost "a thing of the past"? I exaggerate, but in some ways it feels like we’re heading towards Eloi and Mormon territory on a long enough timeline!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 12:28 PM
1	Do you think that marriage will become "obsolete" in the more distant future? What could make marriage almost "a thing of the past"? It won’t ever disappear as it’s probably the oldest human institution still in existence. But to your point it will continue to be more concentrated among those with more education, money, etc. It’ll continue the cycle of concentrating wealth, IQ/mental ability, psychological stability, in a smaller and smaller group leading to more inequality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 12:26 PM
11	If marrying is so dangerous, why do men still marry in 2025? For any PPD married men here: why did you marry? Why did I get married? Simple. I knew on the second date I had found the woman I was meant to be with. Educated, far more intelligent than I am, funny, compassionate, and most important - I could tell by the way she spoke - she is a reasonable person. I can’t say I had any burning desire to get married before I met her, but like I said by date 2 I knew I had found “the one”. Once I realized that I imagined a life with her 5, 10, 20, 50 years later and realized there’d be no better person to buil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/25 02:14 PM
12	You probably should start caring about a woman’s career This is pretty much everyone I have ever known as a 41 year old man. All our friends are late-30 to mid-40s upper-middle/lower-upper class white collar professionals who grew up and live in very nice suburbs. Those who grew up in the city did ultimately move to the suburbs once the kids started coming. Men and women all with at least a bachelors degree and who are dentists, accountants, lawyers, sales execs, bankers, doctors, etc. All married at least 10+ years with multiple kids. All in very “e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/25 03:16 PM
1	Has anyone else found that Right Wing Man/Left Wing Woman pairings seem more common than the reverse? Yea this is fairly common, incl. in my own home 😂. I’d actually say this is almost all of our friend group - whether it be from HS, college, or town. In some cases the wife is still conservative but more liberal than her husband so it’s more relative than absolute, but the point remains. I think a few reasons - First all of us (early 40s) met back in the late aughts/early-2010s meaning pre-social media and pre-Trump. Because no social media was around then (Facebook was pretty much it) we had to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/25 11:21 PM
1	How do you operate your finances with your partner? Joint account. Every paycheck goes in it. All bills get paid from it. We hold each other accountable on spending, though if I want to buy a case of wine or she wants a new Gucci bag neither gives the other a hard time, but we also don’t go crazy often. All credit cards are shared. Start of every year we review our net worth and speak with our financial advisor about our short-, medium-, and long-term goals and adjust saving/investing accordingly. We’re a team and both have the same goal - retire…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 02:29 AM
10	High earning women don’t intimidate men from dating them This is the dynamic I know as well with 2 couples. Husband is a cop/firefighter type, and wife is a doctor in one and CFO of a bank with another. Husband makes a good salary, gets amazing healthcare benefits for his family, and in both cases can retire in the next 10 years with a full pension and benefits (thanks to us taxpayers 😂). Then at 50 they can get a second job doing corporate security and investigations, or whatever, and still make very good money on top of their pensions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/24 12:04 PM
11	Paternity test is not fidelity test Really, though? Thats what this post, and the larger calls for mandatory paternity tests on this sub, are actually about? The concern over chimeras and misplaced babies? Don’t be fatuous, OP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 07:23 PM
2	Paternity test is not fidelity test Charles Schwab ova heah 😉	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 07:16 PM
14	Married men or men in longterm relationships: does your wife/gf financially contribute to your household? If so, please elaborate. We live in the northeastern US. Both have lived in this area all our lives. Both of us are “American” although of various European ancestry. We’ve been together 15 years total, married for 10 of those. She “contributes” in the sense that she also works full time. Nothing is “split” everything goes into a joint checking, and we pay all bills from that. At the start of every year we look at our pooled bonuses, stock payouts, tax refunds, and any excess savings from the prior year and then lay out …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 10:54 AM
1	If you demand a paternity test, you are calling your baby mama a cheating whore. Trust and faith in another person is a beautiful thing, especially as it relates to someone who has made my life immeasurably better and given me the greatest gifts of all. Come out from behind your Maginot Line. The world and the people in it are, at the end of the day, wonderful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/24 12:19 AM
–	Many redpill men are incapable of a lifelong healthy monogamous sexual relationship. Yes. Didn’t even have to read past the title.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/24 12:17 AM
4	If you demand a paternity test, you are calling your baby mama a cheating whore. Hey there! No need for that kind of talk! I’d say life is as complicated as we make it in response to that. And frankly, if we’re casting aspersions it looks to me like some people possess the simple human ability to love each other, dedicate their lives to each other, and build a stable and solid family and legacy. Others need to faux intellectualize their inability to as a coping mechanism for their irreparable emotional/psychological deficits and the pain (even if unspoken and unacknowledged)…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 05:43 PM
1	If you demand a paternity test, you are calling your baby mama a cheating whore. I have zero doubts all 3 of my children are mine. Zero doubts my wife would cheat on me. Zero doubts she’d ever leave. Call it what you will 🤷‍♂️	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 04:19 PM
8	If you demand a paternity test, you are calling your baby mama a cheating whore. I imply nothing. I’m directly stating that if your marriage is at the point where you suspect your wife is either cheating on you/pregnant with a child that isn’t yours/gave birth to children that aren’t biologically, you need to seriously re-consider every choice you’ve ever made. That’s not a healthy marriage. “Trust but verify” is not a logically consistent statement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 04:17 PM
24	If you demand a paternity test, you are calling your baby mama a cheating whore. Right? Like what am I missing here. You can take a strand of your newborns hair, a strand of your own (or saliva or whatever) and just send it in. The whole “demanding” is hysterical performative nonsense. That being said, if you’re in a position where you have suspicions in the first place you probably need to take a beat for some deeper reflection as on how you, your wife, and your relationship got to that point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 12:41 PM
1	How "find a hobby" people think that cities are / How it is in real life I live in a very small suburban town (population > 5000) in the northeastern US right outside a major city. On your list Our small downtown area alone has a language school, 2 different martial arts gyms, a town green that has various activities every weekend (granted some are floral shows and fashion/trunk shows so maybe more gender exclusive), 4 dine-in restaurants, a great bar with outdoor seating, and a nice library. A literal 5 minute drive to towns on either side and you’ll find art school…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/24 08:37 PM
1	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? No point in a hypothetical. I am 100% confident it is not, if for no other reason than some personal issues she had. Again, life is as complicated as you make it. Come out from behind that Maginot Line.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/24 10:18 AM
9	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? No. We met at 25 and I knew after only a couple of dates that I was going to marry her. We’ve been married 10 years and going (together 14 total). The idea of asking a woman how many dudes she banged before me is insane behavior. Granted I’m not marrying a prostitute, but if she’s slept with a couple of guys before me whatever - I’m no saint either. As far as how long will she be beautiful - to me she is the most beautiful woman in any room, and at 40 looks even better than she did at 25. Any ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 10:46 PM
6	Can men and women be "just" friends" How do you feel about your SO having friends of the opposite sex? Friends with ex's? Friends with former FWBs? Depends on the people and their histories. We’re all in our late 30s/early 40s and my wife has 3 friends from college who are guys. They’ve known each other 20+ years and I have no problem with her meeting up with them for dinner or a couple of drinks if they fly into town for work. 2 of them are married with kids, we were at their weddings, I’ve hung out with them, I have no concerns with her going out with them. The other is a brilliant but incel type. Again no issue. She’s not friends with an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 08:55 PM
0	What Are Your Standards and Why Standards (as a man for a woman, and which my wife fulfilled, and in no particular order): Nice/Empathetic/Sympathetic, Good head on shoulders/Rational/Reasonable/Moderate in all aspects of life (I don’t care what your politics are as long as they aren’t too extreme and don’t define your worldview, nor your religion - her politics are more liberal than mine and her religious background is different though she’s not religious.) Educated (at least bachelors) and smart (there’s a difference), Funny…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 06:36 PM
1	CMV: Males are intimidated by highly educated successful women This is silly and “cope” as the kids say. And as usual has no basis in reality - it’s as bad as the RP inanity. And the answer is neither. If you’re talking at the start of a relationship and in a vacuum, holding all Variables constant, and I’m given the choice of dating a barista and a Fortune 100 CEO I’d likely date neither. The CEO because she’s likely not going to have any time for me. She’s literally running one of the largest companies in the world. How are we ever going to have the time a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/24 02:08 PM
–	Does Having Sex With Prstittes Disqualify A Man From Giving Alpha Male Advice? I think considering yourself an “Alpha Male” disqualifies you from giving advice. Of any sort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 10:00 PM
2	John meets sarah and has two options I thank God (or whatever) that I met my wife almost 15 years ago and never had to go through this…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 09:52 PM
1	Women are hypocritical for rejecting coffee dates I don’t get this attitude re: coffee dates. Is it a new thing? Granted I’ve been with my wife for 14 years and counting (both 40), but why not take the girl out on a proper date? I’m not saying Le Bernadin or Eleven Madison Park, but make a bit of an effort, no? At a minimum I am kind of a foodie and would view it as an excuse for me to pick a place where I always wanted to eat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 07:44 PM
3	If you are in a casual relationship, or if the guy is trying to avoid commitment with the usual 'Not sure/Wanna take it slow' excuse, I think ya'll should be more impersonal and not offer anything apart from sex So waste the one finite resource we all have - time - just to…what? Beyond petty and self-defeating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 07:19 PM
1	If you are in a casual relationship, or if the guy is trying to avoid commitment with the usual 'Not sure/Wanna take it slow' excuse, I think ya'll should be more impersonal and not offer anything apart from sex Oh sheeet - you’re gonna get back at the guy who said he doesn’t wanna commit/isn’t sure he wants to commit by offering him sex?🤦‍♂️	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 07:17 PM