SamtheBenjamin Archive

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2	hot take: men need to adapt more feminine traits to resolve the gender war I agree with relaxing gender roles, but the burden can't mostly be on men. Men can cook, clean, and be emotionally supportive, but women also have to give up traditional expectations that men should earn more, initiate, protect, and pay more. Your relationship actually proves the better model. You earn more, he contributes more domestically, and neither of you is forced into a role based on sex. That's real gender flexibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 06:45 PM
–	How would you feel about a "reverse orgasm gap*? I don't think most men would complain nearly as much if the roles were reversed. Most men already get a lot of satisfaction from pleasing their partner, even if they don't finish every time. Plenty of guys have had sex where the woman finished and they didn't, and they didn't turn it into some broader social issue. The bigger difference is that society treats the two situations very differently. When women orgasm less, it's framed as a widespread problem that men are expected to solve. If men we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 11:01 PM
1	The idea that men shouldn’t approach women is dying out in the mainstream I think there's been a noticeable shift. For years, men were repeatedly told to avoid approaching women in many public settings. Now that fewer men are doing it, people are asking why organic dating seems to be disappearing. That doesn't mean every man who doesn't approach is scared, though. Some are, but many are simply responding to the incentives. If the potential downside outweighs the likely reward, it's a rational decision, not necessarily a fear-based one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 05:18 AM
–	Do you think women are partnering with men less because they are being influenced/brainwashed my feminism now. Or do you think the reason women overwhelmingly partnered with men in the past was because they were influenced/brainwashed by traditional culture? I think there's a lot of truth to that. If people believe traditional culture influenced women toward marriage and family in the past, then it's only logical to acknowledge that modern culture and feminism can influence women in the opposite direction today. Culture has always shaped people's choices. The debate is really about which influences are pushing them where, not whether influence exists at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 07:49 PM
2	Sex isn't a "need". Men just want to have sex because it'll give them status among other men. I think that view is a bit too narrow. Sex is not just about status for men. For many men, it is also tied to desire, validation, intimacy, and feeling genuinely wanted. Status may play a role for some, but presenting it as the main reason misses why rejection can affect men so deeply even in private. The prostitution point also does not fully address the issue, because access is not the same as being desired. Paying for sex removes the part many men actually care about, which is knowing that a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/26 09:33 PM
1	Being a provider male is simping Calling all provision simping is too black and white. Providing is not the problem by itself. The question is whether a man is doing it from strength and choice, or from insecurity and the need to buy interest. If he is paying for everything because that is the only way he can keep her around, then yeah that is simping. If he is providing because he is capable, generous, and leading the relationship, that is different. It is also not true that a woman who really likes a man will never want him t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/26 04:03 AM
1	Women rarely get criticized for being bad in bed Yeah sucks but that is just how it works in general.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 02:18 AM
1	If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices? Because full agency means shared responsibility. You cannot say women are fully empowered and making their own choices, then turn around and treat every bad outcome like something men just did to them with no role on their side. That is why the blame stays one-sided. People want the language of equality, but they still protect women from the accountability that comes with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/26 04:59 AM