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Not surprised to hear that. In the same situation, currently separated. You said 9 months later, is that 9 months post divorce or separation or what?
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 04:15 PM
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He has an upcoming court case you see. Domestic violence against a former spouse. LOL, my goodness.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 09:28 PM
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Baggage, blended families, unchanged personal patterns, statistical skewing from the crazies that'll go on to probably have 3-4 more divorces. Also if you're in this sub long enough you'll see exactly why, you'll see some guys on here getting remarried 10-11 months after the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 09:26 PM
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Sometimes the thought passes by that these women just want to be part-time parents. We did everything together, for the kids, all day every day. Thought that's what we both wanted but now it's "I don't know myself, you never gave me a Saturday off and just took the kids out so I could have peace for a day!" Like what? You enrolled them in little league and swim at 3&4 and told me to coach, I thought that's what you do as a family on weekends!
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 09:16 PM
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Has she actually changed? Have you? Reconciliation is only possible if you can fully reset and start anew. Drive slow, keep your seatbelt on.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 09:03 PM
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The fuck kind of lawyers are you guys hiring
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 08:59 PM
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Things are done to your own standard and schedule so it all just feels easier.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 08:56 PM
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Is she very much a people pleaser with friends and at work? If so, that's likely why she never said anything. They're always very concerned about everyone's perception of them so will say nothing until feelings are completely lost and checked out because then it turns in to depression.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 08:52 PM
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Congrats on the detachment...
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 09:18 PM
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Did you have ground rules set around the separation? Were you trying to recreate trust and build goodwill during the separation?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 09:17 PM
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My wife continues to say "there's no malice, there's no villain in this." Of course I wanna say, uh you are, but I know it's not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 10:57 PM
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Remarried already??? And when exactly did she meet her new spouse?
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 11:46 PM
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Look the reality is you need 3 years to solidify that Visa or you lose your kids and your place in this country. Slow play counseling for a year and drag it out so you're at least not going to lose every single thing in your life. Focused Self preservation.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:37 AM
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No contact, but if you have kids, low contacts. If you have kids, Save the pics on a drive and delete them off your phone. If you feel the urge to say something, write it down in a journal instead, then after write about one recent time she twisted your words or invalidated your feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:31 AM
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OP highly recommend you read the book Radical Acceptance. It's a bit woo woo but it makes a lot of sense Also: Do not let what she does now or says about the relationship now with her shit colored glasses on let define you, your worth or how you were showing up in the relationship. It's all a ploy for her to justify her detachment and "falling out of love" so that her guilt of blowing up your lives doesn't consume her. It means nothing. Be mindful, try to see things for how they truly were and n…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 06:15 AM
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You are legit marrying someone else a year after divorce? God speed. This explains the 60% divorce for 2nd marriages.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 09:43 PM
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Is she single? 8.5 yrs is decent proof you can remain sober if that was the entire issue. Shoot your shot.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 08:58 PM
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IDK how it works in the UK but the home equity would become a joint asset here in California, despite only her family contributing the entire down payment as a gift to the COUPLE.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 08:48 PM
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Just drop the rope. It's hard but if you pursue it will only push her away. Communicate only logistics if reeeeallllyyy needed, that is all.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 03:40 AM
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Fighting for what exactly? Your best route is a voluntary mediation, why spend thousands on lawyers when the law is clear cut in most states.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 03:33 AM
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