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Loophole what? Criminal verses civil offenses? Having a court order to pay verses not having a court order to pay support?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:55 PM
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Never said you couldn’t be, I said it’s rare for an individual to be put in jail for the sole charge of failure to pay support/arrears. Shockingly, you can also be a deadbeat parent without ever being ordered to pay child support. Thanks for reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:29 AM
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I stand by my original statement that being a *deadbeat dad*(or parent) is not criminal offense. Abandoning your child in the custody of the other parent is not a criminal offense. Not supporting your child, financially or otherwise, if there is no active child support order is not a criminal offense. Not exercising visitation as a non custodial parent, if there is or is not a residential parenting plan is not a criminal offense. Failure to pay child support when ordered to do so if a civil offe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:22 AM
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This comparison does not really work, at least in the USA, considering it's not a criminal offense to be deadbeat dad (and truly the only thing they could an obligor of CS for is not paying child support when ordered to do so... not paying child support could lead to civil charges, but rarely result in criminal charges on the basis of lack of child support payments alone), but in many states it is a criminal offense to seek out and have an abortion. Im not saying neither are or are not stigmatiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:33 PM
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First kiss 15 at summer camp. First relationship 19; first casual sex 18 15 partners; within those 15, 3 were longer term relationships; 2 semi-serious relationship and and one relationship where we dated for 2 years broke up and then got back to together for 3 year. Going on 3 years single and haven't been dating and pretty happy about it. I do not find it unimportant, I like having sex in relationships, but I havent been interested in dating/relationships right now, so I havent been interested…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:20 PM
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(HAHAHAHAH I clicked on your hyper links thinking they would take me articles regarding limbic system activity and male to male visual stimulation, but alas they are just links to the Google search pages for the definitions of each part, hilarious stuff man). But seriously, how much of that is nature vs nurture. In the US, we are taught from a very young age that nudity, of any kind, is lewd, sexual, inappropriate, and you should be ashamed if anyone ever sees you outside of sexualized contexts,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 08:47 PM
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Yes literally women will date “chopped” (a word I have never heard before but love) men who are charismatic and/or funny, etc. because, shockingly, funny people are fun to be around. If all you have is looks (no shame and I also just don’t believe the following metaphorical person exists), man or woman, but no actual desirable personality traits, people who are interested in you as a person, will get bored with your looks and move on. At the end of the day, I genuinely believe people want to dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:05 PM
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(1) What do you mean by “image you want me a man to see”? Is this primarily a physical image, like clothes, styling, grooming? Or this a vibes/personality/presentation based thing? (2) by “true range of emotions” are you expecting people, women, to wear their full range of emotions/be completely authentic in public social situations? Follow up, do you do this when you’re surrounded by strangers, really think about it, or do you have an adjusted public self? (3) are you selective with who you sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:55 PM
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Preface: given the binary gendered society, your reasoning is not flawed, but the whole concept of identifying traits as “masculine” and “feminine” is an outdated and flawed social construct. By gender labeling traits, we box people in to a prescribed and limited set of, again outdated norms, such being expected to build the family home, perform back breaking physical labor, and fight for their land. The application of the label “masculine” to traits is inconsistent is because it is, there is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:31 PM
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So many things need to be addressed to improve life for the modern man (in the US): - Stigma around Men’s mental health (mental health access and continuity is an issue for all genders, but men have the added stigma of needing to keep it together for everyone else) - Stigma around being unmarried/single (men like women should be encourage to go down any pathway they want, such as remaining unmarried or without a partner, but women have far greater social networks and more developed socialization…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:19 PM
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This is a completely good faith, there are many reasons people may choose to share information about their sexual assaults or rapes, particularly with people they plan to be intimate, such as: Because they want to, because it can increase of feelings of intimacy that with that person, because the assault still impacts them, following up on that how it impacts them may impact how they have engage in sex, because they feel they have to because there is a societal idea that people who have been ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:01 PM
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Piggybacking on your comment! It’s also way more societally acceptable for women to express both visual appreciation and arousal surrounding women and women’s bodies. Part of that has to do with the pernicious sexualization of women’s bodies and the fetishization of the ‘perfect heterosexual lesbian’ as whole, but a silver lining of that is nobody automatically assumes a woman is “gay”. Women complementing other women, as a woman, feel as natural as breathing. Quite literally, I hardly even thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 04:31 PM
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In my experience, the act of having an orgasm while having PiV sex/during penetration (regardless of whether its clitoral or vaginal orgasm) is a deeply connecting moment with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:18 PM
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"Men also have paternity leave" - they don't need it nor want it, men don't use it. Society only threw them this bone for token equality. Do you actually believe men do not want or need paternity leave? I think many men would love to be able to stay home, bond with, and take on a primary care taking role (or even equitable care role, or supportive care role whatever flavor suits you) in the earliest developmental phases of their children's lives. They are just shamed into not using it for one re…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 10:48 PM
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Ok let's take a lil Claritin then. Aren't multiple men also competing for the same women on dating apps, with their preference to be for the most Stacy (to use aligning terminology) women? Do men not want the "highest value women" on the apps too?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 06:58 PM
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I am open about being a neurodivergent person (edit: I am not singing it from the roof tops, but I also don't conceal it like it's a dirty secret). Life in general is simply more difficult for neurodivergent people. We have to work harder to understand and fit into social norms and often find ourselves masking who we really are as a result. On the neurotypical side, not everyone is willing to take the time to understand (and for lack of a better word work with) neurodivergent behaviors and perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 06:52 PM
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Or you could just date/marry someone who is within the a similar educational and professional sphere as you to lessen the need for and/or likelihood of a maintenance/alimony reward. Actually asking for 50/50 custody of children dramatically increases the likelihood of it occurring, leading to a reduced need or complete elimination of child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 06:43 PM
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Who believes this??? No body is entitled to sex and women are not gate keeping casual sex just because they won’t fuck any man wants to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:06 PM
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what is your definition of "excessive" women's rights? Are we talking why should men support equality of rights for all genders (for the removal/addition of legislature that increases equality)? or are we talking something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:00 PM
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Would you agree that both parties have separate distinct roles in helping close the orgasm gap? Linked by good communication. Women need to actively and effectively communicate their wants and needs and men need to be receptive of women asking for specific things that will help them achieve orgasm. (Obviously this goes both ways with men achieving orgasm as well).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 03:43 PM
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Being upper middle class comes with its own problems: absent parental role models, attachment to substitute care givers and subsequent attachment issues, emotional deregulation from being expected to self sooth, etc. to name a few. But this isn’t the same as having a potential suffering from economic, food, housing, and health instability which is more common when growing up in lower SE families.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 03:28 PM
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Why not, as long as she's not imposing her business on me why would I care what she does to pay her bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:44 AM
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YASSSS say it louder for those in the back!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:59 PM
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the length that you have had to go to get people to understand the fear of being perceived as less masculine -- the pink umbrella, pink coat in freezing weather, now pink t-shirt in an blizzard -- is amazing. You are doing the Lords work right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 07:05 PM
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Not "invalid" or "shallow", but dating preferences you expect of a potential partner but do not hold yourself too is hypocritical, worthy of judgement and less valid. Big ones are (and these are not gendered): Wanting an unspoiled "virgin" partner, but observing not actively abstinence yourself; wanting a partner who is super into fitness and self-presentation, but putting no effort into your own fitness or self presentation; Wanting a partner who is super clean/tidy, but being a slob yourself; …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 09:57 PM
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Idk, I’m a single woman with a lot of great friendships (with both men and women) and I’m not lonely. Sure, a good relationship could make me more fulfilled, but I’m already pretty fulfilled. So I don’t look at relationships as a need in my life, they’re a want if it’s the right fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:46 PM
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What woman would actually want to be treated like a “Stacy”, which is a term used primarily in incel and incel adjacent rhetoric?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:42 PM
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Your last paragraph conflicts with basically the rest of your post. A woman making 100k a year is not financially dependent on her partner. If she chose to leave, she may experience a decline in quality of life, but she will not be destitute or struggling to survive. That is not a divorce that would result in alimony and I would be quite surprise, if this couple has children and both people want to be involved, that due to their assets they would not get 50/50 custody (if both remained in the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:10 PM
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Financial independence leads to personal independence. If you don’t have to be dependent on someone, you do not need to stay with them if they do something unforgivable. You also don’t have to make choices in your life based solely on their financial success.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:06 PM
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This was an ask women and I answered as a woman, idk why your so heated hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:00 AM
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TBH it's pretty comfortable. When you half zip up the sweatshirt, it tends to fall to one side naturally. It's not very deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:51 PM
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In your work place, are you and every other staff member having so much trouble with your assigned female at birth coworkers who menstruate that you feel that it out weight they’re right to privacy in the work place? I’m surprised management hasn’t already approached such employees if this if affecting their and your work quality. I just don’t understand how you don’t understand how a roommate or partner relationship is different than a coworker relationship? Can you please this to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:41 PM
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Most people are of average intelligence and of average success. People who deviate from this in the positive direction tend to be impressive to anyone, regardless of gender. People in general often tend to be “threatened by” (read: jealous of) people who are more intelligent and more successful then them (less so if they are only more intelligent, but not successful), because your right, they are competition, again regardless of gender. I think men find this to be emasculating, regardless of gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:42 PM
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People without degrees in psychology and psychiatry are very quick to arm chair diagnose people with catchy buzz phrases like “narcissist” or “traumatized” or “gaslight”. It’s best to avoid listening to non-professionals using those kinds of terminology. It’ll save you a lot of grief. It’s ok to just call someone self serving, self centered, or selfish. Those are not dirty words.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:54 PM
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Telling someone to “lift themselves up by their bootstraps” is an a backhanded insult. You cannot actually lift yourself up by your boot straps, it’s an impossible task. So really you shouldn’t be listening to anyone who tells you that, regardless of the subject matter, because they are essentially mocking you. And you shouldn’t have to put up with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:51 PM
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Red flag behaviors for abuse start off as controlling behavior and consistent violations of established boundaries. Most people are not stupid, abusive people do hide these behaviors, and then sprinkle them in after the investment phase, increasing in frequency and severity. That’s how people wake up 6 months, 6 years or even 60 years later with an abuser. If you want to date someone who goes Dutch, offer to go Dutch after the first date and see what happens. If they rebuff, don’t go on third. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:46 PM
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“Wokeness” and “woke” is a fake alarmist term made up to demonize anything labeled socially progressive lol. We’re in a global conservative nadir rn, but everything always regresses back toward the mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:38 PM
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If you’re genuinely asking, vaginal canals, like penises, come in different sizes (width and depth) and a large penis can be uncomfortable for some women. Adequate arousal and foreplay can help lessen this discomfort, as the vagina and clitoris engorge with blood and widen with arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:09 PM
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Because you asking for a genuine answer: (1) Debt consolidation leading to ruined credit (particularly in the event that your partner incurs serious debt in the relationship). (2) the classic in-laws hating the spouse troupe (which is real and awful and can ruin a relationship). (3) thinking love is enough to conquer all (the false belief that marriage doesn’t take continuous growth and work) ie complacency (4) child marriages (which are legal in about 48 states). (5) domestic violence and abuse…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:05 PM
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(1) You think you are the same person you were when you were 15, 18, 21, 25, 28 etc? I am not. I have changed so much in decade. People change as they age. Not only does their actual brain mature, but people tend to alter their behavior based on experiences that come with age. This is absolutely non-gendered, if you partner is still partying like a 20 year old in their 30s and you’re not, that is a major rift in behavior. Or if you partner used to work out and eat healthy and has just stopped, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:51 PM
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That’s not an equitable comparison. I’m not living with/sharing a life with/sleeping with a colleague. I do not have the same relationship, one with a deepened foundation of trust with a colleague. If a colleague (I’m guessing a male colleague) had a genuine question about menstrual cycles in general, I’d be more then happy to converse about it. But a work/academic colleague asking for consent to track my menstrual cycle would warrant a HR meeting, because again I would not have the same kind of…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:13 PM
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This isn’t really a dating advice sub, in my opinion. It’s just a place I come to read opinions and perspectives from individuals that I am not normally exposed to. Being already familiar with misogyny and misandry, that has not really changed. But it’s increased my awareness and empathy to issues that predominantly effecting men, when those sorts of topics pop up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 08:51 PM
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For me it’s the secret aspect that is gross lol , not the tracking it’s self. Be an adult have conversation with one another, present the idea of tracking her menstrual cycle together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:06 PM
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Can you provide an example of a joke about rape that's funny, light hearted, or amusing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 11:17 PM
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You're also stating two different opinions here and I have a much bigger issue with the second one. (1) Rape jokes are not systematic oppression - you know, someone not you, but someone may be able to convince me this is not true. (2) Rape jokes are funny - yeah, no that's fucked up, it's fucked up that you think this, it's fucked up that your trying to defend it. You definitely haven't been raped right? "...funny joke in gist with the right context." What is the right context? Raping women, rap…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 11:13 PM
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I am so happy I hoped on reddit today as a reminder (you know to feed my social media addiction) as to why I currently choose to remain unmarried and childless. Thank you kind sir, for breaking down the hard hitting facts for me. I see the error of my ways, would you like to go on a date with me? You bold take on women makes you so irresistible. I better strike while the iron is hot, yah know, before I let myself become fat and unattractive. Is that what you want to hear?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:34 AM
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That is such a gross and dehumanizing way to think about a person in general. Like their a piece of equipment at the gym and your just getting your reps in before the next person works in. Questions: Do you find any solidarity in women (or people in general) not being objectified? Are you comfortable with people referring to you that way? Are you ok with this mindset (that disproportionately affects women) being applied to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:22 AM
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I think what these extremist groups (TRP, the manosphere, radical man hating “feminism - does that have a better name?) fail at it is humanizing the other gender. It’s really frustrating to see people be reduced to one or two categories when we should be trying to look at where we align first. There are always going to be shitty people in this world, but I don’t think there’s more or less when comparing men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:25 PM
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People in general are not a monolith. Very few people are actually saints. Most (dare I say all) people are complex individuals with many, many facets. Unless we are taking about actual sainthood, the term saint is utterly subjective. As pithy as it is, women are not inherently wonderful, they are people, again, with complex thoughts, feelings and motivation. In this same vein, men are not trash, they are just people with complex thoughts, feelings, and motivation. I say it again because I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:11 PM
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Super creepy if you have no interest in that hobby and the only reason you’re pursuing it is to date. Not creepy at all if you’re interested in that hobby and choose to persuade it in a group setting to get to know more people, make friends and maybe meet someone. The desire to do the hobby has to come first.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:49 PM
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I identify as both. I advocate for both women being treated as equal which in turn adds to my desire for everyone to be treated equal. Feminism is a sub-division of egalitarianism in my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:48 PM
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An alternative perspective. It’s not about needing to be in a relationship to be happy, it’s about wanting to be in a relationship and the happiness that adds to both your own and the other person’s life. I’m single. I’m happy. And I am definitely not willing to compromise on certain things if and when I choose to date again. And I’ll admit, my bar after a few relationships under my belt, my bar is higher for what I’m looking for in a partner than it was in the past. Plus, after my last relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:45 PM
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latter* Are you willing to put your dollar where your mouth is though? Maybe we can get some of those high earning men (which I am sure you are) to supplement the lowly male teacher's salaries (while we mock them for doing what you clearly deem as women's work, even though you don't want them working it). Men looking out for men, right.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 09:58 PM
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LOLOLOLOL "Women are more OK with working shitty jobs with low pay." Really? or is it women are expected to take on caregiver/nurturing roles such as teacher and men should learn to "lower" themselves to that standard if they truly believe that is the reason men's education is falling behind because they don't have male teacher role models. I am sorry that in your world men lack so much compassion for the younger generations of men, it's not worth living a reduced quality of life to foster male …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:15 PM
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Cold approaching is just fucking annoying, thats what I am trying to get across, it is annoying to have to deal with, it's annoying to have to engage with it, and it's annoying to let people down (because that actually is respecting the comfort of men). And you know what, it's annoying that no matter how many times women say, we don't really like this, especially in these specific circumstances, men are like, well let me tell you how wrong you are and how many times it worked, therefore you are …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:38 PM
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I am a woman lol (as my flair states). I have plenty of experience talking to men, talking to women, being approached, accepting or rejecting advances. I have also politely humored a lot of men just to get on with my day who have flirted with me/chatted me up and I just don't have the energy to shut them down (which apparently just adds to the problem of men not being treated right). But I will revise my list, the times I have personally been annoyed (or felt unsafe) when men have hit on me are …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:31 PM
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Lol again, read the room, read body language. People who want to socialize or are open to talking to strangers have open body language. People who do not want to be bothered have closed body language. People with headphones in is a big one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 06:13 PM
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These are my personal opinions about how someone would successfully hit on me (I should have/and have now edited the post to reflect that). I am not interested in being approached in places I have to be (work) and when I am engaged in something else. I feel that a lot of women feel that way. But yes, its narrow, but I shouldn't have generalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:09 PM
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I mean I personally don't really think the behavior your describing is shaming. Some women are expressing that they do not want to be approached or bothered in public. Some other women are loudly expressing online that that this bothers them and that men shouldn't do this. Men can choose to ignore that if they want and shoot their shot, it's not a criminal offense to do so. Some woman's opinion on the internet (particularly on this sub which is a debate sub where people have strong opinions) doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:06 PM
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Your right I should rephrase it to say these are my personal preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 10:58 PM
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I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again (though these are my personal preferences and not the law of the land). Read the room before you approach someone. Don’t approach someone in a place they are required to be (during work hours or at their place of employment, on public transport during a commute to work or on their way home). Do not hit on someone in an isolating condition (alone on a street, while they are walking home alone, places without a clear exit). If someone had headphones in, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:26 PM
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I can actually support an argument that intentionally lying about being on birth control is akin to stealth-ing a condom of during sex (in a situation where neither party has STIs). Each party is consenting to a specific type of sexual intercourse, one that involves protections against pregnancy and one party is being deceitful and therefore violating the consensual nature of by the act. And I’d be happy to agree that the there are probably just as many women who feel lying about birth control i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:20 PM
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100 percent agree. I have a number of liberal friends with male partners who learn conservative to point of voting for Trump, and they definitely have the "I can change him"/"when we move to a more liberal place, he will change" mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 06:48 PM
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Context matters here. RE: Marriage - If he want's to wait until marriage, I'd like to figure out if that's the path we are going down. Obviously, if we determine we're not compatible for marriage (for reasons outside of sex - which would not be a deal breaker), then we would break up and I would pursue something else. RE: Other reasons - if it's for a different reason, he is a virgin and wants to wait until he's comfortable, or he wants to wait for a deeper connection, etc. etc. I'd wait. Why no…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 06:46 PM
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Then I refer you back to my first sentence, there is nothing wrong with cold approaching, just don't hold out for a net positive number of responses. If you need to ask 50 women out to get one date, that's fine, but that's also a lot of metaphorical doors slammed in your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:42 AM
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There is nothing wrong with cold approaching, just don't hold out for a net positive number of responses. Cold call picking up people is the equivalent to Jehovah's witnesses coming to your door. They have no idea if you want to be saved by Christ, they just saw your house and decided to walk up to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 09:00 PM
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Q for you: what are you thoughts on long bone extensions to make people taller? My biggest objection to that is how unsafe it is and the prevalence of adverse effects, it's kind of like the BBL of male body procedures (another unsafe procedure with a 25% plus complication rate).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:54 AM
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I hope so too! Obviously I hope the same curtsy is extended to women regarding cosmetic procedures, but when it comes to the penis, that is a man's/penis owner's purview.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:51 AM
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If it is safe and men want to do it, I feel that is none of my business. I also do not feel a man would “owe” me the truth as to whether he had a procedure like that done. People often get cosmetic procedures done because they do not feel at home in their own body, so who am I to judge someone for doing that. (I put this in the same camp as circumcision, I do not have a penis, therefore if I had a son I would leave it up to my male partner to determine if that is something he feels our theoretic…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:17 PM
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Men supporting each other, without objectifying or denigrating women in the process, is not misogynistic. It’s sad that you feel that there is no way men can express support for one another without it involving women in some way shape or form.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:12 PM
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I would say it’s not men’s direct fault that men are raised to not express emotions or to consider emotional expression outside of anger as weak. Men may encourage this, but we as a society (men, women, all) encourage and shape this behavior from such a young age. With that I think a lot of the social issues men have are the result of early childhood conditioning that we as a whole society should be analyzing and tackling. Particularly men’s relationships to themselves and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:25 PM
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Question: why did women need to improve themselves? And how does that relate in anyway to women not having rights they were entitled to? This is my way of saying that if you believe the point of feminism and equality was to help women improve themselves, you do not really understand the point of feminism or equality. Equality enabled women to be treated the same as men, who arbitrarily decided for all of history that women were worth less than men. Do you feel that the men in that equation were …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:03 AM
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(1) Women are not a monolith, in the same way men are not a monolith. (2) That aside, most women, including feminists, do not actually want to subjugate men the way women have been, until this relatively modern era, historically subjugated (in the west, obviously there are places in the world where women do not have equal rights to men). I'd settle for increased equality and equity for all, and a decrease in sexism in both sides. Note: And yes, some men may feel subjugated by the current dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 08:52 PM
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LOL THE PATRIARCHY WAS MADE BY WOMEN FOR THE BENEFIT OF WOMEN. Thank you for my more laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:17 PM
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That doesn’t make alimony based on gender? They just means that the man was making more money in this situations and the court felt the women in these situations were entities. As women work more the awards of alimony decrease. Yes alimony was originally intended for women because they were the de facto non working party who typically took care of the children. But alimony was never written in gendered terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:47 PM
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Count question: You don’t think that our changing view point on sexuality as whole, the change in our openness and acceptance towards LGBT etc individuals and queerness as a whole, and the general queer revolution of the early 00s onward has anything to do with why people are more comfortable reporting on surveys that they are LGBT etc? How many people openly admitted themselves on a census or survey as gay in the 1950s (back when it was still illegal). They’re weren’t less gay people back then,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 10:05 PM
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Biological environmental factors though, not societal. As we’ve seen through out history, the notion that society finds homosexuality is wrong has not “cured” society of homosexuals. I suppose my point is there is also no “women must fuck alphas” genes not could you do a genetic profile on a heterosexual and determine their partner preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 08:17 PM
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Wait are you saying that homosexuality isn’t biologically valid? Like it cannot be verified by genetics or biology?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 07:58 PM
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30-90 percent of what??? I reviewed the article and you are combining to two statistics. (1) the 30% statistic: They found that their population in there study was "Between 2016 and 2019, 8,040 individuals (71.3% men) between 12 and 85 years old (M = 33.25, SD = 14.31) completed a battery that explores pathological and non-pathological pornography use." (therefore, it can be assumed that 29.7 percent identified as women). And (2) the ~90% i guess statistic "Using this taxonomy, we found differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:28 PM
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Yeah I see that (but your the entire body of you text is sort of arguing the definition of need or not need). I’ve actually never heard anyone equate men’s equation of sex as need to sexual slavery before, do people outside the internet actually to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:31 PM
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So you're first source the way your citing is is misleading. Regarding pornography consumption it states "While the rates of pornography consumption for young adults have been reported to be approximately 75% for men and 30% for women (Carroll et al., 2008)" not 40/60 men women. So really what the article is saying 30% of those who consume porn identify as women, and of that 30%, 60% report having consumed pornography within the last month. So if you are stating that 60% of people who consume po…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:45 PM
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Where did you get these female/male rough sex pornography statistics from, scientific papers?studies? Statistical analysis? Imma need a little more than the claim that women are 113% more likely to seek out rough pornography. Considering approximately 80-85% of pornography viewers identify as men and only approximately 15-20% as women. Depending on the study. https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2023.02.07.23285491v1.full.pdf https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/everyone-on-top/202309/ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 05:07 PM
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But your argument makes no sense, you will not die without sex. Animals do not die without sex, a species may die if its reproduction stops, but an individual will not die without sex. They will live, they will forage, they will continue to try and mate. Even your sex as a requirement argument doesn’t make sense, if a person voluntary declines to “serve”someone sex, the non-receiver will not die. If you want to get really technical, reproduction is a need (on a species level), sex is the drive t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:57 PM
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Ehhhhhhhhh, I’m going to gender neutralize this. You don’t owe your partner anything about your weight or physique, BUT, I don’t think you partner need to stay with your partner if you (or they) have a radical change in body physique (here specifically large weight gain) AND you (or they) refuse to engage in conversation about how weight gain effects the relationship, refuse to engage in conversation about whether the weight gain is impacting health, quality of life, future plans etc. and refuse…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:35 PM
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Currently I live in America and meet mostly Americans. So voting for trump and supporting Trump is all consuming as of recent, but generally It depends what they were conservative about. A fiscal conservative who leaned liberal in all social matters and was progressive about health care, equality, equity, environmental law, sure. But just wasn’t into big government intervention in capital ventures and wanted to know where their tax money was going. *** edit: I’m don’t really agree with fiscal co…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:34 PM
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Depends if they voted for Trump tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:17 AM
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lol maybe both parties should just go to therapy to deal with these respective issues (i.e. women being more considerate and men having someone outside their partner to talk to). No need for either person to tear down any over arching social norms there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:12 AM
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Are they being actively censored? Or does the left/blue pill actively express opposition to the view. As far as I can tell red pill content is out there and available for those who want to consume it. And people are not being banned from the interest for expressing red pill opinions. So they are not being censored.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 08:08 PM
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I’m a woman and I’m not disgusted in prenups. I’d like to have a mutually protective prenup and would be very upfront about that when the appropriate time occurs. The appropriate time is before a proposal is accepted or planned. The appropriate time is not after a proposal has be done, accepted, during the planning stages of a wedding etc. It’s definitely not after a public announcement of engagement. A lot of posts I see when one party is upset about a prenup, the discussion did not occur befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 08:01 PM
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That’s an awesome source thanks for linking it!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 07:48 PM
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Fucking retweet
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:30 AM
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Those women you talk about too, who have decided not to date because the risk is too great. Yeah apparently their also the problem because: why won’t they give good men a chance, why can’t they take a joke, why are they judging every book before even picking it up, why do all women act as if all men are serial rapists, why won’t they lower their standards, these women are the reason why good men are scared to go up to women now, and on and on and on….. Obviously these women are the problem /s.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:18 AM
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A response from another person (man) is: (and I’m paraphrasing) due to men’s typically higher sex drive, regular sex with a partner can be enough to always have being in a relationship be a net positive, even if other benefits like companionship, stability, growth and/or financial are not present.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:54 PM
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Unlike men (historical), I’m actually not like thrilled to have a full grown adult as a dependent on myself. I expect my partner to have a job and passions outside of me and the home. I’m not looking for someone who out earns me, but I’m also not interested in being with a house spouse, nor do I think someone would be attracted to me as a house spouse. IMO, that’s a huge gap in expectation between men and women that is the result of the historical trend that it didn’t really matter if women work…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:15 PM
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Yeah thats why I am now realizing why there is a deficit of women wanting to date men, because that's not actually enough of a reason to be in a relationship for a woman (that's hardy a relationship at all), or at least speaking myself. IMO, that is not a high standard for a woman to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:00 AM
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Im so confused? Do men openly advertise all the women they have hooked up/flings they have had with when trying to find a partner? I know men are super into the all women love Chads who pump and dump thing, but I'd be pretty grossed out if when first meeting someone they started telling me about all the people they have fucked, and not just meaningful relationships they have had. I'd be happy to discuss that later on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:22 AM
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"But it seems like women cannot abide being with someone they consider beneath them, it's just fundamentally difficult for them to accept that condition." So women choosing to be alone instead of being with a partner (who whatever reason) who doesn't bring mutual benefit to both peoples lives. Like if I'm not in a relationship with someone where we are mutually making our lives better, whats the point. The way men talk about relationships here, it's like the mere presence of a female partner in …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:16 AM
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So back a couple comments ago I made this statement "PAST The frame work of (white) men’s past benefits were illegitimate IMO, they were a byproduct systems created by white men that gave them advantage at the expense of everyone else in society, because they truly believed everyone who wasn’t them was a subclass of human that had less inherent worth. That’s is the basis for basically all of the gender and race related issues we see today, whether they are still relevant or not." ... regarding w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:48 PM
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The two are not mutually exclusive, IMO. You can experience a benefit in one aspect of your identity (being male) and experience inequality in another aspect of you identity (being a POC). Thats kind of the whole point of the intersectionality theory. To this day, POC men are paid more then POC women when comparing salaries for the same job and the same qualifications and same hours, just as white men are paid for the more then white women in the same situation. In a historical sense, it is wort…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:46 PM
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That’s actually a huge bummer, I didn’t realize the male loneliness epidemic is the male relationship deficit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 05:41 AM
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Also yes I am aware saying “fuck you men, suck it up, how does it feel to have a taste of you own medicine” is not productive and doesn’t help. But from my own perspective, men have a lot of genuinely good points about issues with dating, gender stereotypes, gender imbalance, but it’s hard to listen to some of things men complain about, treating dating and relationships like a fundamental right being talking away from them, by whom? It’s not the government, it’s not other men according to most m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:10 AM
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In my previous comment regarding the pay gap, I was talking about the current as in exists today pay gap, not the past, I apologize if that was clear. So I’m putting time indicators in. TODAY But men being paid more today, in the current day and age, for the same work with the same qualifications working the same hours, is an unfair advantage. I think we have our wires crossed, yes men a population are paid more as population, more men work, more men work in high learning fields, more men are in…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:39 PM
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Specifically regarding pay gap. I absolutely agree that the goal should be to raise everyone’s pays to that of white mens without penalizing white mens earnings. I didn’t give that example because that’s not the typical approach I believe a corporation would take, because we live in a hyper capitalist society that pits people against one another. But that is ideal situation, I completely agree, expanding the pie of funds to accommodate equal pay. On my example, men who were paid $5,000 more per …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:14 PM
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There are three agreed upon components to human emotion to a given stimulus (say a dog barking): physiological response, cognitive appraisal, and emotional expression. There four separate theories of emotion that debate where consciousness/cognition falls in the chain of emotion. The last theory is the evolutionary theory, that emotion is a byproduct of evolutionary fitness, and developed like any other advantageous physical trait that allowed humans to survive snd reproduce. The Sacher-singer a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:40 PM
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*Animals don’t fear the concept of death the way humans do, they do not have awareness do the concept of death the way humans do, which we do because we are aware of the past and the future. Animals fear pain, because pain means that they cannot forage, hunt, mate, and or survive. If an animal cannot hunt or forage for food, they will die. If an animal cannot mate, they cannot fulfill a biologically hardwired instinct. Food acquisition, followed by reproduction are basics hardwired instincts tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:04 PM
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But the historical structure of dating/relationships/marriage was created by men, not women (I feel we can both agree there was a time when women as a group has no power, and no ability to create institutionalize social structures. That time in no now in modern times in the US, but that time existed). Over time women gained more autonomy and power in the structure, that was created by men, which now benefits women. Which yes, is a problem, but it’s a problem that developed from a system that dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:43 PM
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You literally just said it, murder is a human construct but animals still kill each other. Animals do not murder one another, murder is a legal term, animals do not have legal terms. Animals neither like or dislike killing other animals, there is no emotional not construct component to killing in the animal kingdom, it’s a means survival and fitness. Animals would prefer to expend less resources acquired food, killing other animals takes energy that could be spent mating, this is why not all ani…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:19 PM
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Ok let’s look at the examples you’ve given because they are good models: When women blame men for the wage gap, women are blaming a structure that was put in place by men, that continues to disenfranchise them (whatever you opinion on the wage gap is, there is statistical evidence that women are paid less, there is more significant statistical evidence that POC as a whole are paid significantly less the white counterparts, with female POC being paid the least of all categories when they are cros…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:04 PM
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Using your rape example, in the US, Marital rape was made illegal in all 50 states in 1993. Prior to that there were states where you could coerce or forcible rape your partner (typically the woman) and that partner would have no legal recourse. No fault divorce was legalized in all 50 states in 2010. So prior to 1993, your marital partner could rape you and you could not use reason to get a divorce because it wasn’t an illegal act. That is a systematic perpetuation of institutionalized rape (th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:49 PM
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Do you consider all the work men do wage slave work as well? Just conceptually is anyone who is working male or female wage slave work?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:29 PM
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Are women actually telling men they want rich/masculine men, or is the redpill Manosphere directly telling men that’s what women want. How many women do you know that are actually in relationship with/married to the archetypal alpha male, or do you just know normal woman married to normal men and single people who may have an ideal person in mind but actually are not in relationships with or married to that ideal person, but to normal people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:26 PM
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If men want to form a male centered group that focuses on male loneliness, or unfair societal expectations of being a man, or male mental health, and advocate for change within a male centered sphere outside of woman/feminism. Awesome men need more advocacy groups and should be the center of attention and be the center voice (with outside supporting voices if they so choose). If men want to form a group to discuss how women are the reason/to blame for all of mens problems, and if women just chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:15 PM
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With children? A house? A car? A nanny in many cases? Without a college degree, that can cost between 20,000 and 200,000 for four years? A single individual can absolutely live on one single individuals income (let’s say $100,000 (approx median income for a single individual in the state of Washington - currently 106k) where 24 percent goes to taxes, so ~76k net). But then you start adding people, a partner, + 1 or 2 children. Rent or mortgage (if you have enough to buy on only one income which …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 07:05 PM
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That’s a little reductive, but yes it’s due to the availability of contraceptives (which also include condoms, vasectomies, spermicides, as well as female contraceptives) AND later marriages, better health, better educational opportunities, changing values , urbanization, and the increasing inability to survive on a one income household with/or without children have all lead to the ultimate decrease in birth rate in stage 4 countries. More than ever, people are now having children because they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 05:04 AM
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I hate to say it, but that does not stop overweight women from curating and putting there best foot and best angles forward. Low energy = increased chance of low return.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:12 AM
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I would feel sad for him, it sucks when you put a lot of work into something and get rejected. How often does that happen though, given that you’ve given me a complete hypothetical? Do you feel your own profile is as high quality as the average women’s profile?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 02:11 AM
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*as a man? I disagree there is a middle ground between a picture perfect body and only including 3-5 photos 2 of which are selfies, and a picture of a dog without you in it. There is nothing wrong with asking your friends to snap a few solo photos of you when you’re out, or at a brewery, or during an activity. Many men’s profiles are low energy/low effort in my opinion. Do you think women with picture perfect bodies don’t also curate their photos/image? Or that women without picture perfect bodi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 12:10 AM
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Imo a contributing factor to why men are less successful on dating platforms that prioritize pictures is because men are not great at visually marketing themselves. Exs: first picture/most pictures are group photos, no full body photos, blurry mirror photos, not using all the image slots, low quality photos in general. Photo(s) that are not of them. Multiple photos with one other woman, where yes they look good, but it’s a dating app. Women seem to understand the assignment better when it comes …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 06:17 PM
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For you not to immediately get defensive and say “but not all men”. Or “but not me”. We know it’s not all men, just like it’s not all women. We know it’s not your specifically, that’s probably why a woman feels comfortable discussing the topic with you in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:29 PM
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Do you have any proof that women didn’t want to sleep with Luigi Mangione prior to him alledgedly murdering someone? I posit to you that women wanted found him attractive prior, and his behavior has nothing to do with that. The statement: “Women’s sexuality is different from men’s sexuality” Is true. Your reasoning, however, is less so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:26 PM
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Nasty, why would anyone want to emulate them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:28 PM
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Pornography that involves women (or men, or etc) depicted as underage or fetishizing the underage, even if they are of age. Really any iteration of this (daddy/daughter, mom/son, etc). (This isn’t illegal but it’s unsettling in my opinion). “Incest” depiction porn. “Rape” porn/“abuse” porn/anything where there isn’t an explicit label (somewhere; doesn’t need to be a trigger warning) stating all parties are consenting adults. Degradation pornography, consensual or not would likely be a red flag f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:26 AM
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Question: are Elon musk and Andrew Tate considered alpha males? If so, I think it’s fine that alpha men are extremely rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:14 AM
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But men don't? Men, even proven biological fathers, have no legal or fiscal responsibility to pay for the prenatal care or birth of a child, or for an abortion, unless there are some laws I am unaware of. Those responsibilities/obligations only kick in after birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 02:30 AM
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Women have it easier in dating/socializing, looks and status matter most in dating - If it's just these two, I would be open to having a discussion and feeling out why he feels that way and how, if possible, we can move past those feelings (particularly the first one, which I am inclined to believe or at least believe the opposite, that men do have a harder time dating/socializing). All the others listed, I'd leave, as other's have said, we would not be compatible with someone who held those bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:44 PM
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I really enjoy that your male stereotype list does not include: misogynists; incapable of communicating emotions/stoic, or the protector/provider stereotypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:34 PM
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I was not aware there was any real societal pressure for men to shave (specifically their armpits) to fit within the beauty standard or be deemed attractive. Obviously their is pressure to smell good, but if a man smells good and has armpit hair, is anyone really telling him to shave, that it's still unhygienic, or they are not beautiful because they are clean, but have not shaved?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:59 PM
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Simple, because life is easier if you adhere to the beauty standards of a society that values beauty/physical attractiveness. Pretty privilege, in and outside of dating, is often mentioned on this sub, why not play to an easy strength and not make life harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:54 PM
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What does tits out mean to you? I, a relatively small breasted woman, can get away with wearing a lot of different styles of tops without it being consider gregarious (limited to no cleavage), but I have friends who would show ample cleavage in a simple v neck T-shirt. A bra doesn’t simply make them vanish either, they’d need to wear a literal binder for that. Women have breasts, they should not be penalized for existing. And I know what my mum’s breasts generally look like and not because she’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:55 PM
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LOL he can leave. That’s an insane (read: incredibly controlling) demand to make of anyone, regardless of gender. It’s not even about social media at that point, it’s just about control.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:49 PM
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It's inclusive, personally I did not really think much of it past that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 09:55 PM
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the more positive the perspective on female expression of sexuality, the more women will engage in sex similar to that of men (ie use tinder). Also not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:07 AM
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Individual's who identify as women/female do not use/engage with Tinder as frequently as individual's who identify as men/male. Maybe women just do not enjoy using tinder and prefer other dating platforms. It's not that crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:16 PM
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I mean you are basically electronically cold calling them trying to sell the dictionary or soliciting them at their door step trying to get them to join the church, why should they try to get to know you? Are you obligated to to get to know men that may or may not slide into your DMS?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:15 PM
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I am very confused as to how the right to sex equates to a right to abortion/right to body autonomy. And surely, wouldn't both women and men be granted the right to have sex, if sex is defined as a right. Your title, is interesting, but your multi sentence analysis makes no sense. ] Also you sentences about doctors is confusing, no one is forcing doctors to provide abortions or specialize in fields where abortions would be provided.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:38 PM
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Absolute Red flags: has done a violent crime knocked someone up and bailed out has done a non violent crime (e.g. fraud, tax evasion) (preface: was found guilty of committing it aka was not a misunderstanding/unintentional violation) is into crypto currencies has huge debt has no friends is demanding (read: controlling) Conditional red flags (ok with mild/moderate usage, red flag if impacting quality of the relationship(s)/chronic usage) plays video games watches anime (definitely more of an iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:54 PM
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No. In my experience, trust and comfort with a partner leads to more exciting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:42 PM
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But someone rejecting you for because they are in a relationship/have committed to someone else is one of the few things that is not about the asker, as the askee was never available in the first place, which is a force outside of the askers control (unlike behavior, general appearance, charm, whatever). So unless you could time travel back in time to before the askee was in a relationship, your out of luck. I'd agree, that If someone is single, then the it does become a lot of more personal. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:37 PM
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And I am refuting you claim thats it's personal, maybe it's personal to you as individual, but that experience/perception cannot be applied all men and all woman. You're view is so black and white, when it really should be a spectrum, as well as making your entire perspective gender neutral, as I sure some men fall into this exact same broad overgeneralization you've made about women with partners. Ill rephrase though: Do you personally feel like every time your reject someone romantically that …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:57 PM
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So your just assuming broadly that women do this? got it. My advice to you is that you honestly, individuals of all genders think more about themselves then anyone else, we programmed to be tuned into our own thoughts, feelings and perceptions than anyone else. Do you personally feel like every time your reject anything that is offered to you (in and outside of dating) that the other individual should take that personally? And that your are personally slighting them by the mere act of your rejec…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:43 PM
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I feel like you are choosing to take/make this very personally, when in fact it is not. This person that you asked out was never available to you due to circumstances out of your control (already having a partner they are in a committed relationship with). It's like walking up to someone during lunch time in dinning hall or food court, and asking them 'would you like to get something for lunch', and them responding that they already brought/bought lunch, and getting personally upset about this f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:35 PM
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Both are 100 percent acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 07:34 PM
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My second paragraph in my original was a direct answer to your question: Yes I would, if I safely could (in the capacity that you must assess a scene for safety hazards), risk my life to try and save former hookups, partners, date's lives, if I was capable of doing do (lets be real I'm not physically capable of lifting a car off of someone). And I would do that today and in the past the when I was seeing them. I certainly do not hate the men/people I have had sex with in the past and I do not wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 05:33 PM
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Would I risk my life to save another human's life, if I could, yeah. Would you not? Obviously, you have to check the seen to make sure that your attempt to assist would not further lead to loss of life (including your own, aka walking into an active fire, walking into puddle with a downed power line, etc - but that's just basic EMS) Would I risk my life to save a former hookups/partners/date's life if I could, also yes. Back then and today. They're not bad people, they just weren't the right peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 05:10 PM
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"Empowering Lower-Status Men: These norms provide lower-status men with better access to stable, long-term relationships, reducing competition and social tension. This creates a more harmonious society where sexual and reproductive access is more evenly shared." Questions: Do low status (or low value) men want to be with women they deem low status (or low value) - lets say women of similar physical appearance, education, employment level, economic status, etc? Would two "low status" individuals …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:43 PM
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Yes. That is the point of the whole nature vs nurture debate (where it is generally well settled that they both play fundamental roles in determining who/how a person will be). "The social environment refers to individual’s social interactions and relationships with others in their communities. These interactions can significantly impact people's attitudes, behaviors, beliefs, and values [with attitudes, behaviors, beliefs, and values being the fundamental components of human nature]. The social…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:38 PM
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Yes it has. Men absolutely do not need to advocate for equalized pay for men and women working the same positions or having the same job title. OP seemed somewhat confused on the concept, questioning what benefit, if any, men get from equalizing men's and women's pay so that women are paid the same as men in the same position. Men don't benefit, because it has nothing to do with men, nor is it a punishment for men. Edit: ***note: I am not advocating for women to be paid more then men in the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:13 AM
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So it's your belief that women who earn as much or more then there male partners (in relationships) are still expecting their male partner to be the sole breadwinner and support them and their potential family 100% financially - even when they have their own career and bring money in? Or is it that they still expect their male partner to have a job/career, as there has never actually been a limitation on men having their own job/career, based on gender alone. Because that's the gender role we ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 09:36 PM
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"Turns out egalitarianism is a turn off for most progressive women whose progressive views stop at relationships." As a progressive woman, raised by a line of egalitarian women who were happily married until death did them part, egalitarianism in and out of relationships is not a turn off for me. Do you have any sources supporting that 'most progressive women' feel this way? TBH, if that was the tactic used by 1970s to 2000s feminists (and let's remember the right for a person of any gender to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:55 PM
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I know, I must humble myself and my gender /s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:28 PM
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Ok cool opinion, not really what my comment was about, not really what OPs post was about. But noted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:26 PM
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"...what's the upside for most men? Equalizing pay doesn't seem to benefit most men" - has it ever occurred to you that closing the pay gap and equalizing pay is not about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 02:52 PM
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Ok, sure have that conversation first. But I still stand on my point that if you are in a non-monogamous/non exclusive relationship with someone (where the woman or both parties are having sex with other individuals) there shouldn’t be any shame in asking for a paternity test. But yes if you’re someone who needs a paternity test even in monogamous, committed exclusive relationship with a partner and need to have a paternity test regardless of question of infidelity, you absolutely should be upfr…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:53 PM
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Drug store a tests have a very high efficacy rate, but you can also get a lab test done without the mother’s consent. I work in family law, we represent men in paternity cases, we would never recommend 23 and me, a company that sells your information to the government, as an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 12:08 AM
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Oh yeah the hard core (I’d like to say red pill, but tbh I’ve even seen some very reasonable posts by “red pill men”) posts such high value men/women, hypergamy, 80/20 theory, incel-lite aligned ideology - females are x, y, z, stresses on biological imperatives to mate - which typically are posted by someone who actually has no interest in hearing other view points and are only interested in repeating their opinions - are not where it’s at. But there are really intellectual and empathic posts fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:27 PM
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Some positives: I think being a member of this sub does provide some perspective about how others with radically different view points on gender related topics think, even if I do not always agree with them. It’s difficult to have empathy for people/groups who you have never interacted with only see the from the outside in inflammatory news articles or social media posts. Actually being on the ground and having a discussion with someone like that increases empathy IMO. I also think sometimes peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:30 PM
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Ehhhhhhhhhhhhh context really matters. As a man, you absolutely should ask for a paternity test in a non-monogamous, non-exclusive relationship you are having with a woman who has told you she is pregnant. There should be no shame in this. I think this even extends to couples in open relationships where the women or both partners are actively having sex with others. Condoms break, birth control fails, etc. In these situations, you really may not know who the father is. On the other hand, asking …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:10 PM
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Or just go to cvs/right aid/drug store and get a $32-100 test… The results are emailed to you in 1-2 weeks. No need to over complicate things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:22 PM
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See sentence one, just take the test it’s not illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 02:02 PM
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I direct you to my first sentence, doing a paternity test without the mother’s consent is not illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:13 AM
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It is not illegal to take a paternity test without the mother's consent. Just do it, take the test, have peace of mind. The only thing that is beyond me, is that you seem to have this impression that If you ask your monogamous, exclusive, committed partner for a paternity test (not a non-exclusive or monogamous partner), when there is no hint of misconduct, that you are shocked or upset that they would be shocked or upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 02:48 AM
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I still think it’s a cool trait, I find myself wanting to be more bold and forward (and I’m a pretty forward person) but then I watch men just do a backflip in pool after watching someone else do it and I’m like well shit that’s so cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 03:25 PM
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On a very personal decision making level: Women are now have the choice not have children (at least in Western culture), women now have the choice to not get married or be in a relationship at all. Having children can derail a woman's career (9 months pregnancy, X months nursing, X amount of time staying at home to take care of the baby). Pregnancy is very tough on the body and can cause permanent changes, and now that having children is no longer necessary to be a functional part of society for…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:31 PM
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Depends on the reason. Legally you are in the clear. A man has no legal obligation to tell his partner he getting a grocery store/drug store paternity test done. Some legal paternity tests (at least in WA) do not require the consent of both parents. Morally, if you suspect you are not the biological parent of your child, IMO you have right to know. But you must accept you are questioning the fidelity of your marriage/relationship (I cannot think of a single scenario where someone in a monogamous…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:52 PM
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Men have an innate sense of confidence that is really awesome! I feel like they are bolder and more willing to (and I mean this positively) to make a fool of themselves, let go of personal ego, and just have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:38 PM
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The four fundamental psychological principles of attraction are: (1) location/proximity (2) physical attraction (3) personality/similarity And then, (4) reciprocity Basically all human attraction is determined by these 4 pillars, with (1) location/proximity (you’re not going to meet someone on the other side of the world you have no means of communicating with) being the most important.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:37 PM
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IMO, the person who asks the other person on a date should offer to pay, then they either pay or go Dutch. Then if there is a second date, other person should pay next time or go Dutch, unless the original asker prefers to pay the second time. And so on an do forth. The asker is inviting the other person to go out, the other person can choose to say yes or no. So yes, the asker values the other person’s time. Time in a finite quality of life. Also yes, women tend to put more effort into getting …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:33 PM
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If providing sexual acts is not in your job description/part or part your scope of practice (sex work, sex industry work, fridge sex industry work), you are not expected to or required to provide sexual services. In a really simple way: That would be like telling a computer programmer you must flip burgers or you’re fired. Or telling a fast food worker you must code or you’re fired. Or telling a doctor that if they do not perform the duties of a CPA or lawyer or they will be fired. Professional …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:21 PM
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When approach is basically down to context/environment: Green zones - Social Environments Social setting such as social groups and hobby groups. shoot your shot at bars and clubs (with mixed results). Red Zones - In an isolating environment (ie. on the street, especially at night, but really always). when someone is somewhere they are required to be get on with their day or life (during working hours, on public transport or at transportation centers, during errands such as grocery shopping). dur…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:32 PM
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r/menandfemales
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:40 PM
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Why are you equating people to cars? People are people. Cars are objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:53 PM
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Fair enough, I don't agree. But as I said before, I respect your rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 08:18 PM
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"There is nothing inherently wrong with being sexually active, it just means that when a woman has multiple bodies she is NOT striving to be with one man for the rest of her life, and it means she is not bringing much to the table, therefore, she is low value." You explicitly said in your previous comment that a woman having multiple bodies has low value, having more then one partner =/= being with one man (I recognize that you also say there is nothing inherently wrong with being sexual active,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:54 PM
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We will just have to agree to disagree. You asked women, like myself, what we feel would reduce most men in the dating market from choosing them as a wife (without deflecting). I feel my list encompasses negative characteristics that would reduce someone's market value if marriage and or a relationship is the end goal. Personally, I do not think women having one or more previous sexual partners is a characteristic on that list. Men may choose to disagree with me on that. I also feel my list is r…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:12 PM
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Counter points: You only need to have one exclusive partner to have a potential history of infidelity. You only need to have one partner to contract an STI, which heavily depends on their previous sexual activity. I would not marry a man with a history of infidelity or someone who cares so little about their own health not to get STI tested in between each partner lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 03:02 PM
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Similar to men: Number 1 - A history of infidelity/cheating. engaging in sexual activity with untreated STIs (especially with knowledge). no ambition/drive for any path of life (whether that be education, career, family, etc.) poor/little care for personal hygiene being currently in the throws untreated and unrecognized addiction (of any kind)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 09:58 PM
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As a woman I feel that too! I work out to be healthy, but also because I feel my most attractive when I’m working out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 05:44 PM
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Being close to your cultural beauty standard absolutely gets your foot in the door dating wise (and IMO personality/similarity keeps the door open - not sure if everyone agrees with that). Personal and professional drive and motivation is very attractive. Datings apps (especially tinder) prioritize physical attraction over personality and similarity. All genders are capable of both positive and negative traits, often with a lot of overlap between the gender. nobody wants to be with or intentiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:57 PM
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The anatomy of the clitoris (with the male equivalent being the glans penis/penile head) and clitoral stimulation is essential part of the female orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:56 PM
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I do feel sorry/empathy for him. People, regardless of gender, being fooled in what they believe is love by manipulating people who view the poor fool as nothing but something that can fulfill something for them is sad. I’m not the one who lacks empathy here, and I’m not the person endorsing the control of “silly” women who date the wrong men. I endorse the investigation of the root cause of why people become the “wrong” people, and what we can do to help both them and their victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:44 PM
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I absolutely was not suggesting men or women be sent to jail. That was another commenter lol. Just as women should self police themselves and their gender about the risks of dating sub optimal sexual/romantic partners. Men should self police them selves and their gender about acting like sub optimal sexual/romantic partners. If we’re specifically speaking of abusers of either gender, no, it’s not excitement, typically they put on a fake loving charming persona and get the person invested then sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:16 PM
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Honestly, it’s not the clothing that’s at issue here. It’s the sexualization on the female body (clothed or unclothed) which is so far beyond the secondary sexual characteristics (breast and female external genitalia) which is the problem. When women’s legs (especially above the knee), shoulders, arms, neck, stomach, back are sexualized, any clothing can be claimed sexual. The female form, even in silhouette, is sexualized, in a way the male form is not unless the silhouette of a penis is also s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:10 PM
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Wouldn’t the shear reduction of this bad men due to the micromanaging and control of the innocent men, decrease there availability to women to choose. If we’re living in a world where these bad men are clearly twirling their mustaches like bond villains upon first meeting and not pretending to be innocent men to trick people into relationships with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:49 PM
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Love this response!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:29 PM
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Based on your premise: Wouldn’t it be more prudent for innocent men to micromanage and control bad men’s behavior/actions so they stop giving good innocent men bad/unjustified reputations? Even if it’s against bad men’s will? Since “women don’t seem to care how if a man is dishonorable or has no values”, and men clearly do care that that these innocent men who are dishonorable and have no values are ruining their good reputation?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:28 PM
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Looks, career/drive/money, and social skills, personality and interests are all important aspects of a relationship/dating. Social skills absolutely matter, if you cannot even get up to the plate to swing the bat (start a conversation) you will never have a chance to hit a home-run (enter a relationship or whatever). Something to think about is the four fundamental aspects of interpersonal attraction are: 1) proximity/location 2) physical attraction (looks) 3) similarity (in personality and inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:27 PM
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The “friendzone” is only the “friendzone” if you don’t actually care about being friends with the person and you only are interested in the other person romantically/sexually. If you’re actually interested in being friends with someone, then it’s just friendship. Yes, people abuse the friendships, when they treat a friendship like a cherry picked romantic relationship, but that’s when it’s time to establish a boundary or create distance in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:21 PM
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I have de-grouped those two items to stand a singular reasons, but also provided a list of other reasons - those are just some factors to consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:39 PM
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to list a few - the decline of marriage for necessity for women in the early 1980s, women increasing standards as whole, the loneliness epidemic as a whole, the after affects of the COVID pandemic lock down on socialization and third spaces, society conditioning young men that the ultimate goal/success in life is to in a couple or to have sex with women, social media influence on the young minds and comparison culture
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:12 PM
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It has been accepted, how do you want us to move forward? What would actually help?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 03:31 PM
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Convicted maybe, sentenced unlikely. I do not think Danny Masterson or Harvey W will be getting any pussy anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:17 PM
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Lots of men are 6 3' and jacked. Objectively good looks do not compensate for the current criminal allegations he is under. Only men with fame and wealth can remain successful IMO under such allegations, such a Trump, and formally Harvey Wienstien and Danny Masterson (who is great example of a somewhat average looking guy who got a lot of women due to money and fame).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:14 PM
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I’m just pointing out that OPs examples are not equal. Hot jocks and young women are not an equivalent if age isn’t taken into consideration for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 05:50 PM
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Yes, women judge each other for cheating. Cheating is shitty regardless of who does it. Edit: I’ve cut numerous friends off for cheating on their boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:10 PM
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Literally the key word is “young” here. There is a difference better going after the hottest women in the room in and going after the hottest, youngest woman in the room. And before you say anything a 30 year old woman going at an freshly 18 year old boy is just a creepy as a 30 year old man going after a freshly 18 year old girl. It’s not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:09 PM
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My mother was the bread winner (by nature of making more money and doing traveling for work), my father also worked full time and made a "bread winner" salary but not in comparison to my mother, they hired a nanny for child care. My father did more of the evening child care, so technically he took on more domestic labor while also having a fulfilling career. My mother did more of the bulk cooking and meals, so it evened out. They split general domestic tasks consistently, including child care ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:10 AM
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why can it not be 50/50. each person earn money and each person contribute to the household work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 10:59 PM
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"will try to break the touch barrier in one way or another" what does this mean? Is this like a hug? a hand of arm? So in this scenerio, the man assume that once he breaks the "touch barrier" thats his way in, have you ever stopped to think that women are a lot more physically close in relationships with one another (with no romantic subtext) so a friendship with a man that involves touching does not automatically mean she is romantically interested. As others have said that a very subtle way of…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:11 PM
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Andrew Tate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:46 PM
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More questions: How long were they hooking up for, was it a quick fling or was this a months/years long hook up situation? How long were you seeing each other before he told you about this? Was he open and honest about it the first time previous relationships convo came up? How old are you? Are you 20-22? Or are you mid to late 20s or older? Not to judging, but if you’re in your very early 20s I feel like that’s important. Was she up front about her age from the get go, did he know she was 18 an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:44 PM
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Considering a child rapist just won a gold medal in the olympics (not from Romania) so I am inclined to believe you. I suppose successful alleged criminals are still objectively successful people, in Tate's case.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:42 AM
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I feel that with the current allegations and indictments against Tate, that Andrew Tate was in the alleged activities 'fuck around' phase and now he is entering the 'find out' phase. The problem with separating his actions from his status and wealth (which is what makes him objectively successful), is that if the allegations are true and he is found guilty, he will no longer be objectively successful. Look at Trump, he is also an objectively successful man, but he is also stepping into his "find…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:36 AM
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I would not say someone who is currently under house arrest for the following allegations: "...as prosecutors investigate new and serious allegations, including sex with a minor and trafficking underage persons." BCC "continued a new investigation involving a total of 35 alleged victims, including a woman who was 15 at the time." BCC "allegations of sex with a 15-year-old girl and trafficking underage persons ..." BCC "accused were grooming "vulnerable" people, who were then housed in different …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:16 AM
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Anybody is allowed to leave their spouse for any reason. That is the beauty of no fault divorce. Nothing is stopping a man from divorcing his wife is she wants to look at his phone or for any other reason. Is the parallel here that both are questions of infidelity? I think the equivalent here would be the husband asking to go through or look at the wife's phone looking for signs of infidelity. I think that in either case, if you are accusing your partner of infidelity, you should be prepared for…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 04:18 PM
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I absolutely did not assume you have never read a book. I just gave you a very specific book recommendation on the particular subject you are discussing. Your assumption about the book is incorrect, I’d read the book sleeve before jumping to conclusions. And I’m sorry the topic of female sexuality sounds boring to you, both male and female sexuality are fascinating subjects. I assumed when you started this debate, you were open to opposing opinions and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:21 AM
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I actually don’t know, I just went to check tinder to see if it would provide me the states, tbh I’m one of those people who waxes and and heavily wanes on usage so I’m not a good litmus test. I do know tinder is about 60-70 percent men and 30-40 percent women (not taking into account gender fluid individuals) and I have seen that men generally swipe right on like 90% of women maybe more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:18 AM
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You’re aware that women also have testosterone right? Women do not lack testosterone. And I guess I’ll never know as I have not met 90% of the world’s age appropriate men, so I have no way of testing of your claim as to whether I’d only like to have sex with 10% of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:20 AM
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Ok I accept your opinion, I feel it’s more complex then that and that the assumption that women have a low sex drive/don’t like sex (which creates a self fulfilling prophecy when repeated over and over) is just a perpetuation of our focus on the physiological states of male sexuality/orgasm and our lack of focus on how female sexuality works and has evolved over time. If we can accept and claim that men and women are different, we should be able to apply that the female sexuality as well. But I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:12 AM
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I refer you to the book resource I provided in my previous comment, it speaks louder and more accurately then I ever could.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:54 AM
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If you're truly interesting in learning more about female sexuality, what drives it (accelerators and breaks) and how it is different then male’s sexuality (which you're right, it is!), you should read this book called "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.. I think it will provide you with better arguments countering your claims then anyone on Reddit could. Link: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:54 PM
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See my other well thought out comments on the feed, to generally respond to your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:19 PM
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2.3% is not a negligible amount, I agree (and I agree it could potentially be higher or lower then this) And I am huge advocate for men being request paternity tests, disestablish paternity if they find out the child is not there, and attempt to be reimbursed child support paid (if paid). But I am against people using inflated, out of context numbers like 10-33% of all children are not biologically the children of these men and therefore women are lying whores (and yes I’m aware you didn’t say t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:43 PM
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You’re right I misspoke regarding confidence interval and confidence in paternity. I don’t think that invalidates that you’re extrapolating from a sample size of 108 men. But I apologize for providing an inaccurate response.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:36 PM
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Obviously, we don’t actually know, it likely is higher the 2.3%, but the figure specifically cited as 30-33% is the figure for the number of paternity tests ran with negative results and it cannot be extrapolated to a population wide scale because it’s based on self selected bias sample. The only way to know would be to actually test the paternity of all individuals for a sample population, regardless of question of paternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:30 PM
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See my other comment, but basically the population sample is men who ask for a paternity test, not all men having children. So the figure is 33% of men who ask for and have a paternity test It’s essentially self sampling bias, because you’d have to do a study where you actually test the paternity of all born children of a population size (not just the children where paternity is in question) regardless of whether paternity is in question to find the true number of actual number of children who a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:23 PM
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Ok additional data an article states that in 2006 approx 300,000 paternity tests in the US (with the purpose of including or excluding a male as a father) were run and let’s say 33% of those come back as negative (not the father). That’s about 100,000 negative results. In 2006, there were approximately 4.3M births. So 100,000 negative results/4.3M births = 0.023 = ~2.3 percent of births can be assumed to be the result of infidelity of the mother. Of course, not all 300,000 were done at birth, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:18 PM
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Again, the populations that are being studied are the population of men who have had paternity tests. This study actually proved this. In table one the us population that is sampled is 526 black men (who all were specifically seeking paternity testing) in Michigan. In table 2 the sample size for the United States (specifically the one with the 55% confidence interval) is 108 men who again specifically sought paternity testing. With a confidence interval this high the data is not statistically si…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:08 PM
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(1) Yes, but OP post explicitly states that this post is "based on situations in the US" and in the US it is neither illegal to test for paternity nor to petition for disestablishment of paternity through the courts when paternity comes back negative. (2) A 2006 Meta study reviewed 67 studies run across different countries that gave the varying numbers of between 1% and 30% and found: "This survey of published estimates of non paternity suggests that for men with high paternity confidence, non pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:04 PM
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"There is no way for a guy to know the kid is their and you can go an entire life without knowing." False. Buy a $50-100 paternity test from the grocery/drug store, swab the child's mouth and your own. Send it to a lab, receive 99% accurate results in 1-2 weeks on your phone. To say a man would go his entire life not knowing is just false.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:27 PM
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Just an FYI, If you have 50/50 custody (at least in Washington State) neither party pays child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:24 PM
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No worries at all, sorry you feeling unwell. I think after looking at this, if we were to enact federal policies that put substantially more of the costs on the tax payers for reproductive services as a whole: prenatal care, birth, post-partum care for mothers and fathers, sexual health check ups for men and women, contraceptives (including condoms), abortion - depending on the legality, etc. then I wouldn’t mind throwing in mandatory paternity tests in the mix because what’s another billion dol…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:08 PM
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According to the CDC there are approximately 3.66M births per year in the US in 2022. The cost of legal paternity test (with court admissible results) ranges between $300-$500 per test. The cost of a Non invasive Pre-Natal Paternity test is between $1,200-$1,500. So lets take the lowest cost at $300/test X 3.66M births per year = $1,098,000,000 ($1.1B) per year that would be put on the tax payers, for something that not even the majority (as far as I can tell) men actually want. Let's say this w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:49 PM
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Oh I didn’t mean it like that, it’s just interesting that it’s true. I would not want to use moss hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:27 PM
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“The use of menstrual care products goes back centuries: in ancient Greece, lint wrapped around wood was used as a tampon, and moss as well as buffalo skin were used as pads by Native Americans. In the 18th and 19th centuries, women in Europe used woven fabric or flannel to make homemade cloth pads. These could be washed and re-used, demonstrating a more sustainable and economical option, but still far less hygienic than the solutions many are accustomed to today.” Ok ok you’re right moss was on…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:12 PM
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I believe it was bleeding clothes/rags that were washed and reused, which eventually became the foundation for re-usable pads, which then became one time use pads. Tampons first came around in the 1930s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:53 PM
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Contraceptives and birth control are basically a gateway to choice, being able to choose when and if you want to reproduce is revolutionary for both men and women. I think that a complete overhaul in how we view sex, to remove the stigma and shame around it and to remove the competitive nature of the sexual “market” would help as well as the widespread implementation of comprehensive sexual education that both informs that sex is an important decision and educates them on consent, safety, parent…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:24 PM
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So basically your view is we should make birth control illegal and teach abstinence only sex education (which generally not endorse or teach students about birth control and contraceptives). Abstinence only sex education increased teen pregnancy and has no effect of age of first sexual experiences and no effect on STI transmission (in comparison to non-abstinence only sex education which reduces teen pregnancies, decreases STI transmission, and delays the age of first sexual experiences). If I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:46 PM
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Injustice for one gender does not ameliorate or invalidate injustice for another gender. I do not know where you got this idea that I do not feel that the horrors of war (especially the front line) disproportionately affect men now and historically. Two things can exist at the same time. Knowing that both of these things are true does not invalidate the injustice suffered by both genders for different reasons. Why is it so difficult to empathize with both sides. At no point in time have I claime…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:34 PM
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Nothing it’s just funny! To me, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:26 PM
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Another r/menandfemales
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:55 PM
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What is the old fashion method? Free bleeding?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:49 PM
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You must really disagree with me to keep commenting on my comments, idk I’d rather go for empathy and communication, but if you’d like to self discipline or castrate yourself, go for it. Your body, your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:44 PM
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I’m very confused by this response? It wasn’t illegal, women served in some capacity but it was not until the Woman’s Armed Service Integration Act of 1948 in the US that women were allowed to receive regular permanent service status in the military, prior to that they were primarily volunteers. Are you arguing that warfare is horrific and it disproportionately affects men? I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:41 PM
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On going backwards vs forwards: As a woman, there is nothing for me in the past. (Barring the overturn of roe v wade), women have never had more rights, freedoms and choices than right here right now. Women have never been able to live as independently as they can now. And these are all things I value greatly. So going backwards is not an option for me and I understand taking that stance entrenches me. But I’d like to be able to empathize and understand people who do feel we may need to take a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:33 PM
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I just don’t care anymore. I’m tired of trying to rational with people or break bread only for people to be say that’s not how it is, it could never be this way or that way, that’s not enough or I don’t understand. It’s not you, my bandwidth is just up for a little bit. *** I also accept I brought this on myself, as I commented on Reddit, again it’s not you. And yes I agree life isn’t fair, I just with there was a way to make it more fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:13 AM
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Thanks, I’m done with arguing for an equitable draft. lol. Thank you for letting me know men both bitch about being drafted and do not want women in the military.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:43 AM
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A higher conviction rate of actual rapists would be nice. Like Brock Turner who got off with 6 months probation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:41 AM
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As I woman I do not enjoy sex where the man smashes into me, sounds painful tbh😂 but your right it’s semantics. I don’t actually understand what your third paragraph means and what in my comment it’s responding to? What narrative?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:04 AM
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Referring to sex as “smashing” is also not a fan favorite. I personally do not think either gender (in a male/female binary) has it better, they each have unique problems, most of which are the result of societal conditioning. Which is why I said I am happy being a woman. It’s not that the grass is greener on one side or the other, it’s just different. I am familiar with the pros and cons of being a woman and I do not want to personally experience a whole new set of pros and cons. (Edit: I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:45 PM
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I think women are constantly looking at the backends (primarily those rooted deeply in sexist ideals on both a personal level and an institutional level, I am the first person to say there has never been a better time in western society to be a woman and we have never been more equal to me, but I’m not out here wanting to invalidate other women’s experiences in this world). I support an all gender draft, and agree that it is sexist that only men are forced to to enlist in a draft. I feel that I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:13 PM
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I did that whole snap chat filter that changes your gender and I did not make a very attractive man, so no. Seriously though, idk, I think not, I really love many aspects about being a woman, especially some of the superficial ones. I personally feel, I feel like we’ve entered an age where at least in the west, it’s not socially unacceptable for a woman to have a more “traditionally male” role in life, but I also wasn’t raised in a way where specific roles fit specific genders, so I won’t speak …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:57 PM
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In psychology the three determiners of attraction are: (1) Location/physical proximity, (2) physical attraction, (3) and similarity (in personality) So yes physical attraction is a very important aspect of attraction as a whole. Me personally, yes looks are important, I want to be physically attracted to my partner. On the flip side, I’ve been attracted to men and then found we had nothing in common and chose not to pursue sexual relations with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:22 PM
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Then the premise is lost on me, because humans are not in captivity and we do not live “natural” animal lives that are driven by instinct and biological imperatives. I won’t get into free will, but because humans have consciousness, humans are capable choice. And now, today, in the US humans (particularly women, but also men) have alot more choices on how they want to live their lives. Which is the antithesis of animal instinctual behavior. On your last point, I would say any man who thinks a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:17 PM
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Tbh I think applying animal behavior to humans does not work, as humans have evolved past base animal instincts, with the evolution of consciousness and society as a whole. Ie humans do refer to their partners as reproductive mates.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:10 PM
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At any point in time did I say men have no and do not suffer? No. Can men and women suffer for the same reasons? Yes. Can men and women suffer for different reasons? Yes. Was people of all genders not having the federally protected rights granted under the Fair Credit Act until 1974 a form of suffering that disproportionately affected women? Yes Is the atrocities that soldiers have suffered and continue to suffer from warfare disproportionately affects men? Yes. Please remember that women were n…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:12 PM
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“As wives under coverture (a legal doctrine which placed wives’ legal and economic identities under their husbands’ control)” I pulled this from a paper on women’s roles in puritanical society. The modern day equivalent of this is a legal guardianship and conservatorship, which is a relationship in which one makes all social, health and financial decisions for someone else, and that person typically retains minimal to no rights. I accept women could not be bought and sold, and they were not slav…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 06:38 PM
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Applying puritanical sentiments and logic (during a time where women were legally property in all but name ) to our modern day talks about consent based sex is about as relevant as the majority opinion overturning roe v wade discussing the puritanical use of the sensation of “quickening” (when the baby first kicks) to determine women a woman was pregnant, for 20 pages only to state this is an anachronistic and non-relevant way of detecting modern pregnancy and therefore does not apply in our mod…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 06:18 PM
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No, women are not wonderful, but women do not live under the societal stigma (which is no fault of mens, it’s a society wide stigma reenforced by everyone) that if they compliment or appreciate one another’s beauty they will be labeled as queer. Heterosexual men, IMO, are not afforded this same level of openness of appreciation. Example: if a man at young age is told it’s “gay” to complement his male friends appearance, he will internalize this and will be less likely to complement a male friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:38 PM
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Applying animal behavioral traits, such as “sexual dimorphism” (defined below), to humans does not really make sense when you take into account the evolution of human consciousness and the evolution of human societies. sex·u·al di·mor·phism nounZOOLOGY distinct difference in size or appearance between the sexes of an animal in addition to difference between the sexual organs themselves The human sexes are not distinctly different sizes (like female spiders, female angler fish, male elephant seal…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:35 PM
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Answer to your question: yes, as a women, I think I do find a wider variety of female bodies attractive then I do male bodies. If I were to guess at a reason: I think part of it has to do with how women interact with one another. On a very basic level: Women are a lot kinder to one another than men are to each other, women complement each other more than I feel men do, women can gas up strangers they find beautiful - the compliments that arise in the women’s bathroom are not a myth. If I’m being…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:20 PM
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Women like to remind society that they were not equal citizens in eyes of the law until roughly 50 years ago because (1) its still relevant (2) because modern society is constantly telling women things weren’t that bad. There are people still alive that grew up before the Equal Credit Act federally protected the right, for any one of any gender, to open a bank account, take out loans, and open lines of credit in there name. Your comment also seems to suggest that the Equal Credit Act only applie…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:58 PM
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The just-world fallacy, or just-world hypothesis, is the cognitive bias that assumes that “people get what they deserve” – that actions will necessarily have morally fair and fitting consequences for the actor. But it’s good to remember that the point is in the name, it’s a fallacy and cognitive biases, it’s not a law of science. It’s essentially just a spin off of attribution bias, where we cause assign our own misfortune to our environment/outside factors and other misfortunes to their behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:38 PM
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It’s absolutely not hidden or forbidden information that men now need to work harder or try harder to establish relationships with women, because woman are not longer forced to be in a relationship for social and physical survival. Men used to have a lot more options when it was not socially acceptable or financially viable for women to choose to be alone. Which I guess must be a huge shock to men now as our current generations of women (gen y, millennials, gen z, …. etc) are the first generatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:28 PM
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Ok buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 02:46 PM
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Q: Why are men’s need to pair up so much higher than women in a relationship that in this modern day is supposed to be a partnership? Is it because men get a lot more out of being in a relationship than out of one? Maybe we should be asking ourselves how we can make relationships more attractive to women? Life wasn’t fair when women had to be in a relationship to be able to essentially survive in our society. I know it feels like, men are being punished for that historical fact, but they’re not,…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:59 AM
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If my comment did not give them impression that I am not pro allocating more money towards children in need, I absolutely would like the government to revise their budget to provide more money to family’s and children in need. But kids do not actually receive tax money directly, parents, caretakers, and guardians do. So I said parents. I do not think that absolves parents from paying child support though, I just think there should be more government assistance on top of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:48 AM
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If you would like to convince the tax payers to pay for someone else’s child when they have one or two perfectly able biological parents, who at any time could relinquish their rights and turn the child to the state (another choice), be my guest. I do not have a better answer for you then that, IMO, we could absolutely allocate some of our national budget to helping support single parents and parents in need, I personally would not mind my tax money being allocated towards more social support in…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:42 AM
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You know, if American wants to federally reestablish the protected right for a woman to have an abortion in perpetuity, then yes I would inclined to agree with your position. Many women site not being able to financially support a child as their reason for an abortion, which they now cannot have due to the overturn of roe v wade, which increase child support payments for women who now must keep the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:29 AM
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If it’s all about choice, a child does not choose to be born, nor does it choose to have existed at all. Why should the child suffer for something it did not choose, because one or both of the people who made the choice to have sex which lead to the child’s existence don’t want to provide financial resources for it/them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:22 AM
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Yup that just my feminine brain continuing to amaze me as well. We will have to agree to disagree on that one. No, Regarding ongoing support and termination of support order: "At least seven states have enacted statutes that provide courts with specific authority to abate future support obligations when paternity is disestablished." "Courts in states [the remaining 43 states] that have not adopted specific paternity disestablishment statutes typically rely on the state equivalent of Federal Rule…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:17 AM
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I think it’s less cruel to call the woman a whore, as she made the choice to have an affair, then the baby a bastard who didn’t choose to be born or be a bastard. I personally wouldn’t use either term, but that’s just me. 7 states have it written into law that child support can be abated if good cause for paternity disestablishment is found. It appears The remainder of the states, it is up to the discretion of the county and/or state courts. There is generally consensus among the states that whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 02:55 AM
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Kind of cruel to call a baby a bastard, it’s not its fault it was born. But I digress, in many states if you can prove paternity fraud (ie by the steps I listed) your paternity will be vacated and you will not be made to pay child support. It requires a court order and the court valid test, but usually those costs can be court ordered to be paid by the party that commits paternity fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 02:40 AM
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That is absolutely false. You can buy a paternity test for ~$50 from the drug store. Secretly swab your/the child’s mouth and your own mouth. Send it off to the lab and get the results in under two weeks on your phone. If the child is not yours, you then go to the court open up a case under parentage/paternity, have a court valid paternity test ordered (under the mothers expense if you ask) and have your name legally removed from any documentation stating the parents. If the child is presumed yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 02:21 AM
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“a world without female privilege is not a world I would wish on any woman” It’s hard to conceptualize a world that has never been I suppose. Privileges based on false assumptions and preconceptions will always result in inequality. As you can tell, it’s my opinion that female privilege comes with too many strings. Strings that I do not want to be tied down by or be assumed upon me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 12:15 AM
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I read your disclaimer. You say you’re not advocating for this, but you also say it’s the only option. Why say that if you’re not advocating for it or providing any tangible solution. As there are fewer and fewer relationships of obligation, men will not longer be taught that that is something they can expect, which I recognized does not help men who currently were conditioned by other men and women who were in relationships that may or may not have been the result of the historical societal exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:43 PM
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I am a conventionally attractive woman who chooses to pay for her own things, make my own way, live independently, and work in a previously traditionally male career (law - which has now hit about 50/50 male to female ratio). I would like to go to work and never have to think about my gender. I would be very much ok continuing on as I am, with the removal of the false pretext that women are either fragile creatures unable to take of themselves and in need of protector or female succubus manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:36 PM
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I do not really follow you captivity v natural line of thought, but I think I get the gist. If we were to raise children without the constant stream of gendered conditioning that says a man is pursuer woman is pursued, then there likely wouldn’t be such a dramatic dichotomy in that department.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:24 PM
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TLDR: Yes I would be perfectly fine with it, women treated women are treated with the same complexities and autonomy of thought and action that have always been afforded to men, without sexist pretext. I am fine with that. If the trade off is the removal old fashion (sexists) traditional views that women are precision creatures that need to be taken care, that they are pure beings waiting to be ruined by man, that they are incapable of making autonomous decisions and the redpill philosophy that …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:09 PM
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I just want to get this straight: women choosing not to be in relationships out of obligation (historical reason for women always being in relationships), and to choose to be in relationships because they want to (and actually have a choice now) is the problem? It sounds like you want to go back to a time when it was socially disadvantageous for women not to be in a relationship (a previous historical precedent) so that the men would no longer be turned down due to a woman’s choice not to be in …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:16 PM
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What women can be terrible like men. What a complete and utter shock. It’s almost like instead of putting women up on a dream-like, unattainable pedestal that creates the illusion that women are exceptional creatures that are separate from humanity. It’s almost like life isn’t a fairy tail, and that women are not one dimensional fairy princesses without a care in the world or a real life to live /s. My problem with your view point is you paint women as one dimensional/uni-faceted entities. If th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:10 PM
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Some thoughts (but not an all inclusive list): - Being assertive or playing an active role in persuing someone as a woman can be perceived as desperate or worse being labeled a ‘slut’. (Edit: This rings especially true when women are told they have it so easy and have many men interested in them, so with so many options, only a desperate woman would feel the need to purse men herself). - Fear of real life real time rejection, which just does not happen in apps, which are not in your face when yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:08 PM
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(1) I think it’s a misconception that women dislike video games. Plenty of women play video games. (2) Video games can be addictive. Part of video games design, whether intentional or not, is that they continuously release dopamine because you continuously are moving forward, beating challenges, finding or buying upgrades, trying to collect it all. This is especially true with games that continue to have updates to the story or game play, or serial release games. Similar to alcohol (which is a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:14 AM
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I am not asking about what happens, I am asking about what you want? Would you not want to hook up with the person (woman) you find most attractive for a one night stand?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:08 PM
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I am not saying this to invalidate your experience. But many women feel the exact same way you have described. That a select few women are highly sought after, adored, and “seen”. And a lot of other women feel “invisible”. A lot of men seem to think that every woman is getting attention all the time, it’s just not true. I say this as a woman who was absolutely not “seen” in high school, I was shy, I kept my head down, I had male and female friends, but I was not a boy magnet. Boys (at that age) …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 08:28 PM
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Because if you’re never going to see the person again why not shoot your shot with someone who’s conventionally attractive (and likely do not think you could get at home)? It a superficial vacation one night stand. It’s not that deep, IMO. The less time you spend with someone, the less important other very important personality traits and characteristics matter. Who cares if your political affiliations align, who cares if your values don’t align, who care if they could be a good parent or a moti…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 08:19 PM
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If you’re (a fictitious woman) looking for a one night stand (in your example, at a vacation resort) yeah I would agree the criteria for selection of a potential hookup is pretty much superficial and people (fictitious woman) are going to seek out the person they find the most physically attractive, which also may or may not overlap with what is generally considered the beauty standard. But you cannot extrapolate population wide data about women’s (and men’s/all genders) preferences based on peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:01 PM
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If the “environment” here is social conditioning and gender conditioning then yes I agree it’s the environment we raise men in puts them at a disadvantage into our modern dating, sex, and relationship landscape. Some examples of what I mean by that is when men are: (1) conditioned to believe that they’re ability to attract women, have sex, be in a relationship is tied with there value as a person and more importantly there value as a man. (2) conditioned to believe their “masculinity” is defined…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 04:32 PM
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"have been just as happy being at home with my animals, creating art, music whatever" See this is what I'm talking about when compared to video games, if I implied that these things are nothing that was not my intention, things like this are everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:18 AM
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In my opinion, I don't feel video games are a good substitute for long term pleasure (the pleasure you get from self motivation, achieving personal goals, forming strong bonds and often times being in a satisfying relationship, that of course typically involve sex). Sex and video games (and drugs, alcohol, pornography, erotica, and many other things) provide intense spikes of dopamine (sometimes natural and sometimes artificial) that overtime diminishes sensitivity to dopamine and increases our …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:52 AM
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For sure, I feel that if men feel that their libidos put them at a disadvantage then it likely would be a net benefit for everyone. I also feel that female sexuality which is a combo or breaks and accelerators is often misunderstood and ignore (ie more women would be horny if they both they and their partners better understood that male and female sexuality are not the same and that there are very different internal and external factors that motivate and demotivate both!)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:19 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:36 PM
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I kind of refuse to believe that men do not value the companionship and love that come with a relationship at all, but yeah I mean pleasing someone in ways that are not just sexual sounds fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:59 AM
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I think that would be a good thing then, I’m all for a more equitable power balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:50 AM
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I mean wouldn't that be a good thing, if thats how men feel, then creating a more equitable power balance with more well matched libidos sounds like a net positive for society.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:12 AM
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How would men having a lower libido lead to men having more power?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:58 AM
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I don’t think you should have to disclose a criminal background dating apps. But if you get serious with someone, and they are being dodgy about that kind of past, you should run a criminal background check on someone (woman, man, all genders) if you have any reason to believe they are concealing a criminal record from you. You can get one done for usually under $200 dollars. failure to disclose finances (especially debt); failure to disclose a criminal background; finding out that your not gene…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:57 AM
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I don’t know what that means, I went and read the community rules, and I still don’t understand. I am more then happy to delete/remove my comment if it’s violating a rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:00 AM
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Totally agree! Basically 2 of the three pillars of causes of 'toxic masculinity' traits are to avoid appearing as or being called a homosexual. (1) Dominant power structures, which historically are white, heterosexual men, push the narrative that there is a very specific way to be a man, and that men must fit in this category to avoid being labeled feminine, or worse homosexual. (2) The avoidance of being labeled gay, femme, or homosexual appears to be a huge motivator for the expression traits …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:12 PM
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You absolutely had me until "However, this movement would go further by trying to make fathers the default parent who gets custody, especially in cases if the child is a boy." If anything, neither mother nor father (or in same sex couples - parent 1 or parent 2) should be considered the default parent in a custody case. Custody should be determined by what is in the best interest of the child(ren), with the goal that the children see both parents equally if possible. The goal should be to removi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:09 PM
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“Ick” is defined by Urban Dictionary as: “something someone does that is an instant turn-off for you, making you instantly hate the idea of being with them romantically.” Disgust elicits that feeling. Maybe I am misunderstanding what you mean. I have had to repeat an order at the drive through, sometimes the microphone isn't great, or they put the wrong thing in, or I haven't spoken loud enough. So I don't understand why politely repeating ones self is an issue. Do men do it differently? Forgive…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:39 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with finding love abroad. The world is a big beautiful place with billions of people in it. There is nothing inherently with traveling, having fun, meeting someone and falling in love and living happily ever after. But really, you should be traveling with the mindset of exploring the world, then exploring yourself, the exploring others (not the other way around). BUT, I think that if you travel abroad and are behaving in a way that would be predatory in the US (…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:32 PM
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If a man is traveling outside of the US to travel and is open to dating, falling in love, or having mutually consensual fun on his travels, I don't really see an issue with that. If the sole purpose of traveling out of the US is to find a (typically young, but not always) foreign women who's: Mind has not been poisoned by Western feminist ideals (women who are "argumentative, confrontational, highly manipulative, and exhibit traits often associated with masculinity" according the Official Passpo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:46 PM
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Of course! Happy to help. I personally would recommend talking to him about these feelings (specifically about what his future financial plans are even if they do not relate to marriage). Also I recommend starting a little date fund and having him start one too, say throw $5-10 dollars in each week, I am sure he receives a monthly allowance from his mum and you can both budget for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:09 PM
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Ok, (1) being financially dependent on your parents during college (while a privilege) is not abnormal. Many parents support their children during this time, which allows them not to work, so they can be fully focused on their studies. (2) You’re not dating a 32 year old who is still dependent on his mother and you are not financially supporting your boyfriend (paying for his apartment, expenses, tuition, etc.) at this time. IMO, I am not sure if that equates to you “building up a man” just for …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:48 PM
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Which is why I didn’t mention repeating something at a drive through or chasing after a piece of paper, those are definitely not icks for me. Someone getting heated at a drive through worker, though, for having to repeat an order would be a total ick for me. I mean ick basically means gross. It’s the trendy word for behaviors you find gross, therefore eliciting disgust, [and disgust is a universal human emotion felt by every human in every culture].
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:35 PM
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Eh, I feel like perceived shortcomings of masculinity is a bit of stretch. “Ick” is defined by Urban Dictionary as: “something someone does that is an instant turn-off for you, making you instantly hate the idea of being with them romantically.” Some 'icks' off the top of my head: doesn't trim their toenails; road rage; doesn't wash their hands; doesn't read; doesn't keep up with politics; does not get dressed up for situations where one would be dressed up; always has to be right; flakes on pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:07 PM
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“You don’t have to say they’re unattractive, but don’t try to pretend it’s something else” So lie. If it’s a brief encounter, you really only have looks to go off. If it’s someone who you’re friends with and the actual reason you do not want to be with them is they are unattractive. Your advice is to lie. I feel like that the kind of honesty men are really looking for. Can I not just be super honest and say “I am not physically attracted to you.” It puts the onus on me in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 02:17 PM
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So lie? Ok. *** also I have no idea where your insane amount of hostility is coming from. I’m not trashing men, I’m not praising women, I asked a genuine question. And you told me to essentially lie. So thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:51 PM
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Cool story thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:22 AM
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I know the “heroic daily self-control” really got me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 03:29 AM
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So as the boot on neck placers - it's the right wings fault in the equation?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 12:49 AM
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OP Comment - "Dennis Prager got slated for saying this years ago and I still don't understand what is wrong about it." Here are a few excerpts from Dennis Prager's article "When a Woman is Not in the Mood Part I" "First, women need to recognize how a man understands a wife’s refusal to have sex with him: A husband knows that his wife loves him first and foremost by her willingness to give her body to him." ... "But the fact remains: Your man knows you love him by your willingness to give him you…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 12:15 AM
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Ok, so what would you all recommend saying if you want to reject someone (a man, in this example) because you are physically not attracted to them? Just be straight up honest and say "No, I do not want to go on a date with you/date you because I am not attracted to you physically."? Genuinely asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:56 PM
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I can’t believe I am about to say this, but being a decent person and being polite to people, treating all genders are equal, are/should be the bare minimum requirements for being part of a society. This is where I feel like the disconnect starts because really nobody wants to be with an asshole and nobody wants to be with an abuser. Many abusive situations, regardless of gender, start with excessive politeness and love bombing. While those things are not positive, they give the impression that …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 07:53 PM
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You know what, on that point regarding marriage, I will consider my view point expanded! Honestly as a woman, I hear about the obligation of traditional marriages, and perhaps that does color my opinion. Are there accounts of women choosing love, or is a predominantly male narrative? I appreciate the depth of your response regardless, I am happy to check my bias on the matter of historical marriage and the place love plays in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:56 AM
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Love existed sure, but was the love the primary motivation for partnership and marriage for most of human history. No. Marriage was a transaction for power or resource consolidation. If love happened, that is a bonus on an otherwise strategic arrangement between families. And if we’re talking outside marriage, the cohabitation of unwed couples is also a relatively modern concept. So historically the kind of relationship you’re describing is ascribed to marriage, and marriage for love is relative…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:26 AM
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You had me untill “there isn’t really a ‘positive’ aspect of self-love…” That’s just patently false, self love is a net positive for everyone involved. Definition: ‘Self-love is a positive trait that involves having a positive regard for yourself, understanding your value, and treating yourself with love. It’s closely related to self-esteem and self-compassion. People with high self-love tend to have better mental fitness, well-being, and relationships.’ Self love is an intrinsic value trait, li…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:28 AM
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Then I guess I just believe in/am not convinced by your premise. I don’t feel that loving yourself equates to individualism. You can love yourself and love someone else equally, love is not a finite resource to be used up. But you are responsible for your own well being first, you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of other people. This does not mean you need to be 100% healthy or perfect, not even close. But you have to be actively taking care of yourself to be able to be in…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:51 AM
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I think your premise is too black and white. Fact: your lover/partner should not be the ONLY PERSON in your life acting as a therapist, parent, and doing emotional labor for you. It is toxic to a relationship if you expect your lover/partner to be the ONLY PERSON who is/can play these roles in your life. It is toxic to put that much pressure/responsibility on a single individual under the guise that that’s just what love is. It is not reasonable to ask someone to be your only source of intimacy.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:28 PM
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If the problem really is as simple as men just need to get laid to solve all social problems, let’s decriminalize and legalize sex work (and do the necessary work to make sure all sex workers are willingly in the industry, maybe throw some employment benefits for the workers in there, make sure wages for services are fair etc.). I wish I was joking, but if that’s all men need I’m here for it. I do not believe that’s all men need, and I do not believe the solution to the male loneliness epidemic …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:14 PM
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Flaw - Do men’s mothers/parents - when instructing them to be nice to women - explicitly tell men during childhood , be nice to woman and you will be a viable sexual competitor. I am genuinely asking at this point, because many men have said they have been raised since childhood with the sentiment that the key to sexual success is to be kind to women and I just do not believe anyone parents actually used those words. Nobody is telling little boys if you do these things, you will specifically be …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:02 PM
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I am not gonna lie I have no idea how religiofascism plays into extremist feminism? Can you explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 03:05 PM
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I might remove my comment based on yours, because that was definitely not the point. It was supposed to outline that harmful stereotype casting proliferates all genders. So thanks for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 05:24 AM
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I’m sure you love it as much as a definition of a “real man” and the societal expectations/standards that come with it. It’s not my personal favorite, people are people, and people are complex multifaceted individuals who do not deserve to be shoved into some narrow box, regardless of gender identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 05:11 AM
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I assume OP means men despise simps then.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:54 AM
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Accidentally commented this on some some else’s response: But op, really you’ve never heard anyone say they want a “real woman”, really? But to your point, I definitely feel a “real woman” is classically beautiful, is feminine, is demure, she is driven yet is still the center of her family and a great mother to her husband’s children. To say the phrase “real woman” is free of “does XYZ” is patently false.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:51 AM
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You’ve never heard a man say I want a “real woman”, really?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:15 AM
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Agreed! There is no need to go backwards only to go forwards towards a future where everyone is heard and all issues are taken seriously regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 03:04 AM
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Feminist movements historically were about equality and equity for all, but at the time they were started we were living in a inherently patriarchal system where women specifically suffered from a lack of rights when compared with men. Some modern movements have lost the touch with the the most basic tenants which were all people of all genders are created equally and there is no lesser sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 02:41 AM
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The United States and all western societies were historically patriarchal. To deny this is to deny history. On a federal level (I.e. federally protected rights), Women could not vote, women could not own property, women could not control their own money, women were barred from receiving higher education, women were barred from entering the paid workforce etc. these are the signs of the a patriarchal society. These are relatively modern achievements, but they have been achieved (and this argument…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 02:27 AM
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Hahah thank you, I will take that as compliment. I can assure you I did not just whip out that opinion to avoid being downvoted. TLDR: hate begets hate and violence begets violence, and I’m not about pushing a narrative where I cannot be a feminist and also have compassion for and want to take up action against the aspects of society that are failing men (and people of all genders). I think most theories of feminism, when you view historical texts and extrapolations of those texts, at its core i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 02:17 AM
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4-5 (scale of interest in this particular approach with 1 being disgust, 5 being neutral, 10 being into it). IMO, The only reason man (or woman) cold approaches a woman (or man) in public, specifically to get a number, is because they have made a superficial review of me and decided I’m physically attractive. It’s a very surface level approach at best. As you don’t know anything about me, you don’t even know why I am where I am, you don’t know why I’m out, etc. I’m a pretty social person, I enjo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:46 AM
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As long as it goes both ways and was fair and equitable, then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:35 AM
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Hard to tell because it’s not happening tbh. I would be upset if Vance was saying single men/childless men were less valuable than married men with children. But he’s not saying that, and the other side isn’t saying that. So we have no way of knowing what the response would be. Either way it would be deeply sexists.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:34 AM
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I consider myself a feminist. I can agree that the patriarchal theory holds less to little weight in today’s modern, specifically western, societies. There is place for increased equality for all, but I also respect that men have put in last place in many ways at the expense of the feminist movement, and there are issue specifically affecting men that we as a society push to the side because we punish all modern men for being forced to historically live in a patriarchal based society (see below)…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:24 AM
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I can accept a reality that the original “red pill” has been perverted by some bad marketing/bad apples/bad perception (terms like incel, feminist, patriarchal, and mysandrist have also been co-opted by radical social movements that play to the most extreme outliers, whereby their true meanings can be lost and terms then misapplied) but separating the wheat from the chaff, what are the basic tenants of the “red pill” philosophy and can they be separated from what appears from the outside to be j…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:03 AM
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Two qs: Do you think someone can identify as a feminist and also support increased rights and resources for men (I take some pause with some of the official male rights movement (MRA) missions/values/ect. but definitely find myself supporting some areas)? Do you feel men who support equal rights for all, including equal rights and equity for women, fall under a different category than “male feminists” and therefore are not despised like “male feminists”. I suppose I’m asking if there is a distin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 12:42 AM
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I think that the various feminist movement(s) can be separated from the partiarchial theory at it's core. If you look at feminism as just creating as much equality between all individuals as possible, there are a lot of movements and causes that are not specifically in line with defeating the "patriachy". Let's take First-Wave Feminism, which came about during the push for woman's suffrage and the right to vote. Or second and third wave feminism, which primarily tackled a woman's role in society…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:34 PM
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Imma say that male feminists, “whipped” men, and “simps” are not more despised the redpilled real men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:07 PM
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"The problem with this is, it perpetuates these myths that become accepted as fact by the mainstream with zero concern for statistical analysis." Not saying you're wrong, but where is you statistical analysis supporting your claims?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 06:20 PM
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Do both genders not give more attractive people more respect? Isn’t that an inherent (and often unintentional) human bias. I didn’t realize there was a notion that women don’t own up to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 04:39 AM
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Only question: do you have anything to back up you 85%+ statistic. That’s a bold claim to leave un-cited.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 04:37 AM
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Then I guess I have a question: Let's say sex falls under Maslow's Hierarchy of needs under "love and belonging" tier. It is the only "need" you cannot get without the consent of another person. It's uniquely different from all other needs listed under that tier. You can love someone without there consent, you can feel emotionally intimate towards someones without their consent, you can feel a sense of belonging or community without every group members or any group members consent. (Weird feel t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 03:58 AM
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I’m gonna disagree with women telling you “signals should be obvious” if that signal isn’t walking up to someone and talking to them and essentially chatting them up. That is an obvious signal that woman wants to talk to you lol. Like if you’re at a bar a woman approaches you she is interested. If you’re at a bar and you approach her I guess yeah go off signals but if she interested in you she’ll engage in the conversation, make an excuse to continue talking to you to her friends, ask for your n…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 03:37 AM
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Love your username by the way
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:27 AM
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But to say you are being “deprived” of sex (which is not actually directly referenced of the hierarchy of needs third tier “love and belonging”, in which intimacy is not synonymous with sex) is not the same thing as being deprived of food, water or shelter (shelter from the elements is absolutely on the base level of physiological needs), it’s not like your being deprived of orgasms or sexual release (masturbation), you’re being “deprived” of something that someone must consensually give.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:04 AM
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very fair hahah.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:51 AM
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Frankly yes, there are many selfish people in bed, combine that with not knowing what you want, not knowing how or not feeling comfortable communicating what you want, or your expecting someone to read you mind when hooking up the sex isn't going to be good. And I am not saying this is exclusively a woman's issue, most people do not feel as naturally comfortable or confident in a random hookup, but it definitely affects a lot of women. Emotional intimacy resolves a lot of those issues, better co…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:50 AM
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also I wouldn't say she needs to hate you, but having minimal overlapping interests actually probably would work out for you in the long run or pursue someone who has different values (such as political views) then you or different life trajectory, someone who you have physical chemistry with, but would never be an ideal candidate for a future relationship because your values and lifestyles do not align. Work's for a friend of mine, she's had a casual hook up for years non of us have ever met an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:19 AM
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Im really trying to figure your situation out, because there are women out there who want casual consistent sex with someone who fulfills their needs but do not want to pursue an emotionally intimate relationship. I agree with others that its probably not the majority, but its not an insignificant number. Who are you proposing these things too, are these women people you have a pre-existing relationship with or is this like dating apps (or picking someone up at a bar). Minimizing the amount of o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:14 AM
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But you clearly understand and know the trends associated with at least one person in a friends with benefits situation developing feelings. When you combine intimacy and friendship that one natural path and frankly the most probable path. Being friends with someone is intimate, even if it does not involve sex. I think your issue is wanting FWB, when maybe you would be more suited a significantly less emotionally involved. Option 1)Like if someone told me they wanted a strictly casual sexual rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:00 AM
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Have you tried not sleeping with the same person more then once or twice. I mean it's whatever if she had other intentions but that really sends the message, I am just looking for something casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:41 AM
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"But it's the truth. I told a few women this recently, and they lost their shit. One accused me of being one of those guys. What?" Isnt this just instant confirmation that someone who reacts like this is not a good candidate for casual sex? If you are upfront and honest about what you want, and someone goes off at you, why would you want to have sex with them, they would do the exact same thing if you lied about your intentions. But hey I guess you got sex out of it first.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:36 AM
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Your comments crack me up, what country do you live in, if you live in the US, where food, water, shelter (including plumbing, electricity), work or a living wage, and health care are not basic rights. Literally in America you do not have a fundamental right to food and water, we are the only developed/industrialized nation that does not afford it's citizens those basic rights. If we don't live in a county that consider those needs, needs that result in death when not fulfilled, as basic human r…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:34 AM
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He’s being deprived because he doesn’t have sex and intimacy up to his standards. "No, up* to his needs." I think what is so difficult about this stance specifically is nobody actually *needs* sex to survive. We as a species *need* to reproduce to survive as a species, but considering that the number of people on this planet continues to increase, we are doing fine in that regard. Physical things you need to survive based on Maslow's hierarchy of needs: water, food, oxygen, shelter, sleep, cloth…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:27 AM
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"He is a victim, as he's being deprived of sex and intimacy." Lol who is depriving this man of sex and intimacy. Women as a whole? one specific woman? like where is this entitlement for "sex and intimacy" coming from? "If a girl is having sex within a few dates, she isn't doing what's required to get a boyfriend. And he has no obligation whatsoever to her." Lol what does this even mean, is there a set amount of time a woman should wait to have sex with a man if she want's the relationship to pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:16 AM
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Women are often infantilized and compared to children anyways so there isn’t a need for a term for it I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:34 PM
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When it comes to the opposite sex, which I am assuming is women in this case, here's the break down of the advice I think people are actually trying to give you (please take this with a grain of salt): - Women are so often compared to objects: locks, shoes, cake, trash cans, cans of food, paper, guitars, new vs used cars, cows, doors, flowers, fish, steak, banks .... (to name a few) - Or they are infantilized and compared to children. - Or they are separated from and then defined by their sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 04:57 PM
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1)Before the fact: -Always use condoms And Get to know the person you sleeping with before you sleep with them. Not super sexy but Ask: - if they are on birth control? - if they want children? now/down the line? - what they would do if they fell pregnant? abortion, have the baby, etc. - are they currently sleeping with anyone else? 2)After the fact: if you suspect you are falling victim to paternity fraud, purchase an over the counter paternity test, run the test, if it comes back as not the fat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:58 PM
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I am so confused, how does being bisexual (having a sexual attraction to both men and women) solve "So many problems could be solved if it already happened from not worrying about SA / Rape or false SA / rape claims, loneliness, jealousy, men neglecting housework (or was it really just about cleanliness), paternity fraud, custody battles, having to date ai girlfriends / buying sex-dolls, etc." I am particularly curious about how everyone being bisexual will solve SA / Rape or false SA / rape cla…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 09:18 PM
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Are women (as a whole) not ok with no-fault divorce laws? (All states in the US are no-fault as of 2010, with New York being the last to ratify this) with the major female opposition at that time being "it would allow a party who actually is at fault to obtain a divorce in which "alimony, maintenance [and] property division" would be determined without the judge considering "the facts, behavior and circumstances that led to the break-up of the marriage" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No-fault_div…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:36 PM
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Yes it’s about a human who attempts to reach near god status, gets it, only to have it taken away by their own pride/hubris.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:32 AM
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Breaking bad follows an epic hero story (originating from the Mesopotamian epic, Gilgamesh). Epic Hero Story’s can be inherently masculine because the original epic hero story was also about a man, but contains the classic hubris gets them in the end. It’s actually less of a “man” story and more of a very human story about achieving it all and then losing it all due to one’s own humanity. Which is why it’s very relatable to all people and so popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:03 AM
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Why do men who use females instead of women always think they’re providing some kind of educational resource. Like voice your opinion for sure, it’s interesting, but not particularly educational.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:44 PM
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Really enjoying the contrast between how you replied when a man v female commented that, have a wonderful day sir
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:32 PM
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r/MenAndFemales
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:08 PM
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What reason do you think those stereotypes exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:29 PM
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Then let me rephrase my questions: Is it more pleasurable/the preferred scenario for men get turned on seeing their partner get turned on by them? Is it more pleasurable/the preferred scenario for men when he feels sexy and he is sexually attracted to his partner? Is it more pleasurable/the preferred scenario for men to imagine themselves in scenarios where their partner is so attracted to them they cannot help but rip their clothes off? I do not think it's self of men or women to prefer these t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:15 PM
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Anyone who is only thinking about their own sexual pleasure and is not remotely concerned about the sexual pleasure of their partner(s) is a self-centered sexual partner. This is not gender specific. Do men not get turned on seeing their partner get turned on by them? Is that not hotter then being with a partner who does not get turned on when you are turned on? Does the sex not feel better for men when he feels sexy and he is sexually attracted to his partner? Do men not imagine themselves in s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:14 PM
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There was literally a video on reddit last week of a women getting arrested for publicly masturbating next to the beach on r/trashy. Public masturbation is crime, regardless of who commits it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:56 PM
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Or is it because women either are not encouraged to enter those fields or when they do they are bullied out by old world women shouldn’t be here mindsets. Have you seen the low retention rate of women in tech, it’s certainly not because the work isn’t interesting or the pay isn’t good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:17 AM
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No body really goes to jail for lack of child support payments. You can’t even really restrict the payee’s right to see the children for lack of payment if there are no statutory restrictions on them. This is coming from someone who works at a law firm where we represent people who consistently do not pay child support. It’s frowned upon sure, but really you’d have to commit some other crime, then they would tack on child support arrears as a secondary crime. Like driving without a seatbelt and …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:14 AM
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Ok but what if that person (a man in your example) never lives up to this potential you are referring to. Specifically a non physical quality that is attractive to have right now is drive. Another one is passion. It’s one thing to have big dreams, it’s another to act towards achieving them. You don’t need to be “perfect” now (or ever), but no one can deny that someone who is actively working towards goals and accomplishments isn’t sexier then someone who just says they have goals and accomplishm…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:40 AM
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I do not think your financial worth comparison really holds weight here, if you’re specifically walking into a company saying I’m worth 500k you better bring some data to support that. Previous pay stubs, letters of recommendation, a portfolio of assets and liabilities, whatever. That kind of data could prove you are in fact worth $500k. But “self-worth” is “the internal sense of being good enough and worthy of love and belonging from others. Self-worth is often confused with self-esteem, which …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:56 PM
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I have to know: Do you really mean polygamy? Like the practice of having more than one marital wife or marital husband at one time. Or did you mean polyamory? The practice/desire to have a relationship with more than one partner. Polygamy is illegal in all 50 states in America, and has a long history in this country of being used to control individuals who are not at the center of the polygamous relationship. That’s probably why women don’t like it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:52 AM
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lol yeah kind of If we’re running under the assumption that men and women will never change Then men want to do that They open themselves up to being judged for their actions You can feel when someone is looking you up and down and it is uncomfortable in many settings I suppose this is about getting even, as men get uncomfortable for getting called out for it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 02:05 AM
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Frankly I’ve learned to live with something I cannot change. Men and women have been calling women whores since the dawn of time, now men are upset they’re not at subtle as they think and getting called out when they are checking those same “whores” out. The world is funny like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 04:32 AM
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lol men already do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 03:49 AM
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Or join a club or group?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:52 AM
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So you agree, cold calling (like cold approaching) is numbers game and with a statistically low return of interested parties rate. I commend you though cold calling for a living takes skill and the returns are still very clearly rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:45 AM
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Think about it like this: A cold approach is essentially the same as cold calling someone trying to sell them something or cold soliciting (example mormons going door to door), Why: When you cold approach someone, you know next to nothing about them except: 1) They are in the same physical location as you 2) What they physically look like With that in mind, you are already coming in at a disadvantage, because under 1) you don't even know if they enjoy being at the location they are at, but you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:18 PM
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Good to know! And the scientific basis?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:44 PM
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Do what you want with my original advice then, it’s good enough for the court.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:09 PM
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Can someone please explain to me what pair bonding is? On a scientific basis? What physiological processes, hormones, neurotransmitters are involved? And why it only applies to women and not men? Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:43 PM
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It is hateful towards your partner to want someone* (who knows who) to lobby on your behalf to allocate over 1.0B in tax payer money to mandate paternity tests when the mass majority of men do not claim to want one. Frankly if you’re asking for a paternity test before birth, with no real basis (I am not including times when the man has real tangible evidence or very clear evidence the mother has cheated), the trust is already gone so why not just do what I proposed in my original comment. It doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:36 PM
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I hate advising this, but I work for a law firm and frankly more men should know this, If you want a paternity test, just secretly pay for one immediately after birth (they are between $20-$100), and send it to a lab, they will send the results with 99% accuracy right to your phone in two week. if you are not alone with the child at least once sometime within the first few weeks, lol you may be a bad parent regardless of the paternity. If the child isn't your's take her to court and petition to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:40 AM
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Today since women work and can support themselves their standards have gone through the roof and the men who are getting the most attention are the men at the top. It's almost like now that woman can bring something to the table other than their wide birthing hips, they expect the men they pursue to bring at least as much or more to the table (accounting for the general trend that men are typically higher earners then women who hold the same position as them). What a shocker *gasp
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:24 AM
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"Do you think your grandma in the 1950s cared if her man was above six foot tall or had six pack abs and a sharp jawline?" My grandmother who could not sell or buy property, could not open a bank account or have a credit card in her name, was not allowed to make contracts or her own will, and was purposely held back by society educationally, professionally, and politically. All while the Korean war was being fought. Yes that is the paradigm we want to hold both modern men and modern women to, sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:20 AM
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The things you cite, that women are asking men to fix, seem to be specific requests in the realm of being a relationship, and in this specific case a relationship between a man and a woman. When you are in a relationship, I think we can generally agree you can ask your partner for more then the average person. So, yes I agree either partner is allowed to ask their partner to give "special care to female [their] emotionality [and] all that "emotional labor" stuff." Additionally, in a relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:36 AM
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Also seeing this in another comment but hoping people have corrected you, the female equivalent of the male vasectomy is a fallopian tubule ligation (tubes tide procedure), not a hysterectomy (which is usually done when there is a problem with the uterus, such as cancer or problem during child birth to name two). Regardless a tubal ligation is a much more extensive procedure and is typically irreversible, if a woman wanted to have children after one she would need to have frozen eggs or use an e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 12:13 AM
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Both parties take on the same practice risk while having sex, they could either fall pregnant or impregnate someone. In this country, every child a man genetically contributes to is entitled to child support regardless of whether he wants to be involved. No everyone applies for it but every child born to one parent, which the other parent is living, is entitled to child support. In this specific example the woman would keep the child (yes there are many single fathers out there with dead beat mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 12:06 AM
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Done, Women are responsible for fixing the female mental health crisis. Who is claiming that that is a mens problem to fix the female mental health crisis. Please tell me what expectation women have of men to solve the female mental health crisis, other than being treated with basic human to human decency (which has nothing to do with sex or dating or relationships) because I am very interested? Women certainly are not asking men to have pity sex with them to make them feel loved or build their …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:19 PM
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lol no woman I have ever met has used the phrase “beta” or “alpha” to describe a man, that seems to be something some men* (not all men of course) have invented and attributed to women, in attempt to add some legitimacy to acting in a way that emulates being an “alpha”/ avoids being a “beta”. Truly it appears to be title only men* ascribe to other men* (again not all men).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:54 PM
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It’s all about intention. Jumping to solutions can often feel more like unsolicited advice (which we’ve all been on the other end of and it’s super annoying). Sometimes people (women in your example) just want to be heard and to cry or be mad and to not think about a solution in that instant. Tbh, I’ve found what’s helped me is actually asking “do you want just a listening ear or would you want advice/solutions” and then go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 05:54 AM
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I’m not blaming either gender here, but a lot of people do walk away from sexual encounters dissatisfied for various reasons, often due to a lack of communication. There is clearly a lot of people on this page specifically talking about sexual dissatisfaction. So no I wouldn’t say that always easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:00 PM
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The best sexual achievement is having a consensual experience where all parties are satisfied…no?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:46 PM
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I’m am having a little trouble understanding your opinion here Are you saying that people (women) cannot assess someone’s physical attractiveness without being sexually attracted to them? Or that sexual attraction is required to find someone physically attractive, (for women)? And that if a man attempts to physically appraise another man, people will accuse him of being homosexual? Overall: Women and men have different priorities, and value different things, so their “rating” systems can be diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:44 PM
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Then find someone who’s goals align with that. There are many men and women (and others) out there who want to be the stay at home husband/wife/father/mother. If that is what both parties want I see no problem with that, what do you do, if one party, the stay at home party, changes their mind and wants to rejoin the work force or go back to school, or asks for more support around the house, or any number of things that can occur as people mature?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:12 PM
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Ok so that’s not the fair trade your looking for? What are you looking for then?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:39 PM
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Wouldn’t you advocate for both parties working then? A more egalitarian relationship where both parties bring something to the table financially so the man doesn’t feel so pressured to get “something” ie a baby out of the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:17 PM
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Would that really make men happy If women said thank you more, when warranted And women maintain a reasonable suspicion on some men, but not all men. Is that truly the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:11 PM
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I feel like it’s more “I don’t want to be his mother” if I’m not getting the same warm and loving treatment from him. I’ll make his lunch, if he makes my lunch I’ll cook dinner, if he cooks dinner I’ll do his laundry, if he does my laundry I’ll provide emotional support, if he provides emotions support I’ll make a chore list, if he makes one next month A “mommy” does all of these things without an expectation of reciprocation because a “mommy” is taking care of a child who cannot reasonably do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 03:36 PM
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I mean your consenting to the specific job you choose to do and to an extent how much your time is worth, but you’re not really consenting to the system of working for money because money is required to survive in this society.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 03:19 AM
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The pursuit of and a general curiosity of knowledge in general is a also sexy trait. Being able to converse about topics on the a similar level is stimulating. Education is not a ends to a means it’s a means to it’s self.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 03:16 AM
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Cool sounds great!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:52 AM
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I mean people change? You don’t think both partners change both positively or negatively, throughout the relationship? Personality wise or physically?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:44 PM
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I personally am not going to do that hahah but thanks for the work
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:43 PM
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Yass this is giving
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:02 AM
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Religious incompatibility is totally a thing though, I'm making an assumption, but wouldn't you prefer to be with someone who also has a religious faith (compatible with yours) and would be open to raising children under that faith. Its not really a "there's something wrong with you thing", it's more of an early sign of incompatibility. Even if you're very low key about your religious views.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:54 PM
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Do you have any sources to back up your claims? I defer to my book reference from my original comment: Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:21 PM
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Dead bedroom can be a result of sexual incompatibility between partners, or a result on one parter (typically the woman) not feeling arousal in general because of a lack of understanding of one and often both partners on how to properly arouse a woman. If you solve that problem, dead bedroom can be resolved.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:01 PM
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There is a lot of unintentional assumptions made about female sensuality/sexuality due to sexuality and sexual drive often being viewed in the male lens (how and what turns men on, how men get aroused), when women's arousal pathways are inherently different then mans. I totally recommend the book, Come As You Are, which is about the exploration of female arousal pathways as literature resource to help resolve dead bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:51 PM
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1) General Chemistry, the spark, etc. 2) Similar values, beliefs, political views 3) Similar communication styles/how each person handles conflict/conflict resolution 4) Similar life goals/future planning 5) Physical intimacy 6) Physical attraction 7) Similar interests
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:07 PM
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I’m so confused with your last paragraph? What are you trying to say
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:02 PM
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Or you could break up? I definitely felt my comments implied if the root of the problem is significantly deeper then “help clean”, and one of both parties do not want to/are unwilling (including the woman) to work on it, end the relationship. Why was your first instinct to advocate for cheating? You don’t have to stay together if you are unhappy with your partner. You’re gonna break up if you cheat anyways lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:50 PM
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Same reasons, tbh We personally have no handled a divorce where it’s the woman or the man has filed for the explicit purpose that they are leaving [their partner] for someone else/an affair partner. We occasionally have had couples that have been separated (which means they no longer live together and are all but legally apart) be dating but that’s rarely an issue because both parties generally know and have no issue as long as they’re not introducing random partners to the kids (if applicable)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:45 PM
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I said my list was comprise of what our firm has handled in the order of frequency, not an all out statistical list Which is why I didn’t include percentages And clearly started “of the divorces we’ve handled at the firm” I should have said in general frequency Edit: yes they are long lasting problems Two examples: - Couples can survive the prime earner losing their job, if their actively seeking a new job and applying for unemployment (which forces you to apply to jobs to get support) - Couples…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:39 PM
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I don’t think everyone would assume a woman is gold digging and shallow if they set the bar higher then nice. Men are absolutely allowed to have preferences. It’s when men’s preferences stop at tits and ass where it gets a little insulting. Everyone is allowed to have standards, wants/needs, deal breakers, and preferences (as long as it’s legal, which is a very low bar). I personally am not shitting on men or women or anyone for having preferences. Alright, if all women stopped telling men to “j…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:21 AM
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Sarcasm aside, I’m sorry, you grew up that way, it sounds shitty. Being told to just be and life will work out. In my mind being told those things is just a woman thing, my mother was born before and married right around the time to women being allowed to open bank accounts in the UK without a man (1975). She is a power house, and raised me to believe that woman can do anything we set our minds too, but she also told my brother that he could do anything he set his mind to, but (we both) have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:08 AM
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Omgosh you’re from England too (or excuse me you said Brit so that opens up Whales, Northern Ireland and former British imperialized nation of Scotland too)? Wild I was born in Brent Pelham, well raised there, can’t really be born in a village with no major hospital. What part are you from and what regional accent do you have? Tell me more about how so American I am. What an odd assumption for you to make, we all know the American dream doesn’t exist and isn’t a functional career choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:57 AM
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I know you’re not OP don’t worry, but you can tell men (and women) that they have inherent worth and that that worth has nothing to do with finding a partner or having sex. Im absolutely not tell men to just get a hobby. We tell that to women all the time and it’s resulted in women who are confident enough to be selective over the men (or partners) they choose, instead of just desiring a man (or partner) in general. Which has lead women to be happy being alone and looking for the right partner. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:46 AM
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I mean yeah I agree, you can’t be ugly on the inside and ugly on the outside. Doesn’t make beautiful people who are shitty to other people any less shitty though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:24 AM
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To quote a great book: people accept the love they think they deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:19 AM
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In your first paragraph do you mean isn’t an optional preference if you aren’t good looking enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:19 AM
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Very true! Only 5-10 percent of highly contentious and there is usually a very high inequity (primarily financially) between the parties when they are! I totally agree, most divorces are uncontested and both parties want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:05 AM
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Well, as someone who handles divorces (with both female and male clients), I’m inclined to disagree based on experience, which I have listed in various comments, but I’m not going to argue with you if that’s what you believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:52 PM
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I can see this is quite personal for you, which is very valid. If society has told men all they need to be happy is be nice, have a good job, be presentable, then society has done you wrong. Tbh I think the bigger problem is society tells men they must be in a relationship to be happy and successful. Which isn’t true. Everyone can be successful in their own right. Well then let’s change things. Let’s not put that societal pressure on men. Let’s encourage men that their self worth is not based on…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:50 PM
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Their not (and I’m not)… We have not represent a single divorce client who’s reason for leaving is to “trade up”. financial stress, as the name implies, is incredible stressful and can break a marriage (I wrote another comment that lists various kinds of financial stress we have encountered that have resulting in a party petitioning for divorce/dissolution/separation for a more complete list)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:41 PM
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Wouldn’t increasing mens willingness to take time off to be with the child in the early stages also help elliviate the stress, yes they don’t have breasts but a woman could pump or the couple could use formula and breast milk, or just formula (no judgment here). Genuinely encouraging conversations about waiting to have children until both parties are established in there career. Being financially stable enough to hire some help, even if it’s just an after school nanny. Encouraging continuous fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:34 PM
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More to you point, if one party is going to stay home with children, then that is a financial situation that requires a lot of communication and a feeling of financial equity in the relationship for the non working party, this is a two party decision, not a one party decision. It is a sacrifice that both women and men make for children. Communication, planning, and equality is the key to all of this. My main point is: when couples communicate about both major and minor financial decisions, such …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:03 PM
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Lack of effort from one or both parties, compounded by lack of financial equity of one party is another reason people get divorced, it just takes them being so miserable in their situation they would rather struggle financially then being stuck in a hopeless loveless situation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:00 PM
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I will say I’m bias, my mother didn’t and she’s a great mother, and my parent could have (still happily married) could have gotten divorced and been financially fine as they both had careers Hence they have complete financial communication and never fight about money
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:56 PM
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I mean your right Men should not be told that finding a woman should be the most important thing in their life And they shouldn’t be told their ability to find a woman/have sex defines them/their worth That sucks and men frankly should be spoken to like woman are now. Things I was told as a child/young adult: IF YOU WORK HARD: you can have it all, you can do it all, you can achieve anything you put your mind too, you don’t need a partner to define you You can do it without a partner You should a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:50 PM
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Who has been telling all these men that the the only quality they need in life is too be nice? Doesn’t this conflict with the “being the provider” Schtick that men are also told. And the “if you tease a girl, it means you like her” schtick Who is telling all these men they only need to have one personality facet to be successful I’m just so confused
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:46 PM
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Totally, financial communication and basic literacy are very important for relationship health, primarily because you need money to survive in this society and money problems not only threaten the relationship but you basic survival as a human. This is a huge endorsement to maintain you’re own source of income throughout the marriage. Get into a relationship with someone who has a similar work/life drive as you. Having money, regardless of relationship status, relieves a ton of stress in life. C…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:43 PM
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All the time Generally In order of frequency: - Mortgage problems, housing problems, community and separate debt - one or both parties spending well above their means - lying about how bad financial problems are - Lack of savings - Lack of financial growth - Living pay check to pay check - Lack of financial stability in one or both parties - One party losing their job AND REFUSING to seek gainful employment for a year or over a year, long enough that the family is in a real debt crisis - reckles…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:19 PM
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But maybe the solution is just listening to your partner and working through the intimacy issue together, instead of trying to come up with a solution or being told a solution to work on to keep you busy so you stop nagging? [edit I’m not saying that last sentence isn’t shitty or that it is open and honest communication, but if you come to the table looking for a SOLUTION and not a conversation that could lead to growth, maybe you (not you you, but the royal you) are missing the point]
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:10 PM
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People (women I guess) always say this, but being nice is the bare minimum requirement for being a decent human, nothing else. Being nice does not earn anyone anything other then being a generally decent human. Who is out here telling people that being nice gets you anything other than people generally being nice back to you. Which is great, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:08 PM
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You definitely can come at a problem in relationships in a way that is empathetic and compassion versus frustration. Getting to the root of the problem usually takes more than one conversation and work. Maybe the root of the problem isn’t what either party expected or wants to admit. Intimacy issues are rarely one sided or single layered. They are complex and may require more work then either party or one party (including the women) is willing to give. Maybe the root of this problem in your exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:00 PM
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Of the divorces we’ve handled at our firm, in order of frequency of issue (we’ve represented both men and women, and as the OP stated more frequently the woman petitions for divorce): Common - Financial problems (both or one parties), this is the number one reason we find people petition for separation and divorce - Lying in the relationship (both or one parties) - Intimacy problems (both or one party) - Communication problems that often lead to the above mentioned reasons - chronic drug use (us…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 09:44 PM
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Do you have a source for that epic statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 02:38 AM
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I am not saying that violence against women is not more common in domestic relationships then in mass shootings. Statistically, you are correct. But, According to Wikipedia, in North America there have actually been 12 mass shootings/attempted mass scale violence attacks (involving weapons or bombs) that are connected to the incel community/people who identify as incels in the 2020s alone (which is definitely more then one to two incidence in the last 2 years). Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:41 PM
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Specifically regarding the cold approach: Cold approaching can be viewed negatively because it is purely based on your physical attraction towards the person you plan to cold approach. They are a stranger, you know nothing about them (e.g. interests, hobbies, personal preferences, values, employment, history, etc.). It's kind of like when a Jehovah's Witness/Mormon comes to your door to sell you on their particular flavor of christianity. They don't know if your religious or not, whether your in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:33 PM
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Aka to go up to a man and flirt with intention As you suggest the man does in your scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:49 PM
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Then it should be ok for that women in that relationship to proactive flirt with men too in your scenario right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:48 PM
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So this is specifically about YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP. I literally have no judgment on how you personally want to conduct your relationship if it’s all consensual and above board. If that’s something you personally want to do with your partner that’s great after having a consensual conversation. Literally more power too you, I see no issue. Whatever gets y’all’s rocks off. But you’re view, as written, is applied to all men and all women and has no mention that both parties have discussed this …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:11 PM
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I just think there is a difference between actively pursing someone with the intention of flirting and responding to someone who is flirting with you. Your male example seems like a revenge response to something the female example wasn't asking for. I guess I am just still trying to understand what you mean by reactive flirting, and how is it not just being polite and not ignoring someone while trying to get out of the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 03:02 AM
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Yikessssss maybe they’re just very trusting that’s wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:04 AM
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You think many couples wouldn’t consider their partner proactively going up to another individual with the intention of flirting… Flirting?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:07 AM
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Lol people who settle have one foot out the door I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:53 AM
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Context and environment is everything. The words people choose to use in social media spaces to describe people are absolutely not the bench mark for what flies in any professional environment, or really any real life environment. Work, in particular, is an environment most people do not choose to be in and cannot just up and leave whenever they choose, regardless of the reason. Participating in social media is a choice and you can leave whatever page or site or app you are on at anytime for any…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:41 AM
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Do you personally want to be with someone who aspires to be a passport bro? Based on your post, probably not. Great, there in other countries doing succeeding/failing at doing that. Self selection at its finest!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:32 AM
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INFO: what is the definition of “reactive flirting”? What are you’re parameter for “reactive flirting”? Like what does this actually entail? Is saying hello and having a short conversation and then going back to your friends “reactively flirting”? Is talking to the person next to you while ordering a drink at the bar and then saying goodbye and leaving the conversation when you get your drink “reactively flirting”? Is accepting an offer to purchase you a drink because you’re at the bar at the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:26 AM
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If this is complete stranger (someone I've never met/only met in a very limited capacity/met in passing/or someone I met in a customer service/work environment): Incredibly creepy and potentially dangerous behavior After one date: Incredibly Creepy and potentially dangerous behavior After dating for a month/during the get to know you phase: Creepy After dating for 6 months or in an established relationship onward: Could be cute if thats the kind of relationship we have I would err on the side of…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 08:37 PM
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Humans have moved and developed so far past what is "natural" that it's crazy that people still use this argument for and against monogamy. It is 100% ok to say monogamy is not for you, or not for others, and to do what you want to do, but it's kind of insulting to compare human intelligence and our application of both abstract concepts and morals to that of any other animal. We, as humans, created both the concept of monogamy and the relative morality applied to the concept of monogamy. Nobody …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:08 PM
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You can definitely not want to own an animal but still like animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:17 AM
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I not going to lie the man you presented as average isn’t very admirable (though a woman with those same characteristics wouldn’t be either), but everyone deserve basic human respect. A lot of people just don’t understand that doesn’t mean engagement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 05:42 PM
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What is your definition and parameters for respect? I would say being respectful means being generally polite, (saying please and thank you, not speaking over someone when they are talking, holding a door open, etc.), not bothering someone unprompted or without reason, not getting into someone’s space. You don’t actually have to smile, or wave, or say hi, or engage someone in conversation to be polite and respectful to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:53 PM
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1) It all comes down to trust, do you trust that this woman has been faithful and isn't lying too you (see 2). If my partner told me they wanted a paternity test out of the blue (where there is no implication or evidence of unfaithfulness on my end), my faith/trust in them would be irreparably broken. It would literally be: "I will do this, but when it comes back that you are the father, we are over. I will not stop you from petitioning for parental rights/50/50 custody, but our relationship is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:17 PM
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The problem with “nice guys” (and “nice girl”), seen in the most favorable light to that term possible, is that if your only noteworthy quality is that if your are nice (well mannered, polite, sweet, (I don’t really agree with agreeable) to someone, your basically just checking the boxes of a person who is a decent human to other humans, you shouldn’t expect much more then the same treatment from others. That’s like a bare minimum quality for someone to be likeable individual. If you think that …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:02 PM
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I hardly say changeable and improvable physical standards like dressing well/styling oneself, grooming, putting a little extra effort into appearance, smelling nice, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle are sky high standards women have of men. I feel there is such a jarring contrast between women's baseline standards and men's baseline standards because many women do the above list of (changeable things, none genetic characteristics) as their baseline of existence + makeup, because this is what …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:33 PM
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As female education specifically (and education of citizens as a whole) increases, national birth rates decrease. It's in a countries best interest to emphasize and promote education to all its citizens, educated parents raise educated children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 07:02 PM
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So I guess by the women’s package if it comes with the pill, it sucks they don’t marker the pill directly for men, in the US the medication (topical treatment or pill treatment for yeast infections do not come with gender specific labels and the only cream thats in the women’s isle is a vaginal suppository, so definitely not a men’s product), it sounds like you infection is topical/skin though not urethral, so idk how effective the pill would be when I’m sure you prescribed some kind of topical …
/r/MensRights28/08/23 12:04 AM
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Also that’s terrible, people say terrible things about the American health care system and insurance but it’s insane that you literally cannot go to a urgent care and ask to be seen by some kind of medical profession to write you a one pill non addictive prescription. And that you have no option to request a same sex medical professional for an appointment involving the genitals. Am I understanding you correctly?
/r/MensRights27/08/23 11:38 PM
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Ok what do you do when you have a medical condition that requires a change in medication. Who do you communicate with to do that? I’m really not trying to be coy or anything here’s it’s important that your infection is treated.
/r/MensRights27/08/23 11:35 PM
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Just to critically look at a few of your statements: Speaking for the state of Washington (a community property state, this means community assets and debts are presumed 50/50 per partner unless petitioned otherwise and separate assets and debts incurred before the marriage remain separate unless petitioned otherwise and you do not need to have a “reason” for getting divorced beyond wanting a divorce ie no fault divorces) Alimony/maintenance Alimony (or maintience) is only awarded for a finite p…
/r/MensRights27/08/23 05:49 PM
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If you felt your care was insufficient with the first doctor, why don’t you just go to another doctor? Next time request a male doctor/medical provider? Women are allowed to ask for female only medical staff, there is nothing barring men from asking for the same but with male medical staff. I guess my question is, if you had the exact same expirence (unsureness of the treatment, additional reading, etc. with male medical professional and you felt you care was incomplete, wouldn’t you just go to …
/r/MensRights27/08/23 04:57 PM
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Are you attracted to women? What’s your definition? There must be some kind of paradigm women that ticks your boxes
/r/MensRights20/08/23 11:37 PM
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There is no definition because non-incels don’t use the verbiage “high value” to describe people lol
/r/MensRights20/08/23 11:35 PM
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It’s a non-existent term that I put in to mirror the language of “high value” man in your original comment (I followed your example, though I corrected some of your spelling errors) I suppose it’s whatever men like you would define a ‘high value’ person as. People are people and value is subject in humanity. We clearly do not have aligning philosophies and that’s ok.
/r/MensRights20/08/23 11:13 PM
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Oh, silly me, I forgot to add /s. I thought it was obvious.
/r/MensRights20/08/23 05:36 PM
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Fair enough, asked and answered. Truly, no notes. Thank you for the riveting educational lessons on psychology, sociology, history and biology.
/r/MensRights20/08/23 03:24 PM
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Question: By your logic: Does his sexual history matter? What if he’s slept with 60 women, paid for 11 abortions and had 5 different stds, and now wants to settle down (in equality) without judgement … with a ‘high value’ woman (lol) they deserve.
/r/MensRights20/08/23 05:05 AM
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ok.. so I have reviewed a few sources on the empathy gap (which was very interesting, thank you for the recomendation), which essentially boils down to -- during time of intense emotion (which really seems to be defined as times when the sympathetic nervous system is revved up, we are flooded with stress hormones, blood is diverted from the prefrontal context to the mid brain to make "evolutionary" based fight or flight decisions), we as humans do not make logical decision during times of peak e…
/r/MensRights10/08/23 02:11 PM
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What does evolution have to with men voting?
/r/MensRights09/08/23 09:58 PM
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but isn't that a man problem that can be solved by men?
/r/MensRights08/08/23 09:26 PM
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weird take, but I actually agree with you regarding men's need for higher caloric intake, and that makeup is not a necessarily and the cost should be on the consumer. Or shaving, something men and women both do. But what is the male equivalent for the female menstrual cycle and associated products? Like bleeding out of the vagina for about 7 days a month, 12 months a year, for 30-40 years of life and needing specific products (at cost to the consumer) for this so women can function in society ki…
/r/MensRights08/08/23 09:21 PM
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How would you approach having a conversation/debate with someone with a radically different political orientation as you? Typically if you’re debating someone with the sole intention of changing their mind or having them align with your beliefs, and if this doesn’t occur you consider it a failure if you do not accomplish this, it doesn’t work. So maybe try having a conversation where you’re just trying to exchange and relay opposing view points, you’ll probably both walk away a little dissatisfi…
/r/MensRights03/08/23 02:12 AM
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Question: If women are the biggest voting bloc, why don’t more men just vote then? They could vote on mass against the political platforms/initiatives that pander to women.
/r/MensRights03/08/23 01:56 AM
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