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If you haven't noticed, All of reddit is a massive leftist echo chamber. It's rare for any subreddit to successively veer from the norm and ficilitate honest and authentic conversation. This is one of the few subreddits I think allow for that. There are plenty of places to virtue signal and pat yourself on the back for upvotes. This place isn't that. There is a reason why threads are categorized and some only let men or women reply. It's becuase there isn't one narrative or group of people that …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:46 PM
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If you are just going to live life assuming guys are going to lash out at you for giving a compliment, then you have a poor misconception of men. Sure we may be initially skeptical becuase we never, ever receive them, but if they ascertain that the compliment was sincere they may remember that compliment for years. Again, though. You are taking my point on a personal, ancedotal level of you giving compliments to men.How many compliments to how many men have you given? What percentage of men "wen…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:31 PM
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You disagree that men would not want to receive vagina pics from a woman? Sorry, but you wrong. You may not like it and it may not be consistent with your experience as a woman, but that also doesn't mean there is something seriously wrong with men. It's perfectly normal and I would assume 99.9% of heterosexual men would love to receive such pictures. Note, that I can not see whatever picture you attempted to link, but in general, I'm assuming a woman who would be trying to get the sexual attent…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:38 PM
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Never in the history of mankind has a heterosexual guy been disgusted to receive nude pics from a woman. No matter how you try and frame it, most any guy would be estatic to receive any sort of picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:31 PM
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If a guy thinks you are lying about a compliment, it is becuase it is so rare for them to receive an honest compliment they are skeptical of them. They need reassurance you are being genuine. Men hate to receive sympathy or to be pitied. So, it's possible they hate it even more if they feel someone makes up a compliment to them out of pity. Also, I'm speaking on a general level, not your singular ancedotal experience. And in general men do not receive compliments if any sort and women are inunda…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:06 AM
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The question being asked is to illicit an unconventional conversation around cheating. The opinion that was shared is a very socially common one to have. It's not necessary to repeat that sentiment unless that is you think it may bring about upvotes, or it feels good to state how morally superior you feel, or to try and steer the conversation away from honestly happening. Also, becuase of all those motivating factors, it's hard to even guage if the comment is truly, 100% authentic, or if aspects…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:52 AM
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Is the average single woman looking to date 40 years old? I am speaking in the context of single guys looking to date single women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:04 AM
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The point of the post wasn't to guilt trip cheaters. It was to get guys to honestly talk about how many men would cheat if given the opportunity and to discuss about it. Not everyone who gives an honest response is a cheater, either. Men can give an honest explanation of why they think men cheat, the psychology behind it, how it feels to be tempted, etc without ever having given in to cheating themselves. But when random commenters decide to virtue signal and put themselves on a pedastool it tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:01 AM
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So you are proving my point: Women do not find the male sexual anatomy to be sexually appealing to them at a base level. By itself, it is not enough. Wheras, with guys, there is no caveat. Men find women sexually attractive, just for being a woman and having feminine parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:07 AM
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I guess I should have said obese, not overweight. And by abnormality, I just mean some aspect that really sticks out that would be outside the norm. All of the examples you gave apply. It also doesn't mean you aren't considered decently attractive. I'm just giving general descriptions to illustrate that men have a low stabdard for what they find to be, at least, average looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:52 AM
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But from my outside observation, it seems like women generally talk about penises like they are gross. Most women find it either disgusting and/or hilarious to receive dick pics. In most contexts its considered unwanted sexual harassment. But never in the history's of man kind has a guy received a unwanted nude picture from a female that he was disgusted to receive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:47 AM
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I received enough attention to know I was moderately attractive, but I was very religiously devoted at that time and would not go on dating apps or explore any sexual relationship outside of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:41 PM
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But doesn't it depend somewhat on the man and what he finds attractive? You can be attractive to one man and not another. Also, what if one or both of you is taken or not straight? Not really. If you are an actual woman, not overweight, and no abnormalities, you are already deemed average and probably considered at least a 6/10. Then once a guy opens up with you, shares memories with you, and gets to know you, as long as you are not an inwardly ugly human being (which he would probably stop bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:39 PM
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My whole point is that men in general do not feel sexually desired and are outwardly looking for validation in that department. Men's geniltalia is viewed at as being visually gross by women. Women make as much as movie stars and professionally athletes on Only Fans. It's common for men in marriages to want sex much more than their wives want to the point it is used as a comedic trope. But for the sake of argument I'm like a 6/10. When I was at my athetic peak, I was probably an 8/10. And even t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:30 PM
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There is a difference between having sex, and even then, it could just be with one or two people, and feeling sexually desired. A woman can be very selective in who she chooses to sleep with, yet feel like she is sexually attractive and has countless options of who to sleep with if she chose too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:11 PM
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Not on a basic level. Only if we meet a certain checklist. Be this tall. Be this confident. Have this much money. Have abs. Be funny. Build an emotional connection. Then maybe you will be virwed as sexually attractive to a singular woman. But generally speaking, no, men are not seen as sexually attractive or told they are by women. The lack of woman having sex now despite having all the leverage to be the gatekeepers of it, speak to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:01 PM
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I'm not speaking from a social or dating perspective or one's value to society. Sure, guys want to be valued wholistically by their partner and respected in the community. But here I am speaking solely from a sexual perspective and meeting one's sexual needs. A lot of men feel deprived or at least feel like they do not have theur sexual needs met. From that viewpoint, there are many men who just want to validation as a sexual being.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:58 PM
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Yes, there are some guys who will befriend a woman just becuase they are interested in dating her. At the same time, women continously tell men they need to build a connection and get to know them first before dating. My advice to women is to stop being so naive. Whether the guy likes you from the start or will develop feelings over time, if you are moderately attractive, a guy can only get so close to you without a high liklihood of eventually falling for you. It is what it is. To act otherwise…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:52 PM
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I am generally speaking from a hetrosexual men's perspective. Maybe the 80/20 rule applies, but I can't think of a scenario where a straight dude wouldn't be enamored by being sexually objectified by even just an average looking woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:33 PM
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I didn't say we were "owed" anything. I'm simply explaining the psychology for why men care a lot about dick size. Sure, men in general wish they were more sexually appealing to women at a base level. But it is what it is. It doesn't change reality. It's unfair and it sucks, but so to are many aspects of life. When I compared the average sexual pull of an average woman to a man, I wasn't talking about appeal in general. I'm talking distinctly about sexual pull. If a male celebrity walks up to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:06 PM
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I didn't say all men were cheaters. Everyone knows that. But what is the purpose of commenting that you aren't a cheater and everyone else that does are terrible human beings? It's saying something just for the sake of getting of women to upvote his post. At the same time, it helps create an environment where the unpopular view, that actually answers the question, is not as welcomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:39 PM
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Becuase men just want to have sexual appeal just for being a man. We get zero compliments and are rarely ever told we are physically attractive. Maybe the top 10-20% of men do, but that's it. The things we are valued for are how tall we are, or how much money we have, or how much charisma we have. Even then, it's said that a male celebrity has the same sexual pull as an average woman.. Why can't it be that we are just seen as attractive just for being a guy? All that other BS takes time to prove…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:33 PM
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Notice It's always blue pilled guys too. They are soft and need virtual acceptance. They say things to virtue signal or to reiterate what they think others want them to say just for popularity points. That's why people on here should take what they say with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:21 PM
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The difference is that women, by default of being a woman and having female genitalia they are automatically considered sexually attractive to men. Sure having more curves, and bigger boobs/ass, etc can vary the height of sexual appeal to men, but, at it's base level, by simply being a woman you carry sexual attraction to men. Men want to be valued in a similar way at the base level. Instead, most women are disgusted at the sight of a penis. A ball sack is considered gross. Everything about the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:17 PM
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There are a lot of factors to consider such as length of the relationship, age of the partners, if the couple has kids and/or assetts shared together, etc. Also, I'm assuming the "opportunity" wouldn't just be a flirtatious woman having a conversation. It would have to be very direct situation that would certainly lead to sex. Opportunity to actually have sex is the key. But in general, I would say 60% if the man is unmarried and 30-40% if married. That's why it is key to understand why your par…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:55 PM
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No one cares about you and your anonymous virtue signaling post. Do you want some brownie points? Either attempt to answer the question or move along..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:27 PM
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You are overthinking this whole topic. Men just want to feel sexually desired. We wish women would just want us for having a nice penis. It helps give us confidence that we inheritantly have something that women want. It is as simple as this. Saying you care about all these other aspects actually does not reassure us. We aren't talking about being an attractive dating partner. We just want to be seen as a sexual object. It's like a woman who has a nice ass or boobs. Sometimes, it's good to know …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:18 PM
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This is why I think guys who live in places where prostitution is legalized, are probably more adept at attracting women. The mem have more leverage becuase sex is eaaily accessible to them and as a result they comr across less needy, which in turn is more attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:02 AM
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That's what women foolishly think. In reality, in many instances, it just means the guy is manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:57 AM
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I think it's taboo becuase many women fail to understand how men view sex. Women immediately think that men who visit sex workers do so becuase they are unable to get sex freely from a woman. While this may be true to a varying degree, I think it undermines how men view sex differently than a female does. Women tend to want to build an emotional connection first and build trust before having sex with a guy. They think if a guy isn't able to have sex with a woman freely it must be becuase they ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:31 AM
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Look up videos of women in Japan being asked about their significant other visiting a sex worker. It seems to be openly discussed and accepted in their culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:09 AM
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A vast majority of women care about height. Most are very upfront about this. To act otherwise becuase you are an exception to the rule is a lack of perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 05:38 PM
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I'm a dude, and I agree that a lot of men are pigs and creeps. This is the true inner nature of men. The real problem is that women's actions do not align with what they say and they do not apply the same rules to all men. They claim they don't want to be objectified. They say they want a good man that will be a good father figure. They say they don't want a player, etc, etc They say all these nice charachter qualities, but continously, they do not reward guys in the dating marketplace for these…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:14 AM
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It is all about context, but generally speaking, yes, you lose alot of your leverage. If all a man wants from you is sex, you lose your appeal once you have sex with them. But if a man truly values you as a person and wants to build a relationship with you, then sex is just a means to building a closer connection.. My advice to women is to delay sex as much as possible on the front end.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:32 PM
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Yes, women have plenty of power. Men's whole motivation in life is to get a women and have access to sex. At least this is overarching goal of man and what motivates him most in life. It's why men try to tell women to keep their body count low. They lose some of their power when they give it away so easily. They go from being a desireable woman that men would do anything for to being the town bicycle. Sex means alot to men. Women can not understate the importance of it. We don't care about all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:03 PM
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This post is exactly what many "good guys" are trying to communicate to women. Women should 100% of the time withold sex on the front end of a relationship. The only guys who pushback against this are guys who have little interest in sticking around or committing to a relationship. Alot of guys will do whatever it takes to access sex. They will pretend to be interested in a long term relationship. They will lie and say every smooth thing they can think of to build up a "connection" with the woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:30 PM
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If you somehow think I'm a male feminist for thinking a man should pay for the date, please go and get your head checked..that, or just grow up and stop the childish thinking. The funny thing is, not paying for dates, is exactly how you are going to end up with a feminist...the worst kind too. Any woman who will go on a 2nd date with a man who doesn't pay for the date has to be a die-hard pink haired feminazi
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 04:49 AM
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Don't go on dates with feminazis then. Maybe you should have higher personal standards for the type of women you would like to take out on a date. Do some more filtering on the front end. The women I take out on dates are worth trying to get to know. They are respectable women, who don't sleep around, and at least fit some of the criteria I look for in a longterm relationship. I value their time, becuase they value thenselves first. Otherwise, I wouldn't be on a date with them. I also already to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 02:07 AM
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I think men should be the provider becuase it is good for the family unit. I think its good for society as a whole. I think it benefits everyone when men take responsibility, lead their spouses, and make it their duty to provide for their family. Men who don't do this aren't men, they are little boys. Your type of thinking is childish. Its like a kid counting the amount of toys they have compared to the next kid. Boo-hoo! It's the type of thinking that leads to broken homes and single parent hou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 01:24 AM
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I responded with what women should do. Its called gracefully receive. To not order the most expensive meal. To not initiate anything that would incur alot of extra costs. To not act entitled and act grateful. There are many ways they can do this. Maybe they offer to pay (though a real man should never actually let them). Maybe they make small comments about how nice the date choice was and how they are thankful for you taking them out.. Maybe they choose to overlook anything that goes wrong (bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 12:54 AM
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It's a f***ing meal. I still have standards to the women I date. But whether or not they pay for a meal isn't one of them. Just like I don't care if they want to work or be a stay at home mom. It doesn't change the standard I have for myself. Which is to be a provider and acquire skillsets to ensure my family is financially taken care of. That's what real men do. Quibbling over a couple dollars is dumb. Not only that, but paying for a meal is an act of chivalry in itself. It communicates you car…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 12:17 AM
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I say I'm redpill becuase I don't like to sit on the fence when I actually agree with alot of views they have. It doesn't mean I agree with everything or even close to a majority of what they say. In fact, I think alot of the talking heads in the space are terrible people in general to emulate. They just make good singular points here and there and have encouraged men to speak more boldly about our experience dating in today's world. Whether or not women fulfill the typical gender role has nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:35 AM
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Should they ban "kids eat free" night at resturaunts, or senior citizen discounts, or Veteran's discount? Maybe we should just cancel everything that doesn't have full representation for everybody. Or maybe this is all idiotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:15 AM
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You sound pathetic. If you can't afford a few dates, just refrain from dating in general and work towards bettering yourself and your financial situation. Newsflash. Women have the leverage in the dating marketplace. They get far more matches than men do and have a wider selection of prospective partners than us guys. Paying or not paying for dates isn't going to change that. It is only going turn you off from conservative women (which are more preferable in my opinion) and even get you turned d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:08 AM
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The type of strategies and behavior RP guys have developed is that which is most beneficial to access sex with attractive women. Don't confuse the sexual marketplace with the dating marketplace. Women tend to play around with both and don't realize the difference, wheras men distinctly look for sex and a relationship partner differently from each other. The men you refer to are really only looking to get laid and interact with the sexual marketplace. There, it's the most physically attractive wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 10:00 PM
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The difference is that men qualify a larger percentage of women to whom they are willing go give their love to. Sure they can only be in love with one person in a monagomous relationship, but they aren't as restricting in choosing that one person Women on the other hand have all these stipulations. And that doesn't even account for the reality that men find a higher percentage of women physically attractive than vice versa. But in the off chance a women finds a man attractive, there is a list of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:09 PM
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All becuase I didn't mention anything about men, doesn't mean I don't blame them either..the difference is that women have all the leverage in the dating marketplace and are the sexual gatekeepers. Most times its obvious when a guy isn't marriage material and has no intention to commit, yet women will akways be attracted to dirtbags. Also, I said older single women above 30 "tend" to be like the way I described. There are exceptions. There are outliars. But it does describe the overwhelming majo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 07:47 PM
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It just goes to show how inconsistent and flimsy women can be about the things they find attractive. They don't really like guys. They like what serves them. They all have a random list of boxes they like to be checked. Its always different from one another and prioritized differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:19 PM
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Then the fact that the slut has lost some value in the eyes of some men doesn't matter much when she is still being rewarded with suitors who don't mind it. That's my whole point. Please don't tell me we'll have to go 'round it again The whole point umis that the slut can't atain the intetest of high value men. All becuase she may nkt realize this, doesn't mean she doesn't face the consequences eventually when the relationship falls apart and she has no clue how. Or taken surprised when the guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:38 PM
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The fact the fuckboy has maybe lost some value in the eyes is some doesn't matter much when he is still being rewarded with sex and non manipulative guys of good charachter aren't receiving sex. Too many women are still rewarding their behavior. And so one guy is being more sexually satisfied than the other. And for guys, accessing sex is one of the greatest motivators men have in life. I've heard the argument you mention about promiscous women, but it sounds more like cope to me and ultimately …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:30 PM
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I'm simply pointing out that men and women are biologically different and as a result have a different approaches to the opposite sex. Men actually, physically desire sex by itself. Women do not. They desire emotional connection and proper context to sex. This is how we are born. We have a high drive and need for sexual release. Much more than women. With that said, men do have standards, but it is with who they choose to be in a long term committed relationship with. Women don't need to sleep w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 06:43 PM
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All becuase a woman is able to find a man to committ to her doesn't mean she hasn't also lost value in the eyes of other men. It just speaks to the built in advantage women have in the dating marketplace. The same, for example, goes for single mothers. They have lost value in the dating marketplace, but if they are decent looking enough, they will still be able to find a man to committ to them. The difference is that when value is lost, a woman will no longer garner the interest of the highest q…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 06:03 PM
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Purity culture had its foundation through the church and in conservative traditional values. These are the same conservative values men today are clinging back to today as a pushback against liberalism and feminism. Also, the reason sex is empowering for men is becuase sex is not easily accessible to them. Women are the gatekeepers to sex, not men. It is only when men are interesting enough, and emotionally connect well enough with a women in addition to meeting all the other criteria they have,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:35 PM
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I think a lot of the visceral is a response to the notion of women thinking that sexual expression is liberating and empowering. When in fact it makes women less overall desirable. They are objectifying themselves and diminishing their value to a piece of meat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 04:42 PM
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I'm not saying that women who have a high body count lose all value. I'm stating they lose some. Their overall value decreases. Yet, becuase women have such a built in advantage in the dating marketplace, they still can find men who will committ to them, but will have to lower their standards to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 04:31 PM
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All becuase a man committs to a "slut" doesn't mean she hasn't lost overall value on the dating marketplace. Sure, because of her physical beauty, and the overall leverage advantage women have in the dating marketplace, she may be able to still get a guy to committ to her. But her value is still less. She will in general have less men interested in her than if she didn't have a high body count. She won't be able to garber the attention of a high quality man like she would have been able too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 04:22 PM
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But by one being more effective in causing emotional harm while the other doesn't, the "shaming" is perceived socially different from each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:25 AM
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The thing is, no one takes these criticisms seriously from women since they reward men with this behavior on the dating marketplace. Their actions do not back up their words. They prioritize a guy being fun, exciting, confident, good energy, etc. They don't penalize the guy for having captivated the interest of other women and as a byproduct getting more access to sex. If anything it enhances a guy's value. On the other hand, men have made it very clear bofy count matters to them. Many of us are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:16 AM
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If a guy ghosts you becuase they find out you are a virgin, it is a good thing. You are filtering out guys who were trying to meetup with the wrong intentions. They respect you enough to not even try to manipulate you into sleeping with them. Just be patient and maybe preface your dating profile in a way to deter these type of guys before ever matching with them. When the right type of guy with the right intentions cones around he will be easier to spot becuase you are a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 01:50 PM
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I wasn't speaking generically. I was responding directly off the information shared and the high probability of assesing the commenter's situation correctly. Of course there are exceptions and circumstances that would nullify my advice. But I tend to think that only applies to a small minority. If it is the case, then the intended receipient can laugh off my coments as ridiculous. I wasn't referring to you. I was referring to the original comment I was responding too. Also, not a boomer. I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:23 AM
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Based off of mathematical percentages. Too many people are afraid to offend the 1% of people that don't apply, to tell the truth that applies to the 99%. If what I said, doesn't apply, laugh and move along. But chances are that it hits a nerve becuase there is some hard to accept truths inbetween. Also, I've seen enough people in the US complaining about their curcimstances to know that for alot of them, their mind is their biggest obstacle. There is opportunity everywhere. We are at the peak of…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:39 AM
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It is literally the best time to be alive in human history. We have all the information in the world available at our fingertips. We have the means accessible to travel anywhere in the world in under 24 hours. We have gricery stires of fresh food. Air Conditioned houses. Technology has never been more advanced and useful to humankind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 01:45 AM
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Outside of some religious circles, women generally do not reward men sexually or romantically for being more "pro social." than another. They care more about charisma, confidence and emotional connection. They fall for the manipulative, but interesting guy over the pro-social one almost every time. Many of the qualities associated with Pro-Social are seen as more feminine. Women don't want to be with soft, compassionate beta males they can roll over. Thats not to say men can't be a well mixed ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 10:50 PM
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Thats really pathetic. You have more power to make a difference than you think. Its unfortunate a whole side of a political party has toxically brainwashed people into being helpless victims yet live in the greatest economy in the world. There are thousands of people who fight for an opportunity to be your position.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 10:26 PM
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You are plenty selfish. Stop deceiving yourself. Your problem is more common than you think. You have a superhero-god complex and think the world needs you to heal its wounds. You "help" others, but do so more to feel good about yourself. You then turn around and use it as an excuse for lack of discipline and focus. Maybe a fresh start somewhere where buying a house is more attainable would be good thing. There are plenty of small midwest towns where there are plenty of houses on the market unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 10:22 PM
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Men do value emotional connection, but really only in the context of romantic relationships, not sexual hookups and situationships. It is why men do care about body count. It is a concern that we won't be able to truly bond and deeply connect with someone who has slept with multiple other people...especially when the opposite sex does need some form of connection to engage in sex in any context.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:57 PM
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Even if a women does not desire sex, yet has access to plenty of it, it still puts her at an advantage of most men who do not get to access sex anywhere near as much as they desire it. Why do you think men are willing to be the breadwinners and provide everything for their families? Why do men usually not care how much money their significant other makes, or how much debt they have? It's becuase of sex drive. Men lose so much leverage in dating, that the main overriding factor is if they find a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:48 AM
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In these situationships, you are still investing in them to some degree, albeit much less than a marriage relationship. In return, you receive much less. You get what you put in. To me, it's a sad reality. One is giving up on the idea of being in a deeply loving relationship with someone. It's out of such a relationship that goodness and beauty in this world are created. It's the context which the next generation of children are created. And if we just give up on the idea of love, what legacy do…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:27 AM
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Men's insecurities have nothing to do with why we seem so desperate. It has everything to do with men's biological desire for sex. Many guys are emotionally content being single. A good amount of guys do not want children, or at least don't want them until they are older. There is really not much women provide men that we couldn't find elsewhere. That is outside of genuine physical affection. So sure, it's men's fault we were born with the biological desire to want sex much more than females.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:06 AM
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Men are toxically labeled all the time. If we don't like women with high body counts we are labeled as "insecure" that we can't make her happy. If we don't want our partners to dress provacatively and post suggestive pictures online, we are "controlling." If we want femine traits in a women we have toxic masculinity. If we want a more conservative and traditional partner we are misogynistic. If we don't like obese women we are body shamers and weight and weight discrimination. If we aren't attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:29 PM
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I don't understand the Kierra Knightly comment. She is 100% feminine looking. Men say things out of cope all the time. Half the time they are just trying to bring down women who have a very self inflated view of themselves. Truth is if you are at least average looking, you are appealing enough to want to sleep with. And again, men have a wider tolerance for who they find attractive. Men think a higher percentage of women are attractive, than vice versa. But sure, I will concede some guys can be …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:40 PM
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My point was that men love women. If we were interested in men, we would identify as homosexual. We generally do not like masculine traits, though you are correct that each individual guy has different tastes and preferences about these traits. Sure, guys have differing views on tattoos, but for most it is just one aspect and just a matter of preference, not a dealbreaker initself. And as long as it is not done overboard and done with a feminine touch, a women still retains her overall femininit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:54 PM
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Men have standards when it comes to who we actually want to date. We are less accepting on that front. And on this sub, guys tend to emotionally vocalize their preferances, mostly becuase everywhere else in real life, we are shunned for having them. But when it comes to general, physical attractiveness, guys have a wide tolerance for who they think is physically appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:16 PM
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While men can be brutally honest, if women saw themselves as men see them, they would have a much more positive view of themselves. If anything, this sub should enlighten women that men are turned on by a good majority of them and would happily sleep with them. We find a good amount of you all sexually appealing. The thing is, women tend to exaggerate and hyper-focus on any perceived negative charachteristic. They can't look past it. All becuase we don't think you are a perfect 10, doesn't mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:31 AM
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"Expired' is probably too strong of a word. I think guys who use that term are saying it in response to the women who approach dating recklessly in their 20s becuase they take for granted their ability to find a man to settle down when they are in their 30s. But those type of women, by the time they are 30, tend to have emotional baggage, potentially multiple kids, been ran through, their beauty is fading, and they are looking for someone to leech onto. So yes, in general, the quality of women a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:38 PM
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I do think men have lower standards than women, but they do have them when it comes to actually wanting to date someone longterm. It is when a guy is mostly just seeking sex thst they drop their standards. So if a guy shows interest, but doesn"t have good reasoning for specifically being interested, it should be a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:02 PM
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You never demonstrated it to be more efficient. You shared that the divorce rate among 1,000 married women is slightly down. And I countered that the test group of 1,000 married women is a changing demographic when the number of new marriages per 1,000 people are at all time lows. Either way, with the technology that is available today, we should be far more efficient and far more productive in matching people up for marriage.. We have the technology to compare compatibility tests, matchup simil…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 04:49 PM
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No, I'm defining efficiency by the number of divorces divided by the number of marriages. But yes, concerning volume, there are less amount of people in happy marriages too. So define it however you want. Less efficient. Less. Productive. More chaotic. etc. I disagree with the rest of what you said, but there are other threads to discuss that. I'll leave those discussions there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 04:22 PM
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My response was to demonstrate that this dating market is less efficient than it used to be. Women today have more power and control in the dating marketplace than ever before. A guy's income has never mattered less than it does now. Women are becoming less interested in having children. Yet, though women hold the control, there is less marriages and the dating scene is considered more difficult to navigate than ever before. I now see, my data was a bit outdated by about 10 years, but I was talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 03:56 PM
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The marriage rate (the amount of marriages per 1,000 people) is near all-time lows. The ratio of divorces per marriage is also at all-time highs. The fertility rate (births per 1,000) is at an all-time low. The gap between the number of married people vs the amount of single people has been narrowing and almost equal. Certainly, this current dating market has been less efficient in connecting people together and into long term marriages. The bottom line is that woman are the ones with the contro…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 04:24 AM
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Not every market is efficient. Markets incorporate many different factors. Sometime's it's a sellers market, other time's its a buyers market. The dating market is currently skewed towards women to get a better deal. There are multiple factors that contribute to women having the leverage and they have been wideky discussed in this community. When we talk about physical appearance as a rating, it is only one aspect of many when assessing a dating partner. There are many other components that coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 01:33 AM
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I'm not saying it doesn't matter at all on an individual level. It has some, but not much dince that person on their own only has so much scope of influence. But collectively, when there is a sizeable amount of women who think they are generally more attractive on a scale of 1-10 then what men would on average rate them it makes a difference in the dating market as a whole. And as is generally agreed on, women have most of the leverage in the dating marketplace. They WILL get dates even if they …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 01:04 AM
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On an individual level it doesn't mean much. But it is widespread among women to have an over-infkated view of themselves. As a result, the dating marketplace is even moreso skewed against men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:53 PM
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It matter's becuase us guys are already at a disadvantage in the dating marketplace. It is clear to everyone that women have most of the leverage. It is made even harder to date when a 6 thinks she is a 9 and a 4 thinks they are a 7. So many women have a misconception of how attractive they really are becuase guys are so desperate for sex they will sleep with a 4 just to get a nut. So you have women who think they are a 7, and they slept with a 7, but then think they are settling for a 5 when da…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:23 PM
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Feminism has taught women to simply hate men and blame them for all their problems. So instead of engaging in intelligent conversation or having thoightful dialogue some will just downvote comments they don't like and aren't aligned with the feminists agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:13 PM
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This a ridiculous notion to make. Men rate women very generously, especially when compared to the way women rate men. IBoth those celebrities would be rated an 8-10 by 90% of guys. They are objectively attractive. Us guys just think its ridiculous when every single women is rated a 10 by other women. Women that are obviously under average will be told they are a near perfect 10. Not only is it a bold face lie women will tell each other but it is a much, much more lenient scale than women rate me…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:05 PM
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Yes, becuase they are the one's with the least amount of self control. They have to change who they are and even adopt negative traits just so they can receive sex. It's the men who don't adopt those traits and try to abstain from watching porn that are the most disciplined men. But these men still struggle as it is a near impossible to not climax multiple times a week/month as a man. As I said, it's biologicallu engrained in us. And unlike women, we are highly visually stimulated. So a visual a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:28 PM
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Well the alternatives tend to be more bleak. Some guys decide to manipulate women and deceive them like they are interested in long term relationships just to sleep with them. Some desperately approach every girl possible in hopes just one is interested in sleeping with them. Some guys adopt the negative traits and characteristics that women seem to gravitate to. Some act like f***boys. Some passport bro to other countries. Some hire escorts. Some committ terrible crimes to access sex. So yes, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:03 PM
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You missed my point about motivation. Women are not motivated. They get mostly what they want by exerting much less effort than men. They benefit from men's existence and desire for sexual satisfaction. Everything they want in life could possibly be handed right to them just for being a woman. It's why I've come to notice women are more intelligent and mature in grade school, but once they hit their 20s, they lose motivation to be better. They reach their peak physical attraction and have the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:09 PM
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Its sad how much misinformed women are about men. Yes, we are trying to tell you all that men's desire for sex is close to one's need for food and water. It is a near biological necessity. It's like we are born with a terrible curse. It's not like drugs where it is ab additional exoerience. This urge to spread our seed is biologically ingrained in us and develops out of puberty. We have to reach our climax multiple times a week. It's built up in us. It has to happen. Men aren't as intelligent or…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:44 PM
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Techinically porn is illegal to warch as a minor. Whether they watch it or not, has nothing to do with the overall point. They don't have years of pent up sexual frustration like older men do. They can go without porn or sex. It's not until years and years of beingdenied access where it begins to really take a toll. Still, I understand that the world we live in is as it is. Women simply don't provide sex freely to men anywhere near as much as they would demand. That doesn't mean it is men's pref…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:42 PM
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I don't understand the point you are making. Are you justufying the existence of porn becuase 10 yr old boys watch it? Young boys have yet to fully develop. They have their whole lives ahead of them to dream about being an adult and having sex. As curious as they are, they don't need porn. They can just fantasize in their head and jerk off. But its after years of doing this, that that gets old. You see, boys desire sex at a much younger age than woman, they desire it more deeply, and even when t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:16 PM
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Women have no idea the amount of self restraint men put on themselves. The shameful part is that women never reward it or barely even recognize it. Instead, they come to expect it from everyone, except if they find you attractive. In that case they bend the expectations and let some behavior slide.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:00 PM
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Its becuase these women are exploiting men who have a natural born biological desire to have sex. If women simply provided sex as much as men desire it, then porn wouldn't be as needed. Men go to porn as a consolation. It would be a great world to live in if porn wasn't needed. Most men understand that porn is not good for us. Its like a drug addicts feeling towards drugs. They know it is longterm harmful to them. They still engage becuase they are addicted and haven't found a good alternative t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:58 AM
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Every guy's tolerance limit is different. But regardless what each guy's tolerance is, there is a desire to experience the real thing. Guys will use different means to try and having an experience closer and closer to the real thing. Even if not the real thing, there are ways to simulate some aspects of sexual stimulation. For example, instead of just jacking off to porn which may incorporate some visual stimulation along with the climatic release of orgasm, a guy may go elsewhere to be stimulat…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:13 AM
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There is a chance of things getting stale in either context. But ultimately men desire real authentic sex with another human being over their hand. Maybe for females it is different, but for men it isn't even close. And while most men ultimately seek an emotional connection, the desire for real sex isn't about lonliness. Its like preferring to have dinner with someone, but when it comes down to it, being hungry or thirsty has nothing to do with whether someone else joins you for dinner. Ultimate…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 12:57 AM
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When guys say that sex is a near necessity, we actually mean the need to ejaculate. Sure, having sex is the preferred way to get to ejaculation, but it isn't necessary like the fundamental need to ejaculate. But at the end of the day, we are just teasing our brain and fantasizing about the real thing. Eventually, after doing this day after day, your brain becomes somewhat dissentized and longs for real sex at an even greater desire. So yes, we can handle the problem. But only for so long. And ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 11:27 PM
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I'd actually say that not only is self improvement limited for men, but that some of the traits women aspire for in men are negative characteristics and require men to become worse overall human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 03:26 AM
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She already seems to have a good personality. But it doesn't mean much because she isn't very attractive. It's much easier for women who aren't attractive to have a good personality. They don't have an over inflated perception of themselves and aren't superficial. It's physically attractive women who tend to have terrible personalities. Once they are attractive, guys fawn all over them. They gravitate towards them and give them all sorts of attention. Good look8ng women can go years without havi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:55 PM
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Men are simply sharing their preferance for what they want in a woman. You rationalized some of why that's important to us, but it is even deeper than that. At the end of the day, its simply us sharing our preference, and it is completely in a woman's control. Want to make yourself more appealing to the opposite sex? Then be more cautious about the number of guys you choose to be with sexually. Whether the guy admits it or not, it will likely matter to whomever you ultimately desire to build a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:38 AM
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No. Like most men, I have a fairly high sex drive. So for me to be sexually loyal to one person, I need to be at least somewhat sexually attracted to them. That doesn't mean I wouldn't settle for someone that was a 6 or 7 that had some extra weight but a beautiful personality. But most obese people I would classify as a 4 or lower. And by obese I mean someone well overweight. Not someone who is thick, that may be classified to be obese by BMI standards. I mean someone 300lbs plus where there is …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:52 PM
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Not quite. But maybe your love for lipstick is how us guys feel about our favorite pornstars.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:17 AM
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If you are a dude that gets no attention from the opposite sex and all of a sudden you get money and highly arrractive women are interested in you....I'm not so sure what to say. Maybe it's your own fault if you get played. Of course those women are after your money. All becuase you may have little dating experience doesn't mean you can't use common sense to filter out genuine interest. My guess is many rich guys understand the tradeoff they are making when a women is interested in them. They ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:43 PM
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From my perspective, many women, particularly left leaning ones, tend to throw reason out the window and argue with the endpoint in mind. Meaning, they will start with a conclusion, and then try to rationalize it instead of honestly engaging in discussion, keeping an open mind, and then arriving at a conclusion. In this instance, many women start with the endpoint that they must defend each other against men. Men are evil, controlling, and misogynistic, etc. Even if the other woman acts differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:26 PM
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Most heterosexual men are not demisexual. I have a very hard time believing a straight guy turned down having sex with a 10 out of 10 because their personality was a 4. No way. 99% of single men would go for it. Now, when it comes to dating and forming a relationship with someone, that is a different matter. Then you value other charachteristics. But the only way your scenario makes any sense is if the guy has soooo many sexual options, and a ton of experience, that their personal stanndard for …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:55 AM
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You fail to see how, even through sarcasm, you make my exact point. The left twists every position on the other side and paints it in the most negative light. The left preaches love and acceptance, yet chooses to view people who disagree with them in the most toxic way possible. It's clear they don't actually listen or respect the other side, but instead choose to be divisive and micharachterize them. This disagreeable behavior is tiresome and a trait I or most other guys do not want in a partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:32 AM
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I think a majority of guys can disassociate sex and romantic feelings from each other. So if sex was accessible to him and he had full permission, I think 95% of men would WANT to take advantage of that situation. The only thing holding some men back would be for religious reasons or the thought that their personal admiration and love for their partner would be diminished (comparing their partner with others, etc). I still think the percentahr would be high, like 75% which is much more than thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 01:29 AM
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Basically if they are a liberal femenist you stay far away. If they don't know how to reasonably disagree with someone who has different political and world views, you stay away. If they are really good looking, but as a result are prideful and arrogant, stay away. If they've been ran through stay away. Trying to find an exception is like playing with fire. Don't do it. It's not worth your peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:51 PM
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While I don't think most people view their relationship in terms of leverage, it does exist and affects behavior patterns. There is a reason why many, not all, very physically attractive women tend to have entitled, arrogant, and b****y personalities. It's becuase they are not motivated to change themselves. They may not realize they are not motivated, but they have no reason to change from an attraction perspective. Guys will worship the ground they walk on becuase they have sex appeal. The poi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:37 AM
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I would also say that it is all about motivation, and since women have all the leverage, therefore have little to no motivation. Women want to feel sexually attractive, and they normally have more pursuers than their counterpart male. They are going to gravitate more towards the guy who makes them feel this way. If this isn't present, then they will quickly lose interest and possibly give their attention to someone else who will appreviate them and make them feel that way. On the other hand, men…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:03 AM
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I would imagine a majority of men would love to have unlimited sexual options. Even if many of them are unattractive to you, it builds confidence and self-esteem. Women these days have all the leverage. They have all the options. They just value surface level traits in a man and are attracted to d-bags. The struggles they face are a result of their own choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:23 PM
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Yes, but I've also learned that women who value these type of men aren't worth being with in the first place. Why would I want to be with a woman who doesn't value the right characteristics in me? It shows they are shallow themselves and probably not worth trying to please. Many men overlook this though, becuase theyvare sexually starved.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:41 PM
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Becuase women don't like the theories and toxicly label people they disagree with before they choose to discuss the subject matter being brought up. Guys on the other hand can be simps and/or don't want to be negatively labeled. But more and more guys are coming to the same conclusions and starting to realize its ok to talk about these things. Props to the women in here who intellectually engage honestly with these theories that sometime paint them in a negative light.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:22 PM
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The thing is, some men have realized that to become the most desirable version of a man that women actually want (not just what they say they want), is to become a man that is not good for our society. Some do not want to stoop to that level. Women want the experienced, confident, wealthy, tall, partner. But to be this type of person, outside of just being born tall, in many cases requires one to be a terrible human being. To be wealthy at a young age should be a red flag. Either the individual …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:50 PM
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I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "halo effect" but what I am referring to as superficial is a relationship built on someone's individual financial status as the main driving factor for a partner being in a relationship. In the same way, I would say being in a relationship mainly becuase you find the other individual physically attractive is a superficial reason. That isn't to say that one should avoid dating someone that is financially well off or physically attractive. But it shouldn't be…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:21 AM
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I wouldn't call it wise or intelligent, but rather exploitative. Such a person is likely a greedy, matetialistic, self centered, person. Hence why being a "gold digger" is seen as a negative term. Afterall, wealth is a very superficial reason to be in a relationship with someone. There is much more to a person and to limit them their financial status is insulting. Also, purposely bringing a child in the world without ever having the intention of raising them with their father is pretty evil. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:02 AM
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If it wasn't for men's deep biological desire to have sex, I think many men would have already segregated. If you dive deep into a man's motivation to accomplish anything in life, it ultimately boils down to accessing sex. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:04 AM
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Women set the bar high, but in the most superficial ways. They value how much money a man makes, without considering the potential negative personality traits that led to them becoming well off (greed, taking advantage of others, manipulative tendencies, ripping people off, workaholic, self-centered worldview, etc). They value how tall a guy is, though it is completely outside of their control. They value how charasmatic a guy is and how well he is able to build a social.and emotional connection…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 12:09 AM
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The Red Pill has gained momentum because a bunch of guys have come to the same conclusion that we are all getting shafted in the dating and sexual marketplace. We have completely lost any leverage we had. We are the ones expected to financially provide in a country where the standard of living is ever increasing and becoming unaffordable. Yet, the gap in what a woman makes and a man makes is closing, despite men working a majority of the hard labor jobs. So, why need a man? Unless they are much …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:12 PM
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The Red Pill has gained momentum because a bunch of guys have come to the same conclusion that we are all getting shafted in the dating and sexual marketplace. We have completely lost any leverage we had. We are the ones expected to financially provide in a country where the standard of living is ever increasing and becoming unaffordable. Yet, the gap in what a woman makes and a man makes is closing, despite men working a majority of the hard labor jobs. So, why need a man? Unless they are much …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:12 PM
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It is certainly not socially constructed. All the guys I grew about were actively making sexual comments about all sorts of women non stop. Everyone had the same inner burning desire. Even me, who wouldn't participate in those conversations at the time for religious reasons, but had the same exact thoughts. Just look at the visible dynamic of how much demand there is for sex from the male side to the female vs vice-versa. Men desire it MUCH more and have a wider amount of people from the opposit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:17 AM
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You are being very reasonable with your approach to sex and relationships. The problem is, if you are a guy, you are mostly penalized for taking this approach. Especially after the age of 21-22, when other like minded people of similar approach have found someone and on their path to marriage. At this point, most of the remaining single women on the market don't value purity. In fact the purity becomes an hindrance to meet and interact with the opposite sex. Women at this point begin to value ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:51 AM
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It's not entitlement. It's how one would expect a healthy, normal functioning society to operate. Women just don't care to be honest with themselves or take responsibility for being attracted to scumbags.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:30 AM
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No, there is more nuance than that. But I'm sure a good majority broadly fit into one of these categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 12:34 AM
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Probably passive. They are at the whim of whoever is first interested in them. They let life come to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 12:24 AM
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Traditional women seek character qualities in men and settle for nothing less. These type of qualities include being a man of integrity, selflessness, respectfulness, loyalty, is understanding, empathetic, genorous, etc. When women value these type of charachteristics they actually find high value men by doing this. Modern women are more superficial and seek out surface level charachteristics such as how tall a man is, how much money they have, if they seem fun and exciting, how experienced they…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 10:55 PM
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No one likes rejection. The difference between men and females is that women don't have to deal with it if they don't want to. Are they a little more sensitive to rejection? Sure. Are they less likely to get rejected? Yes. Even then, why would they open themselves up to that when there are many other dating apps, outside of Bumble, where guys will fawn over them and make the first move?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:16 PM
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It would subtly change quite a bit in countering the amount of leverage women have over men in the dating and sexual marketplace. Nowhere else in the world do women have as much leverage as they do in the US. Compare them to woman of any other country with legalized pristitution. Greater access to sex, means guys can have their hoe phase. They can sleep with every size, shape and color of the rainbow. They can become more sexually experienced and confident. They don't have to lock themselves in …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:20 AM
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If a man was taking advantage of you, an attractive woman, being interested in them, you likely have a poor taste in men. The men were probably never interested in you from a relationship perspective. But knowing that you were interested in them, may have strung you along to potentially axcess sexual benefits. There is also the possibility that they may have also had a preconceived notion that you were "easy" or have been with a few guys in the past and therefore from the start never viewed you …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:28 PM
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Men have given to women freely for very little sexual gratification in return. We as a whole have sold our deepest desires for as little as whatever we could get. Men all over the country have entered a marriage union that they could lose half of everything yet provide a home, children, and stable income in return for a 15 minute quickie once or twice a month. Half the time the woman isn't even physically attracted to the dude and the complains for whatever reason to avoid sex. To this, men, hol…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:25 AM
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Sleeping around and having multiple children isn't considered a negative quality by the way women choose to date. A guy who is married or has a significant other is seen as more attractive. Women rather date another woman's man than a virgin. It happens all the time. And If the pool of men is a shit pond, women have only themselves to blame. They have all the leverage in the dating and sexual marketplace, yet can't seem to motivate men to be good dating material. Oh wait..maybe its becuase actio…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:50 PM
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All becuase that is the preferance, doesn't mean that that is the only type of women a man will date. We find all types of women physically attractive, not just a youthful one. Just open any dating app, instagram profile, reddit photo posting group and its clear as day women get far and away more attention them men. Its not close. Men aren't picky. Now, those of us who have waited until we were older to become a more eligible bachelor..we prefer noy to date women who sleep around, have emotional…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:45 PM
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I'm talking about the most beautiful, mature women that are aged 18-24. These are considered the highest value women to many men. These type of women are not into sleeping around and playing games. They are more traditional and seeking a marriage partner. But becuase they are the highest value, they are more practical and the 30+ yr old men, who have good incomes and are able to provide them the traditional, home-maker lifestyle they may want, they gravitate to these men. Hence, these guys scoop…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:31 PM
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Its not quite that they have high standards. What does a 22 yr old women really have to offer? Not much other than looks that fade with time. Its moreso that men have no leverage whatsoever due to being born with a high biological desire for sex. Becuase of this disadvantage they must offer so much more tangible value to the relationship. They are the ones that tend to have a stable income, financisl assetts, and real life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:02 PM
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Part of it may have to do with when you are a guy 18-24, you tend to see these older men 30+ swoope down and take the best of the litter. The ones who are still good looking and don't get swooped up or choose to avoid settling down proceed to play games until they are approach their 30s. So yes, if guys are being to they have to hit the gym, mature in age, and become financially stable until women will even look their way, then yeah, when they finally get to that point they may prefer to have wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:46 PM
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I refuse to date someone just to have access to sex. So it wouldn't necessarily change my desire to be in a long term relationship. But I think there is a good amount of guys that would be less likely to committ. Particularly young guys, who would have even incentive than women currently do to settle down, have kids, etc. Also, if sex was easily accessible, it would change the dynamic of the dating marketplace. Women would lose leverage. More men would gain sexual experience and have self confid…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 09:23 PM
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I didn't mean absolutley none. I meant comparative to what an average women would pull. There are too many simps, with no self respect, who will take anything they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:07 PM
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I never said you'll die alone. I simply said don't be surprised when men aren't sowing romantic interest. At the end of the day, you are a women with plentybof leverage in the dating marketplace. All it takes is one simp to put up with anyone's bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:53 PM
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You are the one treating it like a competition. Which is fine, be one of the guys. You will be treated like it too. Just don't be surprised when none of them are romantically interested in you. All I am saying is that humility, gentleness, gracefulness are all beautiful traits in a partner. Arrogance, pridefulness, and conceitedness, on the other hand, are not. No one likes that type of person regardless of sex. Just don't try and play victim like all guys are trash, etc. You are the one choosin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:05 PM
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Neither of those things in themselves are intimidating to most men. They could all be viewed as attractive qualities in the right context. It's probably becuase you are arrogant in how you perceive yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:30 PM
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It could be for multiple other reasons too. You could be seen as physically large, loud/boisterous, stubborn, arrogant or a mix of these traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:06 PM
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This type of sentiment is exactly what a high-earning single women would say to herself. Chances are that the money has gotten to their head and they are miserable to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:26 PM
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You are choosing not to understand. Nowhere did I glorify humann trafficking. You don't even make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:32 AM
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The issue is you, bro. You are not being intellectually honest. Of course there are exceptions to the rule. But generally speaking its pretty clear what the complaint is. This coming from a dude who would love to go to Colombia and find a beautiful chick to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:12 AM
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The negative connotation comes from the perception that passport bros are going to a country they have no connection to, that is of lower economic standards, solely looking for romantic encounters that they otherwise couldn't find in the Western World.. It's a much different dynamic to go to a neighboring country, for example like Canada, that is of a similar economic standard and dating someome within that country. It is also different when someone is in another country for different purposes t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:34 AM
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Right now, the term "Passport Bro" carries a negative connotation. Though alot more men would probably like to be a passport bro, it isn't fondly looked upon in the Western World. You are essentially seen as exploiting a poorer demographic of people becuase you couldn't attract anyone in your own country. Some assume you are complicit in sex trafficking, prostitution, and other illegal activities. So until being a passport bro is more normalized, There are all sorts of assumptions. And for now t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:41 PM
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It can be very emasculating for a woman to financially provide and always pay for everything in the relationship. Maybe temporarily while the guy gets off of his feet it is fine, but I don't think it is healthy to do long term. That is unless the man is able to find multiple ways to bring value to the relationship outside of an income. When TRP rebuttals a women's desire to date someone who substantially makes more than him, its becuase of the sense of entitlement. It's like a guy walkimg around…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:23 PM
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Speaking from a societal perspective, men have to unite and claim back some of the leverage that has been handed to women over time. Women have no incentive to hand it right back as much of the dating market is held on their terms. The first step is awareness, and though many may not want to identify as Red Pill, it's this RP space that men can at least have honest dialogue. Even if there is disagreement, I think most men come to the same realization that we are getting shafted. Once aware, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 09:36 PM
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Most heterosexual guys are the same and have the same biological urges. It's just that the ones who pretend to be feminist blue pillers are just doing it as a way to simp to women. Their approach can work, but its pathetic and no self respecting man would do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:18 PM
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Yes, men and women view sex differently and want different things from it. At the same time this seems to be more of a communication and relationship issue. Your partner should want to please you and want you to have an enjoyable experience. So if they are shrugging off your suggestions and not showing much interest in meeting your sexual needs it is a red flag to me. Either it is a failure of communication, or your partner is very selfish. Hopefully its just a matter of better communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:27 AM
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Women do have the leverage in the dating marketplace. As I said they have far more interested suitiors. You never contested this. The thing is women use their leverage to try and date above their equal male counterpart. Instead they tend to try and date up with older, more successful men. If women were content to enter into a relationship with their male counterpart they would have much more success. Afterall, as it is mentioned often in here, only 34% of young adult women are single while 63% o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:27 AM
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Women have all the leverage when it comes to dating. They have far larger pool of interested men than vice versa. Their problem is that they have a terrible time weeding out who is interested in them for sex and who is genuinely interested in them. Additionally, women are far more picky and have all of these pre-set expectations looking for a "spark" or for the guy to entertain them. All that to say, women have a hard time finding relationships because they are interested in a much smaller perce…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:23 AM
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Men have stabdards when it comes to who they want to committ to abd build a relationship with. But as for who we want to just hsve sex with, the stabdard is much, much lower and all that really matters is that its with a woman and that they aren't butt ugly (3/10 or lower on a scale of 10)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 12:52 PM
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I've noticed that as well. There are too many women in here that reyort to responding with down votes and snark comments instead of actual dialogue. Its reminiscent of a child putting their hands over their ears and shouting they can't hear you. But I get it. Alot of the messaging here is hard to accept as a woman. They would rather live in ignorance. They aren't ready to accept some of the truths.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:44 AM
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I think men have certainly lost leverage in the sexual and dating marketplace since the invention of the internet. In general, it has become more obvious to women how many more men are interested in them, than they are interested in men. They are able to fikter themselves and get all sorts of attention on social media. At the same time, I don't think the internet is a net loss for men. In dating, sure. Other aspects of life, no. I just think men need to respond to this leverage that they have lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 02:30 PM
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