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COCKHOLM SYNDROMESanne592/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:31 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021Sanne592/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:39 PM
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DISCUSSIONSanne592/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:44 PM
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DISCUSSIONSanne592/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:45 PM
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Revisiting now, currently reading the book why does he do that. You’re right, I forgot about your comment but reading it now is so validating. I still struggle to accept that he probably indeed did it with intent. And that there was a pattern. And re-reading my own words.. ouch.. I was still minimising some things. I’m glad I wrote it down here and I’m glad you made this comment. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:47 PM
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Yeah, she’s totally badass, but she was also targeted because she was a woman who dared to work, and dared to work as a police officer. This is the world we live in. I still get mad when reading articles like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:55 AM
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So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:32 PM
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Yeah, run girl! He keeps on crossing your boundaries, do you think he’ll ever reach the end of the boundary crossing? This man is dangerous! Stay safe, remove him out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:31 PM
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I am SO fucking done with some men, damn! Dated a guy I met through OLD for a while. He confessed after 6 weeks that he wasn’t over his ex and thought we wouldn’t work out for some reasons. I move on. Just came across his NEW OLD profile. Swiped left. Missed a match! The fricking audacity of men! YOU fucking ended it, whatcha doing swiping right on me a couple weeks later? Thinking you’ll get another chance just for swiping right on me a second time? HAHAHAHA no bitch, go fuck yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:08 PM
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Be kind to yourself, you’re a human being and we feel things and sometimes we end up feeling too much for the wrong people. It indeed takes time to let go of these feelings again. Just keep ignoring him, block him, delete every trace of existence of him from your life. With time he will disappear from your thoughts and the feelings you once felt for him will seem funny. How did you ever fall for a guy who..... fill it in yourself, but at least a guy who didn’t commit his time to you. There’s alw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:18 PM
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This is not the place to come if you’re looking for an echo chamber. There’s some tough fucking love here, but lots of women here have been where you are right now, and are telling you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. I couldn’t find where people said to never post here again, if they did that’s unhelpful. I understand that what you’re going through is not easy and sometimes it’s 3 steps forward and 2 backward again, or we need to work towards an end goal in smaller steps. Just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:52 AM
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Let’s start with that anger. As long as you feel any strong emotion towards him, you’re not gonna be able to move on. What works for me is to create a scenario in my head where the other person shuts his/her mouth and listens, and you just say/scream whatever you want to them, you could even hit or stab them or whatever, in this movie you’re making in your head. It’s a save way of expressing that anger. For some people writing a letter (that you don’t send) helps too. Next, start loving yourself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:37 AM
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Therapy has been so fricking great. I'm finally able to let go, and to no longer allow all these men from the past of holding any mental space in my brain. It feels great to be able to say that they mean nothing to me anymore. Now on to better things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:50 PM
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I'm so happy for you! That sounds amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:41 PM
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This is why I have a specific account just for FDS. No LVMs from other subreddits going through my comment history and harassing me just for being on this subreddit, and I can spew my rad fem views without being banned for being on FDS. I'll just get banned for not saying what's "acceptable" in those subreddits lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:20 PM
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Hahaha It's funny cause it's true
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 03:08 PM
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When I was 13-15 years old I really looked up/idolized this man. Looking back now, it's gross, he's gross. He once made a comment about another woman peeing loudly, and jeezz did I internalize that. He also made a comment about how women's nails should always look taken care of. How TF DUDE after I've just painted some shit?!? Anyway I don't care about peeing loudly anymore. I do wonder what guys think of my nails though, but I don't paint them for them anymore. Fuck you D.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:39 PM
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Already sent her a dm yesterday! Hope she finds her way here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:18 PM
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This sub is such a great place, it also helped me open my eyes to see it for what it really was. I’m glad it helped you block him. I would hate to be regularly confronted by his ugly face, or just having to think of him. Therapy is super helpful! I just finished some EMDR related to him and it helped me to release some anger and to literally make him smaller in my head and make myself bigger/stronger. Still lots of work to do, but it’s so great to feel that it can get better. It’s hard to start …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:35 PM
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Guess that’s what I’m gonna have to call him. The hard thing about it is that, because of society’s brainwashing, I’m even struggling it to see it as rape. According to the law in my country it is not rape cause I didn’t say no or fight it, I just accepted it. It’s just that sex with a minor is punishable by law. It’s so invalidating. I told my mom and she felt so guilty. She thought he was younger, like 18 or something. I also met him through a scouting club and they all knew there so I think s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:49 PM
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So the guy I’ve been dating for the past 6 weeks broke it off cause he thought we weren’t a right match. I was a bit sad, but it’s so much easier not to get hung up on it thanks to FDS. If he really wanted to, he would’ve made it work. I deserve someone who would move mountains for me. 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:31 PM
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This comment is too low. This is not about his size, it’s about you not feeling pleasure with him. That can have tons of reasons, whatever it is address THAT instead of the size of his penis. Seriously, settle for nothing less than a man who gets his pleasure from pleasing you. Sex should NEVER be painful. And piv is overrated anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:22 PM
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I was 15 and he was 22 at the time. Am 24 now, so same. I’m still having trouble with the last part you wrote. People knew and did nothing. I still struggle telling people in real life cause I’m afraid they’ll say it was consensual. That fear is there because people at the time did nothing. It is horrible that most people don’t recognise this as grooming/wrong/not consensual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:18 PM
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My mental health improved so much when I broke up with my LVX! It’s only after that I can see 70% was because of him. I’m learning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:42 AM
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Yeah, luckily I know that now! That’s the standard I expect now, at the very least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:47 PM
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My god, this reminds me of the time I was living together with my LVM ex. Whenever I got sick I would go to my mom’s place cause she would actually take care of me, my ex would just disappear to work, not come back home as soon as he could, and when he came home would still let me cook dinner. No warming up soup for me, getting me a blanket and tissues and a kiss on my forehead. I’m grateful for my mom, who would welcome me with open arms and take care of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:38 AM
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Oh damn that’s sad, internalised misogyny is deep-rooted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:58 AM
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This was obviously a troll, just report it and don’t spend your precious energy on it xx Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:53 AM
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I am certainly looking back on my parents’ relationship with a different perspective now. My dad was such a sweet dad to me, but he was not my mom’s equal. He was stepping up to it in the last decade, but he passed away 6 years ago. Now I’m not sad for my mom, but I have so much respect for her that she did what she had to do for us. I guess it would’ve been better for her to leave him, but that’s a judgement I can’t make for her. What I can see is that she was an amazing mom who made sure we we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:23 AM
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We’ve got a show here called “worst driver of our country” where people compete to not be the worst one at the end. They’re all terrible drivers, but this show teaches them to be better drivers. The “winner” (so worst driver) gets his drivers license snipped in half and the show pays for new driving lessons so they can get their drivers license again. We need this with men and misogyny. The worst misogynist. This could be one of the challenges to get them to see and understand, hopefully educati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:17 PM
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Thanks for writing your rant. It saddens me that I recognise myself in this, but that is the sad truth of our society. Back then it felt like a compliment, now I get sick thinking back to it. I feel like we’re systematically being groomed. It took me so, so many years to see it. We’re not alone, and we’re opening our eyes. I’m glad to have my sisters here, and to know I’m not alone. I hope we’ll rise up together and take the next step, and change our society for the better. We deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:11 PM
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In my opinion, you can’t make people see it. They have to discover it themselves. If she’s unwilling to take of the blinds, you can’t rip them off for her. You probably already told her a thousand times. Just talk about how you are being treated by your dates/partner, maybe she’ll pick up on it. If she keeps talking about this subject, you can set a boundary and say something along the lines of “Carrie, I’m here for you and I want to be a good friend to you, but we continually end up on this top…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:01 PM
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Yeah as women we’re taught that our emotions should always come second, and it is taught in such a covert way. It’s so hard to realise this and counterintuitive to put our own emotions and feelings first. I totally understand how you feel. Sounds like you have a great therapist! I’m so proud of us for working on ourselves, especially since we’re doing it for US It’s been an absolute blessing finding this sub, it’s so amazing to find women who are like-minded and where you find recognition. This …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:23 PM
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I exercise too, but my therapist and I are also working on my anger through, I’m not sure if there’s a specific name for it, but EMDR and then in my mind I confront and act out all my anger on the people who angered me. It’s been really interesting up until now. When she explained to me how it worked, I was kinda weirded out. We as women are told that we should never scream, hit people or act out anger in other ways. Though you should not hit, stab, spit on, or assault people in other ways in re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:30 PM
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Block and move on!! Don’t give him the chance to gaslight or lovebomb you into staying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:38 PM
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Sorry not sorry but in my books it’s a red flag when they have young kids and are not with their baby momma. Has to be a damn good reason for that, like she has passed away or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:39 PM
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Oof it hurts reading this, cause I could’ve written this. I struggle with setting boundaries, too. However, people can TELL that you’re uncomfortable. They can see your doubt, your body language, your low-key disgust and reluctance. You did not overtly state your boundary, but you still showed how you feel about it. She still pushed it though. She still gaslit you. You say here that it’s a pattern with you and her. Recognise that. Stop putting it on you. Communication is a two way street, and sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:29 PM
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I would advice you to reconsider your friendship with her. It sounds like she’s gaslighting you. Is this really how a friend would behave? Is this how you would treat a friend? You’ve communicated your boundary. Listen to their actions when someone doesn’t respect them. I agree with you on strip clubs, I would never go there and I wouldn’t accept my boyfriend going there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:17 AM
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Good for us girl! I’m looking forward to it for the both of us! He is SO not worth it, there are men that will pamper and love the hell out of you. More importantly, we got ourselves to pamper and love the hell out of us, so we really don’t need these LVMs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:46 PM
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Same! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:31 PM
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Ugh I chatted with a guy who didn’t advertise it in his bio, but he was 23 and had an eight-months-old daughter. That was an automatic no. I was curious and asked why he wasn’t together with his baby momma. He said she kept the baby even though he didn’t want it. Yeah it, he called his daughter it. Oooh boy, block -> delete. Bye 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:46 PM
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That’s what I’ll do as soon as I have all of my stuff back! 6th of March I’ll be free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:38 PM
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Sounds like my ex! We had a company together and he’s continuing it on his own. I regularly get a text like “where’d you buy x?” “what is y?” “How do I do z?” Thanks to FDS I can see what it is he is asking from me: free labour. I don’t owe him sh*t, I’m not doing free labour for him anymore. I’m keeping it polite and tell him things like “you can google it” or “you can find your answer there”. Meanwhile I’m thinking “The AUDACITY. Why would you find it normal that you ask your EX to do free lab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:25 PM
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I was thinking today that deadbeat men should be punished instead of the woman they leave behind to be single mothers. Those man shouldn’t be allowed to remarry if they are not paying child support. Would save the next woman too, though there are always pick-me’s who will justify why her man doesn’t take care of his child from another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:48 PM
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Love yourself just enough so you won’t be too shy to be naked in front of us, but don’t love yourself so much that you know you can do better so you won’t get naked for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:14 AM
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Step 👏 up 👏 or 👏 step 👏 out 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:01 AM
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Thank you! I hope so too! Yeah that would be cool as well! Maybe I should learn to code lol. Wow that’s great! I hope you’ll succeed. Entrepreneurship is so freeing and full of opportunities to learn. Sounds like you’re making the best of the extra time we have because of lockdown :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:30 AM
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I just got a new vibrator and I can already tell ya that it’s a lot less stressful than dealing with men. Seriously, even a fwb is gonna cost you energy you could spend elsewhere. Even only the picking part is easier with a vibrator!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:37 PM
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Been single since the new year and I love it right now. Focussing on me, myself and I. Am starting therapy this Thursday for ptsd and am just 100% ready to get better. Besides therapy I am reading books from the recommended reading list and using bullet journaling to paint a picture of what I want and what I don’t want for now and the future. Am still seeing some friends, but keeping it all on the low due to Covid. It’s pretty bad in my country right now. I think it has some effect on my mental …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:21 PM
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Thanks for the reply! No system is perfect but with your creativity I’m sure you’ll come up with something that works for your family once everything is a bit more “normal” again. It sounds lovely to grow up in a home with so much time for each other and things like playing board games and sports!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:56 PM
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Love the tokens idea! Gonna try and remember that if I have kids one day. Do they work to earn the tokens or do they get a set amount of tokens per week?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:59 PM
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This content will really fit on the r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy page
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:25 PM
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If he truly cares about you, why doesn’t he put in the effort to listen to you and pay attention so he KNOWS what you like and want? It’s so easy to just give cash and let you buy something for yourself, but what does that say about his love for you? Does he know you? No. Does he care to pay attention to you? No. Does he care to spend time on getting you a gift? No. Listen to his ACTIONS girl. They are saying he doesn’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:18 PM
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3 and 4 would be a big NO for me. It sounds like you guys did not discuss number 3 beforehand and during discussion agreed to do this. Thus, it is not consensual; he did not ask for your consent. It does not matter if you are okay with it or not, honestly it sounds like you’re kinda okay-ish with it and mostly because it already happened anyway. Set your boundary, nothing new happens in the bedroom without discussing and consenting first. For the second one: first of all double standards. Second…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:16 PM
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Leftover tooth paste they don’t wash away 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:49 AM
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My brother has autistic spectrum syndrome. He lives in a healthcare facility cause he can’t take proper care of himself. Your dad is worse than my brother. I mean he doesn’t wash his hand after going to the toilet either, but it you tell him to go wash his hands with soap, he does it. (Have to be specific though, he’s autistic). He is 27 years old but you can tell him to wash his hands, stop picking his nose etc. He can even do some things on his own, now that it is routine. He brushes his teeth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:47 AM
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Cause if you wouldn’t go “be a hoe” the fuckbois have to fake a relationship to get some. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:36 AM
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Blocking vs not blocking is not about the danger of caving in or the entertainment of it. It’s about not allowing these men to take up ANY of your mental space or time. By blocking them you leave room for the important things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:02 PM
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How infuriating and sad that the last comment has to phrase everything so very careful lest they get bombarded with “you’re shaming people!!!!” comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:56 PM
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Thank you for the suggestion, that sounds like an interesting podcast and I’m gonna take some time to listen to it. I do not ask this cause I want certain people to feel a way about me, I am looking for a way to feel this way about myself. I want to focus on self-validation instead of getting validation from others. Thus I don’t really care what effect loving myself has on how others see me. If I love myself I will attract people who react positively to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:31 AM
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Thank you for your perspective. There’s a lot of information in this subreddit, and I find it easy to agree. However I struggle to recognise those things in myself and my life. You are right, this is the internalised male gaze who tells me I need to feel sexy. I enjoy feeling sexy because it makes me feel empowered and in control. I think that feeling does not match up with the reality, though. I can do other things who will actually not only make me feel empowered, but I’ll also BE empowered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:27 AM
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I just finished a work-out and I now feel powerful and strong. Normally I don’t think about how it makes me feel but because of your comment I took a bit of time to reflect on that, so thank you! I think you make a good point, I’m gonna try to shift the semantics. Powerful, beautiful, accomplished. Much easier for self-validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:23 AM
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I’d add something about porn use as a dealbreaker. It’s probably covered in the addiction rule but it’s important enough to me that I would mention it separately. I love how you phrase the working towards something stuff. I’m still in school and it feels unfair to ask my partner to have a degree and be working in the field when I am not. Though I would add something about income. He has to have or is expected to have at least as much income as I expect to have. For intelligence reasons as well I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:54 PM
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This is exactly how they started getting away with this stuff! No man stepped up and told your dad how worthless he was being, and we as girls were already conditioned to dismiss our own feelings about it; seeing how our moms had to dismiss theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:12 PM
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Another gross thing about it is how self-serving the gift was. Now she doesn’t need to nag him about it, and he doesn’t have to vacuum. It’s not like he’s gonna pick up another task, so he’s mainly saving himself time. He either doesn’t have to clean or he doesn’t have to gaslight her (as much) in doing everything for him. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:32 PM
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Right? I was cringing so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:07 PM
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My jaw was dropping to the floor while I was listening. It just got worse and worse.. 😵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:06 PM
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Not taking the initiative. We become official when his mom asked what the status on our relationship was at the EASTER BREAKFAST table. Should’ve not accepted that sh*t. Shouldn’t have slept with him before commitment. Oh hindsight.. We broke up ‘cause of his doubts about our relationship almost 5 YEARS later. What an arse, made me waste 5 years of my precious life on him. There were plenty of other red flags of course. I am just so, so, só glad to be here and to unlearn that pickme mindset than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:25 PM
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Worst case scenario you lose it all, but leaving it for at least 5 years I think you’ll be fine. I’m not sure if crypto is gonna be IT in the future, but at least in our lives it’ll continue to grow on the hope that it will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:21 AM
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I’m afraid I am verryyyy boring at the moment, I only invest in VWRL. I’ve got some shares in ishares euro aggregate bonds but I’ve come to the decision that I’m way too young to invest in bonds, especially since they’re not performing great atm so I’ll be pulling those and putting that money into VWRL as well. I’ve just gotten started and am still a student so I don’t have a lot of money to invest and thus I don’t like to spend too much time thinking about which ones I’m gonna buy. I also use D…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:09 AM
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IMO, it’s outrageous that financial literacy is not taught in school. So good job on taking steps and interest in it! The younger you start, the better, cause you have the advantage of time. FIRE stands for financial independent, retired early. There is a whole community around this, as it is not only a matter of finance but a mindset in life. For me the most important part is the FI part. Financial independence not only from other people (but which is a good first step), but also from employers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:56 PM
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Before considering how you’re gonna invest, ask yourself WHY you’re gonna invest. What’s the goal? What’s the purpose? The way you’re speaking about investment gives me the impression that you’re interested in day trading. If your goal is financial security, it may not be a good route to go with day trading, active investments, speculative investing as it is all very akin to gambling. Even if you are good at it, the costs of active investment vs passive investment is much higher. So even with go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:05 PM
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I hoped to find a lord of the flies comment, your link made it even better. Exactly how I imagine a female lord of the flies haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:49 PM
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Exactly. Plus it’s already too late to join in the GME craze, the biggest gains have already been made. WSB suggests some other stocks but they truly are not the same situation as GME is right now. Good too see other women are thinking about and setting up investment plans! It’s such an integral part of financial planning for your future. I hope women will get inspired by your post. Wow I am really struggling with posting this reaction to the correct comment lol, so sorry for all the notificatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:23 PM
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WSB is NOT good investing/financial advice. Check out the FIRE related subs for some sensible investment advice. You do not need to know everything or even a lot about investing to do it yourself, just some basics and some good strategies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:18 PM
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I have started investing this year, and have considered buying GME this week. The thing is, when I started investing I set up my strategy: buy&hold ETFs. I’ve also decided WHY that is my strategy. For one, it doesn’t cost time, energy or a lot of knowledge. Secondly, it’s a low-cost way of investing. Thirdly, although there are always risks, the risk is very small compared to active trading and speculating. Thus when I considered buying GME, I came to the conclusion that it does not fit into my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:03 PM
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Damn, buttholes? 🤮 Haven’t been on OLD since at least 2016 and never even got a dick pic sent to me. This really solidified my decision to never do OLD again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:29 PM
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Isn’t it horrible how universal women’s experiences are in this? It makes me so angry against society. At least FDS arms us with the information to demand better for ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:45 PM
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I was 15 when I “had a relationship” with a guy who was 7 years older than me. I thought he was amazing cause he had a car and a job and he’d pick me up and we’d go all kinds of places. It didn’t bother him at all to drive 30 minutes to pick me up and 30 minutes back to his mom’s house (where he still lived, cause he was a NVM obviously) and I thought that meant he must really care for me. I lost my virginity to this man. He would constantly put me down for just “being naive and dumb and young”,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:40 PM
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I’ve decided years ago to keep my own last name. Also, my children will get my last name. I’m doing the hard work getting them on this planet. I’m proud of my family and family name and I’m the only chance of passing it on for my great-grandfather’s branch, so if I have children they will get my name. If a man does not accept this, he’s not for me. I honestly think it shouldn’t even be an argument whose last name the children get. We take all the risks for bringing them into this world. That’s a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:04 PM
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Oh boy, did the ‘holes in his underwear’ trigger something. Like how hard is it to pick up some new underwear when the current stuff isn’t looking nice anymore? No, they even continue to wear it till their balls are hanging out of the holes. What the hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:06 AM
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I absolutely will, or laugh in his face. He made his choice, now he’ll have to live with it. In my eyes he’s truly an unacceptable partner for me, now and in the future. If he comes crawling back it’ll be laughable cause I already told him not to. I am happy too! It feels so liberating to decide to no longer accept a manchild as a partner, and to expect to get something out of a relationship. Saying this, it’s absolutely ridiculous that women are conditioned to be ok with not getting anything ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:54 AM
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Thank you. I think I’m going to have to come back to your words later. You probably have a point, but it’s something I don’t think I’m able to confront yet. With time I’ll find more clarity. Reading it now, more things seem abusive then they did when we were together. It really is a good thing to write this down, and I’m glad this place exists with people who give me more perspective on it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:49 AM
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Last year my BFF who may even love me more than I love myself was my Valentine. I just send out a card to ask her to be my Valentine again this year. My self-love is spending Valentine with someone who really loves me, doing stuff we both enjoy. I’m gonna bake us a cake and we’re gonna sip some wine with that while we talk the night away. 🍷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:38 PM
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I’m reading the body keeps the score (from the FDS reading list) and this is truly what happens, according to van der Kolk. It is so eye-opening to read about how trauma affects the brain. I’m so grateful I found this book through the FDS reading recommendations list. You guys are helping me deal with so much more than just guys and dating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:09 PM
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" The smallest divides are found in Sweden, Denmark and Norway, where social safety net programs provide care for children and older people. " In the countries with the smallest divide it isn't because men stepped up their game. It's because they pay other people(read:women) to do it. Women STILL do more unpaid labor in these countries. The difference isn't as big, but again, NOT because men do more. This is one of those topics that makes me so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:50 PM
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This makes so much sense. This sub is helping me so so much with setting boundaries, and mostly with being ok with setting my boundaries. I’ve stopped sitting around waiting on men to get their calendar in order. I’ll plan my week and if you haven’t thought about spending time with me ahead of time, then you don’t spend time with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:30 PM
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