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I know several thousand people in London and New York who beg to differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:39 PM
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There are many flavors of ethical non monogamy where people have different expectations about meta interactions. I practice what’s called kitchen table polyamory. All of my partners know each other and we all hangout together. I’ve met my fiancée’s boyfriends, but they don’t practice kitchen table polyamory. One of my girlfriends doesn’t date anyone else. Another practices relationship anarchy and doesn’t want me to meet her other partners. Another dates only women and they don’t want to meet me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:24 PM
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This is a weird take. Age gap relationships over 5 years in difference are relatively rare. And there are many successful ones. I will keep drumming this drum for eternity but women aren’t primarily attracted to looks in real life. Online dating allows them to be pickier on looks. But most relationships still start offline. Only about a third of marriages in the US start online. I’m in two age gap relationships which started online, are polyamorous and my girlfriends date me because they love me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:17 PM
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No. I’ve been sleeping with other women when I was on minimum wage and I will continue to do so until no one wants to sleep with me anymore. I don’t feel entitled because of my income. I’m simply polyamorous and date other polyamorous women. And I get to have as much sex as I want. In fact on many occasions I’ve had more sex than I want. And income has never had anything to do with it. Two of my current five partners are retired models. Four are in their 20’s. And I met three of them when I was …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:03 PM
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Arrest =\= prison. Also, the majority of these acts go unreported to the police. From those that do, the majority do not go to trial. From those that do, half result in convictions…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:38 PM
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As far as I can tell, the only people who face prison consequences are child predators. That’s a relatively small number of predators. And most predators don’t end up in jail. Ask the women in your life. About a third of women report having been victims of sexual harassment or assault. But research suggests that the true number is higher. In over 90% of cases the perpetrator is known to the victim and in most cases they are intimately involved. The men who do these things are not in prison for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:00 AM
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Men do not check each other. Men will let other men say and sometimes even do the most outrageous shit without passing a negative comment. And this permissive behavior as a gender allows predators to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:18 PM
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I’m happy with both questions. For women, I have been a big fan of Hypatia, Ada Lovelace, Margaret Hamilton, Esther Perel, Jacinda Ardern, etc… For men, I would go with Diogenes, Isaac Newton, Carl Jung, Robert J. Oppenheimer, Stephen Hawking, Steve Jobs, Barack Obama, etc… The sort of questions I think make sense to get to know someone aren’t about the people they admire for their ability to emulate them as role models may be limited. I would bet more on asking about their experiences and seein…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:22 PM
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How is this different for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:04 AM
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Here’s an alternative explanation: people looking for mates are trying to maximize their mate’s fitness and so as a proxy of health looks are an important maximization target. I don’t think this makes it obvious that when considering casual sex mates the same optimization targets apply. Specifically for women, we know that their preferences in men change depending on the progression of their menstrual cycle. And many women will attest that they have had regrettable interactions at certain times …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 08:12 AM
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I can’t seem to make my point. So I’m gonna try again. Firstly, this is a small study where the number of women surveyed is 69. LOL. A far cry from what one would consider necessary for a repeatable study that has applicability to the wider population. Secondly, the journal quality is suspect. It is not clear if this is peer reviewed as it’s not mentioned in any of its media. It’s self-described as a discussion companion to the parent journal. This has an H-index of 43 which is insanely low. I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:00 PM
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Relatively small study at N69 for women (LOL) It is not clear this has passed peer review as this is in Reports not the peer reviewed journal itself. Self-described as a discussion companion to CHB. H index for the journal of 43! 😂 For the parent - 302… Lead author’s H index is 1, cumulative H index of all authors is 19. This is not a serious study by serious researchers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:45 PM
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Again, looks are not a major factor in who women decide to sleep with casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:07 PM
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Like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:46 PM
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Because they are horny and they’ve found a man who seems safe enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:29 PM
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Looks are probably not the reason why women have casual sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:01 PM
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You never know. If all women were confident in expressing their sexual desires and acting on them, I’m sure many more men would get approached by women. Whether the women would match their preferences is an open question.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:59 PM
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Well, if you’re in an equitable relationship there should be no struggle to keep up. You should decide together what you can and can’t afford and act accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:20 PM
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Commensurately to income. I make roughly twice as much as my fiancée so we split bills 2:1. I pay 67% and she pays 33%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:06 PM
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Red flags are easy to spot. But we don’t weigh them all equally and often we fall into the trap of thinking they can change for us or that their behavior isn’t as bad/important enough to ruin a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:45 AM
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Historically women couldn’t own property including money and in many cases were considered property.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 09:18 AM
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Cishet: I find about 5-10% of men objectively good looking. I find about 10-20% of women objectively good looking. Attractive to me isn’t about looks because I’ve had many experiences where I was wildly attracted to women who are not objectively good looking and also dated objectively good looking women who ended up being horrible human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:30 AM
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Advertising. Women are generally not enticed by the idea of having access to a lot of men and having to interact with a lot of men. Men on the other hand are enticed by the idea of having access to and interacting with many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:22 PM
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I agree with the trusting partner bit. And I agree with these posts being sad. But the clubbing scene in the UK and the US are very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:19 PM
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Yeah but you’re in the UK and most of these people are in the states. Very different problems and cultures. I lived in NYC for 10 years and now London for 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:16 PM
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The club is a weird place to find someone better 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:14 PM
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Who is blaming them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 11:52 PM
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The heteronormative monogamy script isn’t exhausted with marriage. As mentioned previously, I don’t believe in marriage. Our polyamory is nonhierarchical and kitchen table. So actually all of my relationships deviate significantly from hetnorm mono scripts. I reject your premise based on the above - I don’t need to explain to my children that I love other people less. It’s very likely that even if these relationships end love will remain. I am still friends with most of my exes. You can still mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 10:15 AM
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You raise good points, but they are all from a very heteronormative monogamy script position. It’s not clear to me people who choose polyamory long term operate under the same constraints. My choice doesn’t depend at all on whether my other partners will provide any childcare at all. We will be honest with our children in an age appropriate way as they grow. I think when a relationship ends it’s akin to someone dying. We grieve relationships. And children are frequently exposed to the death of r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 07:49 PM
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None of my other partners want children. We love each other. And they like children. One volunteered free childcare when the time comes lol! I have multiple independent relationships with my partners. None of them date each other. But we do hang out together every now and again and they are all friendly. In essence, they are metamours and not partners to each other. So they wouldn’t have a say on my other relationships, marriage, divorce and child custody. However, they are always informed and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 07:13 PM
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It’s something I think about. The plan is that I will get two nights a week off. But that’s just a plan. One of my partners has mentioned she’s broken up with people who have children before. So that’s on my radar. But all of my partners are aware of my plans. I don’t know what will happen. Children are tough. But one of my fiancée’s boyfriends has children. And I know plenty of folks in the community who also have children. There are many blueprints to inform our approach. My first poly girlfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:31 PM
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I don’t know that I’m a good example for this. I don’t believe in marriage. I’m polyamorous and have five long term partners. My fiancée is my fiancée because we want to have children together and our families are conservative and unaware of our polyamory. So personal and relationship goals aligning for me is polyamory. And I find my partners to be very supportive of that given that we’ve been together for years and I’ve maintained an active dating life as have they.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:55 PM
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Investments come in many forms. It can be emotional support, physical support or financial support. Probably other things I can’t think of now, too. It depends on what the people need and what their goals are. I’m general and vague because people’s circumstances are unfathomable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:31 PM
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Yeah, but it’s then on women to be equally if not more selective in mate selection than men. This is why I said personal and relationship goals alignment. I meant both partners’ personal goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 06:03 PM
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I should hope so.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:27 PM
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In my view what makes a woman wife material is investment in her husband’s success. This can mean anything depending on the husband’s goals. So at a minimum there should be alignment on personal and relationship goals. But there is no specific list for what that means and this is on purpose to reflect the full spectrum of the human condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:47 PM
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For having mastered the game…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:05 PM
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What if I’m in 5 concurrent multi year relationships and continue to date casually as well? Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:48 AM
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Because they are doing it wrong? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 11:46 AM
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Women hate unsolicited objectification.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 09:00 PM
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Who is to say that only tangible resources are status? Beauty is intangible and also conveys high status.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 03:00 PM
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Not necessarily. What men consider high status isn’t the same as what women consider high status. A young beautiful woman for a middle aged or older man is a status symbol. At the same time an affluent middle aged man married to a young beautiful woman is a status symbol for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:46 PM
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Women selecting mates to enhance one’s own status?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:42 PM
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We are. I guess it should be called hyperandry though. Have you never heard of “trophy wife?”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:24 PM
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Yeah, I think it makes a lot of sense. Men practice the same thing. I don’t see it as a problem. From my perspective this is just one expression of assortative mating which we have known for decades to be the primary influence in mate selection. As women’s lot in life improves they prefer men more similar to their current situation. So naturally middle class women wouldn’t ordinarily mate with working class men. Mesalliance is a much more common phenomenon these days though. And I think it’s imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 10:07 AM
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I’ve since looked it up. But I wasn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:36 PM
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What is hypergamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 10:09 AM
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Women are MADE to feel shame. Men are excused from feeling shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 08:28 AM
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So when I was in my mid 20's I met a woman in her early 20's who was my first polyamorous girlfriend. She was born into it as her parents were swingers. But for me it was completely new and I took to it like a duck to water. It just made sense given how much of heteronormative monogamy scripting didn't connect with me. When I started my journey the community was smaller. So I was having a harder time meeting compatible women, even though it was the heyday of dating apps. Since then however, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 02:19 PM
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Can confirm. Being 5'7, my fiancée is 5'9. I have also dated a number of women 5'10 and taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 02:05 PM
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I don’t know man. I’m polyamorous, have five long term partners between 24 and 42 and based on your initial post on women sharing top men, I would fit that description. Except, I’m 5’7, bald since 16, now getting fatter and not rich by any means. So my lived experience contradicts your theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 09:06 AM
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Absolutely true boys should be taught to be better men. Absolutely bonkers that height, looks and income are the main things to focus on. Let’s put aside for a second that height isn’t something you can influence, looks are very subjective, and income only matters as much as financial preferences match. Women who are frugal wouldn’t date someone who is profligate even if they were extremely rich, for instance. The main mechanism behind mate selection is assortative mating. Within those constrain…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 08:57 AM
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Soooo close 🤏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 08:47 AM
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Happy Cake Day!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 06:41 AM
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Username checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 06:40 AM
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This post is truly insane in how it equates “don’t have to deal with dangerous partners” to “more rejection”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:43 PM
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Hard disagree. I support modern feminism. And I don’t feel belittled or lectured. I also get a lot out of feminism. Firstly, I get a lot of dates with a lot of amazing women. Secondly, I don’t need to trouble myself with outdated notions of masculinity which seem to lead to significant psychological trauma based on how other men talk about it. Thirdly, various economic benefits to having partners who are fully engaged in the workforce in impressive careers. I’ve never been told I’m part of the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:08 PM
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Looks are very subjective. I don’t think you can generalize from that. I think most women prefer to have sex with men they find attractive, but those men wouldn’t be universally found attractive by women. When it comes to kink, looks actually don’t matter at all. I matched with someone last year whose thing is to have sex with exceptionally fat, ugly and messy men. And she’s objectively very good looking. She gets off on the humiliation of doing whatever they tell her. But she despises them. Aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:55 AM
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If your opinion doesn’t change when your articulated reasoning is challenged evidentially, then it’s not based on reason, now is it…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:44 AM
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Women will often have casual sex with men they don’t think have high value. And this is often the reason why it’s only casual sex. Have you never heard of fuckbois? One of my exes was in a support group and one of the women there said that she often seeks out misogynists to have sex with because it satisfies her kinks. But she doesn’t date those men because they are vile. This is just one extreme example.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:39 AM
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You have no idea what circular reasoning means based on your use of the term. While I grant you that various things can be considered love, equality or patriarchy, sexual assault is very specific and legislated all around the world. And love, equality and patriarchy encompass tangible things we can point to specifically. Though they are many and an exhaustive list would be cumbersome to articulate. The vast majority of people don’t participate in philosophical discussions in daily conversation. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:58 PM
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Firstly, I didn’t say supermodel. My fiancée isn’t a household name. She’s done some catwalk and some TV and magazine work, but not a supermodel by any stretch. Secondly, I lived in NYC for 10 years followed by 10 years in London. If you want to believe looks are stopping you from successful dating, go right ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:40 AM
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How likely is it that I’m a special case? I don’t think it’s that likely all things considered. I’ve dated women as tall as 5’11 and as rich as self-made millionaires. And I’m neither of those things. These sort of conversations online contribute to the plight of many men who are unable to land a date or a relationship. Overall, online discourse emphasizes the wrong things and doesn’t contribute to useful personal development when it comes to mate selection. I’ve been on over 1000 first dates an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:24 AM
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Physical attractiveness isn’t as important. I’m 5’7, bald and what not. My fiancée is 5’9 and a retired Scandinavian model. If you have the key skills, things will work out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:16 AM
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Physical attractiveness isn’t as important. I’m 5’7, bald and what not. My fiancée is 5’9 and a retired Scandinavian model. If you have the key skills, things will work out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:15 AM
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Why is it unreal? It’s a few dates a week over 10 years. Anyway, check my posts and see… My point is that there are ample opportunities to showcase your relationship skills in both the digital and meat space.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:36 PM
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Bro, I’ve been on over 1000 first dates exclusively from online dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:07 PM
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Hard disagree. You show relationship skills in many contexts in life. Communication, conflict resolution, humility, empathy and collaboration are key relationship skills that are also valuable in everyday contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:42 AM
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Evolutionary history shows this doesn’t matter at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:05 AM
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Do you dress for women? I don’t. I dress so I like myself in the mirror.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 10:21 PM
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What does meaningful contribution to society look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 12:37 PM
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Who updates their FB status?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 12:34 PM
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How likely is it that I'm so unique that my experience cannot inform anyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:41 PM
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Why? I’m 5’7 and bald. I’ve been on over 1000 first dates and have had over 100 sexual partners in the last 15 years. Seems like I’m the kinda guy who would know how to transcend perceived shortcomings to be successful at dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:03 PM
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I am someone's son and I don't face the same issues that are commonly discussed here. The issues men face have a lot to do with inappropriate ideas about gender roles and relationship dynamics. And my children, though I hope they are girls, would also benefit from the same upbringing that allowed me to be successful at dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 11:03 AM
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Well, there is evidence that women prefer younger partners no less than men. I date across the age spectrum. Some of my partners now are in their mid twenties and my fiancee is in her early 40s. I have historically dated women as young as 18 and as old as mid 60's. I am in my mid to late 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 09:00 AM
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Weird that the term fuck boy literally exists to differentiate between men only good for a fuck and men good for dating / marrying.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:52 AM
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I think this might be more true for monogamous heteronormative folks. But dating sucks for them regardless of intention and approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 07:30 PM
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What does sexual too quickly mean in this context? Would a one night stand count as too quickly?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 07:23 PM
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I don’t see what the issue is. When I go out for dinner I go somewhere I want to go. My date is along for the ride. And if she’s good company that’s enough. I don’t expect to trade meals for sex. I usually cook for my second dates though. And restaurants are 3rd+ date affairs. It’s highly unlikely a woman who doesn’t want to sleep with you comes to your place, watches you cook, has a delicious meal and then decides she’s changed her mind. But of course, maybe you’re an asshole who can’t cook. In…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 08:03 AM
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Based on my experience, good looking people who are terrible humans get laid with other terrible humans. And I have no envy for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 03:14 PM
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You should feel good about yourself. Because maybe it’s true and you literally have the smallest penis she’s ever had inside her. And that can’t change now. You were inside her. That means you had other traits she found attractive enough. Penis size is super irrelevant because you can easily get a few dildos and vibrators and be the god of sex for most women most of the time. If you think your dick is your most important tool in your arsenal you’re thinking way too small. Pun only semi-intended.
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