Says_Who22 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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–	Men don't need to reveal that they plan on paternity testing. Have to admit, I wouldn’t care either way if my husband wanted to do a paternity test. Mind you, he wouldn’t then have a leg to stand on if I wanted to put a tracker on his phone, or check it randomly. But since neither of us seem to have a lack of trust in the other, none of these things have happened. At least as far as I am aware!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/23 09:19 PM
4	I really don't think it's respectable for women to have children outside of marriage You do you, but let other people do what suits them without trying to pass judgement on them. No one calls kids bastards these days, or refers to them as illegitimate, unless they are ignorant arseholes, or the kids of such people. What a child needs is a loving family, not a bit of paper to make them ‘legitimate’!	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/23 08:52 PM
1	Q4FandM : why does virginity matter or not matter to you No, imparting virtue or shame to virginity is just part of a personal belief system, and only has validity for the people that share that belief. For the rest of the world, that belief is irrelevant at best and controlling or abusive at worst.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/23 09:53 PM
2	Why don't we encourage men to stay virginal as much as we encourage women? If a man wants to marry a virgin, then he ought to be able to swear, accurately, on all he holds holy, that he is a virgin too. Because no one wants a hypocrite. Conversely, if he ain’t, he shouldn’t be worrying if she is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/23 06:49 PM
2	Non trad women, are you still expecting trad behavior from men? No. I expect him to move or help with the heavy stuff, as I am shorter and have a bad back (from a riding accident years ago). All money goes into the joint account. He tends to do the gadget stuff as he likes that. I’ll do the decorating, fence painting, gardening, organise the washing. He does the cooking, washing up, is more likely to hoover than I am. He had to do all the lawn cutting for years as he insisted on a lawn mower that I couldn’t handle due to my back - he WAS informed at the time…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/23 06:50 AM
1	Q4FandM : why does virginity matter or not matter to you No shame or virtue in it. Largely comes from patriarchal cults, but if that’s what you want, so be it. Just don’t try to force it on others, or try to parade it as a virtue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/23 06:48 PM
–	How has body count discourse affected women? I’d rather laugh than cry, so I chose to laugh at the double standards and insecurities shown up in the rants by men about the number of sexual encounters a woman have had.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/23 09:48 PM
3	Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselves My only concern about it is if a woman is brought back to a western country and is accorded less respect or less rights than a western woman because of chauvinistic behaviour. Other than that, fill your boots.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 08:06 PM
24	How many of you would reject this guy because he is redpilled? If we don’t have compatible ways of thinking, there would be no LTR. And I don’t think red pill and I would get past a first date, if we even got that far. Nice cat though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/23 08:52 AM
3	Question for women: Would you submit to a rich man? Nope. Not for any money. And bigamy is illegal where I live, thankfully. Although if a group of people chose to live together polyamorously, that’s up to them. But the power dynamics in this relationship are not for me, and I’d view your uncle as an AH if I came across him irl. So many things wrong with his behaviour!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/23 09:39 AM
1	Q4M: if a husband cheats, does that mean he doesn't love his wife? It means he doesn’t love his wife to the extent a relationship implies. You can love your family, friends, pets, whatever, but a committed relationship usually means a deeper type of love.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/23 08:17 AM
6	If expecting a woman to cook/clean because she’s a woman is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man because he’s the man be misandry? No such thing as a ‘woman’s job’ or a ‘man’s job. Just someone trying to get out of something they don’t like doing. Man or woman. And chivalry would be better replaced with consideration towards others, the same regardless of their gender.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/23 07:13 PM
20	Your wife/husband doesn’t want to do certain sexual activities that they did with the ex with you. Your response. Perhaps they felt pressured into doing things they didn’t like, but think you are a better human being who won’t ask them to go there. After all, the ex is an ex for a reason.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 01:53 PM
1	How do you all have these PurplePillDebate conversations and not get depressed/triggered? Genuine question (New Here) By picking and choosing what to bother with, by trying to offer alternative input sometimes, by not wasting too much time or effort on anyone that is just fixating on their own hang ups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 08:12 PM
1	CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn. Or, as I also said, they both put in 35k. It’s up to each couple to decide, and what sort of relationship they want. Maybe she could get a second job, but maybe he’d rather have the time together. Relationships aren’t supposed to be adversarial. If they are, or if one is thinking of the other as a leech, both parties are probably better off apart! Btw, who told you life would be fair? Can’t find it anywhere on my birth certificate. Have they changed them in the last 20 years or so? And what’s ‘f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 02:58 PM
1	CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn. Every relationship is different, and people reach different agreements on splitting money. Personally, I view being with someone as a partnership, where you each support the other. Others prefer retaining independence, rather than interdependence. And what works can change over time. It certainly has in my life. In your scenario, as long as the woman also retained money for her own use as well, then I’d see no problem with the man retaining more. It’s just his toys would be more expensive than h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/23 01:06 PM
1	CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn. I don’t understand your question. As a couple, you make sure you bring in enough between you to live, and make decisions accordingly. But if one is earning more than the other, that doesn’t give them the right to treat the other as some sort of skivvy. I suppose it depends on whether you view the other person as a partner or as an adversary.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 08:56 PM
–	CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn. I find it odd that you think that earning more money gives someone more rights in a supposed partnership. I think that behaviour is financial abuse. There is a certain amount of work required to run a home and look after children. It’s unpaid work usually, but it’s work. If one does the unpaid work, and the other goes out to earn, and the money is equally shared, that’s fair. If both work the same hours in paid work, and the unpaid work is shared equally, that’s fair. But if they are both workin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/23 09:19 AM
5	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? Hasn’t made me less trustful, as I don’t think I know anyone irl who actually believes this stuff.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 11:27 PM
13	Western men are not the problem with regards to dating issues in the west CMV Western women don’t need a visa and are obviously happy with their standard of living as is, or at least enough to prefer it to the alternatives. If western men want to head to areas with poorer standards of living to find themselves wives, and then tell themselves it’s got nothing to do with money or visa, who am I to burst their bubble?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 08:38 PM
1	Female women, do you too feel that pressure to act a certain way for men to like you? Nothing. I’m not prepared to pretend I’m something I’m not for anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 04:42 PM
1	Of the guys that you have been with, what percentage were Chads ? All	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/23 09:06 PM
1	Of the guys that you have been with, what percentage were Chads ? 0%. Don’t think they exist, and my (one and only) husband of many years definitely isn’t one, if I’ve understood the concept correctly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/23 09:23 PM
1	Does witnessing misogyny make women more cautious or compliant? I see far more misogyny online than I ever do in real life, a lot of it on Reddit. In real life, I’ll call it out. There, I know my friends, colleagues and workplace will back me. Or even the average people around me. Online, I find it harder to challenge due to the amount of hatred that spews out of people if you dare challenge their misogynistic beliefs. I mostly avoid, and scroll past. Not compliant certainly, but not willing to waste the energy or head space on these people. I do wish that b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 11:20 PM
11	It’s fair that sluts are held in contempt I take it you are also advocating that men remain virgins as a sign of respect for their future partner?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 12:06 AM
2	People dating need to be realistic with their expectations I think for women, someone who isn’t abusive, controlling or a man-child come way higher than being able to dance!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/22 08:18 AM
1	I recently saw something that made me think of the RP view that feminism is sexual strategy for women I don’t know a single woman who considers male height a sexually attractive feature. And the only way feminism is a sexual strategy for women is to assure them of the right to the same sexual freedom as men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/22 09:38 AM
1	Does giving women less attention work? Works both ways. Are you happy if she says she has something else going on and says she’ll meet up with you another time? Does it make you more interested, or frustrated, just feel like you are equally grown up with your own stuff to do?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 10:40 PM
0	Do you think some women are against sex work because it takes away a lot of their power over men? I don’t like sex work where the women are exploited by someone, or are in danger from someone, or where women have to do it, against their will, because it is the only avenue open to them to make a living. Conversely, if a women wants to go that route as a way to make a living and has absolutely free choice, good luck to her and I back her all the way. Needless to say, where I’ve used ‘woman’ I mean any and all genders, because the same applies across the board, as far as I am concerned.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 09:19 PM
2	in your opinion is it ok to dump good partner for a better one? No. Someone who thinks of a partner as something that can be ‘upgraded’ is treating a person as a thing and needs to take a long hard look at themselves. Cos at the moment, they aren’t good enough for their current ‘partner’.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/22 07:38 PM
3	People who knowingly have sex married people, how much backlash do they actually deserve? Someone who knowingly has sex with a married person does deserve backlash, same as the married participant. Both parties show a distinct lack of morals. If they don’t know, or are raped, completely different matter. And ‘sexual coercion’ sounds like rape to me! Forcing someone to have sex with you against their will? That’s rape.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/22 09:14 AM
6	Women, why do you want to work? This blog basically says women control more of the spending power because they’ve gone out and got degrees, MBAs and jobs. Not that they’ve received a fair income for looking after the home. Anecdotally, the women in my own family who have stayed at home have received less of the disposable income than the man. So certainly a reasonable incentive for going out to work. The cornerstone of peoples marriage arrangement is whatever they want it to be. In our case, love, respect and mutual support. A…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 11:13 PM
5	Women, why do you want to work? Really? And your source for that is?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 10:38 PM
13	Women, why do you want to work? At least the crappy job is paid. Keeping a house in order is still work, but is usually unpaid and undervalued. Would the hypothetical ‘provider’ be willing to hand over half their wages to pay me for my work? Probably not. I’ll stick with the crappy job, independent income, other adults to talk with, sense of self worth, long term financial stability … The list goes on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 10:23 PM
2	If you were to live with a boyfriend or husband who earns significantly more than you, how would you feel about splitting living expenses 50/50? Before kids, we both paid the same amount into a joint account that was used to cover all our joint expenses. What we each had left over was our own to do with as we pleased. Sometimes he earnt more, some years I earnt more. Obviously our salaries were pretty much the same, so it worked. However, if one of us had been in a low paid job, I hope we would have done things differently. Think £15k & £45k. I would hope that whoever the higher earner was would realise that they should contribute more. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/22 06:44 PM