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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | Got this gem from a guy I used to see in college(my 19-year-old pickme era)For anyone curious, yes, he’s been blocked. Cannot believe I ever gave him the time of day at 19. This is why learning to value yourself is so important! 24-year-old me could never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Got this gem from a guy I used to see in college(my 19-year-old pickme era)I feel so unbelievably horrible for any woman who is dating him lol. He’s messaging me on snap bc I blocked his phone, he’s sure as hell blocked on snap now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:52 PM |
| 78 | Got this gem from a guy I used to see in college(my 19-year-old pickme era)That’s why he’s getting blocked lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:16 PM |
| 165 | Got this gem from a guy I used to see in college(my 19-year-old pickme era)This message was the first thing I read and damned if it didn’t wake me up. Unluckily for him I actually care about my fellow woman and ... don’t wanna see anyone put down? Shocker! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:11 PM |
| 16 | Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with her, and how to train your brain to fall out of love (hint: block and delete scientifically works!)This was a great post! Thanks for citing your sources. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:37 AM |
| 115 | FDS will be increasing the amount of low quality memes/videos we remove at our discretionOh my god, thank you. I have seriously stopped visiting this sub as much in the past few months due to the sheer volume of reposts from Twitter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:29 AM |
| 9 | OP catches her 15 year old brother masturbating in her panties, wonders if she should tell her parents, comments say no and that it’s not a big deal.That entire thread is an abomination, acting as it 15 is not old enough to have conscious decision-making skills. WTF. This is why we have pornsick man-children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:42 PM |
| 46 | Why Does it Always Feel Like Men are Coercing Me to Have Sex..Because most of them are. Put some boundaries up. Stop allowing that behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:57 PM |
| 47 | Why is it so hard for men to show interest in you and hold a proper conversation?!The answer is much shorter and simpler than you want it to be: If he wanted to, he would. Write that down. Think about it. If. He. Wanted. To. He. Would. Men who breadcrumb you along or don’t listen to what you have to say are just using you. A man who is truly interested in you will not do that. So stop overanalyzing it. It’s not worth your time. There is no hidden meaning, he’s just a dick and he doesn’t like you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:42 PM |
| 23 | Bf only does quickiesOh, absolutely not. No. He is using you as a flashlight. If he treats you like this during sex (putting limits up, not giving you what you need), how does that translate to the rest of your relationship! NO ‼️‼️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:39 PM |
| 94 | Has anyone just lost faith in men altogether?You should be coming from a place of personal abundance rather than a scarcity mentality, or fixating on the idea that you will always be disappointed or let down. OK, so HVM are few and far between. You will be let down a lot. You will need to keep your guard up. So what? People are disappointing, regardless of gender (though men are ... especially so). Jobs are disappointing. Hobbies are disappointing. What matters is that after disappointment, you are able to look inside yourself and know tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:37 PM |
| 18 | The trash always takes itself out eventually.“Jeremy previously denied the allegations through his lawyer Stuart Goldfarb. Jeremy was arrested Tuesday and has had an initial court appearance. Prosecutors allege Jeremy raped a 25-year-old woman at a West Hollywood home in May 2014, sexually assaulted a 33-year-old woman and a 46-year-old woman in separate incidents at a West Hollywood bar in 2017, and raped a 30-year-old woman at the same bar in July of last year. If convicted of all the counts he could face 90 years in prison. Los Angeles … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 10:11 PM |
| 38 | Married to a man who won't do any housework...Lesson here is: Don’t date men who were over-mothered. If he’s had one woman cleaning up after him his whole life, he’ll expect you to follow suit. Don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 12:38 AM |
| 201 | Giga Pickme gets fatass husband to lose weight by rewarding him with anal and blowjobs. Can’t make this shit up.Imagine having to bribe someone to care about themselves. Jesus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 03:56 AM |
| 6 | In the words of someone who quote tweeted this tweet, “I’ll separate the ocean by hydrogen and oxygen before I ever do some dizzy shit like this.”Original Tweet 🥴🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 03:34 AM |
| 42 | Why do I do this to myself?Your other mistake is texting paragraphs. LVM literally do not give a shit. If he had wanted to make time for you, he would have. Letting him know that he got under your skin just gives him more power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:34 AM |
| 122 | Marriage for the vast majority of women has historically been indentured servitude or outright slavery. Men who think they’re “scaring” us by saying we’ll end up alone....So...what? You think you’re threatening us by offering NOT slavery?🤔Not spending the bulk of my life picking up your dirty laundry, putting down the fucking toilet seat and being expected to give you blowjobs after you game for 16 hours? Sign me the fuck up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:32 AM |
| 31 | If you "aren't sure" if you should text him, READ this before you impulsively text him back. A step-by-step guide to deciding to text back or need strength to adhere to FDS principles...I like this, but I also think many women are confused nowadays about how much you “should” to be texting. The need I have noticed among millennial and Gen Z women to constantly be connected to someone via text is somewhat ridiculous. Aside from setting up plans / checking in on you which are GIVENS and should NEVER be compromised for, ask yourself why it is that you feel that need to be connected with inane texts during the day. It is probably stemming from another insecurity about the relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:24 PM |
| 26 | My aunt pretends she can't cook so all the men in her life do it for herI think it’s great, because it gives them a chance to provide. I wouldn’t necessarily be dishonest and say you can’t cook outright, though. What I do with my SO is say I don’t know how to make a certain thing, and he LEAPS at the chance to do it for me/“show me” how to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 12:39 AM |
| 51 | How do you strike a balance between being sweet and remaining mysterious?It’s such a myth that women cannot be polite and mysterious at the same time. Saying no to plans, taking a while to text back and expressing your dislikes do not make you suddenly not a sweet person. They make you someone with boundaries. You can still be kind to waiters, puppies and children around him without acting like a pushover or a giggly teenager. Guys don’t think like we do. If you say, “Sorry, I can’t this week. I’m busy! Try me next week,” I guarantee you his thought is not going to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 12:37 AM |
| 81 | “We’re not rewarding minimal effort.” Tik Tok is pleasantly surprise meI also like how the text on the video is designed to reel in the PickMe’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 08:24 PM |
| 67 | “We’re not rewarding minimal effort.” Tik Tok is pleasantly surprise me“It’S HaTe TaRGeTed ToWaRD MeN” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 08:22 PM |
| 86 | Unbelievable, next-level Pickmeisha whose husband only chose her after he became paraplegicMy thoughts exactly, looks like a total frat boy. Once he realized no one would be around to care for him after his accident — which, don’t get me wrong, is terrible — he literally chose her from the sidelines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:17 AM |
| 29 | No More OLD For MeHonestly, what’s the point in responding to people who are so ... impolite? I get that it can be fun to make a dig at their expense, but if you’re responding, most men view it as you flirting right back. You’re just encouraging it. Why not just move on to the next? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 06:49 AM |
| 3 | Is it okay to be completely in love with someone who probably doesn’t feel the same to you as long as you don’t talk to him anymore and is giving nothing to him?It’s OK to have feelings. It’s human. But feelings aren’t facts. I am sorry you feel this way, because it sucks. Time WILL heal. Focus on yourself and your own growth. Learn something new. Above all, don’t be mad at yourself for having feelings — but don’t let them rule you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 07:48 PM |
| 99 | This is why I’ll never marry a man who doesn’t cook or clean. Not only do they need to be taken care of like a child, they will actively undermine your efforts to raise your sons to be better.Women who talk about having to “train” men make me want to vomit. Men are not stupid. We love to depict them as hapless babies so it’s not as disappointing when they can’t do the bare minimum. My SO washes all the dishes every time we cook without asking, no matter how much he contributed to cooking. He will physically take dishes out of my hands if I try to wash them. Men aren’t stupid or in need of training, some are just lazy and get away with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 07:39 PM |
| 3 | My long ago fuckboy texted me last weekend with his coviditude penis at the wheel. I had a little laugh about it, thought you ladies might too! He hasn’t talked to me in 6 months. DW he’s been blocked!Girl, why are you even responding?! Good job blocking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 11:25 AM |
| 4 | Stop praising decent human behavior as “HVM.” Seriously.PMing you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 11:11 AM |
| 119 | Stop praising decent human behavior as “HVM.” Seriously.Exactly, well-phrased. Sometimes men are just ... OK. Not everyone is either evil or a prince. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 05:17 AM |
| 27 | HVMs won't ever tell you to shut up <3I’m sorry but the bar is literally on the floor. I love this sub but lately, it seems more and more like the upvoted posts are praising the absolute bare minimum. If my boyfriend EVER said something that even remotely sounded like telling me to shut up, I would legitimately dump him on the spot. If you cannot bear to listen to your partner speak, that is a sign something is not right. It’s not “oh the honeymoon phase is over.” We need to realize that we set the bar. If we praise men for things l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 07:16 AM |
| 43 | FDS philosophy on blowjobs (in the context of relationships)?I would sincerely hope that you have already thoroughly vetted someone in many ways, including personal hygiene, before you put their dick in your mouth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 04:28 AM |
| 98 | FDS philosophy on blowjobs (in the context of relationships)?I don’t see a problem with oral as long it’s reciprocal and respectful. There is a massive difference, as you’ve noted in your post, from him begging you to suck his dick and shoving your head down while you’re down there, and oral being something you offer up occasionally when you feel like it. You can tell a lot from how he interacts with you when you’re down there. In terms of reciprocity — if he’s not giving you head without you asking, you shouldn’t be doing it for him. Or dating him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 04:15 AM |
| 14 | How do you politely reject a guySay “No thanks” and block him. You are not obligated to be friends with anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 12:08 AM |
| 16 | Advice on Marriage To Young Ladies ✨Exactly!! We are not the delicate, hysteria-prone beings we were portrayed as. No one “needs” a man. It’s merely a nice addition to one’s life if he’s not a complete fuckboy idiot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 09:12 PM |
| 49 | Advice on Marriage To Young Ladies ✨This was written by a suffragette in 1918. Just a reminder that it’s easy to look at the past through rose-colored glasses... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 07:32 PM |
| 15 | How can i get over my LVM ex?When you think you aren’t good enough, men can tell. I don’t want to blame you because a HVM / someone you want to date will NOT be a cheater but I’m going to give you some tough love. NEVER let the idea that you are not good enough for someone into your head because you will start to believe it and so will he. He’ll start thinking he’s gods gift to women and that he can find a “better” option. You are the prize. You are not the second choice. In terms of getting over it: block. delete. unfriend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:15 AM |
| 5 | Marry a man you'd be happy for your sons to turn out likeSeriously. I like the message but I rolled my eyes as soon as I saw her trademark style. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 09:02 PM |
| 108 | Last week I went on a date with a 26 y/o man who said he never wants to get married so that other married men will be jealous of him 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️Translation: I am a man child who wants to fuck around in my 20s until I realize there will be no one around to wash my shrunken dick when I’m 90, at which point I will choose the pickmeisha who has been hovering on the sidelines since college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:55 PM |
| 58 | HVM don't begrudge women for screening men. They understand why we need to do it.YES. HVM like women who are high-maintenance because that actually translates into being someone who cares about their personal hygiene and appearance, is usually highly successful and motivated in the workplace and in personal hobbies, and is usually one step ahead of them intellectually at all times. And, shocker, men actually like to provide and take care of you in a way that meets your “high” standards. Men. Like. To be. Challenged. This is a fact of life. HVM will want to fight to be the on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:52 PM |
| 22 | Dress Code for a HVW?This is a silly question IMO. In ANY situation — be it workplace, friendships, dating — you will be taken more seriously if you look put together. This doesn’t mean you have to wear the latest designer everything, but the idea of “low effort” doesn’t sound like the path toward being a HVW to me. I wear pretty subdued clothing but I always look polished and professional. Key is to have lots of neutrals in your wardrobe. My “uniform” is neutral top / sweater, well-fitting black jeans, boots. So it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 03:19 AM |
| 1 | I think I(25F) scared him(29M) away by setting a boundaryI mean exactly what I said. You’re making excuses to still have him in your life when you don’t owe him friendship. Ditch him and work on you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 06:54 PM |
| 1 | I think I(25F) scared him(29M) away by setting a boundaryThis is literally just an excuse. You can be cordial to him without being friends. You owe him absolutely nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 04:53 PM |
| 13 | I think I(25F) scared him(29M) away by setting a boundaryGirl, no! Love yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 11:15 AM |
| 17 | I think I(25F) scared him(29M) away by setting a boundaryAll you need to do is look at your title. If you scared him away by setting a boundary, he was not worth it to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 05:27 AM |
| 21 | If you agree to have a casual sexual relationship with a man, he will NEVER see you more than a sex partner. No matter how "cute" or "romantic" he seems to be. When he gets tired of you, he'll discard you ASAP. His feelings will NEVER change.I did this to myself once in my late college years and ... never again. It is amazing to me how otherwise smart, competent and incredible women can convince themselves that if they repress enough of their natural emotions and biology, you’ll win him over. It hurts and it’s hard — but KICK HIM TO THE CURB like he has already emotionally done to you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 05:22 AM |
| 9 | Am I taking FDS too far? Can’t get attached to my HV boyfriend of over a yearI wish you could emphasize posts on reddit. This is exactly what happened to me. The only guy I ever had feelings for besides my current BF treated me like a disposable item and I CRAVED it. It sucks but I think we’re both experiencing the remnants of a pre-FDS life. Until he shows you otherwise, he seems like a genuine guy. Some people are just kind for the sake of it and while it’s important to be wary, try to believe what he is showing you. I literally had to train myself to get turned on by … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 03:18 AM |
| 12 | Am I taking FDS too far? Can’t get attached to my HV boyfriend of over a yearI struggled with the same thing with my boyfriend at first. Are you having trouble accepting the affection you deserve? That’s what I used to be like before FDS and I STILL struggle with it sometimes! Niceness literally turned me off and I had no attraction toward men who treated me well. Even if you have all the right FDS scripts in your head, this way of thinking can still be innate if you’ve lived with it for a while. There also just might be no chemistry. Just because he’s good on paper does… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 02:44 AM |
| 23 | Make and maintain friendships while being in a relationship ladies! Don’t be like this girl :(Girl, I’m with you. Due to my childhood making friends has always been super hard. But this year I stopped trying to strategize how to best make friends and just went “fuck it.” Now I talk to new people all the time, grab lunch with whoever I can even if I barely know them or they’re just a mutual friend ... and it’s life-changing! I know it’s easier said than done and I hope therapy helps you, but you can do it love! 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 02:17 AM |
| 7 | Finally, some somewhat wise words from r/dating...! ! ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 07:29 AM |
| 15 | Finally, some somewhat wise words from r/dating...She has made some edits since I posted that are very pick-me after receiving some criticism in the comments. Don’t. Apologize. For being. Harsh! 📢📢📢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:39 AM |
| 12 | I've been awakened!You are absolutely not alone! I let a guy do this to me when I was 19 or so (only 3 years or so ago...) Same shit ... college grad but lived with his parents, told me I wouldn’t want to meet his friends because I “wouldn’t like them,” wanted me to blow him in the back of his car after every date. And yet, my Pickmeisha ass hung on for 3 months or so. And I wasn’t even the one to end it! He hit me with the “I don’t think either one of us are looking for a relationship right now...” I was devastat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 03:23 AM |
| 20 | New Year's Resolution : Drop your pickmeisha friends.Last week, one of my friends was whining about how her boyfriend — who lives out of state for school and had just returned — would not come visit her or put down his video game long enough to call her. My mouth was practically agape. Then a week later, she was at her boyfriend’s house sitting around while he gamed and waiting for him to pay attention to her!! The sad part is sometimes her dedication to her BF makes me wonder if I should be more lax with my expectations ... which is why your post… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 06:10 PM |
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