ScheherazadeArtemis Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
142	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me	#HeAin'tTheOne2021	ScheherazadeArtemis	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/09/21 09:55 PM

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82	As a psychologist, I think something we need to do is stop using men’s mental health as an excuse for their asshole/disrespectful behavior I also have ADHD and I am a straight woman but it has never crossed my mind to stalk someone that I find attractive... Like having ADHD doesn't have anything to do with stalking people! You're so right about men taking one diagnosis (which most of the time isn't even real, just something they made up) to excuse their terrible behavior. Not to mention that he "somehow doesn't remember" any of his bad behavior... Like that's definitely a lie and a way to continue to manipulate and gaslight his wif…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/22 06:44 PM
6	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me So I've never gone shooting and I don't know much about guns or ammo so this really puts it into perspective and I thank you! I assume he bought either ridiculously expensive ammo, lied, or who knows what else since he said that it was only him and one other friend. I'm still in shock at how he supposedly saw me as his future and all that but when it came to finances, he would only treat himself and give me the leftovers. I'm not expecting him to spend all his money on me but he barely did nice …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 01:31 PM
16	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Honestly though, he had no empathy or compassion. What he did was incredibly cruel and I'm pretty sure he did it on purpose too.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 01:28 PM
2	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Why are there so many of them in the world?? Anyway, I'm glad that we are both out of the situation and moving forward! It's hard but we will get through this together and we will become stronger, better people :) I hope that you're doing well and if you ever want to talk, my DM's are open!! <3	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 01:02 PM
5	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Exactly! And congrats on pursuing your dreams! I know engineering can be hard :) if you don't mind me asking, what type of engineering are you pursuing? Also, I'm not judging anyone for failing a class. It's just that if you fail, I would expect that you reflect on that semester to identify the root of the issues so that you can correct them and succeed in the future. Instead, he just blamed someone else (the teacher, the curriculum, who knows) and expected that if he just does the same thing, h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:49 PM
9	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Sure! It has since grown as I continue to reflect and recognize the terrible things I endured. I'm just going to straight copy paste it below: He listened too much to other people He cared too much about what other people think, particularly his family He was not ambitious He was not supportive of my ambition and my studying Trump supporter Close minded about my interests and did not support them Relationship felt one sided at times --> like I was always apologizing and always to blame Did not l…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:43 PM
3	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Thank you so much! I appreciate the encouragement and kind words <3 It's like I'm coming out of this fog honestly. Like I'm seeing all these terrible things that I missed and realizing all the ways he manipulated me and treated me poorly and any desire I had to try and message him or associate with him in any way just disappears. This entire saga has been so draining and I'm so glad that I can move on with my life and just improve myself and accomplish my goals :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:30 PM
6	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me I watched the video and it really helped! I've also been doing some guided meditation and hypnosis focused on letting go which has been incredibly helpful as well. Even though I still get these intrusive thoughts, I'm feeling better about my future and I'm trying to focus on building it :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:23 PM
12	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Yes, I've definitely started to realize that this is all one big game to him and he's getting some sick, twisted enjoyment from the mind games with me. The constant dragging back and forth and the constant switching between what he wants is all a big play so that he can feel in control and powerful. Men like this disgust me and now that I've realized that this is how he is, I'm starting to feel much better. I'm pretty sure he had a lot of pent up anger that I'm "doing better in life" (even thoug…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:22 PM
5	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Thank you so much and I love you too <3 I appreciate you so much!! I think that sometimes I struggle to realize how much I've accomplished and how much I bring to the table so I've been reflecting and reminding myself of it. Your comment also made me laugh! Because being honest, there's a very real chance that he does fail a fourth time. For context, he had to transfer out of a decent university to a less prestigious one because of his grades (he was on academic probation for 3 semesters!!) and …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:19 PM
10	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me There were so many red flags that I brushed off :( I wish that I hadn't but I wasn't vetting like I was supposed to which is why I'm going to take time to reread the handbook. Also it's hilarious how this guy constantly bragged about his rich family and how rich he was (he was casually buying boats and cars for literally no reason) but it's too expensive to buy beef instead of chicken. Like that's ridiculous... He really did the bare minimum for me, if not less, financially and emotionally.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:13 PM
6	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me I'm sorry that you had to date an LVM just like this one for 3 years :( I'm so proud of you though for getting past it! I'm just trying to focus on myself and improving myself :) I think taking time for myself to reflect, grow, and become a stronger, better person will be incredibly helpful. And you're right - I'm glad that he broke up with me now before wasting more of my time and doing it at a point where it would have been harder to recover.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 12:10 PM
16	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Pigs are cute whereas he wasn't :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 11:57 AM
42	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me Oh he definitely did! In fact, it was probably his LVM friends who instructed him to do it. After all, they were the ones that told him to break up with me so he was just following their directions. I've realized that he really had no self esteem which is why he always listened to his loser friends and let them make decisions for him. You're completely right though! They think that lying and manipulating us is some kind of accomplishment but the only reason it works is because we're too empathet…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 11:56 AM
15	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me He honestly probably did it because he knew that if he tries to get laid using OLD, he'll only get one match every 6 months 🤡	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 11:53 AM
11	Realizations from an LVM Dumping Me I just wanted to say thank you to all of you ladies! I woke up this morning feeling unfocused and a bit lost so of course I came to FDS to get the guidance I need to feel refreshed for my day. Seeing all of your comments just warmed my heart, made me laugh, and reaffirmed that this guy is a loser and that I deserve so much better. You all are so kind, witty, intelligent, and passionate and all of you inspire me :) Thank you ❤️ Edit: I'm sorry for the slow replies as well! I have mostly been lurk…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 11:52 AM