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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond	Basic Question	SchulteA	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 04:42 PM

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3	How long do you work at it? Ok dude this is what I figured out after leaving mine. Date nights cant just be date nights, they need to be dates like you would take a woman you just met or you are just newly seeing. Lots of sappy shit touchy feely shit that you are probably sick of doing by now. The other thing was stop using phrases like ,you said, you did, she said, she did. Replace them with I. I said ,I did, I feel, I understand. Do not blame her instead look at your self. Fix you as you will never ever change her, only …	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/19 02:25 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Guess what two days after I posted this she flew off the handle again came home to her drinkin and she ended up spending the weekend in jail on domestic charges . So kitten theory confirmed.	/r/askMRP	13/06/19 03:28 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Alright guys I need another Ass kicking. Spouse knows that I'm out and we are getting a divorce. At this point I know it does not really matter. However her response is basically to behave like an angel. Hasn't touched the booze and has actually been helpful in the remodeling of the house. Even cooking cleaning and fucking. So question is. Is this a damn crazy chick trick to play nice get me to call off the divorce and then she goes back to her old shit or do you think she got the message to get…	/r/askMRP	25/05/19 09:33 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond So update i got that test check it turns out they are on the lower end of the spectrum not zero just lower end so we are gonna go do a bit of test injections get them. back up to a good level. While low test may be cause for some issues like not engaging sex as often as possible or not being as attentive. I still do not find the actions that where taken on her part to be a justified response. She is served tomorrow. I really hope that things can be maintained civil wish me luck	/r/askMRP	23/05/19 01:45 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Listen fuck stain I didn't know it happened until it was said and done, and I had now way to prove it was happening until that time. Again we are talking about two weeks ago and shits already in order to get it delt with. What are ya gonna do beat her ass after you find out? The only thing you can do is tell her its unacceptable ask her to check into rehab and prevent the situation from happening again.	/r/askMRP	16/05/19 10:14 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond So at this point I'm waiting for her to be served. Difficult for sure as she is playing very nice still drinking but playing nice cooking dinners cleaning house and making lunches. This tends to cycle apology and make things good phase is followed my tension building ( usually induced by achool), then back to another incident. This cycle has been repetitive and continues to escalate on each occasion. I know that I can not allow the cycle to endanger my boys as annoying as it is I can handle it b…	/r/askMRP	16/05/19 11:53 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond I can see that played similarly in this situation. However I do not do the gaming. Not that I dont play them but let's just say I have old outdated systems that really only get played by the kids and dad joins occasionally. As far as making myself unattractive I can see that nagging her to stop the booze could do that, and I have talked to her about the drinking on several occasions. Physically unattractive though I dont think so she has stated that she feels inferior when naked next to me or ev…	/r/askMRP	16/05/19 11:47 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Unfortunately she has refused to accept any help like that	/r/askMRP	15/05/19 05:06 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Attorney believes I have a good case and that there is a good chance if me gaining custody of the boys.	/r/askMRP	15/05/19 03:08 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Ok so first off I dont buy the whole she drinks because of me shit. Not in my situation or in yours. People dont make you do anything your choice is your choice. However I can say that the story there sounds familiar. It's all excuses. I married a drunk cause I was a drunk. I got my shit together after kids and she didnt now I live with a pickled 14 year old mindset. My fault stupid decision during stupid time.	/r/askMRP	15/05/19 02:01 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Alright gents things are in order I just finished getting all of my documentation organized video and audio organized and typed up real nice for the attorney. I finished that on Friday last week asked her one last time to attend rehab told her she needed to quit for herself and commit to getting it done as of Monday (she works nights weekends as an er nurse) she has declined to seek professional help. Tha is to this group and help from my personal therapist I know that tomorrow has to be the day…	/r/askMRP	15/05/19 01:58 AM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Alright in have audio booked most of the reading materials listened to two of them already and i just ordered hard copies as well so I can pick through them	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 09:03 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Excellent thank you	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 09:01 PM
2	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Please explain the stay plan is the same as the go plan	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 07:25 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Thanks for the pointers gents time for a gut check	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 07:19 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Yall think that the work to improve can actually fix the marriage? Or is it wasted on her and just improve for the next chapter in life? Enforce unenforceable boundaries, or realize you created un enforceable boundaries create realistic ones and try again?	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 07:17 PM
2	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond I could go into a big long rant of details however I figured yall didnt wanna hear a bitch session. Let's just go for things I can do and steps to take to improve a situation where Alpha has let his shit go unchecked and needs to get his head out. Really I cam see that it's my shit. Not setting boundaries not enforcing boundaries.	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 06:58 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Abbreviations are killing me guys what is trm? Wisn = when I say no I feel guilt	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 06:54 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond This is exactly what I was looking for!	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 06:48 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond I am reading that one right now	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 06:25 PM
2	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond I need to study on the DEER/JADE what resources go into explaining these? I have not contacted alanon. I would really like to find a mens group similar to this in the Texas panhandle if you know of one or how to find one please let me know. I am getting that counselors are not going to work because the suggestions are made from the therapist and therefore are not considered relevant because I didn't present them he did. I have been to a therapist through the veteran affairs for many years dealin…	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 06:11 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Ok so i have been documenting thing as suggested by an attorney and i have a significant amount of evidence to provide an attorney after that it's on a judge. I do have achool in the house as I will have a burbon at night before going to bed. I understand this is not optimal Finances are split directly down the middle and paid from a mutual account But going to marriage counseling serves the female frame. Do you understand the concepts of shit/comfort/fitness testing enough (hit the sidebar) to …	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:57 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Any advice on that would be greatly appreciated	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:41 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Thank you, I admit that my boundries have been weak and unenforceable. I am currently working on how to properly set them	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:40 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Thank you sir, i have been thinking about that very scenario. I suggested that she check into rehab if she wanted to continue the relationship. Told her it's her call and that I expected to hear what she decided. She has refused to commit to professional help yet again. I see this leaves me no choice but to protect my boys and go file.	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:36 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Yes I would have to agree, you can't make someone get help, which answers the other issues as well. The sessions have been nothing but a point of contention anyway. The driving while drinking is the first incident that she openly admitted to. Like I have said I am VERY new to this entire approach. I also understand that just by putting up with this shit as long as I have is a problem. Every one of the books I have been reading point to the only option would be cut out a toxic relationship and mo…	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:31 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Do tell I want to hear what I'm fucking up	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:09 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond Copy that	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:06 PM
5	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond This took place last week. As a result I have contacted an attorney got together a file of evidence proving her endangerment and have it and the retainer ready to deliver to the attorney. The even took place when I told her we needed to get out shit together and cut the drinking out her response was to drink the remaining six beers she had and then drive to the store to buy more. This is my line. I do not see that being something that can be overlooked.	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 05:05 PM
1	When to cut losses, how healthy Male would respond I do not know how to find said side bar I'm new to reddit as you can tell from my shit format in the post. Can you show me how or give a link	/r/askMRP	14/05/19 04:54 PM