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| 5 | There aren’t really that many opportunities to meet people in 2025Women certainly won't put the effort in especially, if she wouldn't date you herself, she will not attempt to help you date any other woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 09:33 PM |
| 11 | There aren’t really that many opportunities to meet people in 2025Not in this generation (think 19-28), doesn't happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 01:03 PM |
| 2 | Fix for dating and loneliness lies in valuing happy singledom (mostly for men)To agree with you I'd have to deny the evidence of my own eyes and years of observations. It is quite clear and open that women have a much better time being single than men do, and it's not even close. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/25 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Fix for dating and loneliness lies in valuing happy singledom (mostly for men)Have to disagree with you here, I have seen this to be the case with many women I know. They deeply enjoy the easy access to sex and relationships they have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/25 08:55 PM |
| 8 | Being unable to hold a conversation on a date is not a gendered issue. It’s an effort issue.Indeed the case. I have seen so many situations where the mans height made up for a total lack of personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 09:40 AM |
| 12 | If every average man dropped out of the dating market it would not affect women one bit. Their dating problems are entirely based on the behaviour of top tier menVery much this. I have spoken to a few young women at work about their experiences on tinder. They absolutely love how much attention they get, and the variety and choice, it's like looking into the 9th circle of hell. They all believed that the number of likes they had on tinder from all the thirsty men meant that they were extremely attractive (they were not) and that this perceived value translated to real life. They had no qualms whatsoever trashing the average man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/25 09:35 PM |
| 8 | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.Second this. I cannot stand the gaslighting. Everything that I have ever seen make the difference was the mans height, face or build. Hobbies have nothing to do with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/25 06:51 AM |
| 3 | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.This, looking your best is priority 1. All else in dating flows from that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/25 06:30 AM |
| 29 | Women complaining from not getting approached anymoreLast one is a killer for many I think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 09:34 AM |
| 4 | Pro porn rant part 1: introThe people here ain't, this is reddit. A considerable portion of the audience is children, these people do not care about that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Men are shamed for basically having sexual desiresIndeed, more and more I see online and real life blur together, especially when it comes to dating. If anything, online is becoming "real life", the connections are being established there. I see it more and more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 11:01 PM |
| 3 | If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back?Always thought this as well, there almost certainly is someone who is an excellent match. But life is not fair, the odds of meeting this person are very slim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 11:09 PM |
| 5 | Most women make it incredibly difficult for men to meet and connect with them these daysI'm not crying about it but yes that is largely the case, almost universally they have this dead-eyed look on their face that barely seems to express anything at all. It's shocking when a girl smiles at me, I often don't have a spontaneous reaction to smile back because it is so uncommon. As you say the vibe is "leave me the fuck alone", too much true crime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 11:49 PM |
| 12 | Why do people say Tinder doesn’t work? It’s just an interface that mirrors real life dating preferencesNot quite like real life. The algorithm is basically like skill based matchmaking in video games but in reverse. It endlessly boosts popularity, resulting in a tiny percentage of men having basically all of the choice and options on tinder while the majority of men have little to none. The gender skew makes it even worse and amplifies all the things you talked about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 11:58 PM |
| 4 | Skill in dating, as a man, is similar to professional sports.Very true, and it starts up a positive feedback loop as well which is very important. Despite recent criticisms, looksmaxxing (Lifting, skincare, haircut, fashion etc.) is the most effective way to combat lack of success with women. It's just that some people went beyond what was necessary and gave it a bad rap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 10:50 AM |
| 12 | Skill in dating, as a man, is similar to professional sports.Honestly, being better looking (through getting in shape etc.) does a lot of the heavy lifting. A woman will allow all kinds of BS if she likes the look of you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 05:56 AM |
| 1 | The biggest issue with modern dating is how technology made dating way easier for a small percentage of men, and way harder for all the rest.I do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/24 10:31 AM |
| 1 | The biggest issue with modern dating is how technology made dating way easier for a small percentage of men, and way harder for all the rest.Weeks, very optimistic of you. It's the trenches. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/24 10:16 AM |
| 1 | The biggest issue with modern dating is how technology made dating way easier for a small percentage of men, and way harder for all the rest.I don't buy it, seen so many women I know and know of on the apps, those stats cannot be right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/24 06:38 AM |
| 2 | Why do other men support societal delusion?Second this, cannot stand seeing people raise the same questions every week. It is not fair and it will not change in our lifetimes. Improve (yes, disproportionately to women) or perish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 11:22 AM |
| 6 | Why "just date someone from your social circle" is often poor advice for nerdy, socially awkward, sexless men and why cold-approaching as many women as possible is betterSeen many women with large social circles jump straight onto Tinder when sourcing a boyfriend. The whole social circle thing is a meme. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Men who are trying to "woo" a woman (by working out, getting hobbies, dressing better, being charismatic/funny, getting rich, etc.) need to ask themselves if a girl would ever do that to get him.Too many blackpilling on the face gains. Unfortunately for men we do have to get very lean for the facial fat deposits to go away, most don't know their true potential. I'm chubby and unnoticed right now, but when I've been lean in the past the difference in attention and compliments is staggering, gotta get back there asap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 04:02 AM |
| 4 | Men who are trying to "woo" a woman (by working out, getting hobbies, dressing better, being charismatic/funny, getting rich, etc.) need to ask themselves if a girl would ever do that to get him.Echoing what Jazzlike said, it doesn't matter and this isn't a negotiation. The rules are laid out and crystal clear. You either navigate dating life by these rules or perish, non-negotiable. You must be fit, active, healthy and find a way to make some money and socialize. Failure to improve and rise up to these standards will carry harsh penalties going forward. We know full well women don't need to try. It is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Getting hobbies is useless advice for dating.Average people have the most to gain from looksmaxing for sure. People born hot have no need for it, and those who are very unfortunate cannot reach a high enough level. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Getting hobbies is useless advice for dating.Looksmaxing (including dressing well) is really one of the only things that works. Get in shape, build muscle, get lean, try new things in terms of style that work. It's brutal out there and you cannot afford to be deficient in really any way in your looks these days, it's not tolerated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Most men who can't find a girlfriend can't expand their social circle as wellIndeed, so many are not set up young to attract a woman, often neglectful or absent fathers are to blame for this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Any man here with absent/useless father figure? How are you doing in life (dating/career/family)?Strange parallel with mine. Not beta, and would never let his kids get in the way of his work. Indeed "present but not involved." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 07:16 AM |
| 6 | Any man here with absent/useless father figure? How are you doing in life (dating/career/family)?Second this. Currently in the process of a major course correction, but it also ruined my youth. The cost of parental negligence is catastrophic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 04:05 AM |
| 3 | Are shrinking attention spans having a negative impact on dating?Yes it works in theory, but as you say all the girls just shower the hottest guy or two with attention and totally ignore the rest. Or they get their phones out and whip through tinder if there are no men in the group that meet their standards. Seen it all happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 08:24 PM |
| 10 | Should men fix themselves before seeking a relationship?I'm sort of in that phase right now at 26, I've got the basic areas I'm looking to improve (fitness / income / mindset / socialisation etc.) because the fact is those things are extremely important and are going to become more important going forward. However that hasn't stopped me making approaches with women I think might be receptive. Self-improvement is needed for some men (myself included) because they aren't perceived as good enough by the women they are attracted to. The dating market is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 09:07 AM |
| 3 | Do most women really prefer to use online dating and social media as the means to select potential men over being approached in real life?From what I have seen, yes absolutely. The apps give them complete control over who they can communicate with and screen ahead of time for attractiveness. It basically rigs the entire game in their favour. This is more or less obliterating dating for a great many young men as these women seek out all the same guys, but we're not able to easily deal with this problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Is it becoming a growing trend for women (and especially young women) to casually disrespect and sexually demean men they believe are less attractive than them with no provocation?I work with a girl who is the only person I've ever met who does this, but she has this thing where she assumes that because she does not find me particularly attractive that therefore all women do not, which is not the case. It leads her to say things and react in certain ways to conversations we have. She said "I just thought you were gay when you first started working here". She didn't think I was gay, it was a way of insulting me. In her mind it's funny to say I'm gay because she doesn't fin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 08:49 AM |
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