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| 703 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman? | Fundamentals | Scrub_Beefwood | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 12:10 PM |
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| 1 | Do you think the Idaho college student murders would be getting 24/7 media attention if the victims were ugly male students? It seems like even in death, pretty girls get priority.I used to work in tabloid media, can confirm this is absolutely the case. Particularly in internet-world, we're so used to objectifying women, audiences respond to (read: click on) stories with pictures of conventionally attractive young white women a lot more readily than other kinds of people. It's sick. The same goes for missing children. There are SO SO many children that go missing in the UK. Hardly ever will you hear about people of colour, it's usually white ones (often girls) that get re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Thank YouThis sounds great, really happy for you! Only thing I didn't understand was "how insanely important the end of the conversation is", what's that mean? | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 10:51 AM |
| 2 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?OK that's very honest. Maybe there really are women who want to be taken for a walk then asked to go to bed. There must be if it's working for you! Your salsa analogy is a good one. Honestly I'd just recommend all men go to salsa because there's usually too many women and it's a chance to be respectful yet close to women while learning a skill. A super sexy and attractive skill. That point you make about women receiving low effort flirtation attempts actually being rejection is an interesting on… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?OK I see. Yeah of course, going on dates with strangers obviously means you don't know if you're truly compatible. But as a woman I wouldn't be thinking "wow this is the guy for me!" if he didn't try to... Woo me?.. At first I wrote impress but got visions of a dude trying to win an axe throwing competition which is not really what I'm getting at... Hm, I really think the dick economy means men can't afford to be complacent about making low effort advances upon women. The main feedback I hear fr… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Right, thanks for your frankness, that's explained a lot. In which case I'll revert to my usual explanation of the dick economy. There's way more supply (of dick) than there is demand. Casual sex is WAY WAY WAY more risky for women, not only in STDs and pregnancy but actually just the danger of being alone in a room with a strange man and not knowing if you can trust him. If I really wanted casual sex I would strike up a sexual relationship with a male friend I had a deep trust of. So if you wan… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?What do you mean by getting leads and deciding whether they're worth your time? Are you saying men go around asking out/trying to date women they don't even know if they're interested in yet? | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?No | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Thanks for the positive vibes! I'd like to see where this can go! | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?It's true, because our relationship we have with ourself is the longest one in our whole life. And the deepest! | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?That's a cute idea, haha! | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Name checks out | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I find that impossible to believe! There will have been women that found you attractive but they didn't know how to approach you, or you two never got close enough for something to develop. I've had male friends with low self confidence not even notice when a woman is really interested in them. I watched a male friend befriend a woman who bought him presents, gave him a cute nickname and came over to his house for dinner. He had ZERO idea she was into him, but as soon as I saw her around him I c… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?It's called Whole As One, the coach is called Meg Finch | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Ugh those women sound shallow, you've dodged a bullet not dating racist women, yuck. You'll find the right person/people to date. Have you tried dating apps? I'm not saying it's always easy or fun to find people you spark with, sometimes it takes a lot of struggle and disappointment. But it's a good thing to get rejected by trash bigots | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?This isn't my job, I'm not a coach. Thanks for the cynicism though, real faith-in-humanity type shit right there. I've benefitted from mentoring, coaching, counselling, friendship, advice, reddit threads, books, podcasts, you name it. Glad to see you've got a quick-fix snappy two sentence summary for the entire conversation though | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Well said. I guess it's natural that women will give mixed messages on how they like to be approached because... they're individuals! It's fantastic that you have boundaries, not only with your time and effort but also with your emotions, it sounds like you're not going to worry about (extremely rude) people who ghost you and that's great. I've tried to address the 'coming across creepy' question in the video I've put as an update in the original post | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Agree, dating is a lot of emotional effort and a big time investment. Your date should feel like you've put time and effort into planning the time you spend together (dress nice, plan an activity, follow up on things she's mentioned and ask about her interests), because you believe she's WORTH the effort. That's all a relationship really is. People spending time and energy together because they believe the other person is worth it. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Still it's really good you're taking the time to develop yourself socially and realise there's so much more to your self-fulfilment than having a romantic partner | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I've made a quick (not that quick) video to address the first couple of questions on this thread: https://youtu.be/-4lRcFTLyoI Thank you to the people who inboxed me, sorry I've not yet got round to answering everyone. I'll try to make time to set up some one-to-one conversations. Meantime, feel free to drop me any extra Qs (preferably reply to this comment) | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Don't be afraid to show a woman what you want!Hope it goes well :) | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Nice! I'll try to organise something for later this week | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?So there's a difference between self confidence and arrogance. Respect for yourself, respect for others around you. Life isn't a game of who you can 'smash'. How shallow | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?So the woman you're describing sounds fickle, out of touch with herself and impossible to trust. I'd say, don't worry about trying to win her over! You want a decent, honest, reliable woman, who knows who she is and what she wants. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Yeah but they've taught me things I've gone on to appreciate! | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 05:11 PM |
| 5 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Haha, that made me laugh. Actually I've tended to alternate between dating a man then thinking "ugh I'm sick of the bs" then dating a woman then going back to men | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?My biggest turn off in a man is someone who doesn't listen to me. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 07:47 PM |
| 8 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?The biggest must important thing about dating a woman is to make an effort. Seriously. That's it. Look up cool events. Book tickets. Tell her where to meet you and when. Take her salsa dancing. Oh my god just cook for her. Invite her to a museum exhibit on a topic she's interested in. An author signing. An ice cream cafe. Anything at all that you've planned in advance and made an effort to consider her enjoyment. The best thing about a date with a guy is his kindness, thoughtfulness and generosi… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 07:47 PM |
| 10 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Great question! Here's a summary of a few of the most important lessons I learned: Taking the time and effort to reflect on what I need and want in a romantic relationship. Then being careful to make decisions which lead me to this outcome. For example, I was seeing a girl casually (we agreed on FWB) then there were little hints it could turn into more than that, ie she talked about her family, she introduced me to her housemates (who were also her best friends), we'd cook together and she'd com… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I didn't check | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?It's called Whole As One, you can find on Insta or Facebook. I think she only does classes for women, but her content is still useful and you could always ask if she's willing to take on male clients. Her name is Meg Finch | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:01 PM |
| 5 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Yep | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:00 PM |
| 8 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Congratulations, you found the trap. I was trying to sell you drugs on the dark web. You saw right through me. How did you do it. You have some incredible powers of perception. There goes my multi million dollar industry, right up in flames right there. How tragic for me. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Cool, what would you like to know? | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:44 PM |
| 5 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Yeah no point talking to each other anymore, got so many good books to read instead! | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Enlighten me on this? Is it because women are supposed to get picked up by men in a one-way power dynamic rather than develop a mutual connection where both parties are communicating openly? | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I'm not selling anything actually. On behalf of women, I guess I should apologise(?!) indirect and cryptic communication is frustrating, and not good behaviour. Some women like to play games and that's not particularly respectful of you. Could you think of specific examples? It could be she's being indirect because she's trying to turn you down politely. It could be that's her way of flirting. Sometimes I'll drop hints because I want a guy to ask me something/follow up on what I've suggested. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:42 PM |
| 5 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?It sounds like you have a great attitude, and there's always going to be dates that don't have sparks. It's a good thing you're not just going to settle for dating anyone at all, but you're looking for someone you feel a mutual connection with. I've been on plenty of dates where I didn't feel attracted to the guy but that's not because he was unattractive, he's just not my cup of tea. I actually like the idea of talking to women like you'd talk to a guy because that's (I'm presuming), without an… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:39 PM |
| 0 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I would never claim to understand the male experience. Only answer questions about (my, not "the") female experience | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Yes this is a pattern that comes up because the woman in question is not in touch what with she really wants and needs from a relationship. It's her lack of self growth that keeps her coming back to the same unfulfilling relationship. It doesn't mean she was wrong to reject the first partner, though. It just means she'll end up unhappy again. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:29 PM |
| 6 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Yay this is all I was hoping for! | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:27 PM |
| 30 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?M'pottttatttto | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 03:25 PM |
| 79 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Definitely agree there's no quick fix | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 02:27 PM |
| 7 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?So there's clearly a mismatch between what's being said and what someone's actions are. Perfectly fine to judge someone based on their actions rather than what they say. That's not to say everyone lacks the integrity which your fictional woman does. If you're too cynical about women knowing what they want and who they are to even listen, then this conversation isn't for you. Good luck on your journey | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 02:10 PM |
| 4 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I can give you extremely clear reasons about why I've rejected people, most of them are to do with the relationship not being mutually beneficial, but instead I find myself in a role where I'm making 99% of the effort (emotional, practical, social, sexual). Of course I bear responsibility for that too (I shouldn't have taken on those roles or put up with the inequality for so long) but my first long term partner was so confused about why I left him when "the relationship works so well" for him. … | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 02:09 PM |
| 11 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I'm not claiming to offer insight into the male experience or advising anyone how to "be a man". I'm offering to meet you halfway and talk about the space in the middle, sharing my female experience in case someone else is interested. A lot of men I know raised by single mothers are respectful of women and stand up characters, so I'm not really sure what you're alluding to there. If you think I'm arrogant, that's a shame. My intention was actually generosity for mutual benefit. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 02:05 PM |
| 13 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Why is it bad to be open to learning new things? It's like saying "Wow she had to take a course on ice skating, I bet she's terrible at ice skating now!". It takes humility to accept you're lacking knowledge or skills or confidence in a particular area. I'm not ashamed to say I knew less before than I do now | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 02:02 PM |
| 25 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?My aim would be to improve the quality of mutual understanding between hetero people. A major part of this is being clear on what you're after, and accepting that you're not going to be compatible with people who are after something different. But it's possible to have whatever type of relationship you want so long as you're in touch with your intentions and respectful enough to communicate openly with other people | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 02:00 PM |
| 41 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?Literally had to explain this a couple hours ago.. I don't know if you're being sincere since this thread has received a surprising amount of cynicism. All I'll say is most women can't orgasm from penetration, and you should be willing to take lots of correction from the woman in question on how she likes it. I'll admit when I first started sleeping with women, it was harder to get it right than I'd hoped. Everyone likes different things, and I just swallowed my pride and did what she said and i… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | How do I fight the overwhelming urge to reply to texts immediately?Just reply immediately. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 12:26 PM |
| 0 | Don't be afraid to show a woman what you want!You got lucky she was into you stroking her leg without warning. Were you reading body language or something that made you feel it was appropriate to make that move? If a guy started touching me out of the blue I would get angry. Also it's nice that you made a connection and seems like you were fairly respectful of her boundaries. You got what you wanted in terms of her helping you undress and wash. Did you give back in an equal way, offer to see her again, give her your number, compliment her, … | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Is it worthwhile trying to date without having a social life first?Still you need these basics to build on, so you're moving in the right direction. Do you ask questions and actively show interest in the inner world of the women you're dating? Are you trying to figure out what makes them tick, their passions, motivations, interests and preferences? If you're just looking for attention, that's boring for a woman. But if you're generous, creative, take initiative and plan thoughtful activities based on her preferences. Ask questions and LISTEN to the answers, rem… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Is it worthwhile trying to date without having a social life first?Women in their 30s are great! Also women are not a reward... Building relationships is about giving as well as receiving. So long as you're viewing women as a reward to receive, you're not ready to date. Also you need to be emotionally available to date successfully. Once more, YOU NEED TO BE EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE IN ORDER TO DATE. I got out of a relationship with a depressed guy I fell really hard for and it was devastating to me. He broke up with me because he was too depressed to feel anythin… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Is it worthwhile trying to date without having a social life first?Hey I'm sorry to hear you're going through a rough patch with your mental health, but it's really good that you're seeking advice on how to start up and maintain new hobbies. I'd say not to overly invest in dating as a hobby/goal because it's very emotional and if things go wrong it can leave you more upset and stressed. On the other hand, having a sport session or another simple activity to look forward to every week has much less chance of seriously harming your self esteem! | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 11:44 AM |
| 1 | How do I build my confidence man?Not sure if "aiming for rock bottom" is great advice... We're looking to build self-confidence here, not give OP ammunition for self loathing | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 08:12 PM |
| 1 | How do I build my confidence man?As a professional writer I have to say your not using the comma was perfectly fine. Another lesson in the importance of learning who to ignore. | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Feel conflicted about approaching girls at the gym. How bad is this, and what should I be doing differently?No. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 02:02 PM |
| 4 | Feel conflicted about approaching girls at the gym. How bad is this, and what should I be doing differently?THIS. Please listen OP | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 02:01 PM |
| 3 | Feel conflicted about approaching girls at the gym. How bad is this, and what should I be doing differently?Completely agree | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:59 PM |
| 17 | Feel conflicted about approaching girls at the gym. How bad is this, and what should I be doing differently?Haha | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 07:14 AM |
| 1 | How to not tilt?You'd have to pretend you don't have emotions, which you do. This scenario would make anyone feel unfulfilled | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 07:10 AM |
| 1 | To be honest or to play it outYou should be clear about your intentions (or lack thereof) otherwise you risk hurting someone else who starts imagining a future with you. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Daygame, how to deal with "almost pretty enough" situations?You are shallow | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Should I ask her out?I personally think the age gap is way too much | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 06:44 AM |
| 4 | Feel conflicted about approaching girls at the gym. How bad is this, and what should I be doing differently?This is why I (27F) don't go to the gym | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 06:39 AM |
| 52 | this girl planned a party for her boyfriend, when it was actually her secret proposal party, and a South Asian dating site wants us to believe it’s romantic. thankfully girls are catching on to this low effort bsI'm glad you felt pissed off. It took me a few minutes here to realise why this post was a red flag and it's hitting me now what low effort bs this is. Thanks for sharing your story, it's good to know these things really happen and they're real. I'm sorry about that trash low effort man nonsense you had to put up with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Not sure why men can't have conversations without getting triggered into wannabe Sasuke Uchiha but wowI've seen women do this too. I know that's not really in the spirit of this subreddit, but it's worth pointing out. I believe this is pathological narcissism rather than "a way that men are" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 07:28 PM |
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