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If he’s like me unless you do something big with your looks I am not complimenting you. So not seeing his sister often makes the rare occasions of her doing something, special. My advice if you need compliments is to dress up unusually sexy. Like a goth girl or an overly sexualized version of anything. If he still doesn’t compliment you but you see him complaining others then his eyes are broken. Up to you what you will do with that information. The way I see it is he’s not incapable of observin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/26 03:04 PM
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Your observation is correct fatter girls get treated like tools. Men like what you have on paper but won’t fall for you. Bring once obese myself I can tell you that being a healthy weight opens so many opportunities not just in dating. Just be healthy when you do it so you don’t get too much loss skin. It might take a year or two to get to your goal. Though being a virgin is still a plus but don’t advertise it too much as you are on your weight loss. Losers will try to make you feel special and …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/26 06:35 PM
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My mom is just like this but opposite completely in purity culture. How you should marry an ugly guy and that you shouldn’t ask anything of them but be loyal. I completely understand how exhausting it is. All I will say is if you follow their advice and it goes wrong it’s your fault. If you don’t follow their advice and it goes well then they pray for your downfall because you’re ruining their perspective of the world. They have to think maybe they caused their own pain in life. Which they don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 05:35 PM
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My man actually likes a clean decorated place with a vase of flowers. Bjs are great but I don’t think sex replaces a non sexual gesture of affection.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 05:24 PM
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I think you are doing everything right. Mainly at this stage all you need is exclusivity. He’s talking to you regularly and he feels your interactions are positive. You’re dressed beautifully and putting in the effort when physically present. I think everything is else is up to compatibility. Being divorced now remarried myself I promised to not play games or try to be perfect. I wanted them to love me and that’s more important than being picked. So again you don’t need to do anything to keep hi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 11:43 AM
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Then maybe find a friend who can have deep one on one conversations to work out your feelings. Maybe your feelings neglected or under appreciated. You can watch relationship videos on YouTube with real therapist to try to help you navigate.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/26 04:18 PM
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I think therapy is the best solution here because you need the tools to communicate what is really getting you angry. It’s not the small things because you know it but it’s something the small things are representing to you. Then you can communicate more effectively with your partner and not attack them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/26 04:00 PM
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See he sounds high value as a one wife man. The more women you bring the more money he needs to provide to maintain the lifestyle for you and your future children. That’s why his value diminishes as he adds more wives. To me I am calculating costs of living plus a lifestyle to make up for the lack of time he will spend with you both. It’s more expensive to maintain more women than to maintain just one. As low as 50k is fine for one woman depending where you live. Thought 2 women and trying to sa…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/26 06:28 AM
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This is a belief I would not support or entertain. First because when he married you, he married you under monogamy. A leader cannot just change things up and expect you to follow when a big reason you followed him “his faithfulness to one woman” is now gone. If he can’t accept that he married you under this original agreement and you are unwilling to change then one of you needs to divorce. I wouldn’t trust him not to cheat moving forward if he continues to insist. Second of all I don’t know ho…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/26 06:09 AM
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I am not saying it doesn’t go against what they should be for. Just that some people spread this idea around that you can and should hit women. That might be why OP thinks abuse is ok for the redpill community.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/26 05:18 PM
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I have seen videos of some men actually talk about hitting women in the red pill or their version of it. They’re just spreading hate because they feel women should obey them no matter what they offer. They blame the woman for being hit and that her talking back is good enough reason to hit a woman. I am saying this for awareness since red pill men are very dangerous in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/26 01:55 PM
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My girl you do realize people get married to successful men at 36 right? I am getting married to my man at 28 after a divorce. Even though he is the ideal provider and protector one of those .01% in those street interviews. Your age/beauty has weight towards if a man will marry you but compared to factors like bringing him peace it can become insignificant. You have control over your desirability.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/26 11:03 AM
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Femininity comes from within you in my opinion. Talking about a stress free life and being protected is happening to you. I think you are thinking too much about the benefits of having a good man and confusing them with being feminine. Femininity is how you behave and at the core of it to me is selflessness. Thinking of others before yourself and being a good host. Being traditional is based on your role in a household.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/26 04:04 PM
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Not having boundaries and being kind is like keeping a weasel with rabies with you. Yes they’re small and they only hurt you a little bit but they will keep biting you because they not actually capable of learning without consequences. You’re seen as kind in the beginning but then suddenly if people watch long enough they start thinking you have low self esteem, or not that bright. Good people will distance themselves because you have to many bad people around you. In my opinion boundaries are v…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 05:05 PM
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The way you put him on a pedestal makes it clear that even if you were in a relationship with this man you would ruin yourself for it. His status isn’t enough to put in that much effort. If he’s putting effort and you’re reciprocating that makes sense
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 08:01 PM
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I was a virgin till marriage and that marriage ended so does it really matter if you wait. Being a virgin doesn’t mean a long happy marriage. If anything to me it represents discipline and a respect for tradition. Many men will find those traits in you without you being a virgin through other parts of your life. Even just having a low body count is basically showing the same thing. Men know women love hard and are told words of forever. They aren’t going to hold it against you that a younger ver…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/26 12:57 AM
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My opinion is a man should always pay and plan the first date. I never scarf at a coffee date or say a walk around the park is a beneath me if their situation calls for it. If they’re telling you how much money they make and then tell you they’re going on a coffee date you’re allowed to drop them (should drop because of the ego actually). If they’re telling you they’re in school and living on their own for the first time of course they’re trying their best to make the most out of what they have.…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/26 09:02 PM
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Felt exactly like you I can’t have kids and a career when I was younger. Though I got married young and didn’t want kids until I was 30. So I went to school and got my degree and started saving and learning to invest money. I came to the conclusion I needed to speed up my career asap because by 30 I am existing the work force with a semi funded retirement to care for children. Then I got divorced in my mid 20s and now remarriage in my late 20s. My career allows remote part time work so that’s my…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/26 08:53 PM
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The poised thing to do is everything involving your boyfriends past is his responsibility don’t involve yourself. If you are then that’s your problem because it’s hard to set boundaries when your ex wife is able to antagonize your girlfriend. Ex wife bugs you go your boyfriend and have him protect you. That keeps you in your feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/26 06:12 PM
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If he set boundaries you wouldn’t have to deal with the disrespect. Broken boundaries aren’t boundaries they’re just suggestions no one is listening to. Simple as that. If you want to stay you can stay but from what you wrote you don’t sound like the problem. There’s not much you can do yourself. Even a securely attached person would feel horrible because this lady is involved. It’s not your job to interact with this woman because you’re just feeding into her nonsense. It’s why I said your boyfr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/26 05:40 PM
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I am a divorced woman and will advise you to stay away from divorce couples who don’t have their co parenting figured out. Years of marriage doesn’t fade away. He isn’t keeping his past away from you and it’s not your job to just bare it. To keep his past away I mean the drama is now involving you. You can know his past but that stays in the past. The past is now the present which is what is wrong. He needs to keep you safe to keep your femininity and he’s not doing that. You can work on your at…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/26 04:51 PM
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I would get a cooper IUD and forget about kids for 10 years. Honestly why even consider it at 21. That’s a I am turning 30 with no boyfriend question. You have plenty of time to just figure it out later. When I was your age I was married and still wasn’t thinking of having kids. Though always prepare for all possible choices you might want to make. So save money of your own before marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/26 04:16 PM
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This is very true I know many mothers in real life who have over 4 kids and truly thrive in motherhood. They find raising their kids a healthy challenge everyday and very rewarding. Though with their kids I would find it rewarding it. They are angles easy to babysit, super smart and healthy I think anyone would fall for them. Though I also know some kids from some very overworked parents and I baby sat them too. Never again they are destructive menace to society. One of those kids made me bleed …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/26 04:07 PM
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I would just start a discord server and do it some people are just like you looking for encouraging women that they don’t have access to in their everyday lives.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/26 03:52 PM
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I don’t know I feel like I have that in real life. I do monthly brunch which we basically talk about all this and lecture each other to do better or help where we can. I feel it works for men since they’re less likely to have close friends or open up to their friends.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/26 06:38 PM
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I will say in my experience going on many first dates Ive always offered to paid if I didn’t intend on a second date. Though I didn’t have a single guy who didn’t pay for the date regardless even if I said I didn’t think we were a match. Mind you my meals were 20-30 dollars.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/26 10:54 PM
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Resentment is not an easy emotion to overcome and you need to help him understand that your not against him or asking him to fix it. You’re a team trying to make your marriage better together. The past really isn’t the problem in the relationship but the emotions tied to the experience. You’re just asking for help so you can change for the better by not holding onto negative emotions. You can’t change him though he has to choose to do that on his own. But you can ask for help to move past your r…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/26 06:50 PM
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My advice as someone who went through a similar situation is to first get healthy. Doctor appointments (generally, gyno, dermatologist, dentist, etc..). Work out wherever you can use your kids as weights if needed they love it (perfect kettle bells). Try your best to get clothes that make you feel confident if you can. I know this can be hard for sahm if they don’t have nice husbands or money in general because one income. Then think about getting into a career. Start working because your husban…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/26 05:15 PM
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This sums up everything nicely. Also your education and job is not for a man of course. It’s for yourself to keep you from settling for less. Why settle for a guy with no ambition that you will resent when you can support yourself. Your SMV might be going down and you can’t stop it but you can learn to accept it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/26 06:59 PM
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Same to everything even age. Why listen to men who actively lie, cheat, and break the law. I think respectable people man or woman would not associate with them.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/26 07:22 PM
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I agree with everything about her family situation. Especially how not being close to your family can be a huge plus for the right person. Also from what I see with men and zero past relationships is that they tends not to think deeply about it. Women see it as they may not know themselves yet but men look at you for what is in front of them. Do they like hanging around you do you make them feel at peace? This is what matters to most men. Though not every man is a monolith so you might get rejec…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/26 12:46 PM
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Personally I think it’s high. As long as you bring the financial discipline and skills to a relationship and they know how to make money it’s a given in due time. Getting a million dollars in 10 years on a 200k yearly combined income is very possible. It’s not a loud million dollars but it’s a net worth millionaire. Maybe by 60 they have 5-10 million in stocks and real estate that they pass to their kids. Which makes them the wealthy family you want to marry into.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/26 06:05 PM
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I am going to give contradictory advice to the norm because I see myself in this post a bit. This is a blessing that he broke up with you and you deserved to be broken up with. Being with someone you see as small or beneath you is the worst relationship dynamic. I didn’t change a single thing about myself. I got into a new relationship and suddenly I changed because I respected him. Make sure you figure out what about a man you respect that isn’t money. For me it is integrity. I respect a man wh…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/26 12:13 PM
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I have been in the opposite side of your situation. From my experience I will never again sacrifice my bare minimum. I think it’s wise to get a gage for each needs. If his minimum doesn’t match your maximum you will have resentment from both sides. I enjoy sex so to have a partner who sees it as a chore is hurtful too. You should be as honest with yourself as possible because you don’t want to be wasting years with the wrong person.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 08:48 PM
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Confused how women can make you have confidence on something that doesn’t matter to us. Literally we say all our current boyfriends have horse cocks. Till they become ex boyfriends then they were suffering with erectile disfunction or had micro penises. It’s all talk till you get to bedroom and she’s satisfied or not. Most of our pleasure comes from everywhere else but that area anyways. Size is subjective anyways because if the hole is narrow or short that’s just abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 06:04 PM
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Women have to do the same thing. If you want to change and find help it’s never easy. Though I find many men don’t even put in the first few steps to try. They will say therapy is people with actual problems or it won’t work for me. From the post he gave me the impression he would be on those people.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/26 02:50 PM
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Never said getting married young wasn’t ok. I just said it’s dangerous and I meant to highlight how many people just jump in thinking all they need is love. For this guy in the post he wasn’t even aware that lust and love are different. Which again experience would have taught him that he wasn’t in love with his wife. For the women she would be better at vetting the men so she doesn’t end up with someone who thinks cheating is the only way to fix his problems. Personally in my life even though m…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/26 02:42 PM
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The only thing I can say is that getting married young is a dangerous game to play. I got married at 18 divorced at 26. No amount of vetting will prepare you for marrying someone who doesn’t know themselves. I bet when he got married to her he thought he loved her. Now he’s learning love isn’t about the butterflies he gets when seeing her. I had a marriage counselor when I got married and one thing we learned when going through the process is many young men can’t see the difference between lust …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/26 01:08 PM
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Why not do a destination wedding and get it over with. Seems you don’t want to get married because if you did you would just do the wedding. It’s not a big deal just set a budget and get married. 10-15k then get married. Is something wrong with him does he live beyond his means and want a 300k wedding or does he want to invite his family? Why is eloping so important to you. If you don’t want to be married you should leave asap you’re hurting everyone and yourself. I can’t tell you if god is send…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 07:13 PM
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What is his reason not to be married then. Is it because of marriage penalty in taxes for high earners.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 07:00 PM
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He’s protecting your present self. What about your future self. You’re not married you’re entitled to very little depending on where you live. If he’s leaves you then you’re ruined.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 06:41 PM
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Is he protecting your wellbeing and future security? I don’t mind women not following the traditional marriage narrative because it’s not important. What is important in marriage is the protection it automatically provides you no matter how little. Is he putting away money into an account that only you have ownership over. Do have any form of agreement if things ends how things will go down depending who ends it. God wants you to be protected by a good man. A good man protects his woman so she d…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 06:36 PM
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Business is business just because you know a guy who knows a guy who knows 5 other guys doesn’t mean a lot. Unless you sit down and talk about politics I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. If he is completely not aligned with you at all I would cut it off personally because I am happy with a guy making 200k just as much as a millionaire so I wouldn’t be missing much. You probably look good so you can catch another one.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 09:32 PM
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I don’t know is it just Elon musk because a lot of left leaning libertarians like him too. He also made a lot of people rich if you invested in Tesla. So unless you actually have a real conversation I would never assume someone’s political views.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 09:23 PM
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I am confused are you going into a career because you think men will find you more attractive due to its feminine qualities. Honestly I think management is a very feminine position. For centuries women have run household and managed resources. It’s not about leadership but about caring for the community around you that makes you a feminine leader. It’s why most middle management is women not men. If you frame your career as your running a household I believe higher value men will seek you out mo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/26 06:39 PM
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I have seen twice young sales men say they are married to be taken more seriously. I find out later from their girlfriends that they are just dating for a year or two. Though I do take men who are married more seriously than none married men. Marriage holds weight in the workplace in most settings. I see in my office the doting husband types and they tend to be in higher positions than men who keep their family life private or is single.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/26 09:55 PM
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I think we will just be arguing unknown percentages because like you say men won’t say it out loud. They won’t even marry the 18 year old because it’s seen poorly. Though what I am getting at is the reality is what really matters. He will marry the age appropriate choice even if he lust over the 20 year girls. The men will choose a woman who fits their vision of their future not just a pretty face. Mainly because society will shun him for straying away from it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/26 05:42 PM
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If you’re not attractive as a woman life sucks and you will know it. Though I know many 30+ 40+ year olds doing well for themselves in the male spaces. Their age isn’t the obstacle it’s how well they took care of themselves. Eating better and exercising does a lot. Men may always find younger more attractive though I rarely see wealth men marrying young women. They marry younger women but they are normally in their 30s-40s. You don’t see the wealthy men marrying 18-22 year old girls.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/26 03:12 PM
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The only men I see talk like that are the ones online so I assume they are projecting and have nothing to offer themselves. The men I see in real life value women of any age as long as that woman is a good woman. Good women depend on the person and their goals but basics is kind nature, respectful, and aligned with their values. You shouldn’t worry about men who are ranting on the internet about women. They could be venting frustration about women who hurt them but will change their opinion in a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 07:20 PM
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Truly depends if he meets your expectations of a man. Just because he’s younger doesn’t mean you are lowering your expectations of him now. Treat him like you would any future partner and if his lack of maturity becomes an obstacle then you have your answer.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 06:36 PM
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My boyfriend thinks i look good in 90% of things he loves me to dress provocatively with him around and he likes it when I dress conservatively as well. Though finding what you feel you glow in actually is the best way to look your best. Men know when something looks good but they’re not always good at figuring out what looks the best on you. I recommend getting into YouTube videos about fashion and finding your style for your body. When you glow he will see it and it’s different from him just p…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/25 03:26 PM
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I was married to a man with a lot of sexual trauma. I had a high sex drive and it drove me up a wall. He could be loving and caring but my need for that sexual fulfillment was always there. I had so much resentment towards him even though I know he was trying. Love isn’t always enough. I am in a new relationship and I am having all my needs met and the bitterness I felt every day is gone. Having a good sex life is like being able to breathe properly. I feel you can’t understand it because your n…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/25 03:01 PM
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He needs to talk to others in business. I run a business and chat gpt helps me bounce off ideas but it literally says everything is a genuine idea. If you’re not will to have your ideas destroyed by others then maybe his resolve is weak to start with. I think you might want to consider talking to him about how work is making him feel. He needs to get out of his head and stop dreaming.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 08:11 PM
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See I think you thought I ment their first impression is everything but I mean that if his first impressions of her was “smash and go” she’s not changing that. If her conversations about sex lead him within 4 dates to think smash only she’s not changing that by not giving sex now. It’s best to move on and think about how next time she should vet better before letting her desires take over. There’s also the possibility that he is really into her and is just wanting sex because he’s about to go on…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 03:31 PM
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From my experience most of the guys I’ve talked to already know and unless it’s really bad. They just think they did the same thing. I may have a skewed perception because body counts under 10 are fine or less than the guy you’re interested in but over then yes it can switch things up.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 01:32 PM
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I think if a man truly sees you as potential they will respect you from day one. The reason you reframe from having sex isn’t to make him respect you. You do it so you can properly vet this man’s intentions. So far do you feel he’s here for you or for your body. Personally the quickest I slept with someone was 2 weeks of constant dates which is my current boyfriend of over a year (with us discussing marriage). Time really doesn’t matter but do you believe he’s here for the right reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 11:37 AM
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I think drop him. Most guys make it clear who their dream girl is during the right time in their life. If you want a long term relationship look for people who are in your area. Though he can be the one just keep your emotions in check because he is not putting effort to date like you. I know guys who were just looking for a good time and found their dream girl. They made it clear to that girl that they ment business from the time they focused on them to their blunt request for them to be their …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 07:53 PM
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It’s really not important anymore and I don’t find it weird to judge someone you don’t know on Reddit. Mainly wrote this because I felt she’s suffering from her beliefs and her inability to accept that my way is perfectly valid and doesn’t invalidate her. Though when she lashes out that makes me think she needs help to find the true path to happiness. She shouldn’t envy just join. I think I am the only one in our friend group who is this deep in this philosophy. Everyone else is some form of car…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/25 08:20 PM
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What conclusion would you get then. I personally don’t think she’s jealous of my boyfriend paying for me. I think she’s jealous that she doesn’t have a man. I’ve been friends with her since elementary school. She is always talking about strategies to find a man since high school it just never works out for her. I feel she doesn’t pick great people. Like they’re attractive but they’re not into her. She super smart and ambitious personally respect the hustle. I am just not like her. I am lazy and …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/25 06:49 PM
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I got married at 18 and divorced 26. Ex was not a narcissist and treated me well up even after the divorce. Got my degree, investments and set myself up well. The main thing is you don’t know what you will want in 5 years or what will be important to you. You can pick well and still get a divorce. You can have a great man but just not grow together. I am not against young marriage but you need to give a logical reason why getting married early is a benefit for you. I need tangible reasons that r…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/25 03:13 AM
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I do agree with you, but if you knew her whole life you would be like what do you mean struggle. She has an amazing high paying career, lives on her own and does whatever she wants. Everything she has done was her choice. Just her dating life is crap from 1 nights she thought were more to boyfriends who don’t give her time. No relationship lasted more than 6 months. Also I do work just not in a job like hers. I am privileged for the men in my life i am aware. Though I feel if he was with other g…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/25 02:01 PM
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Seriously it was nuts and she has been attacking me ever since I met my boyfriend. Started with you need to have a hoe phase that I am settling too soon. Had another post about her just being rude to men on apps. She makes me mad now because I always gave her the benefit of doubt.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/25 01:31 PM
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<1. ⁠If others see me as attractive, why do I feel it doesn’t “translate” into commitment from the men I want?> Attractiveness means less when it comes to commitment if you’re in the same league of attraction. When a guy finds you attractive it just means he is willing to sleep with you. <2. ⁠How much is my self-esteem/anxious attachment playing a part in me not being able to get these guys to commit vs how much of it would be me not being conventionally attractive enough?> Your self esteem matt…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/25 10:59 AM
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You can’t put the genie back in the bottle. Since you’re long distance the big thing you shouldn’t do is move because of him. That is the biggest selling point for you. You preforming the best bedroom gymnastics and cooking like a professional chef while you are there is probably the best thing you can do. He will think I wish this month never has to end. Then either ask for more visits or try to come over more often. Then he might offer to move in but you will say no because a big move like tha…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/25 11:45 PM
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I think the key takeaway is fighting for control. Some men are more docile than others. I have seen very happy women with submissive husbands. These dynamics normally have women who are high earning and focused on their career and the men is actively looking to be cared for. Though I do agree that most women who are intelligent but focused into this modern role do find it hard to release control. Men treat it as some horrible thing that women are less willing to release control of their lives. T…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/25 11:35 PM
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A man who flashes his money on a date isn’t a man I would date. Especially a first date because most are using their money like honey to get in your pants and get you to over look their lack of integrity. I don’t go on first dates flashing my curves and showing my bedroom skills, so I expect a man to be as reserved as myself. My boyfriend flys me to places and in time showed his wealth. Everything good takes time or if it’s quick then family and friends need to back up his integrity. I feel thei…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/25 05:06 PM
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I have a skinny boyfriend and he is always called weak by his male friends. I think your boyfriend has confidence issues not that he can’t win. I think you should let him be and if anything just ask him to do physical stuff around you. Like jar opening or picking up your bags. Don’t act weaker just delegate the manly jobs to him. If he asks why say you need him nothing more. My boyfriend said in his past he would never pick up a woman but with me he feels strong. I work out and can beat my broth…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/25 02:07 AM
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I understand pregnancy is scary but he already said he wants to marry you. Literally there is no more he can do for you except buying you a random 500 dollar ring from a jewelry store and saying here are you happy now. He is also processing this as well and figuring things out. Some men see a woman pregnant and will buy a ring in a day and say marry me without hesitation figure out the details later. Others will question is this the person for me if so I want to make sure everything is squared a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/25 04:36 PM
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What would you do if he doesn’t marry you? If you are truly feeling insecure about him not following through with marriage you need to plan what you will do next. This is a possibility you need to be open to. That child will need a mom who is ready for motherhood with or without your boyfriend. Also if you are to be married you should be able to have conversations like this. Saying “I am scared I will be a single mother and I know you have said in the past you would marry me but every day that g…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 10:36 PM
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Oh I know my womb works my ogbyn tested me my ex husband didn’t work. Also I understand the whole wait till marriage I did that with my first marriage but my first marriage had so many issues related to sex I can’t imagine doing that twice. I had a sex therapist trying to get us both on the same page. I think anyone who divorced and waited the first time will say that. I don’t believe in having sex with whoever but she found a guy who held similar views and isn’t denying the kid. Though I don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 10:21 PM
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I personally don’t think because she was raised catholic she would have safer sex. She’s divorced and 38 so I can see her being less cautious because it’s harder to get pregnant. I am divorced and never had kids so honestly does this womb even work. That’s my emotional response and I am in my late 20s. I know my boyfriend would propose or break up because those are the choices we agreed to before having sex.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 01:32 PM
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Maybe this is the answer because she hasn’t had success dating on the apps. She doesn’t sleep around but she has a good career that makes it difficult for her to respect men she believes is beneath her. I can understand a weird brag like that when you put it that way. If it is the case she’s trying to say to me “I don’t settle because I am better than all the men on the apps not because she can’t get one to stay”. She would bug me that I was moving to fast with my boyfriend and that I haven’t pl…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 12:58 PM
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I feel nearly everyone can be toxic from time to time. Man or woman makes no difference. Men who are on the red pill train lying to women to get laid are normally going through a phase and find a woman. Women who go completely “I hate men” most of the time still get married to a great guy in the future. Though the reason I posted this was because I am the “mean” friend in the group. I didn’t know if I am just over stepping and as a friend I need to mind my business. I don’t mind my business ofte…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 12:43 PM
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I completely agree I am going to have a talk with her today on how she needs to focus on herself more before going out on more dates. Sounds like a toxic cry for help knowing her for so long. I think it’s appropriate as a friend to try to redirect her to more healthy avenues. She’s not horrible just recently in the past 3 months she has been acting up. Just glad I am not over stepping or not taking her “safety concerns” as legitimate. Honestly I wanted to tell her that it’s the risk of dating. T…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 12:32 PM
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This isn’t push back, it’s information that this man doesn’t give flowers he made it clear. He never said this is good to know or that one day when you don’t expect it he will bring them. He said only on your birthday and anniversary you should expect flowers. If you can live with that then never bring it up again because it’s not happening. If there’s a deeper meaning behind your want of flowers then express that instead of asking for flowers. Though you’re likely not getting surprised flowers …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 02:41 AM
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You’re right it’s not necessarily a hill to die on. Though his deserve comment does mean something. It’s how he sees gift giving. In his eyes you don’t deserve to get random gifts. Are you doing anything for him besides spending time with him? Are you showing your appreciation for him? Are you treating him like you believe an amazing partner deserves. Don’t take it as an attack on yourself but truly reflect. If you are treating him with extra love randomly and he still doesn’t think you deserve …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 02:03 AM
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There are 2 types of men one who like women who are their own person and stands by themselves. The other like women who is their support in life. I have found this sub to aim for men looking for the women to support them through life. What you want exists for sure but to find them I believe is at work or in an environment that is promoting self growth in one’s career or ambition. I have many friends like you who enjoy taking care of themselves and want to have a man as a want than a need. You ju…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 05:16 PM
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You already dodged the bullet by staying out of the bedroom before you were exclusive. Keeping your boundaries strong is the way to avoid people who just want to use you. This method lets the trash take out themselves. Plus the guy was 35 and still not looking to put a ring on it within a year is a hell no. I don’t like dating too old because older men are far too ready to get married. In my experience they don’t want to get to know you. They just want consistent sex and a hot secretary.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 12:51 PM
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I feel their needs to be a disclaimer because I know to many women be swept up by looks. Putting effort into learning to want men is important too. Society has taught us to hold back our sexual desires. I grew up in a very religious family and I found no one sexually attracted till I worked on myself within my last marriage. It’s hard when you’re told to never allow a man trick you into sex. That men are all lying to you and only want sex. That you will be punished if have sex. You learn to turn…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/25 01:02 PM
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Some men are impossible for YOU to respect. They can have the income, take care of themselves, they can be respected in their community but if you can’t find a way to truly respect who they are then it will end in disaster. Coming from my divorce where I would constantly put my ex down because I thought I could change the parts I found childish or lady like. Now in my new relationship I thought I had to learn respect. It’s about finding someone who you respect from the beginning. I didn’t need t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/25 12:37 PM
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I think it’s fine to say that but many women as use this to slut shame different body types. At least for me in my experience. I naturally have a provocative body type huge bust and hips tiny waist. I see women hiding behind modesty to just shame others for what they don’t have. I agree to an extent women who are making only fans and feeding the sex industry are harmful. Though women who are dressing in clothes that suit their bodies aren’t. The majority of women dress decently and it’s a few wo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/25 11:17 AM
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I think you’re confusing pretty privilege which affects us all including men with dressing provocatively. I don’t see those as the same because you can dress provocatively and still not be pretty. If you are against pretty privilege then you’re losing an up hill battle. I don’t care if a woman dresses provocatively because she attracts a certain crowd who doesn’t value women for anything but a body. Men who know the true value of a woman will look but not settle for that. I am referring to extre…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/25 11:08 AM
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I am confused on what you lose from being sexy and not being sexy. Sure people look at you like a slut but others say beautiful. I have a friend refuses form fitted clothes at all. That’s on her then she gets upset when I get a promotion and wear form fitted clothes at work and I say I dress the part. Humans (man and woman) don’t see women unless they are pretty. You shouldn’t work against your own beauty. People want to talk to pretty people and they believe they are more trustworthy. Therefore…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/25 12:15 AM
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The main thing this sub will say is that anyone chasing to be the main wife of a HVM is playing a fools game. There are 2-3 side chicks to every truly HVM. So you’re likely to lose this game or be tricked by a scammer like even more women. I believe this sub accepts that realistically we will find a man who is within our own social circle and we should look for traits that compliment our own for the highest success. Most women don’t play nice with mistresses anyways. The mental stress isn’t wort…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/25 03:23 PM
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Depends on the guy and what their future goals are. In my experience a highly lucrative and low stress career will open every guy’s door. I think women who make the average income and are pretty will do fine. Though job titles matter somewhat. I had only one guy ever seemed to care though. I previously had a lower job and the moment I said what I do was completely ghosted. I didn’t make six figures but I was making above the average US income. It really doesn’t matter though because men like tha…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/25 02:00 PM
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To me that just sounds like just an avoidant personality. Anxious avoidant personality is when someone shows affection you pull away and when they pull away you pull in. You don’t just leave, you string them along because you still want them but their affection scares you. You don’t feel you deserve it or you’re afraid to rely on their presence. Yeah probably best not to date at all though either way you won’t let anyone love you. So why give someone the hope you will.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/25 03:18 PM
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This is true anxious people don’t leave or vet very well because they’re afraid of being alone more then being unhappy. I am an anxious individual too. You just need to learn to focus on you more and not the people around you as much. Being a bit more selfish is important. Don’t give men chances when they don’t deserve it. I believe the trap I fell for at your age was trying to make a relationship work no matter the cost. It bit me in the butt because I wasn’t happy and it showed with my lack of…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/25 01:24 AM
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Look for traits that don’t fade with time. That’s how you keep it real. Integrity, their personal dreams, values and the people they prefer to socialize with. That’s what I look for. If I don’t like their friends, then I don’t like them actually they are just putting up a façade. If they don’t keep their word, then I know i will be miserable looking for lies. If their dreams don’t align with my own dreams, I will never accomplish my dreams. If our values don’t align we will always be fighting fo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/25 09:56 PM
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Only a husband should be asking this of you. He should be aware of your sacrifices and not ask this of you. He should bring up long distance options and talk about traveling to each other. My friend is on her second marriage to a military guy and the second guy didn’t pressure her like the first one to get married. The second guy drove 4 hours every month at least to see her and she drove to him every so often. He sent her gifts by mail when he got deployed and made an effort to make her a part …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/25 02:23 PM
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If you can’t live without it just learn to satisfy yourself. If he wants sex your door is open and eager. Maybe it’s time to communicate in the bedroom more allow both of you to have lame sex. To me if I have to satisfy my partner every time I would avoid sex.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 04:46 PM
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Look your best and be positive. Don’t be afraid to be curious about the other person. You are looking for your future husband but you also don’t 100% know what you want in a sable partner. Just be yourself because the right person would appreciate that more than any show you can put on.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 12:47 PM
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My ex tried to come back once he ruined his life with his new girl. I was faced with the easy decision of blocking him from the last place I forgot to block him. I don’t care if a man is successful or not but the point is he will come back after you build him up. Then ruin himself for another woman then ask you to build him again. You deserve better than that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 08:59 PM
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I would end my dates with what their goals are for dating and mines. After all the fun and you’re just chilling. It takes courage but scare away a few guys and it becomes easier. Just read waiting to wed when you think you scared away the one. You can’t scare away a good man when you explain what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 01:47 AM
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I just said on my dating profile looking for a husband. There’s no reason to be mysterious about these things. Plenty of guys also want to meet their wife on a date.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/25 11:00 PM
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To be honest I don’t think he’s much of a fence sitter if he thinks he would leave his wife because she can’t have kids. To me a fence sitter will not hold medical reasons as divorce worthy. Unless he doesn’t respect your reasoning to not have kids because head aches don’t prevent you from getting pregnant. He might be a fence sitter for you because he loves you. You also sound like a fence sitter that’s leaning towards no kids. He’s probably a fence sitter that is leaning towards kids. To me th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/25 12:24 PM
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As a divorced woman who waited longer than needed to get my divorce I would say the hiker is being smart. You need to put yourself in his shoes because first you can be lying about the kind of relationship you have with your soon to be ex husband. Plus he needs to gage if you’re a person with integrity because a lot of divorces are from cheating. You are generally in a very suspicious position from most people’s perspective. I will say I met my boyfriend while separated and I told him I wanted t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/25 02:53 PM
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I say date the men who pursue you. That’s pretty much the only advice that reasonable here. If he has a million dollars and treats you well and sees a future with you then he’s on the same level as a college student who treats you well and see a future with you. It’s really up to you to vet the men you’re dating to make sure they value you and not taking advantage of you
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/25 09:15 PM
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My boyfriend was like this on our first few dates. We had dates everyday for 2 weeks straight. Second date I just asked him to be exclusive and he said of course. Rambling on about how he didn’t think I would just want to settle. Guys are sorta like us just looking for love.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/25 11:56 PM
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No you can pull back things like consistent sex, gifts or your emotional energy. It’s up to you and what will make you feel like you’re not emotionally giving yourself to this man. Though I think seeing other people would be bad because it shows that when you don’t get what you want you leave.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/25 11:47 PM
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The thing is he gave you a hard deadline (6 months). Personally I think acting like you’re not exclusive when you were already treating him exclusive is sabotaging this relationship. To me 2 months is fine to wait and maybe going back to him telling him that you thought this relationship was already at the stage of exclusivity and that’s why you were acting more like a girlfriend would be a fine conversation to have. Pulling back so you don’t get your feelings hurt is reasonable. Though sounds l…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/25 11:37 PM
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Many reasons why it happened but I believe it started with me losing trust in his judgment. I didn’t trust him and for good reason. I had an idea how a family should be ran and his was different. We didn’t have kids but doing the prep work to get to kids really strained us. Then we found out he was unable to have kids which put more strain on us. To me regardless if there were kids or not I didn’t feel we should be indulging in materialistic things and working till we die to pay for them but he …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 09:28 PM
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The best moments I find in my relationships have been us coming together and supporting each other’s struggles. I’ve cried, they have cried and we made it to the other side closer. Don’t make this a habit for sure but if you’re struggling and your partner wants to be part of your journey I say open up. These are the moments that allow you to vet if they’re the life long partner.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 03:08 AM
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Any military man will propose within 6 months. Seen it happened a 1000 times. 1) money (military increases your salary by 1-5k after tax if you’re married) 2) better housing (no more bunking with dudes) 3) everyone does it The fastest I’ve personally known a person get married with a wedding was 27 days. I am serious! My current boyfriend hasn’t proposed but on our second date he said “where’s the ring I want to marry you”. He tells me everyday he’s lucky to have met me and I feel the same way. …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 01:30 AM
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I think you’re completely right for what I wrote and I didn’t give my boyfriend the best light in this aspect because the conversation was different. Though he said in different conversations about kids that he wants to be present dad and make sure he spends one on one time with his kids. He thinks it’s important for both of us to have breaks as well because he hears online about women’s struggles with child raising. We don’t plan on hiring help but we’re not opposed to it but that’s more of a w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 11:18 PM
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I can see the insecurities in me for sure about the value I bring. I feel I need to do more a lot of the time. I have been holding back though letting my boyfriend deal with certain things like trip planning and the schedule for the trash. I am trying to get out of the need to prove I have value by doing everything I possibly can like if I live alone.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 11:07 PM
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Maybe I just need to work on myself some more with learning to release control. I am just not taking his actions at face value when he hasn’t given me a reason not to.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 10:35 PM
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Being a happy person brings in the most masculine men in my opinion. If you are able to bring joy into people’s lives through your actions men will gravitate towards you. Like bring homemade cupcakes to the office or hosting get togethers for acquaintances. That helped me and brings out my best qualities. Though you should find what brings out your feminine energy. Clothes can signal stay away or be inviting but I think a genuine smile invites more people.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/25 05:05 AM
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Nope, not sure why you would regret not sleeping with someone honestly. The best sex to me has been in the middle of my long term committed relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 08:20 PM
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It’s easier to find another amazing guy who wants commitment than it is to make a man who isn’t ready to commit to commit. r/waiting_to_wed is a good example of women trying to make men commit.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 07:59 PM
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Maybe teaching the hyper dog to be crate trained will help. Or maybe making sure you don’t give him treats or affection when you first get home. Your boyfriend can hold the treats and affection to see if that makes the hyper dog back off a bit more. Being aloof towards a dog that’s not displaying desirable behavior is an easy technique.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 03:47 PM
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Personally I love animals and I couldn’t date someone who would make me feel I am picking between my pets and them. Not that pets are more important than them but I can’t imagine my life without animals. I think this is a conversation on how much you really dislike animals and why vs how much he loves dogs and why. Easy sit down conversation over drinks at home. If he gets another dog depending on a dogs personality is how easy they are to train. That’s not something you can always control. Thou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 02:56 PM
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As an ex military wife the way I deal with time apart is looking at my life and seeing what I have left to back burner. Use it as time to reset so you feel your best. I liked cooking new recipes and re organizing the house. Sometimes just getting out with friends but normally that is scheduled a week in advance for my friends.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/25 07:29 PM
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I like the tech support space due to the work at home opportunities, low barrier to entry (college not necessary) and higher pay starting (50-80k). I clean the house and cook while doing my job and still get rewards from my job for my performance. I work so I can fund my future sahm life style. Though my job is so relaxing that I have taken care of my friend’s kids while doing it. So I have thought of just continuing my job till I can’t anymore and just put my family first before my job. I think…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/25 09:13 PM
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Personally I like open communication and would ask him directly “how gift giving makes him feel?”. Make sure to let him know you’re a safe space and that you want to be able to talk about these things to reduce stress on both sides. Maybe he feels he puts more in the relationship because he doesn’t value the love you show as much. Maybe he spent so much on you he realized he is putting aside his own financial goals Eid trying to get back on track. Maybe he is feeling used because other guys are …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 11:24 PM
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I judge if that man is also not treating them well. Your friend could be the person they decide to do better for. I had a friend who was engaged to this guy with a new baby. He had a degree and job but he treated her like an option. Then days before the wedding the baby’s mother showed dated videos of my friend’s fiancé cheating with her. The way he treated her was the problem not the education or employment status.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 08:10 PM
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I personally think blind support is just as bad as constantly criticizing. I think it’s important to be there for your friends but to be there for someone includes being honest with them. Allow people to reflect on their choices and how it affects the people that love them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 08:02 PM
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You’re hurt I think it’s best to get in touch with yourself and fall back on your community asap. Even if you follow what he wants I don’t believe you will be happy from what you said.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 06:39 PM
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His love language is physical touch and I am not to sure if he has a second but he always likes anything I do. Though he came from a pretty loveless relationship previously so I chalk it up to being deprived.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 09:45 PM
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My love language is physical touch so he can’t get my hands off him. I also love flirting with him whenever I get a chance which he likes. Though I don’t equate that to such a big gesture mainly because I enjoy being sexual with him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 07:25 PM
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This is dumb. High value women aren’t just going to sleep with just anyone who hasn’t proven themselves to be of any value to them. Money isn’t high value. How many times do women have to that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 08:16 PM
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Personally to prevent myself from getting hurt I make sure they love me. I don’t have sex with anyone I don’t love. Obviously don’t tell them that but just say you need to have a strong connection before you go further. Second I get their perspective on abortion and what they would do if an accident occurred. This normally gets me ghosted but that’s the point in vetting. If this situation is too “real” for them then they’re not for me. Third get really good at bed time activities. No guy is leav…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 12:27 PM
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From the US and I think it depends on the guy. He can be exhausted that woman won’t go on a second date and decided to lay down first date questions. Though I think anyone putting their savings out there doesn’t have a lot of money in reality. I don’t know any guy who is worth my time that puts how much they make or have on a dating profile. To me just putting it up is bad financial security. My criteria is do they have a job and are they ambitious about their job. That’s all I need to know and …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 05:26 AM
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Oh I mean past boyfriends. He hasn’t seen me being mean. I’ve only told him I can be mean and demanding and gave him examples. I am working really hard to say only nice things. I am physically affectionate I just in the past will belittle my exs. I just think sometimes the way they do something is dumb. Like my friends can do dumb things but I care about my partner. My current boyfriend isn’t triggering my that’s so dumb response though. I am thinking because he’s an older man and I was dating m…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 02:46 AM
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Under 22 when I was 110 24-25 when I was 180 and I am 27 right now. Though I have a baby face/short many people mistaken me for far younger. Though when I was fat many people thought I was my age or older. I know the post is about aging but I think just being ugly is the biggest factor.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 01:35 AM
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I would be myself but that’s got me in trouble last time. I am generally not a nice person to my boyfriends or ex husband. I am very mean, demanding and critical. I don’t want to be that way because I do want to show my love in a more outwardly positive manner. I would do nice things for ex but you wouldn’t say it was out of love. So trying not to repeat my mistakes again. Not because my boyfriend is giving so much because most guys give a lot but because we actually click with our personalities…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/25 06:30 PM
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I was 180lb and men didn’t even notice me on the street. When I was 110lb I was stopped by everyone. Now I lost weight now 130lb and slowly more attention again. Though women and friendship I feel is the same.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/25 05:47 PM
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I will start doing that. I need to take extra time to remember things because I have the memory of a gold fish (he knows this because I forgot my own acquaintance name 3 times in front of him). I will just start taking notes in my phone if he says anything I think might be important.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/25 05:07 PM
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