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Field ReportSeaOk4403/r/seduction12/10/24 08:51 PM
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I mean, either he internalizes a few things here or learns it the hard way in the field, same result.
/r/seduction09/06/26 05:39 PM
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Had a friend did just this. It was really great for a time and then, in a span of a month, it went to full shit. And the vibe got so messed up he had to find a new job.
/r/seduction27/05/26 01:57 AM
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Life is too fucking short. Mutual strong feelings for each other, could say it's rare in itself these days. Be sensible, be responsible, be serious but mindful and careful. Take a chance and answer the question yourself, tell us afterwards.
/r/seduction07/08/25 10:21 PM
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Cheers to Walmart!
/r/seduction07/08/25 04:20 AM
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Whatever truth there may be, maybe it's something. But maybe it's just you haven't met your muse yet. Not every person will match your vibe. Or maybe you're just burnt out from app dating. But I'll tell you a short story, which I will remove shortly. I was taking some casual photo shoots of my friend yesterday and the expressions he has in different moments hanging out vs the expressions he had when he was swiping away on his phone were startling. Doing random shit hanging out, countless express…
/r/seduction07/08/25 04:17 AM
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You forgot how to connect with other human beings.
/r/seduction07/08/25 03:49 AM
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I've actually optimized for something akin to this for awhile. I managed to have some really strong connections with a few women. So I can confirm, they were drawn to it and found our connection a rarity of sorts. However, there were aspects about myself that I had neglected, like poor body image, poor lifestyle, poor logistics. So I would say that while this aspect is valuable, it does not come before actual physical attraction and having the basic in life down. Can't expect to sell a nug of go…
/r/seduction06/08/25 02:44 PM
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I just want to point something out to you. At first, you seem like you're generally interested in learning, but then, upon closer look, you're signaling many 'only ifs' and 'buts'. For instance, you want to start talking to men, but only if he's attractive, only if you might be into them romantically, only if he's cute. And I thought of messaging you directly to help you, but you've put a hard 'no' at your door. "Dont message me, im not interested in making friends" So you want to talk to only a…
/r/seduction03/08/25 03:38 PM
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How is your presence similar or different from king's?
/r/seduction16/07/25 12:38 PM
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Next
/r/seduction06/07/25 02:09 AM
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Damn. That felt authentically visceral.
/r/seduction19/06/25 10:31 PM
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I feel like this needs to be fleshed out a little more because every time I've humanized to a female they've been accepting and nice about it in that moment, but soon after, the attraction is gone and they leave one way or another.
/r/seduction22/05/25 07:43 PM
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"Hey Stan. Would it be OK if we cuddled for awhile? I could really use a good hug."
/r/seduction18/05/25 03:56 AM
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Perhaps you should start there then. Just talking. Have normal conversations for a start.
/r/seduction13/05/25 02:48 PM
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Say funny shit. Get to know her outside of study subject. Maybe she's not as amazing as you fantasize her to be. If she's still your interest. Invite her to activities. School clubs. Dance classes. Yoga. Fun active partnered places. Always be flirting. See where that goes.
/r/seduction13/05/25 01:04 PM
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Girls do this to guys all the time. Simply for the love of attention.
/r/seduction27/04/25 03:44 PM
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If you're kind of a player, or ain't serious about having a relationship, I would just find a different woman. It's not worth the hassle.
/r/seduction13/04/25 03:14 PM
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I'm the wrong person to answer this question. Personally, I'm a little skeptical about how dating apps work. I simply don't trust that it's a clean straight fair algorithm for all users.
/r/seduction05/03/25 09:07 PM
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In the simplest explanation, simply not attractive enough/profile. But potentially, app also restricting the profiles and likes you get because you're not paying premium.
/r/seduction05/03/25 08:59 PM
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While the mom takes her chance to finally go out on the prowl.
/r/seduction27/02/25 11:59 PM
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Hi.
/r/seduction20/02/25 08:38 AM
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Leaving the ring on is a good thing. You'll automatically deter those who don't want to mingle with married people and save yourself some time. While only getting those that who are willing and bold enough to go after people in marriages.
/r/seduction19/02/25 04:35 PM
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Next
/r/seduction19/02/25 06:25 AM
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I've been with girls this slow. Sometimes, it could be worthwhile at the end. But more often than not, the issues will always be there until she becomes more comfortable with her body and sexuality. From my experience, the resistance will be there for a long time and it'll require a lot of effort on comfort for her to open up. Which if you're planning on a relationship with her, then that would be great. But if you want a highly sexual relationship from the get go and she's looking for slow rela…
/r/seduction19/02/25 05:55 AM
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Always let the girl decide when to bring it up. Until then, play it cool.
/r/seduction13/02/25 05:48 AM
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"I didnt pursue dating with her after getting to know her personality" That's right. Not everyone is a compatible match for both parties. So you gotta make some effort to get to know people, men and women, more often and effortlessly, to find the ones you do click with. There's plenty of clubs, socials, networking, events, parties to facilitate this for you in college. Take advantage of that.
/r/seduction09/02/25 11:44 PM
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You already have her interest, she already mentioned sex, it's already a win. Just have a few great dates, just a matter of time. Don't get desperate, enjoy the game.
/r/seduction09/02/25 09:26 PM
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Next. If she ain't attracted right now, any added effort will just seem try hard. Or maybe she's just very guarded personal naturally, and in that case, also next. Your efforts are better spent on someone who actually wants to meet you halfway.
/r/seduction06/02/25 09:27 PM
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In one perspective, nothing is wrong, and it's perfectly natural to want better and better things in life. But in another, it's an endless chase. There's always going to be something better, somewhere out there. And you'll never reach that point of being truly satisfied. From the partner's perspective, you'll signal that you're someone who's never satisfied. It'll be short term highs, and when the honey-moon phases passes, its over. Your attention will seem fleeting. Unstable. Ungrounding. Unsus…
/r/seduction27/01/25 06:06 PM
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Fair. But to give him a full script would make it more robotic and inorganic? Not sure what vibe they're both like so I'm just making a 2 second suggestion. I mean he could go full white coat michelin chef too. Some people might find that attractive and appreciate the high skill show. Really depends on their natural vibes and style. However, just glanced his responses to other commenters, looks like he's asking for a complete step by step tutorial.
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:26 AM
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Cook together? Make it fun and playful?
/r/seduction26/01/25 09:28 PM
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Ok I see. Here's my guess. So you probably have the physical attraction, masculine energy, behaviours, aura down. A fighter as you say. But you lack some softness for them to actually approach you, kind of cold and closed in your general expressiveness. They want to feel that you're capable of being dangerous, but each of them want to be that one person that tames the beast.
/r/seduction25/01/25 03:05 AM
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You're not meant to mould yourself to what they expect you to be. You just cultivate the best life for yourself and your world. You can invite them into your life, and they just decide if they want to tag along. Trying to cater to the preferences and whims of each woman individually is folly. There's just too many reasons for women 'not to choose' you. You'll lose yourself if you let them decide who you are suppose to be. You have to cultivate you. Learned this lesson the hard way.
/r/seduction25/01/25 02:14 AM
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Just wearing provocative clothing in general won't create sex appeal if you internally feel awkward and squeamish. It will show in your body language and you'll just look uncomfortable or something. Your issue would be better suited for really deep intimate questions instead. For instance, if your partner doesn't find you sexy, what about you did he find attractive to motivate him to pursue a relationship with you? Why does 'being sexy' make you feel squeamish? Why is he bringing up at this mome…
/r/seduction13/12/24 01:10 PM
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You've summarized my exact story so far. Below average man. I think I've come to a point where I do frequently have great conversations with women. They're attracted by the interesting, genuine conversations I have with them. However, like you said, the baseline is just not there. And I've learned the hard way over and over again, that bridge never crosses over. Not that it should. Biology is biology. But I end up as some sort of friend/talk/text/therapist buddy. It's nice having female perspect…
/r/seduction20/10/24 07:21 PM
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I guess I'm speaking from trauma but there are days where I feel such an existential crisis with this. Like I will never be that guy that women will naturally just feel that primal level of attraction for, and no matter what I do that will never be enough to compensate for the lack of baseline attraction.
/r/seduction20/10/24 06:42 PM
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You said it yourself. Blunt and serious. Look intimidating. Got to clear out that energy for dating, especially with new girls. Figure out what that's about and find ways to make yourself lighthearted and fun. Otherwise, you're gonna have to find a girl who's down for blunt and serious.
/r/seduction19/10/24 04:12 AM
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Personally, my first instinct in such a moment would be a joke or a play on her words like relationship and ready. Diffuse the tension, lighten the energy and bring it back to the present moment. But also if the moment calls for it, acknowledge what she said seriously, and level with her what your intentions are and stand by it. If they're not aligned, leave it on a good note and let it go nicely.
/r/seduction14/10/24 03:18 PM
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Personally, I'm past pursuing girls who like to play these games. Whatever the reason they say, they're happy for the free attention. It's great for newbies to learn and kind of a high at first but I've grown accustomed to it, it's just exhausting and waste of time. It's free validation for them and maybe fun for you in the moment, but unless you close the deal, ultimately waste of time if it doesn't go anywhere. Personally, give a little to gauge interest, if they say they're unavailable, I tak…
/r/seduction13/10/24 11:51 PM
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I wouldn't say any one book or video in particular. I'm reading into a bunch of stuff, personal, professional and spiritual. But I would say your own expansion is more important than any woman. Aim for truth and apply it.
/r/seduction13/10/24 10:07 PM
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Right. So I was getting less than what was truly available this whole time?
/r/seduction13/10/24 02:28 AM
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Self-improvement is attractive, granted. But I wouldn't be so thrown off if the her availability remained consistent. But having that also improve feels like a very odd convenient timing.
/r/seduction13/10/24 02:27 AM
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Depends what subjects interest you.
/r/seduction13/10/24 12:15 AM
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Yea this kind of resonated. I know we would get different feedback if we become different in some way. Like I understand if I gone through a massive change, I see how everyone else would react different. But what I didn't think expect was she responding so differently over change so small. And it still doesn't explain how a checklist of ~3-7 requirements kind of suddenly reduced to ~2-3. Either it's a coincidence her life is more streamlined as I have been dedicating to myself or maybe I just wa…
/r/seduction12/10/24 10:28 PM
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I really haven't improved or changed my technique. I'm still just in a reading about stuff phase.
/r/seduction12/10/24 09:33 PM
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Honestly, I don't feel like I'm acting or behaving much differently. So I feel kinda jipped that we could have had better and more sex all along.
/r/seduction12/10/24 09:25 PM
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Read it again to yourself from an outsider's perspective. Does this say anything unique in particular or does it sound generic like it could be anyone of us? Seas of people match that exact description. You say the same thing that 10 other million people would say. You also say some things that 10 other million would say they are not. But I still have no inkling, no clue, nothing reads interesting enough to really tell me who you truly are.
/r/seduction11/10/24 12:12 AM
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I reckon you must be some with enough attractive characteristics already to even cross over from friends to sex. I think it's great to have female friends, brings a difference in energy and perspective from time to time. Feels healthy to do. I have a feeling you're the one that is friendzoning them at first, they find you attractive enough to sleep with already, but you're setting some boundaries and holding them off. Then when you decide it's ok, letting them have sex with you. I've never seen …
/r/seduction10/10/24 01:35 PM
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Originally, I thought to just quickly reply to your post. But as I got into it, I found myself in a groove of an advise that some people in the boarder group could benefit from hearing. This response is more motivational type for your post. But also a bit of a cautionary tale for those reading, trying to date and have relationships without financial success or place of your own. I've been in your situation before and I do agree, you should take advantage of being young and good looking and take …
/r/seduction06/10/24 03:03 PM
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Professional scare, probably from colleagues. Dating a patient is highly ill advised. I think the regulation when it's safe to date a patient is 1 yr after she has stopped treating you. But obviously that is way too long to maintain attraction. But she did show a lot of IOI and even went to a wedding with you so it's not a totally hopeless situation. Here's my advise, level with her that you like her etc etc, and you fully understood she's crossed professional boundaries by going to a wedding wi…
/r/seduction27/09/24 03:48 AM
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But finding that 1 is a mission.
/r/seduction02/07/24 05:32 PM
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The sad truth is you need to get that shit nailed down like a professional marketing expert. Doesn't matter who you are on the inside. Consider your profile an advertisement for you.
/r/seduction01/07/24 10:15 PM
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I have some female friends where they are tell me bad pictures or profiles gives them bad vibes. Honestly, it's incredibly shallow, everyone has inherent value, but this is the sad reality. It's the only thing they get to judge you on. OLD is straight up window shopping.
/r/seduction01/07/24 10:12 PM
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Based on this, she just attention seeking. She wants the vibes of a boyfriend without actually being in one. Merely attention and validation seeking. Even though it might be beneficial to you in the short run, it's always a waste of time in the long run. She'll flip on you when she finds the true attention she wants from somewhere else, aka RAS flip. Decide clearly what you want to do.
/r/seduction01/07/24 06:06 AM
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Mom's spaghetti
/r/seduction01/07/24 05:41 AM
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When I was in college, I approached many girls of all ethnicity. Most Indian girls would prefer Indian guys I learned.
/r/seduction30/06/24 03:57 PM
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Appreciate the clarification actually. Actually makes a lot of sense. Yea I definitely have love-bombed a few times a little too early.
/r/seduction09/06/24 02:32 PM
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Giving her the best sex she could have is the ultimate way to increase attraction already. Invite her to something unique. Keep blowing her mind on a regular basis, in bed and out, and she will naturally start to develop the relationship thoughts in her mind. Let her decide that you are the best choice for her and she will eventually ask to be exclusive. Play it cool.
/r/seduction09/06/24 02:27 PM
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I fall for this so often. They encourage your to drop your guard and share what you really feel to get a sense of who you really are. Every time that I fall for it and drop my guard, and share some inner thoughts about myself, they lose interest. Game over. Clearly, women are only attracted to a specific type of inner self within the guy. Any sign of weakness, regardless if she asked about you being authentic could be an attraction killer.
/r/seduction09/06/24 01:53 PM
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So on the surface, he's clearly an attractive guy. He's getting a lot of matches on par with women. But for some reason it's not enough so clearly it's subsurface things lacking. Perhaps there's more required to select partners appropriate for relationships or he's missing some sort of relationship material. But he really hasn't alluded to anything here that we can speak to. Isn't it some pattern where women will designate one type of guy as their lover for sex but designate a 'nicer guy' to set…
/r/seduction09/06/24 12:57 AM
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Only thing you described about yourself here is you're kind of set on looks, money and physique, just saying.
/r/seduction08/06/24 08:12 PM
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Just social conditioning, that's all.
/r/seduction08/06/24 12:33 PM
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Move on. Clearly her words don't match her actions. She's not attracted to people who are interested, acting out very unconsciously. She's still in the phase of going for people who give her no attention and then simply complaining about it. Just avoid, even if she comes back to you down the line. Seen this type many times.
/r/seduction08/06/24 12:29 PM
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Ask him to go to the gym with you, you need some fitness advice. Or go for a run together and find a spot.
/r/seduction07/06/24 10:45 PM
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The number of women that have actually enjoyed texting and flirting kinda constantly all day with me, bud...... I can count on one hand. Everything has to be practiced, failed and learned in person.
/r/seduction04/06/24 11:13 PM
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Elicit emotions, flirt, lead the adventure, be funny, be unpredictable, and when vibes are at it's peak, a good moment, surprise her with an unexpected kiss.
/r/seduction04/06/24 07:19 PM
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I'm just going to remind that connection and rapport in itself, is not attraction.
/r/seduction04/06/24 12:19 PM
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Back in my university days, I approached everyone and every group generally preferred their own race. Indian for Indian, Chinese for Chinese, White for White, Black for Black.
/r/seduction03/06/24 01:30 PM
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If you can afford it, I would look for a reputable dating coach in your city. I know what it's like having extended dry spell periods, years upon years. At these time intervals, the mind has probably shifted so much, by not having intimacy that, I'm sure there are so many layers in the mind he has to breakthrough in order to attract women. It's very hard to stare at your own loop and get out of it. But that's what a therapist or perhaps a dating coach might be effective, to offer perspective fro…
/r/seduction03/06/24 01:13 AM
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