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Yeah if anything it sounds like the guy is more successful than usual, he’s obviously not desperate and has options. And I’m sure he’s super attractive given her swipe rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:44 AM
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You seriously think they say those things because of what women said online and not because they know young women are typically not attracted to much older men and are saying anything they can to try to talk them into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:36 AM
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I have a few friends who have had a lot of relationships, I don’t think there’s a simple explanation for it. Sometimes it’s that they get into relationships based on physical attraction but find their personalities are incompatible long term, sometimes they get bored in relationships easily and want NRE again. Maybe they don’t want kids and the people they date do, or they get FOMO and are always convinced there’s someone better for them. Sometimes there is no reason and they’ve just had bad luc…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:11 AM
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I don’t think women or men are any more logical than the other. All of us like to think we are completely logical but most people’s beliefs are based on emotions, especially here. It just manifests in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:31 PM
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I don’t think the dick pic thing is misunderstanding what women actually want, it’s the guys getting some weird pleasure from it. Most guys who do it have sent a ton of them and I’d be surprised if it’s ever worked once for most of them so they figure that out pretty quickly but stillt do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:25 PM
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What about childhood friends? In my experience and from what I’ve seen those have the least chance of developing feelings on either side or having attractiveness play a role at all. Probably because it captures some of that imprinting that makes us sexually repulsed by our family even if they are physically attractive. Another reason your friendships might depend on attraction is because they might assume you want more than friendship if you just met them. Because that is usually the case when g…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 09:29 PM
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It just depends on the couple, I don’t really think things will change that much. We will still probably have lifelong partners despite the fact it wasn’t the norm in the past. It just has to be a good enough relationship to outweigh the excitement we feel for new relationships, but finding someone you’re that compatible with is a lot rarer than just finding a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 01:22 AM
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I think biologically it seems serial monogamy is what humans are designed for. As in getting in long term relationships, but not lifelong ones. Having multiple partners seemed to be somewhat common but most get into exclusive relationships eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:17 PM
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I think it depends, if it was ended for a reason then the attraction doesn’t tend to come back. Where if it was more of a situationship type thing where you potentially could work really well together but never had the chance to find out it can easily come back in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:57 PM
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I think it’s somewhat common for first-timers to feel this way, people build it up to some life changing thing and then when they have it it’s underwhelming. Sex by itself isn’t really special, sometimes it’s just a fun thing to do with someone you’re attracted to. It can be magical when it’s with someone you have a deep connection with, but that’s a lot harder to find than just someone to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 06:45 AM
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I mean if they’re only doing it to mess with their head then yeah that’s abuse, but I don’t think that’s the reason most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:40 PM
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I am an alt-right Nazi Trump supporter and here’s why Jewish feminist high-n women make the best partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 01:14 AM
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Plus the okcupid thing isn’t even a study, just the guy analyzing his data. Meaning they probably didn’t control for things like picture/profile quality and user demographics and whether the users are an accurate sample of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 04:17 PM
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I guess it’s closer than gorillas where it actually is the most dominant with all the females but chimps are still very different than humans. Chimps are more promiscuous and far less selective than humans. The females usually will mate with every male in the group and it’s up to the males to mate guard to ensure paternity. The rate at which females reject advances is only slightly more than males do interestingly. But idk how much you can learn from these species given how different we are. Mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:58 PM
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Yeah maybe they did a while ago. I would think they want that secret, they probably make the vast majority of their money from men who would be less likely to use it if they knew that there’s way more men. And I’m sure it’s hard for tinder to figure out who’s a bot also. I imagine it’s pretty easy to figure it out without any numbers from tinder, just make fake profiles and swipe through every single person and count it up. And just do that in different places to get a representative sample.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:03 PM
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Has tinder ever actually released those numbers themselves? I don’t know why they would ever do that. The ones I’ve seen were 3rd parties trying to figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:18 PM
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One is associated with the other, but that doesn’t make them the same thing. Going to college is associated with making more money, but there are rich people who never went and poor people who did.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:01 PM
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Matriarchies might not have survived but the vast majority of patriarchies didn’t survive either. Trying to talk about prehistoric social structures is probably going to have to involve some degree of pseudoscience because obviously there is very little information available. I don’t think studying a few holdouts that tend to be concentrated in specific geographic regions tell us much about what happened tens of thousands of years ago. The truth is probably that societies were neither completely…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:06 PM
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I think sex drive itself is different from the spontaneous vs responsive thing. You can have a low spontaneous sex drive, like you could only want sex once every few months but when it does happen it’s spontaneous. You could also have a high sex drive but still need foreplay or escalation or whatever to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:02 PM
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I mean for OLD and speed dating (and probably bars/clubs/parties to some extent) you don’t know anything about them so physical traits become a lot more important. You’re choosing people before you have the chance to develop some sort of chemistry with them. I’m sure if there was an attractiveness filter a lot of guys would set it and guys usually want the most attractive women in the room, but that doesn’t mean only attractive women get into relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:43 PM
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I’m not sure if it’s that, the guys who do it probably have sent hundreds and I’d be surprised if it ever worked, so they know that women don’t get attracted based on them. If they ended up sleeping with them it’s because they were already attracted enough that they still want to after. I think it’s just them being horny and wanting to share it, combined with some desperation of not having anyone else to do it with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:01 PM
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Yeah if we’re just talking about actively noticing people you don’t know then of course it depends on whether they catch your attention, which being attractive is part of. Like I notice attractive men too, doesn’t mean I’m attracted to them. And most women probably notice attractive women too. If our brains were designed to actively notice everything around us we would just be overwhelmed all the time. I think this does happen with autism and ADHD actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:12 PM
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The pillosphere lingo is spreading. Was studying in my university’s Starbucks earlier and there were a couple of girls sitting at the table next to me, one of them called another guy studying there a chad. Then had to explain to her friend what that means. She was wearing a sorority sweatshirt too which made it even more hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 09:13 PM
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The amount of hate Greeks and Turks have for each other is hilarious given that genetically they’re pretty much identical.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 12:54 AM
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Only the big yellow chad bananas get picked and get the chance to spread their seeds. But the other 80% of incel banana plants are left to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:24 PM
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Then she still had to have been popular enough for all those guys to know her, which of course not everyone is. Also there are probably more social consequences for to doing it if it’s people you actually know vs just a bunch of strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:56 PM
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The truth about complex human behavior is pretty much impossible to determine I think. Arguably there is no truth given how much variation there is also. The best you can really do is identify trends, but that kind of stretches the definition of “truth” at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:48 PM
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I agree but to get anywhere close to the benefit an attractive woman has as a man you have to be like model-tier. It depends on it you’re ambitious I’d say, like the most attractive men still can’t get all their stuff paid for. But they will be taken seriously in a way attractive women won’t usually be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:19 AM
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I would say that only 1-2% are almost universally attractive, but individual women probably find a lot more attractive than that. It’s kind of a meme that women find the guys their friends are interested in unattractive so there’s definitely a lot of variation. Which means that a guy has to be very attractive for pretty much everyone to agree that they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:12 PM
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I don’t think that’s equivalent, it would be more like if women do what you described in the post to black men only. Also in the race analogy people would avoid them or treat them rudely in general, while women typically only do that to men who initiate contact with them first, not every man she sees. Plus there’s a lot more historical precedent for black people being treated badly because of skin color than men being treated badly for their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:36 PM
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I assume they account for that and this is “relationships where both partners work”. And the amount of people who live off inheritance is small enough to have a negligible impact on the numbers anyway I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:03 PM
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Well I’ve never heard a woman describe someone as “dominant” and the message conveniently had a bunch of compliments for him as well. Like I’ve been in majority female friend groups before, while they do talk about hot guys they don’t really talk about guys they’re not interested in unless they were being creepy or something. Also the whole story about them being angry about the guys making a group chat but then one of them shows or tells him about messages that are saying he’s ugly for some rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:22 PM
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I don’t think it’s that women care about looks more now, just the ones that do care are more comfortable expressing it. Like I don’t think we’ll ever get to a point where men are 100% chosen based on looks, there will always be women who decide mostly based on that and women where other things are way more important. Where in the past women who want to date hot guys were pressured not to and to do whatever made sense in that society.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 05:21 AM
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I’m sure it’s true to some extent but it’s really reductionist to boil it down to just that. I mean you don’t see women going crazy for Biden. And saying it’s all women is too. I’ve met women where that is the most important thing and some who don’t care at all. Plus a lot of women are ambitious and want power themselves, those people usually want relationships with someone more grounded so they have somewhere to get away to. It reminds me of those people who say that women only care about statu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:10 AM
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It’s not that deep, women have cared about their appearance long before OLD and social media came along. They just want to look hot because it’s fun to be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:55 AM
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What do you mean it’s gone on for all of history? If we’re picturing men overthrowing the government so they can keep women as sex slaves or something that’s never happened at any point in history. If we’re talking about rigid gender roles and women being subservient, that was mainly due to religious and cultural reasons, not because it’s the natural order. And even that was just a blip compared to the rest of human history. Women are not in those sorts of scenarios in a state of nature, some pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:28 PM
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What do you do when you suspect someone might be staring at you in your peripheral vision but don’t want to risk making eye contact to check
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:55 AM
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Power move
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:02 AM
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Depends on age, at birth like 51% are male, at 85 40% are. Also depends on location, there are more single women in NYC and less in LA
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 05:12 PM
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I wouldn’t say way more or that it’s significant enough to make a noticeable difference in gender dynamics, if you pair one to one it’s only like 1 out of every 33 men who won’t be able to find anyone. And there are more gay men than gay women so it probably evens out anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:57 PM
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I agree, I think being really attractive just brings out what’s already inside. Nice attractive people are going to be really nice because people treat them well in return, mean attractive people are going to be mean because they know they can get away with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:35 PM
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Doesn’t that tank your profile score and then you don’t get shown to anyone anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 03:57 PM
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Thought this was going to be some black pill nonsense but actually a good post. You really don’t need to be a billionaire who looks like a model to be happy, chasing that is not going to make you fulfilled. I’ll also say that you can be high value in different ways, there isn’t a single value metric. Statistically most people are better than most others at something. If you look at physical attractiveness, wealth/status, or whatever, the people at the very top of one of those categories are very…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 05:23 AM
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I agree that men aren’t inherently uglier, but I would argue that it’s because male looks are less “valuable” than female looks. Because women consider non-looks attributes more than men, the looks slice of the attraction pie is smaller. So to reach the point at which enough of the pie is filled in to start to have an effect on people (people start to actively take notice, do double takes, etc), men have to fill in a larger percentage of the smaller slice. If we’re just talking about strangers i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 11:00 PM
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Hunter gatherer times were a little different, people lived in communal tribes with extended family and such, everyone pitched in to provide for everyone else. The nuclear family with one man providing everything is a relatively new concept. If it were just nuclear families out in the wild for all of human history sex outside marriage would probably be very rare, and we would be a lot less social of a species.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:57 PM
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Romans had gay sex also, it was just viewed more in terms of power dynamics than romanticism. As in you were only gay if you were the bottom (I think the Greeks had this also to a lesser extent). Or feminine would probably be a better word for it, they didn’t really have the concepts of homo or heterosexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:51 PM
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The way it sounds to me in the post is that it was used in an endearing way. Like him trying to make conversation was cute, not necessarily anything about appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:44 AM
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Warning to those who choose their partners based on looks, this is what happens to your species when you do that too much. These birds choose basically only on genetics, and it has gotten so out of hand that the males spend all of their time grooming themselves and the females do all the work raising the young and gathering resources and such. Let this be a cautionary tale for us all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:08 PM
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I thought progesterone was the one that decreased sex drive and estrogen increased it? It seems both testosterone and estrogen play a role in female sex drive, increasing testosterone and not estrogen actually seems to lower it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:21 PM
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Pretty much everyone gets ghosted at least once. I’ve heard of attractive women who were completely normal getting ghosted on the apps. It’s just something people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:32 AM
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Do they though? I haven’t known many but the ones I have tend to end up with people similar to themselves. A shy introverted person is going to be exhausted by an exciting extroverted partner most of the time. And vice versa, an outgoing popular guy is probably not going to want to end up with a shy introverted girl. In general most people have stronger connections with people they relate to on some level.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:47 PM
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Not necessarily because of their lack of agreeableness, some studies found no preference for dark triad traits once physical attractiveness and extroversion are controlled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:00 AM
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I think he’s lying, stalked his history a bit and he said he got 99 likes in 45 min. Also seems insecure so I think that’s just compliment fishing. Unless he just ran out of people in his area.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:23 PM
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It’s the best time for people who are already rich to get even richer, but most people aren’t going to have a bunch of money to invest in the middle of a recession.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:07 PM
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Most of it appears to be driven by declining marriage rates. Which also means less relationships in general, where most sex occurs. It has also risen among people who have never married by a smaller amount, which seems driven by religious people having less premarital sex according to the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:40 PM
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Sorry if this comes across as dumb but I am curious about lesbian dynamics. Is the incidence of proactive sex drive/people who have consistent casual sex higher in lesbians/bisexuals than straight women (not that it’s super high among straight women, maybe 20% if I had to guess)? Like are there a lot of lesbians who are upset because they want casual sex but can only get relationships (so the mirror of gay men who want relationships but can only get casual sex)? Also is the kind of behavior lesb…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:03 AM
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I have seen both, it depends on the guys personality, like how insecure or nice they are. It’s the same as the “are hot people nicer” debate I think, if they’re nice they are treated good by people so they will be even more nice, if they’re mean they will be more mean because they know they can get away with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:23 PM
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Sex has always had some sort of social function, else we wouldn’t have it outside fertility windows
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:21 PM
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Agree on everything except Musk being a visionary lol. He just takes other people’s ideas and designs them to seem futuristic over being practical. He didn’t even invent PayPal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:56 PM
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There’s research saying both similar and different. I think we prefer people who are vaguely similar, but not close enough to potentially be related. Could also be the fact that people prefer partners who look like their parent of the gender they are attracted to according to other studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:37 AM
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Testosterone definitely plays a huge role in libido, but it’s not the only thing. Estrogen has also been associated with sex drive (progesterone is what lowers it). Also women are going to be more sensitive to testosterone even if we go off that only. Like women with super high sex drives (like higher then the average man) probably have higher testosterone than other women, but it’s still far less than the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:00 AM
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A guy with a PhD in the same thing might hit on her because of that, and a woman who is a professional cod streamer might be attracted to that. I think it’s just that people usually prefer partners who are similar to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:31 PM
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Casual in general seems rarer in Europe. Like in Europe mostly once you start sleeping with someone and hanging out it’s assumed you are exclusive (unless ONS or agreed upon fwb). Where in the US it’s usually assumed to be not exclusive until you agree that it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:15 PM
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Wasn’t there a black mirror episode about this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:51 PM
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Today I saw an old lady crossing the street. I was going to do the masculine thing and help her but my feminine side took over and I pushed her over and laughed. (I can see what they probably meant, in that it being blunt even when it is hurtful seems more masculine than feminine, but idk why to frame it like that.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 06:07 AM
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I mean I know model-tier women who only have a few hundred followers, some of them are just more private people or don’t want attention from strange men so they keep it on private. Unless you live in an influencer bubble most people just don’t care very much about that stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:53 PM
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I do know a couple where the gender roles were completely reversed, the guy is pretty quiet and emotional, and the girl is pretty masculine in personality (also in a quiet kind of way though). She asked him out and escalated it, and pretty much leads the relationship. They are both very attractive and share a lot of interests though so I guess it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:28 AM
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I think most people just have a base level of happiness, and life events can temporarily raise or lower it but it tends to even out. I’m sure most people have had the experience of meeting someone who has nothing and is happy and someone who has everything who is miserable. But saying “women have it on easy mode” is equivalent to saying “westerners have it on easy mode” that doesn’t make the women or westerners any happier. Someone who has struggled for food moving to somewhere where it is plent…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:21 PM
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Personality does matter also though, it’s a spectrum. A super hot guy can get away with a lot more but less attractive guys can make up for it by having a seductive personality if they just want to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 10:39 PM
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Off topic but what is an atheist church like? It sounds interesting as someone who was raised religious but doesn’t believe it anymore, but misses the community aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:09 AM
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My partner was about to get himself shot, I intervened.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:40 PM
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Idk how on earth he would still have that haircut, his stylists must give him some hair advice and he can spend as much money as you can to style it. My theory is that he does it on purpose because he wants to come off as a goofy awkward guy, because that’s a lot better than the evil mastermind a lot of people see him as these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 08:24 PM
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Hasn’t he also said that men and women vary more within their gender than between them personality wise? Ie pick out 2 random men or women and it’s likely they’ll be more different than the average man is to the average woman. But idk how he got those numbers, everyone has some combination of masculine and feminine traits. Similar to the extra/introvert thing, we are way too complex to separate into 2 categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 01:08 AM
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I mean he probably had the most famous cheating scandal in the last couple decades. And tiger woods isn’t exactly seen as a sex symbol lol. It’s just basic logic that the more of something you can get = less desperate you are for it. In my life at least the guys I’ve known who get sex easily are not really manipulated by it and don’t act like you’re describing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:37 PM
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Not sure if you’re talking about the study but it did include FWB as well as ONS. In fact it included just making out with someone as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 01:20 AM
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I don’t think it’s male sexuality even, it just sucks to be intimate with someone who doesn’t feel the same way. I’ve seen men be heartbroken over it, and most of the women I know who have casual sex have had people fall in love when they didn’t want a relationship, even when being upfront about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:48 PM
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I’ve definitely seen hot women approach, mostly when the guy is also really attractive and they’re tired of waiting for him to do something or want to get to them before someone else does. Some also just have more forward personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:36 PM
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They already do keep attractiveness ratings of people, mostly based on how many people swipe on you I think. They use them differently I think, like tinder will show more people closer to you while bumble just gives everyone the most attractive first (or used to at least). But they all sprinkle in the top profiles for everyone, at whatever interval they found keeps people’s hopes up the most ok their algorithm
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 12:40 AM
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Maybe they could only show people with similar attractiveness? I imagine they have a pretty good idea from swipe percentages and possibly facial recognition. Though I guess seeing hot people is probably a big driver for the apps so maybe they can’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:07 PM
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Yeah I knew someone similar, legit model who was tall and really smart. Found one girl he really liked and just stayed with her for most of college. It might even be more likely, if they can have casual sex easily they’re more likely to have realized that it’s not fulfilling for most people and doesn’t help the desire for companionship. Like with modes or celebrities or whatever most of them get into relationships even though they could sleep around easily if they wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 07:45 PM
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I mean I’m sure most of the matches were at her level too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:56 AM
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Some women do enjoy casual sex and have high sex drives, would they be undatable? What about a very attractive straight man who could get sex easily? At some point you just have to trust them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:52 PM
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