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Take them and get the fuck out of my life. I can always make more money later
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 11:05 PM
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Of all the content out there, this is the best: https://youtube.com/@help4men
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:16 AM
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Stay strong brother! I know things are rough, but you’ve got this! Take one day at a time. Your kids need you and they will one day appreciate the battle you had to go through to be involved in their lives. I wan you to tell them that story, NOT your ex!
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:02 AM
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Not in a million years!
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 12:29 PM
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I can’t say it was easy, but my ex is now paying child support, does not have 50% custody, and has lost every court battle thus far. None of this will age well for her and I’m not sure how she plans on keeping up a deluded reality for the rest of our lives. She’s honestly a huge disappointment and I can’t believe I married her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/26 01:33 AM
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It really depends on the person you’re having children with. I love my daughter more than anything, but something fundamentally shifted in my wife shortly after she was born. I still don’t know whether it was postpartum mental health, deeper unresolved issues, or something else entirely—but the outcome was the same: the relationship imploded, and my life was turned upside down. If there’s one thing I’d strongly recommend before having kids, it’s having an explicit, sober conversation about what …
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 02:47 PM
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It’s been a year and a half since all of this happened, and I’m still trying to understand it. At this point, it feels like my ex either struggles with an undiagnosed mental health issue or deliberately engineered a situation to have a child and then attempt to secure full custody by fabricating scenarios that fall apart under even basic scrutiny. But whatever narrative she’s created isn’t holding up. If I were actually mentally unstable or a danger to anyone, I wouldn’t have 50/50 custody. I wo…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 07:16 PM
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Exact same here.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 08:50 PM
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I couldn’t agree with this more—it took me a long time to understand it. When you first go through this, your mind keeps asking, “What did I do?” The truth is, in most cases, you didn’t do anything to deserve the abuse. That’s what makes it so confusing—you can’t find a clear cause, and that uncertainty leads to rumination and self-blame. The real accountability comes later. You’ll eventually recognize the red flags you ignored, the times you said “yes” when you should’ve said “no,” or the momen…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 08:49 PM
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Welcome to the weaponization of therapeutic language and psychology. Sorry you’re here — but you’re not alone. Due to the overuse of terms like narcissism and emotional abuse, most people today have no idea what those words actually mean. The truth is, everyone has narcissistic traits to some degree — but only a very small percentage of people meet the diagnostic criteria for true Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Right now, we’re living in an age where people label their partners “narcis…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 04:49 PM
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’re not alone. I’m 1.5 years into a contentious divorce with no end in sight. In that time we’ve spent $400k in legal fees (her $300k, me $100k), lost an amazing job, lost millions in stock compensation, and still she won’t stop. I don’t know if I’m fighting someone who always intended to have a child and then divorce me immediately after, or if I’m up against someone with such an extreme mental illness that she can never be the villain and will spend m…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 12:30 PM
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Read this: https://www.amazon.com/Releasing-Your-Need-Please-Relationships-ebook/dp/B0CDL44Q9Z
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 03:35 AM
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I attempted the same thing. I assumed my STBX was going through PPD and would come to her senses. Unfortunately she went nuclear on me and destroyed any possibility of us having that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 03:21 AM
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The person you married is not the person divorcing you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 03:06 AM
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Shortly after my STBX kidnapped our daughter and filed for divorce, I confided in my manager about what was happening and the wild allegations being thrown at me. His response: “Well, I know there’s always two sides to a story.” That was the last thing I needed to hear. My wife had vanished without a word, taken our child, and tried to frame me as mentally unstable and dangerous to win 100% custody. I was forced to leave my home for 30 days, endure supervised visits, and jump through endless hoo…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 12:42 AM
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I believe my STBX still tells people I’m obsessed with her. When I used to do supervised visits at her apartment, she had every security measure imaginable installed — door stoppers, alarm systems, extra locks — as if she genuinely thought I would stalk her. Even now, she refuses to do simple curbside exchanges with our daughter, which tells me she still clings to that fantasy. It got so ridiculous that during a co-parent counseling session, I had to say it plainly: “Listen to me very clearly — …
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 05:34 PM
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I think that’s the narrative she’s already spinning with relationships we have to share (e.g the pediatrician). When she kidnapped our daughter, she conveniently forgot to notify me of a pediatrician appointment, which allowed her to set the narrative about our divorce. During an appointment she said “as you know doctor, We have decided to split up”. I sat there completely perplexed. WE! You kidnapped our child and trying to destroy my life for reasons you won’t explain. When I ask you threaten …
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 09:53 PM
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I’d pay a fortune to know. Unfortunately, I’ve been completely isolated from her friend group, and she’ll do everything she can to make sure I don’t talk to anyone — which is going to get exhausting for her. My best guess? She’s lying but believes her own lies. She’s trapped in a victimhood mentality, twisting things to gain sympathy. She leaves out context or spins small moments into something sinister. For example, she says I “raised my hand” at her — which sounds like domestic violence if you…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 09:49 PM
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I highly recommend giving this podcast a listen. Don’t be put off by the title — it’s a reference to a scientific study showing that liberal women report being less happy than their conservative counterparts. https://youtu.be/u6okoAp5CX0
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 08:36 PM
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I discovered what personality disorders were! While the terms BPD and NPD are thrown around a lot, I’ve never experienced something so bewildering. 3 months after our daughter was born, my wife kidnapped our child, filed for divorce, and attempted to gain full custody by ruining my life. The day before she had our daughter she was the kindest person in the world. Look into NPD and BPD, but try not to go down the narcissist rabbit hole.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 06:07 AM
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Child support isn’t designed to target men or women—it targets the higher-earning parent. However, because men have traditionally been the primary earners, they have historically borne the brunt of child support obligations. As more women achieve higher incomes, many are now experiencing firsthand how flawed and, at times, exploitative the system can be. The state has a financial incentive to maximize child support collections since it receives federal funding based on enforcement efforts. This …
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 01:24 AM
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There’s no reason for you to go, so I would not.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 06:48 AM
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Scary, indeed. My ex staged conflicts in front of friends to justify her departure, and I was completely naïve to the fact that some people are capable of such manipulation. The smear campaign had already begun without me realizing it. The day before she left, she encouraged me to enjoy myself at a vineyard with all of her friends—so I did. I didn’t do anything inappropriate, abusive, or concerning, but everyone saw that I had been drinking. The next day, she walked out and told her friends I ha…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 06:24 AM
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My family is grateful that my marriage ended before it was too late. Had it continued, my ex would have drained every ounce of authenticity from me, reducing me to a shell of myself. In hindsight, her discarding me was a blessing in disguise. Her father— a man severely broken by years of abuse, numbed by heavy antidepressants just to function—served as a grim preview of what my future could have been. The thought alone sends shivers down my spine.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 02:38 AM
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Mormon?
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 09:24 AM
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This hasn't happened yet, but if/when it does I will definitely feel bad for him. The relationship will be abusive and short lived. I don't see it lasting because she's incapable of keeping a relationship. Plus she's a single mother who will discard anyone (even her own Childs father) for saying no to her. I will definitely warn him.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 05:44 PM
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I swear something is in the water!
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 03:49 AM
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Im in the exact same situation. It is all about control and what you are seeing is a facade. Don’t fall for it and don’t believe anything she says about wanting to be “great” coparents. Why did your relationship come to an end? Fight like hell to get 50/50, and then go for child support.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 06:51 AM
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I absolutely love the comment above: Dads don’t win custody; mothers lose it. I’m in a very similar boat, though I’m fortunate to have some resources to fight the good fight early on. My STBX is guaranteed significant payouts over the next decade, and I fully expect her to use those to try and drive me into the ground and make my life miserable. I’ve done absolutely nothing to deserve this. She’s fabricating a narrative to position herself as a strong, independent, working single mother who hero…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 11:19 AM
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Mine asked our mediator if sharing Instagram photos of our daughter and an occasional FaceTime call would be sufficient for visitation. 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 10:56 AM
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You’re not alone. I’m going through a very similar situation, but with far less time with our child. You can read my other posts for context if you’d like. You can also DM me as well.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 02:19 PM
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Yes. Unless I did exactly what she wanted it resulted in a fight. She would also present me with double binds, which are situations where each answer is wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/24 02:35 AM
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First 3 months were a disaster. I recommend walking a lot, melatonin, and a deep sleep hypnosis session from YouTube.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 02:36 PM
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Wow. That statistic really hit me. More than half of my daughter’s life has been spent with my STBX relentlessly trying to paint me as mentally unstable, all in an attempt to secure 100% custody. At this point, the battle isn’t even about marital issues; it’s about her trying to reshape reality to fit her narrative. In her mind, if I have a mental illness, it justifies everything she’s done. But if I don’t—if Freud himself cleared me—she’d still insist I’m lying. It’s devastating to watch.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 11:53 AM
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I’m in a similar situation. My ex is trying to paint me as a danger to our child, claiming I have a mental illness—which I don’t. Her so-called “evidence” for this supposed illness includes things like walking a lot, drinking coffee one day and skipping it the next, listening to a song on repeat, and realizing I’m a larger shoe size in one brand of walking shoes. It’s mind-boggling. The latest? She’s arguing that using a “baby voice” to keep my daughter calm during a diaper change at the pediatr…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 11:45 AM
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You can look at hiring a forensic accountant to go through her finances. Warning: they aren’t cheap, but may be worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 02:57 PM
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I understand—it seems baffling, right? But I think it comes down to genuinely loving the person she was before all of this and the hope that she might find her way back. When you’ve seen someone at their best, it’s hard to reconcile that with the person they’ve become, especially when outside influences and circumstances seem to be playing such a significant role. It’s not easy to switch off those feelings, even when they’re behaving in ways that are hurtful or even cruel. In my case, I believe …
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/24 04:12 PM
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What are the reasons for divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 11:43 AM
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How old is your kid?
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 03:38 AM
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I completely understand your pain. My ex just dropped off my daughter for visitation, and we have a supervisor handling the handoff. But today, I made the mistake of looking out the window, eager to catch a glimpse of my little girl. Seeing the person I once loved, the one who tore apart our marriage, simply wave at me—it hit me like a ton of bricks. It’s devastating to witness such casual indifference from someone who’s actively trying to strip away my role as a parent, forcing me into supervis…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 03:22 AM
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You’re absolutely right—trying to make sense of something so irrational is draining and, ultimately, a losing battle. My psychiatrist even mentioned that you can’t make sense of crazy, so why try? It’s true that her parents took priority over me, and I have no doubt they were speaking negatively behind my back, slowly turning her against me. It’s tough to accept that someone you thought was your partner would allow that kind of influence, but it’s something I need to come to terms with to move f…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 10:57 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story—it gives me hope that, in time, things might come full circle. I agree that pregnancy, childbirth, and the weight of raising a child can be overwhelming, and I’ve tried to give my wife the grace to cope with those changes. But the hardest part has been realizing how deeply her behavior is influenced by her mother, who has spent 36 years manipulating and brainwashing her. I’ve been trying to help my wife see that her mother is the real issue, but it’s an uphill ba…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 10:46 PM
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I appreciate the support and wholeheartedly agree that my focus now has to be on healing and being the best parent I can be for my daughter. As much as I tried to guide my partner toward a healthier relationship, sometimes people just aren’t ready or willing to accept that help. Marriage isn’t meant to be about “me” or “you,” but about the “us” we build together. I wish my partner had truly understood the depth of committing to a person, but I feel that modern society has devalued what marriage …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 10:35 PM
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I totally hear you on the impact of hormones and unresolved trauma. The real fault lies with her support system. If they had been genuinely invested in our family and the commitments they witnessed on our wedding day, they would have fought to preserve what we had. They would’ve told her, “You’re fighting with your spouse? Go back and figure it out with him. Don’t come back to us—your family is with him now.” Instead, they had other plans and couldn’t let go of their daughter, leading to a huge …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 10:19 PM
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The lack of closure is the hardest part, especially when the narrative keeps shifting to paint me as the villain. Like you, I have proof that so many accusations were lies, and even her own words often contradict previous statements. It’s heartbreaking to accept that the life we planned for our family will never be, but as you said, she made her choice. What you said about moving forward truly resonates. I’m channeling my energy into building a new business and focusing on a fresh start. It’s a …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 09:53 PM
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Unfortunately, I’ve had quite an education in covert narcissism over the past year. The subtle manipulation, playing the victim, and constant need for validation while presenting themselves as empathetic or “perfect” to the outside world—it all perfectly matches what I’ve experienced firsthand. It’s been a harsh reality to confront, and while it’s brought some much-needed clarity, accepting that truth has been incredibly difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 09:48 PM
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Unfortunately, I’ve had quite an education in covert narcissism over the past year. The subtle manipulation, playing the victim, and constant need for validation while presenting themselves as empathetic or “perfect” to the outside world—it all perfectly matches what I’ve experienced firsthand. It’s been a harsh reality to confront, and while it’s brought some much-needed clarity, accepting that truth has been incredibly difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 09:48 PM
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I’m sorry you’ve had to endure so much—it’s a nightmare I can relate to all too well. It’s devastating when the person you once loved becomes unrecognizable, and the false accusations start piling up. Like you mentioned, her parents are a significant factor in fueling the dysfunction. I’ve come to accept that engaging with them is pointless; they’re just enablers and won’t offer anything constructive. We have a temporary parenting plan in place, and fortunately, it ended up at 50/50 on paper. I …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 09:44 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story, and I genuinely appreciate your advice. It’s incredible how similar yet uniquely painful our journeys can be. Letting go has been the hardest pill for me to swallow, especially when part of me still hopes my wife will “wake up” and understand the impact of her actions—not just on me but on our daughter as well. But as you wisely pointed out, anyone willing to walk away and treat their family like disposable objects isn’t someone worth holding onto. I can’t help …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 09:40 PM
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You’re absolutely right. As hard as it is to accept, I need to stop focusing on the “why” and face the reality of the situation. She’s not the woman I married, and she’s certainly not looking out for me anymore. Ironically, it was her lack of concern for me that helped me identify her gaslighting. She kept insisting that I was mentally ill and a bad parent, and for a while, I actually entertained those thoughts and reflected on them. When she claimed she left because of safety reasons, I kept as…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:52 PM
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I think the “Silver Bullet” strategy is being used by many, but it’s currently weaponized against me by my own cluster B sociopath. She definitely went for the Silver Bullet approach, claiming I have a mental health condition that puts her and our daughter at risk. She demanded 100% custody and supervised visits for me, but the court ultimately granted 50/50 custody, with the judge ordering 2 months of supervised visits—ironically, for my own protection. As tough as that was to swallow, I can se…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:46 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful response and the resources you shared. You absolutely nailed it. My wife does come from a highly dysfunctional family, though they maintain a public facade as the picture-perfect American family who sends out holiday cards. In reality, her parents are estranged from all their relatives, her mother is incredibly abusive toward her father, and while my wife mentioned she was abused by her grandparents as a child, I’ve started to question whether that was true or if he…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:42 PM
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I’m truly sorry you’re going through all of this—it’s heartbreaking how similar these stories are. It’s clear that some people will go to any lengths to maintain a false narrative and escape accountability, even at the expense of their own children. If you haven’t already, I highly recommend watching Episode 3 of Worst Ex Ever on Netflix. It’s unsettling, and I can’t help but fear this might be my future, especially since my STBX and her mother are working together. They failed to get 100% custo…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 06:36 PM
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I couldn’t agree more with you. The lack of accountability, along with the influence of social media and online dating, has created a culture where it’s easier to avoid putting in the hard work required to sustain a relationship. There’s this false sense of endless options, combined with a safety net from courts that often benefits those who are unwilling or unable to put in the effort to save a marriage. Instead of celebrating genuine strength and resilience, we’ve shifted to seeing victimizati…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 06:13 PM
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I’ve reached out to multiple OBGYNs and psychiatrists about this, trying to get a clear understanding. I even spoke with a mother whose daughter went through PPD and began hearing voices, so I’m well aware of how severe it can get. Interestingly, every expert I’ve consulted leans toward a personality disorder in my wife’s case since she hasn’t physically harmed herself or the baby. I brought up my concerns about PPD to my father-in-law, and he responded with a laugh reaction, which was deeply un…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 10:28 PM
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Eventually I’ll send him Jim Butlers “Releasing Your Need to Please”. Highly recommend it for those in these situations. In person I would help where I could, but he’s such an enabler it was too risky.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 09:40 PM
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What’s even more tragic is that her mother is horrifically abusive to her husband. For my wife to truly see her mother for who she is would mean confronting the fact that she’s failed to protect her father. He’s battled severe depression and has even been suicidal at times. Her mother, in her usual callous way, makes jokes about how his latest antidepressant makes him act strangely. It’s heartbreaking because they’ve become so wrapped up in mental health labels that they’ve lost sight of the rea…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 09:33 PM
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Totally agree—and I’d go even further to say she’s a sociopath. She’s torn apart a family and done it without a second thought. What’s ironic is that my MIL is a teacher who once said that narcissism is an overused term because one of her students called her a narcissist. Although I’ve never actually called her one myself, my wife still told a therapist that I believe she is. Now that I’ve seen her true colors, there’s no unseeing it. Last Thanksgiving, I watched a 67-year-old woman throw an all…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 09:00 PM
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I’ve expressed the exact same thoughts about her treating it as a college breakup. It’s as if she’s completely disconnected from the reality that we’re married, have assets, and have a child — just like when she failed to grasp the repercussions of taking our daughter out of state and cutting off my access for 60 days. During mediation, she even asked if sharing Instagram photos of our daughter would count as visitation. This is a woman with an MBA and a thriving career, and yet, here we are. Yo…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 08:46 PM
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Unfortunately that comment was said 72 hours after having our first child. 9 months too late
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 07:12 PM
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I couldn’t agree more. My wife didn’t even write her own divorce papers—her mother did every bit of it. But she certainly signed them, and that’s what speaks volumes. It’s incredibly frustrating to be caught in the middle of such manipulation, especially when your spouse doesn’t have the backbone to stand up for you. You’re absolutely right: the real issue isn’t the MIL’s overstepping but my wife allowing it to happen. This whole experience has been a harsh lesson, but one I’ll definitely carry …
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:37 PM
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Thanks for that insight. You’re absolutely right about her upbringing—her mother definitely steamrolls her father, and it’s clear my wife internalized that dynamic. Whenever I tried setting boundaries, it always ended with her accusing me of being controlling or manipulative, which was incredibly frustrating. I admit I allowed some boundary violations during our courtship, but once we had a child, I knew I had to be firm. For example, just 24 hours after our child was born, my MIL started making…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:30 PM
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Wow, I can completely relate. Every time I tried to push back against her manipulations, I was the one accused of being manipulative and controlling. We would always end up having the same argument: her parents’ behavior was rude and disrespectful, and she never stood up for me. She’d constantly dismiss my feelings, insist we just “move forward,” and blame me for putting her in the middle. But I always believed there shouldn’t be a “middle” in a marriage—it should just be about the two of us sup…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:02 PM
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Thanks for that. What makes things worse is that every effort I made to help has been twisted into an accusation and weaponized against me in court. The examples she’s using to justify the divorce are as trivial as dinner table conversations and minor marital disagreements—nothing that would warrant tearing apart a family with a young child involved. What’s even more frustrating is that she’s claiming my concern about her potential PPD is an attempt to slander her, when, in reality, my worries c…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 05:03 PM
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I completely understand your point and don’t dismiss the possibility, but the idea of her engaging in an affair just a few months after giving birth feels very odd, especially considering the insights I’ve received from other mothers. We’ll have to see how the future unfolds.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 04:32 PM
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Everyone I speak with who’s heard the story or read the documents she’s filed suspects PPD, and I’ve tried to get her help, but every effort has been ignored or dismissed. However, many people are also pointing to the possibility of a personality disorder that’s become more apparent after such a significant life change. It’s incredibly frustrating to watch someone you care about struggle and not be able to do anything about it, especially when it feels like there’s something deeper going on that…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 04:29 PM
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Thank you for your understanding—I truly appreciate it. It’s incredibly rough. The rational side of my brain is desperately trying to make sense of all this, but the emotional turmoil just doesn’t align with any logic. People who have read the divorce documents immediately ask if she’s experiencing postpartum depression, which I’ve tried to get her help for, but my concerns were completely dismissed. It feels like I’m being punished for being a supportive father and a dedicated husband. Here’s s…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 03:07 PM
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Believe what you want, but that doesn’t change what actually happened. I reached out to everyone I could—friends, family, even her own OBGYN—and they either ignored my concerns or outright refused to help. Her father literally laughed at me when I expressed worry for her well-being. Do you believe divorcing someone for wearing a 10.5 shoe size is a valid reason? I wouldn’t have believed it had it not been written down. As a matter of fact, I suspect my MIL wrote the entire thing.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 03:00 PM
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I’ve tried. When I noticed these changes in her behavior, I reached out to friends, family, and even her OBGYN to express my concerns and ask for help. Unfortunately, my concerns were brushed aside or ignored entirely. My father-in-law even laughed at my text when I reached out, worried about what was happening. I’ve always wanted to support her, but it’s hard when every attempt to understand and help was met with dismissal or hostility. I’m not blaming her for changing after giving birth; I’m d…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 02:50 PM
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I’m right there with you in this nightmare. I’m three months into a divorce and six months into being a father. My wife left me with no explanation, and the reasons listed in her divorce papers are beyond absurd. What makes it even worse is seeing my manipulative in-laws now stepping in and taking over the parental responsibilities that I was actively doing, despite being accused of not fulfilling them. Are you using OFW or any other parenting app? I try not to text her directly, but I’m forced …
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 02:47 PM
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It sounds like she might be softening, but I’d tread carefully. I’m only 4 months into a horrible situation where my wife abruptly absconded with our daughter, ghosted me for a week, and it took a wellness check from the police to confirm she was even alive. Since then, I’ve been dragged through a divorce that I’m convinced was orchestrated by her narcissistic mother. My wife’s turned every interaction into a war, fabricating allegations, trying to claim I’m mentally ill, and fighting for sole c…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:54 PM
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I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. I’m facing a similar situation and still trying to make sense of it all. My wife left abruptly—no fight, no discussion, no warning of a pending divorce. I’ve come to believe that her narcissistic tendencies, combined with the manipulative influence of my MIL, played a significant role. I don’t want to overwhelm you, but I’d suggest looking into narcissistic abuse; you might find some of it resonates. The term gets thrown around a lot, but encountering…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 05:48 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_HatV8o_1Y
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 10:51 PM
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Get distance, go no contact, hire a lawyer, and prepare yourself for false allegations and smear campaigns.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 09:59 PM
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