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| 7 | Red pill men: what turned you red pill?Based on other comments, likely a woman just trolling, or a guy with an absolute white knight / simp complex. Not a lot of value being added to the convo, just ad-hominem insults. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 11:22 PM |
| 11 | Red pill men: what turned you red pill?Yes, and she's pretty ambivalent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 10:08 PM |
| 8 | Red pill men: what turned you red pill?That's actually pretty insightful. Cheers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 10:07 PM |
| 11 | Red pill men: what turned you red pill?Nice try. Cope harder. Yes I'm in a relationship. My son's 17, and were good. Not alone, not bitter, and not aggressive. Not rejected by women either. But please feel free to continue playing the white knight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 06:13 PM |
| 17 | Red pill men: what turned you red pill?Always fairly conservative. Divorce at 46. Watched my exes conduct, during and after. ( married almost 11 years). Started noticing patterns, not esoteric to just her. Dated a lot for about 2 years ( maybe 40+ women), saw a lot of similar behaviors and tendencies, echoed in similar experiences my male friends had. This was isolated and not at all on social media, actual lived experience. Then looked at womens conduct on social media, their mannerisms, how they chose to behave towards themselves, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 02:16 PM |
| – | Men should be taught that they are most likely going to be aloone if they don't improveI'm alone... I'm pretty ok with it. Great career, own home, great friends and family... two dogs around the house, and a pretty cool teenage son. I am in a state of continuous improvement. Physically, and mentally....but I'm not doing it to avoid being alone...I like my life, and could give a damn if someone's there or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/26 01:12 PM |
| – | Why do men tend to be so mean to fat women?Because it's not about them being fat. It's about them being willfully ignorant, and delusional within the "Body Positivity" movement. The sheer number of fat woman with a set of make up skills, who then CHOOSE to go online and post their "Get ready with me", or "Plus size fits" reels... Fat is not healthy, fat is not attractive. Obese even less so....yet it's being pushed as if it's perfectly natural, and "healthy at any size"....sure...and heart disease and diabetes is a naturally occurring th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/26 01:10 PM |
| 1 | No one hates independent women, you are just arrogant and obnoxious..and I'm thankful to them for taking that bullet for the rest of us... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Questions for red pilled guys, after seeing some recent debate clipsNo. This is a stupid premise. Polyamory never works out in the end. It's neither feasible, nor is it rewarding. Cheating is just a display of weakness of character. Everyone deserves the right to vote. It's equality. As far as dominate? That's an extreme position. Are you capable? Then why would you give someone dominion over you? However, buying into the 3rd wave feminism delusion that the physiological differences between male and female doesn't somehow translate into power dynamics is willful… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 11:56 AM |
| – | It is much easier to understand why would a single woman be happier than a single man on average. However single happy men by choice are happier than single happy women on averageSingle men by and large, are happier than women. With one caveat. They are single by choice. Men find peace and happiness internally. They do not seek external validation, and happiness, nor do they have the core belief that happiness relies on external factors. Women by contrast tend to rely on external factors for their happiness, their social circles, and engagement with things external to them. These are of course, generalizations. And there will be detractors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 04:53 PM |
| 2 | “Those women should have picked better”Saying "Should have picked better", is pretty dismissive, but I think it simply outlines the fact that there was a decision made, and responsibility isn't one sided. The number of attractive ( physically) women I've seen, who will legit say that there past few exes were narcissists is absolutely comical, bordering on the absurd. I have seldom met a single attractive woman who legit looked at things, and were honest with themselves, and why the outcome was what it was. If one looks at the stats, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 04:10 PM |
| -7 | No one hates independent women, you are just arrogant and obnoxiousThanks for dropping by and playing "white knight". The OP was specifically referring to women however. It was my personal experience in dating that has informed my opinion. Sure, I'm sure men can be just as bad, but I hardly have the frame of reference, nor the inclination to discuss. Since my tribe doesn't have them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 01:15 AM |
| 43 | No one hates independent women, you are just arrogant and obnoxiousI've dated a fair amount of women over the past 5 years. One common denominator is this. If a woman refers to herself as a "boss babe / bitch"...generally she's insufferable. Inserting every bit of feminist rhetoric into the convo, and usually comes off as overly aggressive, with the intent of seeming edgy and or relevant. I've dated a number of women who have their shit together, they adult just fine, without seeking credit for it, or acting like it's an accomplishment, and yet....they don't fe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Men should be happy to pay for the first dateStarts the convo by saying "it's pathetic", and using femcel rhetoric like "natural providers". In todays dating climate, the 1st date is often just the audition, where you can even decide if you can tolerate each other. Couple that with the following: "In studies of over 1,000 women conducted by researchers at Azusa Pacific University and UC Merced, up to 33% admitted to making at least one foodie call."...and that was just the ones that openly admitted it.... So 1/3 chance that the woman isn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 01:58 PM |
| 1 | What’s keeping the red pill alive?This. I like to have companionship, and love...but I am equally or even moreso content within my own life, without compromise, and with a degree of peace that I protect. I tend to want to argue the self-improvement topic though. I believe firmly that men need a mission, a goal, a mountain to climb. Continuing to evolve and improve for ones own sake, is the purest form of self love / care that one can have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 03:43 PM |
| 2 | What’s keeping the red pill alive?"Is it because most guys, through their own anecdotes and lived experiences in love/romance/dating, eventually reach some version of the red pill on their own? And that it just overlaps with some of the objective data based claims redpill originally made?" Red Pill guy here. Not an incel, nor unattractive by any stretch. Was married, since the split, I've dated / seen in excess of 50+ women. I came to the redpill, mainly through seeing the same behaviors repeated over, and over. The same narrati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 03:40 PM |
| 1 | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardThanks. No..not her boss. I don't shit where I eat. Thanks for the kind words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 11:10 PM |
| 1 | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardM-53 here. I have always dated younger women. Currently seeing someone who's 34. The "Why"... Women in their mid-late 40s often have aged like milk on a warm day. They dont exercise, dont think that they need to put in effort.... Personally, between MMA, weights, and other sports, I'm active 6+ days a week. I like having a partner who can keep up. Attitude and baggage. Women in "my age bracket" typically come with more baggage than the skycap at the airport, and feel completely ok with pushing t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 05:08 PM |
| 3 | TRP’s irrational (and unproductive) hatred of single moms is fully driven by the Madonna-Whore complexIt's less about the "moral judgements" than it is about seeing social media proliferated with single moms who wildly overestimate their value as a partner, and then actively engage in misandry in order to justify their delusion. It's watching the hypocrisy and double standard enacted time and again. Hatred? No, not hardly. Exhaustion? Most definitely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Is Vetting Seen as a Red FlagVetting is a natural part of dating. However, the type of vetting may be a bit of a red flag. You describe a series of tests. Is this asking pointed questions on your views, values, and morals? This isn't necessarily bad, as it eliminates wasting someone's time if they're not your people. Generally making sure that someone isn't a criminal, or has a ton of DUIs etc...again, normal. And it goes for both men, and women.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Gen Z men shouldn't take dating advice from older generationsGen X here M53. I've been on dating apps since 2007ish. Not sure what luddites you were speaking with, but your post is way off base when it comes to many of us. Online dating has been great. Excellent way to feel someone out, and get a sense of their personality without wasting time or money out on a fruitless first date. Yes, lots of folks have a roster...male and female....no news there. As far as Snapchat goes....unless you're a 15 year old girl...don't have it....the very premise of it is s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 03:54 PM |
| -2 | Some Women Are So Obsessed With Older Men That It Makes You Wonder . . .Odd. Since typically the women I see railing against age-gap relationships are over 40...and are often struggling in the dating world themselves. I'm 53, have dated a number of women in their late 20s and early 30s over the past few years, I'm not interested in dating women with children or baggage, and I'm also not dating to marry....but I also make 6 figures, have a full head of hair, and work out 6 days a week - body fats at around the 12% mark these days. I think the hostility around it is m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 01:29 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessFair lot of generalities being thrown out. If looking at "value", let's examine it in terms of cars, shall we? Single mom "A" - Has one or two kids, good job / career, and the kids were a product of one dad, either in a matrimonial or long term committed relationship. ( Life happens). This would be the equivalent of a 5-7 year old used car, with a single owner, with all maintenance records, and a few quirks. Think 2017-2018 Honda or Toyota sedan, with low mileage = High value. Single mom "B" - m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Do high value girls never get ghosted after a (casual) hookup?Not at all. But a high value woman will often regard her reputation when discussing her personal life. Last time I checked, it's no ones business what someone's past is, nor would it be "hiding secrets" if it's not a matter for discussion. Particularly in the context of sleeping with someone who they don't have a relationship with. It comes down to maturity. At some point, only insecure people wind up discussing body-count. The rest of us just acknowledge that no one's planting a flag on unconqu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Do high value girls never get ghosted after a (casual) hookup?Disagree. I've dated / hooked up with a fair amount of "high value" women. The difference is, they are intelligent enough to keep it discrete. Low value women put their entire lives out there on socials seeking validation from the masses. High value women don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 12:32 PM |
| – | The internet has enabled men to listen in on female spaces, and men don't like what they hearCompletely agree. Once the veil is dropped...it's a bit of an eye opener. What's even worse, is watching these women, support each other, often blindly seeking confirmation bias. But when one dissents, or questions the intentions or validity of what's being said, they turn just as violently towards their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 12:12 PM |
| 0 | Do high value girls never get ghosted after a (casual) hookup?Happens a lot. The women greatly overestimates her value. Despite having all the boxes ticked as "High value", she has a horrible personality. Because she's "high value" she's not going to admit to being "F85ked and chucked" openly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Men need to have higher standards.Once was chatting with a woman (42) who liked to do Med Spas, and thought she was "all that". Personally she looked fake AF, and her personality matched.. Told her I wasn't interested in pursuing anything further because she "wasn't my cup of tea"....she then told me that she was "more like a glass of champagne anyhow".... yeah...no....the delulu is real. She then stalked and harassed me for 2 more months, refusing to accept she was rejected. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Why do PPD men tell women to ignore red flags then turn around and complain that we date criminals and bad people?A man who claims he was falsely accused of rape: Well. Given the stats widely available ( StatsCan) that indicate that anywhere from 15-20% of SA allegations are false. And other studies, where an even higher percentage of women have admitted that they can see a circumstance where they might make an accusation, or they know of someone who has....I don't necessarily think that is a hard one to understand. A man who frequents prostitutes: No argument. Red flag Men who reject you: Not sure what you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Women are basically miny celebrities. Which is why the dating climate is badA lot of truth OP. My partner is a woman in her late 30s. Doesn't really use social media, reads books, and typically stays away from other people who live on them. When we were dating, even adding each other was a gradual thing, we still aren't on each others IG, and it's not like either of us cares....because we don't use it. ( We do happen to collaborate on Pinterest boards though). Can definitely say that our life is so much more intentional. I think more people need to realize what the dopa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 05:49 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: What significance does a social network have to you?Every man needs his tribe. People who share common values, goals, and outlooks. And man who buys into the Lone Wolf idea, or "sigma male" ethos is likely deluding themselves. If you want to go fast, go alone, if you want to go far...run with your pack. Covid and isolation proved how detrimental the lack of social interactions can be. Mental health took a huge hit across the board. Personally, my social network is small, but vital. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Losing attraction to my girlfriend because of her jobEnd it. If she isn't actively setting goals at 23, even small ones...this is going to lead to resentment later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 12:26 PM |
| 3 | A word about "single mothers"OP. Great post. You're right, the perception is slanted. However, the former group indeed, typically has one father of their children, and usually a decent co-parenting situation. They usually bring a lot to the table. The second group is usually the one that get's judged the harshest, and receives the most criticisms. They're also the group that has more than one father of their kids, usually makes sure they identify as a "single mom" uses phrases like "queen" and "my kids are my world"....and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 12:10 PM |
| 3 | A lot of men complain about the friendzone because they only befriend attractive women to try to date themDon't do boyfriend shit, for someone who isn't your girlfriend. Simple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Men are finding out what happens when they bring nothing to the tableWell of course....but it flies in the face of the OPs statement, wherein women are leaving them alone....in fact they're not... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Men are finding out what happens when they bring nothing to the tableMy first reaction was "Is this satire?"... It legit is the exact same argument most men will use. However, by way of a counter point. There is literally 1000s of women who are having children with deadbeat losers, with no job, or less than stellar employment, no house, no car.... family court is full of them. The internet and other pages and sites are full of them. Look at any single mother support group, or page, and you're going to find a ton of examples, where..in fact...women did "settle". S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 05:16 PM |
| 5 | A culture that centres female pain struggles to acknowledge when women cause itIt's not a him problem at all. But the fact that most of the violence being displayed has zero consequences for the perpetrator.....being female....that's the problem that's being described. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 05:58 PM |
| 9 | A culture that centres female pain struggles to acknowledge when women cause itSpot on. A male victim speaks out, even to his partner about it and the overwhelming response is "Be a man", or "quit being such a pussy". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 05:55 PM |
| 1 | A culture that centres female pain struggles to acknowledge when women cause itMy guess, both. As a male victim of emotional abuse and manipulation, it took me months of just sucking it up, before I finally realized what was happening. No one bats an eye when a woman gets emotional over something, and then has an outburst, either verbally, or even physically, yet when a man does it, he's swiftly dealt with societally, and in the legal system. I have had a former partner collude with other women I've dated. Collectively stalking, and stalking by proxy, harassing me and thos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 05:54 PM |
| 1 | People obsess over women initiating divorce because they believe women should stay miserable in marriages.OK, fair. Identifying a behaviour that will not be tolerated. Such as yelling or name calling, and setting it as a boundary. Person then ignores that boundary. Partner informs them that they will not engage in any further conversation due to that boundary being ignored. This was then characterized as being disrespectful. Seen? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 12:41 PM |
| 1 | People obsess over women initiating divorce because they believe women should stay miserable in marriages.Without getting into a lot of detail. I am referring to relationships in general, not just marriage. And the term "disrespect" has been used as a catch all, for when someone doesn't like something, and wants to negate it. Does disrespect exist? Yes. And there are some very real occurrences of it in a relationship / marriage. Is disrespect used as a convenient catch-all phrase when someone doesn't like something? Absolutely. Personally, I have recently dealt with the latter from someone who was a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 12:27 PM |
| 1 | People obsess over women initiating divorce because they believe women should stay miserable in marriages.Simply put. "Disrespect" is used as a catch-all excuse. A person choosing to enforce boundaries is being "disrespectful". A person refusing to engage in a toxic conversation is being "disrespectful". Or my favorite....blocking someone because they're being a toxic piece of human garbage is being "disrespectful"..... Having hurt feelings, and being forced to deal with them, or expecting someone to be accountable for their poor behavior isn't being disrespectful.... Hence the quotes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 12:06 PM |
| 5 | People obsess over women initiating divorce because they believe women should stay miserable in marriages.Women will seldom make their decision in isolation. They solicit the opinions of their friends, co-workers, and even complete strangers off the internet, seeking validation prior to pulling the pin. They also will typically arrange for a parachute prior to jumping. Including making sure they get out in front of it with their family members, and their husbands family, making sure, they control the narrative. They make sure that their finances are lined up, and pretty well know to the dollar what … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 01:42 PM |
| 6 | The advocating of age gap relationshipsAs a man in his early 50s, who has dated a lot for the past 5 years ( started at 47), I can offer this. I'm fit, and active. I have habitually dated women younger, sometimes much younger (Late 20s) for the following reasons. They're fun. They usually don't have kids, and are as active as I am. Less baggage. They don't come with a string of exes, and hang ups. They're more aligned with my lifestyle. Gym, eating right...etc. As a generalization ( And I know those can be dangerous) most women 40+ h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Women gripe that "the bar is in hell" for men, but the situation is actually reversedWas chatting with a 42 year old woman a while ago. She was the "whole package" according to her... She had a career. She Had her own car She owned her own townhouse ( although she had her dad living with her). I basically said "Congrats, you're an adult..." She thought she was gorgeous ( maybe a 5/10), and thought she was delightful, despite having some major baggage, including never maturing emotionally after high school...including keeping all of her high school friends.... The delusion is rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 02:38 PM |
| – | I believe ghosting is unhealthy and toxicThat's the real trouble. It happens a few times, and you're looking through that lens. It typically happens when you're first dating / communicating....and we're all a bit hyper vigilant about red-flags / bad behaviors. Of course, you've also made a determination that this person isn't "your person" for whatever reason as well.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 06:25 PM |
| – | I believe ghosting is unhealthy and toxicThis isn't just a men problem.... I was speaking with someone who I never even dated. Told her I basically could see she "wasn't my people"....this led to harassment, stalking, and other poor behaviours. But if I just gave her the opportunity, I'd see what a great person she really was.... Finally had to block her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 06:15 PM |
| – | I believe ghosting is unhealthy and toxicYou're not alone. I have tried with women I've dated, and it has often denigrated into insults, threats, and other bad behaviors. My time and energy is worth more than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 06:11 PM |
| – | I believe ghosting is unhealthy and toxicSadly, that has been my experience in the past. Not just with one person.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 05:56 PM |
| – | I believe ghosting is unhealthy and toxicYou cannot compel speech, or conversation. You're not owed it, you're not owed an explanation. It's definitely not a human right. Regardless if you're male, or female. A person who simply decides to not continue to invest energy into your interaction is just that. The propensity for people to act as if they're owed the conversation, simply because they wanted it is juvenile. There are a number of people out there who would turn that conversation into an emotionally draining exercise, including t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 05:53 PM |
| -1 | Why is it so rare for "HVM" to be childfree?High value men fuck more and unprotected / stupid fucking makes kids. There FTFY. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/25 02:49 PM |
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