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I live in Russia and here women rarely if ever make «the 1st move» — and even when they do, you only have the chance if you are able to do 60-90% of the work of leading the communication after that. This is a mix of natural gender psychology and modern habits. It is both somewhat annoying and natural. I don’t date too much right now partly because of that: I’m kind of stingy with my time and energy and if you want to date you need to be very persistent and spend decent amount of time and energy …
/r/seduction20/10/22 01:03 PM
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Well, what if hot girl starts talking to you, not an old man? And what if she’s super-expressive and interesting? You should be attractive, interesting, well-calibrated and eject fast if you are not liked (and even at times eject fast when you are liked — so the girl wants more) and you will be among the minority of guys who are remembered fondly by most, if not all, girls who you approach (and the ones who still don’t appreciate you approaching them will be idiots — who cares what they think). …
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:14 PM
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Well, it’s good to be able to carry the conversation all by yourself, just asking the girl questions that can be answered with one word answers from time to time (this can be learned from movies by Quentin Tarantino and his speech in real life, for example), however the goal most of the time should be to make her invest into conversation more over time, because otherwise she won’t value your conversational mastery. Sometimes, however, it’s wise not to reject the silent and boring girl right away…
/r/seduction02/08/22 10:53 AM
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First of all, it’s always preferable to start a date at your house. Second, in my opinion the whole «innocent pretext» to get back to your house is a little childish and in my opinion reason like drinking a bottle of whiskey, which is a little more direct, is preferable.
/r/seduction29/07/22 03:25 PM
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A lot of times these «improvements» are very subtle and hard to detect. For example only in the last couple of years, after 10 years of practice I’ve gotten my biochemistry/serenity/speed of reaction to the level I’m satisfied with, where I evaluate a girl and decide if I want to approach in just a couple of seconds. I know my eye contact is different, I over-think and over-game much less than before and it definitely adds to girls feeling differently around me. My wibe is much more clean if it …
/r/seduction24/07/22 04:22 PM
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Depends on your approach. In cold approach a lot of girls don’t like giving out numbers right away, but do add you on social media and feel safer, if you have friends and non-psychotic posts there. Also some guys recommend adding a lot of girls on Instagram and doing a lot of stories to provoke their interest — for me it seems dumb and over-complicated, but for some it might work. I would say it’s a good idea to to have them just in case girl refuses to give you number but is willing to add you …
/r/seduction23/07/22 05:27 PM
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I’d say it’s underrated, because it’s done even less than 10-15 years ago, and so it’s even less competitive. I like it because of a mixture of being relatively efficient (I hate online and social circle, because they are too slow and boring for me — in online you should talk to a girl before having a chance to check her out in real life which to me seems absurd and social circle is a torture of slow cringe that only alcohol can salvage for me, and also I barely ever meet decent girls in social …
/r/seduction23/07/22 05:08 PM
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I personally always try to ask a girl if she’s single right after I open with a compliment. It both gives her a chance to not mention she has a boyfriend (which a lot of time is preferable) if she is interested — but also mention one if she wants to and definitely mention one if it’s very serious. At other times I follow a «don’t ask, don’t tell» policy. I think if a girl is interested she might not mention a boyfriend and if for some reason she loses interest — she might mention one. But it’s n…
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:44 PM
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Not necessarily play up, but you should USE what you have, which hopefully is feeling more at ease and relaxed, less awkward, and being able to talk about more stuff than when you were younger. But if you are «trying to become the top option in her mind», you will probably lose because of such un-productive goals. Just be relaxed, easy, less over-thinking and over-gaming than younger guys/your younger self.
/r/seduction19/07/22 06:14 PM
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I would dress the same way I always do, but I must say I’m dressed quite stylishly in everyday life. I wear Lacoste caps, really love a clothing brand called Matinique from Denmark (I think it does a very good, younger, more affordable, but still good quality version of what high-end brands like Tom Ford, Zegna and Giorgio Armani do), often wear pants from H&M — they are good enough, even if not the most durable to say the least (and not too upsetting to ruin them by falling from a bike or spill…
/r/seduction19/07/22 11:05 AM
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In my opinion the fact of answering instantly itself it’s not that bad, it’s the content of these answers that might make you feel needy. Be shorter, functional, don’t over-game, and answering fast might actually be more of an advantage than a disadvantage IMO.
/r/seduction18/07/22 10:45 PM
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You probably meant "texter", not "tester")
/r/seduction18/07/22 05:14 PM
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If you are really that great in person, text only to offer meeting up and for such unavoidable stuff, and do it in the shortest way possible. That’s what’s everybody mostly must do — over-gaming ruins everything much more often, than it helps.
/r/seduction18/07/22 12:54 PM
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Don’t wait to get friends — you might not get them or at least not do it in the short-term. Work on all areas simultaneously. In my opinion you might not have a lot of happening in your life if you can talk a lot about different subjects. If you watch films, follow news, read books — you can talk about all these. Also sometimes girls are very talkative and in these cases you don’t need to talk that much. The main thing is probably just feeling great, not feeling awkward. If you feel great and at…
/r/seduction17/07/22 05:43 PM
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The only sensible answer is: «Absolutely not, only come if you are alone and if you can’t come alone today, let’s reschedule». Also I would ask why did she come up with the idea of bringing somebody along in the first place?
/r/seduction16/07/22 10:25 AM
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I have seen a few. One guy approached 2 girls I myself contemplated approaching near a bar — and got into some long conversation with them, they went to the table inside together. Haven’t heard what he was saying, but he seemed to have good game. One time I’ve seen a couple of guys over forty approaching a couple of very young girls and starting bragging about their money from the get go, even offering one girl to buy her a new phone — I know this, because I went and talked to the girls after th…
/r/seduction15/07/22 06:49 AM
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In my opinion daytime approaches will always be effective, because the mix of their relative rarity (I think with everybody going online they are even more rare than 10-15 years ago) and mix of positive qualities it shows (honesty, courage, social intelligence — if it’s done the right way).
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:32 AM
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My hope is that smart stuff from the community was integrated into society at large and bad stuff, like over-thinking, over-gaming, delusions of being special and superior because of possessing «secret knowledge», was discarded.
/r/seduction13/07/22 05:23 PM
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I have a couple 1) When possible always approach directly. It saves you a lot of time, creates much more solid contacts that remember you, like you and are much easier to get on dates. I switched from mostly going indirect to almost always going direct after 2 years of learning and regret I didn’t start off going direct from the get go — I would avoid a lot of cringe and waste of time. 2) The less you think and do — the better. Over-thinking and over-gaming are unhealthy habits, which unfortunat…
/r/seduction12/07/22 07:07 AM
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Go to public places with highest concentrations of cute girls alone and in pairs (coffee shops, parks), spend a couple hours of their peak concentration a day there and approach the ones you like directly (with a compliment and proposition to exchange social media). An even simpler way is joining some classes, like yoga, or something you are genuinely interested in (for your «like-minded» part).
/r/seduction11/07/22 12:20 PM
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I would say no unless you genuinely want to for some reason. I think the less you do, the better. Always trying to do something to «keep attraction» is a bad habit, as well as over-thinking. However it’s smart to remind a girl a day or two before your date, in form of a statement, not a question, so she doesn’t forget or plan something else.
/r/seduction10/07/22 01:22 PM
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If this mean large guy forcibly makes you stay and listen to his jokes together with the girl — well, then you’ve just lost, lost fair and square)
/r/seduction10/07/22 11:54 AM
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I think this particular course of action doesn't depend on your or other guy's weight class, because it's actually quite polite and non-confrontational towards him. You can even say to him: "Really sorry, mate, would chat with you more if I/we could".
/r/seduction10/07/22 11:35 AM
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I would try to kill this attempt very fast by whispering to a girl that you two should take a little walk under a false pretense to avoid this guy. She will likely agree even if she didn’t mind the guy that much and appreciate this small act of logistical leadership on your part. And in the very unlikely situation that she doesn’t want to walk with you and wants to stay and wait for the bus (maybe she’s very tired or in a rush to get to her destination), you might take her contacts if you alread…
/r/seduction09/07/22 06:40 PM
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As for place and time to practice this I would recommend finding the coffee shop with best quality and quantity of girls and the peak hours of their concentration (most of the time it’s after working hours, but sometimes might be other hours) and spend one or two hours of this peak time there on the days you can (you can even combine it with work on a laptop or reading stuff). Starbucks and other «third place» style coffee shops without waiters are the best. They are good for beginners because o…
/r/seduction09/07/22 02:02 PM
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Don’t know what rings you are talking about, and a direct opener goes something like this: «Hello, I wanted to interrupt you for just a second and tell you you’re cute. Are you single?» If she replies yes, then say: «In this case I want to offer you to exchange social media that’s convenient to you and look at each other's profiles, maybe we have something in common». You can calibrate speed and length of this, and also if she’s responsive stay with her and talk a little more. A lot of these ele…
/r/seduction09/07/22 01:41 PM
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If you ask this question — then definitely write her, maybe even multiple times, if she doesn’t respond right away (but not in a row). It will give you the only real answer to you question, which can only be found by testing. I’m surprised people even ask questions like this, but it seems we all tend to over-think, especially in this space. I myself text old dead contacts all the time, in case I didn’t lose interest or something reignited it — and it has only upside. Even if a girl blocks me it’…
/r/seduction09/07/22 01:18 PM
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A lot of over-thinking in the comments. Don’t over-think, offer this girl to catch up over coffee and test the waters.
/r/seduction09/07/22 09:38 AM
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First of all it’s preferable to START dates at your house when possible, it’s a good time management trick among other things. Second a good reason to return to your house after being outside might be as simple as drinking a bottle of alcohol you’ve bought (or coffee if you and/or her don’t want to get drunk) — in my opinion the more simple and honest, the better. But sometimes it’s also good to have a prepared reason you NEED to return to your house if you meet some resistance with the first ap…
/r/seduction09/07/22 09:28 AM
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My advice: learn to do direct openers in daytime situations. First couple or even dozen times you might be extremely scared and nervous and fuck up because of that, but then nervousness would lower to the healthy level and you will have a skill you can deploy at any time. At first it’s wise to go to places where girls are not rushing anywhere, like cafes or parks. When you get the skill, you can even stop walking girls with it. It’s usually wise to approach girls, who are alone or in pairs, larg…
/r/seduction09/07/22 08:03 AM
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I think people write about it less, because pick up community was based around sex being valuable and hard to get. Today it’s generally much less valuable and hard to get for a lot of reason (and it’s good). A lot of stuff was made easier (online is just one of the reasons) and a lot of «discoveries» of «pick up community» were incorporated into the mainstream. The society is much more mature and chill as a whole, in my opinion, even if it might seem to be the opposite. People don’t feel motivat…
/r/seduction07/07/22 10:43 AM
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I strongly disagree. I don’t use apps and only do cold approach. It’s even more rare than before so it works even better, than before in my opinion.
/r/seduction07/07/22 10:33 AM
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I would recommend doing some direct openers on girls you find attractive who are alone (or in groups of two) during the day (the best places they can be found at are coffee shops). It’s hard at first but will massively help with emotions you feel long-term. It will create a good psychological base to build upon. A lot of guys spend years not going direct and feel sad and unconfident because of it (I myself did it — thankfully long time ago). It’s a start, but it will help immensely.
/r/seduction04/07/22 07:53 AM
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It depends on your willingness to spend your time to get through this barrier. You can have a list of flaky girls who you write with offer to meet up once a week. If you’re not lazy, you can repeat it week after week for months. Some will meet you in the end, just like some people will buy product after seeing commercial on TV again and again (I remember one girl never or rarely even answered my weekly texts with offers to meet, but agreed to go out after 6 months — it was in the times of me bei…
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:57 PM
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You definitely shouldn’t let this fear stop you, however you should work on your calibration and maybe go for higher quality, not quantity of approaches. A lot of times negative reactions like this (although the one you described is extremely rare — which makes one, again, think something in the approach could have caused it) happened because of subtle stuff, like not making enough pauses, or talking too fast, or maybe not adding some polite pre-opener. When you don’t rush, do everything smart a…
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:43 PM
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I agree about movie theater being a bad place for a date. As for escalation I found just doing «kino» as they call it while talking about some neutral stuff (which a lot of teachers seem to suggest) seems a little awkward and too much like teenagers on a date. In my experience much more emphasis should be put on verbals, sexual topics of conversation. They help both test a woman’s response, and create much more open communication.
/r/seduction24/06/22 12:17 PM
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I would say no, a lot of times girls stop responding, sometimes even accidentally, not because your message was received that badly. You should write her some more times now and again with something more interesting, maybe more aggressive, if she doesn’t respond multiple times, you can call her on it jokingly, like saying «If you don’t know how to type I can teach you» (not saying this is the best, just came up with it off top of my head, but it seems good enough because it’s a statement, not a …
/r/seduction22/06/22 02:04 PM
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I used to chicken out a lot or wait for like 20 minutes to approach (which was OK a lot of times, because it mostly happened in coffee shops). One small psychological trick that helped me was always buying an extra drink, like some tasty latte, for myself as a reward for approaching just after I do it (or paying a little fine instead if I don’t). Only in the last couple of years I’ve noticed myself starting to size up the girl, make a decision whether to approach her and approaching if the decis…
/r/seduction21/06/22 08:58 PM
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Yes, I think so. Another problematic thing for me is that for therapy a lot of people would prefer a charismatic showman like Tony Robbins or Julien (and RSD as a whole) who obviously follow in his footsteps instead of more boring and un-exciting, but probably more efficient and safe therapist/psychiatrist who finished med school (which of course is not a guarantee of high competence and efficiency, but probably the place where logically you should look for the best specialist). Basically people…
/r/seduction20/06/22 01:23 PM
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I will explain one reason for that. The hard irony is, most guys going to a pickup site/training/coach do have inner barriers inside their heads, WHICH NEED A LICENSED THERAPIST/PSYCHIATRIST TO BE EFFECTIVELY REMOVED OR WEAKENED. But psychotherapist or psychiatrist is not fashionable, hip or cool, so guys go to pickup community, which doesn’t fix the barriers inside their heads, but gives them a lot of «ammo» they think (to a large extent mistakenly, because of the barriers I have mentioned) the…
/r/seduction19/06/22 10:19 PM
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The short answer is this: you should do whatever is convenient to you and then calibrate your speed to the girl’s reaction. Also the more fast you are trying to go, the more reasons for this you should give. For example if you invite a girl to your house right away you should either frame it as a place to meet and then go somewhere else (like you work at you home so this is the way for you not to waste time waiting for a girl in some other location if she’s late or cancels at the last minute — w…
/r/seduction12/06/22 03:56 AM
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Of course I do not mix sexual drive with work ethic. Work ethic is not correlated to sexual drive and is less genetically predetermined, but still a lot of people who didn’t form it early on will never form it. And in many cases those people who didn’t form it and who we call lazy actually have a very low levels of serotonin and/or dopamine, which is to a large extent genetically predetermined, to the point of having a relative who committed suicide makes a person 25-50% more likely to commit su…
/r/seduction08/06/22 01:56 AM
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Don't you think sex drive and hormones controlling it - as well as biochemistry in general that controls all cognitive functions - are genetically predetermined?
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:38 AM
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I actually think idea that self-discipline and forcing yourself conquers everything is an unrealistic self-help myth. Self-discipline can do a lot short-term, but even then you should have some motivation within you to employ it and some people just don’t, based on low sex drive and other predetermined traits. And in the long run your results are determined by your core personality, which gets fixed very early, I think and is a mix of genetics and formative experience.
/r/seduction07/06/22 05:48 PM
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I tell this as a guy, who was very active with meeting girls in his twenties (and by some standards is even quite active now, although not by my own, I consider myself kind of in retirement right now) and knows what it takes, but knows some guys who were extremely unmotivated even in their twenties. I have changed myself into becoming very talkative, pushy in a good way, my style and looks were always OK I think. At some point I’ve had 2-3 dates with new girls a week. But even I faced some stuff…
/r/seduction07/06/22 05:26 PM
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Of course, I don’t argue with that. But In my opinion the motivation to make this effort (and not only in this aspect of life) IS to a large extent genetically predetermined. A lot of guys just don’t want to work for anything (more money, better attractiveness and romantic life etc). And I tell this as a guy who was quite motivated and active in this aspect in his twenties, but seen my friends who weren’t. Also I might add when you get older you start asking yourself: maybe these guys who were a…
/r/seduction07/06/22 05:05 PM
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Actually a lot of guys might not be getting action, because they are not weird enough — they are very average and boring. High standards (possibly unreasonably), low sex drive, laziness, misanthropy, high conscientiousness and a lot of other elements might contribute to guys getting zero action (and in a lot of cases being content with it, because if they really weren’t, they would pay for sex) — and some of these elements can’t be altered. A lot of this seems to be predetermined by genetic fact…
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:45 AM
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I've had similar period when I had a couple of dates a week from cold approach. I NEVER spent money on these girls (and almost none of the girls hinted at it), but even then the process was very time-consuming and energy-draining. Most girls were fine, but I didn't want to see them for the second time (maybe there's something wrong with me, but I doubt I can change that). But I think you can always make the process more economical - stop spending money if you do it, screen harder when you first …
/r/seduction16/01/22 02:24 PM
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These might not have been real «rejections» at all. First time she probably was really traveling, and second time she really said this drink is not served in your area — and probably wanted to hear another offer, like «Let’s meet for coffee then» (or even "Let's drink something you have then"). Also a lot of times it takes months and dozens of offers to meet somebody for the first time — that’s just the reality. I remember writing one girl once in a week or two for 6 months before meeting her li…
/r/seduction16/01/22 12:41 PM
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