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SecksualChocolate/r/seduction08/01/11 01:33 AM
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I haven't been to Peru, but I HAVE been to Brazil, and Colombia. Just some thoughts: I suspect your inner game is lacking, and your attitude, and ambivalence is showing in your tonality and body language. Walk in, and act like you own the place. Combine that with your mysterious/uninterested persona and you'll see better results The fact your friend is American should've been a huge DHV. It usually is. Just my personal experience in Rio and Medellin. I'm biracial caribbean, and I didn't need to …
/r/seduction02/08/11 12:20 AM
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First, what hecz said. Second, start reading up on 'daygame'. Sinn's daygame material, or Jeremy Soul's daygame are good places to start.
/r/seduction13/06/11 09:53 PM
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Well your local lair is probably 10-20 or so people all in the same locale. Seddit is 25k+ spread all over the world. There's a much wider pool of people and places, and a wider range of seduction experience (from noobs to coaches). It's no surprise that we see everything from mundane FRs to the totally wild and outlandish.
/r/seduction13/06/11 09:51 PM
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Ahh you're probably too sexual without building enough comfort with them. Kino/sexual escalation - enough comfort = creeper.
/r/seduction13/06/11 02:33 PM
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Protip from a mixed black guy: grow your hair out a bit into the quarter fro or bigger. White, indian, and latin girls LOVE that shit. Check out these images of Gary Dourdan (from CSI) as an example. When girls ask to touch my hair, I make them jump through a compliance hoop. Make them sit on your lap, give you a cheek kiss, hug, or get you a drink first!
/r/seduction13/06/11 02:31 PM
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I can't upvote this enough. We don't need to advertise. Seddit and the seduction community are a last hope - something you find if you're desperate enough to look. These are the people who really need it. 'Seduction' for the masses has a name already - it's called 'self help' and psychology.
/r/seduction26/04/11 09:20 AM
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I think something you said was key. I feel the need to ask for her number sooner rather than later, almost as a fear of not getting it, or having to initiate a new conversation later. Wrong attitude. Have the abundance mindset. Act like you don't give a flying f*** if she gives you the #, because there are 100 other girls you could meet that night. Set the frame in your mind that you're just enjoying the conversation with her. Don't race to get her #. Don't seem too eager to get the #.
/r/seduction26/04/11 08:57 AM
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A simple # close doesn't mean as much anymore. Girls will now just give their # out just to be polite. She has caller ID, and can just ignore if she doesn't recognize the number. So we need to adjust our game to accomodate for this. I make sure I have enough attraction before I ask for a #. Sometimes I'll talk, then just leave w/o asking for a # ("ok I'm gonna go hang out. it was great to meet you"). Abundance mentality!! Then I'll come back, talk a little more, and # close. BUT your work isn't …
/r/seduction26/04/11 08:49 AM
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Or maybe you built enough attraction in person, but you're not doing the right things after. DO: Use your phone game to reduce flaking. Send out a playful text shortly after meeting her. Then call her the next day. Run some phone game on her, THEN set up the meeting/date. DON'T: Get her number, then send one text expecting her to commit to a date. DON'T: Send a facebook friend request the next morning after meeting her. That destroys the illusion of abundance we want to portray. DO: Make her wan…
/r/seduction26/04/11 08:30 AM
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You could take up a few outdoor activities. I live in Miami, and play golf and go cycling year round. But you could simply go for a run or walk, go hiking, or sit by a pool That way you get outdoors for some sun, meet new people, AND develop cool alpha activities. Whatever you do, make sure you protect yourself by wearing sunblock. Skin cancer risk is very real. Even with my light brown skin I wear the highest SPF sunblock I can find, and I still tan ridiculously easily.
/r/seduction26/04/11 08:10 AM
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I like this a lot. You're basically flipping her shit test into a compliance test on her.
/r/seduction22/03/11 01:46 AM
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If you practice daygame, the answer is EVERYWHERE! :)
/r/seduction13/03/11 05:55 PM
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The area in the US I grew up in had a big greek immigrant population. I went to high school with a lot of greek girls. They are/were GORGEOUS!!
/r/seduction13/03/11 05:37 PM
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You're right in the sense that there are times when nothing you do will work with a particular girl. But your kino analysis is a bit simplistic. You treat kino like it's a binary switch, where you're either using it, or not using it. In other words, it's not a 0 to 1 scale. It's more like a 1-10 scale, where someone could be using too much touching/physical contact in relation to how comfortable a girl is with him. If you use kino and it didn't work, you can and should HONESTLY analyze why. Did …
/r/seduction13/03/11 05:29 PM
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Also, read the sidebar on 'approach anxiety', but you need to get comfortable talking to PEOPLE in general. Start doing this TODAY - talk to everyone. Read the link, but basically this means you just start conversations with random people. If you want, you can write down 4 or 5 'openers' to cycle through to start a conversation (I'll help you do this if you want). Don't worry about getting a number, or getting laid right now. Just enjoy having a conversation with this random stranger. As soon as…
/r/seduction10/03/11 10:07 PM
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I'm a Jamaican who's half black half asian. Color has never been an obstacle in my game. Maybe a few chicks might not have liked me because I didn't fit their cultural criteria, but NONE of them were ever mean or nasty about it. I'd dated blacks, whites, asians, indians, and various mixes in between. Most girls nowadays don't give a shit what race/color/culture you are, especially in college. All they care about is that you are confident, look presentable, and that they can have fun with you. TL…
/r/seduction10/03/11 10:00 PM
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You don't want to blow your social proof and reputation at the studio messing around with the 'professors gf'. She might be into you, but she's 'taken' so move on until you're sure things are otherwise. Abundance mentality. There are other fish in the sea, and you're an ace fisherman.
/r/seduction03/03/11 10:17 PM
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Dictate the frame and ignore her shit-testing. Right after she said "i like thai and 9:30 is fine...but I can't stay up late" you should close the deal if tonight is still good for you. She wants to get together, and she threw out the obligatory shit test to deter you from keeping her out late. Your response was too weak. You should've done the following: pushed to meet for dinner that night. She said halfway, but I'd have made it closer to my place. Maybe 3/4 way :) Changed locations and escala…
/r/seduction11/02/11 10:25 PM
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HEY as one of those skinny little bastards I take offense!! :) Your advice is dead on for bigger guys. I have a 6'7" 300 lb friend who I'm trying to teach 'the game'. His self esteem is shot to hell. I keep telling him his size immediately sets him apart from 99% of the guys out there, and he needs to turn it into an advantage.
/r/seduction11/02/11 09:59 PM
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Looks play a part in that you have to meet a certain baseline. If you look like a complete slob who just rolled out of bed, then yeah that will work against you. If you look "average", then it will be your presence and 'game' that separates you from everyone else. If you look average, you can still work on wardrobe, and presence. Even a guy who is good looking has to have 'game'. He can't stand at the bar like a beta with his pretty looks. A girl might open him because he's hot, but if he can't …
/r/seduction11/02/11 01:07 AM
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Are you Mark? Man I love your site. You 'give' away so much solid info for free.
/r/seduction11/02/11 12:46 AM
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My suggestions are more geared towards natural game, and transforming yourself to become a better man. The products that brought it together for me: Sinn's Complete Day Game by Jon Sinn - I'm more of a daygamer, and Sinn's product is top notch in this area. You have to be careful, because some of his specific material is catered to younger girls, but the concepts are applicable to women of all ages. RSD's Flawless Natural by Tim - Really put me to the next level as far as 'natural game'. David D…
/r/seduction11/02/11 12:41 AM
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No man. Too weak. Next time you see her, you walk straight up to her and ask her to come with you to get a cup of coffee. Sort of an instant date if you will. Then you build attraction/comfort, qualify, kino escalate, and proceed from there.
/r/seduction31/01/11 10:21 PM
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Got a facebook-close (we need a term for that, but "f-close" is taken...) Fb-close? Or O-close for online would cover okcupid, facebook, MSN, etc. Awesome FR man. Look forward to hearing more.
/r/seduction31/01/11 03:39 PM
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She's single, so she's allowed to go on dates with other people. Have the mindset that you're more fun and interesting than whoever she went on the date with. Go up to her next class, game for a bit, then ASK HER OUT on a coffee date for fuckssakes.
/r/seduction30/01/11 03:21 PM
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I watched a few of his videos. They're probably more intermediate level, but I like them a lot. He's more focused on inner game, but still give specific techniques you can use. Things like "how to kino open a girl who has her back turned". Or "how to generate instant sexual attraction while you kiss a girl on the cheek". He presents his info very clearly. It clicks when you see it, and you go "OOOOOH!"
/r/seduction28/01/11 09:51 PM
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Also, it's social convention for you to introduce yourself if someone tells you their name. If you don't, it will cause her to be socially uncomfortable. She'll ease this discomfort by 1) asking for your name, or 2) ejecting. Don't give her a reason to eject before you even get started. You don't lose anything by telling her your name. If she asks other things about you (what your major is, etc) you can use that as your IOI. I do agree with the OP though. College campuses are GREAT to meet girls…
/r/seduction26/01/11 07:19 PM
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My default is to start a back and forth. "Ok let's see how cool you are! Pick one...X or Y?" Just pick any 2 things for comparison. New York or L.A, tea or coffee, Pearl Jam or Nirvana, Leo Di Caprio or George Clooney. WHATEVER. You just want to start a back and forth, fun, teasing conversation thread with the group. What does this do? Gives you an instant way to disqualify if you disagree with whatever she says in a playful way. "What?!? You're an L.A. person??! No way! there's no way we can ev…
/r/seduction26/01/11 04:34 PM
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Beautiful women are still women. The switches you trigger that attracts a woman to a man are still the same no matter how good she looks. What is different is her value relative to a prospective suitors' value. If she's a top value woman (HB10 in looks, high status, high self esteem), then a guy will need to match, or surpass her value to generate attraction. Some of the gifts you have (looks, status) help put you further along on that attraction ladder. But the difference can be made up with ot…
/r/seduction26/01/11 03:50 AM
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I think the OP is just too worried about scale. In all his responses an HB10 = perfect, and HB1 to HB9 = 300 lb porkers. The truth is most people's HB9s are probably one of the hottest girls in that venue, and that's all that really matters for a FR. There's no need to compare her to Adriana Lima or anyone like that. We only care about her relative value. Icerrafon makes a good point that we can't have uniformity in grading. If you don't find black women attractive at all, then the highest grade…
/r/seduction26/01/11 03:36 AM
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One quick thing. This opener isn't really a compliment in and of itself. "You're so beautiful and awesome so i had to come meet you" is a compliment, and obviously something that you should never use to open with during the day. With that opener, you're implying interest but you also want to find out more about her. During the conversation, it will come out specifically why you were interested..."i just love your sense of style", "I like how you're well put together", or "you just have this ener…
/r/seduction26/01/11 03:27 AM
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I got the idea/opener from Sinn's daygame stuff. It's strictly a daygame opener. I wouldn't use it in a club or bar. I thought it was lame too when I heard it, but I tried it...and it worked! You just have to keep the rest of the conversation, and your body language congruent with the 'confident go-getter' image you are projecting. It's high value to approach her up front in the first place because no one ever does anything like that. I've only used it a handful of times, but I've NEVER been com…
/r/seduction26/01/11 02:48 AM
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If she held eye contact like that, I'd smile. If she smiled back, I'd take it as an IOI and introduce myself. If she didn't, I'd let her walk by me for a few steps, then turn back, touch her lightly on the upper arm to get her attention, and run a standard direct opener. "I know this is a bit random, but I knew I would kick myself if I didn't come and meet you, and see if there's more than meets the eye. I'm secksualchocolate."
/r/seduction25/01/11 09:41 PM
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Anything that you do is 'alpha' if you own it like a boss.
/r/seduction25/01/11 08:15 PM
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It doesn't matter. The ratings aren't used as a universal indicator of looks and status where Beyonce or Scarlet Johansen is 10. Otherwise pretty much no random club girl would be an HB10. The HB rating just describes what the perceived 'value' of the girl is, relative to the crowd she's in, the PUA, etc. If a girl has guys hitting on her all night, she'll probably have the ego and act like a HB 8 to 10 in that club. For FR purposes, anything in that range will do. You might be a high status/hig…
/r/seduction25/01/11 01:42 PM
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Great advice, and I love having a female perspective. I see this so clearly since I just ended my 3 yr LTR(long term relationship). Guys, the testing doesn't stop once you 'close'. Some of these pickups turn into LTRs, and you constantly have to defend against shit tests and compliance tests. Now, I'm not saying to never supplicate. If she's earned the right to be your girlfriend, she's earned some trust, and give-and-take from you. But like HB pointed out, learn to recognize when your girlfrien…
/r/seduction24/01/11 08:12 PM
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IMHO "where the relationship is going" is a question you should answer honestly. Set expectations so she doesn't think she's getting a bf. You can tell her straight up you don't want a relationship, but you really like hanging out and spending the night together. Don't lie. Don't give her false hope. Remember the golden rule: both you and the girl should be better for your time spent together.
/r/seduction24/01/11 08:03 PM
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The first thing you should do is read the links in the sidebar. --> But here's a nutshell guide: Work on the 'soft skills' first. Maintain good posture, work on a strong and even voice when you speak, and keep eye contact with people when you talk to them. Next, talk to EVERYONE. Get comfortable talking to men and women. Don't worry about getting numbers for now. Just practice talking to complete strangers while working on your soft skills. When you run out of things to say, you can just thank t…
/r/seduction24/01/11 07:52 PM
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This is money advice. There's absolutely NO SHAME in admitting you need help. I've begun seeing a counselor for some issues from my childhood, and it has helped me tremendously. You don't realize how much those things can affect your day-to-day adult life until you finally get help.
/r/seduction24/01/11 05:42 PM
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Good job man. Keep it up and work on those approaches.
/r/seduction24/01/11 05:35 PM
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Style (Neil Strauss) is pretty short as well. Everyone is right. It's your attitude and personality that matters. Sure some girls will disqualify you for your height, but most women don't care. As for specific advice - make doubly sure the usual things like posture and eye contact are good. And make sure you can 'put it down' in the bedroom. Check the sidebar for information on improving these areas.
/r/seduction24/01/11 05:26 PM
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Good job man. I really like your push/pull game. It's very subtle, and natural. Doesn't seem like you're trying at all. I need to incorporate more of this in my repertoire.
/r/seduction16/01/11 06:56 PM
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I think you did good. Others gave good tips on texting, and AA, so I won't repeat. I'm consider myself a good conversationalist. Some conversation tips - If you get stuck it's ok to ask an "interview question" to keep things flowing. When she answers, dig a little deeper into her answer and flow from there. Focus on her motivation (the 'why') and emotion associated with whatever she answers. This helps build comfort and connection, and makes her feel like she's known you longer. Just act like yo…
/r/seduction16/01/11 06:40 PM
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Inspiring. I'm back in 'the game' after a 2.5 yr relationship, so I'm getting back in game shape. I'm pretty good at everything else, but the one thing I have trouble with is crippling approach anxiety. Thanks for posting an inspiring FR. Just don't give a sh*t if you get blown out!
/r/seduction08/01/11 01:30 AM
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Road trip to the next closest 'hot spot'? Or maybe just practice day game/approach anxiety by opening ANYONE you don't know and holding a conversation.
/r/seduction08/01/11 01:19 AM
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You're in the home stretch if she's in your house!! Just keep building comfort and escalating kino. Like Philo said, have cool convo starters in your house. Some ideas: art photographs of you and friends/family doing interesting things an aquarium a cd or movie collection a piano or guitar board games Photos are cheap. Get some pictures printed, put them in frames, hang them up, and think of something cool/interesting to say about each of them. You said to describe the process, so it can go some…
/r/seduction07/01/11 09:57 PM
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I agree with the gist of your post - don't make her your 'everything'. I disagree with some of the specifics. For example 'keep gaming other girls' in front of her. There are other ways to present yourself as a man with options. Simply letting her know you have many female friends you talk to, or have coffee with will do this. The bottom line is you need to keep filling your cups of attraction, comfort, and excitement with the girl. You always need to present yourself as a man of high value, con…
/r/seduction07/01/11 03:29 PM
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Multiracial black/white/chinese caribbean here. I'm brown-skinned. In my humble opinion, it HELPS. But you need to have the 'inner game' and confidence. If you use routines, make sure they are congruent with what you're presenting. For example, if you obviously grew up in India, don't use a routine about cow tipping and f*cking the farmers' daughter in Smallville as a teenager. I'm sure there are some girls that blew me out because I'm brown, but it usually helps more than it hurts. When you're …
/r/seduction07/01/11 03:18 PM
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Daygamer's response is dead on. Focus more on your "natural game" and less on specific techniques. Negs, preselection, and routine stacks won't get you far at all with HV/HE girls like this.
/r/seduction06/01/11 04:29 PM
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