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I'm in a relationship (long distance) with a girl who turned me down brutally in high school. My how things have changed. To anticipate the criticism, this isn't a oneitis I've finally locked down. A chance talking together many years since high school just let to some more interest blah blah blah. I'm over getting rejected by her on high school; I can look back and say I wasn't behaving attractively when I walked up to her and stammered some words to her after months of pining. No reason to be …
/r/seduction15/02/13 02:55 PM
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That's why it's called a generalization :)
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:19 AM
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One of the top reasons for anxiety in guys when it comes to relating with women is the pressure they feel to be the ones who drive the conversation, to bear the responsibility to hit all the attraction switches, to be the boyfriend that's smart, funny, attractive - never down, needy, indecisive, or scared. If you think a woman's job is to look or stay pretty in order to have it made then this includes you. I find this thinking to be harmful - you come to place too much responsibility for another…
/r/seduction12/02/13 02:40 AM
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There's some truth here. just because someone is willing to sleep with you doesn't mean they're the kind of person you can have a fulfilling relationship with or even that they find you attractive in return. Almost anyone who progresses in seduction soon sees that the majority of guys are AFCs.
/r/seduction11/02/13 02:09 PM
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If she was obviously emotionally conflicted, why did you ask her out on a date right after?
/r/seduction11/02/13 02:04 PM
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Nice. I think there's an over emphasis in projecting a certain image in the seduction community. I have zero doubt that you're telling the truth although I question just how beta this guy really is. How attractive are you? The more attractive you are the less likely it is that you really are going out with a beta
/r/seduction08/02/13 02:27 PM
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OP is female, for what it's worth..
/r/seduction08/02/13 01:36 PM
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Society may indeed have lied. But it certainly owes no one the truth. It is just a construct. A loose construct. This is not meant to be unsympathetic. But perhaps it will save someone from misplaced and corrosive bitterness.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/13 08:15 PM
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Society owes you nothing
/r/TheRedPill04/02/13 10:43 PM
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I never said he wasn't or couldn't. Of course it's his privilege. No one is arguing otherwise. I personally wouldn't flake on other people just because "that's what other people are doing and so I can do it too". Not sure what the downvotes are for. Is it taboo to express differences in philosophy in enlightened red pill land?
/r/TheRedPill02/02/13 10:15 PM
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I was referring to scheduling nights out with multiple girls just so you could flake on some of them because girls do it too.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/13 08:47 PM
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A bit passive aggressive to flake on them just because that's what girls do to guys, no?
/r/TheRedPill02/02/13 08:39 PM
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This is insightful. There are insecurities and unhealthy mental habits at play underneath such behavior. They are nothing special to women - no worse than the 'normal' morbid, violent fantasies everyone has from time to time. It would be remiss to consider these to be evidence of incorrigible, biological preferences instead of mental health issues. It only seems normal because the standard for typical or normal behavior has been skewed. Just because everyone is in an asylum doesn't mean it's nor…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/13 08:35 PM
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No one is saying that.
/r/seduction31/01/13 02:08 AM
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Let's not bullshit ourselves about this being constructive in intent.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/13 04:21 PM
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Too clever for any girl you'd actually want to bang though. They'd give you the scrunched up face and you'd be like..
/r/seduction29/01/13 03:46 PM
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If they are repressed, there isn't much you can do to rush along the process. By the very fact, they will need some time to acclimate to the signals their body is sending and receiving. If not, you proceed as usual and there's no problem. :) I know you want something that sparks your ideas but it's no different than the rest of seduction. You take it moment by moment and individual by individual. I've never ever rehearsed game scenarios in my head and had them proceed remotely the same way in re…
/r/seduction28/01/13 12:30 AM
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I've never heard of anyone who would be upset or angry because someone cool walked up to them and started chatting with them or because they didn't open in a certain way. Think about that next time all of the obstacles and roadblocks you just listed come to mind.
/r/seduction27/01/13 09:03 PM
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Don't you mean ahead?
/r/seduction27/01/13 02:14 PM
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You'll be surprised to eventually learn that a lot of these girls who only go for alpha confident themselves In fact, that's precisely why they want such a man. To compensate for their own 'weakness' by being the one to take charge. And if you're counting, it took me two years to internalize things to where I didn't need to second guess myself or review what went wrong or even look at deduction material (except out of interest). What's curious about me though is I did very little cold approachin…
/r/seduction26/01/13 08:14 PM
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Seriously. This was one of my biggest problems starting out. Being able to recognize when the girl was hooked and that the act was largely no longer necessary.
/r/seduction26/01/13 04:47 PM
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I see what you're saying. in my long experience though, outcome independence even about sex leads to overall better outcomes, at any rate. It seems paradoxical at first, but there you have it. As for an answer to your question, you're fine. there's nothing wrong per se in talking about her sexual history
/r/seduction23/01/13 01:15 AM
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A bigger issue is why you are worried about potentially friend zoning yourself. Outcome independence isn't a wishful washy, only applicable some of the time concept. Trust me on that one.
/r/seduction22/01/13 11:54 PM
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I don't know your experience with meditation but I've found the more I meditate, the less I care about seduction.
/r/seduction20/01/13 07:52 PM
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Could say the same for other ages
/r/seduction05/01/13 12:33 AM
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There shouldn't be a contradiction. In the same way you wouldn't be nice to your child because you want something from it, you shouldn't be interested in a girl because you want something from her. There are deep subtleties that you won't get by reading, but that's the gist.
/r/seduction31/12/12 04:22 AM
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To be fair, most PUAs have moved on from the old school terminology. Game has actually evolved rapidly.
/r/seduction30/12/12 05:30 PM
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Definitely do more. It only helps in every conceivable aspect. :)
/r/seduction29/12/12 03:47 AM
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Also called mindfulness. Head to r/meditation's sidebar for more
/r/seduction29/12/12 03:45 AM
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Vipassana.
/r/seduction28/12/12 03:57 AM
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What's a good guide to the Alexander technique?
/r/seduction28/12/12 03:56 AM
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This is the only advice anyone on this forum needs. Few people will take it or read it but coming from someone who went through a lot of unhappiness and loneliness, this is the only advice you should build a foundation on. Of course, there are details about the implementation but you aren't getting the maximum out of your effort if you spend time trying to figure out the right words and body language.
/r/seduction20/12/12 02:00 AM
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Since you bring it up, how are those economies doing in the tech sector compared to America?
/r/MensRights18/10/12 06:02 AM
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It's not a secret among instructors that many people who come to bootcamps need help the bootcamps can't give them. Some expect instructors to fix their problems without doing any work. Some have unrealistic expectations (threesomes with table rats at clubs). Some will figure it out on their own simply by putting in the time. But a sucker is born every minute and the bills have to be paid. Being an instructor is precarious: if you turn every one away for a month because they aren't the 'right fi…
/r/seduction07/06/12 02:59 PM
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XS and marquee are good if you're into Asians. Lavo and pure are a bit more rounded. Wet republic on Saturdays is pricey but the eye candy is as good as it gets. and the girls are super approachable. Fridays are a lot slower but cheaper. Ditch Fridays at palms beach club is a better bet for Friday. If any of you need help getting good deals on tables and whatnot MSG me.
/r/seduction25/05/12 07:25 AM
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Possibly because he's a work of fiction
/r/seduction26/04/12 06:44 AM
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I believe this is the first thing that any guy needs to learn. Not just for pickup but for life.
/r/seduction18/04/12 03:12 PM
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He's not saying never do cold approach. He's only advising you to consider your return on investment (not just lays, but self development) when doing cold approaches. Presumably you're not one dimensional and have multiple things going for you which might make for good bonding pretexts.
/r/seduction09/04/12 02:40 AM
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Your personal anecdote includes a statistically significant sample size and lends credence to your assertion that the author is "full of shit".
/r/seduction09/04/12 02:37 AM
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The only small problem with such logic is that you're better off not wanting your goal, as a PUA, to be to have very much sex.
/r/seduction08/04/12 04:36 AM
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It's rather disingenuous of you to label what he did as "breeding confrontation". She came of as a bitch and he let her know (after an initial diplomatic effort) that he wasn't interested in playing that game OR having a "real conversation" anymore. Again, is it the mans job to coax a bitch into letting down her guard for the sake of not creating a stir? You never answered my questions. It seems that's where we disagree. (FWIW I don't believe a man is automatically in the wrong if he doesn't res…
/r/seduction05/04/12 06:21 AM
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The only problem with that line of reasoning is there are too many fish in the sea. Why babysit if you can find a hotter chick who doesn't think her shit smells like roses? Why help her work through her bitch complex when it is a turn off in the first place? Is that the mans job?
/r/seduction05/04/12 05:19 AM
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Gonna have to disagree there. Being a bitch isn't about masking the "quality person" underneath. That excuse sounds like a Disney line. Being a bitch is inherently attractive and should not be rewarded with patience and (especially) attraction.
/r/seduction05/04/12 05:15 AM
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Occam's razor applies here. If the writer walks and talks like a crank.. Let's not imagine he's playing 11 dimensional chess to throw the unworthy off the scent.
/r/seduction16/03/12 06:31 AM
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Go on..
/r/seduction24/12/11 03:29 AM
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This. If a girl leaves w her friend and says she'll be right back she won't. Get her number and move on. Similar here
/r/seduction24/12/11 02:11 AM
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This is false from a biological perspective. Fapping does not decrease a males attractiveness to women indirectly. Any temporary dip in test levels have been found to be minuscule. One can argue about placebo effects but ultimately there are more significant variables in what makes a man attractive than how often he jerks it.
/r/seduction15/11/11 09:43 PM
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Find some clubs in your area for cooking or yoga, for example. Perhaps a sport like squash or badminton. What are your hang ups when it comes to approaching
/r/seduction11/11/11 02:58 AM
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What do you have going on in your life? What are your passions and what do you have to show for them
/r/seduction10/11/11 12:11 AM
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Cognitive behavioral therapy. It works. Ask a psych about it
/r/seduction17/10/11 07:22 PM
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No. It's like asking an afc for advice
/r/seduction09/10/11 08:28 PM
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Stop bringing up the bf with her. Always deflect if she is first to do so.
/r/seduction06/10/11 05:25 AM
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This. I'd like to learn from people who are better than me. I'm constantly watching what other guys are doing at parties to learn new things.
/r/seduction04/10/11 07:17 PM
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If your game is solid then a lot of it is out of your hands and depends on how quality the bf is during his stay. Not sure how advanced your game is but just be cool. Don't bring him up, imply to her that you know about him and aren't judgmental that she wants you, bla bla.
/r/seduction04/10/11 07:15 PM
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I had the same problems you did. I beat them. You can do it. But make sure you have something specific you want to work on when you approach. Maybe you want to see the worst that can happen if you keep talking after you feel awkward, or if the girl starts to think you're sexually interested, or if onlookers think you're hitting on her, and so on. Those should be your goals, not "doing approaches". That's a bit too vague
/r/seduction01/10/11 11:33 PM
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I'm only on about the first or second chapter but so far nothing you couldn't figure out by making the effort to approach girls regularly. The bit on approach anxiety is helpful.
/r/seduction23/09/11 12:54 AM
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I'm reading it now so will report back later
/r/seduction22/09/11 01:33 PM
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Excellent. Thanks.
/r/seduction06/09/11 11:41 PM
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Any summaries? The video is not available on mobile
/r/seduction05/09/11 07:43 PM
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I think we have slightly different definitions of inner game. Im thinking confidence in very aspect of life vs inner game in sets. I made progress gaming girls and got confidence boosts from girls' external validation. But it would last only insofar as I kept having girls attention. Approach anxiety is now a thing of the past for me because I've focused on diagnosing how and where I can improve in life beyond just opening and hooking sets. I've gotten natural at gaming girls and the key thing is…
/r/seduction16/08/11 01:22 AM
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In my experience focusing more on outer game made me rely on external validation. sure my inner game improved, but IMO when you're an afc with girls, you're usually also beta in life. I used to be streaky and i used to rely on getting (more like falling) into state. Better to tackle the problem from a holistic standpoint. So I agree, a different approach can work depending on the persons needs.
/r/seduction14/08/11 01:02 PM
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The biggest secret in the community is if you're asking for books to help your game then working on your outer game will be a complete waste of time. Worthy inner game resources are few and far between.
/r/seduction14/08/11 02:22 AM
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Thats something I don't understand about the community and the way it reaches beginners. Outer game should be an advanced concept. The reason an afc doesn't get girls isn't because he holds his drink too high or doesn't know body language. Its because he's internalized horrible beliefs over a lifetime.
/r/seduction14/08/11 02:20 AM
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Don't ever refer to doing what 90% of guys don't have the balls to do as "failure". Don't even think like that.
/r/seduction14/08/11 02:16 AM
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Being satisfied doing nothing won't attract the most sought after women to you (at least in the long term) but if it pleases you, so be it.
/r/seduction09/08/11 05:12 PM
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This is quite false but contains a nugget of truth. Girls don't want to be hit on but they always want to be seduced.
/r/seduction02/08/11 01:50 AM
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Read "winning body language". It will shift your perspective.
/r/seduction18/07/11 05:07 AM
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Props on having the balls to approach.
/r/seduction12/07/11 10:31 PM
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Just be more cognizant about body language. There are many resources here to get you started
/r/seduction05/07/11 05:17 PM
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I think one of the problems we have with approach anxiety is that the community pushes us to go into attraction immediately after opening. You don't have to do this. If there's a time constraint - that is, there's an impending interrupt - then simply befriend her. Run comfort stuff. You don't HAVE to attract and escalate immediately or even the same day you approach.
/r/seduction05/07/11 03:43 PM
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Be careful about placing too much faith in that picture..
/r/seduction03/07/11 03:57 PM
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Can you make a post about dominant body language? Both what to do and what not to do. Thanks.
/r/seduction02/07/11 08:37 PM
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It appears to be from a book but I originally saw it here: http://www.bakadesuyo.com/the-social-strategy-of-popular-kids-and-mean The basic confirmation I get from it is that being socially dominant comes from knowing how to balance IOIs, IODs, and qualifying and that it works not just to attract girls but on people in general.
/r/seduction26/06/11 09:20 PM
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I didn't quite catch it but was it your friends or randoms who cockblocked you? You've hit upon something that every new pua struggles with. Your own internal state is what girls are screening for. Not your 10/10 opener or whether you waited till she was alone and flashing you to approach. My advice us to ditch your friends if they cannot man up in the future. Your male friends should be there to help you progress with your goals. If they continue to hold you back after you've had a word with th…
/r/seduction26/06/11 07:46 PM
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Please avoid that reddit like the plague. Their circle jerk consists of "you need to communicate better with her" to solve your relationship problems. That seems great until you think about it and realize it's no different than telling a guy "just be yourself" or "be confident" when he asks seddit for advice. Seddit can still be helpful for long term relationship advice
/r/seduction26/06/11 07:37 PM
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Depends on what you think of her beauty. If an hb6 gives you the cold shoulder when theres better in the vicinity would you even think twice?
/r/seduction26/06/11 05:15 PM
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Do an ama
/r/seduction25/06/11 02:20 AM
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You're mistaken. A guy can say "fuck off" in an annoyed tone to a girl or he can slyly say "you're very clingy". There are seductive and unseductive ways of pushing and pulling; it's not simply the case that betas pull too much.
/r/seduction19/06/11 03:30 PM
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Seems unlikely that they would be the only interesting people
/r/seduction17/06/11 08:24 PM
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That's pretty much all one needs to know about posture
/r/seduction17/06/11 02:48 AM
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The same principles apply. The time frames are different because you aren't trying to get a one night stand. Comfort game is a big part of mystery's teaching
/r/seduction17/06/11 02:15 AM
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If you didn't perceive an awkward very fleeting pause watch it again.
/r/seduction27/05/11 03:06 AM
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This has some truth to it. Whether a girl wants to dance with you or not only depends in whether or not you look and act cool. Body language and appearance. After all you can ask for something without sounding like your value depends on whether or not she says yes and THAT'S what's attractive and alpha.
/r/seduction11/05/11 11:26 PM
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Girls go to clubs to have fun and enjoy themselves? Precisely why they wear makeup and scant clothing. Don't be fooled.
/r/seduction03/05/11 08:07 PM
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I smell troll
/r/seduction24/04/11 07:53 PM
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Dicarlo escalationion ladder is a helpful guide to kino. The indirect reason kino is important is that it shows you're not afraid to be physically close to her. Proximity breeds attraction
/r/seduction23/04/11 02:45 AM
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His political rants are of questionable foundation and relevance, however
/r/seduction10/04/11 04:55 AM
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I don't think any sex has it easier. Game can be practiced but, as with girls, the hotter the ass you can pull the higher your standards. So you can have good game and still not have what you want. Conversely you may not be an HB10 and still be happy with your man.
/r/seduction25/03/11 03:45 AM
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Roissy does cover relationship game. Mystery focuses his teaching on club pickup and has not advocated using club game to maintain LTRs.
/r/seduction24/02/11 10:35 PM
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This is even better. It mirrors my own reaction.
/r/seduction19/02/11 07:22 AM
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Not obvious that this is the same guy
/r/seduction12/02/11 07:25 AM
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Chick on right has her nipples pressed into his arm. Not an accident. Pretty sure she's not family.
/r/seduction11/02/11 06:11 PM
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A crazed feminist named Longstaff. Ho ho ho
/r/MensRights26/01/11 04:04 AM
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It's cliche but experience in the field teaches you things no words ever can
/r/seduction23/01/11 08:42 PM
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Initially I would have gone with 'turn around so I can decide' but these can be good in the right context
/r/seduction22/01/11 02:21 AM
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I've read research that shows that success rate is much higher when a woman offers (unconscious) before being approached. For someone starting out the biggest hangup is the fear of failure and not getting it perfect. Minimizing (perceived) risk may increase success which, in the end, is the only known confidence builder. And isn't that the core of game?
/r/seduction05/01/11 04:55 AM
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This is good. You are a free bird flying in the open sky and women want to put you in a cage. When she tries to cuddle post coitus your assenting signifies that she's gotten your resources. When you zip up and leave she chases you even harder.
/r/seduction25/12/10 03:17 AM
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