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| 1 | How do you go out to bars/clubs alone and still meet women without looking awkward?Just go over to someone else who looks alone and say “Hi, you looked like you were on your own. I’m X. Cheers!” Subconsciously, people watch people who are alone to see how they react with others. If you look safe and friendly you will gain points. Even if you react well to rejection you gain points. Once you have a few people in a group, if the group looks open, then others will instinctively join. If you look like you are the leader of the group, then you get more points. | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 07:37 AM |
| 19 | Do guys in their early 20s really hook up through Instagram? My friend claims he pulls “7/10” girls but I’m skeptical.Use it like a personal profile. Portray your best image on Instagram, maybe just 20 pictures, occasionally updated, they should show that you are cool person to be with. You can look up which kind of pictures that people suggest you put on a dating profile. Then, when you meet someone you exchange instagram with them. This allows you to check them out, and signal that you are interested in them by liking their stuff. You also have a backdoor chat to them. But beware, really hot girls have 100s o… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 09:42 AM |
| 1 | What’s your go to line when a girl flakes out on a date yet proposes another day for the date?OK.… sure. | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Daygame Statistics - My first 1000 ApproachesHey OP, thanks for sharing, compare your stats to Thomas Crown. Guys who are giving you much higher figures are either making it up, guessing or are just naturally more attractive. Even dressing better, improving your looks slightly can make the initial approach figures better. Don’t be put off by anyones comments. | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Your clothes play a huge role in seducing women!There’s always one naturist in the group… | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Your clothes play a huge role in seducing women!Look for “well dressed men” Twitter accounts. They show you daily what looks good and what looks bad with comparison pics. | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Your clothes play a huge role in seducing women!Your clothes tell a story about you. Imagine if you were to enter the stage in play, what would your clothes tell the audience about your character? The impression that you want to make is either wealth, power or adventure and definitely not cute, immature or clown. The clothes also have to be in context for situation. In western society, wealthy powerful men wear, and look good in suits. Sometimes, because they look good in a suit they have accumulated power and wealth, sad but true. There are … | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Do girls not look at people they pass on the street?I have noticed several patterns, Girls who: * look at something else, like a shop window, when you pass. Noticed you and was not interested. * don’t look but sniff. This is a sign of disgust. * give a micro glance and look away or look down. Sign of in interest, submissive gesture. * react positively. * who can hold eye contact back. I found that after practicing on passers by you get more confident and also aware of brief signs of interest especially when you are in more static situations like … | /r/seduction | 05/03/21 01:43 PM |
| 1 | So I met this girl in a bar...You should have seduced her. It’s obvious that she wanted you to. When she said that she has a boyfriend she was testing you to see if you were man enough to say that you don’t want to be her boyfriend but that you want to be her lover. She’s either a super sexual girl who has multiple lovers or was on the brink of splitting up anyway. “Nice girls” don’t touch men as they know it gives the wrong impression. Always trust a woman’s actions over their words. I’m not sure why people are giving r/dat… | /r/seduction | 12/08/19 12:07 AM |
| 1 | LOLLEGEND. | /r/seduction | 21/07/19 02:11 PM |
| 3 | Girl wants me to eat her pussy this weekend but I really don’t want to...It’s great. What is there not to like about it? | /r/seduction | 19/07/19 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Can someone explain Eye contact? I don’t really understand cause for me I picture myself staring at a girl across the bar!!If you find direct eye contact difficult at first practice by looking at the left eye, right eye, lips and back to the left eye. What is the worst that can happen? The worst is that she turns away and if so then she is not interested. If she is interested she’ll smile or look away and back again. This is your cue to beckon her to you or you can go to her. Getting her to come to you wins you more points though. If you don’t act on a sign of interest and continue to look then that is creepy. There… | /r/seduction | 09/05/19 12:41 PM |
| 2 | The importance of eye contactPractice. You’ll find there are actually only a few reactions. rarely, disgust. Sometimes blatant and other times just a sniff or some other reaction. head turns away. They just don’t want to make eye contact. Once you recognize this you can see people turn away quite a long way before you get close. blank stare. This is really common. But sometimes there is a micro reaction of the lips. A suppressed smile or greeting. Interested but not now. a smile. You must react to this one, don’t keep looki… | /r/seduction | 01/05/19 07:34 AM |
| 7 | What are some conversation points when going in for the cold appraoch?Lookup London Daygame Model. They have this down to an art. | /r/seduction | 30/04/19 02:59 AM |
| 7 | My female friend told me this what does it mean?You were thinking about sex with her and it showed through your eyes. Humans speech is recent innovation in evolution and we communicated our desires through facial expression way before we had words for it. Oh, and she is waiting for you to make a move on her. | /r/seduction | 29/04/19 03:15 AM |
| 7 | During "netflix and chill", how do you transition from netflix to chill?rubbing the small of her back. the palm of your hand gently rubbing and squeezing the nape of her neck. kissing the back of her neck. rubbing her bare stomach with your hand. If she’s into it she’ll really be into it. If not she’ll let you know. In fact just describing the above to a woman will give her tingles... | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Not sure how to go about 'asking a girl back to your house'I heard a guy asked a woman if she wanted to come to his place to see his snake. She agreed. He didn’t have a snake. She never asked about it. | /r/seduction | 19/01/19 10:13 PM |
| 6 | Not sure how to go about 'asking a girl back to your house'Just give her a plausible reason to come to your house. see some pictures watch a YouTube watch a movie listen to an album She’s not stupid. This is coded talk for “I want to spend some time alone with you”. This is not a license to leap on her as soon as the door is closed but it is a opportunity to make her comfortable with you alone. | /r/seduction | 19/01/19 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Any guys here with thinning hair, who still do well?In my experience women are attracted to either or both a thick head of hair or very short/shaved head. None are into thinning. Try cutting your hair short for 6 months and see how it goes. You can let it grow again if it doesn’t work out for you. You may lose the interest of those women who only like a guy with hair but the ones who like really short hair will come out of the woodwork. I found that I got more interest the older gnarly I look. The confidence in the way you own your look is more i… | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Wearing ring as pre selection proofIt doesn't work. Girls ask you about your wife and then when you say that you don't have one they doubt that you are telling the truth. If they are genuinely interested in you because of the ring then they actually do want you to be attached to someone else because their thing is married men. | /r/seduction | 21/12/17 06:54 AM |
| 2 | Is there any good tutorial on establishing rapport quickly and powerfully?Have a read through these posts: | /r/seduction | 13/12/17 05:19 AM |
| 1 | What do you think seduction is?Imagine you are trying to seduce your hot young house guest who's a friend of your niece or whatever. ... What do you do? Keep swiping on Tinder in the hope that she shows up. <wink> | /r/seduction | 01/12/17 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Studying abroad as a virgin who never had a girlfriend.Rather than bars or street day-game etc, go to cultural events. Indian cookery classes. Live Indian music recitations. Girls who have the hots for Indian guys will definitely go there. Oh.. and by the way, get fit. | /r/seduction | 29/11/17 04:06 AM |
| 1 | hooking is hard in England!?I’m afraid it is the noisy-American-who-approaches-you-in-a-bar-syndrome. You could try some self deprecating humour to break the ice. Hi, I’m a dickhead from America. Is that what you guys call it? I’ve come to pick up girls in your town. Do you fancy a snog behind the bus stop? Don’t worry I’ve got some johnnies in my fanny pack. I guarantee that this will break the ice or a massive bar fight will ensue. Check the exits before you approach in case you have to run. | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 02:01 AM |
| 7 | [Longer Post...*really*] Needed to get this out of my system...Wait. What has this got to do with seduction? | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Looking for some recommendations for NLP videosIt’s funny but before looking into NLP I would have taken the statement “NLP doesn’t work” at face value. After studying a bit (meta model) I would answer “What specifically in NLP doesn’t work?” Or “What in NLP doesn’t work for you?” What is not said in blanket dismissive statements is often more informative than what is said in them. I learnt that from NLP. The original guys who coined the term NLP went on make a lot of money and spawned businesses from what they had learnt about persuasion fr… | /r/seduction | 19/11/17 11:08 PM |
| 1 | How to hit on/initiate convo's with girls you just happen to come byI know that this is an approach in a foreign country but you'll get the idea that some people have figured this stuff out and there are lots of resources out there if you search for "daygame". Here's an example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phn8q5EKhtc | /r/seduction | 16/11/17 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mine… with grit, perseverance, sweat and tears. No man has ever looked back and said, “Geez, I wish I been more of slob when I was younger.” | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineConcentrate on your health, fitness, diet and dress. Try changing your hairstyle (it will grow back). Get out of your room and become seriously fit. Treat your life as a self improvement project to be the absolute best man that you can. Try meeting outside of clubs, bars like a meet-ups for shared interests. Then you get to know people and show your personality. Looks matter less to women than men so work on your confidence by aiming to talk to 100 new women in a month with no expectations. This… | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 01:39 AM |
| 2 | how do you apply Mystery method in daygame?Take a look at the stuff on YouTube and books by Tom Torero on London day game. They started out with just Mystery Method out of The Game but practiced, refined, tested to find out what works in the day over many years. One particular method might not be effective if taken out of the context it it was developed in so it is worth studying what has worked for other people especially when the development is recorded in such detail. | /r/seduction | 06/11/17 10:42 PM |
| 1 | How to build tension with just eye contact?Are you talking about someone who you are talking to or someone across the other side of the room? If someone at a distance or someone who you are not engaging with holds eye contact or releases and looks again then go talk to them. It is a sign for you to act and go the next level of interaction. Not doing so and continuing to keep eye contact at some point induces a negative reaction. | /r/seduction | 02/11/17 06:00 AM |
| 1 | "I wish you were 37"She’s looking at you as a potential boyfriend but you need to turn it around so you are he secret younger lover. She may be thinking it is difficult to explain you to her friends who will judge her so tell her “it’s our secret and that nobody needs to know”. If she hasn’t already been married she may be starting to feel the regret that she is getting too old but also the need for a man in her life. | /r/seduction | 29/10/17 05:34 PM |
| 2 | What age did you realize you want to get married?Before you decide to get married ask 100 married men how their sex life is after several years of marriage. Also realize that when you are over 35 you are even more attractive to younger women especially if you are fit and more so if you have assets. | /r/seduction | 29/10/17 05:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm an exchange student in Japan and I'm having trouble meeting women and getting laid.Seems like a good message for https://www.reddit.com/r/TokyoSeddit/ can you also post it there? When you say "dark skinned" what exactly do you mean? Can you give a country and/or some famous person who we would recognise. Some Japanese girls tend to go African Americans because of their looks and because they are American. They are also highly interested in Caucasians. Other looking people less so. Country of origin and prospects also matter. However, if you are reasonably fit and good looking … | /r/seduction | 24/10/17 08:36 AM |
| -1 | Friendzoned with Best Friend, Cut Contact, Now She's Begging for Friendship Back, What Now?One big question here is: is she sexually attracted to any man at all? It is possible that she is asexual. She likes the company of men. She she loves men. She loves you. She may want a romantic exclusive relationship with you but she is just not interested in sex. It's worth figuring this out because if she is she is interested in being sexual with other men and just not you then she is using you as a convenience until someone better comes along. She is 29 so it is unlikely that she wouldn't kn… | /r/seduction | 23/10/17 07:37 AM |
| 2 | How to have casual sex. What am I missing here?...and my Christmas lights were still in my bedroom in the summer. | /r/seduction | 19/10/17 04:45 AM |
| 6 | How to have casual sex. What am I missing here?I saw an interesting comment the other day. Someone was saying that the most important thing is to give the girl an excuse as to why she came home with you. e.g inviting her over for a simple meal is a winner. Inviting her to an "after party", "to finish some wine"... literally anything can work. She knows, possibly more than you, that something could develop if she is alone with you and nothing is going to develop if you are not alone so it is always on the cards. Always remember it is an oppor… | /r/seduction | 19/10/17 04:44 AM |
| 3 | Going Sarging alone tonight at student bar - tipsAs long as you have practised your magic tricks and have your jamiroquai hat on, you'll do fine. | /r/seduction | 17/10/17 04:26 AM |
| 2 | What are some recommended books/resources on frame control?I fixed it. | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 02:35 PM |
| 1 | What are some recommended books/resources on frame control?Read this book . All of his stuff is interesting. | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Can anyone shed some light on these PUA terms?I think passive-agressive is over used. It is actually a complex mental health issue. A personality disorder. Somehow it became a meme for annoying behaviour which is not actively hostile but annoying nevertheless. | /r/seduction | 13/10/17 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Can anyone shed some light on these PUA terms?Passive Attraction The part of attraction that a woman feels before you even say anything as percieved by your looks, style, dress and manner. AFC IOD Cat string theory By the way, a more attractive way to ask this type question is: I found the definition for X. Does that mean Y? When it says Z I don't understand what it means by W. Don't worry about being wrong as people are more likely to reply if you are wrong than to offer to answer question that you could have looked up. Show that you have … | /r/seduction | 13/10/17 06:36 AM |
| 1 | How to ask your female friend if that guy is her boyfriend?Just say to her: You and that guy make a nice couple. Possible reactions are: Why thank you. We have being going out for six months.. Ewww.. no way! I wouldn't go out with him. No way. I wouldn't go out with him as couple but I like to have sex with him. (A girl actually said this to me.) Thanks. I was hoping he would ask me out. Suggesting that they are a couple is certain to provoke a reaction and give you enough information to make your move. | /r/seduction | 26/09/17 08:48 AM |
| 1 | I have no idea how to text women or to build attraction over text.Just note that the more rapport you build with text the more likely you are to become a "text friend". Someone who she associates with fun-to-text. If necessary, just say, "I want to call you now" and take it from there. You must also approach the call with one end in mind: We are going to meet, have fun and then spend time alone. Everything else is fluff with which she might find enjoyable and be happy to take it no further. If you can't arrange to meet and get turned down. Drop off for a while… | /r/seduction | 21/09/17 04:28 AM |
| 2 | What do I wear to my mates 16th birthday do? Two fit chicks will be there...the Ali-G of PUA. | /r/seduction | 13/09/17 03:40 AM |
| 1 | Software for journal?MongoDB A document-based data model. The basic unit of storage is analogous to JSON, Python dictionaries, Ruby hashes, etc. This is a rich data structure capable of holding arrays and other documents. This means you can often represent in a single entity a construct that would require several tables to properly represent in a relational db. This is especially useful if your data is immutable. Deep query-ability. MongoDB supports dynamic queries on documents using a document-based query language … | /r/seduction | 22/08/17 03:44 AM |
| 1 | How much time to invest before touching?Also watch this: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6rzvl5/fast_escalation_and_advanced_daygame/?st=J63OA8WK&sh=712432a7 | /r/seduction | 08/08/17 02:21 PM |
| 2 | How much time to invest before touching?You really need to become aware of body language. The body doesn't lie. She could be telling you she has a boyfriend or your not her type but if she is allowing you into her space then go on to the next step. If you notice any discomfort then back off a little but keep things going. Also be aware of surroundings, she might not be comfortable with any touching or sign of interest if her friends are there or it is just too public. Suggest a more private space. A word whispered in the ear can go a … | /r/seduction | 08/08/17 12:59 PM |
| 3 | Best ways to introduce yourself in cafeteria at schoolAsk open ended questions: How to Ask Open Ended Questions | /r/seduction | 07/08/17 02:31 PM |
| 1 | What language should I open with?Open in their language something like: We should talk. In your language? Or in English? You have created a presupposition here that you are going to talk. I.e. You are not asking permission to talk but which medium to use. If she wants to speak English it gives her a chance and it demonstrates you can speak theirs. | /r/seduction | 28/07/17 09:47 PM |
| 4 | How can you express your sexuality without being creepy but not asexual with a girl?Read the "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday. A compilation of women's fantasies made in the 1970s. This was pre internet porn. You will never look at women the same way again. After becoming enlightened you just need to find out what it is that tickles their particular fancy. | /r/seduction | 25/07/17 01:51 AM |
| 1 | How important is it to actually drink when going to a bar to approach women?If you don't have a drink at all you might be asked to leave. Get a tall soft drink that looks like an alcoholic drink. i.e. a whiskey and coke looks like a coke, a vodka soda looks like a soda. Oh, and don't lie if they ask what you are drinking. Tell them the real reason. | /r/seduction | 21/07/17 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have more success doing random facebook messages than cold approaches?n.b. Even now many Indian families want to set up an arranged marriage for their daughters so approaching when the parents are around is a big cultural no-no for them. Slip the girl your contact details as she may be much more open to talk when their parents aren't there. | /r/seduction | 28/06/17 11:58 PM |
| 1 | When your in the bedroom...Pull out the long silk handkerchief and say to her, "Let's play a game… close your eyes." | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Shit I'm tired of seeing on this subredditNo, I wasn't being sarcastic. I really do feel for you guys but my worry is that without the context to know what challenges you face people are going to assume that you are socially adept and give advice that is hard to follow. In this case, my guess is that, actually meeting up with a good coach who has experience would help. I'm not sure how well the regular seduction coaches can help or do specifically do try to coach socially challenged people to improve their game. Why not start off a bi-w… | /r/seduction | 23/06/17 06:15 AM |
| 7 | How to Seduce a Beautiful WomanExample of a master in action. | /r/seduction | 22/06/17 05:18 AM |
| 0 | Shit I'm tired of seeing on this subredditThanks. Good well reasoned answer. Seduction does imply some base level of social skills and to be fair a lot of basic seduction advice does fall into that category. I'm not sure though that this subreddit is the right place to find suitable advice if people are really struggling. It would help if people mentioned that they have problems from the outset as responders will hopefully not just tell them to get out and grow some balls. A guide for people who are socially challenged on the side bar w… | /r/seduction | 22/06/17 05:09 AM |
| 2 | How to practice getting comfortable with talking to strangers?Ask open ended questions.. The thing is, the more you talk to people, the more people will positively respond to you. The reason for this is that people like to talk to confident people and if you practice you'll get confident. Look for people less confident than you and talk to them as you are already at an advantage. Sometimes people are waiting to talk to you but like you are too scared to make the first move. Also if you wait too long it starts to get creepy. Imagine a celebrity coming into … | /r/seduction | 22/06/17 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Shit I'm tired of seeing on this subredditThis should be pinned to the top. | /r/seduction | 22/06/17 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Shit I'm tired of seeing on this subredditI dont believe [I'll] ever get laid... Why do you have this belief? Where does it come from? What exactly do you believe that makes you think this? | /r/seduction | 22/06/17 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Looking for a wingman/bar buddy in Tokyo.Go to one of the HUBs in Shibuya (Fri/Sat), you'll surely find one there. | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Looking for a wingman/bar buddy in Tokyo.LOL! Good catch! | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 12:05 AM |
| 2 | How does /r/seduction feel about long distance relationships?Waste of time. I have found that every time I got in a LDR within a few weeks I actually found someone closer by who was available. I think this must be psychological possibly a new found confidence in not being single any more. | /r/seduction | 16/06/17 04:52 AM |
| 3 | Is seduction and flirting possible with texting and messaging or is it more effective face to face?Flirting, which is the path, and seduction, which is the goal and final destination, is achieved through capturing the full attention of the target to a point where they want to do nothing more than to spend more time with you, alone. Eye contact, tone of voice and the subtle use of touch play part but are lacking in text. It is possible to flirt through text but the main drawback is that you don't know that you have their full attention. If they answer immediately and flirt back then this a goo… | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Met someone on the train today, looked on Facebook a few hours later and she was the first suggested person to add?Yep this occurred to me. I have several friends in common with a waitress at a restaurant although we are not friends. After I went to the restaurant she appeared first on my list. She had never appeared there before and I noticed her looking at her phone when she was not busy. Also, if you upload your contacts to Facebook and those phone numbers are not recognised as belonging to existing Facebook members then they will become dark contacts with no profile. If two people share dark contacts the… | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 01:54 AM |
| 1 | What techniques have worked for you when asking cashiers/servers out?You might want to do a search as this topic comes up about once a month or so. | /r/seduction | 11/06/17 06:48 PM |
| 0 | Picking up in a small town, where everyone knows each otherWhy do care about about being noticed as the "approach machine"? If you are having no success as the "good guy" then you might have more success being known as the local Casanova. | /r/seduction | 09/06/17 01:45 PM |
| 2 | How do you increase attraction with a girl who isn't attracted to you?Recently I heard something about rejection that I found interesting. If you are rejected sometimes it is not you or the other person. It is that they decided that you are just not a good match for them. The reasons might be wrong but for them to be consistent with their beliefs then it is possible that they may never change their mind. So no matter hard you try, you may never succeed so it is best to just let it drop and try with someone else. | /r/seduction | 09/06/17 01:41 PM |
| 1 | How to date FOB Chinese/Japanese girls as a US citizen?Use Tinder or Skout with a message in the language that you are interested it. Don't use both. Use Google translate, it is not perfect but that will add to your appeal. With Japanese girls be prepared to chat with them on the Line chat application. Install and register it beforehand to save time. Once you get on date, they'll expect you to lead but probably won't want to indulge in public displays of affection especially if their friends are around. They won't get in a situation where they are a… | /r/seduction | 09/06/17 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Approach to instant f-close in 15 minutesThis https://youtu.be/g_aU6e2AWQ0 | /r/seduction | 03/06/17 09:50 AM |
| 2 | I need advice. 21 years old with no experience at all.Tell them as a friendly joke that you are Russian prince. | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Eye contact observationYes, this is true. Many people avoid contact but sometimes you get a fantastic smile. Have of the reason to make eye contact is get used to it and to gain confidence. If you look confident, happy and self amused other people will feel more relaxed. | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Hi seddit, how did you find motivation to go talk to girls when its so much easier to stay in your comfort zone?Here's one approach... | /r/seduction | 19/04/17 03:41 AM |
| 0 | I got a girl horny then another guy closed hergirls' reasons In general guys have reasons, girls have feelings. e.g. a girl will choose whichever guy makes her feel what she wants to feel at that moment. Who knows maybe she just wanted a good cry and knows that guy will let her cry on his shoulder. Oh, and don't be surprised if she comes back to you another time. I had one girl say, "Yeah, a couple of weeks ago I split up and I just wanted to fuck someone and that guy would have been fine but tonight I don't feel like it so no matter what h… | /r/seduction | 18/04/17 04:51 AM |
| 5 | I got a girl horny then another guy closed herwhy did she go to the other guy after he contacted her? What do you think that this guy has that you don't? I.e. Already a lover? Known him longer? More money? More status? Better looking? Looks fitter? Better fashion? More direct? More experience? In her mind, conscious or unconscious, it's most likely one of the above. One takeaway for everyone is: don't tolerate a girl texting someone else when you are with her. | /r/seduction | 18/04/17 03:41 AM |
| -2 | [FR] How strong eye contact sealed the deal again.Well, if you haven't mastered polysyllabic words yet then this might be a bit over your head. Though I guess the caveman approach may work for you though depending on your locality. | /r/seduction | 04/04/17 01:56 AM |
| -9 | [FR] How strong eye contact sealed the deal again.Say, "…because you are mysterious. There is something about you that I can't figure out." | /r/seduction | 03/04/17 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Is it weird to have girls "eyefuck" you?You should say to them, "Did you come here to exercise or did you come hear to check out the guys?" | /r/seduction | 21/03/17 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Is it weird to have girls "eyefuck" you?These encounters can happen at any time. I was waiting for my coffee in my local coffee shop and a girl glanced in my direction. I smiled and she gave me a nice smile. I continued with the eye contact and she didn't relent and finally she dropped her eyes to floor and raised the up again. It was a super hot interaction with no words. Approach doesn't always involve verbal interaction. In the right situation you could look at someone across a crowded room and just by a look and turn of the head i… | /r/seduction | 21/03/17 08:13 AM |
| 1 | What age is it creepy to try to hookup/date college girls?Yes, I post the link to that article because the article links the rule of thumb calculation to the scientific survey. Though, some 20 year old women are definitely interested in 50 year old men who are in moderately good condition, more so than 30+ year old women who are trying to lock a partner down for marriage. | /r/seduction | 10/03/17 07:53 AM |
| 2 | How to reduce the space between the two of you ?You know all this.. You have to watch her body language very carefully. If you take a step closer to her then she is either going to respond in a couple of ways. Either: Take a step back. This means it is time to assess your personal hygiene and/or relationship. Not move. OK, this not bad. Try another step forward in a few moments. Get closer to you. This is the preferred outcome. Once you are close you offer your hands and see what happens. If taken you can pull them, and her, gently closer tow… | /r/seduction | 10/03/17 06:46 AM |
| 2 | What age is it creepy to try to hookup/date college girls?For the general societal convention, see this.. The Dating Equation: ½(your age) + 7 The thing that puts me off younger girls is the thought of talking with their father. So it depends on whether she is an orphan or not. | /r/seduction | 10/03/17 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Are small innuendoes (say some sexual ones) ok to say in a conversation?"Do you like sports?....say no more.. say no more!" | /r/seduction | 08/03/17 04:56 AM |
| 3 | UK specific gameJust don't ask them what they keep in their fanny pack. It's a secret. | /r/seduction | 08/03/17 03:42 AM |
| 7 | How can you escalate towards sexual conversation?Once she allows you get close enough to be able to whisper in her ear you can say anything you like.. | /r/seduction | 03/03/17 03:30 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to cold read EVERYONE?I can see that you have a tendency to be critical of yourself. I bet you pride yourself as an independent thinker and don't readily accept other people's suggestions without satisfactory proof. That's cool. So, I'm sure you have come across this already and that this is not news to you. Take a look at scripts mentioned here Skeptics Dictionary: Cold Reading. Don't go overboard. Even if you just throw in a few of these vague suggestions from Bertram R. Forer into a conversation you'll immediately… | /r/seduction | 02/03/17 09:03 AM |
| 10 | Want to ask a girl out, but you're don't know if she'll say yes? Here's the secret...I misread that as "grab her by the balls..." | /r/seduction | 16/02/17 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Tips on building rapport and attraction in a few minutes"(blah blah blah)... I only have a minute because I need to go now. Could I get your number or some way to message you and continue this conversation later? If she says "No" it is exactly the same result as not asking. Nothing more. The only issue is that some women who aren't interested in you will still give you some details and ignore you later as that is easier than straight no. | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 03:32 AM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong on tinder ?You need to rule out those who are just seeking validation and/or just want a male chat friend. Ask them to meet you within 3-5 messages. The rest of the conversation should be setting the details for the meeting or getting them off twitter onto another chat method or on the telephone. Don't try and build rapport and comfort over twitter. Leave that to when you meet. Also, you'd better off asking advice on the Tinder specific boards as people there seem well versed in playing Tinder. Once you me… | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 02:31 AM |
| 76 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.Speaking for myself, I became massively more popular after 35 and it's still going strong into my 40s. The key is, not to let yourself go. I think I just looked too young in my teens and twenties. I look now on Facebook at the some of the girl magnets of my school days and I laugh because they are now slobs. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 06:54 AM |
| 1 | How do you use push/pull effectively and give compliments without being creepy or needy?Search for "craig ferguson with the ladies" on YouTube and watch them all. He is a master of push-pull. Try and break down what he is doing yourself especially when the woman get excited or even (mock) angry with him. There are some videos where people do break down exactly what he is doing but try and do it by yourself initially. | /r/seduction | 03/02/17 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Attractive guy with no game needs help making first contact with women in public who are giving me sexy eyesTry this, ask them, "Do you know my name?". This is a weird question because they could legitimately say, "Of course not!", but in most cases, if they have already shown interest, they will happily want to know what your name is and tell you what their name is and probably soon forget how you ever started talking. If you don't have much time then just say, "Hey, I have to dash now, so could I get your number and I'll get back to you?". I'm not sure why this question is so disarming but I think i… | /r/seduction | 02/02/17 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Here's a list I try to read twice a day. It works wonders for me.Here's a good app to use to keep all these affirmations and present them to you on a regular basis if you are into that. | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 02:58 AM |
| 1 | I don't know where to take the conversation after a successful tinder opener."I have too many girls on my Tinder list right now and I need to prune the list. We should meet." | /r/seduction | 20/01/17 05:28 AM |
| 1 | What are quick and short ways to improve confidence every day?kegels. lol! | /r/seduction | 20/01/17 02:09 AM |
| 1 | What is the difference between fractionation and the push-pull technique?Also read this article Rapport Hooks And How-To Fractionate Rapport. The way you actually go about fractionating rapport is by building a level of rapport with the person standing in front of you, and then once this rapport has happened, what you’re going to do is then take that rapport way by focusing your attention on to something else or giving your attention to something else instead of the person that you’ve built rapport with. What this does is then cause the individual to become distracte… | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Guys who have read The Art Of Seduction ,how would you sum it up in your own way ? What's the lesson you've learned?This might help: The Art of Seduction Summary. | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 06:18 AM |
| 3 | What's been your success/failure on interracial gamingYou really also have to think about culture here too. I.e. a girl from Japan might be super interested in meeting a foreign person out of curiousity where as a Japanese-American may have no interest at all as they are already in that culture. Same goes for Eastern European girls. This is why a lot of pickup videos are made there. The girls are very approachable if you are from the West whereas they would probably blow off a guy who approached them in the same way in their own language. People li… | /r/seduction | 09/01/17 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Weird tip to improve eye contactThe other key is to always be observant of eye contact. Always talk to people who give you eye contact. They are the ones too shy to directly approach you in this situation so you are already ahead in the game. | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Alright r/seduction give me your best adviceAsk them not to. Get professional help for your PIED. Use better subject headings on Reddit. | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 07:43 AM |
| 3 | What is the difference between fractionation and the push-pull technique?Here's my best answer. If it is wrong then feel free to correct me. Push-Pull is demonstrating interest and then non-interest to make someone feel a small sense of loss so that they will then take the lead and try and make you interested again. It also plays on a person's feeling of investment and the loss of starting over again if you just walk away. Fractionation is taking a woman on an emotion ride. For some deep psychological reason this builds an emotional connection. An example would be af… | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 03:51 PM |
| 1 | How to tell the difference between IOI eye contact and "why the fuck is he staring at me" eye contact?I experience the following reactions: Totally ignores you. You might think they don't notice but they are pretending not to notice. Not today thank you... Totally ignores you. Micro reaction like a super quick glance and/or involuntary lip pursing indicating she doesn't want to or it is not prudent to show interest in you in this situation. IOI. Total disgust. This is kind of random. Maybe you are not their type. Unless you are receiving this all the time, it's probably not your fault. Eye conta… | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 06:31 AM |
| 2 | Carl Sagan gives great advice.This is Ross Jeffries on exactly the same topic: the consequence of a single approach in whole scale of things. | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 04:36 AM |
| 1 | How do I own going bald at 21?Don't worry about it. While some girls like a full head of hair there are others that find a bald head hot. The first group will become unavailable but the second group will really be into it. Not just older women, younger women too. Hair treatment companies, wig makers, baldness cures etc will try and play on your insecurities. Ignore them. That is how they make money. Buy a waterproof hair trimmer. Set it to 3mm and let it loose on you're head. You might need someone to help with the back at f… | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 04:13 PM |
| -1 | Older womanAsk her? | /r/seduction | 23/12/16 09:34 AM |
| 2 | Any suggestions for seduction audio books?Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking Written by: Alan Roger Currie Narrated by: Alan Roger Currie | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 10:04 PM |
| 17 | The 5 seductive commandmentsdad zoned I resemble that remark... | /r/seduction | 09/12/16 01:56 AM |
| 22 | girl invited me to "watch movies with her" aloneMake sure you have condoms with you just in case. Condoms that fit and that you have practiced wearing. Don't worry about lasting, the first time is often a bit tricky in that you might be too nervous to last or to come. Maybe you should be asking about this part on a more generic sex board. Watch the movie. Make sure you are next to each other. After a reasonable amount of time put your arm around her shoulder and edge closer. If things are looking good, go for a gentle neck kiss etc.. and gent… | /r/seduction | 07/12/16 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Tips on this NonsenseDrama queen. Better off without her. | /r/seduction | 07/12/16 04:24 AM |
| 1 | How can I learn how to properly execute NLP patterns, and create my own? =]Also watch Harvey Taylor's videos about Ericksonian Language Patterns. Basically Ross Jefferies is teaching concepts of Milton H. Erickson tailored to pickup. This type of cunning linguistics is also used by sales people. If you were just to repeat the example patterns as taught it is probably bullshit but if you were to learn what hypnotherapists are trying to achieve then who knows... | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 05:40 AM |
| 1 | I brought her to my room but I didn't know what to do next. Any tips?This. Very this. | /r/seduction | 25/11/16 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Older womenIf you do grow a beard: keep it for a long time. At your age some of the hair will be slow growing so don't continually shave it off and regrow it as it will only be populated by the fastest growing follicles. Let it be for a while to get it established especially if it initially looks scraggly. Also consider a more mature hair style. I found that I was much more popular with women of all ages from around my mid-thirties. | /r/seduction | 24/11/16 08:40 AM |
| 2 | What's the craziest girl that you've ever dated?My first girlfriend was manic-depressive. I naïvely thought she was over it but apparently she was on a manic phase when I first met her. She told me that in the past she had been committed to institution and had at one time been chased across a field at night by police with dogs. She broke up with me when she returned to a depressive state as I was going to work outside the country for a while. I immigrated and never returned again. She was horny as hell. | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 04:01 AM |
| 1 | Advice on Push/Pull ?Check this out.. push and pull list+techniques | /r/seduction | 26/10/16 01:22 AM |
| 1 | My biggest fear is that I'll chat a girl up who appears to be alone and then her boyfriend comes back from the bathroom...Yes, this is true. However, the context was that a guy talks to a girl and suddenly "her boyfriend" appears. At this point many people would assume that this is the end of the story but by saying "Wow, you two make such a nice couple!" you either allow the girl to confirm that they are a couple, or as you say, choose the boyfriend or you discover that they are not a couple. At this this point I don't think you have lost anything by saying it. | /r/seduction | 14/10/16 06:31 AM |
| 5 | My biggest fear is that I'll chat a girl up who appears to be alone and then her boyfriend comes back from the bathroom...When the "boyfriend" shows up you say, "Wow, you two make such a nice couple!" If the girl is really into the guy she'll thank you and all will be happy. Now if she is actually not in a cozy couple relationship with him she'll blow the comment off like. "Ew! No thanks! He's just a friend". I did this once and the girl then grabbed my arm and stood with me instead of him. The boyfriend practically withered and was going to walk off. Apparently, he had been in the habit of just calling her wheneve… | /r/seduction | 13/10/16 06:41 AM |
| 1 | How to approach a girl for the first time?Of course, not if you stop someone in the street but I believe our OP said that they are in the same class, he knows her best friend and they have exchanged glances so all he needs now is some excuse to spend a little time with her. | /r/seduction | 06/10/16 02:54 AM |
| 2 | How to approach a girl for the first time?Just think of one topic that you really don't understand and say to her. "Excuse me, do you understand X? I can't figure it out." Answer is "Yes", "Would you mind explaining to me over coffee?" Answer is "No", "How about we to try to figure it out over coffee?" The reaction will be: positive, that means that she likes you. Now you have a first date. Don't try and trick her but actually discuss the topic until she looks comfortable with talking about something else. negative, that means is she is… | /r/seduction | 06/10/16 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Neurolinguistic Programming. Have you applied it? any sources that teach you how to apply and use it?Yes, it is still super relevent. His new book expands on it and is well worth reading. He is doing the podcast round right now so you can listen to him talk about it. | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Neurolinguistic Programming. Have you applied it? any sources that teach you how to apply and use it?For a start Frame, Anchoring, Congruence etc which are used freely in many PUA talks and videos all come from NLP terminology. It's worth studying the basics to know what people are talking about. Robert Cialdini’s new book Pre-Suasion: A Revolutionary Way to Influence and Persuade is probably a more modern scientifc approach to the same end. | /r/seduction | 28/09/16 09:01 AM |
| 3 | Tips for getting customers numbers at work?Asking directly for numbers is pretty risky and you may get fired for trying to do it if there is a complaint. Also this whole question should really be wound up in a FAQ somewhere. In general it is not advisable even to try. One way would be give anyone that you really want to get in touch with again your business card and tell them to "contact me personally if they have issues". You could also write your personal phone number on the back of the card and let them know that they can contact you … | /r/seduction | 28/09/16 04:45 AM |
| 1 | FYI: Eye contact is the one of the most important elements in seduction.I was sitting outside of shop eating and I gave strong eye contact to a girl working who was sitting inside the shop. She me gave a bit of an uncomfortable look but it wasn't the disgusted look and turn away. While she worked she came out of the shop and talked to customers several times and I ordered from her too. As I left, I chatted with her and her business personality melted away. My logistics were bad and I had to leave it at that but she was totally melting at that point almost misty eyed… | /r/seduction | 24/09/16 11:12 PM |
| 4 | How To Know If A Girl Likes You – From A Female PerspectiveJust watch a toddler, especially baby girls, trying to get attention from an adult. It's almost the same signals. As they get older, they tone it down. | /r/seduction | 16/09/16 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Cold read topicsFrom: http://www.skepdic.com/Hyman_cold_reading.htm "You appear to be a cheerful, well-balanced person. You may have some alternation of happy and unhappy moods, but they are not extreme now. You have few or no problems with your health. You are sociable and mix well with others. You are adaptable to social situations. You tend to be adventurous. Your interests are wide. You are fairly self-confident and usually think clearly." Sundberg conducted his study over 20 years ago. But the sketches sti… | /r/seduction | 06/09/16 01:19 AM |
| 0 | White Guy Picks Up Japanese Girls Using JapaneseFirst, in case anyone was wondering, this is legit. Filmed in Japan. Tama Plaza is probably as typical as you can get outside central Tokyo. Commuter town with a shopping mall and shopping streets etc. You may noticed though that half the encounters are with tourists. I wonder if this was because they were there most likely to respond. His Japanese is pretty good but if you notice he drops back to English at times. Speaking in Japanese will comfort Japanese girls whose English is not good, and t… | /r/seduction | 06/09/16 01:09 AM |
| 5 | Do you ever get rejected for physical escalation by a girl even though she's into you? Why does it happen?Holding hands can be pretty discreet but, if in a public place, kissing is a fairly big public display of affection. In some cultures this would be a real no-no. Mostly she just doesn't want other people to see that she has taken this step, perhaps so soon. You might have more success if you can get her to go somewhere more private. I would nicely ask why by whispering the question in her ear. Who knows she might tell you. | /r/seduction | 30/08/16 09:47 AM |
| 2 | Still can't maintain eye contactIt takes practice. Once you get used to it you'll do it unconsciously and you'll have surprising outcomes. Strangers don't care who you are so if you maintain eye contact their reaction is, in effect, random. Some hate it, some love it. | /r/seduction | 27/08/16 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Business Insider: How to ask out a strangerWow! What a cheesy article from "Business Insider" it really is just a paraphrase of the podcast that it mentions that the author has bashed out and posted. The podcast is lot more interesting than this summary. | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 05:42 AM |
| 1 | So I learned this vital rule last night...I called a girl by her surname after sleeping with her. It was the wrong name but pretty close. I managed to get out of it though. Phew! | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Is "The Game" worth the reading?The main reason to read The Game is too understand that these guys, without all the resources we have to today, figured out new and novel ways to approach and pickup girls. It is a mix of NLP, Persuasion, Psychology which worked for them. We have moved on. Sometimes you'll see some of the The Game regurgitated here and if you've never heard it before you might think it is new and cool. After reading it you'll know the origin. | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 08:01 AM |
| 2 | Toastmasters vs acting vs improv for improving verbal skillsActually, in my experience there are many fantastic women who go to toastmasters. I may have been lucky, but at a party I went to, which crossed over with a group of my friend's toastmasters friends, all of the women were smart, intelligent and as you might guess, very willing to talk. I can't guarantee that holds for your local group but it had totally been off my radar until I met them. Worth a try. | /r/seduction | 12/08/16 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Eye contact is the closest thing to a 'miracle pill' in pickupAlways give a little smile and watch for results. Now, this can lead to a bad result if it means that she broadcasts that she is interested in you to a group of people with her. So, two strangers in an elevator; no problem. Smiling at a woman in a group where others can notice; she will probably ignore you or glare at you even if she is interested. | /r/seduction | 10/08/16 03:59 AM |
| 27 | Eye contact is the closest thing to a 'miracle pill' in pickupAfter practicing eye contact daily for about a year I have noticed the following: I have three weird eye-only relationships going on. One with a Starbucks barista, one with an older lady that I see on the train and one with a girl at work that I don't know. They always now smile at me when I see them. I'm not pursuing any of them but it's nice to get a smile and eye contact on a daily basis. Some girls will turn away an look in shop window or anything but you as they pass. This can occur from a … | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Failing at showing sexual interestListen to this: Alan Currie: Let Women Know What You're Really Thinking | /r/seduction | 28/07/16 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Women breaking eye contact to the side and then looks down for ~5 secFYI I hold pretty intense eye contact [...] It happens regularly and it's not inviting, feels like she's having either an internal dialogue or something OK. Perhaps, it could be coming across as too intense. | /r/seduction | 05/07/16 01:26 AM |
| 6 | Women breaking eye contact to the side and then looks down for ~5 secIf she looks at you again, there is some sign of interest but she is retaining her modesty by not continuously engaging with you. If a woman returns your gaze, smile/smirk and beckon her to come over. There are usually three results: She gives you a disgusted look. i.e. not interested. Laugh. She complies and comes over. She beckons you to come over. Take it from there. | /r/seduction | 04/07/16 02:00 AM |
| 2 | How hard is it if you're bald?No. I'm not completely bald but at certain point I just bought a pair of clippers and cut my hair down to 3mm. I'm much more popular now. I might not be popular with the same women but there are seriously good looking women who are into bald guys, guys with beards, grisly old guys etc. | /r/seduction | 04/07/16 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Too unsocial for any of this.You can change. Being social is definitely a skill that can be learned and gets easier with practice. Here's an example from Models By Mark Manson: Go step-by-step if you must. As you walk down the street and you remember: shoulders back, chin up, eyes straight, feet straight, shoulders swagger, arms swing. Always look straight ahead. Don’t ever look down at the ground unless you think you’re about to trip. Look people in the eye as they walk by – particularly attractive girls. You’ll catch peop… | /r/seduction | 21/06/16 04:31 AM |
| 1 | How to get numbers at the end of the conversation?When you say meetup, do you mean a professional conference? If so, you have to be really careful here. There is a lot of naming and shaming going on in various communities where men are hitting on the women at professional or other conferences and also with men sending inappropriate messages via LinkedIn. Careers have been ruined. You have to be careful that she understands whether you are asking her number for professional reasons or for private reasons. If you can see some interest outside of … | /r/seduction | 31/05/16 09:04 AM |
| 2 | How I drastically changed myself over the past 3 years since finding sedditIt's worth reading as a it covers a lot of the history of the community and introduces a lot of techniques that were novel at the time. This style of pickup has probably burnt itself out now but there are still many traces of that it remain in the work of people that followed. It's an entertaining read but it's not a good idea to jump in base your game on it. Study something more modern. | /r/seduction | 31/05/16 08:45 AM |
| 2 | How to get a customer's phone number when I'm working?As a customer, when I have been interested in someone working in a shop, usually a bar or coffee shop, I have later gone back to that shop hoping to meet that member staff again. If they are a regular member of staff and I am a regular customer the opportunity to get to know them better has quite often arisen just by meeting them in the shop several times. If I often frequent that area I may be able to bump into the shop staff, and being away from the shop, I will be able to interact more normal… | /r/seduction | 22/05/16 01:06 PM |
| 0 | Can you Kino escalate a coffee date?Thumb wrestling. Make sure you cheat if you look like you will use. Palm reading. | /r/seduction | 09/02/16 06:17 AM |
| 3 | Anyone have experience with Japanese girls?Strictly no PDAs. People dating or who are married in Japan don't even kiss in public. Japanese people probably only see their friends kiss on their wedding day and briefly at that. Ask her to go somewhere more private where nobody will see, especially her friends. As for taking a girl home, in Japan if consenting adults are alone in house/apartment together there is an assumption, by other Japanese, that they are having sex. If a Japanese girl is interested in coming back with you it is probabl… | /r/seduction | 31/01/16 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Older guys of seddit that have a success with social life and women, how did you do it?Most important keep yourself fit. When I was young teens~mid 20s I don't think I was that popular. When I started bald and grow a decent beard then I bloomed. Even older when I started to take of my fitness I became massively more popular than when I was young. I look at some of my school mates on Facebook who were popular and they have really let themselves go. Take aways: It may not be your peak seduction time yet. You might need to look a little more older, grizzled and rugged. The older you … | /r/seduction | 31/01/16 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Is RSD worth it for someone who does well with women?Firstly, check on YouTube, you can see a whole lot of clips and long videos from their conferences posted by them. There's a lot comedic value in their stuff, wild stories etc. I think the big take away is confidence and actually making the criteria for success not sleeping with someone but going through the motions of the process. i.e. even if there is no-one in a place that you would even consider taking home you can still have fun going through all the steps of seduction with the women there … | /r/seduction | 26/01/16 10:52 PM |
| 1 | What is your bedroom setup like and what would you recommend?Christmas Lights. You only use them once a year on the Christmas tree so try and find some way to have them discretely hidden in your room with the controller hidden near pillow. This needs a little setup and practice so that you get the slowly changing colours going from the start and not the racing lights. Hide them by taping them behind a bookcase or wardrobe so the light just discretely comes from nowhere. Also, if you have an old stereo or boombox with some appropriate music that you can ju… | /r/seduction | 09/07/15 01:30 PM |
| 1 | As a virgin, how do I turn the conversation sexual/express my sexuality?Instructional video for bringing up the topic subtly in conversation.. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 04:57 AM |
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