SelfAmuse Archive

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1	Numbers lead to nothing? Has anyone else experienced this problem? Make sure you're following the M3 Model correctly. A1, A2, A3. Focus on those. Create a routine stack containing stock material already available online. Make sure your stack has an open, A2 DHVs, some A3 qualifying questions and a number close. Practice your stack and improve it as you see fit. Daytime college campus approaches should be kept short 5 - 10 mins max from my experience. Don't create a time bridge with a date. That's WAY too much for a casual daytime approach and most girls will fe…	/r/seduction	16/05/13 05:06 AM
0	Numbers lead to nothing? Has anyone else experienced this problem? Stop going direct and giving girls the validation they haven't earned. Get girls to chase YOU, not the other way around. Learn Mystery Method.	/r/seduction	16/05/13 04:40 AM
3	RANT: A brief history of PUA Fantastic post. Unfortunately though, I think r/seduction is too "mainstream" to really get into the nitty gritty of pick up at it's core and indeed the pick up community nowadays is extremely watered down from the days of ASF. Most guys don't want to put in the work of memorizing routines, learning the theory, analyzing their mistakes, internalizing the structure of attraction, qualification, comfort etc. etc. They want the magic pill.	/r/seduction	20/11/12 03:33 AM
2	What the fuck did I just read that was posted on my Seddit, and why is this one more reason to be a huge misogynist? Survival and Replication Value Google it.	/r/seduction	31/10/12 01:58 AM
3	i found a very special one You have oneitis. Get more girls.	/r/seduction	30/10/12 01:24 AM
1	The appropriate way to wait for someone you'd like to date? Get more girls.	/r/seduction	20/10/12 05:50 PM
1	Here my friends, is what it looks like when you don't have confidence in yourself and approach It's more competence than confidence IMO The Simple Pickup guys had already been practicing pickup using MM routine stacks years before they started their youtube channel. They have the body language, eye contact and vocal tonality down due to their practice.	/r/seduction	17/10/12 04:15 AM
1	I have been waiting way too long to post here. Seddit, I need help with girls. I would say that the most important thing you can do right now is to make the COMMITMENT to get good at cold approach pickup. There's no shortcuts to this. What you've done up to this point in your life hasn't gotten you the results you want. So you need to make the COMMITMENT that you're going to be studying and practicing this art form for at LEAST the next 2 - 3 years. Soak up knowledge from different sources. Go see what works and what doesn't work and form your own style. My recommendation:…	/r/seduction	10/10/12 07:25 PM
2	Can someone give me a definition of Mystery's phase changes? A1 - Open A2 - Female to Male Interest A3 - Male to Female Interest C1 - Conversation C2 - Connection C3 - Intimacy S1 - Foreplay S2 - LMR S3 - Sex Definitely recommend buying the Mystery Method. One of the absolute BEST books on pick up BAR NONE. If you are serious about learning this art form, you NEED this book IMO	/r/seduction	09/10/12 04:25 PM
5	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? If she's giving you the boyfriend line it's likely because you telegraphed too much interest before she had earned it. Basic MM. Make sure your A2 stage is tight and includes EVOLUTIONARY DHVs (pre selection, leader of men, protector of loved ones, etc.) not just buying temperature stuff. Throw out your statement of interest (ex: I'm curious about you) AFTER she jumps through your hoops and you've qualified her in A3.	/r/seduction	08/10/12 08:46 PM
2	Is walking down a very populated street (great night life) with bars, restaurants, stores, etc. a good place to practice with a friend? It depends on your approach. If you're like 90% of these new school street game PUA "gurus", you're probably going to approach direct with a compliment and try to stop the girl. This is LOW VALUE behavior. "Objects in motion tend to stay in motion". If you're going to do moving sets you need to speak over the shoulder while walking WITH the target so you don't convey low value. Again, this is an ADVANCED skill that takes TIME to get good at. A newbie should NOT start with moving sets IMO.	/r/seduction	03/10/12 04:25 PM
-6	Is walking down a very populated street (great night life) with bars, restaurants, stores, etc. a good place to practice with a friend? No. Moving sets are very difficult. It's an advanced skill. Most guys who approach on the street look like beggars and give off major creep vibes that girls detect immediately. You should pick a location that has stationary sets so you can practice. You're going to waste time chasing people down the street instead of actually improving your SKILL. "If you approach a girl in the street, you have absolutely no value." - Mystery	/r/seduction	03/10/12 02:15 PM
3	How can I gauge how attractive I am physically? Stop waiting for a girl to lead and approach you. You are the man, it is YOUR job to make shit happen. Don't worry about your looks, IT DOESNT MATTER. Start taking action.	/r/seduction	03/10/12 01:56 PM
3	Giving away free Ebook in exchange for feedback. Another internet marketer turned PUA guru. This type of marketing is disgusting. Zanshin? Really? Christ.	/r/seduction	02/10/12 10:15 PM
2	The other night, I was rejected...I felt horrible, like I wanted to cry. What is the BEST piece of advice you've ever heard that you think of whenever you're rejected? Process over outcome	/r/seduction	01/10/12 09:42 PM
1	how to become fun? You need to have a GAME PLAN going in. Especially as a newbie. If you don't know the structure of pickup yet I highly suggest reading about the Mystery Method and learning the M3 model. For now, practice opening. Know your OPENER. Practice it over and over again. Get good at that little piece then add another, and another, and another, etc. etc.	/r/seduction	30/09/12 05:18 PM
1	Opening Indirect, then transitioning to direct? You're right. Direct game WILL scare off girls. When you go direct, you're betting on the "shock" value of the opener for attraction. Direct guys just don't want to put in the work of memorizing a routine stack, learning how to generate attraction properly, etc. etc. There's a reason girls are creeped out by these direct guys, it's WEIRD. The intelligent thing to do is to go indirect and start a conversation like a normal person. Don't scare her off with your "I'm so alpha bro" direct opener. It…	/r/seduction	30/09/12 02:08 AM
1	Opening Indirect, then transitioning to direct? The statement of interest should be a verbal statement that lets her know you have a growing interest in her. (NOT her looks, this is SO important and a KEY distinction) an example SOI from Mystery is: "You know what? You are actually pretty cool. I'm curious about you."	/r/seduction	29/09/12 10:47 PM
2	Opening Indirect, then transitioning to direct? I don't like it. It's not solid game. Prepare to get blown out left and right and have massive flaking. "I have a bf", "im seeing someone" and "thanks" will be your most common responses. Oh yeah and a large percentage of girls will be massively creeped out. Go indirect, DHV, then qualify and throw out your statement of interest. Much better IMO. But to each his own :)	/r/seduction	29/09/12 05:26 PM
4	Field tested follow up routine to an opener that is great for bar scene Nice. Wish more stuff like this was posted on Seddit.	/r/seduction	27/09/12 01:36 PM
2	Don't be afraid to be ridiculous! Alternative title: How bad does an opening line have to be to get a "confident" guy instantly rejected? Quote from the original post: "My (novice and untested) advice: don't be afraid to be random or stupid, sometimes it's way better to say something crazy than to comment on the lighting or boring stuff like that. Act confident and have fun, that's all that matters. Just don't be a dick and don't act like you are mocking them." It's all well and good to be random if you're a natural and have had success before but for those newbies reading this out there, they have to know this is not SOLID game.	/r/seduction	24/09/12 08:43 PM
8	Don't be afraid to be ridiculous! Alternative title: How bad does an opening line have to be to get a "confident" guy instantly rejected? This is awful advice for a newbie who sucks with girls. Telling a 25+ year old virgin to be "random" is NOT going to instill solid skills. You can do this for fun and laughs but this is NOT good fundamentals at all.	/r/seduction	24/09/12 08:24 PM
0	Where to start - seriously. The Mystery Method is the foundation of the community. Read that book, get an understanding of the underlying theory, internalize the structure, fill it with gambits and PRACTICE! Good luck on your journey.	/r/seduction	19/09/12 08:08 PM
4	Seddit, we need to talk Spot on. It's the success that attains the confidence. Not the other way around. Learning PU is NOT about confidence, it's about COMPETENCE. This is what confidence with no competence will get you: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M4jv2hPObVA	/r/seduction	18/09/12 03:16 PM
10	Seddit, we need to talk Most guys just aren't willing to put in the HARD WORK to get good at this art form. They don't want to memorize routines, learn the theory, internalize the structure, etc. etc. Thus we have guys who come here, get motivational pep talks, then come back wondering why they're still struggling to OPEN a year later. It's a vicious cycle. It doesn't help that most PUA "gurus" today are internet marketing scammers and guys get pulled left and right with conflicting information. My advice: Learn the fo…	/r/seduction	18/09/12 01:13 PM
2	Where do I start?? Get good at Stage 1 for now. If you master opening, this alone could change your life. Memorize a default opener that you can use over and over again. You want to have this automated. Remember to use a FTC (False Time Constraint) if approaching girls that are seated. Here's an example of opening .... Opener: over the shoulder Hey guys, quick question. Are you guys good with fashion advice by any chance? Girls: blah blah You: Ok get this I only have a minute, I have to get going (FTC, sit down as…	/r/seduction	17/09/12 02:49 AM
1	Where do I start?? The mall is a great daygame location IMO. Start with seated sets, they're easier. As far as what to DO well... Stage 1: use an OPENER. You will talk about whatever the opener's topic is about. ("Hey quick question, is khaki a color or a fabric? Ok get this...") Stage 2: You will DHV using stories and other gambits. Stage 3: Ask HER questions, get her to speak now. Tell her why you like her as a person. ... (and on and on). It's all in the book. It is essential that you learn the M3 Model. It is …	/r/seduction	17/09/12 01:11 AM
0	Where do I start?? Get up to speed on the theory while going out and taking action. Read the Mystery Method book. Learn the M3 Model (the basis of all modern pickup methods) and go out to PRACTICE.	/r/seduction	17/09/12 12:21 AM
59	How do you overcome having an unattractive face? Your face isn't the problem. It's the limiting beliefs surrounding your face.	/r/seduction	16/09/12 11:21 PM
10	One thing I hate about the online pickup community. The PUA community transformed into the PUA industry after The Game came out. Now everyone and their mom is a guru. Be very careful of what PUA advice you read online. 90% of it is garbage.	/r/seduction	16/09/12 05:49 PM
1	Opening in the library...having a hard time with excuses for approaching since there's so many girls around all minding their own business. This is where having a routine stack would come in handy. Basic Mystery Method. Have a default open you can go to every single time.	/r/seduction	08/09/12 12:16 PM